Off the market? Act like it!
It seems like everyone has their own code of dating ethics. It would be a lot easier if we all could follow the same set! This would come in handy when it comes to figuring out who to invest more time and energy into.
I am finding that a lot of guys I meet say they aren’t seeing anyone special but that is not the entire truth. Sometimes hey are exploring a relationship with someone else they just haven’t stop looking at other options.
It’s that whole “always looking for the better model” syndrome. I think it’s partly due to insecurity because most people do this as a defense mechanism. Do you think this is something that people ever outgrow?
I spotted my friend’s boyfriend at a restaurant and he was not acting like a guy who just asked his girl to move in with him. I always wonder how men who are in relationships” behave” when their women aren’t around.
Do you think there is a line that people just shouldn’t cross when they are supposedly in a committed relationship? Why does that line get so blurry?
I always ask men who I am seriously involved with what their definition of cheating is. I figure if we can check out each other’s perspective on what is unacceptable behavior then we already know what the expectations are.
What do you think, if you are off the market but still conduct your same “on the hunt” behavior, shouldn’t you re-think that whole “exclusive” thing altogether?
Is that a sign that they aren’t the one for you?
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Wise Diva
August 19th, 2010
11:03 am
Hello everyone! I am so sorry for the delayed post. Clearly my iphone is not a reliable tool for my blog posting today.
Happy Thursday
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
11:07 am
It seems like everyone has their own code of dating ethics
This is true, so the key is to find somone who shares your same “code of dating ethics”
Do you think there is a line that people just shouldn’t cross when they are supposedly in a committed relationship? Why does that line get so blurry?
yes. it gets blurry because it hasn’t been established by both involved parties where/what that line is.
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
11:08 am
Oh snap. I was really trying to grab the brass ring and be first.
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
11:09 am
Morning ladies!!!!
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
11:10 am
Do you think there is a line that people just shouldn’t cross when they are supposedly in a committed relationship? There should be a line, but draw the line with invisible ink.
Why does that line get so blurry? Simple…people are selfish!
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
11:11 am
Good morning, SimpleMan/everyone!
LURKER-1
August 19th, 2010
11:14 am
Hell, it’s almost lunch time & I don’t have much to read
AmazonRed™
August 19th, 2010
11:14 am
Morning all –
Yeah, the dating jungle is certainly cut throat these days. You really have to ask the tough questions and even then, you don’t know if you’ll get a truthful answer.
I guess there is a such thing as too many options. Folks are so scared to stick with one to fear they’ll miss out on something “better.”
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
11:18 am
Good mornting!
Yes, everyone’s code of ethics is not the same and yes Princess, I agree the key is to find someone that shares your code.
There are some folks that feel they are “on the market” until vows and rings are actually exchanged, a license is filed. Until then, all bets are off. I knew of a guy that literally spent a few days and nights with another woman days before his wedding. I wasn’t married YET, he said. He pretty much slept around thru the entire dating and engagement period. I think his wife may have found out because she started acting peculiar soon after the wedding and they divorced after about 2 years. I guess he outgrew it because he got himself together, met another lady and went about that relationship entirely different. They are now married, he seems to adore her and they are expecting their first baby.
My personal code is once we decide to be exclusive we behave as if we are off the market. I make sure I share that code with anyone I date as we are getting to know each other and before exclusivity. Either you can deal or you can’t.
Kimmy
August 19th, 2010
11:18 am
If you can’t/won’t do it with your significant other (or someone who knows your significant other) around then you know the behaviour is inappropriate..period. Respect does not end when your partner is out of your sight. If you want to be single then be single.
Dan - simply...
August 19th, 2010
11:19 am
Yeah, this is more of a “where is the line drawn” type of deal.
I’ve had relationships with no lines, few lines, and one very clear line. All are drawn according to what the person (and I) deem inappropriate.
There are stricter folks than myself, to be sure, but then I don’t really deal with those types anyway.
Morning….sorta
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
11:19 am
“I guess there is a such thing as too many options. Folks are so scared to stick with one to fear they’ll miss out on something “better.” Since the dawn of time, since the dawn of time.
It is so sad! Greedy little heifers (men and women both)!
blue - Put In The App On My New House!!
August 19th, 2010
11:20 am
GM everyone!!! hey Princess, Leggs, Simple Man!!!
@WD – your Iphone helped me out this morning. thought i was missing some entertainment on here while i was doing my house app, and turns out now that app is done im right on time!! woohoo!!!
it seems like everyone has their own code of ethics – their do seem to be many grey areas depending on who your talking to.
Do you think there is a line that people just shouldn’t cross when they are supposedly in a committed relationship? i do think there is a line, and unfortunately there seem to be a lot of folks who have not made clear to their intended what they believe that line to be. communication key in my opinion, whether dating or married.
Sassy Me...Living Life :-)
August 19th, 2010
11:21 am
You really have to ask the tough questions and even then, you don’t know if you’ll get a truthful answer.
Pretty much sums it up for mee…simple,short n truthful. Sometimes people become too selfish and greedy and that’s not a good look at all.
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
11:22 am
@WD ~ too bad you couldn’t hear all the banging trying to get the blog door/window open!
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
11:22 am
Anred – The last line of your post reminds me of an episode of Martin. Martin was hesitant about getting engaged. Gina & Pam were talking about it. Pam said all dudes were scared to get married because they all were afraid the Freak Train was going to pull up one day and they would miss out! LOL!!!
Sassy Me...Walking by faith,not sight :-)
August 19th, 2010
11:23 am
Where are my manners?…..Mornting everybody!!!
M. (pronouced M dot)
August 19th, 2010
11:25 am
Good day.
This is definately a problem all around. I always say that women especially in Atlanta always act single but thats a half truth. We guys must always remember that when you meet a woman, there is another man in her life in some capacity (dating, ex bf, current bf, jumpoff, boss from work
) etc. She is not just at working and going home baking oatmeal rasin cookies. She is doing her thing. Trust.
“I always ask men who I am seriously involved with what their definition of cheating is.”
I define cheating as anything you wouldn’t do if your significant other was there. If your gf was sitting with you at the bar, you probably wouldnt give your number to the bartender.
If your bf was there, you probably wouldnt flirt with that guy and let him buy you a drink.
I think also if you are off the market but act like you still want to be, then pick a side!
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
11:25 am
I have a different take that most of the post so far…I think there is “play” in the lines because I am not sure if daters really WANT to know or CARE what the status of people the meet is… Now i know everyone is gonna say that they do, but ask yourselves hw many times to you see guys not asking and women disregarding status even when they know the real?????
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
11:31 am
Simple your 11:25 doesn’t make sense.
Even if you’re not looking to get serious with someone, I would think you would at least like to know what their status is. You wouldn’t want to get blindsided by some jealous bf/gf/spouse. What you do with the info is up to you at that point.
Sassy Me...Walking by faith,not sight :-)
August 19th, 2010
11:34 am
We guys must always remember that when you meet a woman, there is another man in her life in some capacity (dating, ex bf, current bf, jumpoff, boss from work ) etc.
Yes and we as women must remember the same thing about men. Even if they’re wearing a wedding ring while they look you in the eyes and try vainly to explain that they’re kinda married(it’s like being kinda pregnant) either you are or you aren’t. Let us also remember the single brother who tells you that he’s seeing someone but it ain’t all that…regardless if they’re living together with some children already. Regardless of the status of said relationship, if a man can downplay it in hopes of getting some nu nu he’ll do it….trust.
sour
August 19th, 2010
11:35 am
“I am finding that a lot of guys I meet say they aren’t seeing anyone special but that is not the entire truth.” Its just not men Women do this also, I know I have/do
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
11:36 am
Simple Man, that occured to me also when i was reading Wise’s entry. IMO, all is fair until you sit down and have the conversation, and I think everyone knows which conversation i’m referring to.
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
11:39 am
Also ARed said it pretty well You really have to ask the tough questions and even then, you don’t know if you’ll get a truthful answer.
M. (pronouced M dot)
August 19th, 2010
11:40 am
@Sassy
“if a man can downplay it in hopes of getting some nu nu he’ll do it….trust.”
Also if a woman can downplay her current situation in hopes of upgrading to a better situation or getting a new guy to do something that her current guy or guys arent doing like take her out and let her feel like she is in demand; she will….TRUST!
Purple Rain
August 19th, 2010
11:40 am
Those parameters have to be established by the two people involved, what a friend may see out and about may not even matter to the other person in the relationship. If you do not discuss your plans, whose fault is it when they go awry?
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
11:41 am
Sassy
you are right, I think I told ya’ll about the guy whose married and told me he was happy but he is just greedy. Now I know some chicks that woulda jumped on that but for me no deal.
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
11:42 am
czB wanted me to say hello to EVERYONE! She has back to back exams in the next three weeks and is crunching to prepare for them.
It's me....lurker
August 19th, 2010
11:43 am
I wasn’t married YET, he said. He pretty much slept around thru the entire dating and engagement period. I think his wife may have found out because she started acting peculiar soon after the wedding and they divorced after about 2 years
I asked a friend of mine if he cheats on his wife, of course he said no but went on further to say he did during the engagement. If you display and engaged in risky behavior once you have “the one” what other thing or person is going to come along and shake/wake you? Right nothing or nobody. If you’re not disciplined enough to stop once you have the chosen one, exchanging vows won’t hinder you either. If you go in with no regard, you won’t have it after the nuptuals. No matter how it’s put or laid out, people are very in tune with their behavior and by the ripe age of adulthood, very well know right from wrong. You do want you do because you want to. It’s just having your cake and eating it too.
YESSHEISCUTE
August 19th, 2010
11:43 am
I’m off the market for now and present myself as such (actually I’ve deleted all my dating profiles and have no interested in undeleted, reactivating or otherwise un-hiding them for a good while). I just want to do right by him and not cheat so I don’t act single. But I’m definitely not taking this as seriously as I could…… I just don’t feel that he loves me so I’m not going to commit myself to delving deeper and getting emotions all into it. Once he sweeps me off my feet then I’ll shout it to the world off of Mt. Kilimanjaro and make sure there is NO CONFUSION about it. Until then, that I’m doing what I do and mind my business. If anyone makes a clear interest in me I’m taken. I’m not going to go out of my way to let every guy I know that I have a boyfriend but if it comes up I’ll let them know. But I’m not going to ‘act like’ I’m single (i.e. entertain other suitors).
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
11:43 am
Carlito we are >>>>here<<<<
What time is it?
August 19th, 2010
11:43 am
Some men and women like to string you out by saying that they want to be in an exclusive relationship but they are looking for the bigger, better deal. When they think it comes along they drop you saying,”It’s me, not you.” You will know if the man is serious when he proposes. And men will know when you accept the ring. If you want to be single, be single…just be upfront about it.
It's me....lurker
August 19th, 2010
11:47 am
If I have to sit you down and have the talk, I’m not gonna. If I know you wouldn’t have an appreciation for sleeping around on you, you very well know the same. One about “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” you don’t have to ask a thing. If you don’t want it done to or on you you KNOW not to do the same. Not saying one shouldn’t talk and establish where they are in a relationship or where a relationship is headed but folks acting all slow and stuff when it comes to knowing how to do the right thing just don’t fly. I think people will play dumb as long as it’s allowed.
Run4life
August 19th, 2010
11:47 am
Timing is why dating in Atlanta is so hard. I wonder if it is this hard in Nebraska? LOL On the rare occasion I meet someone whom I am attracted to, nine times out of ten, he is dating/talking on the phone to three or four women. LOL But to be fair, I am also dating/talking on the phone to three or four guys. One of us peeps the game, and we go no further because each of us is unsure if the other is sincere. Timing…will I ever get there?
M. (pronouced M dot)
August 19th, 2010
11:47 am
@Everyone
Here is a quote that solves the problem on both sides
“The problem is women always assume men will lie while men always assume women are telling the truth Dont Assume anything!” -M.
Kym-All I Do is Win
August 19th, 2010
11:48 am
Good Morning All,
I agree with Leggs..since the begining of time..everyone is always looking for that greener grass on the other side. Like Kimmie said if the Freak Train is coming..no one wants to be left behind..
AmazonRed™
August 19th, 2010
11:49 am
all dudes were scared to get married because they all were afraid the Freak Train was going to pull up one day and they would miss out! LOL!!!
I read a funny status message yesterday “shout out to all the men afraid of commitment who let a good woman go, only to wind up with a ratchet” (some scheming woman who trapped them and/or bled them dry)
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
11:51 am
kimmie @ 11:31
My point is jacked up, but it makes plenty of sense…Everyday I meet women and have conversations with people that are fully involved in the dating world, that could care less what the staus was of the people they meet going in. Now I will give you that when they catch feelings, dude gets pissed when they try to call and “Jodie” is answering old girls phone or when the chicka realizes that he still sleeping with his other baby momma, But those are things that they overlooked when they first met.
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
11:52 am
Here’s my take…the only people who are off the market are those who take their vows seriously and that’s definitely doesn’t apply to all married couples.
blue - Put In The App On My New House!!
August 19th, 2010
11:53 am
i dont think either men or women are more likely to downplay their status. have seen both do it often enough. but i think the 2 explanations come up equally often : we havent discussed our status, or im just not sure about he/she, so im just checking around.
agreed on the principle if you wouldnt do it with said person next to you, then its over the line. but what about treat others the way you want to be treated? would you like him/her giving out their number while their supposed to be talking to you? if you wouldnt be cool with that, then stop keeping cards in your pocket just in case you meet someone.
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
11:53 am
Hola!
My dating code is this ask what you want to know, and I will tell you. As for me “acting” single, well I am single by the IRS guidelines and I behave accordingly.
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
11:54 am
Wassup blue, PK, Sasssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssy and Purp-purp Purple
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
11:54 am
folks acting all slow and stuff when it comes to knowing how to do the right thing just don’t fly. I think people will play dumb as long as it’s allowed.
lurker – Thank you!
Dan - simply...
August 19th, 2010
11:54 am
@Kimmie/Kym
I don’t necessarily agree.
For one, I know far to many guys that met “the One” [for them] and ceased all operations. I know of many other dudes that met “the One” and expanded operations.
I know that the difference in both types is impulse control, compassion, and judgment (based on my assessment of the individuals in my dataset).
Thus, paring down that “some guys” definition to “a certain type of guy” would be more apropos.
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
11:55 am
Hey Dirty D!!
that was funny, single by IRS guidlines
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
11:57 am
Simple – Now that makes more sense. Yeah, all the signs were there going in too, but they choose to ignore. No need in looking crazy later!
Kym-All I Do is Win
August 19th, 2010
11:59 am
@Blue Congrats on the House! Homeownership Rocks!
@Dan..I thought we had an agreement that you would not speak/type to me in your “British Guy” voice?
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
11:59 am
Dan – You say “certain type”, I say “some”.
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
12:01 pm
Yeah, all the signs were there going in too, but they choose to ignore.
@ Kimmie
you know people choose to ignore things plenty of times, the later it becomes a big issue but if you didn’t address it in the beginning……
like mamma used to say, make up the rules before you start playing the game, don’t try to change/make up new rules in the middle of the game.
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
12:02 pm
PK–it is the truth I am single. I am not receiving any tax credits….I am single. People often claim what they are not…if you are married do not claim single, and if you are single do not claim married.
Sassy Me...Walking by faith,not sight :-)
August 19th, 2010
12:03 pm
getting a new guy to do something that her current guy or guys arent doing like take her out and let her feel like she is in demand; she will….
M dot regardless of what you say about women…the same can go for men…TRUST. Just like your afore mentioned point above and the earlier part of said post, men,too are looking for the upgrade and the ego stroking….especially the ego stroking cause we all know how glassy,tender and down right fragile the male ego can be. I know you know of some of your male counterparts who has the 80/20 syndrome….got the bird in the hand but still tryna get the two in the bush….plain greedy. It’s out there….and no I don’t need you to cosign or agree cause it is what it is….TRUST SON
Sassy Me...Walking by faith,not sight :-)
August 19th, 2010
12:04 pm
Dirty Di-anaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa what it do mamita!?
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
12:06 pm
Dirty D
i didn’t say it wasn’t true
it just made me laugh the way you put it 
blue - Put In The App On My New House!!
August 19th, 2010
12:08 pm
Hey DD!
@Kym – Thanx!! Keeping my fingers crossed
!
Kym-All I Do is Win
August 19th, 2010
12:08 pm
What gets to me is that words that use to mean one thing in dating..now have totally different meanings. For example, the boy has express that he would like to date. I said, you can date when you have money to date.
The Boy: “Mom, You don’t need money to go out.”
Mom: “Where are you going with no money?”
The Boy: “Nowhere..we just going out.”
Mom: “Out where”?
The Boy:(sigh)giving me this old lady is slow as heck look.. “NOWHERE..we just going out.”
Mom: (sigh) giving him the I will slap you in the middle of next week and meet you on Thursday just to slap you again look.– “Boy, that makes no sense..how are you going out with someone and you are not going anywhere?”
The Boy: “Nevermind”(insert eyeroll here)
Ladies and Gentleman I give to you the future..
Dan - simply...
August 19th, 2010
12:09 pm
@Kym – It wasn’t British twas Dade Couty -RAWSE!!
@Kimmie – a difference with a distinction.
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
12:09 pm
Sassy Me… @ 12:03
Why do women think that males have egos that are that kinda fragile???? I know there are some frail dudes out there, but most guys I know are proud but they don’t have soft egos….
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
12:10 pm
Sassssssssssssssssssssssssy! I am just chilling getting my rest end, so I can crank it up this weekend. Shoot I agree with your 12:03 men like to get pumped up too. As for that talk about eating out, I hate seeing brothers spending their light bill/child support/student loan/car note/late payment on the house note trying to impress me. At the end of the day, we all no everyone for the most part is messing with someone (that doesn’t mean sexually), but most folks have some contenders out there.
I just checked my phone and I have quite a few…I am no exception. Once you get to know someone the “cream will rise to the top,” and you cut out the BS. Until that time comes it is all a game
Game of Life.
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
12:11 pm
i didn’t say it wasn’t true it just made me laugh the way you put it
@PK,
Well I did my job, you know I deliever the truth with a dash or comedy and sarcasm
always the truth.
SexyCool
August 19th, 2010
12:12 pm
My personal measure for knowing that I am truly off the market has always been at the point that I tell everyone that I have a significant other.
And when I mean everyone, I mean the guy that I’ve dated casually and would get the occasional phone call/text from every few weeks or any random super cute dude that I meet while out and about.
Oh…and when I stop giving or taking contact information to guys that I meet.
blue - Put In The App On My New House!!
August 19th, 2010
12:16 pm
@Kym – lmao…is that what its like having teenagers?
i find the question abut people outgrowing the “always looking for the better model” syndrome interesting…im not sure that they do. so many folks these days married forever splitting up over the “something better” theyve found along the way
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
12:21 pm
Princess – I don’t think folks should assume one doesn’t care about something because they didn’t ask either though. That’s why one should never assume.
I was burned by this myself. I mentioned before about this guy I dated that did not tell me after dating about a year that he had a 4 year old daughter. We met thru some cousins of mine and I had been over to his place many times and there were just no signs. Men I’ve dated with kids in the past tell me upfront they have kids, no big deal. The child wasn’t concieved while we were dating, so why the big secret? He said he had no relationship with the child, just sent a child support check.
I found out thru word of mouth about the child. When I inquired why he didn’t tell me, he said “You didn’t ask”.
Sassy Me...Walking by faith,not sight :-)
August 19th, 2010
12:22 pm
giving him the I will slap you in the middle of next week and meet you on Thursday just to slap you again look.–
Kym that look stilll works on me til this day…you took me back with that one
Why do women think that males have egos that are that kinda fragile????
Simple I think that b/c that’s what I’ve seen/experience and that’s really all I can speak on…my experiences. Maybe that brush stroke seemed kinda broad and I didn’t say it with the intent of meaning ALL men have fragile egos…I just know of a few that do and the things that gets their panties in a bunch.
At the end of the day, we all no everyone for the most part is messing with someone (that doesn’t mean sexually), but most folks have some contenders out there.
For real right Dianaaaaaa?…that’s pretty much the bottom line. Whatchu got poppin off this weekend?
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
12:22 pm
@blue ~ congratulations!
@Kym ~ just the opposite for me. Lil leggs asked if she could borrow $20 to go to the movies with this boy and he’ll pay me back later. All I said, “oh no, we are not going to start this.” If he can’t afford to take you to the movies, then you don’t need to go!” Crazy!
Kym-All I Do is Win
August 19th, 2010
12:22 pm
@blue..YES! Apparently this going out..consist of calling or texting and high-fiving in the halls at school(no kissing, hugs, etc.. on school property) or meeting up at school events(football games, cookouts, bake sales or whateva)
Kym-All I Do is Win
August 19th, 2010
12:26 pm
@Leggs..seeee..Foolishness!!! If the girl broke and he broke where in the same heck are they going? Just going Out.. out to your fridge. out his mom fridge. out to your sofa..out to his mama sofa. If he has no job..then how he gonna pay you back? I swear..
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
12:29 pm
Kym – SO’s kids had us rolling with the “going out” thing just the other day! They are 8 & 10 mind you. The boy, 10, was talking about how one of his buddies was “going out” with this little girl at school. His daughter, 8, was like “yeah, they’re dating”!LOL!!
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
12:29 pm
Kimmie i was referring to the situations where it was ‘right there’ and you knew it could be an issue but you (not u, but general u) chose to ignore it thinking it would go away or whatever…..
blue - Put In The App On My New House!!
August 19th, 2010
12:35 pm
@Leggs – “he’ll” pay you back later, so wait, she’s borrowing money from her mom for him so he can take her out? um…..k
@Kym/Leggs – scary. i aint ready. the boy turns 12 in October, im quick to tell him now that i will beat him black and blu with his own arm if he doesnt quit the nonesense, i aint ready…
2CPTG©
August 19th, 2010
12:36 pm
’sup y’all…
Trust, when a dude finds that right one, he’ll act right; in and out of her presence.
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
12:36 pm
i will beat him black and blu with his own arm
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
12:37 pm
For real right Dianaaaaaa?…that’s pretty much the bottom line. Whatchu got poppin off this weekend?
Sasssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssy,
I have some top secret adventures that involves top shelf liquor this weekend.
You already know how I get down. I feel like getting out putting on some clotes and looking good for ATL.
Sassy Me...Walking by faith,not sight :-)
August 19th, 2010
12:38 pm
The boy, 10, was talking about how one of his buddies was “going out” with this little girl at school. His daughter, 8, was like “yeah, they’re dating”!LOL!!
Awwww then…that’s kinda cute.
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
12:43 pm
Princess – Your 12:29 – Yep!
i'm swiss™
August 19th, 2010
12:44 pm
“The boy, 10, was talking about how one of his buddies was “going out” with this little girl at school.”
kimmie —
Yeah, we used to call it “going with” when I was a kid. I always wondered, “where the heck are we going?” Not sure if that was just a country thing, or what…
i'm swiss™
August 19th, 2010
12:45 pm
… now “
cummingcoming with” I could understand…kimmie
August 19th, 2010
12:49 pm
Swiss – We used to call it “going with” too or “talking”!
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
12:50 pm
Swiss it was “going with” where i’m from also. As in “i go with Alex, he’s my boyfriend”
disclaimer: alex was just the first name that came to mind
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
12:50 pm
@blue ~ exactly. I had to tell her right then and there you don’t borrow money for any boy to take you out. She actually rolled her eyes then said, “well, I said he was going to pay you back.” She doesn’t understand a pattern she may be starting. If the boy doesn’t have money to take you out, then you don’t go out. YOU don’t borrow to make it happen. Hell, neither one of you are working. Whatcha gonna pay me back with, a peanut butter sandwich!
Sassy Me...Walking by faith,not sight :-)
August 19th, 2010
12:51 pm
Not sure if that was just a country thing, or what…
Naw it wasn’t just a country thing Swissie…
Dianaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa don’t hurt ‘em. I was thinking about going downtown to Wanda’s Playhouse with my gurlz to see some male skrippas…still undecided though…
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
12:51 pm
Kimmie! i still say “talking” i use that in the early, getting to know each other stages LOL
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
12:52 pm
@i’m swiss ~ we said the same thing back home.
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
12:52 pm
I meant to say this regarding the topic. Sometimes it is best for your own safety and the safety of your property and possessions to tell your status (good, bad and ugly). I received a complaint one time regarding from an associate’s SO. This was a same sex couple (that doesn’t make a difference), but the lady got caught cheating. Well she gave us some profound allegations that had to be investigated illegal drug use, misuse of company property (pictures and cell images) and falsification. She also called the lender since her SO was behind on her SUV note…she was hiding the car so the repo would not get it (she told them the hiding spot), she called IRS, DFACS and the school the children were going to out of district. When it was all said and done the lady lost her job, SUV was repo’ed, the kids kicked out of school to the right school, DFACS snooping around and the IRS hounding her. The last I heard she had to move back home to FL. Her ol’ lady got her back for not telling her status. She was out here saying she was single and not claiming the relationship…sometimes its best to say you want an open relationship.
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
12:54 pm
Leggs – I’m still tripping on lil dude wanting to borrow money to take lil Leggs out! SMH.
See that’s how it starts. Flash forward 10 years he’ll be like some of these dudes now, whining about how none of the women he meets wants to pay for dates! LOL!!
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
12:54 pm
Diana
woooooow
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
12:55 pm
We said going with too.
@Sassssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssy
If Purple is not stripping for me I really don’t do strippers. Shoot I am not putting my hard earned money in his g-string. Maybe I need to check it out again to see, maybe I will have a new mindset.
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
12:55 pm
Leggs I wonder if he asked his momma and she said i aint giving you no ______ money, go ask that gal mama for some money
, i could see that happening
i'm swiss™
August 19th, 2010
12:56 pm
Okay, and how many times did you all send and/or receive this note:
Will you go with me? Check one:
Yes
No
Maybe
i'm swiss™
August 19th, 2010
12:57 pm
Maybe = Emergency Booty Call Only, by the way…
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
12:58 pm
@DirtyD ~ lesbians do not play when it comes to their mate. They will kick arse in a heartbeat. However, that was very spiteful of her to do all that.
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
12:59 pm
Dirty Diana ♠ @ 12:52 Sounds to me like they had some shyt going on that was on another level!!!!
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
12:59 pm
PK,
It was like wow for real, and ol’ girl had everything documented…pictures, video images, and copies of documents that she sent to me in a certified letter ( I did not request this information) and she called on the phone to give more details. Apparently she did this to all of the agencies…I heard DFACS received pictures of her smoking weed and talking crazy drinking and spanking the kids.
We were all
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
1:03 pm
@kimmie ~ I’m still tripping to!! Also, that she was so eager to do it!
@PrincessNik ~ I can see that too! Just crazy. I believe she was a bit miffed w/me because I said she doesn’t borrow $$ for a boy to take her out (even if he has a job and says he’ll pay it back) in front of her father. I was floored!
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
1:04 pm
@i’m swiss ~ just last night I found the exact same note in her bag. Yep, I go through it when she least expects me to!
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
1:05 pm
@Simple Man our associate was fairly young at the time no more than 25. You know plenty of people lie about their address so their kids can go to another school (better school). The misuse of company property was nothing major…old girl would wear our uniforms like they were her own damn clothes. Pics were taken of her with time/date stamps and she was drinking a beer in one of the pics (bad for our company logo and rep). Drinking liquor was no crime as long as she did not come to work like that, and the weed allegations were out there, but hey I know a man with an Ivy education that still lights it up. When I looked at everything I was like this is nothing, but they were BIG things that violated rules and policies.
She got revenge on her…that is not my style to go to there like that, but my heart still goes out to her for losing everything like that….
LURKER-1
August 19th, 2010
1:05 pm
Melo, r u still having problems with viruses on your desktop???
i'm swiss™
August 19th, 2010
1:06 pm
Dirty D — Yeah, that was pretty crazy, but uh… That’s nothing new to us guys. You know how you always hear us talking about being on the lookout for signs “crazy?” Well, that chick pretty much sums it up. Just happened to be another chick she unleashed the “crazy” on, but otherwise, nothing particularly unique. Some of y’all are downright vicious!
M. (pronouced M dot)
August 19th, 2010
1:08 pm
@Sassy Me
Thats really a corny argument on your part, (deflecting everything back on guys) “If men can do it we can do it to lol”. You are generalizing and forgetting we live in a feminist society anyway, therefore guys are constantly being thrown under the bus with arguments like 80/20, bird and the bush etc.
I was saying that women often get a pass like they arent doing anything when they are the ones that are slicker than oil.
Remember women have guys coming at them day in day out so they can choose who they want to date, marry, and cheat with.
Guys have to put in alot of work to step out and nothing is guranteed.
Women always have the option to step out on their man and some will utilize it.
Trust youngn’!
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
1:09 pm
Leggs – See back in the day, even if guy borrowed money to take a lady out, she wouldn’t have known about it. He’d have gone to his dad or brother or a buddy. He would have been too proud to even let her know he borrowed it. I got 4 brothers, I know.
I don’t know how these kids are being raised today! No wonder some of them turn out to be messed up adults!
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
1:11 pm
@Swiss you just really made me think in that post. I’ve heard men tallk about crazy women all of my life even the guy in HS that GF messed up all his books because they shared lockers…he had to pay for the books (I digress). You know, I would laugh and say, “What did you do?” The thing is that is CRAZY, even if you get cheated on why would you go crazy like that and destroy a person. And, to hear you say that is not unique I feel sorry for the guys/gals that have to endure this vicious mess…it is CRAZY.
Dan - simply...
August 19th, 2010
1:11 pm
Someone has to stop KFC:
http://www.brainresidue.com/taste-test-kfcs-new-skinwich/
This is a lawsuit waiting to happen
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
1:14 pm
@kimmie ~ and it’s my job to set her straight on borrowing money for some young arse punk! You don’t do it now, and you don’t do it as you get older!
i'm swiss™
August 19th, 2010
1:15 pm
“And, to hear you say that is not unique I feel sorry for the guys/gals that have to endure this vicious mess…”
Dirty D — Yeah, talk to some dudes who have been divorced if you want to hear some tales of “crazy.”
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
1:18 pm
Leggs – Kids who have parents with some sense, like you, are blessed indeed!
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
1:19 pm
Every guy I know has had an experience with the “The CRAZY” chick!!! I once had a pyscho call a locksmith to my house and tried to get him to change the locks!!! Good thing I had a cool neighbor that tipped me off that there was some funny biz going on at the crib!!!
Sassy Me...Walking by faith,not sight :-)
August 19th, 2010
1:23 pm
Dianaaaaaaaa dayum and
at your 12:52…wooooooow.
And as for the playhouse I’ve never been but it sounds like a whole lotta fun. You know it’s hosted by Wanda from V-103 and there are no cell phones or camera allowed. The last time I saw a skrippa was at a birthdat party many moons ago but I didn’t tip cause Mr.Cheeksgot paid off the top…good times.
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
1:25 pm
Swiss/DD/all – That’s why it’s not cute to be out here lying and claiming you are as “free as a bird” when you know you got a crazy at home!
granny godzilla
August 19th, 2010
1:30 pm
men are only interested in sex
wise up ladies
i'm swiss™
August 19th, 2010
1:34 pm
kimmie —
Yeah, always think about the Dave Chappelle bit about Marilyn Monroe singing “Happy B-day” to JFK… “WTF??? B!tch, my family’s here!” 
blue - Put In The App On My New House!!
August 19th, 2010
1:35 pm
@Leggs – rolling her eyes huh, thats the “d@mn, my parents really DO have some sense….” roll. but agreed, you gotta help her set an example for her future.
whoa….well….
@DD – 1252 –
oh, and not just a country thing, we used to call it “going with” too when i was in school up in the land of non-white gravy….kinda miss those notes tho, circle yes no maybe. they were cute
Jane R.
August 19th, 2010
1:38 pm
I am beginning to think that granny is right.
i'm swiss™
August 19th, 2010
1:38 pm
“just last night I found the exact same note in her bag.”
Leggs — Now, if you find a note that reads:
“Can I hit that? Check one:
Yes
No
Two Times”
Then I’ll loan you my shotgun….
tl;dr
August 19th, 2010
1:48 pm
it’s no longer sufficient to say single/taken. nowadays people have to specify monogamous!
Dirty Diana
August 19th, 2010
1:48 pm
Swiss/DD/all – That’s why it’s not cute to be out here lying and claiming you are as “free as a bird” when you know you got a crazy at home!
@Kimmie I need to write a disclaimer when I kick my IRS guidelines game.
@sasssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssy I cannot take too much of Frank ski or Wanda….I was happy when Ms. Sophia left. I cannot do V103.
Dirty Diana
August 19th, 2010
1:51 pm
This topic reminds me of how those guys go on shows like “The Bachelor” and they have girlfriends back home.
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
1:53 pm
Granny, Whats up with your 1:30??? Dudes are all about the cootie, but last time I checked there was a line around the building with women ready to do the deed when they get a chance!!! Y’all have parts that need to be lubed as much as ours…..
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
1:53 pm
Can I hit that?
You crazy, Swiss!
dawgjammin
August 19th, 2010
1:54 pm
proof reading must not fall into a category that wise diva has a lot of wisdom in
Lady!!!!!
August 19th, 2010
1:55 pm
hey crew what is poppin’!!!!!
MELO
August 19th, 2010
1:56 pm
Melo, r u still having problems with viruses on your desktop???
@LURKER….NO!
busy,just catching up on the reading at lernch while I chew on this pork chops!
Hey folks!
Dirty Diana
August 19th, 2010
1:58 pm
@Lady there is nothing poppin’ over here…I am just getting my list together
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
1:59 pm
MELO, Whats up bro???
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
2:01 pm
I just don’t understand why, if you really want to be free & flexible, why do you even bother with having a gf/bf/spouse?
I was talking about a friend that followed her high school sweetheart to UGA and how he chased everything in a skirt (he was an athlete). Brat I think remarked why even have a girlfriend in that circumstance? I wondered the same thing, but most of the athletes I knew had a girlfriend, whether she was there or back home. One could understand being young and wanting to date around and have fun. Why bother with girlfriends? I wondered the same thing.
A lot of heartache could be saved if more folks just remained single and dated openly, not even shack. Get it out of your system until you are ready to commit, if ever.
But I guess that’s a perfect world, which doesn’t exist!
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
2:02 pm
Dirty D ooohhhhh a list I can’t wait
Hey Lady! you know i loves ya but
what is poppin’ for some reason that tickled me made me think of a parent trying to be hip with their teenager
Teenager: whas poppin
Parent: what is poppin
Sassy Me...Walking by faith,not sight :-)
August 19th, 2010
2:04 pm
I cannot take too much of Frank ski or Wanda….I was happy when Ms. Sophia left. I cannot do V103.
Me either…I can only take them in short spurts.
Gotta go y’all…PEACE!!
Dirty Diana
August 19th, 2010
2:06 pm
@Kimmie I can truly see both sides because every situation is different and relationships go through cycles. When you are in a stand still cycle I can see someone looking at outside options. Marriage is different, but for single people I think they should look at all options and alternatives.
2CPTG©
August 19th, 2010
2:06 pm
“Lady,” I just found out last night you and I have a mutual friend out in Cali…..small world…
Dirty Diana
August 19th, 2010
2:07 pm
PK,
Not that type of list…this is something else. Sorry, but now that you said something a few things came to mind.
PrincessNik
August 19th, 2010
2:13 pm
Dirty D
Oh
MELO
August 19th, 2010
2:13 pm
I spotted my friend’s boyfriend at a restaurant and he was not acting like a guy who just asked his girl to move in with him. I always wonder how men who are in relationships” behave” when their women aren’t around
Here is the skinny ladies..and gents..if u dating seriously but u aint engaged to marry yet…hell yeah,any one of u could be hitting somebody else on the side. Coz there is no exclusivity established other than the word of mouth. And if a married person with a ring and certificate can cheat,a girl or boyfriend with verbal exclusive commitment can hit other cootie on the side,easy..in fact,it is a given…Why do u want to deny him??
The bigger qstion should be why arent u asking him to engage u(ring on ur lil finger) if u want to put that wang on lock down?
Simply dating in a supposedly exclusive relationship is also tacit recognition of the fact that if he were to meet somebody that he wld rather sequestrate for himself right away,u gon be benched in favor of her(him).
So why are uall tripping on ur mere boyfriends u aint engaged to yet?
They are all game to the thristy heiffers and dudettes out there.
Hey SimpleMan !!
kent
August 19th, 2010
2:13 pm
Its all about getting to ur moneymaker!
Dirty Diana
August 19th, 2010
2:14 pm
I sorry, PK
Dirty Diana
August 19th, 2010
2:16 pm
Melo, you are dropping game! I agree with that 2:13 it is the truth whether we like it or not.
2CPTG©
August 19th, 2010
2:16 pm
just for arguments sake……are you really “off the market” when just dating? Or, is it when you get married, that you’re off the market….just curious, cause if we’re just dating, exclusive or not, it still ain’t “official!”
2CPTG©
August 19th, 2010
2:17 pm
I’ll de damned, Melo….took the words right outta my mouth!
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
2:21 pm
Preach Bru!!!
Lady!!!!!
August 19th, 2010
2:21 pm
@2 bruh who is that!?! hit me up ladyj0817@sprint.blackberry.net
DD make sure you check it twice! ha!
Lady!!!!!
August 19th, 2010
2:22 pm
pk lmbao! i remain proper chica! LOL
2CPTG©
August 19th, 2010
2:23 pm
**Lady,** I’ll have her give you a call tonight.
blue - Put In The App On My New House!!
August 19th, 2010
2:25 pm
100 lemmings fall off of a cliff,
100 lemmings fall down
if 1 of those lemmings should happen to live -
maybe its really a hamster!!
yes, im bored…waiting for this phone to ring…househunting,arggghh…
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
2:27 pm
So why are uall tripping on ur mere boyfriends u aint engaged to yet?
Melo – Are you talking in general or specific folks on the blog? If not general, who? Just curious.
You are right, it ain’t “official” until it is official and even then no guarantees. But behavior before it’s official is a good indicator of how it’ll be after. Note my first post of the day about my friend.
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
2:28 pm
blue – Do you watch House Hunters on HGTV? One of my favorites even though I’m not hunting. I especially love the international version.
Lady!!!!!
August 19th, 2010
2:32 pm
cool beans 2! is it my soror!?!
czBrat
August 19th, 2010
2:33 pm
HiYas! popping in for a much needed lil break. how’s the gang?
is the topic housing or tv watching? or both? i luv HH, kimmie. for some reason those folks never seem to go with my pick. i guess the popular thing is to purchase the home above your stated budget. LOL
MELO
August 19th, 2010
2:35 pm
@Kimmie…I am always broadcasting in my posts unless I put @ and name……. as i did hera in response to u.
If ure(broadcasting again) dating exclusive..and may be long time but not engaged and ur guy seems(?) upstanding…and then later on he benches u or cheats with somebody else,be surprised but dont be shocked.
No need to get shocked when u knew all along u werent ever made permanent.
@Kimmie..whats up with ur friend??
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
2:38 pm
Brat – They never pick what I like either, though alot of times I don’t like any of the choices!LOL!
There was this older couple that purchased a “fixer-upper” in Italy. I put fixer-upper in quotes because this was beyond fixing up. It literally looked like a bomb went thru it! I was excited though because most of the time, they show you how it looks months down the road after they have done their renovations. That lazy couple had done almost nothing after 9 months! I was so mad!LOL!!!
blue - Put In The App On My New House!!
August 19th, 2010
2:38 pm
@kimmie – no, i havent seen that show. more into the cooking shows these days, we’re big Master Chef, Iron Chef people, lol. whats HH about? just looking for houses?
2CPTG©
August 19th, 2010
2:41 pm
@Lady, not sure if it’s your soror, or not……
czBrat
August 19th, 2010
2:42 pm
i actually saw that, kimmie. i think they chose it because of the views, right? from the outside it looked like little more than a door in a wall.
then when they showed the followup the only change was that there was a bed tucked in a corner of the “master bedroom”. ridiculous! but hey, they have a vacation home in italy, and i don’t. LOL
Lady!!!!!
August 19th, 2010
2:44 pm
cool thanks again!!!
Enjoy your weekend folks!!!!
Peace!
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
2:46 pm
Melo – You are right, especially if it seems you’re being strung along. Life’s a beyotch sometimes though!
My friend – I was referring to my 11:18 post. I described how this guy friend messed around on his girl from day 1 courtship, thru dating and engagement and beginning of marriage. His actions didn’t change – he slept with another just days before his wedding. They didn’t last a good 2 years and divorced. His thing before was “I’m not married YET, so until then I’m free”. Only problem was, old habits are hard to break – things didn’t change after he tied the knot.
blue – Yeah HH is all about house hunting. They showcase a couple and go with them to look at houses in their city and price range and specifications. Then they choose between 3 they showed. They have another intl version too – folks looking for houses in exotic locations.
DreamsMaterialize
August 19th, 2010
2:48 pm
Putting in a bid on a house (or houses) does not make it (them) yours. You’re not off the market until you’re off the market.
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
2:50 pm
Dreams – That’s just it – some folks keep the For Sale sign out after the sale!LOL!!
czBrat
August 19th, 2010
2:50 pm
i guess the blog monster doesn’t care too much for posts from infrequent visitors.
lemme try another approach:
i saw that episode, kimmie. the followup showed little more than a bed tucked into a corner of a room that looked like a fallout shelter AFTER the bomb. i was like
but hey, at least they have a vaction home in italy. LOL
DreamsMaterialize
August 19th, 2010
2:53 pm
Why bother with girlfriends? I wondered the same thing.
kimmie there’s several reasons why athletes keep a girlfriend…they all pretty much boil down to selfishness though. Some of it is status, being able to say that you locked down the baddest chick on campus. Also, alot of times these chicks are actually really nice girls, probably the wifey type (faithful, treats him good, family loves her, strong major, smart, good grades). Athletes know this, and they’re just trying to keep her on lock until they’re ready to put the ring on her finger. I’ve seen that happen quite a few times.
blue - Put In The App On My New House!!
August 19th, 2010
2:56 pm
@kimmie – sounds interesting. may have to check it out one day. when does it come on?
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
2:56 pm
Dreams – You are right, I noticed that. They all were really nice girls, wifey types. Opposite of the ones they would be messing around with!
MELO
August 19th, 2010
2:57 pm
“I’m not married YET, so until then I’m free”
@Kimmie??
back in the day when I was in college,me and my hommies wld always say that only a suckker engages a girl..if u want to marry the girl just go ahead and marry her,why put her on a marriage notice??(by engaging).
Our collective argument then(young ofcourse) was once u engage a chic,she is now free to sling it with other jokers one or more times coz she knows shes bidding farewell, doing that for the last time.
And I do know first hand that some of my engaged friends have had very wild bachelor paries!!
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
2:57 pm
blue – It comes on about 2 or 3 times a day it seems, you should have no trouble catching it!
MELO
August 19th, 2010
2:58 pm
parties
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
3:00 pm
Melo – marriage notice = layaway! Yeah, I think you guys thought she go out on one last slingfest cause you knew you’d probably do it!
Dan - simply...
August 19th, 2010
3:02 pm
@Dreams
It isn’t just athletes….
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
3:04 pm
It isn’t just athletes….
Dan – True
czBrat
August 19th, 2010
3:04 pm
she is now free to sling it with other jokers one or more times coz she knows shes bidding farewell, doing that for the last time.
see, now it surprises me that these chicks are even considered marriage material. but that’s just my naive/judgemental pov.
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
3:06 pm
Come on Brat….Even the good girls want to go out with a bang!!! LOL
blue - Put In The App On My New House!!
August 19th, 2010
3:06 pm
@kimmie – cool, try that when im just lazing around one day…
marriage notice – layaway : now that’s funny
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
3:07 pm
see, now it surprises me that these chicks are even considered marriage material. but that’s just my naive/judgemental pov.
Brat – You and I were thinking exactly the same! Especially since he’s talked before about how a chick that was slinging it out to everybody would pretty much have to leave town to get a husband!
MELO
August 19th, 2010
3:08 pm
see, now it surprises me that these chicks are even considered marriage material. but that’s just my naive/judgemental pov.
@Czbrat…hey brat!
but there was no truth,necessarily, to what we said.
It was just what we guys figured was cool to say,to justify our arguments.
czBrat
August 19th, 2010
3:11 pm
It was just what we guys figured was cool to say,to justify our arguments.
now that’s a refreshing admission.
Dan - simply...
August 19th, 2010
3:12 pm
Brat/Kimmie
Butcher/BMW engine does not equal Mechanic/Sirloin
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
3:13 pm
@kimmie/blue ~ thanks. I take my “watch” on rearing lil leggs very seriously! She will not grow up to be a knucklehead while in my home. What she does in her adult life is on her, hopefully with some reflection on what I’ve been teaching her. We shall see.
@i’m swiss ~ thank you, sir. I will definitely need your shotgun. By the time I go through her bags at night all stores are closed. Thank you!
@Melo ~ great points!
MELO
August 19th, 2010
3:19 pm
@Kimmie??
skipping town is a true,tried and tested method,if a chic wants to get married but she figures, her rep is burnished in her home city or that the guys arent biting. I will swear to it.
If a girl thnks she aint too gone in the looks department,go to a smaller city(than Atl) get a job there..all the guys in town will be loking at the new girl..and scope a good guy with a good job/career and good rep around town….marry..and then some years later,if u still pining for Atl,convince hubby to move ur fam back here.
Ofcourse dont be quick to show him the bedroom tricks u learnt in Atl untill u engaged or married!
Let him show u instead,all the (with a k) kountry bedroom sexual moves!
blue - Put In The App On My New House!!
August 19th, 2010
3:20 pm
@melo – a dude admitting that dudes, at times, justify their behavior. wow, u deserve a pat on the back for that one…
@Leggs – knucklehead, lol. you all make me scared to head into the teen years…..
DreamsMaterialize
August 19th, 2010
3:23 pm
@Dreams
It isn’t just athletes…
Dan I know, but I only addressed athletes because kimmie’s post was about athletes and their girlfriends in college.
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
3:24 pm
@czB ~ glad you came up for some air!
MELO
August 19th, 2010
3:26 pm
a dude admitting that dudes, at times, justify their behavior
@Blue??
only in hindsight
….that was in college,remember i said so….many many maaaany moons ago.
czBrat
August 19th, 2010
3:27 pm
LOL @ Leggs. i’m being sooooo bad right now. this textbook is glaring at me with fire in it’s eyes, saying “you know we got a damn test saturday! cut that crap out and pick me up. NOW!!”
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
3:27 pm
Melo – Not too gone in the looks department – I swear you are one-of-a-kind!LOL!
Seriously though, if a guy can’t keep it in his pants while he’s dating you, a woman would have to question his ability to be faithful after they got married, if she happened to find out about his ways beforehand. Especially if the two of you are “active” with each other. You know, past behavior being an indicator of future behavior and all. The signs are there, no need in being “surprised” later.
Dan - simply...
August 19th, 2010
3:30 pm
I find myself….
Agreeing with Melo’s 3:19 post 100%.
That’s SOP for half the “from out of town girls” anywhere.
kimmie
August 19th, 2010
3:31 pm
Well gang, it’s been real but gotta go get cute! Always get excited when a new ‘do is on the horizon!
Be easy!
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
3:31 pm
@blue ~ be afraid, be very afraid. And, I am one of the fortunate ones who has a great kid!
czBrat
August 19th, 2010
3:41 pm
ciao kimmie.
i gotta get back to business.
ciao all!
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
3:42 pm
Say Leggs, where is the party this weekend??? Got a invite to this one thing but still weighing the options….
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
3:49 pm
@SimpleMan ~ not sure. GF in town from Florida and I’m going to see if I can get her to come out and hang with me. Club Echelon, The Bistro, don’t know yet. I would like a lounge place that plays great music. Do you know of a place?
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
3:51 pm
@czB ~ you need to rub your eyes, go get some water, walk away from the computer and go sit at the kitchen table and study!!
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
3:53 pm
Leggs, going to try to do Fernbank on Friday ( Live salsa band!! great for dancing)..and My brother is having a birthday party at Ambience (sp) on saturday….
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
3:56 pm
I almost gave myself a b-day party at Ambience. Cool place, but staff need to participate in a customer service focus group.
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
3:58 pm
LOL…never been before so I will give it a go and see whats up…
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
4:03 pm
Do you know what you’re going wear…I can come up to you and introduce myself if I should wind up there.
Melo has a funny take on that place. He won’t party there because it’s on the busline and the busline pretty much transports rif raff who can’t afford a car. The logic is well, it’s Melo (LOLOLOL).
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
4:08 pm
Not sure what I be sporting…But i will look in the “Good”
closet tonight and let you know 2morrow
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
4:09 pm
BTW Leggs, whatever happens, don’t try and take me home!!! LOL
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
4:11 pm
No promises, I may decide to be extremely bad that night!
blue - They Like Our App!!
August 19th, 2010
4:12 pm
@melo – lol, yes indeed, hindsight is 20/20 they say. cant imagine a 20something dude admitting that one!
@Leggs – i have oblivious boy, a diva girl, and a no nonesense girl….the next few years oughta be interesting….
MELO
August 19th, 2010
4:13 pm
@Leggs!….because it’s on the busline and the busline pretty much transports rif raff
LOL @Leggs!…I dont remember all the stuff I say but when iam reminded of it ,the logic of it is Vintage me!
blue - They Like Our App!!
August 19th, 2010
4:17 pm
headin to the homestead, read yall tomorrow! keep your fingers crossed, they like our App!!! woohooo!!
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
4:18 pm
@blue ~ GREAT. They like your app. That’s a start.
You may have nothing to worry about, because your “no nonsense” girl will put everyone else in check.
@Melo ~ you said it! When I said I have a friend who parties via busline, and she and her boyfriend met me at Hairston’s the night of my big party you said that’s why you don’t want to party at Ambience. I can’t even imagine not having a car let alone dating a man w/o a car!
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
4:20 pm
Note to self…make sure I am supa dupa fly just in case Leggs wants to be really bad this weekend!!!
MELO
August 19th, 2010
4:20 pm
@Leggs??
Is Ambience the one spot on memorial dv,on the left as u head east??
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
4:21 pm
Good luck Blue!!!
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
4:22 pm
Yes it is, Melo.
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
4:23 pm
Note FOR Self: Iron your clothes before putting them on!
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
4:26 pm
My bad, that came across as an order and not a request:
Please, iron your clothes before putting them on (LOLOLOL).
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
4:31 pm
I got you Leggs…skinny jeans with extra, extra starch and some “mules” that look like cowboy boots!!! LOL
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
4:32 pm
Melo I agree with your 3:19! It seems like it is your 2010 mission to get your blog ladies married. How are you doing so far? You are going to have to give each blog lady a “get married plan.”
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
4:34 pm
I’ve been meaning to buy some skinny jeans, but I have no idea what mules that look like cowboy boots should even look like.
Help me out here…skinny jeans are ultra tight, why the need for heavy starch?
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
4:37 pm
Leggs, just joking!!! I am 6 feet and 220lbs!!! I would look like a damn fool with some tight, nut hugging jeans on!!! LMAO!!!
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
4:42 pm
Whew!
If I had seen that I would have walked right on by that outfit!
It's me....lurker
August 19th, 2010
4:44 pm
Okay I’ve busy and missed just about the entire day…even lurking. This caught my eye though when skimming through
just for arguments sake……are you really “off the market” when just dating? Or, is it when you get married, that you’re off the market….just curious, cause if we’re just dating, exclusive or not, it still ain’t “official!”
Hence the phrase all in fair in love and war. I still resort to when locked down, official, exchanged vows, whatever. If you know the intents or belief is exclusitivity you are wrong and misleading if you’re doing anything otherwise. I can always and only respect that person that will say “I really like you and hope to see more of you but I will continue to do what I do when we aren’t together.” Not realistic but the truth none the less
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
4:46 pm
Not sure how any guy can where tight pants…..seems to me like it would impare one abilty to “stand and deliver”… Skinny jeans are for women and dudes with no active prospects!!!
It's me....lurker
August 19th, 2010
4:48 pm
skinny jeans are for “some” women. If you’re a big girl or got the gut going on, PLEASE don’t wear skinny jeans. Skinny jeans are for skinny women.
MELO
August 19th, 2010
4:48 pm
@DD..I know 3 blog ladies have been married ever since i came on here..ofcourse not to blog dudes..im sure two(2) of them could say they picked up on one or two pieces of my advice. Well,some chics will never admit it publicly but its ok by me.
For those of u who have been in relationships that i know of, yes i wld luv to hear that u closed on the deal.I have met some of uall or scoped some of uall pics and by God,u got the looks,all of u,if nothing else, but to get a boyfriend…
All u (may) need is my marriage manual for guidance, here and there on how to close the deal!
MELO
August 19th, 2010
4:52 pm
@Its me…./Simple??
plus skiny jeans aint good on the balls,for the hetero male…they will squeeze them and make the balls bilogically defunct,if won consistently.
tightness and heat(sun),not good for balls…!
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
4:56 pm
No doubt!!! Hot fabric covered balls are bad!!!! (Unless I am table dancing for Leggs!! )
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
4:57 pm
@Melo-the-marriage-manual-mongul,
I am now holding you accountable for teaching the blog ladies (that want) marriage on how to close the deal
You are now in charge Mr. Melo
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
4:58 pm
Dirty D…Are you going to be MELO’s first client????
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
4:59 pm
Love could lead your heart to the way of joy and happiness, but don’t forget my dear it also can lead you to a deadend road of no return!
Nighty nite!
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
5:03 pm
Sometimes the shortest distance between two points is a winding path walked arm in arm. ~Robert Brault, http://www.robertbrault.com
Have a great night!!!
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
5:04 pm
@Simple Man,
I am not in need of that service, but others are.