Off the market? Act like it!
It seems like everyone has their own code of dating ethics. It would be a lot easier if we all could follow the same set! This would come in handy when it comes to figuring out who to invest more time and energy into.
I am finding that a lot of guys I meet say they aren’t seeing anyone special but that is not the entire truth. Sometimes hey are exploring a relationship with someone else they just haven’t stop looking at other options.
It’s that whole “always looking for the better model” syndrome. I think it’s partly due to insecurity because most people do this as a defense mechanism. Do you think this is something that people ever outgrow?
I spotted my friend’s boyfriend at a restaurant and he was not acting like a guy who just asked his girl to move in with him. I always wonder how men who are in relationships” behave” when their women aren’t around.
Do you think there is a line that people just shouldn’t cross when they are supposedly in a committed relationship? Why does that line get so blurry?
I always ask men who I am seriously involved with what their definition of cheating is. I figure if we can check out each other’s perspective on what is unacceptable behavior then we already know what the expectations are.
What do you think, if you are off the market but still conduct your same “on the hunt” behavior, shouldn’t you re-think that whole “exclusive” thing altogether?
Is that a sign that they aren’t the one for you?
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Leggs
August 19th, 2010
4:23 pm
Note FOR Self: Iron your clothes before putting them on!
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
4:26 pm
My bad, that came across as an order and not a request:
Please, iron your clothes before putting them on (LOLOLOL).
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
4:31 pm
I got you Leggs…skinny jeans with extra, extra starch and some “mules” that look like cowboy boots!!! LOL
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
4:32 pm
Melo I agree with your 3:19! It seems like it is your 2010 mission to get your blog ladies married. How are you doing so far? You are going to have to give each blog lady a “get married plan.”
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
4:34 pm
I’ve been meaning to buy some skinny jeans, but I have no idea what mules that look like cowboy boots should even look like.
Help me out here…skinny jeans are ultra tight, why the need for heavy starch?
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
4:37 pm
Leggs, just joking!!! I am 6 feet and 220lbs!!! I would look like a damn fool with some tight, nut hugging jeans on!!! LMAO!!!
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
4:42 pm
Whew!
If I had seen that I would have walked right on by that outfit!
It's me....lurker
August 19th, 2010
4:44 pm
Okay I’ve busy and missed just about the entire day…even lurking. This caught my eye though when skimming through
just for arguments sake……are you really “off the market” when just dating? Or, is it when you get married, that you’re off the market….just curious, cause if we’re just dating, exclusive or not, it still ain’t “official!”
Hence the phrase all in fair in love and war. I still resort to when locked down, official, exchanged vows, whatever. If you know the intents or belief is exclusitivity you are wrong and misleading if you’re doing anything otherwise. I can always and only respect that person that will say “I really like you and hope to see more of you but I will continue to do what I do when we aren’t together.” Not realistic but the truth none the less
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
4:46 pm
Not sure how any guy can where tight pants…..seems to me like it would impare one abilty to “stand and deliver”… Skinny jeans are for women and dudes with no active prospects!!!
It's me....lurker
August 19th, 2010
4:48 pm
skinny jeans are for “some” women. If you’re a big girl or got the gut going on, PLEASE don’t wear skinny jeans. Skinny jeans are for skinny women.
MELO
August 19th, 2010
4:48 pm
@DD..I know 3 blog ladies have been married ever since i came on here..ofcourse not to blog dudes..im sure two(2) of them could say they picked up on one or two pieces of my advice. Well,some chics will never admit it publicly but its ok by me.
For those of u who have been in relationships that i know of, yes i wld luv to hear that u closed on the deal.I have met some of uall or scoped some of uall pics and by God,u got the looks,all of u,if nothing else, but to get a boyfriend…
All u (may) need is my marriage manual for guidance, here and there on how to close the deal!
MELO
August 19th, 2010
4:52 pm
@Its me…./Simple??
plus skiny jeans aint good on the balls,for the hetero male…they will squeeze them and make the balls bilogically defunct,if won consistently.
tightness and heat(sun),not good for balls…!
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
4:56 pm
No doubt!!! Hot fabric covered balls are bad!!!! (Unless I am table dancing for Leggs!! )
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
4:57 pm
@Melo-the-marriage-manual-mongul,
I am now holding you accountable for teaching the blog ladies (that want) marriage on how to close the deal
You are now in charge Mr. Melo
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
4:58 pm
Dirty D…Are you going to be MELO’s first client????
Leggs
August 19th, 2010
4:59 pm
Love could lead your heart to the way of joy and happiness, but don’t forget my dear it also can lead you to a deadend road of no return!
Nighty nite!
Simple Man!!!!
August 19th, 2010
5:03 pm
Sometimes the shortest distance between two points is a winding path walked arm in arm. ~Robert Brault, http://www.robertbrault.com
Have a great night!!!
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 19th, 2010
5:04 pm
@Simple Man,
I am not in need of that service, but others are.