Is your career affecting your love life?
So I have been a little stressed and overworked lately. Turns out, when I am super stressed out I am a total nightmare to be around. I know, shocking. I have been stressed before but I didn’t think I really let it impact my love life.
In the past, I would always be able to balance work/career pretty well. Well, not this time, my friends. I actually sent a text message to my guy of interest last week that said “I really don’t feel like being around people right now. I will let you know when I am.” Seriously, who does that!?
I had to call and apologize because that was a clear example of a woman not in her right mind. Sometimes stress and work makes your love life take a nosedive. It’s particularly awful when it was already the pits!
How do you single and professional people do it? When you feel stressed out, is that when you try to date more to distract you?
When you are under a tremendous amount of pressure, do you let your date know or do you pretend it’s all good until the date is over?
Should you take a break from dating until you get some sense of normalcy back in your work life?
I need tips, people! I can’t even be trusted with text messages right now!
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blue
August 18th, 2010
8:47 am
i think im first!!!
GM everybody!!
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
8:54 am
Hey blue… hope you are having a wonderful morning!
blue
August 18th, 2010
8:59 am
doing ok here, mr.Simple Man, hows ur morning going?. im in the mood to play a practical joke, just got to pick a target….
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
9:03 am
Always down for a good pratical joke!!!
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
9:11 am
On todays topic….. I work in a moderatly high pressure office and I find that as the pressure goes up, I become an even better date…I make an effort to ensure that there is balance in my life and when it gets rough at the office (and sometimes its Supa-dupa rough) I need to take the extra steps to relax on my down time…thats means nicer palces to eat, or an over-the-top weekend getaway for me and the lady of the day!
DreamsMaterialize
August 18th, 2010
9:15 am
Morning
When you are under a tremendous amount of pressure, do you let your date know or do you pretend it’s all good until the date is over?
My date would never know I’m under any pressure. I make sure my personal issues don’t affect my interactions with other people. After all, they’re my issues…no one else should have to be burdened by them but me. Everyone is different though, and it may be harder for some to separate. If that’s you, then you just need to stay out of the dating game…there’s enough craziness there already.
blue
August 18th, 2010
9:18 am
lets see, on topic, not really single but have still found work affecting my love life. not where i am now, relatively low pressure here, but the last position was Hella Crazy (kinda liked it tho, lol). there were times where i was still in office 8,9, 10pm. Coming in on weekends, bringing work home, the whole bit. would often have mr.blue trying to make plans or be spontaneous and me going “cant, got a deadline”, “cant, got a work event to go to”. put a real damper on things, and hit the point where he kinda stopped putting the effort out cause he felt with my schedule there was no point. led to a bit of a disconnect. even when i was home and actually not working, i was too wiped to really do much. when i started where i am now hes like “maybe you can leave work at work now”. funny, but sad too.
abc
August 18th, 2010
9:22 am
Learn to leave work at work. It will still be there tomorrow. Even if work fails miserably, the sun will still rise tomorrow, and you’ll still wake up — don’t let your career define you so much. If you need something external to define who and what you are, let your relationships define you.
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
9:36 am
Hola!
For the most part my life is divided into “compartments.” I am fine with that, and as I navigate in/out of those compartments I leave “work” in the “work” compartment. I do not check my phone at dinner as if the organization will fall apart, or my students will fail to master a concept if I am not at their beckoning call. Even when I run my own little small business I do not monitor each and every detail when I am away.
I think most of you know enough about me to draw a dangerous and inaccurate conclusion about my work. I am a complex person with above average abilities, therefore I wear many hats. The key is this know which hat you are wearing whether it is GF, BFF, sister, cousin, niece, aunt, employer, employee, business owner, professor consumer, or seller and stay in that lane. Once you leave that lane leave that hat there until you return. Work/life balance is key…I strive for that and those around me in my circle will tell you when we are face-to-face my attention is on them; not at some job etc.
CoolShadow
August 18th, 2010
9:36 am
How do you single and professional people do it? When you feel stressed out, is that when you try to date more to distract you?
You could date more as a distraction but the onus is on the stressed-out individual to seek relief rather than rely on someone to do it for you.
When you are under a tremendous amount of pressure, do you let your date know or do you pretend it’s all good until the date is over?
I tend to compartmentalize work and social life so I won’t usually bring up my work and associated politics in a social setting unless I’m asked about it. If you have that kind of established communication that’s fine but I wouldn’t recommend that to be a first date topic. You don’t want come off looking one-dimensional.
Should you take a break from dating until you get some sense of normalcy back in your work life?
If your work schedule is encroaching on your social time and the stress just turns you in a cranky monster that people don’t want to be around, then maybe you need to sit on the sidelines until things cool down.
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
9:38 am
Wassup blue, DreamsM and Simple man I hope you all are having a Terrific Tuesday!
YESSHEISCUTE
August 18th, 2010
9:42 am
I tell my bf straight out…I’m stressed out and stuff so take your ginseng and make me feel better. That way he won’t have to deal with me “not in my right mind” so to speak. hehehe
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
9:42 am
DD….Whats good sweetness???
DCRose
August 18th, 2010
9:46 am
GM All.
When I’m under a lot of stress, I tend to go underground. I don’t like sharing that part of myself. I’ve never met a single person that can handle it. They all tend to think that venting is asking them to solve the problem. If I ask for an opinion, I listen to the answer and weigh my options. But for the most part I smile brighter, am overly polite and have one liners that make me giggle.
Work stress ~ stays at work. I give myself 30 mins or so (usually the ride home)to shake it off. I have so much more in my life that work is and will remain, a way to earn a living and support my life style.
So no, I’m not in the mood to date.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
9:46 am
YESSHEISCUTE
Same here, I say work was rough today/this week and I need to relieve some stress
Good Morning! Hey DirtyD! Hey Blue!
blue
August 18th, 2010
9:47 am
Hola DD, you say Terrific Tuesday, its Wacky Wednesday! u made me do a double take and check my calendar… sure enuf had me scared that i had another 3 days in this place instead of 2! lol
DCRose
August 18th, 2010
9:48 am
So no, I’m not in the mood to date.
Oops, meant add – new people.
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
9:48 am
Tips to balancing work:
1. Have someone you can trust to discuss work with if needed that understands your field and the frustrations. I have found people in my profession will understand, and often provide me with tips on how to overcome certain barriers at work. If this tip fails it might be time to see a therapist, so that you can add more coping skills to your life.
2. If this is just a busy cycle at work, let your dates, SO and friends know that “the third quarter of the year is stressful at my job, and I will not have a lot of free time.”
3. Do not plan long outings if you are “stressing” maybe a quick drink will due, instead of dinner and drinks. Sign up for “Massage Envy” that is a cheap way to relax after work, and meet your friends for drinks or a light dinner once you leave.
4. Find a way to de-stress write in your journal, drink some hot tea, do a little blogging, but the key is to find those simple things you enjoy this rejuvenates the soul.
5. Exercising does it for me. I do not like working out that much, but a nice brisk walk around a lake or a pond does it for me. I can clear my head and the water is rejuvenating.
6. Leave work at work, and realize what a “win” is…sometimes making it through five conference calls and getting your reports out on time is a win; even if you delegated the rest of the task on your desk. I believe in delegating, and allowing my associates to step up when times are tough…doing this frees up my time and takes stress off of me.
That is all folks, I will have to charge for the rest
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
9:51 am
@Simple Man…I am perky and enjoying my day, even with this nagging sore throat (melo don’t say anything nasty now).
@blue, damn it is Tuesday…hahahaha I was checking to see if you all were reading and paying attending. SIKE LOL
@PK wassup chica! I know you are probably stressed at work with the school year just starting.
blue
August 18th, 2010
9:51 am
@YESSHEISCUTE – I’m stressed out and stuff so take your ginseng and make me feel better –
i like it!!
@Princess – heyyy Lady!!
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
9:52 am
Find a way to de-stress write in your journal, drink some hot tea, do a little blogging, but the key is to find those simple things you enjoy this rejuvenates the soul.
Dirty D
I definately agree with this just the other night I had a candlelight bubble bath with a glass of wine and some soft music after I put little mama to bed. I needed to decompress after surviving the most hectic opening week of school in a loooong time.
M. (pronouced M dot)
August 18th, 2010
9:57 am
Wednesday
“When you are under a tremendous amount of pressure, do you let your date know or do you pretend it’s all good until the date is over?”
There is pressure all around but everyone is adults and we have to not use these things as excuses to fly off the handle. When there is alot of pressure, we usually just have to readjust our priorities. Also alot of stress is usually a good indication that we are trying to do to much and also venturing out of our lane.
“Should you take a break from dating until you get some sense of normalcy back in your work life?”
You either should take a break or they will take a break from you. Dating should be fun not a therapy session. Also ladies, Guys like peace; therefore if you two are dating and its a miserable mess, it wont be to long before he charges you to the game anyway. I was dealing with a woman who was really stressed at work and at first I tried to be supportive, but after a while there was nothing I can do and I wasnt hearing from her so I had to cut her loose.
Also a quote I made up;
“Most people really arent that busy; they just have horrible time management skills”
blue
August 18th, 2010
10:03 am
@DD – LOL
@Princess@DD – i agree with having to find a way to de-stress. that is crucial to keeping any relationship alive, not just romantic, cause lets face it, friends will get tired of you stressing them out too! not much into the whole bubble bath thing, and my mom keeps buying me journals that i cant bring myself to write in. another thing that makes me one of the guys amongst our friends – a day at the gun range or a video game where i can blow things up works wonders for me
kimmie
August 18th, 2010
10:03 am
Good morning lovely persons!
I am blessed to have a pretty wonderful job right now. So even when its “stressed” it’s really not, just busy at times like any other business. When you are doing something you actually like, busy times can be what I would call “good stress”. I actually perform better under pressure, always have, even in college. I was the “cram queeen” though I wouldn’t recommend such bad study habits to anyone. I knew when I could pull it off and when I had to plan better. Same as in the work world now.
Now guess what my biggest work-related stress is? MY COMMUTE! Somedays I actually want to cry. I have pulled off and just gone to the movies on a few occasions. Or stopped and gone shopping. Some days it just gets to be too much. Even music, radio shows or books on cd’s don’t help sometimes. That’s when I have to count my blessings and be thankful I have a job that is worth such a sacrifice. If it was convienient I would ride the train, but I am a manager and need my car sometimes during the day. If there was a helicopter I could take from College Park to Alpharetta, I would pay the price to ride it M-F!
SexyCool
August 18th, 2010
10:05 am
I would only advocate taking a break from dating (or at least putting it on the back burner) if there was no one that you were particularly interested in.
If you have begun seeing someone who peaks your interest enough to explore past a casual dating relationship, you should work to find a balance.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
10:09 am
Blue, I have empty journals around too i end up using em as not pads or for to do lists LOL. As for the bubble bath, there is just something relaxing about that hot water relaxing your muscles (esp when your so is working 6 days a week 12 to 14 hr days at the same time as your busy season at work
) I have always wanted to visit the gun range! It’s on my bucket list
Raqi
August 18th, 2010
10:11 am
Yes, it is.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
10:12 am
Raqi
for the better or for the worse?
kimmie
August 18th, 2010
10:12 am
SCool – You are right, if the relationship means anything to you, you will work to find a balance.
Right now my SO is working on a huge project that is requiring 10 hour days plus weekends. It is a challenge, but only for a few more weeks. He destresses by working out, chilling with me with some wine & a good movie or playing video games with his kids. We’ve gone thru these crazy “projects” before. And you have to find a way to destress yourself cause these jobs DO NOT CARE. They are all about getting the work done. It was one case he was working on where the managing partner said he didn’t even care if you had kids. You better get your family or a neighbor to take care of them!
Trevor0529
August 18th, 2010
10:13 am
Good Morning,
Every day work does not stress me out. I love what I do. Its the people I work with who can’t handle their own stress and decide to share their stress with me is what I don’t care for.
The only thing that stresses me out now is school and trying to find some semblence of a social life has been challenging.
Another good way to relieve stress is laughter. Find your favorite comedy show or movie and just laugh.
Kym
August 18th, 2010
10:14 am
Good Morning All,
When I am stressed out or under deadlines..I tune out everything else and focus on making that deadline. My work doesn’t come home with me alot..but my job is pretty stressful..with no sign of really letting up. I believe we all know our limitations so Wisey if you know that you are not able to focus on dating while dealing with work pressures..then I say don’t subject someone to your wackiness until you are able to come back to the middle. BUT that doesn’t mean you get a pass on taking care of yourself..finding a outlet for the stress is a great idea..and you can do that without “being around people”. Take some me time..if you enjoy reading- pick a funny book or watch a funny movie. Laughter is a great stress reliever.
kimmie
August 18th, 2010
10:14 am
If you are in a relationship, how you and your partner handle job stress is a good indicator of how they will handle other stresses that are sure to come in life. If the world comes to an end because THEY are under stress but they can’t seem to work with YOU when you have to deal with it, take note.
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
10:14 am
Good morning!
“I really don’t feel like being around people right now. I will let you know when I am.” I don’t think anyone would take kindly to receiving a text like this. They would probably read it 2-3x getting pissed with each reading. Then, mumble “hell, you don’t have to worry about letting me know when you’re ready.” You have effectively moved your ownself into a different category in their mind.
I’m not stressed often, but when stressed it’s rarely over work. I turn the music on, light some candles and grab a glass of wine. I will sit still for about 30 mins. before doing whatever needs to be done for the rest of the evening. It’s rare I bring work home w/me (mental work, that is).
I don’t get bogged down with traffic either. As long as I have my music, I good to go!
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
10:16 am
YESSHEISCUTE @9:42
Funny you should say that….I have a current “friend” that has that approach, and whenever she calls, I am ALWAY down, and we Put in work when she does, but the truth is, its never really all that satisfying….We get off, But we could have played one on one and gotten to the same place.
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
10:16 am
I’m good to go…
For Real (I guess I shouldn't ate those eggs)
August 18th, 2010
10:23 am
Wise: “When you are under a tremendous amount of pressure, do you let your date know or do you pretend it’s all good until the date is over?” – This is the problem with letting your emotions control you. Why would a dude stay interested in a chick that can’t control job related stress? If a chick can’t control the stress at work how can she handle a dude in a relationship on top of her job?
Tips to handle stress at work when you can’t drink:
1. Knock one off before every meeting and DO NOT wash your hand, then make sure you shakkkkk.. sorry about that sticky keyboard anyway…. then you shake everyones hand.
Mrs. Tazzee
August 18th, 2010
10:24 am
For me there’s a difference between being stressed at work and working long hours. When it’s just a busy, stressful day and I get to leave at a decent hour – I leave it at work, no problem. It does not affect my love life.
Long hours definitely affect my love life, if I’m gone from the house for 12+ hours it cuts into our time. I find myself having to choose between QT with the hubby, working out and sleep. Most times sleep is what suffers and after so many days of that, I can get cranky.
Now when I have a 12+ hour day at the job AND it’s stressful then I want to go home and just get in the bed and try again the next day. When I work late, my commute is shorter so the 15 minute ride home may not be enough time to ’shake it off’ and get in wife mode.
The good part about it is, when I want to just get in bed – I want to just get in bed and cuddle up with my hubby. He likes that.
blue
August 18th, 2010
10:25 am
@Princess – yep, they end up as my note pads when on important calls, lol. not what mom intended but oh well, they sure are pretty tho!
look when i load my own weapon and empty it smooth, shoot a better target than they do…hilarious!
first tried the gun range about 4-5 years ago, was a bit nervous at first, but once i fired the first shot, its been smooth sailing. its addictive, so set your budget b4 you go in. b4 you know it you’ll have spent a fortune in ammo and paper targets, lol. one of the things i love most tho is watching the guys give me that “yeah right” look, cause ive got my nails and all done, and then get the
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
10:26 am
I had a candlelight bubble bath with a glass of wine and some soft music
@PK, you hit the nail on the head…we need to make an addendum to the list and add that one on, and if you don’t like wine put some kool-aid in the wine glass…LOL. That is a good one!!!!!
blue
August 18th, 2010
10:26 am
@kimmie – ouch. good to keep in mind that most employers dont care what their demands do to you as a person or to your personal life. once when mr.blue was still active duty, they kept putting him on 24 hour duty back to back, did 4 24 hours shifts in 6 days. when he complained to CO that he wasnt getting to see his family, CO says “if you were meant to have a wife or kids, we would have issued them to you in supply. Tough sh!t”.
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
10:31 am
@blue I love the gun range…I will blow off some steam there in a heart beat. Boy I used to go a lot, but the $$$ I was spending on bullets was crazy.
@M. dot you damn right on your quote
Also a quote I made up;
“Most people really arent that busy; they just have horrible time management skills”
@Trevor you are dead on the money loving what you do and finding something to laugh about.
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
10:33 am
@kimmie I knew a manager that used to tell his associates that he hired them and not their kids, so he did not want to hear that Betty is sick, or little Johnny has a cold.
As for your commute, does your job offers flex time? I know this helps a lot when you don’t have to worry about “clocking in” at 8 o’clock on the dot.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
10:34 am
Blue
I tell my co-workers all the time don’t “kill” yourself for a job or neglect your family because if and when something happens to you someone else will be sitting at that “desk/post” and all they are going to do is bring your family a bucket of chicken and send a flower and keep on moving.
blue
August 18th, 2010
10:34 am
@Trevor – humor is a MUST. my fam knows a day when they cant get a joke or a laugh out of me, is a dark day indeed. i find sometimes making myself laugh (at appropriate times of course, lol) even when im not exactly feeling it, helps improve my mood. i guess scientists would say something about it releasing endorphines or something, lol…..
kimmie
August 18th, 2010
10:34 am
blue – See what I mean? And it doesn’t matter the industry either. I remember Lela Rochon talking about that when she had to do a movie and was pregnant. She said those directors really didn’t care if you were pregnant or not, they had a movie to make.
kimmie
August 18th, 2010
10:38 am
DD – Yes we have flex time and since I’m a manager I have a lot of flexibility, so I don’t have to worry about punching a clock. And the morning is okay really. It’s mainly the evening that I have issue with.
blue
August 18th, 2010
10:48 am
@DD – ^5, and they sure will keep just adding boxes on for you too, “how are those .45s doing? you need another box? no problem!” try to check out and go
at the bill.
@Princess – d@mn, not even a whole bouquet, A flower….is it at least good chicken?
@kimmie – yeah, there are very few employers, ime anyway, that treat their employees as people and not property. with that principal in mind, the employEE has to learn to seperate work from the rest of their life. will admit tho, for workaholics like me, can at times be easier said than done
It's me....lurker
August 18th, 2010
10:53 am
What goes does it for a person to shut down one part of life because of another area or part? IMO, growth comes from learning to do or sustain in areas that are not comfortable. So you had a stressful day and a hot date lined up for the night. Deal with it, shake it off. Who wants to deal with or wait for someone to come of whatever funk their in.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
10:54 am
Blue LMBO maybe I should say a “plant”, and the chicken is probably from Wally or Churchs
When my uncle passed i was like if these people bring one mo box of churchs chicken through that dooor!!!!!!
Now when my dad passed, those old school women was bringing us homemade meals and cakes etc…, True story this one lady I was always fussin at about this and taking care of home, my office asked her what did they think the office should bring, she told em please don’t get her any chicken how bout a honey baked ham.
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
10:55 am
@Blue yes, that happened to me when I was in there shooting up the place, and I switched guns (another box of bullets). I was like whoa at the checkout.
It's me....lurker
August 18th, 2010
10:55 am
what good does it and come out of whatever funk they’re in…is what I meant
SexyCool
August 18th, 2010
10:58 am
I just donated a shtload of empty journals to Goodwill. Except this especially cute one that I just got for my birthday last year.
SexyCool
August 18th, 2010
11:00 am
Rock – I like the idea of using them for to do lists. Thanks!
It's me....lurker
August 18th, 2010
11:02 am
My job is not stressful per se but the stress of being virtual makes me accountable for everything at all times for all that I do or touch. I have much CYA going on.
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:06 am
PK/blue you two just made you look in the rearview mirror. When my daddy died I got tired of folks bringing chicken, pound cake and drinks. Some folks even brought that Big K “cola” LOL, but I like the fruity BK drinks just not the cola.
I always give money for the most part and if it is someone close I will make a pan of lasange, salad and bread (that is only for folks that I have cooked for at my house before).
blue
August 18th, 2010
11:07 am
@Princess – yeah, “plant” works better. when you said a flower, i pictured literally A flower, for some reason a sunflower, half dead at that, kinda falling over when you try to hand it to someone….wilted! thats the word, wilted…with that mental pic i was just like D@MN….lol, i cant imagine bringing Churchs chicken, in the box, to a funeral. glad that lady stood up for you, hate for you to start throwing those Giant Churchs wings at people…
@DD – exactly. happens every time i go in there.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
11:09 am
Dirty D, everything that was left the day of the Funeral, My mom had them take to the church to be served along with the meal the church had prepared. All we kept was the honeybaked ham and turkey.
My best friends mom had made ME a pan of lasagna fresh from the oven and the extended family got made cause i wouldnt’ cut it. I was like oh well cause you aint gettin any of this here lasagna no deal, its plenty chicken in the oven LOL.
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:09 am
blue
August 18th, 2010
10:25 am
@Princess – yep, they end up as my note pads when on important calls, lol. not what mom intended but oh well, they sure are pretty tho
Blue you deserve credit for this one! Excellent idea!
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:14 am
@PK,
I found fried chicken, Publix cakes and pound cakes repulsive for a long time. The few times I have done the salad, garlic bread and lasange for the family it was well received. I usually say I am bringing dinner over, and it “aint” no chicken. One time I added a gallon of chick-fil-a lemonade…I just try to get outside the box, because I know how I felt with all of that chicken.
You were wrong for not cutting that lasange, tho…LOL
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
11:14 am
I always give money for the most part
Dirty D, I am the paper products queen, I usually take tissue, paper towels, paper plates, napkins etc…..
Cause with all those folks in and out you will definately need those items and they don’t spoil.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
11:16 am
You were wrong for not cutting that lasange, tho…LOL
Dirty D, maybe i should explain lol, My “2nd momma” makes THE Best lasagna and she only makes it twice a year, christmas and one other time of her choosing. So for her to add a 3rd time just for me no way was i sharing with those ungrateful biddy’s!!
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
11:16 am
oh and I don’t mean my mom and sister i mean the cousins uncles etc….
Fresh-----JAM ON IT!
August 18th, 2010
11:16 am
Good morning everyone,
bringing work home use to be a major problem for me, but once I started leaving work at work, my whole household happy meter went sky high. Now when I get home I kiss the wife hug my daughters and body slam my son—-life is great!!!!
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
11:21 am
Dirty D all this talk of chicken got me wanting some Folks!
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:24 am
@PK you are right on the paper products…that is smart! As for the lasange, I will rescind on my statement….you were right! Now I want some lasange, first you had me wanting a couple crispy,hot, cajun spiced wings from Pop-eyes.
@Fresh—Jam on it! It sounds like you found a happy medium!
blue
August 18th, 2010
11:24 am
@DD – thanks!!
@Princess – keep your lasagna! its funny to watch the vultures hover tho, lol.
had the same happen when my uncle passed years ago. i made a carrot cake, which has become legendary in my fam and friends circle. and i really only make it twice a year or so, Xmas and Thanksgiving, occasionally by special request. made it for the Wake, which we had at my aunts. when i brought the cake in, She smuggled it out and stashed it in her car. said all the folks who’d brought store brand food didnt deserve it, lol
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:26 am
Great minds think alike ….I didn’t see your 11:21 when I wrote my 11:24….add some fried green tomatoes if you go.
I guess our Leo-birthday girl is still at the part-tay, where is Lady?
Raqi
August 18th, 2010
11:28 am
SexyC, huh?
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:32 am
@Blue, No problem I guess it is the Professor in me that believes in giving credit to the author, plagiarism is not allowed. And, girlllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll you didn’t tell us about this here carrot cake (said in my Wendy William’s voice). I love that cake…blue over there baking twice a year. Your aunt is funny talking about store brought food, she was looking for an excuse. LOL
Melo
August 18th, 2010
11:35 am
Having to punch the clock used to be stressful,especially with all these crazy Atl drivers.
The best way to minimize stress is to do the job,collaborate and/or confront the issue.
A lot of folks get stressed coz they are in jobs for which they fudged their resumes.
Yeah, I can understand u being stressed, DIMWIT Dundee head!!!!
LOL
Raqi
August 18th, 2010
11:41 am
They are all about getting the work done
Yeah and when the job kills you most of them won’t even bother to show up for the funeral.
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:41 am
Melo you said it right about folks lying on their resume. I have folks to answer some pre-interview questions in writing…most of them will google copy/paste, and when I ask them the same questions on the interview they are looking like
folks can be really dimwits as you stated.
Raqi
August 18th, 2010
11:42 am
PrincessN, right now? A little of both.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
11:47 am
She smuggled it out and stashed it in her car. I used to do this with sweet potaoto pie so I could take back to college, I wld hide it in the deep frezer
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
11:48 am
Good Day Beautiful People!!!!!
me2
August 18th, 2010
11:48 am
@Kimme, Ouch, I commute from marietta to alpharetta so I feel your pain girl, its not so bad in the morning but at 5:00 its dreadful. WOW U have to go all the way to College Park
Mo (aka Moeisha) - officially employed again
August 18th, 2010
11:51 am
Morning All!
Raqi – I totally agree with your 11:41! I remember I had a job once where my trainer told my class not to allow the company to ’scare’ us into over doing it. Her exact words “if you die in here, they will roll you out and put another body in your seat without thinking about it.”
As Im sure someone has already stated, you have to find a balance and learn to leave work at work.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
11:53 am
Raqi, how so? I know u are a SAHM now so I’m curious how that is affectin the love life
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:53 am
@Lady-Leo-par-tay animal, I had put the word out that you were still kicking it and was hung over. My bad…
Beautiful
August 18th, 2010
11:54 am
gmorn ev1!
For Real (I guess I shouldn't ate those eggs)
August 18th, 2010
11:56 am
Kym and PG news break:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/glenn-sacks/if-men-got-pregnant-would_b_214494.html
Sassy Me...Living Life :-)
August 18th, 2010
11:57 am
I used to do this with sweet potaoto pie so I could take back to college, I wld hide it in the deep frezer
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
12:00 pm
that is accurate sistah!!!!! I had a GREAT time each day!!!! I am in slow motion so pardon me! lol
East Point's Own
August 18th, 2010
12:03 pm
work stays at work… if I need to stay at work 10-12 hours to get it done I will… but I never take work home, physically or mentally. Once I walk out the door my mind is free from whatever job related responsibilities I may have.
http://zanderedward.com
Beautiful
August 18th, 2010
12:04 pm
@For Real . . . long time no read! how are you? have a blessfilled day bloggers. :~)
East Point's Own
August 18th, 2010
12:04 pm
And….. if you are dating someone shouldn’t their presence help relieve your stress? I mean should your mate/date lift your spirits just by being there???
http://hispointofview.com
blue
August 18th, 2010
12:07 pm
@DD – plagarism,
. carrot cakes my thing. brought it to work once, now i have folks always asking me about cake. i agree, aunt was looking for an excuse. fam was maadddd at her later when they found out she had it. she got me last year too. she was diagnosed with breast cancer right b4 my dad came down to visit. she says “tell your daughter i have cancer. i want cake”. i sure enuf was down here trying to figure how to pack it to make the trip back home! lol
@Princess – hiding pie. for shame….
@Lady – heyyyy there. welcome back, lol
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
12:10 pm
Not to put a bummer on things, but since we’re talking about stress and work. A lovely older woman that I’ve worked with for 14 years passed away Friday. She was 69, had contractors in her home fixing things. When they left, they thought she was sleeping and didn’t want to wake her. She was in her recliner. When they came back Saturday to finish the work, they couldn’t get in. Neighbor next door opened the door. She was still in the recliner with remote control in her hand dead from a heart attack. Her job was stressful. She beat cancer years ago w/o ever missing a day of work. She was strong and admired by many. She doesn’t have to stress about anything anymore.
You’re right, they will roll you up and put anohter in your seat with the quickness. I can say that won’t happen to her seat any time soon. It will remain vacant for a long time. These will be some big shoes to fill!
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
12:11 pm
taking time for self through stressful times are key…..even backing away from girfriends too…..just revamping your world with dealing with that issue head on with no time frames…….taking care of home and sanity is key and when it isn’t in tact everyone catches the line of fire and that’s unfair….its ok to step away and come back whenever you are ready……your true friends will still be there and your intrest will either wait it out with patience or move on gracefully……
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
12:12 pm
hey blue how are you chica!?!
Dan - simply...
August 18th, 2010
12:14 pm
Everytime it gets stressful on my job (and/or a co-worker starts losing it) I remind myself that this job isn’t going to kill me.
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
12:15 pm
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
12:10 pm
Hey Leggs… You feeling better today???
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
12:19 pm
@Blue I love carrot cakes especially with a cup of coffee…I just love cake to be honest. How is your aunt doing now? She sounds like she is a hoot, my type of lady!
@lady I concur on that 12:11 for me being organized at home helps. If I am already stressing looking for my purse, car keys, the other shoe etc makes ish worst. Organization is also key for me I should have added that to my list.
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
12:22 pm
respecting personal space and boundaries are essential for clear functioning with self and others……a thought…..
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
12:22 pm
@Simple Man ~ yes, I am. Thanks for asking. RR, quietness and chicken noodle soup surely helps in soothing minor stomach aches!
Luvbug
August 18th, 2010
12:22 pm
I don’t remember work affecting any of past relationships, even in my most stressful job…BUT, but, but…I can see how it could in some situations. Some jobs/careers don’t allow for a family or life…especially in the entry level phase.
Nowadays, some are working several jobs or are entrapped by an employer getting over on the bad economy. Not every situation is a matter of personal choice or time management. I’m blessed to not be in the herd (at least so far), but I can see why crime is up and do sympathize with the down trodden.
Now if you’re just one of those folks who can’t say no…to work, to negativity, to whatever. You may want to find out why, work on evaluating what’s more important to you and streamline the lesser. You identify what you care about by identifying what you choose to volunteer most of your energy on (at least that’s what I’ve heard). If you’re honest and want to change it, you will.
Jamie
August 18th, 2010
12:26 pm
I wonder if this really works? http://www.google.com/#@
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
12:27 pm
what you listed dd is just an indicator that other stuff is going on to make minor stuff seem huge….we can’t ignore our personal pink elephants….dealing with conflict is tough and I even avoid my own until i can’t any more but really it affects everyone……the answer lies within our soul….we know what we need to address and when you throw in social activites on top of work on top of demands from every where it gets ugly……..time becomes an unkown and patiences are gone……you are burned out and cranky etc…….
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
12:29 pm
Damn Lady where do we send our co-payment? You just gave the blog some real knowledge look at you, you went str8 therapist on us! ^5
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
12:31 pm
Whats for lunch????
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
12:32 pm
girl stop off to grade some papers….geesh as much as I hate the lottery this sistah needs to play!
peace folks
Dan - simply...
August 18th, 2010
12:33 pm
There’s always this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A7lfruSDaEc&feature=fvst
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
12:35 pm
@Lady email me your numbers…I’ll play them and we divide the winnings. The old folks used to say, “The people that don’t play numbers come.”
@Simple man—PK and blue started with this fried chicken and lasange. I know I am not getting any lasange, so I think I will put my veggies to the side and grab me some Popeyes…just for today.
Luvbug
August 18th, 2010
12:37 pm
Yeah and when the job kills you most of them won’t even bother to show up for the funeral.
Raqi- You’ve got that right! You’re just ‘that guy who worked himself to death’.
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
12:39 pm
dd lmbao @ u! you know i will spend the hardest!!!!
i want my X5 that’s all!
Luvbug
August 18th, 2010
12:39 pm
Raqi- Actually, I’d like to add…it’s the saddest when the person falls (or suffers a paralyzing stroke or something) just after or prior to retiring.
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
12:41 pm
DD @ 12:35 Went downstairs and got a fruit bowl from the cafe in the lobby….It won’t be nearly as good as your Popeyes, But I gotta make sure I stay fine in case I happen to run into Leggs!!!
blue
August 18th, 2010
12:42 pm
@Lady – im doing alright over here. Got a good feeling about this house we’re seeing today…keep your fingers crossed!
@DD – i make mine with raisins and cream cheese icing. not nuts or coconut tho. my aunts doing well, thanx. she’s in remission now and is in good spirits. shes the one in the fam that when she sees something of yours that she likes she walks up, pinches you and says “that looks mine-ish” lol.
we can’t ignore our personal pink elephants… – feeling awkward as i try to ignore my personal pink elephants – thanXs a lot Lady!!! lol
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
12:48 pm
@Simple Man ~ please, eat a little more!
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
12:52 pm
Leggs, You make this way too easy!!! LOL And for the record, I promise I will!!! :>
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
12:56 pm
blue funny lol we all ignore them but they get larger and become huge……bust it and make it small in your own time……in the meantime the wisdom is knowing to step back and chill…..
fingers are cross for you chica!
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
12:58 pm
@Simple Man ~ of course you will. Great!
MELO
August 18th, 2010
1:01 pm
@Leggs??
u want Simple to eat more so his stamina can last longer??
u are one energized lady!
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
1:12 pm
@Melo ~ one of the main reason to eat is remain energized. Yes indeed, buddy!
MELO
August 18th, 2010
1:15 pm
Howz the runny tummy Leggs??
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
1:15 pm
@Simple man when you are as fine as me a little popeyes doesn’t even matter…LOL
@Lady send those numbers…you can buy an X5, X6, X7, X8….you get the point and a Challenger!
@blue–I am loving your aunt, this tickled me. she walks up, pinches you and says “that looks mine-ish” lol.
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
1:18 pm
dd you made me LOL!!!!!!!!! you know my challenger is 1st honey!!!!! lol
Purple Rain
August 18th, 2010
1:19 pm
Hello
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
1:19 pm
@Melo ~ tummy much better. I’ve managed to not visit the throne as much!
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
1:23 pm
@PR ~ hello. Hmmmm, I’m liking this pic of you with your new mustache! Here’s a
for you!
Woody
August 18th, 2010
1:25 pm
1) if you’re unhappy with your job, take wing and find work elsewhere
2) it’s just a job
3) don’t take yourself too seriously
4) maybe manage your time?
5) move to a different, cheaper country where you can afford a life a leisure, and then think about your life in the States
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
1:28 pm
Ok on the hiding pie thing, my aunt always brings like 3 or 4 so nobody except my momma and aunt even knew one was missing
Bev
August 18th, 2010
1:28 pm
In the end, it’s the quality of our relationships that matter most! We put too much of any emphasis on working ourselves to death here in the U.S. It’s all about balance! Put in your 40 hours and be done with it! It takes work to live, but live is about living! Spending quality time with those whom matter most is the most important thing!
With technology, it’s so hard to unwind from the stress! But sometimes you’ve just got to LEAVE WORK AT WORK! Don’t feel an ounce of guilt! You deserve to live life and at times just be! Even if it involves doing absolutely nothing for a day!
Nurture yourself! After all, you’ve earned it!
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
1:30 pm
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
1:12 pm
I am really diggin’ myself some Leggs !!!
MELO
August 18th, 2010
1:31 pm
@Leggs??
u sure its something u ate causing this and there is no vomiting involved??
Coz if there is vomiting involved,u may need help with Walmart pampers and baby supplies,so u just let Simple Man come on board and let him help u out with crib sponsorship,pampers,wipes etc but kick him to the curb when baby comes.
That fraud will be too difficult to hide when he realies,this baby’s head and nose are waay too big to be his baby!
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
1:33 pm
Here is what my guys say about stress at work
“give em 8 and hit the gate”
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
1:37 pm
hey pk!!!
MELO
August 18th, 2010
1:37 pm
We put too much of any emphasis on working ourselves to death here in the U.S.
@Bev??
because retiring poor on social security alone is miserable,unless u want to work in kroger and publix at 85 years of age.
Life in the states is expensive.Period!
$bills,$bills,$bills,$bills,$bills,
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
1:37 pm
Melo, I have not been a sucker in a while, but if Leggs is looking for a part time sponsor…..
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
1:39 pm
( In my best Jangle leg voice) I’ss dat baby pappy!!!! LOL
Purple Rain
August 18th, 2010
1:40 pm
Leggs, Thank You
MELO
August 18th, 2010
1:43 pm
http://www.ajc.com/business/flight-attendant-takes-baby-593953.html
mum has anger management issues….
13 months baby??
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
1:43 pm
balance is key…..
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
1:48 pm
@Melo ~ crazy butt! No upchucking involved. Thank you. I hope I’m still a long ways away from Walmart Pampers. But, thanks for your concern.
@Simple Man ~ I like reading you too!
DreamsMaterialize
August 18th, 2010
1:50 pm
Double D’s I see you came in with the work/life balance dossier. You gon’ start billing the ajc hourly or just have them put you on retainer? lol
Lady Is the light hurting your eyes today? lol I hope you had the birthday you deserve.
Leggs I hope you get better fast.
Princess Next time you take that candle-lit hot bath, let me replace that wine with a nice port or almond cream sherry. you can thank me in advance.
Luvbug You say some well-thought, rational responses. why aren’t you dating again?
blue If you weren’t married…
Dirty Diana
August 18th, 2010
1:52 pm
This Popeyes hit the spot…I am sitting here like whoa! The fried sweet potato pie is not bad either.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
1:53 pm
Dreams
that sounds divine…….
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
1:54 pm
Hey Lady!
blue
August 18th, 2010
1:54 pm
back from lunch, what are doing now? hooking up Leggs and Simple Man?
@Lady – thanks.
@DD- she’s a trip. wish sometimes we lived closer, but hey, i guess it makes the visits even more fun. good aunt story – she’d just got divorced when they came out with the blue m&ms. her son had like a mayo size jar in his room, just collecting blue m&ms. he and his sister go to spend the weekend with dad at his new place (tiny hole of an apartment lol) and aunt eats the whole frickin jar of m&ms. when they come home, he starts yelling about them, accuses aunt, who swears she didnt do it. only prob, after eating like a mayo size jar of em, her fingers and lips started to tint blue. all we could do was laugh, she couldnt even keep a straight face while pleading innocence!
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
1:55 pm
thanks dreamsM!!! Its one for the records!!! I enjoyed it! Now ready to Jam to Kem, Anthony, Jahiem, and Raheem on Friday!!!!!! WOOHOO!!!!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
August 18th, 2010
1:55 pm
Dreams – okay you know when you start talking about ports and almond sherry I have to pop back in!
Do tell, i may need some of that myself!
MELO
August 18th, 2010
1:59 pm
I wonder where SlimOne is today….I was looking forward to some updates.
Maybe that man of hers put that cootie on in-house lock down today…..that could be good news and very encouraging!
Seven years and Diva still has no blog marriage to her credit?? I wonder where she ranks on dating blogs success rates.
Lots of shuffling,dranks,one niters etc but no long term takers on blog chics…some wrong with blog chics cootey….i think..why are the dudes not buying the cows??
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
2:01 pm
wow melo! lol as i smh! lol
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
2:03 pm
MELO, Give us a minute and let me where Leggs’ head is…..:)
Dirty Diana
August 18th, 2010
2:05 pm
DreamsM. you know what when I read my post and checked all of my accounts PayPal included I reported my own comment! You know I am all about the cash, and I come on here to act a fool, and not a scholar.
@Melo that 1:59 was funny as hell. I will tell you this my stuff is extra nice, there is nothing wrong here.
Blue she was wrong for that one…Lol she is a mess
Dirty Diana
August 18th, 2010
2:06 pm
Melo, tell us a story, please.
boo
August 18th, 2010
2:07 pm
everyone should quit workin’ for the man, it will be anarchy….by the way-what’s the point, the World is ending 2012, be there or be square….
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
2:08 pm
Lady, let me get in on the Lottery with you!!
About 3 weeks before my bday my bday fell in the cash three 727, i was like awww i shoulda played today
Dirty Diana
August 18th, 2010
2:11 pm
PK, Lady need to send me the numbers. Y’all can have the cash 3 I am not trying to divide a $1 straight/box, but I will play Mega Millions and Powerball. The odds are against us, but Lady J might be Lady Luck if she tell me the right numbers.
Dirty Diana
August 18th, 2010
2:13 pm
Pk, you should play 2012 on cash 4…LOL
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
2:13 pm
Dirty D
I will take cash 3 to myself LOL! I don’t mind dividing Mega Millions and Powerball though
First number is
23
blue
August 18th, 2010
2:16 pm
@Dreams – taking that as a compliment, ladies luuvvv compliments
@Melo – alrightee then, lol
@DD – i know, shes my favorite aunt, and yes, thats how she signs all her emails “your favorite aunt”
Dirty Diana
August 18th, 2010
2:16 pm
Gotcha! Now email the rest of the numbers we don’t need the blog and all the lurkers hitting too, somebody needs to hold it down while I skinny dip in Bora bora.
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
2:18 pm
8 17 79 2 30 5 7 22 1
ummmmm make it happen! lol
MELO
August 18th, 2010
2:18 pm
@DD..Ill think of one.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
2:19 pm
Dirty D I was thinking the same thing!!
it would be a mess if we playfully put out some numbers and didn’t think about it anymore and they actually “fell” I would be .38 hot
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
2:19 pm
dd you are off the chain! lol
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
2:19 pm
1 8 9 6…..
Luvbug
August 18th, 2010
2:27 pm
Luvbug You say some well-thought, rational responses. why aren’t you dating again?
Thanks. My usual response to that question, when asked in person, is, “I don’t know”…that’s usually followed by me sitting through a longwinded guess (which I’ve never requested).
On this blog, I think it’s because I’m diseased, ugly, loose and/or masculine. LOL
It I tried hard enough, I could probably give a good guess. So far, “I don’t know”…mainly because I don’t. LOL
Luvbug
August 18th, 2010
2:31 pm
Dreams – Oh, and I forgot the obvious (as posted by MELO)…something is wrong with my cootey. LOL
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
2:33 pm
@PK you are right we would be hot, so to keep us from being pissed we will void all numbers on here….you know we have plenty of number players and number runners on this blog.
@Lady we are going to have to void your numbers!
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
2:34 pm
lol!
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
2:35 pm
PK I can tell you play the numbers you are using lingo “fell” and you know how to put them together…Lady talking about 79…LOL I guess we will have to add a one or a zero to it for cash-3. Do you play much? I bet you can do a “rundown.”
Lord Velonese
August 18th, 2010
2:37 pm
There is no such thing as normalcy for women. You’re all nuttier then squirrel poop, need I say more…
In any case love my job, great perks.
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
2:37 pm
lol i am done!
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
2:37 pm
Dirty D
I actually don’t play. My granny used to play back before lottery, when there was a “numbers house” and i’d be along for the ride, not to mention I hear folks all the time say “____ fell in the cash 3/cash 4″
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
2:39 pm
nuttier then squirrel poop,
now that was funny
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 18th, 2010
2:40 pm
@Lady Don’t be done yet…we are starting a blog lotto pool. PK is down we are deciding on which game to play…you are our good luck charm since you don’t play.
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 18th, 2010
2:40 pm
*games*
blue
August 18th, 2010
2:41 pm
nuttier than squirrel poop…thats new
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
2:41 pm
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
2:18 pm
8 17 79 2 30 5 7 22 1
Wow!!! When did the lottery start playing the CASH 9??? LOL
MELO
August 18th, 2010
2:42 pm
something is wrong with my cootey
@Luvbug??
that would be the case if u were allowing dudes to slip in and out and then they move on.
But U dont do that so there has to be another reason.
My guess is u are too pre-occupied with urself(u dont even know it) and ur face and demenor does not give the dude, prospecting for chics, the confidence that they can approach u without being shot down.
U gotta train urself to smile a lot(even when u not talking to nobody) and ease up on ur facial contortions..u know that sublime “thirsty” look Ared was talking about yesterday..that tells a dude to “come over here”..in Ared”s words…without also trying too hard,as if u’re a hoe.
There are chics out there that are so laid back on the face and eyes plus smile and easy to talk to that even if they were to deny a guy the digits,a guy will still walk away with his tail up and his swagger still in high definition!
Try that and let me know how it works.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
2:47 pm
When did the lottery start playing the CASH 9
Simple man, further proof that Lady doesn’t play the “lotto”
Raqi...Waiting for Ambien Spell
August 18th, 2010
2:47 pm
Leggs, you are sick? What was wrong?
Raqi...Waiting for Ambien Spell
August 18th, 2010
2:48 pm
PrincessN, right now I am getting no love from the baby girl. She hates me and it’s probably because she and I are together all day every day. She is full of attitude and today I am just not wanting to deal with it. No, it seems I cannot live with myself.
As for the love between the hubby and I, it is good. Not having to rush in every day making dinner and trying to get things done around the house I am a lot more relaxed and have more time to spend with the marido. And then I am also available to run some errands and take care of stuff for him that pertains to his business. This helps him out a lot making him less stressed when he gets home.
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
2:51 pm
simple man i truly don’t play
pk you are right
dd i am done i showed my lack of skills and the blog is bout to go IN! lmbao!
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
2:52 pm
people in my way getting gas trying to play work my damn nerves too…it should be a separte store all together hot mess don’t get me started and the beyond poor folks that play…..anyway my lottery vent! ha!
Luvbug
August 18th, 2010
2:52 pm
Melo – That’s a decent guess, seeing as how only a few days ago a close guy friend told me that I’m not approachable.
I wouldn’t feel comfortable walking around like a high hippy. What’s plan B??
MELO
August 18th, 2010
2:52 pm
@Stephanie Miller is lesbian….I was so dissappointed to hear that yesterday.
such a pretty face..such lovely cootie..going to waste really??
I hope Michelle Bernard aint lesbo as well….
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
2:53 pm
right now I am getting no love from the baby girl. She hates me and it’s probably because she and I are together all day every day.
@ Raqi, I could see how that’s possible, during the long breaks when she is out of school and I am off work (thanksgiving, spring break, christmas break) by the end Lil Mama and I have had too much of each other and both enjoy a lil break
Raqi...Waiting for Ambien Spell
August 18th, 2010
2:56 pm
Luvbug, it’s sad but true. A guy that my husband went to school with literally worked himself to death. Mase and I went to the funeral and I was speaking with the wife later that day. She was absolutely devastated because only a couple of people from the man’s job came to the funeral. The boss and the other higher ups didn’t bother to show up or even send their condolences.
That’s why it bothers me so when people put more effort into their careers/jobs than they are willing to put in to maintain their relationships. Be it intimate, family or whatever. Most large corporations don’t care anything about you. And some of the small ones too. They want you to go the extra mile for them yet will not offer a sympathetic hand when you need it. And a lot them wouldn’t dare keep company with you outside of the work environment anyway. Yes I know the purpose of working is to bring in profit for the establishment by which you are employed as well financial gain for yourself. However, none of it is worth dying for.
I saw people that were afraid to take time off to go to the doctor where I used to work. First of all the man that owned that company was not a Scrooge like that. As long as you gave him honest days work and followed the policies of taking time off he was fine. That mindset was one they brought in from wherever they were coming from. I would tell them why kill yourself for any job when you can’t work after you are dead. Or too sick to work. It’s not worth it.
It’s a shame to allow a job to get all the best of you and you have nothing to offer to those you love and love you when you get home. Or those you want to get to loving and loving you.
Luvbug
August 18th, 2010
2:58 pm
Melo – Are you sure?? A lesbian-lesbian or stripper lesbian??
MELO
August 18th, 2010
3:01 pm
seeing as how only a few days ago a close guy friend told me that I’m not approachable.
@Luvbug??
See!!
to me,u read like a really decent gal..good head on u. But u sound like u so cognizant of the hustle and bustle and competition that characterizes female/guys dating out there and u dont wanna be patently participatory in it.
so, u laid back..u dont encourage dudes to hit on u..subliminaly..which is wrong!!
try to be chatty a lil bit more and get out and have fun.. by urself..in safe,well lit places ofcourse.
Its a game of odds.
The more u out,the more dudes see u and the more u get a chance to talk to different pple.
U going to thank me for this.Trust!
MELO
August 18th, 2010
3:02 pm
lesbian lesbian
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 18th, 2010
3:02 pm
@Lady I just did a remix on your numbers and I’ve made a selection of numbers for Fantasy 5, Mega Millions, and Powerball. So we are good, you know the blog is not going to go IN. LOL about those number players being in the way…the funny thing is most of the players probably had all day to play the numbers.
Raqi...Waiting for Ambien Spell
August 18th, 2010
3:04 pm
PrincessN, she is only a year old now. What am I going to do when she gets to be a teenager thinking she is just as grown as I am? LOL
I know what I am not going to do. I am not going to put up with that mess that Christina’s daughter put her through last night, kimmie. She was about to beat the crap out of that boy for no reason because that little girl allowed her to believe that boy hit her. Christina let her know that is a man she was hitting on. Two good punches and he could have taken her out. That little girl is off to a bad start already.
Luvbug
August 18th, 2010
3:04 pm
Raqi – I hear yah and wholeheartedly agree. You get one life and one body to live it in. Don’t let it go to waste trying to prove something to people who hardly know or care about you anyway.
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
3:05 pm
cool chica!!!! LOL
off to cheer practice!
peace!
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
3:05 pm
It’s a shame to allow a job to get all the best of you and you have nothing to offer to those you love and love you when you get home.
Amen!
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
3:07 pm
Lesbians are cool!!! :>
blue
August 18th, 2010
3:08 pm
ok, dude downstairs just says to me that he wants to play connect-the-dots with my freckles, see how far they go, and winks at me…
WTH .
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
3:13 pm
@Raqi ~ it seems that I had a little stomach bug yesterday and stayed home and close to the throne. I had to chuckle just a little bit abt others getting this bug and now I got it.
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
3:15 pm
blue @ 3:08
Was this out of the blue? ( excuse the pun) Is he now in jepardy of getting punched in the throat???
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
3:16 pm
I’m outta here, massive headache and need to round up some folks before they clock out.
Have a Wonderful Wacky Wednesday Evening!
Raqi...Waiting for Ambien Spell
August 18th, 2010
3:19 pm
We marry and/or commit to someone with the desire to have and share a life with them, yet we turn around and live for the job and everything but that person. How are we so skewed?
My little nemesis seems to have found her comfort spot lying on my chest now and is about a few seconds from being out and I feel my sleep aid kicking in so imma chat with you all sometime in the near future. You all have a good evening.
Raqi...Waiting for Ambien Spell
August 18th, 2010
3:20 pm
Leggs, I am glad THAT bug did not find it’s way to my house. LOL
It's me....lurker
August 18th, 2010
3:22 pm
Most large corporations don’t care anything about you. And some of the small ones too. They want you to go the extra mile for them yet will not offer a sympathetic hand when you need it. And a lot them wouldn’t dare keep company with you outside of the work environment anyway.
This is my first break today. I was hit from the left today and just know coming up for air.
blue
August 18th, 2010
3:25 pm
@Simple Man – the thought did cross my mind, lol…but was in the little shoppette thingy downstairs and seemed the guy who runs it was thinking the same thing…told dude he needed to get on, lol. never thought of freckles as a selling point but ok.
@Princess – Wacky Wednesday indeed. nite!
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 18th, 2010
3:26 pm
Blue/Simple…I was thinking the same thing…karate chop in the throat, or a kick in the peanuts…lol
Was this out of the blue? ( excuse the pun) Is he now in jepardy of getting punched in the throat???
blue
August 18th, 2010
3:29 pm
Simple/DD – somewhat out of the blue. i dont know him, but hve seen him b4. he was looking like he was gonna say something, so i just said hello, trying not to be the rude northerner for once. i say hello and see where it gets me?!! back to being rude, lol
kimmie
August 18th, 2010
3:31 pm
Raqi – Christina went slap off! I haven’t liked that Camille since I started watching it. She needed a good slap the first show! Christina is too nice to her.
Your earlier post about how some folks give their lives for these companies reminded me of this special I saw about 9/11 a year after the attacks. They were interviewing some of the survivors that worked for one of those big investment firms. One was talking about this sister that was the admin and she sat out front in the lobby on that floor at the circular desk. She was one of those by-the-book types, you know the ones that act like if you use an extra paper clip the money for it is coming out of their check? The ones with the “slave” mentality. Anyway, folks were coming out of the office to go to the stairwell cause the tower had been hit. They were telling her she better get out too. She was like “Mr. CEO didn’t say we could leave, so I’m staying”. Suit yourself, they told her. I don’t have to tell you that tower came down, with her sitting at that desk!
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
3:32 pm
I get crazy comments like that all the time…remember the dumb arse air licker. What’s said is most times these guys think they’re paying you a compliment!
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
3:35 pm
What’s sad….sheesh typing has been way off lately.
MELO
August 18th, 2010
3:39 pm
Im so so sleepy!!
Yaaaaaaaawn! This time of the day is such a drag for me…yaaaaawn!
Thats the disadvantage of having a younger wife.
Sometimes I really feel like im being used!
blue
August 18th, 2010
3:40 pm
@Leggs – the air licker? wth? and agreed, they do seem to think they’re making your day…
Luvbug
August 18th, 2010
3:42 pm
u dont encourage dudes to hit on u..subliminaly..which is wrong!!
That’s not completely true. I’m open with friends of friends or with people I have seen a few times (even if it’s just in passing), but following through with a guy I met on the street would be a new venture for me.
I get your grand point and it’s worth considering…I just can’t say I’m comfortable doing it.
MELO
August 18th, 2010
3:43 pm
What’s sad is most times these guys think they’re paying you a compliment!
maybe its just coz u were paying more attn to ur tummy Leggs,give the dudes some credit.
If one line has worked in the past 4 u,u recycle it untill u feel/confident that it has gone round enough and is now outta fashion.
Imagine having to invent a new line for every new chic that strikes ur fancy….
Give us some slack…
@blue..that freckles line is so sexxy come to think of it..u were the wrong candidate tho..
did u leave ur ring home?
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
3:46 pm
blue, FYI the freckles are/ can most def be a selling point!!! One of those random things that some guys (me included) find sexy!!!
Leggs, When a guy is trying that hard to compliment you and he totally blows it, do you ever give him a pass or do you just crush him so he knows to never try again??
MELO
August 18th, 2010
3:47 pm
but following through with a guy I met on the street would be a new venture for me.
@Luvbug?
u dont follow thru Urself…..u position urself up(smile,chatty,flirty,laughing etc) as being open to being followed thru!
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 18th, 2010
3:49 pm
@Blue after that comment I would go back to being the rude NYorker too
@Melo this time of day is dredful I could use a nice pick me up snack
@Kimmie I tell my friends, family and students 9-11 should have taught us to use common sense and make better work/life balance decisions and #2 when in doubt leave the desk do not wait for permission. Shoot you might be dead before you get it.
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
3:52 pm
@Simple Man ~ to be honest, in THIS instant I crushed him on the spot so he wouldn’t ever,ever do that again to a woman. If you decided to show me disrespect in such a manner, there was no need for me to mince my words! If he wants to flirt with a skank go right ahead. Everything about that was offensive!
Luvbug
August 18th, 2010
3:53 pm
MELO – I meant follow through as it relates to what happens after the initial introduction and exchange of number(s). I usually never call.
blue
August 18th, 2010
3:55 pm
@melo – the wrong candidate? well just burst my bubble then, lol. and just put lotion on my hands b4 i left the desk, ring was back at my desk lol.
@Simple – good to know
@Leggs – air licker?
@Diana – yeah, dont want to have to hurt anyone..
MELO
August 18th, 2010
3:55 pm
@DD…..I could use a nice pick me up snack
I like some of those candy bars with peanut and caramel on them but the calories can add up!
they’re nice chew tho.
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
3:59 pm
@blue ~ walking opposite sides of hallway. When I get close as he’s approaching, he sticks his tongue out and seductively starts licking the air. What’s cute/flattering about that?
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 18th, 2010
3:59 pm
Melo,
A snickers or a baby ruth would hit the spot. I guess you could do the mini “fun sizes,” but that would just be a tease. On my end, I just ate a little trail mix…that will have to do.
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 18th, 2010
4:00 pm
MELO
August 18th, 2010
4:01 pm
I usually never call
@Luvbug??
I suggest u dont call…let him take ur number if hes interested unless u really aint.
Playing hard to get,like its all up to him if he calls(when in fact u wld rather,he calls and will be waiting for the call) is a better way to play it,in my view.
Being too available and patently thirsty aint cool to me…there is a thin line ‘tween desire and cobweb thirsty!
Desire or desireable is so sexxy!.
MELO
August 18th, 2010
4:06 pm
@Luvbug??
one more qstion??
DreamsMaterialize
August 18th, 2010
4:07 pm
Mo what’s good mama? Trader Joes has a pretty good almond cream sherry that’s reasonably priced. If you want a good port, I’d stick to a wine shop.
Numbers Runner aka Malcolm Little can I get in this numbers
racketplan?Luvbug hun meet me in Dunwoody at 6:07pm sharp, and we’ll do some practice runs to see if we can bring that smile out of you.
blue
August 18th, 2010
4:08 pm
@Leggs – ewwwwww. some of that stuff just comes off stalker-ish, id feel like i needed someone to walk me to my car after that…
kimmie
August 18th, 2010
4:09 pm
Playing hard to get,like its all up to him if he calls(when in fact u wld rather,he calls and will be waiting for the call) is a better way to play it,in my view.
Being too available and patently thirsty aint cool to me
Melo – So you are not one of those dudes, like on here yesterday, talking about how they like the woman to approach them and go after what she wants?
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 18th, 2010
4:10 pm
LOL at Malcolm Little you know I can remember the numbers without writing them down or copy/paste
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
4:11 pm
@blue ~ not stalkerish at all. I made sure a repeat performance wouldn’t surface. Now, he see me and simply says hello, Ms. {insert real name)!
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
4:12 pm
Awww, that’s the same thing Red’s number man said in the movie MalcomX! He didn’t write his numbers down either and Red ruined his rep!
blue
August 18th, 2010
4:14 pm
@Leggs – not like a repeat performance, just would make me wonder how often he’d been doing that behind my back…ewwww.
alright, changed shoes for the walk to the train, officially feel short now, lol. nite everybody!!
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 18th, 2010
4:14 pm
Yep! Leggs I know you play the numbers and since you cannot leave the throne…you can put your numbers in with me. It is safe…Lol
Melo
August 18th, 2010
4:18 pm
@Kimmie?
Not me but just being friendly and chatty is good enough!
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
4:19 pm
Yes, I do play, I’m still pissed because lately I’ve been one number away. 817 dropped Monday (?) Which 718 is the area code for The Bronx. Then I see 282 on the license plate later that evening, which is the address of the house I lived in in The Bronx. I also play my b-day 129. So, I played 282 and 129…the number was 821. Always one away. I’m concentrating on the big dollars, MEGA Millions.
I like 129 or any combination thereof. 391 will be falling soon as well.
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
4:20 pm
@blue ~ ok, I gotcha on stalkerish!
kimmie
August 18th, 2010
4:23 pm
Not me but just being friendly and chatty is good enough!
Melo – Yeah, that’s all I’ve ever been able to muster and it works! Plus, I’ve always had to put forth a little extra effort to be approachable in any setting, not just social, because I naturally look serious when I’m not smiling.
DreamsMaterialize
August 18th, 2010
4:24 pm
Double D’s ok let’s see how good your memory holds up after a few sangrias. lol
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 18th, 2010
4:25 pm
Stay on 129 that is good number along with 127!
Melo
August 18th, 2010
4:25 pm
@DD??
spot??
That’s a good word!
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
4:27 pm
721 is a fabulous number. I’ve won with that number 3x.
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
4:30 pm
**** JOB ANNOUNCEMENT ****
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(Hope this doesn’t come across as being a very long post.)
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
4:30 pm
Ooops!!!!
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
4:32 pm
For the record, folk, when you come across a number you like, play it for the entire week. One day won’t cut it. Play dollar straightbox so no matter how it falls, you’ll get something.
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 18th, 2010
4:33 pm
127 has brought me through too many times to count.
@melo
Melo
August 18th, 2010
4:36 pm
So any of u chics ever felt real grumpy for a whole day after a nite of passion and toe curlers?
Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner
August 18th, 2010
4:41 pm
So any of u chics ever felt real grumpy for a whole day after a nite of passion and toe curlers?
Melo,
I will bite. I’ve felt tingly, sleepy and ready for a replay of the 4-play, but never grumpy. More like happy in a tired way.
Cutesy Pie
August 18th, 2010
4:49 pm
During my last serious relationship, I went through a rough patch at work and a change to a new job. These were stressful times. I think it’s important to let your sig other know you are having a stressful time at work, so he or she doesn’t think you are pulling away for some other reason. A committed partner will be OK with the fact that you are having a rough time, and may want to comfort you or just listen.
Luvbug
August 18th, 2010
4:49 pm
Melo – I’ll be more clear about my point. I don’t give my number, and I may take a number, but I won’t call because I’ve never seriously entertained being in a relationship with someone I’ve met off the street. I am usually more comfortable knowing a little something about a person before going any further than chit chat. That’s probably why I am more approachable with friends of friends and the like and less approachable when I’m out by myself.
I don’t understand your other post. You want to ask me another question or are you offering to answer a question??
MELO
August 18th, 2010
4:55 pm
but never grumpy. More like happy in a tired way
@DD…PR wld say u are a tropper.Firing on all cylinders. lol
@Luvbug?? 4.49..u arent making it easy for urself and for me either..fopr me to offer any help.
U just need a lil bit more adventure and risk taking…all the guys are on the streets doing stuff..defferent kinds of every day stuff.
Giving out a number is ok..really,it puts the onus on the guy to call..no pressure on u..no embarrasment either.
u dont know what u missing girl!
Luvbug
August 18th, 2010
4:56 pm
Dreams – You’ve already brought out my smile.
Melo – Yep, I’ve felt grumpy when I’m walking around (carefully) the next day with my twinkies swollen.
Cutesy Pie – I agree.
Luvbug
August 18th, 2010
4:58 pm
Melo – You just might be right.
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
5:01 pm
“Love and feeling of security is all the craves of every human body.” ~ Unknown
Have a restful, stressfree evening and, top that off with a good night’s sleep!
Jewel
August 18th, 2010
5:42 pm
I de-stress with Moscato and really good Sex..my sexy baby betta get ready!