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Is your career affecting your love life?

So I have been a little stressed and overworked lately. Turns out, when I am super stressed out I am a total nightmare to be around. I know, shocking. I have been stressed before but I didn’t think I really let it impact my love life.

In the past, I would always be able to balance work/career pretty well. Well, not this time, my friends. I actually sent a text message to my guy of interest last week that said “I really don’t feel like being around people right now. I will let you know when I am.” Seriously, who does that!?

I had to call and apologize because that was a clear example of a woman not in her right mind. Sometimes stress and work makes your love life take a nosedive. It’s particularly awful when it was already the pits!

How do you single and professional people do it? When you feel stressed out, is that when you try to date more to distract you?

When you are under a tremendous amount of pressure, do you let your date know or do you pretend it’s all good until the date is over?

Should you take a break from dating until you get some sense of normalcy back in your work life?

I need tips, people! I can’t even be trusted with text messages right now!

248 comments Add your comment

kimmie

August 18th, 2010
3:31 pm

Raqi – Christina went slap off! I haven’t liked that Camille since I started watching it. She needed a good slap the first show! Christina is too nice to her.

Your earlier post about how some folks give their lives for these companies reminded me of this special I saw about 9/11 a year after the attacks. They were interviewing some of the survivors that worked for one of those big investment firms. One was talking about this sister that was the admin and she sat out front in the lobby on that floor at the circular desk. She was one of those by-the-book types, you know the ones that act like if you use an extra paper clip the money for it is coming out of their check? The ones with the “slave” mentality. Anyway, folks were coming out of the office to go to the stairwell cause the tower had been hit. They were telling her she better get out too. She was like “Mr. CEO didn’t say we could leave, so I’m staying”. Suit yourself, they told her. I don’t have to tell you that tower came down, with her sitting at that desk!

Leggs

August 18th, 2010
3:32 pm

I get crazy comments like that all the time…remember the dumb arse air licker. What’s said is most times these guys think they’re paying you a compliment!

Leggs

August 18th, 2010
3:35 pm

What’s sad….sheesh typing has been way off lately.

MELO

August 18th, 2010
3:39 pm

Im so so sleepy!!

Yaaaaaaaawn! This time of the day is such a drag for me…yaaaaawn!

Thats the disadvantage of having a younger wife.

Sometimes I really feel like im being used! :lol: :lol:

blue

August 18th, 2010
3:40 pm

@Leggs – the air licker? wth? and agreed, they do seem to think they’re making your day…

Luvbug

August 18th, 2010
3:42 pm

u dont encourage dudes to hit on u..subliminaly..which is wrong!!

That’s not completely true. I’m open with friends of friends or with people I have seen a few times (even if it’s just in passing), but following through with a guy I met on the street would be a new venture for me.

I get your grand point and it’s worth considering…I just can’t say I’m comfortable doing it.

MELO

August 18th, 2010
3:43 pm

What’s sad is most times these guys think they’re paying you a compliment!

maybe its just coz u were paying more attn to ur tummy Leggs,give the dudes some credit.

If one line has worked in the past 4 u,u recycle it untill u feel/confident that it has gone round enough and is now outta fashion.

Imagine having to invent a new line for every new chic that strikes ur fancy….

Give us some slack…

@blue..that freckles line is so sexxy come to think of it..u were the wrong candidate tho..

did u leave ur ring home? :lol:

Simple Man!!!

August 18th, 2010
3:46 pm

blue, FYI the freckles are/ can most def be a selling point!!! One of those random things that some guys (me included) find sexy!!!

Leggs, When a guy is trying that hard to compliment you and he totally blows it, do you ever give him a pass or do you just crush him so he knows to never try again??

MELO

August 18th, 2010
3:47 pm

but following through with a guy I met on the street would be a new venture for me.

@Luvbug?

u dont follow thru Urself…..u position urself up(smile,chatty,flirty,laughing etc) as being open to being followed thru!

Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner

August 18th, 2010
3:49 pm

@Blue after that comment I would go back to being the rude NYorker too

@Melo this time of day is dredful I could use a nice pick me up snack

@Kimmie I tell my friends, family and students 9-11 should have taught us to use common sense and make better work/life balance decisions and #2 when in doubt leave the desk do not wait for permission. Shoot you might be dead before you get it.

Leggs

August 18th, 2010
3:52 pm

@Simple Man ~ to be honest, in THIS instant I crushed him on the spot so he wouldn’t ever,ever do that again to a woman. If you decided to show me disrespect in such a manner, there was no need for me to mince my words! If he wants to flirt with a skank go right ahead. Everything about that was offensive!

Luvbug

August 18th, 2010
3:53 pm

MELO – I meant follow through as it relates to what happens after the initial introduction and exchange of number(s). I usually never call.

blue

August 18th, 2010
3:55 pm

@melo – the wrong candidate? well just burst my bubble then, lol. and just put lotion on my hands b4 i left the desk, ring was back at my desk lol.
@Simple – good to know ;)
@Leggs – air licker?
@Diana – yeah, dont want to have to hurt anyone..

MELO

August 18th, 2010
3:55 pm

@DD…..I could use a nice pick me up snack

I like some of those candy bars with peanut and caramel on them but the calories can add up!

they’re nice chew tho.

Leggs

August 18th, 2010
3:59 pm

@blue ~ walking opposite sides of hallway. When I get close as he’s approaching, he sticks his tongue out and seductively starts licking the air. What’s cute/flattering about that?

Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner

August 18th, 2010
3:59 pm

Melo,

A snickers or a baby ruth would hit the spot. I guess you could do the mini “fun sizes,” but that would just be a tease. On my end, I just ate a little trail mix…that will have to do.

Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner

August 18th, 2010
4:00 pm

MELO

August 18th, 2010
4:01 pm

I usually never call

@Luvbug??

I suggest u dont call…let him take ur number if hes interested unless u really aint.
Playing hard to get,like its all up to him if he calls(when in fact u wld rather,he calls and will be waiting for the call) is a better way to play it,in my view.

Being too available and patently thirsty aint cool to me…there is a thin line ‘tween desire and cobweb thirsty! :lol: :lol: Desire or desireable is so sexxy!.

MELO

August 18th, 2010
4:06 pm

@Luvbug??

one more qstion??

DreamsMaterialize

August 18th, 2010
4:07 pm

Mo what’s good mama? Trader Joes has a pretty good almond cream sherry that’s reasonably priced. If you want a good port, I’d stick to a wine shop.

Numbers Runner aka Malcolm Little can I get in this numbers racket plan?

Luvbug hun meet me in Dunwoody at 6:07pm sharp, and we’ll do some practice runs to see if we can bring that smile out of you. ;-)

blue

August 18th, 2010
4:08 pm

@Leggs – ewwwwww. some of that stuff just comes off stalker-ish, id feel like i needed someone to walk me to my car after that…

kimmie

August 18th, 2010
4:09 pm

Playing hard to get,like its all up to him if he calls(when in fact u wld rather,he calls and will be waiting for the call) is a better way to play it,in my view.

Being too available and patently thirsty aint cool to me

Melo – So you are not one of those dudes, like on here yesterday, talking about how they like the woman to approach them and go after what she wants?

Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner

August 18th, 2010
4:10 pm

LOL at Malcolm Little you know I can remember the numbers without writing them down or copy/paste :wink:

Leggs

August 18th, 2010
4:11 pm

@blue ~ not stalkerish at all. I made sure a repeat performance wouldn’t surface. Now, he see me and simply says hello, Ms. {insert real name)!

Leggs

August 18th, 2010
4:12 pm

Awww, that’s the same thing Red’s number man said in the movie MalcomX! He didn’t write his numbers down either and Red ruined his rep!

blue

August 18th, 2010
4:14 pm

@Leggs – not like a repeat performance, just would make me wonder how often he’d been doing that behind my back…ewwww.

alright, changed shoes for the walk to the train, officially feel short now, lol. nite everybody!!

Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner

August 18th, 2010
4:14 pm

Yep! Leggs I know you play the numbers and since you cannot leave the throne…you can put your numbers in with me. It is safe…Lol

Melo

August 18th, 2010
4:18 pm

@Kimmie?

Not me but just being friendly and chatty is good enough!

Leggs

August 18th, 2010
4:19 pm

Yes, I do play, I’m still pissed because lately I’ve been one number away. 817 dropped Monday (?) Which 718 is the area code for The Bronx. Then I see 282 on the license plate later that evening, which is the address of the house I lived in in The Bronx. I also play my b-day 129. So, I played 282 and 129…the number was 821. Always one away. I’m concentrating on the big dollars, MEGA Millions.

I like 129 or any combination thereof. 391 will be falling soon as well.

Leggs

August 18th, 2010
4:20 pm

@blue ~ ok, I gotcha on stalkerish!

kimmie

August 18th, 2010
4:23 pm

Not me but just being friendly and chatty is good enough!

Melo – Yeah, that’s all I’ve ever been able to muster and it works! Plus, I’ve always had to put forth a little extra effort to be approachable in any setting, not just social, because I naturally look serious when I’m not smiling.

DreamsMaterialize

August 18th, 2010
4:24 pm

Double D’s ok let’s see how good your memory holds up after a few sangrias. lol

Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner

August 18th, 2010
4:25 pm

Stay on 129 that is good number along with 127!

Melo

August 18th, 2010
4:25 pm

@DD??

spot??

That’s a good word!

Leggs

August 18th, 2010
4:27 pm

721 is a fabulous number. I’ve won with that number 3x.

Leggs

August 18th, 2010
4:30 pm

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Leggs

August 18th, 2010
4:30 pm

Leggs

August 18th, 2010
4:32 pm

For the record, folk, when you come across a number you like, play it for the entire week. One day won’t cut it. Play dollar straightbox so no matter how it falls, you’ll get something.

Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner

August 18th, 2010
4:33 pm

127 has brought me through too many times to count.

@melo :wink:

Melo

August 18th, 2010
4:36 pm

So any of u chics ever felt real grumpy for a whole day after a nite of passion and toe curlers?

Dirty Diana ♠ The Number Runner

August 18th, 2010
4:41 pm

So any of u chics ever felt real grumpy for a whole day after a nite of passion and toe curlers?

Melo,

I will bite. I’ve felt tingly, sleepy and ready for a replay of the 4-play, but never grumpy. More like happy in a tired way.

Cutesy Pie

August 18th, 2010
4:49 pm

During my last serious relationship, I went through a rough patch at work and a change to a new job. These were stressful times. I think it’s important to let your sig other know you are having a stressful time at work, so he or she doesn’t think you are pulling away for some other reason. A committed partner will be OK with the fact that you are having a rough time, and may want to comfort you or just listen.

Luvbug

August 18th, 2010
4:49 pm

Melo – I’ll be more clear about my point. I don’t give my number, and I may take a number, but I won’t call because I’ve never seriously entertained being in a relationship with someone I’ve met off the street. I am usually more comfortable knowing a little something about a person before going any further than chit chat. That’s probably why I am more approachable with friends of friends and the like and less approachable when I’m out by myself.

I don’t understand your other post. You want to ask me another question or are you offering to answer a question??

MELO

August 18th, 2010
4:55 pm

but never grumpy. More like happy in a tired way

@DD…PR wld say u are a tropper.Firing on all cylinders. lol

@Luvbug?? 4.49..u arent making it easy for urself and for me either..fopr me to offer any help.

U just need a lil bit more adventure and risk taking…all the guys are on the streets doing stuff..defferent kinds of every day stuff.
Giving out a number is ok..really,it puts the onus on the guy to call..no pressure on u..no embarrasment either.

u dont know what u missing girl!

Luvbug

August 18th, 2010
4:56 pm

Dreams – You’ve already brought out my smile. :lol:

Melo – Yep, I’ve felt grumpy when I’m walking around (carefully) the next day with my twinkies swollen.

Cutesy Pie – I agree.

Luvbug

August 18th, 2010
4:58 pm

Melo – You just might be right.

Leggs

August 18th, 2010
5:01 pm

“Love and feeling of security is all the craves of every human body.” ~ Unknown

Have a restful, stressfree evening and, top that off with a good night’s sleep!

Jewel

August 18th, 2010
5:42 pm

I de-stress with Moscato and really good Sex..my sexy baby betta get ready!