Is your career affecting your love life?
So I have been a little stressed and overworked lately. Turns out, when I am super stressed out I am a total nightmare to be around. I know, shocking. I have been stressed before but I didn’t think I really let it impact my love life.
In the past, I would always be able to balance work/career pretty well. Well, not this time, my friends. I actually sent a text message to my guy of interest last week that said “I really don’t feel like being around people right now. I will let you know when I am.” Seriously, who does that!?
I had to call and apologize because that was a clear example of a woman not in her right mind. Sometimes stress and work makes your love life take a nosedive. It’s particularly awful when it was already the pits!
How do you single and professional people do it? When you feel stressed out, is that when you try to date more to distract you?
When you are under a tremendous amount of pressure, do you let your date know or do you pretend it’s all good until the date is over?
Should you take a break from dating until you get some sense of normalcy back in your work life?
I need tips, people! I can’t even be trusted with text messages right now!
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It's me....lurker
August 18th, 2010
10:55 am
what good does it and come out of whatever funk they’re in…is what I meant
SexyCool
August 18th, 2010
10:58 am
I just donated a shtload of empty journals to Goodwill. Except this especially cute one that I just got for my birthday last year.
SexyCool
August 18th, 2010
11:00 am
Rock – I like the idea of using them for to do lists. Thanks!
It's me....lurker
August 18th, 2010
11:02 am
My job is not stressful per se but the stress of being virtual makes me accountable for everything at all times for all that I do or touch. I have much CYA going on.
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:06 am
PK/blue you two just made you look in the rearview mirror. When my daddy died I got tired of folks bringing chicken, pound cake and drinks. Some folks even brought that Big K “cola” LOL, but I like the fruity BK drinks just not the cola.
I always give money for the most part and if it is someone close I will make a pan of lasange, salad and bread (that is only for folks that I have cooked for at my house before).
blue
August 18th, 2010
11:07 am
@Princess – yeah, “plant” works better. when you said a flower, i pictured literally A flower, for some reason a sunflower, half dead at that, kinda falling over when you try to hand it to someone….wilted! thats the word, wilted…with that mental pic i was just like D@MN….lol, i cant imagine bringing Churchs chicken, in the box, to a funeral. glad that lady stood up for you, hate for you to start throwing those Giant Churchs wings at people…
@DD – exactly. happens every time i go in there.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
11:09 am
Dirty D, everything that was left the day of the Funeral, My mom had them take to the church to be served along with the meal the church had prepared. All we kept was the honeybaked ham and turkey.
My best friends mom had made ME a pan of lasagna fresh from the oven and the extended family got made cause i wouldnt’ cut it. I was like oh well cause you aint gettin any of this here lasagna no deal, its plenty chicken in the oven LOL.
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:09 am
blue
August 18th, 2010
10:25 am
@Princess – yep, they end up as my note pads when on important calls, lol. not what mom intended but oh well, they sure are pretty tho
Blue you deserve credit for this one! Excellent idea!
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:14 am
@PK,
I found fried chicken, Publix cakes and pound cakes repulsive for a long time. The few times I have done the salad, garlic bread and lasange for the family it was well received. I usually say I am bringing dinner over, and it “aint” no chicken. One time I added a gallon of chick-fil-a lemonade…I just try to get outside the box, because I know how I felt with all of that chicken.
You were wrong for not cutting that lasange, tho…LOL
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
11:14 am
I always give money for the most part
Dirty D, I am the paper products queen, I usually take tissue, paper towels, paper plates, napkins etc…..
Cause with all those folks in and out you will definately need those items and they don’t spoil.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
11:16 am
You were wrong for not cutting that lasange, tho…LOL
Dirty D, maybe i should explain lol, My “2nd momma” makes THE Best lasagna and she only makes it twice a year, christmas and one other time of her choosing. So for her to add a 3rd time just for me no way was i sharing with those ungrateful biddy’s!!
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
11:16 am
oh and I don’t mean my mom and sister i mean the cousins uncles etc….
Fresh-----JAM ON IT!
August 18th, 2010
11:16 am
Good morning everyone,
bringing work home use to be a major problem for me, but once I started leaving work at work, my whole household happy meter went sky high. Now when I get home I kiss the wife hug my daughters and body slam my son—-life is great!!!!
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
11:21 am
Dirty D all this talk of chicken got me wanting some Folks!
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:24 am
@PK you are right on the paper products…that is smart! As for the lasange, I will rescind on my statement….you were right! Now I want some lasange, first you had me wanting a couple crispy,hot, cajun spiced wings from Pop-eyes.
@Fresh—Jam on it! It sounds like you found a happy medium!
blue
August 18th, 2010
11:24 am
@DD – thanks!!
@Princess – keep your lasagna! its funny to watch the vultures hover tho, lol.
had the same happen when my uncle passed years ago. i made a carrot cake, which has become legendary in my fam and friends circle. and i really only make it twice a year or so, Xmas and Thanksgiving, occasionally by special request. made it for the Wake, which we had at my aunts. when i brought the cake in, She smuggled it out and stashed it in her car. said all the folks who’d brought store brand food didnt deserve it, lol
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:26 am
Great minds think alike ….I didn’t see your 11:21 when I wrote my 11:24….add some fried green tomatoes if you go.
I guess our Leo-birthday girl is still at the part-tay, where is Lady?
Raqi
August 18th, 2010
11:28 am
SexyC, huh?
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:32 am
@Blue, No problem I guess it is the Professor in me that believes in giving credit to the author, plagiarism is not allowed. And, girlllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll you didn’t tell us about this here carrot cake (said in my Wendy William’s voice). I love that cake…blue over there baking twice a year. Your aunt is funny talking about store brought food, she was looking for an excuse. LOL
Melo
August 18th, 2010
11:35 am
Having to punch the clock used to be stressful,especially with all these crazy Atl drivers.
The best way to minimize stress is to do the job,collaborate and/or confront the issue.
A lot of folks get stressed coz they are in jobs for which they fudged their resumes.
Yeah, I can understand u being stressed, DIMWIT Dundee head!!!!
LOL
Raqi
August 18th, 2010
11:41 am
They are all about getting the work done
Yeah and when the job kills you most of them won’t even bother to show up for the funeral.
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:41 am
Melo you said it right about folks lying on their resume. I have folks to answer some pre-interview questions in writing…most of them will google copy/paste, and when I ask them the same questions on the interview they are looking like
folks can be really dimwits as you stated.
Raqi
August 18th, 2010
11:42 am
PrincessN, right now? A little of both.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
11:47 am
She smuggled it out and stashed it in her car. I used to do this with sweet potaoto pie so I could take back to college, I wld hide it in the deep frezer
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
11:48 am
Good Day Beautiful People!!!!!
me2
August 18th, 2010
11:48 am
@Kimme, Ouch, I commute from marietta to alpharetta so I feel your pain girl, its not so bad in the morning but at 5:00 its dreadful. WOW U have to go all the way to College Park
Mo (aka Moeisha) - officially employed again
August 18th, 2010
11:51 am
Morning All!
Raqi – I totally agree with your 11:41! I remember I had a job once where my trainer told my class not to allow the company to ’scare’ us into over doing it. Her exact words “if you die in here, they will roll you out and put another body in your seat without thinking about it.”
As Im sure someone has already stated, you have to find a balance and learn to leave work at work.
PrincessNik
August 18th, 2010
11:53 am
Raqi, how so? I know u are a SAHM now so I’m curious how that is affectin the love life
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
11:53 am
@Lady-Leo-par-tay animal, I had put the word out that you were still kicking it and was hung over. My bad…
Beautiful
August 18th, 2010
11:54 am
gmorn ev1!
For Real (I guess I shouldn't ate those eggs)
August 18th, 2010
11:56 am
Kym and PG news break:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/glenn-sacks/if-men-got-pregnant-would_b_214494.html
Sassy Me...Living Life :-)
August 18th, 2010
11:57 am
I used to do this with sweet potaoto pie so I could take back to college, I wld hide it in the deep frezer
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
12:00 pm
that is accurate sistah!!!!! I had a GREAT time each day!!!! I am in slow motion so pardon me! lol
East Point's Own
August 18th, 2010
12:03 pm
work stays at work… if I need to stay at work 10-12 hours to get it done I will… but I never take work home, physically or mentally. Once I walk out the door my mind is free from whatever job related responsibilities I may have.
http://zanderedward.com
Beautiful
August 18th, 2010
12:04 pm
@For Real . . . long time no read! how are you? have a blessfilled day bloggers. :~)
East Point's Own
August 18th, 2010
12:04 pm
And….. if you are dating someone shouldn’t their presence help relieve your stress? I mean should your mate/date lift your spirits just by being there???
http://hispointofview.com
blue
August 18th, 2010
12:07 pm
@DD – plagarism,
. carrot cakes my thing. brought it to work once, now i have folks always asking me about cake. i agree, aunt was looking for an excuse. fam was maadddd at her later when they found out she had it. she got me last year too. she was diagnosed with breast cancer right b4 my dad came down to visit. she says “tell your daughter i have cancer. i want cake”. i sure enuf was down here trying to figure how to pack it to make the trip back home! lol
@Princess – hiding pie. for shame….
@Lady – heyyyy there. welcome back, lol
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
12:10 pm
Not to put a bummer on things, but since we’re talking about stress and work. A lovely older woman that I’ve worked with for 14 years passed away Friday. She was 69, had contractors in her home fixing things. When they left, they thought she was sleeping and didn’t want to wake her. She was in her recliner. When they came back Saturday to finish the work, they couldn’t get in. Neighbor next door opened the door. She was still in the recliner with remote control in her hand dead from a heart attack. Her job was stressful. She beat cancer years ago w/o ever missing a day of work. She was strong and admired by many. She doesn’t have to stress about anything anymore.
You’re right, they will roll you up and put anohter in your seat with the quickness. I can say that won’t happen to her seat any time soon. It will remain vacant for a long time. These will be some big shoes to fill!
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
12:11 pm
taking time for self through stressful times are key…..even backing away from girfriends too…..just revamping your world with dealing with that issue head on with no time frames…….taking care of home and sanity is key and when it isn’t in tact everyone catches the line of fire and that’s unfair….its ok to step away and come back whenever you are ready……your true friends will still be there and your intrest will either wait it out with patience or move on gracefully……
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
12:12 pm
hey blue how are you chica!?!
Dan - simply...
August 18th, 2010
12:14 pm
Everytime it gets stressful on my job (and/or a co-worker starts losing it) I remind myself that this job isn’t going to kill me.
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
12:15 pm
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
12:10 pm
Hey Leggs… You feeling better today???
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
12:19 pm
@Blue I love carrot cakes especially with a cup of coffee…I just love cake to be honest. How is your aunt doing now? She sounds like she is a hoot, my type of lady!
@lady I concur on that 12:11 for me being organized at home helps. If I am already stressing looking for my purse, car keys, the other shoe etc makes ish worst. Organization is also key for me I should have added that to my list.
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
12:22 pm
respecting personal space and boundaries are essential for clear functioning with self and others……a thought…..
Leggs
August 18th, 2010
12:22 pm
@Simple Man ~ yes, I am. Thanks for asking. RR, quietness and chicken noodle soup surely helps in soothing minor stomach aches!
Luvbug
August 18th, 2010
12:22 pm
I don’t remember work affecting any of past relationships, even in my most stressful job…BUT, but, but…I can see how it could in some situations. Some jobs/careers don’t allow for a family or life…especially in the entry level phase.
Nowadays, some are working several jobs or are entrapped by an employer getting over on the bad economy. Not every situation is a matter of personal choice or time management. I’m blessed to not be in the herd (at least so far), but I can see why crime is up and do sympathize with the down trodden.
Now if you’re just one of those folks who can’t say no…to work, to negativity, to whatever. You may want to find out why, work on evaluating what’s more important to you and streamline the lesser. You identify what you care about by identifying what you choose to volunteer most of your energy on (at least that’s what I’ve heard). If you’re honest and want to change it, you will.
Jamie
August 18th, 2010
12:26 pm
I wonder if this really works? http://www.google.com/#@
Lady-Happy
August 18th, 2010
12:27 pm
what you listed dd is just an indicator that other stuff is going on to make minor stuff seem huge….we can’t ignore our personal pink elephants….dealing with conflict is tough and I even avoid my own until i can’t any more but really it affects everyone……the answer lies within our soul….we know what we need to address and when you throw in social activites on top of work on top of demands from every where it gets ugly……..time becomes an unkown and patiences are gone……you are burned out and cranky etc…….
Dirty Diana ♠
August 18th, 2010
12:29 pm
Damn Lady where do we send our co-payment? You just gave the blog some real knowledge look at you, you went str8 therapist on us! ^5
Simple Man!!!
August 18th, 2010
12:31 pm
Whats for lunch????