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Try new things

Have you ever met someone who seemed a little close-minded?  The type that isn’t open to anything new or different, simply because they like what the like.  Yeah, that could get annoying on a date.  I suppose it really is a compatibility issue more than anything, but what does it hurt to try new things?

When you are interested in meeting and dating people, part of attracting someone who you find engaging and interesting is having the same qualities!  You probably don’t want to date someone who hates everything and criticizes what you are in to.  Why would anyone expect to attract a person with that kind of attitude?

What do you think makes you an interesting date?  How open are you to trying new things?

What would you do if you met someone who seemed really great but they did not like to try new things like travel, taste different cuisines, etc.  Also, sidebar? I can’t imagine those types would be that great in the bedroom, I’m just sayin’

If you aren’t a fan of “changing” someone, do you think it is a good idea to date someone who is not open to new experiences?  Is it ever possible to expose your date to a new way of thinking or doing things?  Is that “too much work?” to put in?

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Dirty Diana ♠

August 12th, 2010
8:42 am

Dirty Diana ♠

August 12th, 2010
8:47 am

In topic: As stated before on this topic…people like what they like. Why would I try to change someone? It is one thing if a person is open to trying new things, but it is another thing if that person say I DO NOT LIKE trying things since I know what I like. IMO, it is disrespectful to try changing someone; exposure is good only if the person wants exposure.

fanofdd

August 12th, 2010
8:49 am

Hey, just wanted to shout out to Dirty D, you are one bad lady, I like the way u speak your mind & call these tricks & gents out and dont care what anyone thinks. Keep it up :)

Simple Man!!!!

August 12th, 2010
8:50 am

Good Morning DD!! hope you are having a great morning!!

Simple Man!!!!

August 12th, 2010
8:56 am

Life is way to short to be lived in a box….If a person has no interest in expanding their boundries, then that cool for them, but I would not want to waste my time or theirs walking in circles.

blue

August 12th, 2010
8:57 am

GM all,

i believe in trying new things, from food to ferris wheels. i find that to be very important in a relationship, keeps things from gwoing stale. imo, a person who is content with this is what i like and thats it has cut off all opportunities for growth.

i'm swiss™

August 12th, 2010
9:00 am

“Life is way to short to be lived in a box”

Depends on the box. ;-)

Dirty Diana ♠

August 12th, 2010
9:01 am

Thanks fanodd somebody had to step up!!! :wink:

Wassup Simple Man how was dinner last night?

Kimmy

August 12th, 2010
9:04 am

Hi
I’ve dated this guy…he was going to spend the next 50 years bowling and playing poker. That’s all great but I think it would be good to make memories doing stuff we never did before together. There is big world out there and how do you know if you would dislike it if you didn’t try. He refused to try different restaruants. Whateva dude…How boring. You have to experience life.

Hey, Im Swiss...

August 12th, 2010
9:05 am

…I was thinking the same thing but you said it first – great minds think alike, only I probably would have said “depends on whose box” it is…

Simple Man!!!!

August 12th, 2010
9:05 am

Dirty Diana ♠ @ 9:01… Dinner was good, afterwards I decided to forgo the booty call, went home a lisened to my favorite Phylis Hymen CD…Turned out to be a good night!! How was yours?

YESSHEISCUTE

August 12th, 2010
9:06 am

Been there…doing it right now! He simply likes what he likes and will not try anything new cuisine wise if it looks foreign (e.g. sushi). On the spot he “admits” he would like (read: willing), to try new things in other departments but that remains to be seen. He’s a great guy and I love being around him but I’m not sure how long status quo is going to work for me.

I admit sometimes I can be a little “I like what I like leave me alone” about certain things. But I’m open to try new things foodwise, travelwise, lifestylewise.

Dirty Diana ♠

August 12th, 2010
9:06 am

I will say this, a lot of people think that they are open to new things, but in comparison to someone else they are still boxed in. So, you have to consider who you are stacking yourself up against when making this claim. I know a lot of folks saying they like trying new things, but none of them are willing to explore the Amazon with me. Any takers, because I am gamed? :grin:

Oh yea, about a year ago I blogged about leaving Atlanta on the weekend; unplanned getaways just to go eat at a different spot or shop a little. Since, this was outside the box for those blogging I caught hell. The point I am making is simple, there are still levels of being open out there. I haven’t reached the level of planning a hike up mount kilimanjaro. :wink:

Simple Man!!!!

August 12th, 2010
9:06 am

Bowling and Poker is a hella combination!!! LOL

Dirty Diana ♠

August 12th, 2010
9:10 am

@Simple Man, I love Phyllis Hyman. Her voice was one of a kind…I love listening to her. You just went up a notch in my book.

Simple Man!!!!

August 12th, 2010
9:11 am

Dirty Diana ♠

August 12th, 2010
9:06 am

Always down for an out of the country excursion with an adventurous lady!!! :D

blue

August 12th, 2010
9:12 am

i love bowling, even tho i suck at it, but whatever! lol. never learned to play poker tho, guess thats something to add to the list. rode my first ferris wheel and rollercoaster this year, granted with my eyes closed, but i rode it!!lol

Dirty Diana ♠

August 12th, 2010
9:13 am

@Simple man lets go in January.

YESSHEISCUTE

August 12th, 2010
9:21 am

I’m a punk. I don’t like to do things that seem unsafe or painful. Other than that if I am able to do it (physically, financially, etc). I’m game :)

Kym-"Do unto others 20% better than they would do unto you..to correct for error"

August 12th, 2010
9:21 am

Good Morning All,

I had a friend who always said..Hey I will try anything once..twice if it feels good.” I always liked that idea. If I am getting to know a guy I would hope that he would be at least willing to try something one time..if nothing else to keep me from nagging him. Then that works. But to never try anything? To always stay so locked into one idea or place..I mean I know we don’t compromise our core values..but how can eating Thai food compromise your values? This life is too short and our world is too vast.. so why not explore everything it has to offer? Viewing life from the sidelines is boring..get in the game.

Simple Man!!!!

August 12th, 2010
9:22 am

Dirty Diana ♠ @ 9:13 am
:) :)

blue

August 12th, 2010
9:24 am

i do think ive had it a little backwards tho. seems like my younger years were spent set in my ways, and now im more into the lets try x,y,z…thought it was supposed to go the other way around?

Simple Man!!!!

August 12th, 2010
9:26 am

Ok ladies…What are some of the things you consider “out of the box” ???

YESSHEISCUTE

August 12th, 2010
9:27 am

blue @ I know what you mean. I think it is supposed to be but as long as your willing to try new things at any juncture of your life that’s great! You are one step ahead :)

DreamsMaterialize

August 12th, 2010
9:34 am

Morning
I’ve definitely dated women who weren’t open at all. If they hadn’t done it by 18, they weren’t doing it. That’s cool though…just knew they weren’t for me. I’m pretty adventurous, so I would like a woman at least equally so. I’ve done skydiving, parasailing, mountain hiking, scuba diving/snorkeling. I like watching meteor showers, catching a desert or pacific sunset, finding a secluded natural hot spring (none that I know of in Georgia), and I’m looking forward to doing a lot more. I love different cuisine, so I’m always looking for something new and tasty. A chick with an appreciation for life is what I’m looking for.

SlimOne - Just 2 beers & jump

August 12th, 2010
9:41 am

Good morning everybody…

I am a pretty open person so I enjoy being exposed to new exciting things…I would have a hard time with someone who was totally closed off to trying new things. There is so much life to live out in this world besides just your neighborhood.

Dirty Diana ♠

August 12th, 2010
9:46 am

@DreamsM,

A hot spring would be nice here in Georgia. I know in Warm Springs, GA you cannot use the spring I believe it may be owned or operated under the Roosevelt Foundation or something…I am not sure its been years. Maybe I should google.

@Simple Man,

I don’t consider my lifestyle or habits out of the box I just do me. It maybe out of the box for some to have fettuccine alfredo for breakfast, but that is what I had. The more I talk and share with people the more I realize I am a little different. I truly live, I don’t just dream…I wake up and execute. :grin:

M. (pronouced M dot)

August 12th, 2010
9:48 am

Good day.

It definately is hard to date someone who has a limited outlook regarding trying new things. The key is to ease into new things. Its not a good idea to just throw in a whole bunch of new stuff. I think you have to do this gradually.

If you have a person who is a wings and beer kind of person, it may not work to just throw them into plays, the arts, or anything else especially if they arent interested. It really boils down to how much time and patience you have regarding this.

“Is it ever possible to expose your date to a new way of thinking or doing things?”

It definately is possible but the way you upgrade someone else is to upgrade yourself and usually they will follow suit. If they see you like to hang out and do things a certain way, hopefully they will be receptive to that.

Simple Man!!!!

August 12th, 2010
9:55 am

DD @ 9:46….Its always just about doing you!!! This weekend I am going whitewater rafting with some friends in NC. I have not done this in years and we are sooooo looking forward to it!

Raqi

August 12th, 2010
9:55 am

New Things….

Being introduced to new things and experiences is one of the upsides of being with someone. Whether it is something you bring to the table, something they bring to the table or something you both are introduced to together shared experiences are nice.

I think my most disappointing dating experience when it came to trying new things was with the Nature Guy. When I met him he looked to be and carried himself as the outgoing eccentric type earthy guy. But in reality he was quite reserved. I did learn some things from him. He is the one that got me into planting and growing my own herbs and vegetables which I still do to this day. He knew a lot about cultivating the earth and vegetation but aside from that he was rather needy and closed off.

I learned some new things also with my 2nd son’s father. I learned to cook some new dishes and some familiar dishes better and/or a different way within his nationality. He introduced me to another level of intimacy.

Raqi

August 12th, 2010
9:57 am

With my heartbeat that I am blessed to be wedded to now, during the 10 years we have been together we both have opened the door to new things for each other and we have embarked on some adventures for the first time together.

I have gotten him to try some new foods and spices that he had not before. He has gotten me to go places that I had never before.

He says he had always wanted to go on a cruise but never did it. I on the other had never been on a cruise and never really desired to. I can swim like a fish but I was never a fan of free range on the wide open sea. But since being together we have gone on 4 cruises together.

He got me scuba dive, something I would not have done on my own. I got him to volunteer twice, which is something he says he would not have done despite his generous nature. That’s just to name a few.

We have enhanced and broadened our realm of intimacy together and unfortunately have gotten into some very enjoyable trouble together. LOL

Other than continuing to date the one I am with, I plan to never ~date~ again. However I will continue to be open to some experiences that he and I can try together.

Raqi

August 12th, 2010
9:57 am

There is one BIG thing though I want my marido to try. We have been together for 10 years, married almost 5 and I really want him to try this. Ironing. If I can get him to do this I will be most elated. LOL

Leggs

August 12th, 2010
9:58 am

Good morning, Blosgville!

Must admit I have food issues and knew I was stuck in my ways. The past 2 years, I’ve made it a point to venture out and try different things to eat. From sushi to pork belly. I’m a visual person, which has stopped me from tasting many dishes. I’m proud to say that I have put that behind me (for the most part).

With the examples listed by WD, I wouldn’t necessarily think the person wouldn’t be good in bed. More likely, the opposite is true. Stuck in life on the surface, but foolishly adventurous behind closed doors. Much like when one loses one of the 5-6 senses. Others become more enhanced. Stuffy and unbending on the outside, but close those shades and lock that door…..BAM!

Simple Man!!!!

August 12th, 2010
9:59 am

Raqi

August 12th, 2010
9:57 am
Awwwwwwww!!! :) Thats whats up!!

Deep Throat!

August 12th, 2010
10:04 am

I will continue to be open to some experiences that he and I can try together.

hello!

3soooooooooooooooooooooome! :lol: :lol:

niiiice Raqi

Howdee folks!

Kym-"Do unto others 20% better than they would do unto you..to correct for error"

August 12th, 2010
10:04 am

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It's me....lurker

August 12th, 2010
10:06 am

Depends. If you’re a fly by the seat of your pants kind of guy or gal, naturally everybody that don’t prescribe will seem boxed or stuffy. If you’re more reserved and straight laced, most that are not will seem over the top. There’s the happy medium though of maybe gradual exposure versus baptizing someone with walking on the wild side. Really though whose to say either way? A little exposure can’t hurt. Honestly though people like what they like. Sort of what makes us unique.

Raqi

August 12th, 2010
10:06 am

Leggs my hang up to trying a new food is the smell. I can get pass the look because things like hash looks uninviting but it taste fine. If the smell is not satisfying to my nose I will not try it. I am a cheese lover but some it I just cannot try because it smells rancid. Probably taste cook but I can’t get pass the smell.

SexyCool

August 12th, 2010
10:07 am

If you aren’t a fan of “changing” someone, do you think it is a good idea to date someone who is not open to new experiences?
For me, that would be a “No.”

Is it ever possible to expose your date to a new way of thinking or doing things? Is that “too much work?” to put in?
Yes, it is possible IF that individual is open to it.

I like trying new things and will try just about anything once within reason and with some exceptions – Activities that carry extremely high and unreasonable risk of personal injury…eh, not so much. Oh…and I’m not *that* adventurous when it comes to what I eat – I stay away from spicy and slimy looking foods.

blue

August 12th, 2010
10:10 am

@Raqi – thats so cool. i think that sums it up nicely, that your hoping for someone who can help “enhance and broaden” your experiences. who knows all the things that you would love if only you tried them.
altho i am kinda with YESSHEISCUTE, i tend to wimp out on things that push the fear or pain limits, lol.

It's me....lurker

August 12th, 2010
10:11 am

Unsafe, unnatural, unhealthy, life threatening….count me out to that kind of exposure

Raqi

August 12th, 2010
10:13 am

SexyC one thing I think helps in getting people to try new things is the delivery. That’s how I got and/or get my wedded one to try new foods. I deliver it sensually. It’s sorta like getting the anticipation in place and then delivering.

The one thing just recently that I found out he does not like after all these years is coconut. When we were in Hawaii I ordered coconut shrimp and tried to get him to eat one and he would not take it. I never knew that about him I guess because I have never cooked anything with coconut.

Deep Throat!

August 12th, 2010
10:18 am

New exotic or funky looking foods……Big NO thank you and waste of money

New destinations………yes,yes,yes,money allowing!

Dirty Diana ♠

August 12th, 2010
10:19 am

@Deep Throat!

I take it you are open to a shopping spree at starship, and a trip to the nude beach?

DCRose

August 12th, 2010
10:21 am

@YESSHEISCUTE I’m a punk. I don’t like to do things that seem unsafe or painful.

I agree! Those are two things that will put the brakes on adventure for me, but that does not include physical activity. I’m OK with doing a boot camp or hiking, etc. But I also won’t do anything that will send me to jail! Other than that, the sky is the limit.

Deep Throat!

August 12th, 2010
10:22 am

and a trip to the nude beach?

@DD??

YES….

Starship??

naaaah,not so much…..I prefer live skin….

@SlimOne??

ur flick show site was the bombest! :lol:

kimmie

August 12th, 2010
10:23 am

Good morning lovely blog people!

Unsafe, unnatural, unhealthy, life threatening – yes, It’s me, that would be a no for me too!

Otherwise, I’m game. And yes, I like a person that is at least willing to try something new. Nothing feels worse than expressing a desire to try something and having it immediately shot down. I’ll grant a person a few of those because there are thing that, for whatever reason, some folks just are not going to do or don’t want to. That’s human and I have a few of those myself. But if you shoot down EVERYTHING, I’m with the wrong person. I dated a guy that would shoot down everything I suggested just because he didn’t come up with the idea first! He would then accuse me of trying to “change” him. Just because I suggested we try something different than what he usually wanted. He wasn’t a bad person, just not for me.

I would also hate to be trying to raise children with someone close-minded. I wouldn’t want anyone stifling their opportunities. The more wonderful exposure to the possibilities of this world, the better!

Raqi

August 12th, 2010
10:23 am

Yeah yall can keep that unhealthy stuff. That’s not for me.

As for the ‘unsafe and life threatening’ things I think that is relative. While I don’t care for bungee jumping and sky diving it is the norm for some. My beloved has done both, which I was not that pleased with but hey he is a grown man, and did not view them as life threatening. Made his life insurance premium go up. I don’t care what he says that is tempting the one up above so I have no desire to ever do those things.

Yet then again some people would say that scuba diving is unsafe and life threatening and that I have done and it felt pretty safe as a few minutes down. The same with jet skiing and parasailing.

Simple Man!!!!

August 12th, 2010
10:25 am

Dirty Diana ♠ @10:19… Are you comfortable shopping at “Big Boy Shops” like Starship??? I know quite a few women that talk that talk but get supa embaressed when you pull into the parking lot!!! BTW I think there needs to be separate catagories for intimate adventures and other adventures.

It's me....lurker

August 12th, 2010
10:26 am

but hey he is a grown man, and did not view them as life threatening.

Yep, that’s why I said it all just depends on your level exposure, what you consider the threshold for danger. I agree with Kimmie that as long as a person is not shooting down EVERYTHING then at least they’re open to trying. I wouldn’t fault a person if after trying something, they couldn’t develop an appetite. I think closed-minded is more so not trying versus trying and not really liking.