Can we have traditional dating values?
A fabulous friend of mine declared “It is possible to be a modern woman with traditional dating values!” I happen to agree with that sentiment but I thought about how tough it was to actually apply this theory to our dating experiences.
When we have all of the perks and trappings of a modern world, traditional dating values get a bit turned on its head. Is it becoming a problem trying to hold on to tradition in the dating scene today? I suppose you could become creative and find new ways to hold on to tradition, but how does it play out?
Guys do you find it endearing or annoying when a modern woman has traditional dating values? What would you do if a woman wanted you to court her in a traditional sense? What do you consider too traditional? What would you consider too modern?
Ladies! Do you ever feel like Erkyah Badu: A analog girl in a digital world? How do you manage to maintain your traditional values about relationships and dating? What has worked for you and what hasn’t?
Are we too modern for our own good?
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Timeless
August 11th, 2010
3:13 pm
It’s me….lurker @2:57: I’m not whining about paying for a woman, just want to know why (many) women want to have it both ways, that’s all!
LURKER (I want some of dat)
August 11th, 2010
3:13 pm
@Kym and Mdot that was the revised version of I bet when….Do you guys ever smile or laugh?
Trust me it feels good!
@It’s me Lurker….You cannot persude dudes who want something for nothing…Can pay you for a dinner what is the world coming too…Moist men is the new word!!! YEAHHH
kimmie
August 11th, 2010
3:14 pm
Kym – How can you be “bad” in such a movie? LOL! They were talking about it on Tom Joyner and they, and I, were asking the same question! They said she was sort of lackluster, like she wasn’t good at “faking” it!
Timeless
August 11th, 2010
3:15 pm
kimmie @2:51: Re: “Life just isn’t always fair, is it?”
That’s exactly what I tell 45-year-old women when they whine that men their age go for 25-year-olds…
Deep Throat!
August 11th, 2010
3:21 pm
How can one be bad in a porn movie?
@Kym??
exactly!
porn or filmed monogamous sex tapes are the only opportunity, we non-pro actors, have to shine at acting.
but at least they could have air brushed that leopard behind of girl..not a god look.
kimmie
August 11th, 2010
3:22 pm
Timeless – The same reason (some) men want to have it both ways with some of the things they do. It’s human nature.
What a lot of people don’t realize is that with all this “modernization” comes more choices and with more choices, more opportunities, thus more complications. No doubt things were easier when the only career options for women were teachers and nurses. And you might only do that for awhile until you got married and became a mother. Not many choices for the women and the men. Things were simpler and everyone knew their role. Now the world is wide open. A lot of women and men don’t know what to do with all these new opportunities and expectations.
Kym-So you can Run and Tell That!..Homeboy!
August 11th, 2010
3:23 pm
@Lurker whenever you type something worth laughing or smiling at..I will..in the meantime I got my own jokes…and right now you are head clown in them all.
Timeless
August 11th, 2010
3:24 pm
kimmie @3:22: Totally agree! The last word comes from kimmie
SlimOne - Just 2 beers & jump
August 11th, 2010
3:24 pm
Kym – Bad acting is sort of across the board in plot-porn…However, there are tons of “Bad” flicks out there…could be bad faking…(i.e acting like you’re a um…how should i say…releaser of juices…when in fact you’re just p!ssing everywhere or Ooohhhing and Ahhhhing when buddy isn’t even sticking it to them) Could be bad angles, shots, locations….Seen on same site folks doing the bizness in a tree…now who in the hellz would look at a tree and say, let’s go get er done in that Oak over there. Maybe i’ve gotten a bit overexposed to those movies but now if the chick doesn’t look as if she is really enjoying it, it’s a wack flick to me
kimmie
August 11th, 2010
3:26 pm
Timeless – Tell those 45 yr old women not to whine over those dudes. Cause they really wouldn’t want to deal with a 45 yr old dude that’s still chasing 25 yr olds and delusional enough to think one is REALLY interested in him!
Kym-So you can Run and Tell That!..Homeboy!
August 11th, 2010
3:28 pm
@Lurker..matter of fact I was wonder which moist, pie, leopard spotted booty, boot licking blogger, is pretending to be lurker today. I mean I would assume those who hide behind blog mask have a club of sort. Cowards R Us..or Dorks in the Dark??
Dirty Diana ♠
August 11th, 2010
3:30 pm
I hate I shared “pie” on the blog!
Leggs
August 11th, 2010
3:30 pm
I had to stop the Kardashaians. Every time Bruce Jenner came on the screen my face started hurting.
SlimOne - Just 2 beers & jump
August 11th, 2010
3:31 pm
@Deep Throat – why the evil looks regarding her booty looking like a connect the dots puzzle?
Leggs
August 11th, 2010
3:33 pm
Not stop them. Stop watching them (LOL);
LURKER (I want some of dat)
August 11th, 2010
3:33 pm
Ummm Kym could you please enlighten us with some of your jokes about me..I welcome the the joning.
@Slimone….Are you a former porn director? That is some description regarding porn acting!
PrincessNik..still recovering
August 11th, 2010
3:34 pm
I hate I shared “pie” on the blog!
Dirty D awwwwww
well if it helps my friends and I refer to those kinds of guys as Lunchbox @zz nuccas 
PrincessNik..still recovering
August 11th, 2010
3:35 pm
Slim the proper term is “squirter”
Simple Man!!!!
August 11th, 2010
3:38 pm
Kym @ 3:11 If you think the fellas are the ones propping up the porn business, you are a little off base…. Swing by a Starship sometimes and see what the ratio of women to men is….Maybe 3 to 1….. Lots of ladies “doing research” or buying “Gag gifts” for their friends!!!
PrincessNik..still recovering
August 11th, 2010
3:38 pm
Leggs
you so wrong! he does have manequin-esque features.
SlimOne - Just 2 beers & jump
August 11th, 2010
3:38 pm
LURKER – no i’m not a former porn director…i just played one on tv
SlimOne - Just 2 beers & jump
August 11th, 2010
3:41 pm
PrincessNik – Yeah I know but I didn’t think the blog monster would let it pass without me having to answer 3 questions correctly from a billy goat. LOL Speaking of which, I saw a show the other day regarding Weird sexually related items. Squirting was one of the topics and they stated it is possible. However, i’m not such a believer. I can drink a gallon of water and make believe i’m squirting too as I urinate all over the place.
blue
August 11th, 2010
3:42 pm
bad artistic performance, guess there will be no awards for her this year….
Dirty Diana ♠
August 11th, 2010
3:42 pm
@Pk lunchbox is funny…maybe your word will get some spin and they will leave pie alone.
Deep Throat!
August 11th, 2010
3:43 pm
why the evil looks regarding her booty
@Slim..?
really, leopard spots is no Big Deal..pudsy is pudsy….as swiss wld say!
one needs to just turn her doggie style,pivot her with the left palm,right there by her booty as she is looking back,then look sideways and let her place the johnson right inside.
u know that “no look” penetration thrust! guys know exactly what im talking about.
Elijah ( I want some of dat)
August 11th, 2010
3:43 pm
@Kym I only used lurker when I want to do skits..Here I is….Come on give it me….I is right here….
@Princess….So are you a former porn director?
Leggs
August 11th, 2010
3:43 pm
DemiGod/Alvin was our porn expert in terms of directing. Hope he’s doing well…
Simple Man!!!!
August 11th, 2010
3:44 pm
SlimOne @ 3:41 Squirters are real!!! Kinda like that dude that can shoot a wad 3 feet across the room!
PrincessNik..still recovering
August 11th, 2010
3:45 pm
Elijah
Deep Throat!
August 11th, 2010
3:47 pm
@Slim?
besides,every time i get mine inside for the VERY first time, I tend to close my eyes at about that time im getting in,as if to feel the ugghhhh…..(my modus op)
so,spots or no spots..its aaaight.
SlimOne - Just 2 beers & jump
August 11th, 2010
3:49 pm
‘leopard spots is no Big Deal..pudsy is pudsy’
DT – pudsy is pudsy and leopard booty is leopard booty. When I watch a flick, I don’t want to see that…not a turn on for me. If you like that backwash porn then go right ahead. Personally, i’ll choose to pass. (just too distracting)
Leggs
August 11th, 2010
3:49 pm
Where can I view these spots you guys are talking about???
PrincessNik..still recovering
August 11th, 2010
3:49 pm
ya’ll have helped me make it through today
I’m out
Have a Wonderful Wednesday Evening!
Leggs
August 11th, 2010
3:49 pm
Don’t get me wrong, not that I’m interested just want to stay on top of the news!
Trevor0529
August 11th, 2010
3:50 pm
backwash porn???
Slim, WTH?!?!?
SlimOne - Just 2 beers & jump
August 11th, 2010
3:52 pm
DT – regarding your 3:47 – well keep on pumpin on my friend. They say there is something for everyone here. You like it, i lobe it
Simple Man – did YOU use to be a pornstar?
Deep Throat!
August 11th, 2010
3:53 pm
not that I’m interested just want to stay on top of the news
@Leggs ..
blue
August 11th, 2010
3:55 pm
im with Slim, cant do the leopard booty, cant deal with the ones either where i guess she got spanked to be cute, ‘xcept now its turned to a bruise, and she keeps on trucking….nope
Deep Throat!
August 11th, 2010
3:56 pm
When I watch a flick, I don’t want to see that
@Slim..do u watch porn alone or with dude??
when u alone,do u use BOB on urself too as u wett up??
why do some women hate on other women getting their dyckk on??
Leggs
August 11th, 2010
3:57 pm
@Melo ~ stop rolling your eyes and give me the site. I’m as interested in seeing this as I was in seeing Window Seat….
SlimOne - Just 2 beers & jump
August 11th, 2010
3:57 pm
Trevor0529 – backwash as in bottom of the barrel…leftovers…residual..long story short—> YUCK lol
I’m sorry but her booty look like the back of Forrest Whitakers neck.
Simple Man!!!!
August 11th, 2010
3:58 pm
SlimOne @3:52 LOL Although I have participated in carnal activities in front of a camera, I have never gotten paid to do it ( Some of my performances were worthy of a 6 figure paycheck though!
)
Leggs
August 11th, 2010
3:58 pm
“why do some women hate on other women getting their dyckk on??”
I could do nothing but really laugh at this! Fists raised in air MORE POWER TO THEM!!!
blue
August 11th, 2010
4:03 pm
hasta manana mi amigas/amigos!!
SlimOne - Just 2 beers & jump
August 11th, 2010
4:04 pm
Leggs – email me and i’ll send you the site…
“do u watch porn alone or with dude??
when u alone,do u use BOB on urself too as u wett up??”
DT – I plead the 1 2 3 4 FIFTH!!!
Purple Rain
August 11th, 2010
4:05 pm
Melo, I read the article. What do you want to ask me?
Slim, I told you all the other day her performance was stinky and she had a bunch of spots on her butt. LOL
She wanted to be a porn star since age 16, most little boys want to be one from age 13 and that dream never ever goes away.
If you hit old leopard booty and not wonder where those spots came from you will hit anything. LOL
Deep Throat!
August 11th, 2010
4:06 pm
I could do nothing but really laugh at this!
@Leggs?
u know last nite i wanted some so i started priming myself,watching porn on my lap…I show Queen the porn,so we can be in key..and she ugghhhhhh,turning the lap away….
thats when i told her i wanted some……
and she says,’not today, I am on!” me
no wonder my qstion……why do some women hate on other women getting their dyckk on……she just got jealous at the porn actors getting theirs on and yet she cldnt…and wldnt stand watching it either… jealousy!
SlimOne - Just 2 beers & jump
August 11th, 2010
4:06 pm
‘Some of my performances were worthy of a 6 figure paycheck though’
SImple Man – that made me think of this one vid where this couple has a camera setup and he is trying to get it from the flip-side…someone walks into the room and scares the crap out of them mid-stroke. It was HILARIOUS!!!!!!!!!!!
Dirty Diana ♠
August 11th, 2010
4:06 pm
@Deep Throat I am happy for other women when they get their d-on, porn on or anything else. Shoot, I want them to get all the d they can, hell maybe they will stay out of my business and stop worrying about me.
Good d, along with a nice tongue and fingers change things.
Leggs
August 11th, 2010
4:09 pm
@Melo ~ you really are making me laugh.