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Bad girls get married

Bad boys have their appeal.  I get why women do stupid things for them.  I can even admit that some of that bad boy image still gets my attention.  I just don’t know if women are marrying the bad boys.  They are intrigued by them and possibly even head over heels.  Picturing them as husbands and fathers, not so much.

Interestingly enough, the female hell-raisers and bad girls are rarely single for long.  Something about them men find fascinating.  So fascinating, they want to always have her around.  Have you ever seen an episode of Bridezilla!?

Why do men love and marry women who are “bad girls”?  It seems that women, at some point, outgrow the attraction to bad boys.  Is that the case for men?  When do guys stop chasing the bad girls who make their lives so unstable?

If someone is a glutton for dating punishment, what should they know before dating a bad girl or bad boy?

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DM

August 6th, 2010
8:42 am

Men marry “bad girls” because we’re more interesting, adventurous and fun. We’re secure in our skin and we make our own rules. There’s never a dull moment.

I am whatever you say I am

August 6th, 2010
9:02 am

This topic reminds me of a very popular book titled ” Why Men Love B*tches*

Wise Diva, go get yourself a copy.

Simple man.....

August 6th, 2010
9:09 am

If you ever get a chance, pay attention to the guys that marry these so called “Bad Girls”….In most cases, they are really weak guys that these ladies can control and walk over. The difference between bad boys and bad girls is that good, strong women really believe that they can change bad boys, and good guys have no interest in fixing a bad girl…

Simple man.....

August 6th, 2010
9:10 am

Oh…Good Morning everyone!!! :)

Dirty Diana ♠

August 6th, 2010
9:13 am

Hola

I have and easy answer people marry who they love.

Wassup I am and Simple Man

YESSHEISCUTE

August 6th, 2010
9:15 am

I have no idea but it blows me. I knew a dude that had a girl that refused to work or clean the house, and he was in the army supporting both of them and she was cheating on him. They were not married and were just living together and then they had a mutual friend that was in jail when he got out she dumped him and got with the friend who got out of jail. I’m like I’m working and going to school and doing something with my life. If I’d have known that we could have split rent. I mean dag.

I just don’t get it. My mom is with a guy that’s younger than her and she treats him like crap…there has been some domestic situations I won’t go into but he still keeps running back like a sad little puppy dog. I’m like maybe I got it twisted instead of being the nice girl who stay single I should be the crazy girl who is ready to cut up people and their property if they even think about looking someone’s way.

I just don’t get it……..

blue

August 6th, 2010
9:16 am

GM all, TGIF!!

i think with a lot of women going for the bad guy, its not so much that they think they can fix him, its more that the woman herself is trying to rebel, against parents, friends, people opinions of her as the “safe” one, things like that. the guys ive seen with bad woman, it has seemed more like they were either too weak to say anything

Dirty Diana ♠

August 6th, 2010
9:19 am

I just don’t know if women are marrying the bad boys.

Most “bad boys” are not in the business of getting married. They may have a BM, but no wife. If some of those “bad boys” wanted a wife they would have one. Instead, many are modern day gigalos (sp) using various women for cars, money, a place to stay etc.

That is my thought, now bring on the weekend!

I am whatever you say I am

August 6th, 2010
9:19 am

Sup DD! I concur with your post

I am whatever you say I am

August 6th, 2010
9:20 am

both posts DD! :-D

blue

August 6th, 2010
9:22 am

i kinda chopped that off didnt i. so either to weak to say anything or looking for someone to dominate them anyway.

hey DD!

Dan - simply...

August 6th, 2010
9:22 am

Nice and bad really have nothing to do with it.

It’s weak and strong.

“Bad ‘boys’” make some women weak at the knees (pee-pee when they see me). Likewise ‘Bad’ girls attract guys that are unsure of themselves. This dude wants to be ran, feeling as if he can’t do it for himself.

B*tches on the other hand are different, it’s fun to watch them destroy another person, and then temper that tongue when her man (who she willingly acknowledges as her better) is around.

@YES

Do you. Stay selling your product at full price. Trying to discount it will only attract ‘value shoppers’; those that know quality, know what to purchase.

abc

August 6th, 2010
9:24 am

First of all, define ‘bad boy’ and ‘bad girl’. Give some examples.

Simple man.....

August 6th, 2010
9:27 am

I wonder if anyone (other than me)is willing to admit to being that bad boy or girl???

Dan - simply...

August 6th, 2010
9:32 am

@Simple

Again, it’s relative. ‘Bad’ to one person is ‘good’ to another. One man’s trash is another man’s treasure.

I don’t think I’mma bad dude, but I’ve admittedly done bad things. Does that make me a ‘bad’ person or a person that has done ‘bad’ things.

PrincessNik.....stress free and relaxed

August 6th, 2010
9:32 am

Morning

Dirty D,

good posts, I think i pretty much agree ;)

PrincessNik.....stress free and relaxed

August 6th, 2010
9:33 am

Do you. Stay selling your product at full price. Trying to discount it will only attract ‘value shoppers’; those that know quality, know what to purchase.

Dan

I really like that statement

SlimOne

August 6th, 2010
9:34 am

GM All,

‘Stay selling your product at full price. Trying to discount it will only attract ‘value shoppers’; those that know quality, know what to purchase.’

@Dan – me likey likey ;-)

blue

August 6th, 2010
9:35 am

@Dan – “value shoppers” – :lol: , thats a good one. think ive met some of those over the years…..

DCRose

August 6th, 2010
9:40 am

I once asked a male friend why he kept dating crazy/bad/b@tches. This was after one punctured 4 tires and another climbed a tree and came into his bedroom and threatened him and new crazy/bad. He said he couldn’t help being attacted to them because he knew they would always have the best ____.

So why not stay with crazy/bad #1… because he would get worn out and would need new crazy/bad.

Yep, he’s still single, still chasing crazy/bad.

Luvbug

August 6th, 2010
9:43 am

Diana – I agree. People like what they like.

and another climbed a tree and came into his bedroom and threatened him and new crazy/bad.

DCRose – LOLOLOLOL…now that’s crazy.

kimmie

August 6th, 2010
9:45 am

Good morning! So glad it’s Friday!!!

Well it just goes to show, it’s somebody for everybody. If you want the nice, conservative, regular guy or girl – go get em. If you like more drama, that’s out there too. Just go into it with all eyes open. Don’t be complaining later on down the road when the lights get cut off, the repo man has you on speed dial, you appear on an episode of Cops or Snapped. Those are extremes, but really, don’t complain when you come home and the house is a mess and there is no hot meal on the table. You knew what you had when you married/shacked with them. And you can’t turn somebody wild and irresponsible into mr/mrs perfect husband/wife. Just not gonna happen.

Although, there is nothing wrong with everyone having an adventurous, “bad in a good way” side!

kimmie

August 6th, 2010
9:47 am

Dan – Like your “no discounts” policy!

blue

August 6th, 2010
9:48 am

@DCRose – climbing thru a tree and into his window 8O d@mn, whole new level of crazy there…

Simple man.....

August 6th, 2010
9:48 am

Dan – simply…

August 6th, 2010
9:32 am

Your point is well made, but I am speaking in more general terms..

abc

August 6th, 2010
9:49 am

From vague examples implied so far, I have to say that someone who would choose irrepsonsible, wild, unreliable, worthy of attracting the cops, etc., is just plain stupid. What’s the upside? If that’s the definition of ‘bad’ boy or girl, what could ‘bad in a good way’ possibly be?

I am whatever you say I am

August 6th, 2010
9:53 am

LMAO@ DCrose!!!
Climbing a tree! CLassic!

Luvbug

August 6th, 2010
9:55 am

Just go into it with all eyes open.

Kimmie – True.

M. (pronouced M dot)

August 6th, 2010
9:55 am

Bad girls are usually drama queens to me. Ladies who try to play that diva/mean girl card are just really corny to me. Your day is not that bad all the time that you have to have an attitude. Ill pass.

Luvbug

August 6th, 2010
9:57 am

abc – In the scenario DCRose described, maybe the upside is having his ego stroke. He’d probably be the guy who needs a ‘ride or die’ chick…someone crazy enough to express her love and commitment by stalking and fighting to win him.

Dan - simply...

August 6th, 2010
9:58 am

@Mdot

Agreed – any reference to ‘diva’ equals a pass

blue

August 6th, 2010
9:59 am

@abc – i think the definition of bad girl/guy varies, and imo depends a lot on how conservative the “good” one is. if yuor straight laced, go to work go home, dont really go out much or do much outside of work and responsibilities, someone who is more carefree, stays out late, drinks, whatever may to you be “bad”. if your a mousy type, then someone who is more confident and outspoken may be “bad”. i think a lot of times folks label others as bad because the “bad” one is more the person they want to be, or at least try, but are too afraid/cautious to be. then of course…theres the boil-your-rabbit, climb-a-tree-thru-a-window crazies :lol:

Melo

August 6th, 2010
10:00 am

When do guys stop chasing the bad girls who make their lives so unstable?

Good morning folks!

Why do men love and marry women who are “bad girls”?

u talking about girls who used to be bad girls??

coz they know how to treat a man and how to close the deal. Marrying is all about dangling the carrot(the fun stuff) and how to treat the men.

and bad girls often skip town too…..hunting on unfamiliar territory and guys who dont know much about their history……they dont marry the men who know them well…….. that they used to be “bad girls”. They use their “bad girls” experience to good use.

To get married, u got have a technique too..u cant just go out there hunting blindly with no strategy! Bad girls know that time is up to stop and chart a new slate.

Vroooom off to cali or where ever.And some of u remain in the same chomping grounds. :lol:

And i take it by u labelling somebody a “bad girl”, u consider urself a good girl.

If so,learn from the bad girls..have one 4mer bad girl on ur team.

There is one on this board. :lol:

I used to be one bad mutherfcking baaaaaaaaaaad boy as well..yes Im married too. Closed on that ddddddddddooooone dealll as well! :lol: :lol:

M. (pronouced M dot)

August 6th, 2010
10:00 am

Sidenote.

What is wrong with these new females today? I was supposed to meetup with a female for drinks last night and this is what happened:

Her: I am bringing my friend also is that ok?

Me: I am meeting up with you, why would you bring your friend?

Her: I forgot we already had plans.

Me: Well do your thing with her, I will catch you later.

kimmie

August 6th, 2010
10:01 am

He’d probably be the guy who needs a ‘ride or die’ chick…someone crazy enough to express her love and commitment by stalking and fighting to win him.

Luvbug – We talked about those types on here before. And a lot of times it’s the rather mild-mannered, clean-cut guy that is like this. I know from experience – got dumped by a guy that said he’d rather have “that” kind of girl. Hey, I wished him the best!LOL!!

abc

August 6th, 2010
10:02 am

Luvbug and DCRose, if that’s the rationale that guy would apply, I’d say he has some kind of emotional disorder, and the chicks involved really have some kind of emotional disorder. So, their ‘crazy puzzle pieces’ fit together somehow, I suppose.

I still don’t see an upside to it, though, for normal people. ‘Bad’ boys and girls are emotionally unbalanced, basically, is that it?

Spicey

August 6th, 2010
10:03 am

I have this situation, I’m involved with this awesome guy who treats me like a queen & I have no intentions of letting him go but the thing is, there is this other guy “who bones I would like to jump” sort of speak-JUST ONCE. I know there are people who is or has been in this same situation, so what did u do? No body knows who anyone is on this blog so you can be truthful. Does this make me a “bad bad girl”

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

August 6th, 2010
10:05 am

Suckers marry Bad Girls.. Or should I say Bad Girls Marry them..

Dan - simply...

August 6th, 2010
10:08 am

@Mdot

Bringing the friend? Hit me back later – good catch

@abc

Agreed.

@Spicey

Here’s the thing, you have to be adult. Make a decision (the guy you’re with or the one-time jump) and stick by it, fully informing both parties.

Dirty Diana ♠

August 6th, 2010
10:09 am

@I am :grin:
@blue how is fred
@PK wassup? What do you think about the mustang?

@DC Rose we might know of the same tree climber. Back in college my homeboy’s crazy girlfriend climb and waited for him in a dogwood tree. She was up there for about 2.5 hours. When he came back to the apt with his date she came from out tof the tree and went ham on him. We were laughing so hard, because she said, “I had to wait in that tree, while your suppose to be azz out here tricking with this trick.” He was like who made you wait in the tree he was like :shock: we saw something in the tree, but we thought it was the liquor so we did not give it much thought.

kimmie

August 6th, 2010
10:09 am

Melo – Some of your points make sense. But still you have to question those that are out with their ugliness/drama – and the dudes still marry them. There really are some guys that just like drama. I think about Bridezilla’s – but maybe that’s just for tv.

I do agree having a “fun” side does help.

Simple man.....

August 6th, 2010
10:11 am

Spicey

August 6th, 2010
10:03 am

When you say involved are you like living together commited or just exclsive dating??? If the commitment is thin, make sure the side dude can keep your business out of the street and then let him beat that thing like a rented mule!!!

DCRose

August 6th, 2010
10:11 am

@blue – that’s monkey love.

PrincessNik.....stress free and relaxed

August 6th, 2010
10:13 am

Dirty D, the mustang is cool, but the camaro is hot!

;)

Simple man.....

August 6th, 2010
10:14 am

DCRose

August 6th, 2010
10:11 am

@blue – that’s monkey love

LMAO!!!:) :)

Luvbug

August 6th, 2010
10:14 am

So, their ‘crazy puzzle pieces’ fit together somehow

Abc- Exactly. We (women who aren’t so called ride or die chicks) would hate for him to be on the market scooping up unsuspecting sane women.

I don’t know what’s considered bad for others. Bad for me is lying and cheating.

Blue – I agree. People describe it differently. Some use the label as a way to silence and attack women they don’t like or want to ‘contain’. Others use it as a badge of honor to cover up rude tendencies.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

August 6th, 2010
10:15 am

Bad Boy.. Ha thats funny.. I’ll say this.. If you have to call yourself a Bad Boy youre not.. That title is bestowed on you by the Masses..

Dirty Diana ♠

August 6th, 2010
10:15 am

And i take it by u labelling somebody a “bad girl”, u consider urself a good girl.

If so,learn from the bad girls..have one 4mer bad girl on ur team.

There is one on this board.

I used to be one bad mutherfcking baaaaaaaaaaad boy as well..yes Im married too. Closed on that ddddddddddooooone dealll as well!
Melo I agree good advice get one former bad girl on your team!

Luvbug

August 6th, 2010
10:17 am

Hey, I wished him the best!LOL!!

Kimmie – I hear ya. LOL.

Dirty Diana ♠

August 6th, 2010
10:17 am

M.dot I think she was trying to get you to treat her and her girl. A few months ago I posted something similiar where one of my male friends did not pay for the entire check in a similiar situation, and his girl was mad she felt like he emabrassed her when he did not treat her friend.