Whether we believe men and women can really be “friends” or not, the dynamics change after the two of you have made an attempt at a romantic relationship. I am always curious about those who remain friends and make it work without any old issues resurfacing.
How does the new person in your life handle the fact that you not only still speak to your ex, but they are actually a big part of your life? Do we hold on to our exes because we secretly wish for another chance?
How much access to our exes do we really need when we are dating someone new? I recently met a guy who has an annual vacation trip with his ex. I don’t know if I have any exes that I would go on vacations with but I could handle a casual friendship with a few. As it stands, I operate on the assumption that they are all miserable without me somewhere, because that’s just how big my ego is!
Would you want your ex to remain a prominent part or your life?
If you have a great relationship with an ex, did it take a while to get to that stage where you were comfortable talking to them post-breakup? I admit that breakups don’t have to be awful, but should we work harder at trying to remain friends with our exes? What could we learn if we did?