I was listening to Q100’s the Bert Show yesterday and the topic of one-night stands came up. It was pretty interesting to hear the different perspectives but I was most interested in when they mentioned how women work hard to maintain the appearance of innocence.
I can remember when I first moved to Atlanta (when I was still innocent!) and being totally surprised at how women openly talked about their sex lives. I considered it something of an enigma! Were these women talking this way to the men they date too? Well, not exactly.
No matter how “open” some women are, it is still important to a lot of single women that they have a wholesome, almost prudish image to the guys they date. Then there are others that are open and don’t care letting guys know what they like. Sidenote: A lot of my guy friends blame it on Sex and the City.
I’ll put it to you guys: Ladies, do you work at maintaining an “appearance of innocence” with the men that you date? Guys: Have you found that women still care a lot about what you think about their sexual past?
Do thinks like magic numbers, one-stands, etc. still paint a portrait of what “kind of girl” she is?
Are we ever going to get past the double standards or are they here to stay?
On the Bert Show they were debating whether a woman actually forgot or could not recall a one-night stand. They posed the question: Do women really not remember their one-night-stands or is it just a cover to preserve their “innocence”?
How much do we worry or care about what our partners think about this kind of thing?