Putting the man in ROMANTIC
Men won’t always publicly admit to wanting to be courted and romanced. They don’t have a published manifesto on how they want women to express their love. So when it comes to reciprocating the great dates that men take us on, ladies could always use a little help!
I’ve heard guys say something as simple as wearing his dress shirt is romantic to them. They don’t need grand gestures of romance! What else do men consider romantic?
How should a woman plan an evening for a man she really wants to make feel special?
Ladies, what is the best “manly” date you ever planned for someone you were dating? Guys, what is the best date you have ever had planned for you? What was the most romantic?
Happy Friday!!
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Dirty Diana ♠
July 23rd, 2010
10:40 am
Maybe I am the only lady waiting to hearing the guys tell me about the best date ever from start to finish. I want to hear about the special date from that special lady.
blue-7/30
July 23rd, 2010
10:47 am
@Leggs – sorry,im prone to rants at times, altho i am told they are usually pretty funny. been in GA 6 years, NC for 4 b4 that. sometimes this southern hospitality thing is just too much, stop talking to me on the train, im reading my book, earphones in, I DONT KNOW U, go away. and dude in the restaurant downstairs is gonna touch me one more time when all i want is french toast and he’s gonna pull back a nub, i will cut a person……
ok, i do have french toast, so i’ll be better in a minute…..
Lady-Ready.Set.Go!
July 23rd, 2010
10:47 am
I am with you DD as I lurk a bit!
East Point's Own
July 23rd, 2010
10:53 am
@Dirty Diana…. you might hae to wait a longggg time, like I said earlier, many ladies don’t really do all that much romancing other than feeding us, and maybe a massage. I am still waiting for a woman do so something different.
http://wp.me/pwPxW-qW
East Point's Own
July 23rd, 2010
10:53 am
I am still waiting for a woman to do something different.
Lady-Ready.Set.Go!
July 23rd, 2010
10:57 am
EPO you have a point bc as I typed mine it was nothing new but the small things are priceless men and men want…..more accomadating is a major theme…..it is what it is I think……communicate and enjoy each other!
abc
July 23rd, 2010
10:58 am
Chicks in restaurants get all touchy and calling you honey sweetie too, though. They act like you’re supposed to like it. Newsflash, honey sweetie, put your hands in your pockets or something, I don’t like it. Nor am I your honey sweetie, especially as you’re all of 25 years old it’s disrespectful to call me that, in my view; you may call me ’sir’, thanks very much!
blue-7/30
July 23rd, 2010
10:59 am
communication is key. i think sometimes just trying something new is important also. something different than the standard dinner and a movie, but also something different from what you’ve tried b4. french maid and naughty librarian are standard, GI WIFEY (not Jane, not shaving the head) was different lol
Raqi
July 23rd, 2010
11:04 am
Outside then in…
Go watch him play basketball on a Saturday afternoon
Help him shower once home after that game
Make him a big REAL turkey breast sandwich with white American cheese, lettuce, tomato, mayo, mustard with a side of Harvest Cheddar Sun Chips and a coke.
Fluff the pillows on the couch so his nap will be comfortable
Hand him the remote, grab my reading material of choice, sit on the couch beside him and exhale…
abc
July 23rd, 2010
11:05 am
Speaking for myself, role playing like librarian, maid or whatever is not necessary. That lasts all of 2 minutes. In fact, anything to do with sex has about nothing to do with making a man feel anything resembling romance, feeling special, and all that. Sex == love and romance is a chick thing.
That’s not to say that sex isn’t a lot better with the one special girl — it is! But it’s still just sex.
Purple Rain
July 23rd, 2010
11:08 am
Just act like you care about us every once in awhile outside of sex and feeding us, just take an interest in what we like
and we are so happy and willing to go that extra mile for you even more so.
Leggs
July 23rd, 2010
11:09 am
@Blue ~ you are funny. After awhile, you’ll embrace the southern hospitality. I found it weird when I first arrived that all these strangers were saying hello to me in supermarkets, at gas stations, everywhere. I vowed I would not use the word “Hey” as a form of greeting another. Now, it’s “hey, wassup?”
Lady-Ready.Set.Go!
July 23rd, 2010
11:11 am
Good Post PR 11:08!!!!
Off to lunch @blacktiebbq gang!!!!!
I am ready to enjoy this beautiful Friday baby!!!!!
Leggs
July 23rd, 2010
11:13 am
@PR ~ you can flip the script with that post. Women feel the same way. Act like you doing something for ME and not camouflaging it to get some “honey.”
Melo
July 23rd, 2010
11:15 am
Hey folks..hello DirtyD/Blue??
something romantic…..??
a surprise city gate away at the Ritz for a day or tow(weeekend) etc on ur dime,dinner tgether and maybe a nite of jazz etc be4 we come back to retire.
a bubble bath in the jacuzzi(wish i had one) and we frolick in there….. (sing) just the two of us) drinking some liqor
offer to take me out to the strip and put on ur most sexxy dress to spite those girls in the club and make them green with envy as they
arrange a lil some some spicy and sizzling, unbeknown to me.(wink wink..bring on some help/enhancer)…comeon girl ..go the extra mile and drain these balls dry!
dont be shy,insecure nor intimidated…
make my fav dinner,order my fav type of movie,dim/put off the lights,the wine is flowing..put on some sexxy lingerie/underwear..u not watching(I am) and just occupy urself playing with my johnson down there…..collards on deck!
lets just take a lazy day drive to Columbus GA,Chatanooga,Augusta etc, u drive,u put gas in the car as im jes sitting in the car today(doing nothing) and we just stroll the flower gardens,hand in hand….on this lazy satrday….u in the driving seat,jes spoiling and pampering me.
Juat be My BIAATCH..MY Whree,my Real Bestest Biaatch
for Jes a Day…Is that too much to ASK??
Howdee Folks and Happy Friday!!!
Purple Rain
July 23rd, 2010
11:15 am
Leggs, but today is about what men want. LOL
SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.
July 23rd, 2010
11:16 am
It’s all these *new* dudes that require all this extra, show me, love me, feel me stuff.
Not saying that I don’t go above and beyond for my guy. He’s just not so complicated that I need to bring bells and whistles every time to make it memorable.
Creativity can be simple. And sometimes what others may consider mundane can be made special.
Leggs
July 23rd, 2010
11:18 am
@PR, that’s right, carry on!
LURKS
July 23rd, 2010
11:24 am
Listen to the adulterous “Raqi” who became pregnant by someone husband give advice…hoo’s know how to please
blue-7/30
July 23rd, 2010
11:24 am
@Leggs – dont know anout that, but i guess we’ll see. We went home in May, driving thru Manhatten, almost ran a pedestrian down cause he refused to acknowledge i had the light. he slammed his hand on the hood of my car and screamed “@sshole!!!”. i looked at mr.blue and said “it feels good to be home”
@melo – hola. i like this one – offer to take me out to the strip and put on ur most sexxy dress to spite those girls in the club and make them green with envy as they . did that once and girls were asking where i bought my shoes. hilarious. top it off that we ran into some of his friends, their going “dude your married, your wife let you come here?” and he’s all “um, yeah im married, thats my wife at the table. we’re trying to come up with a price for her shoes”. their all
. priceless
Raqi
July 23rd, 2010
11:27 am
Outside….
Pick him up from work or have everything laid out for him to shower and change when he gets home.
Early reservation for his favorite restaurant
Go Dancing. He likes when we go dancing.
Take him home and pounce him the second we step into the house.
Kym
July 23rd, 2010
11:28 am
Okay 70 comments..Okay proof again men are not that complex.
Leggs
July 23rd, 2010
11:28 am
he slammed his hand on the hood of my car and screamed “@sshole!!!”. i looked at mr.blue and said “it feels good to be home”
Before reading the ending of that sentence I knew you would say that. When I’m in the taxi going home from the airport I roll down the window and listen to “the sounds of NY” smiling. I love it, love it! Esp. sitting on the stoop listening to all the “hey Mami’s”, Hey Papi’s and eating my Spanish food!
Dirty Diana ♠
July 23rd, 2010
11:29 am
@Lady I hear you! I will probably lurk a bit too, because I want a little reality and not candyland.
@EPO, and the other fellas, you all say we don’t cook. So now we cook for you and it is not outside the norm, because you received that in your last relationship. I am not your homeboy for the most part…I will go to the court and play horse with you are shoot a little pool, but if I am doing my female thingy it will involve food. After all it is one of the requirements for survival. With that said…I have done the day trips, in one of my relationships we both took a vacation day that Friday and we just hung out no agenda just doing things we both enjoyed. I have posted on here before the picnic in front of the fireplace etc.
@Melo thanks for the 11:15 at least you said what you want…the day trips you want us to drive…and fill up the gas tank on our dime. You gave some good info.
I am a planner for the most part so if I am treating a guy to something special a lot of time and thought went into it…down to the last details. Plus, I like to do little special gifts that have meaning. Shoot I already have my Christmas list made.
Purple Rain
July 23rd, 2010
11:29 am
Respect and appreciate me, that’s all this man needs.
Leggs
July 23rd, 2010
11:30 am
This Fanta Orange Icee is the bomb. Didn’t even know they made them.
SlimOne & dragging
July 23rd, 2010
11:31 am
Howdy….the trolls are out early I see. Or is it now considered late? Aye dios mio
Leggs
July 23rd, 2010
11:32 am
A man dressed as Darth Vader robs NY bank. No one messes with Darth Vader.
blue-7/30
July 23rd, 2010
11:34 am
@Kym – LMAO. was thinking that when PR said its about the guys…their not saying a whole lot, and mostly just repeating themselves, food, sex, do what i want to do. seems pretty simplistic
@Leggs – exactly. sitting on the stoop watching the block #1 New York pasttime lol…..”the sounds of NY” – give me car horns nto crickets lol. those d@mn crickets took forever to get used to. and whats really funny, down here my allergies go crazy, the closer we get to home (we usually drive, i like to drive) the better they get. apparently im allergic to trees and nature, give me smog and im fine lol…..im homesick now….
blue-7/30
July 23rd, 2010
11:36 am
@Leggs – Darth was also wearing cami pants and a blue cape. hes prepared to blend in, fly away or use “the force”. agreed, no one messes with Darth Vader
Raqi
July 23rd, 2010
11:39 am
And I am still doing better than you, trick.
Melo
July 23rd, 2010
11:40 am
@DirtyD??
im my household,the woman dont drive when we go on trips..i do, i fill the gas etc..al they do is sleep…
I dont mind being appreciated just one day if she says,”I got this..jes sit tight” and she does all that needs to be done……its romantic to me.
Its the same as me cooking dinner on occassion..they cant wait to eat my 5*****servings!
Dirty Diana ♠
July 23rd, 2010
11:41 am
Melo, Purple and the rest of the fellas,
Do you all want your woman to drink with you? I am just asking because I am not a big drinker and I do not see the value, but I have had men to ask me about drinking more
Dirty Diana ♠
July 23rd, 2010
11:43 am
Melo,
That makes sense because most of the time we (women) rely on the man to drive. Even when we BBQ, we will do the sides and maybe marinate the meet, but I have seen men on the grill for “Father’s Day.” You made a good point if we are treating him treat him all the way take away the stress and let him relax totally.
Purple Rain
July 23rd, 2010
11:44 am
Diana, she drinks more than I do. I may drink once a month she has wine weekly. I don’t want to see my woman drinking out of a beer bottle, ever.
East Point's Own
July 23rd, 2010
11:44 am
@Dirty Diana DOn’t try to relate things that are different topics.
#1 At least half of the women I have met as an adult can’t cook, or can’t cook well
#2 The only dates that women have planned for me have always been either her cooking or taking me out to eat…
Those are two very different issues. I am not complaining about women who cook, at all… I am saying that women can do some other things to show a man a good time too, Why can’t a woman plan an out of town trip for us? why can’t a woman buy us tickets to go somewhere?(I like plays, concerts, amusement parks, and activities too) Why can’t a woman plan an outdoors trip (kayak, canoe, horse back, hiking, biking, etc) and invite me so all I have to do is show up and have fun??? I put a lot of effort into showing my mate a good time (when I have one.. its nice to see that she is able to be creative and take some initiative at times too). There have been times when I offered to pay for the date if the woman would just plan something for us to do… but what did I get??? You guessed it, dinner. But yet SOME women will talk trash about a guy who steps to her offering a dinner date, saying that’s old or played out… but they can’t do any better.
After dating a man for weeks or months you should have an idea of what he likes or what interests him… try planning something other than food and/or sex, pretty much those are the things we want on a daily basis so a date should be something different.
http://wp.me/pwPxW-qW
Trevor0529
July 23rd, 2010
11:50 am
Do you all want your woman to drink with you? I am just asking because I am not a big drinker and I do not see the value, but I have had men to ask me about drinking more
@DD, she does not have to. If she wishes to have a cocktail, then thats fine. For me, her just wanting to hang and converse with me is the most important thing.
Purple Rain
July 23rd, 2010
11:52 am
Don’t be predictable. If you have something planned, I should not automatically know what it is. LOL
blue-7/30
July 23rd, 2010
11:54 am
@PR – good point. was wondering if guys are into surprises or if that is also a female thing.
and Fred has been completely unmanageable today, what did you do to him?
Dirty Diana ♠
July 23rd, 2010
11:55 am
@EPO- My conclusion is this you have dated women with either limited ideas, budgets or something, but there were limitations there. I do a lot of horseback riding especially spring and fall. I even took a guy riding once that was a newbie. Most of the ladies on here are always talking about doing something “nice” and outside of the box for their man. Lady made a good post about dinner and the cigar bar. Kimmieeven made a picnic basket and included tickets to a concert in the basket. The list goes on…that is why I say you dated women with limitations i.e. thinking, funds, creativity etc.
I am not trying to relate two different topics. This is a dating blog and the post today is about putting the man in romantic. With that said most of the guys in here (like the women) you have dated cannot even tell us about a good date, or they really don’t care enough to recognize it if they see one.
Melo
July 23rd, 2010
11:57 am
I don’t want to see my woman drinking out of a beer bottle, ever
@DirtyD??
thats me too..no beer for my woman..if she drinks beer im not dating her seriously!
I want her to sip on some wine,some magarittas are OK….thats cool and lady like..women who drink beer like men put me off.All that sloppiness,weak knees and wide open thighs..not cool…
dont be pressured by a guy to drink what u have never drunk be4..thats a molestation move…coz they want to take advantage when the liqor kncks u off….liqor will handle a regular differently than it does a starter.
Dirty Diana ♠
July 23rd, 2010
11:57 am
Hey Trevor!!!!!!!!!!!!
How is school going?
Dirty Diana ♠
July 23rd, 2010
12:01 pm
dont be pressured by a guy to drink what u have never drunk be4..thats a molestation move
@Melo,
I feel the same way and my daddy always told me not to leave a drink and keep the drinking to a very low amount and only drink what I know if I must drink. He told me to always be sound enough to make a decision (good decision that is).
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
July 23rd, 2010
12:01 pm
Cowards on the blog still change their name to make snide remarks.. Ya’ll kill me.. Ive told ya’ll before its not like you can be smacked thru the computer screen..
East Point's Own
July 23rd, 2010
12:02 pm
@ Dirty Diana All I am talking about is women I have met…
@Trevor0529 I would find it hard to date a women who does not drink at all… I mean who wants to have someone drinking water while you get tipsy? and often times that becomes an issue, becase a lot of folks who don’t drink have a problem when you have more than 1 or 2 beers a week.
Raqi
July 23rd, 2010
12:04 pm
Infamous can I trust you to post your email so I can ask your opinion about something? LOL
blue-7/30
July 23rd, 2010
12:05 pm
@Diana@Melo – rules to follow. if im drinking, its only when i have at least one person with me that i feel comfortable has my back should i somehow take leave of my senses or am approached by someone else who has taken leave of theirs. no getting sloppy drunk at a bar or party by myself or with someone i just met. danger will ensue.
East Point's Own
July 23rd, 2010
12:08 pm
@Trevor0529 The real problem is finding someone in the middle a lot of women I meet either don’t drink at all, or they need to have a few drinks to get out of bed in the morning… I am not really feeling either extreme… but somewhere in the middle is perfect…
Dirty Diana ♠
July 23rd, 2010
12:12 pm
@Trevor, Melo, Purple and blue thanks for answering my drinking question!
I would think it shouldn’t matter to a secure man…I see your point regarding the beer…LOL
Melo
July 23rd, 2010
12:13 pm
I meet either don’t drink at all, or they need to have a few drinks to get out of bed in the morning
@EPO….seems like u either fishing in church and then go to the other extreme and fish at the club,for chics who are in there week in and week out..
find a happy medium and fish at other gatherings,maybe that could help.
if u date a chic and uall are drinkers..whose gonna drive uall home??