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Putting the man in ROMANTIC

Men won’t always publicly admit to wanting to be courted and romanced. They don’t have a published manifesto on how they want women to express their love. So when it comes to reciprocating the great dates that men take us on, ladies could always use a little help!

I’ve heard guys say something as simple as wearing his dress shirt is romantic to them. They don’t need grand gestures of romance! What else do men consider romantic?

How should a woman plan an evening for a man she really wants to make feel special?

Ladies, what is the best “manly” date you ever planned for someone you were dating? Guys, what is the best date you have ever had planned for you? What was the most romantic?

Happy Friday!!

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Purple Rain

July 23rd, 2010
8:13 am

Purple Rain

July 23rd, 2010
8:15 am

This topic makes me feel weird. LOL

blue-7/30

July 23rd, 2010
8:17 am

GM all, TGIF.

@PR – is this a daily competition to see whos first?

2CPTG©----Makin' you want me!

July 23rd, 2010
8:25 am

Good Morning, folks…

“How should a woman plan an evening for a man she really wants to make feel special?”
Feel him out, learn his tastes, then dig deep inside your bag of tricks and “woo” him by letting him know you’ve paid attention, and go from there….shoot, it could be as simple as a theme based date, in which you base it around what you’ve learned about him…it can be a seasonal thing, or whatever; just let him know – “I’ve been checking you out!”

Purple Rain

July 23rd, 2010
8:42 am

We have a topic about what a man wants, and I have nothing to say. Stage Fright. LOL

Lovely

July 23rd, 2010
8:44 am

Oh Love – As I continue my talks with him, I become aware that, in my heart, a window is opening.

blue-7/30

July 23rd, 2010
8:47 am

@2CPTG – the best manly date i ever planned was along those lines. knowing what he was interested in and not being afraid to cross gender lines.
he knew we were going out, but didnt know where. he dropped me at work that morning, me wearing my regular office attire, picked me up im wearing biker boots with my fitted T and hip hugging jeans. surprised him with tix to WWE (wrestling his favorite thing). and with my attractive but stadium friendly clothes, i kept his eye just as much as the show. cap the night off with pizza and beer, a roll on the couch, and he was addicted ;)
maybe its that type of thing that gets me treated as one of the guys, lol

Flavor

July 23rd, 2010
8:49 am

Coming from a white guy who prefers his flavor dark- what would you lovely ladies like from us?

Kym

July 23rd, 2010
8:53 am

Good Morning All,

Yeahhhh I am going to lurk on this one..

@Purple Rain..maybe you are so use to us telling you what you like..you have forgotten…LMAO!

Rob

July 23rd, 2010
8:54 am

I would say the greatest thing on a date is for a woman to be bold and honest. Whether its the first or 100th just having someone willing to say what they actually mean or want is refreshing. Most guys will tell you that we wont bite (unless you are into that kinda thing), but we would like to know what you really want. If you like us, tell us… if you dont, just tell us! I will be the first guy to admit that we aren’t complicated creatures….in fact most of us are borderline retarded when it comes to dealing with women. We aren’t mind readers, magicians (usually), or overly receptive about what you call signals! Just step up and let it fly….we like it!

Purple Rain

July 23rd, 2010
8:59 am

Kym, you have a point :)

i'm swiss™ (from the airport -- headed in the right direction)

July 23rd, 2010
9:06 am

“They don’t have a published manifesto on how they want women to express their love.”

Maybe not a manifesto, but there are some pretty simple, yet tried-and-true techniques:

♥ Frequent nookie

♥ Cook for me occasionally

♥ Let me watch the game

↑ That’s a pretty darn good start…. ;-) :lol:

Oh, and good morning, peeps! You boy swiss is finally headed back to town… :-D

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 23rd, 2010
9:06 am

Perfect Date… Feed Me, Sexually Molest Me and be quiet.. Oh and good morning everyone.. Ive missed you so..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 23rd, 2010
9:08 am

2 – Whats crackalackin Patna??

blue-7/30

July 23rd, 2010
9:08 am

@Kym – lol, there is that.
@Rob – most of us are borderline retarded when it comes to dealing with women. – lol. see what your saying about say what you mean, have heard that many times.

YESSHEISCUTE

July 23rd, 2010
9:11 am

I have a dude that loves cars what should I tie an O’Reilly Auto Parts gift card to my naked body? I’m clueless.

Brian

July 23rd, 2010
9:12 am

My wife often makes a clear effort to involve herself in my outdoor activities. I am a avid mountain biker, and a year ago or so she expressed interest in trying it. I went out and bought her a bike, and now it is an activity we both throughly enjoy and together. I also tend to play a lot of golf, and she has made an effort to be a part of that. Clearly i do not want my wife with me every time i decide to go play golf or even ride my bike, but it is incredibly nice of her to stretch her boundaries and try something new because she knows i have a passion for it. So, to answer the question my wife will often make it a point to suggest we do these things without my having to make her go and we end up enjoying it way more than dinner and a movie or any other kind of ‘classic’ date.

Purple Rain

July 23rd, 2010
9:14 am

Brian, she is a winner

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 23rd, 2010
9:15 am

Yes – If he loved cars you missed the perfect Op.. The Cars at the High were machine works of Art they may not ever be seen again in that capacity.. Hey Plan a trip to the SEMA show or the Barrett Jackson Auto Auction… It is heaven for a car lover.. I havent been to the Auction in Arizona but I have been to the one in Fla and I had multiple orgasms standing there.. And the SEMA show is a must go every year..

blue-7/30

July 23rd, 2010
9:15 am

@Swiss/Infamous – sounds like yall agree with Chris Rock: men want food, sex, and silence.

YESSHEISCUTE

July 23rd, 2010
9:17 am

THANKS INFAMOUS! :)

blue-7/30

July 23rd, 2010
9:18 am

and todays morning quote shall be:

If at first you don’t succeed then skydiving definitely isn’t for you
Author Unknown

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 23rd, 2010
9:19 am

Blue – A roll on the couch is always excellent and its funny your dude is hilarious for still watching the WWF

i'm swiss™ (from the airport -- headed in the right direction)

July 23rd, 2010
9:21 am

“I have a dude that loves cars what should I tie an O’Reilly Auto Parts gift card to my naked body? I’m clueless.”

Not a bad start… Then you could douse yourself in 10W-40 and let him put his piston in your cylinder… :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 23rd, 2010
9:23 am

Swiss – I was trying to give her something different.. The easy thing would be to cook him breakfast Saturday morning, turn on Horsepower TV on Spike and give him a presidential while he watches after he eats..

M. (pronuoced M dot)

July 23rd, 2010
9:25 am

How should a woman plan an evening for a man she really wants to make feel special?

I think a woman should feel him out according to what he likes to do but maybe throw in a curve ball.

Guys, what is the best date you have ever had planned for you? What was the most romantic?

I think the best date that was planned for me was a low stress day of doing what I liked. We were in NY so we went to sports bars, watched games, drank beer and just hung out. I didnt feel like I couldnt be myself. It was simple but no arguments and trust me that was good enough for me!

Ladies, thats all guys really want is a comfort level and peace of mind. The most romantic would probably be just hanging out and her cooking but also ladies I know everyone cant cook so just come up with a unique place to go and make it a long night!

abc

July 23rd, 2010
9:26 am

If you plan a date that really appeals to a man, chances are he won’t think of it in terms of being ‘romantic’. He’ll figure that yall got to do something that he actually thinks is fun for a change.

Whenever a chick has turned up wearing my shirt, she has stolen the shirt! I’ve lost a lot of shirts that way. Not so romantic.

If you want to make someone feel special, give them a massage. You can go out-out with candles and oils, or go with a foot rub — and don’t expect anything in return. Do it because you really want to. If you don’t really want to, the massage will suck, and will be wasted effort.

Cook their favorite meal. If you don’t know what that is, ask him. If he doesn’t tell you, ask his mother.

If you ask them what they’d like for their birthday, give it to him no matter how stupid you think it is. He’ll say something like “I’ve asked for that for 10 years and nobody ever took me seriously!” It’ll make a good impression.

Hunniebeezee

July 23rd, 2010
9:31 am

@flavor, I enjoy participating in the abundance of activities that are held here in Atlanta. There is a “Sip & Paint” studio that is nice here in ATL. Thats why it is necessary to get to know the person that you are interested in. Communication is the key.

Melo

July 23rd, 2010
9:32 am

@swiss..stupid!

Then you could douse yourself in 10W-40 and let him put his piston in your cylinder… :lol:

blue-7/30

July 23rd, 2010
9:36 am

@abc – lol. and if she gives the shirt back, still not feeling it? was wondering about the romantic thing tho. do guys even think in those terms for themselves. when planning for their woman “she’ll think this is romanic” but do you think that way about what you want? do you even want romance?

Lady-Ready.Set.Go!

July 23rd, 2010
9:37 am

Happy Leo Season to my fellow LEO Bloggers baby!!!!!! ;)

Happy Friday Gang!!!!! :)

Have a great weekend folks!!!!! :)

Best manly date hmmmmmmmm——-Dinner @ his fav spot, Cigar Bar in the Highlands, etc……………..lol

Peace!

i'm swiss™ (from the airport -- headed in the right direction)

July 23rd, 2010
9:39 am

In general, guys don’t need romance — that’s something women need as part of foreplay… We’re cool with it & all (well, some of us are), but if you’re catering to us, it’s not necessary. Just show up nekkid — that’s all the romance we need… :lol:

Dirty Diana ♠

July 23rd, 2010
9:40 am

Hola!

On Topic: If I like him, I will listen to him and try to add a little sunshine to his life. With that said I go from there. I have done all sorts of things based on the guys interest and situation. My ex had a very demanding job, and he worked from home sometimes which made working late the norm. So he texted me he was still on a conference call we had dinner plans for later that evening. I knew he was tired from the long day, so I told him not to sweat anything I would come to his house. Well I brought over, wine, fruit, dinner, dessert and lit a few candles. Once he finished up the call, showered and came downstairs I had everything set up.

I feel like you should just know your partner and everything will work out fine.

blue-7/30

July 23rd, 2010
9:44 am

@Infamous – not all guys like that cr@p? lmao. i dont get it either but its his thing. i watch it with him sometimes, usually end up crying into a pillow cause im laughing so hard, but he likes when we watch it together, so hey im making an effort right? lol

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 23rd, 2010
9:45 am

Romance for us is not ya’ll romance.. we dont need all the over the top melodramatic S that ya’ll so love.. Its oh so simple. A romantic evening for me would be for me to come over dinner is cooked, Fix a dude a drink, have fresh undies laid out, bath drawn (cause most dudes take showers), Iron my clothes or have a freshly dry cleaned clothes out and just take care of me like a woman is supposed to.. Cater to me make sure Im alright because we are always making sure women are alright that alot of times women forget to make sure we are good.. Do all the stuff your Granny would do for your Grand Dad and that is a perfect evening..

Purple Rain

July 23rd, 2010
9:48 am

Just show a genuine interest and put some effort into what we like.

Dirty Diana ♠

July 23rd, 2010
9:48 am

Wassup Blue, Melo,Purple, swiss and the rest of the gang!

Coming from a white guy who prefers his flavor dark- what would you lovely ladies like from us?

flavor, what the hell I will bite. First of all, although you have a preference you have to realize we are women just like any other race. Our gender is the same just different color. We I would really want someone to get to know me for me without all of the sterotypes etc. Now I am only speaking from my point of view, and I am not the spokeswoman for the entire black women poplulation. With that said get to know the sister you are with, because we are all different.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 23rd, 2010
9:50 am

Blue – Umm No its just like the soap operas..

Purple Rain

July 23rd, 2010
9:52 am

Diana, how ya doin’?

Dirty Diana ♠

July 23rd, 2010
9:53 am

Purple, I am fine what about you?

blue-7/30

July 23rd, 2010
9:54 am

hey Diana, happy friday!

@Infamous – thats what i say, a grown mans soap opera. he says something about watching it since he was a kid. guess its got some nostalgia attached. i dont know, i dont even watch regular soap operas,so sometimes i just cant hack it.

Purple Rain

July 23rd, 2010
9:54 am

It’s Friday and cocktail cove is calling :)

abc

July 23rd, 2010
10:01 am

Blue, I never have gotten one back, but I never thought a chick wearing one of my dress shirts was all that. As others have stated, none of that is really all that appealing to a man. Clothing that suggests that it can come off quickly has its appeal, but the clothing itself is just a hank of cloth.

I think that if you wanted a statement of what would universally appeal to a man, you could say “Acts of service that demonstrate exclusive caring and loyalty”. That, and look hot.

East Point's Own

July 23rd, 2010
10:24 am

I must say that I have never had a woman plan any date for me that was anything other than some form of meal, either she cooked, or she took me out to eat… I can’t recall ever experiencing a woman do anything other than that. But its not too late, I am taking applicants to try to top that, don’t all you ladies step up at once… one at a time please.

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I am whatever you say I am

July 23rd, 2010
10:26 am

Guys are not as complicated as women think they are.
You don’t have to go over the top to be romantic. Sometimes the simple goes a long way.
Men like to feel appreciated. His favorite meal home-cooked waiting for him when he gets off work,
a sexy random text (or even sexy random pic),
simply feeling the guy out, learning his likes, and then accomodating; that’s what guys like.

blue-7/30

July 23rd, 2010
10:33 am

ok side rant – i am a New Yorker. We are not all crazy and rude just because we are from the North. However, we do not find it necessary for random people we dont know to speak to us and expect us to be friendly. Also, just because we do speak from time to time does not mean you now need to touch me when we talk. no hands n the shoulder or hugs hello. Just Stop It……

ok back to regularly scheduled program –
@abc – suggesting easy access clothes?

Leggs

July 23rd, 2010
10:35 am

Good morning to all!!

@blue ~ yes, we feel special when we’re FIRST (lol).

@Brian ~ no doubt you have a caring, good woman standing beside you.

@I am ~ you took the words out of my mouth. Men love to feel appreciated…that’s sexy to them.

I once planned a romantice seafood dinner that bomb! I put a lot of preparation into it and perhaps that was one of my problems!

Raqi

July 23rd, 2010
10:36 am

Let’s see roMANce in my aboard???

In house:

1. Find a babysitter. LOL

2. Make sure his favorite robe is freshly laundered and tumbled.

3. Make his favorite meal modified into a finger food version so I can feed it to him after his bath.

4. A nice bath with some relaxing scent candles burning.

5. Wash his hair for him giving him a nice scalp and temple massage.

6. After the bath get him settle on a nice comfy couch where he can put his feet up.

7. Feed him his favorite meal and dessert.

8. Give him a nice full body oil rub.

9. Whatever he wants to do after that (i.e. Fall asleep, watch tv, or get busy)

10. :grin:

Out of the house romance idea coming up…

Raqi

July 23rd, 2010
10:38 am

Danggit…Abode.

Leggs

July 23rd, 2010
10:40 am

I’m hollering, blue…how long have you been here?