The art of great first dates
Far be it from me to complain about the precious few dates so far this summer. I never want to appear rude or anything but I have to send a public service announcement out:
First dates can make or break your potential romance.
Yeah, I know this seems like a no-brainer, but ask any single person about their most disastrous dates ever. Chances are they were on the one (and only) first date that failed miserably.
I have wondered why there is so much pressure to impress on a first date. You don’t have to really go all out on some grand gesture. Nor should you pluck ideas from these ridiculous reality tv dating shows.
You know what works best? Normal. No, really! Doing something you have already found to be enjoyable and pleasant. No surprises. No gimmicks. A perfectly normal activity or past time you like to do, but with someone you are really really attracted to.
The more normal the date, the less distracted you are. This way, you can catch any crazy behavior or horrendous manners that the date may display. You could also discover what a complete joy they are to be around.
So let’s dissect first dates today. What is the art of a great first date in your book?
What first date rituals do you go through to increase your chances of being relaxed and ready to charm?
What should you absolutely avoid on a first date?
Do your part people! There are innocent single people being subjected to awful, no good first dates and it is up to us to help them.
Happy Friday!
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SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.
July 16th, 2010
2:35 pm
If there were no big words, it wouldn’t be Dan and it would be someone posing as Dan.
i'm swiss™
July 16th, 2010
2:38 pm
Lady J — I’ve never spent 2 hours at the QT, but I’ve spent hours at the CT on many occasions…
Luvbug
July 16th, 2010
2:39 pm
Luvbug, I can’t really speak to what you may or may not have thought my persona was all about. I’m just words on a screen here. I stand by whatever I’ve said, though.
abc – Fair enough. Not that you care or should care, but neither interpretation I have of you is bad. I’ll just skip past any future bible scriptures you post.
Man, yall have been typing…I’ll see if i can catch up.
2CPTG©-----hunches on the first date!
July 16th, 2010
2:39 pm
Afternoon, all…..
Don’t most women say/agree that they know immediately whether or not they wanna fvck you? Analogous (big word?)to the old saying, that a man can talk himself outta the draws, if you know she’s feelin you, then why not play it cool and get some???? Nine times outta ten, if she’s in her sexual prime, she’s ready anyway!!!!
SlimOne
July 16th, 2010
2:40 pm
‘but I’ve spent hours at the CT on many occasions…’
Swiss gets the FABULOUS FREAKY FRIDAY BLog Award…..
Lady-Resilient!!
July 16th, 2010
2:40 pm
swiss you are a NUT!!!!!!!! i mean meeting someone and the convo goes from one subject to the next and its engaging convo and before you know it time has passed lets say hmmmm hour and 15min lmbao!
Lady-Resilient!!
July 16th, 2010
2:41 pm
hmmmmmmmm…………………………………
Willie Dynamite
July 16th, 2010
2:43 pm
Afternoon All,
peeking in just for a moment. Too much to even try and read.
Lady-Resilient!!
July 16th, 2010
2:44 pm
i guess the point i am making is when you least expect it and not even thinking about it or trying to floss to meet n greet someone is always noticing the true you per se……hmmmmmm yall i am just talking out loud disregard me i need rest……lol
czBrat
July 16th, 2010
2:44 pm
I rarely pull an undercover thug either…average in character
those who are truly straight-laced steer clear.
luvbug, i think i get that because of my tats. the fearless corporate guys think i’m a closet freak
now, how do you define the average pool?
Dig That
July 16th, 2010
2:46 pm
@2- Nail on the head. They usually know from jump if you getting it.
Dig That
July 16th, 2010
2:46 pm
@Lady- 2 hours at the QT? How did that turn out?
2CPTG©-----hunches on the first date!
July 16th, 2010
2:48 pm
“They usually know from jump if you getting it.”
yep, so all you gotta do is roll wit’ it….and look forward to the “after-party”!
Lady-Resilient!!
July 16th, 2010
2:48 pm
i am pondering it know dig that it was good convo though……..how are you doing buddy?
Luvbug
July 16th, 2010
2:48 pm
Staaaaaaanley
Steeeeeeeeeeamer
Come out and plaaaayaaa !!!!
(Luvbug now clinging two small porcelain cats together)
Lady-Resilient!!
July 16th, 2010
2:49 pm
2 i so don’t want to say you are correct buddy close your ears lmbao
SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.
July 16th, 2010
2:50 pm
Two hours?!?! At a gas pump?!?!
Dig That
July 16th, 2010
2:50 pm
Wat up Lady. Everything good mama.
Lady-Resilient!!
July 16th, 2010
2:53 pm
ummmmm don’t focus on the time but time had pass for the both of us as we chatted……just like meeting someone on asle 3 in the store and chatting……..
2CPTG©-----hunches on the first date!
July 16th, 2010
2:54 pm
Lady R…yeen gotta say it, I already know….cause, “logically, we learning these gals biology, and obviously, well…..”
Leggs
July 16th, 2010
2:56 pm
(Luvbug now clinging two small porcelain cats together) – Priceless!
Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)
July 16th, 2010
2:56 pm
Kym
July 16th, 2010
2:58 pm
LMAO @ Luvbug..not your china cats..girl..those are the ones..you imaginary grandkids bought you!!! LMAO
Dig That
July 16th, 2010
2:58 pm
@2- and you were right on point about the other part too. Dudes act like I’m their hero because how I handle my biz and the results, and ask what do I do. That I can’t really answer. It is a mastered art, but not sure of the formula. I roll with it. And when I observe I LMAO because I watch so many other cats talk themselves right out of the booty. Had it and lost it.
@Lady- We meet people in the strangest places. It sounds like a good start if you hit it off like that. What do you think kept the pursuit from going further?
Melo
July 16th, 2010
2:58 pm
meeting someone on asle 3 in the store and chatting……..
@Lady??
is that a new new u just met…i hear u on that.
most times when the convo rolls like that, its a good set up for the next date..thats when u can expect to hit them draws on count tow(2),unless u don slip real bad.
2CPTG©-----hunches on the first date!
July 16th, 2010
2:59 pm
oh, and Willie D…I know it’s been awhile, but ummm, ‘member that lil wager we had goin….”For Real” owes us some money!!!!!
i'm swiss™
July 16th, 2010
3:04 pm
“Swiss gets the FABULOUS FREAKY FRIDAY BLog Award…”
Thanks, Slim. But why is this trophy shaped like a big, floppity, run-through labia?
DreamsMaterialize
July 16th, 2010
3:05 pm
What do you think kept the pursuit from going further?
Man I talked myself outta the booty. I think it was the part when I said “So, we been talking for 2 hours at pump #7. You need to let me pump mo’ than ya gas.” Lady?
Lady-Resilient!!
July 16th, 2010
3:05 pm
thanks dig that and not sure…..
melo hot mess and ok!
Luvbug
July 16th, 2010
3:05 pm
now, how do you define the average pool?
now, how do you define the average pool?
cBrat – He generally falls within the majority average in career, character and looks. Like most of us, he may lie, fall short or be annoying in a mild way from time to time, but doesn’t swing out of the statistical norm on most accounts.
For me, it’s ranged from some college to degree…average ride to lower luxury…national average income to slightly above…lies here and there to cheated…low key to professional social…none violent…average looks 6-8. They couldn’t fit in a street or corporate gang.
Outside of that, a couple of braggers turned away early on.
Melo
July 16th, 2010
3:06 pm
How about a pool party in summer like this..its too hot out there people.Any establishement out there hosting one??
with a pool party, with folks dressed in swim gear,u get to do the screeening all at once and completely so u dont even have to do date 2 if u arent feeling the nekked parts.
Lady-Resilient!!
July 16th, 2010
3:06 pm
dreamsM too funny men are men…….
Willie Dynamite
July 16th, 2010
3:08 pm
2Can – yeah its been awhile. Hope all is good on your end. Mayne, I asked 4Real bout my money and that fool ducked out and took off on me. Done changed his name and went into hiding. HaHaHa
Luvbug
July 16th, 2010
3:09 pm
thats when u can expect to hit them draws on count tow(2),unless u don slip real bad.
MeLO, mElo, MELO!! LOL
2CPTG©-----hunches on the first date!
July 16th, 2010
3:11 pm
Willie D, all is well ’round my way….trynna make a power move so I can get back to Atlanta on a full time basis….
SlimOne
July 16th, 2010
3:12 pm
‘But why is this trophy shaped like a big, floppity, run-through labia?’
Swiss – well you know we just pass the trophy around for the next winner…Melo had it last…so you might not want to know. LOL
DreamsMaterialize
July 16th, 2010
3:13 pm
Lady How you doin’ today? you ready for the weekend?
2C, WillieD what’s good man.
Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)
July 16th, 2010
3:15 pm
Awww “The Steamer” never came back to make us laugh,huh? Hope he didn’t die alone sumwhere….
Have a good weekend y’all.
Willie Dynamite
July 16th, 2010
3:19 pm
2Can – Good Look, handle ya biz man.
DreamsMat – wassup Man, you still holding it down in here. I’m good on my end.
Lady-Resilient!!
July 16th, 2010
3:19 pm
dreamsM I am fine yep ready to jam to some good music and go to savannah tomorrow and enjoy….it has been a good summer….how are you doing?
Dirty Diana 101° ♠
July 16th, 2010
3:22 pm
ummmmm don’t focus on the time but time had pass for the both of us as we chatted……just like meeting someone on asle 3 in the store and chatting……..
Lady it sounds like you two hit if off
Melo, wassup with you and this pool party. Usually we don’t let the married misters come to those types of gatherings.
@Dig that how are ya’?
Melo
July 16th, 2010
3:22 pm
Melo had it last…so you might not want to know. LOL
@SlimOne??
not me!!
why u think Swiss is asking about the trophy run_ thru condition.His Johnson is in it as we speak.
He is the self proclaimmed SelfPleazer..didnt u read his morning pronouncements??
His now trying to see if u have some spare wet blankets so he can shove them in there to tighten his wang grip.. otherwise he defaults to his usual Pleazerself.
i'm swiss™
July 16th, 2010
3:24 pm
Wet blankets….? Not a bad idea…
Melo
July 16th, 2010
3:25 pm
Usually we don’t let the married misters
@Diana..observation only sweetie…
I do the Clinton if u invite me..
See and stare but dont touch nor pleasure urself any other way!!
Lady-Resilient!!
July 16th, 2010
3:25 pm
we will see chica logic over emotions………lololol
Dig That
July 16th, 2010
3:27 pm
Wassup Dirty. I’m good. Same Shyt Different Toilet Stool.
Dig That
July 16th, 2010
3:30 pm
@Lady- How long are you going to be in Savannah?
i'm swiss™
July 16th, 2010
3:31 pm
Hot Pocket
Lady-Resilient!!
July 16th, 2010
3:36 pm
i will be back first thing monday morning to be a work on time lol………….
Lady-Resilient!!
July 16th, 2010
3:39 pm
ok good people off to chastain!!!!! have a great weekend folks!
peace!