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Dating: Time to break your deal breakers?

Single people we need a reality check. I include myself because I have been guilty of adhering to random dating deal breakers. Funny how I seem to meet someone really great who I have chemistry with but hit the brakes (no pun) when there is an issue with something about them.

It’s not just about having a “type” we like to say we prefer, it’s more than that. We extend our “I don’t do” lists so far that we talk ourselves out of a potential…something. We never find out what that something is because we don’t let it go further. We figure the deal breaker is protecting us from heartbreak, disappointment, confusion. Um, yeah… how’s that working out for you? (Said in my best Dr. Phil voice)

So let’s reconsider some deal breakers that we have that probably don’t really belong on a list of reasons to rule out someone, shall we? I will go first:

I never dated someone unemployed. Now, I am not trolling Georgia Department of Labor for dates or anything. I would however, give a guy a second look if he seems like a kind person. Circumstances arise that may cause some people to be in transition. Does that mean they aren’t dateable?

Ok, your turn. What dating deal breaker are you willing to reevaluate?

A quick poll of my single friends and I found that their deal breakers included: someone with full custody of their children; someone less educated; someone unfit or doesn’t work out regularly. What do you think? Are these legit or kind of ridiculous?

It’s almost as if we are meeting and dating, but when we spot a “human” thing, we just check out on the date or relationship.  Then less effort is made to take things further.  I can speak intelligently about this because I have done this too many times than I even want to admit to myself, let along you guys.  I am working on it though, this counts for something, right? Personal growth points maybe? It’s all part of the dating process, I think. Live and learn.

I just think that single men and women could both use a healthy dose of humility. Do you believe that men are more willing to overlook their “deal breakers” then women? Wait, do men still have dating deal breakers!?

Happy Thursday!

430 comments Add your comment

Kimmy

July 15th, 2010
8:24 am

Hi,
I try to think that I am very open, but I met a guy at the airport. He was a driver. We talked on the phone and he seemed nice. We met for ice cream a fews days later and he had a tattoo that looked like a 4yr old wrote it. He told me he had been to prison after his girlfriend accused him of rape.. Deal Breaker — sexual assault, and a prison tattoo? I also don’t date married regardless of the “we’re seperated”, if you don’t take care of your children, do drugs, have no job (and not looking), done time (serious crimes), and smoke. I don’t think my deal breakers are crazy, but it’s amazing what comes up while dating that you never cosider until your date tells you about it.

LeeH1

July 15th, 2010
8:35 am

Women withut common manners are deal breakers. Someone who is rude to waitresses and doormen, can’t chew without closing her mouth, or uses the “f” word every other sentence, is not for me.

It takes very little outside of some love and attention to teach a child how to be polite. Those who did not have a caring parent do this to them, could never be able to teach their own child how to be polite, either.

Manners are the oil that keeps the machinery of society moving. Date someone without manners, and you will end up with many rusty and inflammed points that need some oil to move on, but won’t get any.

Nativeson71

July 15th, 2010
8:42 am

The older I get (I’m 39) the fewer ‘deal-breakers’ I have…but some I hold fast to are: tattoos and I don’t mean that tiny ‘bumble bee’ on your ankle I mean FULLY sleaved out biker bar tats and the person does not know that a HOG is a Harley (aka a poser).
Excessive Drinking, anyone who is a ‘foodie’, mentally asleep, slobs, drug use, STD’s, and over weight by more than 15lbs.

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
8:43 am

Hola!

I don’t have any crazy deal breakers. For starters I don’t start asking people about their pedigree. I let the conversation flow, however if certain things come up. Oh well, he can hit the road, jack.

A friend from high school was trying to date me. We went out a few times, and I know his family, friends etc. Therefore we talked about everything. Well I asked him why his marriage failed, he gave me some reasons. However in those reasons it came out that he and the ex-Mrs. used to fight. :shock: Physical fights, he even told her if she called her daddy or brothers he was ready and would shoot them. I talk a lot of mess, but something about Ike Turner scares me and it is not normal The funny thing is I always thought he was kind, meek and very mild tempered. I never would have thought he fought with his ex-wife, and he found it normal. He even referenced some of his family members relationships and said it happens over time. Needless to say it was a deal breaker, and I found myself doing a disappearing act.

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
8:57 am

Here is my list of deal breakers:

1. Bad hygiene

2. Crazy

3. wife beater and I am not talking about the shirt

4. Vulgar don’t step to me talking about getting my goodies, and thinking that is a compliment.

5. Someone that lacks a sense of humor—personally life is not that serious enjoy the journey it is short.

6. Closed minded I cannot stand for someone to not believe you or criticize just because of the lack of knowledge/understanding.

7. Was on lockdown for a violent or sexual crime

8. Bad habits/addictions- drinking, drugs, gambling, porn etc

9. Bad teeth

10. Unreliable car

11. Does not have a plan or goals in life

12. Someone that is not a lifelong learner

13. Bad manners

14. Disrespectful to their mom, sisters and women in general

15. Know it all

16. Ego tripping

17. Liar/Sociopath

DreamsMaterialize

July 15th, 2010
8:59 am

I’m only dating women who have more education and income than I do. Time for them to bring something to the table. How ’bout that? lol

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
9:03 am

Deal breakers (and holding to)? Well, it depends. I think it’s been discussed before that as you grow and get older one should revisit and tweak accordingly. What may have been a deal breaker in your twenties more than likely has taken a back seat or leave once we approach our thirties….so forth and so on. More than likely it’s probably not not all that important anymore. As you get older though, who wants to deal with keeping or adhering to a laundry list? Not me. As long as certain actions aren’t “tolerated” nor compromises principles and honor, talk it out or think it over better yet, do away with it.

I was watching a couple of old Divorce Court episodes this morning and really some things shouldn’t even hit a list….some should just be a given. One case, a married woman of 4 years, husband had 2 children by 2 different outside the marriage. Deal breaker? That’s too kind of a description. Throw him away…period. The other case, woman (looked like late 30s early 40s) marries unemployed 23 year old. She’s got 4 kids prior to their nuptials and 1 with him….he’s got 5 more aside from hers…insert blank stare here. Both women broken and crying. Why? Folks all around have experienced enough things for me to not even broach. Why even go there? And in the event folks true colors come through after the fact (I don’t believe that myself because no matter the representative if you look hard enough you catch a glimsp into the real person….but okay), do the needful. Why wait for a leopard to change his spots? Both these women obviously didn’t have any deal breakers. Everything was ago.

DreamsMaterialize

July 15th, 2010
9:03 am

8. Bad habits/addictions- drinking, drugs, gambling, porn etc
Dang Double D’s so if it wasn’t for my secret porn stash, you mean I might have a shot? ;-)

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
9:03 am

DreamsM,

I am not mad at you! While you at it make sure that chick can at least solve a quadratic equation!

LOL

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
9:04 am

DreamsM,

Since you are kind of sexy I might issue you a waiver on that secret stash. :wink:

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
9:09 am

GM all – is it friday yet?
deal breakers, hmmmm, think diana made a good list there. new deal breaker for me now that im in my 30s, smoking. any kind of smoking. had the attitude when i was younger love will get around it, or i can convince him to quit. nope, that doesnt work. you smell, and im constantly going ewwww. cant do that one anymore. more in the mind now you smoke around me, and i get sick, im taking you with me. so probably best for both of us to leave those ones alone lol

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
9:09 am

A great topic for the 30+ single ladies who are on the path to dying alone. It’s always funny to see a 30+ woman break up with a great guy over something trivial, because it’s a “deal breaker”.

luckydog

July 15th, 2010
9:12 am

Tatoos! All of them.
Smoking
Foul mouth
sloppy
too trendy clothes
poor vocabulary
bad teeth
big hair
too forward
fat
strong perfume
these are door slammers.

DreamsMaterialize

July 15th, 2010
9:17 am

Double D’s I’m guessing quadratic equations aren’t a problem for you. Plus, you’ll give me a pass on the porn stash. What we waitin’ for? ;-)

Kimmy

July 15th, 2010
9:17 am

@ LeeH1
I forgot that..You are so right manners are very important. People forget that people provide a service and are not servants. That drives me crazy also

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
9:18 am

@blue smoking is a good one…although I do indulge in a good cigar from time to time…lol

@luckydog great list I like the sloppy…not sure what is too trendy

@Steven @, you did save a 30-something woman, right? I keep thinking you have a GF…yes or no.

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
9:24 am

Steve Q – I’ve been waiting for you to pop in all week pumpkin. Do you know how hilarious you are?! Just the laugh I needed this morning.

Kimmy – Assault, tattoos and prison oh my!! What a wasted opportunity. Aint that right Steve Q?

I’m sure I have deal breakers, but I’ve not had a lot of chances to apply them so far. I need a little time to think about it.

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
9:24 am

@kimmy@LeeH1 – manners, very definitely. people providing a service and are not servants – needs to be repeated. is it so hard to say thank you, please, and excuse me? or to show a person a little patience (when appropriate mind u, everything has a limit lol)
@Dreams – secret porn stash – not always that big a deal breaker lol. depends on whats in there……hmmmmm
@Diana@Steven – “saved” her, lol. sounds like there heathens needing to be brought to the light lol. interesting ? about him being attached, cause would find his constant thoughts about woman dying alone to be rather toolish. is someone trying to save him?

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
9:25 am

What we waitin’ for?

We are waitin’ for the bar to open so we can discuss this over a sangria :wink:

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
9:30 am

@blue I know you haven’t read me long. When I said “saved” to Steven Q I was referring to Cap’n save a ho ho ho you know the old song. Like you I find him worrying about single women, dying alone with a house full of cats a waste of time for a man that is in a relationship. You would think he would be worried about pleasing his woman.

Luvbug~ I was waiting on him too…he gives us a good laugh and I like the one track man process…add that to my list of deal breakers. I don’t want a man that can only talk about one subject…that is too much passion outside of the bedroom.

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
9:33 am

Some of my deal breakers (not in any order):
1) Gay
2) Multiple children by multiple women(If he didn’t marry them, why would he marry me?
3) Long Fingernails
4) Drinks Excessively
5) Intentionally unemployed when they cannot afford to be unemployed
6) Dude is just a straight up player
7) Poor Hygiene
8) Does not like or doesn’t want children
9) Negative Attitude
10) Does not respect or treat myself or my child right.

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
9:33 am

didn’t know that eight followed by ) would result in 8)

Scooter

July 15th, 2010
9:34 am

I can’t stand guys who poop with the bathroom door open.

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
9:35 am

Dirty D – Yeah, Steve 30+ is a piece of work. He is definitely on a mission (like a superhero)…poor future Mrs. Steve 30+. She must miss his time away.

DreamsMaterialize

July 15th, 2010
9:35 am

Dreams – secret porn stash – not always that big a deal breaker lol. depends on whats in there……hmmmmm
blue nothing wierd. just enough to add some excitement to things.

Double D’s why didn’t you say so? Will that be a white wine sangria or the traditional red? Now let’s get down to business. lol

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
9:36 am

…miss him being away to often…

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
9:38 am

@Diana – i see what you mean. unfortunately, now i have a mental pic of dude, for some reason in bad shape, in a super hero outfit (Capn Save-a-ho). he does seem to be a one trick pony tho…
@I am – #5 – most def. dont understand how all these men with no jobs and apparently no ambitions to get one, living off friends and fam, get women to stick around. need you to at least be able to take of yourself

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
9:42 am

Blue- I don’t understand that one either…

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
9:42 am

Good morning!

Deal Breakers:

1. Bad teef
2. Bad Manners
3. Live w/Mama (don’t really care the reason)
4. Bad teef
5. Knows everything
6. Bad hygiene
7. No car
8. Bad teef
9. Ask me for money day 2 or 3 or 4 or 5 or 6….
10. Bad teef

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
9:44 am

Will that be a white wine sangria or the traditional red?

surprise me when you order for me

@Luvbug :arrow: see blue’s 9:38 that is what I saw him wearing

@Blue yep that is what I see him wearing as well with some foggy eyeglasses bi-focals

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
9:49 am

@Diana – needs a catch phrase now, like Superman “faster than a speeding bullet”….cant think of one…..

SlimOne

July 15th, 2010
9:50 am

‘I’m only dating women who have more education and income than I do. Time for them to bring something to the table. How ’bout that? lol’

Dreams – awww mayne, guess that rules me out. I have a CT Degree, will that work? lol

I have no issue with a guy that partakes in a little Adult Cinema….I just don’t want anyone who is ADDICTED to it or who feels the need to play with themselves on an abnormal level. That’s when it becomes creepy

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
9:50 am

@I am…wassup #1 and #2 is so true

SlimOne

July 15th, 2010
9:51 am

Oh yeah, HI FOLKS ;-)

Chelly

July 15th, 2010
9:54 am

CHELLY’S DEAL BREAKERS THAT ARE UN-BREAKABLE:

- Failure to tip our restaurant server

- Bragging about how well he can dance

- Failure to ever use a turn signal when on our date

- Backs into parking spaces for no apparent reason

- Uses the expression “keeping it real”

- Mentions he has a “baby mama”

- Doesn’t know what a credit report is

- Never voted in any election BEFORE the fall of 2008

- Neck tattoos

- Goes into a sulking rage whenever a police office is nearby

- Ends sentences with prepositions

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
9:57 am

“Doesn’t know what a credit report is” RUN, RUN, RUN!

This person must be a Caveman!

abc

July 15th, 2010
9:59 am

I guess anything that would describe a loser or ill-mannered azzhole would be deal breakers. They don’t seem to be that variable person-to-person. Even ending sentences with prepositions isn’t that far out of line, although ‘ax’ for ‘ask’, ‘da’ for ‘the’, ‘dem’ for ‘them’ tend to be my own pet peeves.

It’s not so much what are deal breakers, but rather more what are deal makers. Intelligent and pleasant company that looks great with lots of sex appeal, that you’d be pleased to introduce to your mama, is a definite plus plus.

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
10:00 am

@Slim – or who plays alone instead of me. if im right here, and youd still rather fly solo, and i dont have, like smallpox or something lol, somethings wrong and we may need to trim the collection.
@Chelly – - Backs into parking spaces for no apparent reason – lmao, just sounds so random, but now that its mentioned, is annoying as all he!!, lmao.
neck and face tatts get under my skin too, altho will admit i have one on the back of my neck. somehow doesnt seem the same to me as dude with the ace of spades over his adams apple.

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 15th, 2010
10:01 am

There is something about TheDude that would have been a dealbreaker in the past, but since I’ve experienced some personal growth, it’s now a non-issue.

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 15th, 2010
10:03 am

abc – “It’s not so much what are deal breakers, but rather more what are deal makers. Intelligent and pleasant company that looks great with lots of sex appeal, that you’d be pleased to introduce to your mama, is a definite plus plus.”

I like THAT^!

Fresh-----JAM ON IT!

July 15th, 2010
10:04 am

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Kym

July 15th, 2010
10:05 am

Good Morning All,

I would have to say a deal breaker for me that I could possible get over is I rule guys out based on intelligence. I mean I am really into learning new stuff and things and if I meet a guy who seems nice and kind but is not particularly well-round in terms of current events outside of who is getting kick out on Big Brother..then I tend to shy away from them..or keep them at friend distance. I really think it is important to be a good citizen and well informed(as much as you can) about things outside of your little world if a guy is not..I look down on him. Yeah I could stand to do better…

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
10:05 am

blue yes we need a slogan for Steven Q.

SlimOne

July 15th, 2010
10:09 am

blue – I would think, at least let me watch. Not sure what it is about seeing a man be one with himself but me likey likey :mrgreen:

Fresh-----JAM ON IT!

July 15th, 2010
10:09 am

GM TO ALL! I REALLY DON’T HAVE ANY DEALBREAKERS BUT SOME THINGS THAT GIVE ME PAUSE ARE

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
10:10 am

Chelly I love your list. I get mad when a car keeps going and then pump the breaks to back in a space. LOL

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
10:10 am

Tatoos on a dude that are visible are okay for me in the following situations:

The dude is freakin stinkin rich
He has his own business and it brings in a substantial amount of money that he can support himself and a future family
He’s an actor or artist (but I don’t really date those kind of dudes anyone)

If he works in corporate america then the tats cannot be visible while wearing work clothes

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
10:11 am

typo: (but I don’t really date those kind of dudes anyway)

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
10:14 am

I want a thug in the sheets and a gentleman in the streets :mrgreen:

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
10:15 am

Good morning!

Dealbreakers – well I would call them standards. They are also like an opinion – everyone is entitled to them. What might seem unrealistic to others just might be working in your favor or you might have a good reason for having it. My big one that I have had since I started dating is smoking. That’s because I grew up with a chain-smoker and I vowed once I left home I would never deal with it anymore. Smoking has affected my family in a negative way(lung diseases). I don’t like anything about it. One of my close friends used to criticize me about it and say the guy could not do it around me & brush his teeth, etc. I told her that wouldn’t take away the odor and at some point a man is going to want to smoke in his own home. What would I look like telling a man what he could & couldn’t do in his home? She got the message.

Wise, I think you should hold on to the not dating the unemployed, at least not starting out with someone unemployed. See, it’s different if you have been dating someone awhile and they lose their job. As long as they are making an effort, it’s all good. But starting out with a man unemployed, I don’t know about that. Personally, I don’t think a guy should be trying to date until he gets a job and gets on his feet. Just creates issues.I say this from personal experience.

Melo

July 15th, 2010
10:15 am

Good morning Dealers!!

Marriage deal breaker:

1. comes from a crawzy fam
2. her education is not right
3. is less that 5 ft
4. her tatas are below recommended size

5. fat leggs

6. no bootey
7 does not speak good english

8 her cootie appears to have had lots of OT(over time)

9 is sexually more experienced than myself

10 cannot cook

11. her hygiene sucks at all levels

bonus deal breaker:

11 is light skinned :-)

Smashing deal breaker:

1. Has no tramp stamp

2. no tongue ring(thats a Huge tuen off…. Big No no) :lol: :lol:

3. has no crib of her own

4. shares a room with a mate

5 does not have a nice car/job

6 no psh skills to brag about

7. has no personal portfolio of sex tapes

8. not confident about her bed room game

9. has herpes or other communicable contagion

10 does not smoke collards in bed

11. has no nice colored tats near and/or around (her) the smashing triangle(groin,belly,cootie area)

Howdee folks!!

should be a nice blogging day!!

anonymousella

July 15th, 2010
10:16 am

my deal breakers are deal breakers for a reason, and my deal breakers are reasonable and based on experience. and even if they seem unreasonable, they’re still reasonable.

why? because i firmly believe that if a man or woman is The One, you will overlook his crooked toe, he will overlook that extra-long chin hair you got, and y’all will make some hairy-chinned, crooked toed babies.

they say love is blind, so if you ain’t blind to (some of) your love interest’s faults, you might not be in love.

@steve q i promise you, if a man is 30+ and got dumped, he was NOT a “great guy.”

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 15th, 2010
10:18 am

kimmie – even with a regular smoker who brushes his teeth, their kisses still taste like tobacco. So, yeah, a smoker would be a *pass* for me as well.

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
10:19 am

@Slim – i second that motion, males arent the only ones who like a show :mrgreen:
@Kym – agree on being well rounded. im a big reader, and i try to understand that mr.blue isnt. but when i got to talking about mythology one day and his entire half of the convo came from the Thor comic book, i just had to hang my head…told him he was lucky id already married him lol

Kym

July 15th, 2010
10:19 am

I like Tats..just no neck tats. Ohh and no tats of flaming skulls or naked chicks..some tats can be quite beautiful.

Fresh-----JAM ON IT!

July 15th, 2010
10:20 am

1. WOMEN WITH GOLD FRONTS. 2. DIRTY KIDS 3.SUPER LOUD 4. WEARS POUNDS OF MAKE-UP 5. WORN OUT SHOES

Run4Life

July 15th, 2010
10:21 am

For the record, I love tatoos on guys. Them having three or four is such a turn on for me. Especially when they are clean cut gentlemen, and the tats are hidden until their shirt comes off.

Okay…okay. Its too early in the day.

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 15th, 2010
10:21 am

Kym, LMAO – TheDude has one tat. It’s of two flaming skulls.

Kym

July 15th, 2010
10:22 am

Personally, I don’t think a guy should be trying to date until he gets a job and gets on his feet. Just creates issues.I say this from personal experience.<<<<< I second this emotion.

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 15th, 2010
10:24 am

Dealbreaker – Folks who type in ALL CAPS!

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
10:25 am

Worst tat ever: White Chick who was dating a black dude had a tat on her ankle that stated “Black Man”

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
10:28 am

i love tatts as well, but tatts in good taste. rebel flags and naked chics dont work for me. the names of your kids are ok, but your 3 exwives names, each crossed out, doesnt work for me. and please have them placed in such a way that you can hold a decent job. all mine can be covered easily if needed lol

@anonymousella – lmao, hairy chinned crooked toed babie, too funny, but agreed some things that have always been on the list may get overlooked if the person happens to be the One. (love the name, anonymousella, lol)

DreamsMaterialize

July 15th, 2010
10:29 am

Ends sentences with prepositions
Chelly this is an antiquated English grammar restriction which really never had any foundation. I know we all learned it in elementary grammar, but it just isn’t correct. This restriction is a requirement in Latin and cannot be applied without exception to English. The greatest writers in the history of the English language have used prepositions at the end of sentences.

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
10:31 am

The flaming skulls, tear drops, naked ladies, his name tatted on his arm is super duper lame. IMO. I have seen some nice tats that are a work of art, but those flea market tats—>BOGO free is a deal breaker.

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
10:33 am

Melo, some things folks didn’t have a say in the matter

1. comes from a crawzy fam
3. is less that 5 ft
4. her tatas are below recommended size
5. fat leggs
6. no bootey
11 is light skinned

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
10:33 am

Especially when they are clean cut gentlemen, and the tats are hidden until their shirt comes off.

Run – My SO all the way! Oh yes! Never been into tats before, but he does tats the classy way!

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
10:33 am

@I am – friends boyfriend (previously married w/2 kids), had a family tree tattooed on his back. only things was, he started with wifeys grandparents. they get divorced 2 years later. he now has strike marks through her half of the tree. killer part for me was this was the third woman he got tattd on his body, each tatt bigger and more elaborate than the last. had to wonder, when was he gonna learn?

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
10:35 am

@blue/anonymousella ~ you just gave me room for concern…lil leggs pinky toe is crooked!! Awww crap, many men will pass over her because of that one toe!

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
10:36 am

As for the preposition a man said that one time and I asked him what is a preposition and why is it important. He went quite. I never heard him say anything else that night.

Personally, I don’t think a guy should be trying to date until he gets a job and gets on his feet. Just creates issues.I say this from personal experience.<<<<< I second this emotion.

Hmmmm I don’t think this is a guy/gal problem it is a problem for the person that is trying to date him/her. If a guy wants to date and he does not have the money to date…s/he might find someone that is willing to ride the train all day and talk to him. This is a freebie depending on how much money is on the breeze card. Maybe a walk in the park and he will bring the water…so it is up to the person to decide if they want to deal with him/her.

Personally I think it is worse for a woman to go out broke on a date. My daddy told me to always have enough money to pay for my stuff and to get back home.

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
10:36 am

@melo – tramp stamp – is it about the placement or what its a tatt of that makes it a tramp stamp?

Melo

July 15th, 2010
10:37 am

some things folks didn’t have a say in the matter

@It’s me….lurker!

I know but if it aint my pref for short chics and u got no tall genes in ur fam, im proly not the right one for u.

Are u ok dating one of those lil short midgets, urself??? :lol: :lol:

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
10:38 am

Melo, you’re funny. No not a midget…not an amazon but not a midget :)

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
10:39 am

and Melo, you right, we all go with what we pefer….nothing wrong with that :)

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
10:40 am

Blue at your 10:33: Ah Lawd!!!!

CoolDD

July 15th, 2010
10:41 am

The quick run-down, from a man’s POV:

Smoker ( I agree with the majority here)
Unintelligent
Fake body parts, just because (breasts, hair)
Lack of education
Lack of manners (again, with the majority)
No job or ambition
Gold digger
Self-absorbed
Not adventurous

So ladies, what say you?

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
10:42 am

Leggs: I’ve seen men date women with mustaches.
There is hope for lil Leggs if she has a crooked toe

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
10:42 am

1. Use, or threatened use, of physical force/violence.
First time, whatever relationship we have is over.

2. Bad hygiene
Brush your teeth, trim your finger and toe nails, smell nice.

3. Not a gentleman
Yes, I CAN open the door myself, but I WANT you to do it, thank you. In return, I will always be the lady in the living room and… you know.

4. Lack of confidence
Be strong, be the man. No need to be arrogant or an ass, but bring what you bring with strength.

5. Felony history.
Okay, it might not be fair, but you can’t get certain loans, can’t get certain jobs, and your head may be messed up. I’m not dealing with that.

6. Excessive bitterness/anger regarding ex relationships.
Yes, she screwed you over, lick your wounds and move on. I am not her.

7. If you are over 40 and your finances are not in order.
Sorry, but I’ve worked hard to keep my stuff straight. If yours isn’t, it shows a lack of maturity that will carry over into other areas.

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
10:42 am

Quoting Sir Mix A lot: Silicon parts are made for toys :-D

Melo

July 15th, 2010
10:46 am

tramp stamp – is it about the placement

@blue-7/30

Slimone shld give u the technical def coz she coined it for us but its that tat strategically placed at the back of the woman right atop the bootey on the 12 noon point.

I think its called tramp coz(dont quote me) every time a guy sees it,he feels like having her nekked and licking it. :lol:

SlimOne

July 15th, 2010
10:48 am

I had my tat on my lower back before they started calling it a tramp stamp. One bad, loosey goose chicken head messed it up for all the rest of us. :roll:

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
10:49 am

@I am ~ I simply tell her it helps her run faster.

Cane

July 15th, 2010
10:50 am

My deal breaker is a chick just looking for someone to support her. Unfortunately you can’t always tell a woman’s intentions until it may be too late. Love is wonderful but too many woman consider it a meal ticket. Watch for the phrase “stay at home mom.”

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
10:51 am

I thought “tramp stamp” came along with the thong showing. The combination helpe fuel the phrase into lexicon history.

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
10:51 am

Personally I think it is worse for a woman to go out broke on a date. My daddy told me to always have enough money to pay for my stuff and to get back home.

Diana – This is the way I was brought up & I agree too. I went on a few dates once when I was between jobs and I was uncomfortable with it. Plus, I couldn’t contribute or reciprocate like I usually do, so I avoided it.

If a guy wants to date and he does not have the money to date…s/he might find someone that is willing to ride the train all day and talk to him.

Diana, that sounds very sweet and politically correct in theory, and I tried going there – didn’t work. God bless the child that’s got his own, my mom used to preach this to us. Even if he’s only making a step above minimum wage and can only take me to get ice cream or coffee, it’s a pride thing with men. Most men I know that are about something would never start out with a woman carrying the full load, their pride would not allow it.

DreamsMaterialize

July 15th, 2010
10:51 am

5. Felony history.
Okay, it might not be fair, but you can’t get certain loans, can’t get certain jobs, and your head may be messed up. I’m not dealing with that.

Lucinda Plus he might have participated in some prison love. lol

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
10:54 am

@leggs – crooked toe not so bad, the One for her wont mind it. she just wont have to waste time with too many losers
@melo – placement, d@mn
@slim – agreed, darn chicken heads

Melo

July 15th, 2010
10:54 am

A thumer wld be a marriage deal breaker fro me..Going to church and believeiung for me is aaaight,even tho im luke warm on the bible side myself..but going to church sunday/satrday, monday evening, wednesday evening and friday evening is not for me…hell no.

I never dated those coz my assumption was that I didnt want to date u,then we split and then unwittingly bring out the crazzyy that send u to church in the beginnning.

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
11:04 am

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
11:04 am

lol @ Leggs 10:49

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
11:20 am

@Melo feeling you on the church thing. Dont smack me on the head with your Bible. Lotta ppl with a lot of issues doing the chuch thing 5 times a week.

@Dreams ewww, plus he’d prolly never admit it…and what if he liked it?!

Kym

July 15th, 2010
11:32 am

Dear Football God,

While I can appreciate the humor in the situation..I am very very very upset that I have to buy two tickets to not one but two Falcons games this year. You know I am not a fan, so why put me in the impossible situation of having to buy a ticket to see my son play at half-time of a Falcons game, then to add more insult have the Falcons give me two additional tickets to a future game in October. I would just like you to know that because of this you are going to owe me Big! I mean Lombardi trophy #7 big!

Love

Kym

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
11:32 am

@lucinda@melo – same for me. i try to respect everyones religion, but that doesnt mean i want to be converted either.

DreamsMaterialize

July 15th, 2010
11:33 am

Dreams ewww, plus he’d prolly never admit it…and what if he liked it?!
Lucinda Gotta wonder about these self-proclaimed homos thugs. lol Lots of chicks like the thugs though…maybe that’s where they’re contracting HIV.

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
11:34 am

dont bring no thug love here!

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
11:35 am

Thugs, smugs….just be a man! Thugs are so yesterdayish…

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
11:35 am

@abc ~ yes, I know that’s not a word. :wink:

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
11:36 am

I talked so much about The Pizzeria’s stuffed pizza that I’m going to go there for lunch…can I bring you guys anything?

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
11:38 am

@Lucinda – thuggish – deal breaker. i dont have time to dress you, so pleeeaassseee pull your d@mn pants up and use a belt. ty (using my manners ;) )

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
11:39 am

Anybody here surprised that the Mel Gibson’s tapes have been tampered with???

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
11:42 am

@blue better yet, buy pants that fit you. Loose and baggy is cool, waistband clinging to your thighs is stooooopid. Plus, if when you sit down your pants aren’t covering your azz, you have just a very very thin layer of cotton between your jewels and whatever crap somebody left on the seat before you. Im not putting any part of my stuff near that. visualize that.

Melo

July 15th, 2010
11:42 am

By thugs u mean what……tatted up guy,music mogul like Cash money but looking thuggish or rapper/singer/artist with thug mannerisms and style e.g. Jim Jones??

To me,anybody tatted up to the max is a Thugg,Big Time..

I aint coming close to u…worse when u have permanent gold teef. :roll: :roll:

whats uall definition?

King of Kings

July 15th, 2010
11:43 am

Isaiah 5:11 – 23

11 Woe unto them that rise up early in the morning, that they may follow strong drink; that continue until night, till wine inflame them!
12And the harp, and the viol, the tabret, and pipe, and wine, are in their feasts: but they regard not the work of the LORD, neither consider the operation of his hands.
13Therefore my people are gone into captivity, because they have no knowledge: and their honourable men are famished, and their multitude dried up with thirst.
14Therefore hell hath enlarged herself, and opened her mouth without measure: and their glory, and their multitude, and their pomp, and he that rejoiceth, shall descend into it.
15And the mean man shall be brought down, and the mighty man shall be humbled, and the eyes of the lofty shall be humbled:
16But the LORD of hosts shall be exalted in judgment, and God that is holy shall be sanctified in righteousness.
17Then shall the lambs feed after their manner, and the waste places of the fat ones shall strangers eat.
18Woe unto them that draw iniquity with cords of vanity, and sin as it were with a cart rope:
19That say, Let him make speed, and hasten his work, that we may see it: and let the counsel of the Holy One of Israel draw nigh and come, that we may know it!
20Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!
21Woe unto them that are wise in their own eyes, and prudent in their own sight!
22Woe unto them that are mighty to drink wine, and men of strength to mingle strong drink:
23Which justify the wicked for reward, and take away the righteousness of the righteous from him!

Oh, what a day it will be

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
11:43 am

Deal breakers so far…lying, cheating and flashy living.

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
11:43 am

Mel Gibson is so over. You can see crazy all in his eyes, tapes or no tapes.

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
11:46 am

He hasn’t been the same since filming The Passion of Christ!!!

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
11:46 am

By Thug I mean dude that can handle his in the bedroom :mrgreen:

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
11:47 am

@I am ~ we women knew what you meant.

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
11:47 am

Melo
Thug = azz hanging out, trying to look hard, no smile, no life in eyes, multiple tats, gold teeth, narrow minded.

and my favorite: flat brim hat with tag still on it.

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
11:48 am

However, there are some who really like the thug live and are magnets to it. The co-worker I told you about the other day is a Thugette!!

Melo

July 15th, 2010
11:48 am

flashy living

@Luvbug??

u hatter??

what if I got it and its more than urs?? I shdnt enjoy my trapppings coz u (interpret) think im flashing?? :roll:

King of Kings

July 15th, 2010
11:48 am

Revelations 22: 12-21

12And, behold, I come quickly; and my reward is with me, to give every man according as his work shall be.
13I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end, the first and the last.
14Blessed are they that do his commandments, that they may have right to the tree of life, and may enter in through the gates into the city. 15For without are dogs, and sorcerers, and whoremongers, and murderers, and idolaters, and whosoever loveth and maketh a lie.
16I Jesus have sent mine angel to testify unto you these things in the churches. I am the root and the offspring of David, and the bright and morning star.
17And the Spirit and the bride say, Come. And let him that heareth say, Come. And let him that is athirst come. And whosoever will, let him take the water of life freely.
18For I testify unto every man that heareth the words of the prophecy of this book, If any man shall add unto these things, God shall add unto him the plagues that are written in this book: 19And if any man shall take away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God shall take away his part out of the book of life, and out of the holy city, and from the things which are written in this book.
20He which testifieth these things saith, Surely I come quickly. Amen. Even so, come, Lord Jesus.
21The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you all. Amen.

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
11:49 am

@abc ~ I’m aware that’s not a word. :wink:

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
11:49 am

Another taxi cab confession: Iiiiiiii, Luvbug, once found myself attracted to a thug. His name was Shyne. (Get up on the hood ma. I aint done yet)

I don’t know what it was about him. I shocked myself with that one.

Don’t judge me!!

SlimOne

July 15th, 2010
11:50 am

Leggs, speaking of pizza, I shole wish I was close to Avondale Estates area. I loooooove the pizza at Avondale Cafe. Mmmmm mmmm good.

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
11:51 am

Luvbug we’ve all had one or two…
but they aren’t good long-term prospects so we get over it.

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
11:51 am

@Lucinda – how about the ones who have to walk bow-legged to keep their pants up? saw a guy trying to cross the street almost get run over cause he wasnt walking just right and lost his pants, was tripping over them while the Explorer was headed his way,SMH

@Leggs – tampered with, is that what their saying now? naw, agree crazy is just written all over his face these days

Kym

July 15th, 2010
11:52 am

LMAO @Luvbug..Get up on the hood? Do I want to know what that means? Naww don’t tell me..I will consult my thug to english translator.

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
11:52 am

Whatever Midget Hater!!

If you got it and need it to feel good, that makes me disposable too. IMO, It’s like everything is always up in the air with guys like that.

SlimOne

July 15th, 2010
11:52 am

On the topic of being all tat, tat, tatted up…for whatever reason I find myself really attracted to Travis Barker (drummer for Blink 182)…that whiteboy could get it on a night when I’m in a drunken stupor. lololol

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
11:52 am

@Melo ~ I immediately thought of this dude that tried to holler at me. Him and his wife were about to separate. Both were invited to Aruba by their friends. He said the two of them were going and why shouldn’t he go passing up a sweet opportunity to go there. He could afford it so “they’re” going. I said fine, you go and hang with your soon to be ex-wife, but leave me alone. The entire scenario he laid out to me didn’t sit well with me.

mark

July 15th, 2010
11:53 am

my one and only dealbreaker is that i cant Date a sista if i found out she has dated a White man before i just cant get over that. i just cant trust or respect a sista that does that. i know im going to catch grife for this but its how i feel.

Melo

July 15th, 2010
11:54 am

By Thug I mean dude that can handle his in the bedroom

@I am??

so u talking about a dude that literally wants to chew ur nana off ur nether flesh as he licks on ya and then goes on to pound it with a 25 pound wang!??

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
11:54 am

Mark – Whatever floats your boat…it’s your peragative. Melo don’t like short women…LOL

SlimOne

July 15th, 2010
11:56 am

Mark – why do you associate a sistah dating a white guy with ‘reason not to trust’? Just curious

DreamsMaterialize

July 15th, 2010
11:57 am

i know im going to catch grife for this but its how i feel.
What exactly is a grife, and how do you catch it?

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
11:57 am

On the topic of being all tat, tat, tatted up…for whatever reason I find myself really attracted to Travis Barker (drummer for Blink 182)…that whiteboy could get it on a night when I’m in a drunken stupor

I thought I was the only one Slim. :oops: I was watching T I perform on the BET music awards last night and Travis was beating those drums somethin fierce and then I thought about …….

I don’t usually like guys like that but there’s something about him

Kym

July 15th, 2010
11:57 am

@mark no you wont you come in once a week and say the same thang..each and every time..

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
11:58 am

@Slim some of those whiteboys can bring it! Got me one with serious Skillz — but you’d never think that to look at him… Love what I KNOW when we walk around and ppl look at me like ‘wtf’. I jus think, well yeah, you wouldnt give him a shot, but he KNOWS what he’s doing and ummmmmmmmm yummmmmm <– followed by many other sounds

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
11:58 am

Thug = azz hanging out, trying to look hard, no smile, no life in eyes, multiple tats, gold teeth, narrow minded.

add to that spends more cash on his ride than his kids, smokes (not just newports), and for some reason has an aversion to haircuts

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
11:59 am

ALOL @ Thugette

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
12:00 pm

@Mark fine with me cuz i wouldn’t date your narrowminded azz anyhow

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
12:00 pm

Kym – He wants to continue on the car. LOL He was a rapper on the Bad Boy label (I think). The guy who went to jail for shooting in the club while he was hanging out with Diddy and JLo. I’ve never met him. It was a TV crush.

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
12:00 pm

@Kym – ROFL, i was thinking to myself “isnt that the same song he was singing last week?”

DreamsMaterialize

July 15th, 2010
12:00 pm

but he KNOWS what he’s doing and ummmmmmmmm yummmmmm <– followed by many other sounds
mark just caught “grife” when he read that. lol

Melo

July 15th, 2010
12:03 pm

If you got it and need it to feel good,

@Luvbug??

see,but who says i need that to feel good?? Is that not ur perception of them??

I know folks who wld see dude with his fly jalope but he just rubs them the wrong way and one look at him,they’re like…zssssssseeeeee(u know the high pitched snap with ur mouf).. and a look away..he gets on ma nerves…

Is that u?? :roll:

Kym

July 15th, 2010
12:03 pm

@Luvbug..ohhh..closest thug crush I had was LL Cool J..and James is no thug..he just has that NYC thang going on.

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
12:04 pm

Melo: either A) you don’t get out much or B) you don’t get laid much

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
12:08 pm

@SlimOne ~ I use to hang out at the pizza shop years ago. I would stop after work everyday and get a slice before going home and cooking dinner. That was when my metabolism was high off the charts! :lol: :lol:

@blue ~ they’re saying it’s a very sophisticated tampering job. The clarity in her voice (some form of hidden chest microphone) and the distortions in his voice has some to believe the tapes have been put together from a series of phone calls over time. That’s just one theory.

Melo

July 15th, 2010
12:08 pm

@I am??

how much is much??

i'm swiss™

July 15th, 2010
12:09 pm

Lucinda, have we met? ;-) :lol:

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
12:09 pm

do tell Melo

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
12:11 pm

I think he meant to type “grief”

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
12:12 pm

see,but who says i need that to feel good?? Not me.

Is that not ur perception of them?? No. That’s my perception of those who actually need it to feel good. There are poor people who feel the same way. I’m not against money or resources. I’m just not comfortable with people who based their value in life on it.

A person can have money and not be flashy. I’m talking about flashy folks. I’m not saying money=flashy.

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
12:12 pm

@Swiss im hoping mrs swiss is enjoying the benefits

SlimOne

July 15th, 2010
12:17 pm

Sassy Me – yeah i’m not usually attracted to those types of guys but I too noticed how he was beating the hellz outta them drums on the awards show. Makes me think about making those sounds Lucinda was talking about her WB has her saying (ummmmmmmmm yummmmmm <– followed by many other sounds) :mrgreen:

'mark just caught “grife” when he read that'

@Dreams – :lol:

Melo

July 15th, 2010
12:21 pm

That’s my perception of those who actually need it to feel good

@Luvbug??

I dont know how u wld feel if were broke broke…certainly not good, i can tell u..money makes pple feel good about themselves,u included.

imagine if u didnt have gas money to get toi work..that wld suck im sure.

and folks have been talking about not wanting to date a dude with no job and no juice……

so u ok with a marta date nite with broke dude i guess,cruising from north point to the airport,then back on the next train going back in the opposite long ride to the top of that stop………

Cmeon Luvbug,hoping on ur guys’ ride instead, to that fun spot in town wld make u feel better im sure?? Thats money for u :lol:

Am i missing smething??

@Lucinda??

do tell Melo..tell what? I am qstion….??

If u promise to rescue me.

SlimOne

July 15th, 2010
12:29 pm

Don’t cha hate when you’re in a middle of a post, then you get sidetracked but forget to submit before you refresh….DAGNABIT!

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
12:35 pm

@Slim – lol, typing it again it just never sounds as good as it did the first time lol
@Leggs – i agree, the tapes do sound like she baited him, but he took the bait hook, line, and sinker. only problem now tho is after his last public rant (i think he blamed that one on alcoholism) the idea of him behaving this way doesnt seem so far fetched anymore

LURKER (I want some of dat)

July 15th, 2010
12:36 pm

Thursday….Knock the puddy loose day to everyone!!!!! YEAHHHHHH :wink: :wink:

Dealbreakers….

1. Constant Drama in your life
2. Over employed…Working 6 jobs
3. Bad hygienes

I have many more but on to the show…….. YEAHHHH

@Swiss…..Slimone has agreed to make a porno film…..Called LURKER gets swallowed by the CT…
@Slimone…..e-mail me for more details at mrlurker007@yahoo.com

CoolShadow

July 15th, 2010
12:37 pm

At or near the top of my list of deal breakers are:

Smoking – needs no further discussion.

Drinking – I can tolerate you taking advantage of the situation because I’m in the designated driver but a lack of self-control and belligerence from excessive drinking will kill any interaction from me hereafter.

Intelligence – ditziness can’t be dealt with long term especially when exposure to my business and social circles is a potential. Don’t have to be a nuclear physicist but have to know more than the status of American Idol contests and that reality TV ain’t really real.

Drama – we all go through drama in our lives in fashion and not always of our choosing. But when your life is a constant string of issues from bad decision-making and you’re trying to pull me into your whirlpool of drama, I gotta go.

Fiscal Drama – when your financial drama is a function of you trying to live a lifestyle beyond your means and then look for sponsorship rather than make hard decisions, that’s a deal breaker. Equally as annoying is constantly hitting me for small loans that are never repaid. The banks and airlines nickel and dime enough, don’t need you to get in that mix.

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
12:38 pm

@Melo the question was how often you gettin some… and is it enough?

Melo

July 15th, 2010
12:41 pm

how often you gettin some… and is it enough?

@Lucinda??

Hell Naw,neva enough!! u kidding me??

(dont just ask me qstions when there is no desire to quench the thirst) :roll:

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
12:44 pm

im definitely needing to quench my thirst but won’t see WB til the weekend, daaayyuuuummmm, what am i gonna do?

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
12:50 pm

ok, i havent been here long but -
melo – dont just ask me qstions when there is no desire to quench the thirst)
lucinda – im definitely needing to quench my thirst but won’t see WB til the weekend, daaayyuuuummmm, what am i gonna do?

@lucinda – seems you just opened yourself up for trouble there, lol

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
12:53 pm

Melo/Kimmie…

…stepping back in late.

The reason I mentioned the Marta date is because someone told me about a 43-45 year old dude trying to get back on his feet. His idea of a date is riding Marta together, so that he can talk and people watch with his date. I mentioned maybe they get off the train somewhere like Lenox and hit the food court. The lady told me said he was full. He will take a date to the Varsity or something. Guess what a few women have dated him (more than once). That is not my cup of tea, though.

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
12:54 pm

so u ok with a marta date nite with broke dude i guess,cruising from north point to the airport,then back on the next train going back in the opposite long ride to the top of that stop………

Nope, not if he keeps flashing me his high-tech cellphone, watch and fancy blinged out marta pass.

Yes, you’re missing my point if you’re talking about money and I’m talking about being showy. Those aren’t hand and hand to me. What’s hand and hand with flashy (to me) is being braggy and flamboyant with your resources…be they rocks or gold.

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
12:55 pm

Over employed…Working 6 jobs

LOL LURKER. Now that’s a new one!

Kym

July 15th, 2010
12:57 pm

Senate got 60 votes to pass finance reform..Scott Brown is working the Senate big time…I like him.

Melo

July 15th, 2010
12:59 pm

@Dirty Diana 101°/Lucinda!!

I actually did the marta date with the fam on week end..they liked it..it was so much fun for them….

u know thats not a bad date actually coz u get time to talk..then go eat afterwards…..

hmmmmmm. but u gotta do it with someone when the convo is flowing..no awkward silent moments!

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
1:00 pm

LURKER you don’t want an over employed woman. I forgot MR LURKER like taking his women to the mountains and to vegas and stuff.

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
1:01 pm

Melo,

Dude told the lady he was already full from “supper” after they finished riding marta…he did not buy her any food. Yes “supper” at 1:00 pm.

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
1:13 pm

Diana/Melo – Not my cup of tea either. I don’t have a problem riding Marta or the bus either, but not on a date. Not taking on any man “projects” anymore. Gotten too old for that.

I worked long and hard for what I have to do better.

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
1:13 pm

Melo : getting some with your hand does not qualify as getting some
and no, you don’t go out much.
I think of you as socically inept :|

LURKER (I want some of dat)

July 15th, 2010
1:17 pm

@Dirty Diana….. LURKER needs to time take his woman on vacation so I can elongate the puddy morning, noon and night…..YEAHHHH :wink: :wink:

@Kym….The financial reform bill was already a done deal. The opposition party always have to put up a media fight for there constituents. Although this bill will slow the appetite for risk from the major investors it does not go far enough in terms of penalties levied against those who lose/destroy stock holders value.

Melo

July 15th, 2010
1:17 pm

I think of you as socically inept

@I am…

I dont mind u think that..but no matter how much pining inside I may have,im never gon walk around and about without my underwear on..trust me on that. :idea:

:lol: :lol:

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
1:18 pm

Just read a story about a 30 year old nanny who died pleasuring herself. Another reason to find a good man early ladies.

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
1:19 pm

*Not taking on any man “projects” anymore. Gotten too old for that.*

@kimmie you got that right. Rather be on my own than taking on a mess.

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
1:19 pm

Deal Breakers:
1) Had a sex change
2) STD
3) Likes drama even if it is not her’s
4) Has a sour disposition more than she is happy
5) Not affectionate
6) Not Julia :)

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
1:19 pm

Diana, my girlfriend, soon to be fiance is in here 20s. Her sister is pushing 30 and not even close to finding a husband though.

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
1:20 pm

Deal Breaker:
Was dumb enough to ever date “mark”

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
1:21 pm

Wonders never cease. Sad and funny at the same time.

smh

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
1:22 pm

Dealbreaker

1. Old, one-trick pony that can’t spell.

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
1:24 pm

@ Purple “not Julia” awwwwww, sweet!

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
1:24 pm

Melo : good to know.
I would be mad as hell if I caught you like that :evil:

Lady-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

July 15th, 2010
1:25 pm

poppin’ in for a brief sec……what’s good peeps!?!

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
1:25 pm

It’s pretty sad when someone just wants to help you and you attack them for it.

please

July 15th, 2010
1:25 pm

Steven Q. Stanley -You sound so pathetic, who dogged you out so bad, guess you wasnt as good as you though you were, lol, what a joke you are, cause if u were so happy u wouldnt be on here EVERYDAY saying the same thing.

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
1:27 pm

who dogged you out so bad

I’m guessing the pushing 30 sister he’s trying to ’save’. LOL

please

July 15th, 2010
1:28 pm

Diana, my girlfriend, (soon to be) fiance is in here 20s- What makes u think she is going to say YES, lol. You sound weak & women dont like spinless men like yourself with all this whinning u do, lol.

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
1:28 pm

please, life is great for me, thanks for asking. I hope one day it can be good for you too. If its “pathetic and sad” to want to help others experience the same happiness you do, call me such. Being called a few names is a small price to pay to try and help those in need.

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
1:29 pm

Hey Lady!!!!

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
1:29 pm

please, the fact she doesn’t want to die alone. She found a good man and a good partner for life.

please

July 15th, 2010
1:30 pm

STeven-Try focusing on your own relationship..if u really have one..& dont be concerned about other women, what REAL MAN is concerned about women not being married, u sound like a weakling

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
1:30 pm

Purple, your number 6 is sweet!

Lady-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

July 15th, 2010
1:31 pm

please

July 15th, 2010
1:32 pm

STeven She’s young and have plenty of time to find a REAL MAN that doesnt whine all the time about other women, so dont count on her marrying you or being faithful, u just dont sound manly

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
1:33 pm

Yeah Carlito!!! I think that your # 6 is very nice.

Anybody have any lunch ideas? I sho is hongry!

anonymousella

July 15th, 2010
1:33 pm

@sassy, @slimone thirding travis barker. and adding tommy lee (um, once they get that Hep C vaccine on the market).

*sigh* steven q. so young. so inexperienced with life. so convinced that 30 is some magical tipping point when life ends.

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
1:34 pm

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
1:35 pm

what REAL MAN is concerned about women not being married, u sound like a weakling

Nuff said…

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
1:35 pm

please. My life mission is to keep women life yourself from dying alone. Women with obvious personality flaws that makes them unwanted by any man long term. Women who are so picky they break up with a guy over stupid little things, then they are 40 and the only guys left are unemployed wife beaters. Women who are going to die alone in a room full of cats.

If you don’t like my comments, ignore them. Obviously they struck a personal chord with you, that would not happen if there was not some truth to them in your own life. But some women are not content to die alone and appreciate my wisdom, don’t make them suffer because you get upset over someone pointing out some things in your life you are not happy with.

Best of luck to you in your personal life, in all seriousness hope it works out for you. Nothing makes me happier than to see a man and a woman, or two of the same for that matter, in a long term, committed, monogamous relationship.

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
1:36 pm

lolololololol!!!!!!!

LURKER (I want some of dat)

July 15th, 2010
1:37 pm

All righty then,,,,Women of the blog…How many of you have tatoo’s located right above the top of your buttocks? LURKER likey a woman who has a tatoo right above the bootey…. YESSS :wink:

GOLDEN NUGGET TIME

@If you are an unemployed man you do not need to be dating.
@Do not host a drinking party for your teenage kids then post it to the internet. You will get arrest.
@Parents do not let you daughter walk around in booty shorts….
@Take advice from Stanley Steamer….
@Men run when you see I AM….Me thinks she is kinda crazy….j/k
I luv the idea you go around walking with-out no panties
@If you are a regular blogger why are you changing your name moniker to respond to someone…That show a sign of weakness….

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
1:37 pm

anon – Funny thing, I get the feeling ole boy is not so young! Bet he’s an old geezer, wishing for those long gone days when he was a young whippersnapper!LOL!!!!

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
1:38 pm

This guy I’ve been talking to on the net is so hard pressed to have me come over his house :shock:
I have never met dude and I definately don’t know him to go over his house for a meet and greet.
What happened to wanting to meet in person and he calls me wanting to have things my way for making this suggestion.
Add this to the list of deal breakers

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
1:40 pm

I am – That would be a red flag, don’t talk to him any more on the net. It’s easy to find out where you live and he could show up. Be careful.

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
1:40 pm

Steven, that is your life purpose?

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
1:41 pm

so dont count on her marrying you or being faithful, u just dont sound manly.

:lol: :lol:

thirding travis barker. and adding tommy lee (um, once they get that Hep C vaccine on the market).

Too funny with the “thirding” ella…there’s just something about Travis…

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
1:43 pm

I Am, i just figured since we blog all the time that you should just come over to my house.
“IT RUBS THE LOTION ON ITS SKIN, OR ELSE IT GETS THE HOSE AGAIN!!!”

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
1:44 pm

Crooked teeth are a deal breaker, so is bad breath.

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
1:44 pm

If you are a regular blogger why are you changing your name moniker to respond to someone…That show a sign of weakness….

Worth repeating…

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
1:44 pm

The lotion, quote was from the movie Silence of the Lambs.

Melo

July 15th, 2010
1:45 pm

This guy I’ve been talking to on the net??

@I am??

On the Net??

u ask me about how much I am getting it and I am envious of u all this while, thinking somebody is banging u right now so u off limits??

:roll: :roll:

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

@LURKER??

why are you changing your name moniker to respond to someone…That show a sign of weakness….

Irony of it all. :roll:

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
1:45 pm

Kimmie: I never give anyone my personal info other than my cell phone.

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
1:46 pm

I too think Stanley Steamer is an old crow either regretfully living or wishfully wishing

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
1:47 pm

Lady-How can something so familiar be so strange...hmmmmm

July 15th, 2010
1:49 pm

my ADHD won’t allow me to catch up!!! geesh and sigh! yall enjoy your afternoon! lol :)

peace!

Melo

July 15th, 2010
1:50 pm

smashing breaker

meeting u on the Net after u bulldoze ur way onto my yahoo messenger!

My angst qstion wld be why are the real street dudes running away from ur azz that u have to take it offshore to the InterNets??

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
1:50 pm

I never give anyone my personal info other than my cell phone.

You don’t have to “give” it for someone to get it on the net.

SlimOne

July 15th, 2010
1:51 pm

PRain – I know that quote…we used to say it all the time at my last job. lol

Melo

July 15th, 2010
1:53 pm

@I am??

does that chic with the leg pic get coc high by piercing her syringe thru the leg?? Its faster??

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
1:54 pm

Kym

July 15th, 2010
1:54 pm

I am sitting here LMAO at the post..ya’ll joker sure make the day fly by..LMAO>>old crow!!!

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
1:55 pm

We are heading to Florida after work today :)

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
1:55 pm

I too think Stanley Steamer is an old crow either regretfully living or wishfully wishing

Okay now y’all just being mean… :lol:

anonymousella

July 15th, 2010
1:55 pm

ok. steven q you’re approaching hilarity now.

1. why do you care so much that your future sister-in-law is almost 30 and not married? dude, that’s weird.

2. check the NYT wedding section if you need proof that 30+ women can and do indeed get married for the first time.

3. if your fiancee is in her 20s, are you also in your 20s? your age would explain your … odd way of thinking.

4. if you are in your 30s, then why do you think you are somehow more desirable than a woman of the same age? honestly, when i was 27, the idea of dating a man 31+ was kind of repulsive. ditto most of the 20-something women i knew then and know now. just sayin’.

5. not everyone wants to get married. not everyone should.

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
1:55 pm

Old Crow, that will get you drunker than a skunk in no time. It is a potent drink.

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
1:56 pm

Stanley before you leave, I just want the link to the video of the woman, pleasing herself till she dies.

Kym

July 15th, 2010
1:59 pm

@Purple Rain you are going to need to say about 3 Hail Marys for that last comment..

mark

July 15th, 2010
2:00 pm

Lucinda why you gotta call me names:(

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
2:00 pm

I am so stuffed from eating that stuffed pizza. I change my mind. It would be given a 9. Delicious!

@Stanley ~ you’re about due for a new vest.

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
2:01 pm

1. It’s weird that I care about my sister in law. Ok, you and I have different views on family then. Where I come from we care about our family. Different strokes for different folks I suppose.

2. The longer you wait, the less likely it is to happen, this is fact. Also the longer you wait, the less quality dudes out there.

3. I am 30 and have been with my girlfriend since 28. It’s not about being desirable, it’s about finding a mate for life. Men over 30 have their pick of younger women and women, crazy as most of them may be, their own age.

4. Most women dream about walking down the aisle the day they take their first steps. Then they go and watch one too many Julia Roberts movies and get an unrealistic idea of love and relationships that causes them to be 35 and alone.

5. Sure, a few women don’t want to get married, they are in the minority and not who I am addressing.

Hope this helps.

SlimOne

July 15th, 2010
2:02 pm

PRain – You should come scoop me up on your way to FL…I’ll be you and Julia’s personal sun screener put-er on-er :mrgreen: You can just pay me in vacation. :-D

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
2:02 pm

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
2:04 pm

“1. It’s weird that I care about my sister in law. Ok, you and I have different views on family then. Where I come from we care about our family. Different strokes for different folks I suppose.”

Perhaps it’s me, but that didn’t come across as a “concern.” More like a slur against her character. That’s how I read it…you were mocking her and the stats on women 30+ years and never being married.

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
2:04 pm

I bet Stanley Steemer watched the video too and THEN thought oh woa is her…mmmmm hmmmmm

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
2:05 pm

Hail Mary, Hail Mary, Hail mary, full of grace… :)

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
2:05 pm

Leggs – Perhaps it’s me….nope you’re spot on, Stanley sho is concerned about his SIL

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
2:05 pm

Well you read it wrong then.

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
2:06 pm

Slim, where do we pick you up? DO you know how to work a video camera? LOL

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
2:06 pm

Leggs – Yes, I doubt anyone would appreciate his kind of “help” and “concern” that comes in the form of putdowns and insults.

LURKER (I want some of dat)

July 15th, 2010
2:07 pm

@Stanley….Make sure you send that post…..of the video of the woman pleasing herself to death.

@Anna….I know quite a few women in their 20 something getting it on with older men. I have several male family members in the 35 plus range who are currently working the 20 to 30 set….yeahhhh

Dirty Diana

July 15th, 2010
2:08 pm

@anoy this is my theory Steven Q wants a 30 plus year old, cougar-vixen,on the prowl, but they always let him down. Therefore Cap’n Steven Q got jokes for you (if you are over 30).

Lady wassssuup diva!

@Mark you make scared to sample outside the race. What if we just hold hands and go to the movies a few times. Will you let me back in? Also an AA lady called in this morning on the Rickey Smiley show and said dating outside her race is the best thing that has ever happened to her…she was married to an AA man seven years. She said swiss men got it going on…she said it with truth and passion. I am going to see if swiss has any friends for Dirty Diana. :wink:

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
2:08 pm

If I every want to try suicide, masturbating to porn would be my weapon of choice. I will just have to keep trying until I got it right. LOL

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
2:09 pm

sho is concerned about his SIL

It’s me – She ain’t his SIL yet. Maybe he wants to offer another type of “help”. Just saying.

Melo

July 15th, 2010
2:09 pm

Steven Q. Stanley ??

welcome to the blog buddy!

Now by linking us(blog) to that story that qualifies u to blog membership, 2 blog vests,dranks for a week from Dreamz and a guided tour of Slimone’s CT,with the legendary YEAAAAH LURKER hosting u.on that tour….

By copy of this memo,Ms Leggs will arrange to have all of ur blog materials handy when u visit her office later this afternoon.

Welcome!

Kym

July 15th, 2010
2:10 pm

@Leggs..no you didn’t. That old crow showed up in here telling every woman on the blog over 30 that they were all going to die alone. Reads like a character attack to me. Besides no matter what the topic..that is your same calling card.

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
2:11 pm

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
2:11 pm

Okay, Stanley. I’m going back to read it. I’ll let you know if I think otherwise.

Kym

July 15th, 2010
2:13 pm

Stanley Q is the “you gonna die alone” dude and Mark is the “chocolate chicks who like the swiss need not apply” guy.

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
2:13 pm

I am only here to help, I apologize to those who think otherwise. I know some of you are content to die alone and are already stocking up on cats to live with you. For you guys, hey, I mean no offense, live and let live I always say. My comments are for those who are not content to be alone their entire lives, please do not take them as personal shots against you, just motivation for those who think differently than you but need a little help getting to their goal.

Kym

July 15th, 2010
2:16 pm

@Stanley well I like dogs..so I am good. Besides I think the purpose of this life is to enjoy our short time on this planet..Remember.. “Life..No One Gets Out Alive.”

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
2:16 pm

He gets crazier by the minute. I bet there are cats all over the place where he lives!

LOL!!!

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
2:16 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol:

@Stanley ~ the fact that you put that sentence in about her sister, her age, and not close to finding a husband was your one gallop poll results to warn women over 30 that they may be alone with their cats. The older you are, the pickings are slim. That’s what I read in between that one sentence.

SlimOne

July 15th, 2010
2:17 pm

‘DO you know how to work a video camera?’

Mr. Prain, sir I am familiar with the older type camcorder’s. However, please do not let that discourage you from considering me for the position. You can be certain that with my strong attention to detail and direction, I am an exceptionally fast learner. I will further bed any current doubt by offering to accept a trial faux internship, compensated my a reasonable stipend. So what do you say Mr. PRain…do we have a deal? ;-)

Kym

July 15th, 2010
2:17 pm

@kimmie Like they say..Consider the source!

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
2:18 pm

Leggs, this blog and comment are all the poll you need. But it can be observed everywhere.

Melo

July 15th, 2010
2:19 pm

I think that story for me demonstrates clearly why a BOB shld be a real temp solution(BlackMagicw u listening??)

coz when u excited like that and u dont have somebody to help u in the event of cardiac arrest but a live person……….??

U got a problem….so im glad that stuff happened coz some females were getting so content with their BOBs……so now….u need help ladies……

that is where Steven Q. Stanley comes in!! :lol:

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
2:19 pm

It’s me – She ain’t his SIL yet. Maybe he wants to offer another type of “help”. Just saying.

Kimmie – I’m wondering too if it’s more about being disgruntled than wanting to help. Maybe she wouldn’t accept his form of assistance given that he seems much older than he’s letting on, so now he’s mad at everybody over 30 and subconciously hoping all end up being the cat lady. They say misery LUVS company. I think he’s got cats. How else would he know what happens after 30 and on down the road and you’re still alone?

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
2:20 pm

Maybe he wants to offer another type of “help”. Just saying.

For real,right? I wonder how this simp thinks he can save….wait a minute…who said women needed to be saved in the first place and how is some random,acrid “young” dude(he probbly went to school with Moses) going to save ALL of woman kind? His posts aren’t objective they’re MOIST…say it with me Stanley Steamer….it’s okay boo boo..really it is…

Concentrate on YOU and the little girl you’re tryna raise</delete? marry.

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
2:21 pm

Aww dammit I didn’t do the strike through right :???:

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
2:21 pm

Slim, you have the position. You must provide your own safety gear and goggles. LOL We will be getting on the road around 4pm, don’t worry about packing any clothes. LOL

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
2:22 pm

If you don’t want my help, would it not be easy to simply ignore my comments?

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
2:22 pm

He gets crazier by the minute. I bet there are cats all over the place where he lives!

STOP it I say…. :lol:

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
2:23 pm

You could do us one better and not type that moistness…

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
2:23 pm

By right, can you give advice on heading down a path or road that you’ve not done yet? He’s almost married but is the voice of doom and gloom to women that are not? He’s selling wooden nickels.

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
2:24 pm

He wants he sister-in-law. Steven are you the same guy who said a 35 year old man wants an 25 year old woman?

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
2:24 pm

Almost married = almost pregnant…either you is or you ain’t. Give advice from one lane of the other.

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
2:25 pm

Steven, she is just calling you moist. That means gay.

Melo, where is BlackMagicWoman? I hope her B.O.B. did not get the best of her.

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
2:25 pm

It’s me, LOL

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
2:26 pm

“almost” you all are funny. LOL

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
2:26 pm

Pretty obvious there is some truth to my comments that are representative of some here. A lot of eyes opened and they don’t like what they see. I guess when you live in a delusional fantasy land that is bound to happen.

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
2:27 pm

I will retract my statement about a “slur on her character” because you did’t say anything about her other than her age!

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
2:28 pm

Purple, personal attacks on me do not bother me, she is free to say whatever she wants about me. If it makes her feel better about herself,. I will gladly be her punching bag. As I said, I am here to help. Pretty obvious from the responses to my comments, they accurately describe quite a few women here.

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
2:28 pm

Dude, stop thinking you are the shyt. Everyone is bored and you are an easy target, until the next screwup. You are spewing more crap than that oil spill in the gulf. Give it a rest already.

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
2:29 pm

As I said, take all the shots you want, they don’t bother me.

Dirty Diana

July 15th, 2010
2:30 pm

I would rather have a tabby cat than listen to you whine all the time. Do you want cheese with that whine?

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
2:31 pm

death by masturbation; the return of Capn Save-a-ho, whos alter ego secretly wants his SIL, you all have been busy….

Melo

July 15th, 2010
2:31 pm

where is BlackMagicWoman?

@PR..Lurking proly!

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 15th, 2010
2:31 pm

Okay…HAD to jump in on this Stanley comment – “Most women dream about walking down the aisle the day they take their first steps.”

Um, yeah…I wanted to get married before I could talk?!?!?!? Now THAT is comedy.

Kym

July 15th, 2010
2:31 pm

StevenQ..when is your wedding. I mean you getting married right..are you in the count down? Did the wife to be make the running of the brides?

abc

July 15th, 2010
2:32 pm

Average age upon first marriage in the U.S. is 28 for men, 25 for women. Global averages are up to 5 years older in a few places, but for the most part, are about the same as the U.S.

While Steven Q. Stanley may seem a bit impolite and out there, there’s some truth to what he says. I’d say if you reach 35 and haven’t married yet, chances are pretty slim that you ever will.

Purple Rain

July 15th, 2010
2:32 pm

You have to master something before you give any advice on succeeding that same something. Otherwise, you are delusional.

I have to leave, ciao

“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it. ”
~ Ferris Bueller

Kym

July 15th, 2010
2:35 pm

Bueller.. Bueller… Have a good trip Purple Rain..bring me back a present.

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
2:36 pm

Thanks abc, i find it funny that people here so easily dismiss facts.

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 15th, 2010
2:36 pm

Stanley – Perhaps your “Tips for Old Ass Unmarried Chicks Over 30″ was posted on a day that I did not blog.

As I have yet to see any of this actual *help*, would you be so kind as to re-state this unquestionable knowledge that you seem to somehow possess regarding the state of single females everywhere?

(Because so far, all I’m seeing from you are attacks and snide remarks with no solid basis or supporting facts.)

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
2:37 pm

Too funny, we’re back to wooden nickels, stagecoaches and elixir to make you more desirable to the opposite sex (voodoo juice).

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
2:37 pm

You looking for a invite Kym, maybe you will meet someone? I don’t have many single friends left though.

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
2:39 pm

the return of Capn Save-a-ho, whos alter ego secretly wants his SIL

Yeah that’s probably what it is…he went after the older sister and got shut/shot down so he went at/for someone young n naive enough to actually believe what he’s saying. You know it’s usually like that when there’s a big age difference involved..you know the type of difference that makes people wonder if he’s her daddy when they’re in public :lol:

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
2:39 pm

What’s that story suppose to prove?

She did not die from being single or shock from the vibrator. It was a cardiac death from sexually related excitement. She would have likely die from the same excitement of being with a man.

If she never married, and were a nun instead, she’d still be alive today.

Steve Q, you’d have tried to save Mother Teresa too?

No need to respond. You have provided me enough laughs today. :lol:

Melo

July 15th, 2010
2:39 pm

I think Tiger is gradually getting his hunger back!

(hunger for golf and winning,by the way..jes to clarify) :-)

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
2:39 pm

Stanley Steamer Women who are so picky they break up with a guy over stupid little things, then they are 40 and the only guys left are unemployed wife beaters.

ABC, read between the lines buddy. Stan is bitter. Stan had a woman who was not yet 30,that dumped him over something he felt was stupid or insignificant for someone (she felt) better. While she may not have been successful in snagging said man that she dumped him for he gloats every chance he gets and is now convinced EVERY WOMAN does the same. He’s says in EVERY post, while not yet being married, that the woman is suppose is getting a good man. He thinks the love of his life had a good man (himself) and let him go no doubt for someone who she may have thought was better at the time but maybe didn’t quite pan that way and they never married. Because he still loves her and haven’t moved on, he gets a slick kick out of the fact that the dude she left him for didn’t marry her and he’s secretly gloats that he’s ALMOST married and whats to tell her, see you missed out on a good man. If it wasn’t for his pride he would go after her to get her back. But because he’s bitter, his pride won’t let him do it…..HE STILL LOVES HER THOUGH AND CANNOT GET OVER THE BREAKUP

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
2:39 pm

“As I said, take all the shots you want, they don’t bother me.”

@Stanley ~ not meaning to take any shots at you, but dude I picture you looking like “Carlton,” bowtie and all! (Do you know who Carlton is?)

Kym

July 15th, 2010
2:39 pm

@Steven ohhh nooo.. I leave the imaginary weddings and tea parties to my 4 year old niece.

I just figured since you keep talking about getting hitched you had some actually firm plans. I like Sexy C am waiting for you to actually provide some “advice” as you call it.

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
2:40 pm

2:32

You all are so predictable – I knew one of these regular blog dudes was going to find some “truth” to what he said!

Hillarious!

abc

July 15th, 2010
2:40 pm

I don’t know if there’s worthwhile advice to give to people that refrain from marriage. I figure they have their own reasons, or issues that hold them back, male and female alike. Marrying young is obviously not a prescription for marriage success, either — plenty of stats on that. I was first married at 21, and it was a rough 4 years. I was too young, but at a year older than I, she was really too young. Different strokes. Nothing says you have to ever marry.

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
2:41 pm

I’m in hysterics that abc even joined in on the mess. Too much like right!

Kym

July 15th, 2010
2:42 pm

@Melo is he in the lead..John Daly had the lead yesterday..I bet he plays better when he is drunk. LMAO!!! Go John Daly Go Tiger!!!

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
2:42 pm

That’s my interpretation Stan. You say it EVERY time. Your almost wife is getting a good man. That’s what your former love had…isn’t it? A good man she let go…being you.

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
2:42 pm

love ferris bueller, too many nuggets of wisdom in that movie, the scene where they try to roll the odometer back just came up in a convo about skanks the other day……

abc

July 15th, 2010
2:43 pm

Hey, lurker, I don’t even want to evaluate hypothetical socio-pathology of Mr. Stanley, or anyone else here… just idea exchange, that’s enough for me. If someone wants to lie their butt off in order to make a point, or even just to troll, that’s not my problem — shall I say, that’s not our problem.

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
2:44 pm

As ARed might say, nothing but Net, it’s me…..Well said!

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
2:45 pm

did i read correctly that not only is Superhero Stanley not married yet, but she is his “soon to be” fiance, as in no ones even proposed yet?

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
2:45 pm

love ferris bueller, so many nuggets of wisdom in that movie, the scene where they tried to roll the odometer back came up in a conversation about sk@nks just the other day….

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
2:46 pm

I’d say if you reach 35 and haven’t married yet, chances are pretty slim that you ever will.

whatever…I mean really where are you guys getting your stats from? And please don’t say some bullisht like Wikipedia cause that’s what it sounds like. How can you accurately account for that? Put out a link to the info or something….

i'm swiss™

July 15th, 2010
2:47 pm

Lucinda:lol: Mrs Swiss is, indeed, enjoying the benefits…

Dirty D — I’ve got some friends for you, but you have to understand that while they may be “swiss” there’s only one swiss™ When you’re not dealing w/ the original, results may vary… :lol:

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
2:47 pm

and the only guys left are unemployed wife beaters.

Leggs, my guess is that she left him for someone that beat her or later ended up with someone that beat her. He’s keeping up with her though cause he still loves her.

Stan, you are bitter. You even say the only men left over 40 are wife beaters. You think? I say if you still love her, put the past behind you, forget your almost bride and go with your true love. :)

LURKER (I want some of dat)

July 15th, 2010
2:47 pm

@Stanley…Man….You are hilarious why do the women have to end up with cats because they did not get married? That is funny…

@ABC ….Stanley partner steps in and explains it all to the blog women who are giving Stanley Steamer the moist treatment….Sassy that is goood … moist….. YESSSS

I bet when Stanley and his soon to be fiance are about to get it on the following occurs.

Stanley begins kissing future finance on the toes, up to the thighs, then skips straight to kissing her neck. (Foot Note) Stanley skips the puddy because he did not go to the puddy school of eating like Lucinda’s man, Swiss and Purple…YESSS :wink:

Stanley starts to get excited, then he suggest to his future fiance, baby I need to put on my captain save these hoes uniform, you know when I wear it I perform a lot better. YESSS :smile:

Fiance….I don’t care about you wanting to save these women I need you to learn the please your future fiance via the ORALLY program…I don’t want to have to pull-out my BOB!

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
2:48 pm

Sure thing Sexy Cool.

The biggest thing is to stop being so picky. Many women over 30 have watched too many movies and they have unrealistic expectations about love and relationships. They may meet a great guy, but because he doesn’t meet some idealistic, unattainable except in Hollywood, picture of what a man should be, they dump him. Worse even is a couple years late he finds someone who can appreciate he is a good man and is off the market.

The longer you wait, the less choices you have. Now everyone definitely deserves to be with someone who is goign to make them happy, but as time goes on you are going to have to be a little less choosy. Some of these “deal breakers”, you got to lose them.

A good man has a job, he works hard, he is a good partner, he won’t cheat on you, he won’t beat you, and he always wants to makes you smile. Maybe he isn’t the greatest looking guy in the world, or maybe he didn’t do some stupid romantic thing you saw in a movie once that you always wanted a guy to do for you. But he would make a great father and a great partner for life.

It’s common for women who do this to use phrases like “Mr. Right”, “My Perfect Man”, and “prince Charming”. They also dream of being “treated like a princess”. If you find yourself using this type of rhetoric, time to wake up and realize that if you were a princess you wouldn’t be 35 and single.

Now once you find one, instead of trying to find some stupid thing to dump him over, instead try to hold on to him. Now men like different things, but a few things are almost universal, and if you want to land a good man.

1. Learn to cook, the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
2. Don’t talk too much. I am not saying be a subservient woman who only speaks when spoken to. I am saying don’t bore your man to death with how much you hate the other women at work, make use of your talk time with meaningful conversation and enjoy some moments of silence as well.
3. Don’t make him stupid things he doesn’t want to. A good man will want to go dancing or watch a stupid chick flick with you… occasionally. Don’t drag your man by his sack everywhere you want to go and make him do everyhting you want to do.

This is just a start of course. Hope it helps.

Melo

July 15th, 2010
2:49 pm

Kym..Tiger is in contention..altho 4 strokes back..since its the first round,,a lot will flop and flip etc..so u know…..he is in a good spot.

John Daly will flame out obviously..LMAO

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
2:49 pm

Well, let me throw a monkey wrench in the gravy.

@Stanley ~ I got married at the ripe old age of 39!

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 15th, 2010
2:50 pm

Wow.
Okay…let me say that backwards.
Wow.

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
2:51 pm

:lol:

:lol:

:lol:

I would take notes, but according to statistics, I’m too late!LOL!!

Here kitty, kitty!!! :lol:

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
2:51 pm

Maaaan, Steve Q, you are on it today.

I can’t breath from laughing so much.

Wait, I’m getting excited and I’m single…If something happens to me…plleeease diiiiallll…404..6

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
2:51 pm

Congrats on beating the odds Leggs. Not too late for kids I hope.

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
2:51 pm

‘Stanley begins kissing future finance on the toes, up to the thighs, then skips straight to kissing her neck.”

I just spit out my skittle from laughing at that sentence! You guys are comedy at its finest!!!

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
2:53 pm

Many women over 30 have watched too many movies and they have unrealistic expectations about love and relationships. They may meet a great guy, but because he doesn’t meet some idealistic, unattainable except in Hollywood, picture of what a man should be, they dump him. Worse even is a couple years late he finds someone who can appreciate he is a good man and is off the market.

There you have it….again

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
2:53 pm

Yes, Sexy Cool, real simple when you think about it to the point you are amazed you didn’t see it before. Hope it helps and am always willing to give you more should you need it.

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
2:53 pm

Leggs, I’m crying over here! :lol:

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
2:53 pm

@Stanely, one of my favorite jams is on…Mary J. Blighe…JUST FINE!!!!

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 15th, 2010
2:53 pm

Now that I’ve actually wasted time in my life reading that novel, I would actually say that you have it ass backwards, Stanley.

The traits that you list are most often subscribed to younger, immature women who have not learned several of life’s most important lessons – number one being “The fairytale is a lie.”

But er, um…yeah….no, I’ll pass on your brand of counseling. I’m doing just fine on my own. And so, getting married is not the end-all/be-all in my life, nor is it for several women that I know.

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
2:54 pm

@Lurker – ROFL….still working with this cold, and now you’ve got me laughing so hard im gonna cough myself to death…..poor poor Soon-to-be Mrs Stanley

Kym

July 15th, 2010
2:54 pm

@Leggs..I was just going to say..what about all these older couples getting married in the their 70’s. Heck sexual transmitted dieases are increasing among the so called “elderly”. Old people are doing the do!

@Melo..I want Tiger to win one not for his dad or anyone else but for himself. Damn Elin and the press..play your game dude play your game.

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
2:54 pm

Here kitty, kitty!!!

Now folks are looking at me…truly funny….LOL

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 15th, 2010
2:54 pm

I want my 36seconds of life back, dammit.

Lord Velonese

July 15th, 2010
2:55 pm

“What dating deal breaker are you willing to reevaluate?”

None, I reserve the right to smash women, like they did me before I became regularly attractive and financially attractive. I’m no Bill Gates, but let’s face facts, all is fair in love and war, and I demand retribution. There is nothing wrong with making a Woman earn it because we all know they do it to us, and quite well at that. It sickens me to see someone always given a free “meal ticket” in life or have mommy and daddy hold their hand in life. Those who ever pay attention to my ramblings know, I didn’t have those things growing up and have pretty much earned and paid for everything in my life, so I see no problem asking the same from everyone else. I don’t care what your excuse is, because that’s what it is an “Excuse” either that or you’re lazy. I made a lot of sacrifices to prove a lot of people wrong and to get where I’m at now, and I have to admit I find it humorous watching those who wasted their youth partying or making stupid decisions when they should have been applying themselves for their future. I’m not perfect, but damn I glad people made fun of me in collage and grade school for not being social-able, because now I’m the laughing and poking fun one  Love it or Hate it but that’s fair suckas!

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
2:56 pm

@Luvbug ~ I am out of breath…I’m wheezing over here. That was damn funny. I am actually laughing so loud a co-worker came over asking to read whatever it is I’m laughing at.

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 15th, 2010
2:56 pm

To your 253p, you’re playing right?
Dude, just stop it.

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
2:56 pm

Well good luck to you then, it hasn’t worked so far doing it your way obviously, but who knows, maybe it will eventually.

Melo

July 15th, 2010
2:57 pm

Today is the Day ha…

ENTER Lord Velonese

:lol: :lol: :lol:

let mne read him

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
2:58 pm

Lord V, did someone phrase a question to you or did you just bring one and then your own answer? It’s weird on here today.

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
2:58 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: {{cough, cough}} :lol: :lol:

@Stanley….that was a long time ago. I do have a child as a result of that union!

I’m laughing so hard I’m sweating. Had to turn my heater off.

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
2:59 pm

so heres my ? Stanley, maybe i missed it, but what about women who married young (i married at 20). what happens if they become widowd or divorced down the road, so as to become single in their 30’s, but have not always been so?

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
3:00 pm

glad it worked out for you leggs, seriously.

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
3:00 pm

ok, wait, SMH, you know you have tendancy to ramble, at length, and yet you stil continue to do it….interesting

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 15th, 2010
3:00 pm

Stanley – I have been married, Dud. And I got married in my 20’s before I knew enough about life to make good choices when it came to who I allowed in it.

Oh…sht…why am I doing *THIS*? You owe me more life minutes back.

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
3:00 pm

Well good luck to you then, it hasn’t worked so far doing it your way obviously, but who knows, maybe it will eventually.

Now is that not the pot calling the kettle black? :lol:

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
3:00 pm

Leggs, I’m crying over here!

Kimmie – You’re not the only one. Nearly two pages of back to back humor. LOL

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:01 pm

Lord V remindes of Barnabus on Dark Shadows….I can see his coffin opening and him rising up with blood still on his fangs from the night before.

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
3:01 pm

blue, you’ve been married, you found someone to find you desirable enough to be married. It didn’t work out, but you did it once, you can do it again. Yes, as you get older there are fewer fish in the sea so to speak, but you have a leg up on those 30,35,40 who have never been able to find someone who could tolerate them for more than few months.

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:02 pm

@kimmie ~ stop hogging all the tissue…my nose is running from all this laughing!

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
3:03 pm

SexyCool, you’ve been married, my comments are not for you, see comment to blue. Sorry to hear it did not work out the first time. You did it once, you can do it again.

abc

July 15th, 2010
3:03 pm

Sassy, I don’t have statistics to back up the 35 and over thing, it just seems that way to me. Your mileage may vary.

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 15th, 2010
3:04 pm

Okay, now *I’m* laughing. You’re a comedian, aren’t you?

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:04 pm

@Stanley ~ does it matter that I am now divorced.

Fellow bloggers ~ thank you goes out to all of you. I haven’t laughed this hard in long time. I’m crying happy tears.

@Stanley ~ does being divorced screw the poll results??

Kym

July 15th, 2010
3:05 pm

So basically Stanley you develop all this knowledge how? After a 30 something woman..dump you because you didn’t meet her ideal..so now all women over 30 have these same ideals? Come on dude…you not handing out pearls of wisdom..you are rehashing your own rejection and lashing out at others..cause Sally dump you for a more exciting guy. She wanted to go to the opera or musesum, or a movie and you wanted stay at home playing Xbox or buying imaginary islands on Second Life. I see clearly now.

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
3:05 pm

Lord V remindes of Barnabus on Dark Shadows….I can see his coffin opening and him rising up with blood still on his fangs from the night before.

Leggs, folks are really looking at me like I’m crazy! :lol:
I used to love looking at those old Barnabus reruns!

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
3:05 pm

cr@p, im out of cough drops…no more laughing!

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:06 pm

You did it once, you can do it again. WHY!

J/K! :lol:

Melo

July 15th, 2010
3:07 pm

but you have a leg up on those 30,35,40 who have never been able to find someone who could tolerate them for more than few months.

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
3:07 pm

You’re not the only one. Nearly two pages of back to back humor.

I know that’s right…hi-la-ri-ous!!

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
3:07 pm

so, Stanley, basically im well trained heading into my 30’s, so should i become single, i should do just fine….good to know

what about men, do they have any flaws that keep them from being saved from the despair of singledom?

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
3:07 pm

Sorry to hear that Leggs.

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
3:08 pm

I am out of breath…I’m wheezing over here.

Me too Leggs. Me too. Is Steve new or an old/new regular I wonder? So many name switchers…I’m all confused.

But yeah…hilarious!!

Kym

July 15th, 2010
3:08 pm

Okay that’s it..LMAO now come Bitter Barty #2 sweet christmas crackers!!! It is straight comedy in this camp today. LMAO!!!!!

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
3:09 pm

Kym daaayum…. :shock:

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
3:09 pm

Steven Q. :arrow: meet the blog door now walk out of it. You posted that long dyck message, which was narrow in substance. I believe LURKER when he said that mess happened with you and your girl.

@Swiss I see you are a trademark…lol so I will get the generic brand if I crossed over. :grin:

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:10 pm

@kimmie ~ Twlight fans would look at Dark Shadows and then look at us STDHs (shaking their damn heads). :lol: :lol: They wouldn’t even come close to understand the sexy appeal that Barnabus had over so many!

@blue ~ forget the cough drops…time for water. My throat is dry.

Awww, Sheila E is jamming now….

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
3:10 pm

blue, absolutely. A lot of men are players, and instead of settling down they are goign to take playing the field too far and end up 40 with an STD and a long list of women who want to cut their manhood off. A lot of these guys will die alone.

And of course some dudes are just losers, they don’t work, they drink and use, they beat women, etc. Let us pray no woman is going to get with these men.

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
3:10 pm

what about men, do they have any flaws that keep them from being saved from the despair of singledom?

Yeah answer that…

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
3:10 pm

i’m rolling over here….Stan poked holes in his own theory. He doing the backstroke and retracting cause he assumed from reading every dang body on here is single…how narrowminded is that. He didn’t know folks are married, divorces, working on #2,3,4…whatever. Holes in his theory. You should NEVER make a blanket statement or assumption that all folks are a certain way cause life sux.

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
3:11 pm

Let us pray no woman is going to get with these men.

hope you don’t get with any of them either….just moist.

Kym

July 15th, 2010
3:11 pm

@Leggs..can’t you just hear Steven cheering some old widow or divorcee on., “YOU CAN DO IT CAT LADY!!” YOU CAN DO IT!!

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
3:12 pm

lurker, never assumed that at all. I have said many times here my comments are for those are never married. I know many here, myself included, are divorcees.

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
3:12 pm

Steve when is the date? Are we invited?

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
3:13 pm

Dirty Di you dead wrong for that 3:09 :lol:

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
3:13 pm

myself included, are divorcees.

Stick a fork in me…pleeease.

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
3:14 pm

Still working on the details lurker, sometime summer of 2011. Will let you know!!!

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
3:14 pm

I don’t have statistics to back up the 35 and over thing, it just seems that way to me.

BLOG REGULARS – remember this from abc the next time he goes spouting off his “statistics”!!LOL!!!

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
3:14 pm

I gotta mute my phone (conference call), cause I’m laughing so loud.

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
3:15 pm

@Kym – d@mn it Kym, didnt i say no more laughing, ROFL….i can play it off as a sneeze……

@Leggs – Sheila E….Awesome….thats what i forgot to put in my Ipod….

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
3:16 pm

sometime summer of 2011

Per yesterday’s topic, why the long “almost” engagement? Layaway plan? Hummmmm!LOL!!!

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
3:16 pm

Stan the man – sometime summer of 2011

well that is an “almost”…that’s next to never given you’re giving out advice and helping your potential SIL. I though you was almost married, like this year. Does she know you’re almost married to her? Does she’s know ya’ll getting married next summer or are you just saying that for the sake of your ex and all cat ladies?

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:17 pm

@Kym ~ why you go and do that? I had just come from the water fountain calm and collected then I read your 3:11. If I was much older, I’d probably would need to change my Depends!!!!

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
3:18 pm

For your sake Stan, I hope your almost bride knows. If she rejects your almost weeding, a blow like that can be devastating.

Luvbug

July 15th, 2010
3:19 pm

Kimmie – I’d put the brakes on too, if my guy (self proclaimed fiance) was obsessed with my sister. :lol:

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
3:19 pm

I said almost engaged. I have to wait to ask her father, their tradition, and not sure next time I will see him. After that engagement will be official.

The plan now is to be officially engaged whenever we get past this father thing, might not be until Xmas, and get married next summer.

Glad you are so interested.

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
3:20 pm

Sassssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssy/blue

what about men, do they have any flaws that keep them from being saved from the despair of singledom?

I guess they will get a few pit bulls to fight, maybe pop a viagra here and there ,and find a lady with some cats to party with while as he clean his dentures and pick his toe jam

Melo

July 15th, 2010
3:21 pm

Congrats Steven Q. Stanley!!

u could have posted something yesterday,come to think off it….

so u have already done the “will u marry me stuff?? and she said YES YES YES??

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
3:21 pm

@its me… oh wow, can you imagine if this one turns him down….just imagine what the posts will be like then….

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
3:21 pm

Steven Q. what is your race, and what is her race? you are not getting past her daddy. I don’t see a daddy letting his daughter get a pie man

Steven Q. Stanley

July 15th, 2010
3:22 pm

Good day to all, may you all find happiness. See ya next time.

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 15th, 2010
3:22 pm

Since the blog today is obviously Comedy Central….check this…

MEXICAN WORDS!! The teacher told pepito to make sentences with his spelling words:

1. *cheese*
Maria likes me,but cheese fat.
2. *mushroom*
When all my family gets in the car, there isn’t mushroom.
3. *shoulder*
My friend didn’t no how to make tacos, so I shoulder.
4. *texas*
My friend always texas me forwards.
5. *herpes*
Me and my friend shared a pizza, I got my piece and she got herpes.
6. *july*
Ju told me ju were going to the store, and july to me!! julyer!!
7. *rectum*
I had two cars but my wife rectum.
8. *chicken*
I was going to the store with my wife but chicken go by herself.
9. *wheelchair*
We only have one soda but its ok wheelchair.
10. *chicken wing* My mom plays the lottery so chicken wing.
11. *liver*
A bully was messing wit my sister and i told him to liver alone
12. *body wash*
I wanted to go to the bar but no body wash my kids.
13. *budweiser*
That woman over there has a nice body, budwieser her face so ugly?

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
3:22 pm

so u have already done the “will u marry me stuff?? and she said YES YES YES??

Melo, read his 3:19, he said “almost” engaged. He hasn’t even asked her yet!

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:22 pm

@blue ~ Sheila E is a must to have on musical rotation. I can play the air drums right along with her bad a$$!

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
3:23 pm

I said almost engaged. I have to wait to ask her father, their tradition, and not sure next time I will see him. After that engagement will be official. The plan now is to be officially engaged whenever we get past this father thing, might not be until Xmas, and get married next summer.

Stan, seriously, you are NOT engaged. You’re giving out advice?! Cut it out.

Kym

July 15th, 2010
3:24 pm

LMAOOOO!!!! There are just no words.!!! Steven Q take a bow..you are the BLOG BUSTER OF THE WEEK!!!

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:25 pm

“so u have already done the “will u marry me stuff?? and she said YES”

Wouldn’t that be backwards??? I thought he asked the father for his daughter’s hand in marriage then proposes to her. How does that thing work anyway????

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
3:25 pm

SCool – Cut it out!!! :lol:

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
3:25 pm

so u have already done the “will u marry me stuff?? and she said YES YES YES?? Ummmm, obviously not…HE’S NOT ENGAGED. See that’s why you can’t believe everything people write.

blue/730, that’s not gonna be pretty if he’s turned down. Good thing we’re all virtual, he just might snapped. Right now he seems awfully depressed.

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:25 pm

@DirtyD ~ exactly why I don’t want an old man! That was funny!

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
3:25 pm

mr.blue will be glad to hear he saved me from a perilous, cat filled future…

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
3:26 pm

you are the BLOG BUSTER OF THE WEEK!!!

I ain’t heard nothing on this call….I AM ROLLING

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
3:26 pm

Stan does have a point about the number of eligible partners decreasing the older you get. When you are in your 20s, more people in your age range are ‘eligible’ than when you are in your 40s, or 50s. That’s just true.

HOWEVER, given the several BILLION people on the planet, even if 80% of the people in your age range are ineligible for whatever reason, that still leaves many, many to connect with. It might require more effort as you get older, but they are definitely out there.

And, I think Stan also has a point about SOME people having too many unimportant criteria for a suitable mate. That’s not the exclusive domain of women, plently of men focus on unimportant things as well.

HOWEVER, to suggest that a woman who is single — regardless of her age — is necessarily desperate and miserable is misguided and likely born of a lack of exposure to dynamic, health and happy women in their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and beyond.

Poor Stan.

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
3:27 pm

Stan does have a point

Not you too, Lucinda! :shock:

Kym

July 15th, 2010
3:28 pm

I have to wait to ask her father, their tradition, and not sure next time I will see him. After that engagement will be official. The plan now is to be officially engaged whenever we get past this father thing, might not be until Xmas, and get married next summer.<<<Translation Russian mail order bride..

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
3:29 pm

Translation Russian mail order bride..

bwah ha ha ha…cut it out pleeease

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
3:31 pm

I hate I didn’t a moon pie to eat….reading today is like being at the movies…almost….”ALMOST” Stan

Lucinda

July 15th, 2010
3:32 pm

@kimmie but he does, to a limited extent. I can seperate his “I’m going to save everybody I think needs saving” mindset from the one or two things that are true.

Noted though: If he REALLY wanted to ask her father, he could call him or MAKE IT HAPPEN to see him face-to-face before December.

I smell a rat.

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
3:32 pm

Why does it gotta be cats? Can’t it be goldfish?

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
3:32 pm

I don’t have statistics to back up the 35 and over thing, it just seems that way to me.

Thanks for proving my point and saying so….some of your counterparts should take note and follow suit…

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:32 pm

Ouch, just bit my tongue with mail order bride…please stop…I so want to collect another paycheck!!!

Kym

July 15th, 2010
3:33 pm

I’m out folks good night!!

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:34 pm

@kimmie ~ go sit down…goldfish take maintenance, cleaning the fish tank, etc. Cats take care of themselves…all you have to do is throw some toys around, a bowl of food and a bowl of water…DONE!

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
3:34 pm

Lucinda, that stuff you mentioned is common sense though. We hear that stuff on here so much, till we’re blue in the face! Even a broken clock is right twice out of the day!

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
3:35 pm

Leggs, don’t forget cleaning out the litter box!LOL!!!

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
3:36 pm

@kimmie – i could go for goldfish, got an older friend (divorced, hmmmm) who has bowls of betta fish all around her house. in each tank she’s thrown a piece of jewelry the ex gave her (including her diamond engagement ring). he gets sooo po’d every time he comes to get the kids and sees the fish swimming over it, lol

Melo

July 15th, 2010
3:36 pm

How does that thing work anyway????

@Leggs??

from that asking for the “father’ hand” stuff,he sounds Indian or may be Middle eastern.”" dont know..

In my culture,if u dating, at some point u interract with the parents and if they dont like u,they have already told the girl…….so there is possibly no more asking for the father’s hand in marriage any,more coz its DONE.

However,all things being equal and all families are happy,u can go ahead an propose to ur girl however way u want to,if u want(I never did it like that,u know that Already right) and then others may even have an engagement party…then u arrange to have the customary stuff where all parties meet for the bridal price stuff….

on that day,the parents of the female may insists or demand that they want a white wedding for their girl…..

U then start the ball rolling to do that.

Otherwise,after the custoamry wedding stuff,its a Wrap and u go to the courthouse if u want just so u make it legit in the “white men’s eyes”(meaning,for official purposes)

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
3:38 pm

Steven Q. please don’t leave yet…I have your award. You made my pie list!

I am whatever you say I am

July 15th, 2010
3:39 pm

Kimmie at your 1:50
Mark my words: I am not easy to find.

abc

July 15th, 2010
3:40 pm

The practice would be to ask her father for permission to ask her.

I don’t see as I’ve proved anyone’s point, Sassy. Just the same, while it seems that over 35 is a pretty good guess as to whether one has aged out of marital likelihood, I agree with Lucinda as well, i.e., just because a person isn’t married doesn’t mean they’re unhappy. I was happy when I was single, and it had absolutely nothing to do with character or even presence — or absence — of women. Fact is, I found first dates (as in the first 5 or 10! ha) to be kind of a drag, not that enjoyable really.

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
3:41 pm

Melo, I won’t even give him the benefit of the doubt you give, the cultural stuff. He just came off straight wacko, and always does. And there are plenty regular Americans that do the “ask daddy” thing first, I hear about them all the time, happened with some of my friends.

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:41 pm

@kimmie ~ yep, forgot about that because I don’t do it. That’s my child’s responsibility.

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
3:43 pm

I am – Good for you.

Be careful, all I’m saying.

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:47 pm

Melo ~ you acting like I’m 12. :lol: I was wondering can you ask her to marry, then go and ask the father for her hand in marriage? Do people put the cart before the horse some time or should you always ask the father before asking the daughter? What if you ask the daughter first, then her father, father says hell no and you find a horse’s head in your bed. What do you do next. Her heart is broken because you asked her first, you want to skip town now cuz you deathly afraid of her father, you don’t want to elope because again, you’re deathly afraid of her father.

So, guess it’s best to ask the father first before getting anyone hopes raised and lives cut short!!

Melo

July 15th, 2010
3:48 pm

And there are plenty regular Americans that do the “ask daddy” thing first

@Kimmie!

I wld expect that (as regular) from my dghters unless they have gone hollyweird and down right rebelled!

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:48 pm

Next song….Salt-N-Pepa PUSH IT…..

Melo

July 15th, 2010
3:50 pm

Melo ~ you acting like I’m 12.

@Leggs..sorry, really thight u asked a legit qstion..no wonder the elaborate explanation.

My bad….woe my ink! :lol:

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:51 pm

kimmie

July 15th, 2010
3:51 pm

wld expect that (as regular) from my dghters unless they have gone hollyweird and down right rebelled!

Melo – I know, cause you don’t play!LOL!! Don’t scare all ya daughter’s suitors off, lest they end up “cat ladies”!LOL!!

It’s a sweet tradition, tho.

Well gang, I’m off. It’s been a real pleasure today. Don’t know when I’ve laughed so hard since watching the Hangover! Made the afternoon go by quickly!

Peace!

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
3:52 pm

This is my first fresh peach all summer. So juicy and sweet!

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 15th, 2010
3:57 pm

My point was that I didn’t believe what you said about the over 35 and not being married and oh lawd what us gone do now cause ain’t no more good men around. I wanted some stats to back up what you were saying b/c it sounded incredulously inaccurate…and you had no stats and that was my point. I knew you didn’t but I digress. Do you xyz. :lol:

Leggs there is a guy who sells produce here on Thursdays and today he had peaches 5 for $2 and they are HUGE n sweet…OMG.

Gotto go read y’all tomorrow.

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
3:59 pm

headed home, gotta tell mr.blue about today, sure he could use a good laugh too. ttfn, ta ta for now

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
4:00 pm

Now, I want a plum. A peach and a plum is my offical start to summer…this heat is nothing compared to that tradition.

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
4:01 pm

Melo

July 15th, 2010
4:02 pm

mr.blue ??

thats an assistant to ur man blue-7/30??

I know him :lol: :lol:

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
4:05 pm

A plum would be nice…

blue-7/30

July 15th, 2010
4:05 pm

so silly melo, lol….nite Leggs

It's me....lurker

July 15th, 2010
4:06 pm

Did Stan the Silly Man leave? I just went and got a moon pie…oh well, back to work.

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
4:06 pm

@lurker_1 ~ just read your quote. You did fine. Didn’t mean to catch you off guard, but everyone is caught off guard when I ask (lol)!

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
4:07 pm

BP Says No More Oil Going Into Gulf – BP says oil has stopped leaking into the Gulf for the first time since April.

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 15th, 2010
4:09 pm

Do you xyz. ROTFL :grin:

I was wondering if he 1-2-3

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 15th, 2010
4:18 pm

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
4:21 pm

Thanks SexyC ~ I’m going to register. Wait, that’s her Sweet 16 B-day party!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

July 15th, 2010
4:33 pm

Afternoon All!! Hope everyone is doing well!

Just popped in to say whats up! Been on my grind!!!

Deal breaker to reevaluate : dating someone unemployed! Since I am not that unemployed person, I have a somewhat-within-reason outlook on dating an unemployed individual.

anonymousella

July 15th, 2010
4:49 pm

@steven q 1. no, it’s weird that you care about your sister-in-law being almost 30 and unmarried. and keep posting about it. repeatedly. and about other 30-something women and how single they are. you keep harping on 30. not 29. not 35. but 30.

2. the longer you wait, the more likely it is that you probably don’t care about whether you get married. which makes me wonder why *YOU’RE* so concerned about it if *SHE* hasn’t made it a priority. and again: i will refer you to the NYT. lots of newly married 30-somethings. new ones published every week. i know a half-dozen women who all got married after the age of 30…over 35 even. trust me, it happens.

3. no. men over 30 *do not* have their pick of younger and younger women — unless they’re rich, famous or immature. for real: ask a 27 year old woman about dating a 35 year old single man. she’ll want to know what’s wrong with him. at least, that was me at 27. and i know i wasn’t the only one.

4. … or they fell for that marriage okey doke, got hitched at 24 and divorced/dumped at 33. i know a few folks like that. men, mostly.

5. and how do you know your future sister-in-law isn’t one of those women? saying “i want to get married,” and acting like it are *not* the same thing.

Melo

July 15th, 2010
5:00 pm

nite Dealers,losers and winners!

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
5:03 pm

End of Day Quote given by Raqi (who asked me to post for her)

“Keep your friends close and your enemies closer. That way some ”friends” won’t know you suspect them to be enemies and that you are keeping close to watch them. It’s better that way.” – Raqi

Good night!

Leggs

July 15th, 2010
5:06 pm

I live by that quote!!!!

lurker_1

July 15th, 2010
5:08 pm

Thanks Leggs, you are the blog moderator…that’s a good thing