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You had me at hello…on Aisle 3

The night I went to The Gold Club for Jezebel Magazine’s Most Eligible party, I was scoping out the crowd to find a few singles to interview.  I was mingling and chatting people up when an adorably fabulous woman came up to me and we got to talking.

She gave me a business card and I gave her mine, telling her about the Misadventures in Atlanta dating blog.  She immediately lit up and excitedly told me that she was newly married and very happy.  She recounted the sweet sweet story of when she met her new husband at a grocery store (!!) and that she really believes that she found the true love of her life.

She told me that when they met she didn’t call him right away, she waited a few days   After she finally called him back, they scheduled a date. Their first date lasted hours and within a few weeks…they were engaged.

This is when she called her husband over to introduce us.  They told me that he literally had his entire house packed up and was scheduled to leave Atlanta.  The day he met her? He canceled the move – without even knowing if she would call back! Talk about serendipity, right?

I suppose some would classify that as love at first sight;  or at the very least, smitten in a grocery store!  Do you believe in love at first sight?

I know I am hopeless romantic and this kind of love story is what I love to hear about to satisfy my curiosity about how people meet and fall in love.  I just think it is possible to meet someone and immediately feel as if the person is right for you.

I have met only one man that I felt that way about instantly.   It didn’t work out but that intense attraction I felt was a first for me and I was not at all prepared for it! Have you ever felt that way about someone when you met them?

Guys, if you met someone that really blew you away, how far would you go to get and keep her?  Would you rearrange your life or postpone a major move in an effort to make it happen with the woman of your dreams?

345 comments Add your comment

Leggs

July 13th, 2010
10:17 am

@PR ~ I use to keep a compostion book where I kept a journal on the Yankees. I had every player down, their shirt number, their RBIs, HRs, Strikeouts, etc. I followed the Yankees and The Mets!

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
10:19 am

Leggs, I like the Twins and Yankees. Steinbrenner was a good guy for baseball. LOL Trump got his coin phrase “You’re fired” from him.

blue, his name is Ruckus, lol

Run4Life

July 13th, 2010
10:22 am

I’ve had instant attraction for about three guys…you know, the chemistry is right between us. We dated for a few years and at the time time I thought each was my soulmate. I believe you can have more than one soulmate.

I met this guy out for drinks on Sunday as casual friends. I was attracted but thought he may be a little geeky. We had engaging conversation, and he hugged me at the end of our our date, and I felt chemistry with him whereas I hadn’t before. Has anyone been hugged by someone and because of that hug it turned out to be a long term relationship? I’ve been able to tell chemistry with a first kiss but never a hug.

DreamsMaterialize

July 13th, 2010
10:23 am

PRaing Uncle Ruckus is a fool man. lol And why does grandad always listen to Riley? kym I’m going to buy Season 3 for you for Christmas. lol

blue-7/30

July 13th, 2010
10:23 am

lol, dont know why i keep calling him rufus, always do that and get corrected at home too, lmao

We knew it was right from "Hello"

July 13th, 2010
10:24 am

I met my wife of 10 months, almost three years ago. At the time I was working a part time gig, in addition to my day job, and she came in as a prospective client/customer.

From the word “Hello” there was a chemistry; unknown to the other, we were each feeling a confidence inside that the person before us was “special”, and that they would have a profound impact on our lives.

We each had matters to deal with; post divorce finances that looked like “mud”, the fading embers of a love grown stale, or the unresolved anger left by a relationship past. As a year and some months went by, we exchanged occasional e-mails and infrequent phone calls; with each moment of contact, the original excitement and facination returned, never fading and never quite out of mind.

In March 2009, we had our first date. At some point in the evening of that first date, I looked accross the table, warned my guest I was about to “break the rules of dating”, and I asked her out again. No questions, no doubts, no waitng to call her 72 hours after the date; it was right and in accord with a “higher” plan; a perfect plan; HIS perfect plan.

The rest of the story is a “whirlwind” and 5 1/2 months later I married her; everything had fallen into its proper place and in accord with that perfect plan.

The list of potential issues was long, and there are still debts to pay; but wach morning I wake beside my best friend and each night I fall asleep beside her;

Life is Good! (and she had me from “Hello”)

DreamsMaterialize

July 13th, 2010
10:25 am

Has anyone been hugged by someone and because of that hug it turned out to be a long term relationship?
Run4Life Come give me a hug and let’s see. lol

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
10:26 am

I went to the strip club and fell in love at first sight after I left I realized I just fell into debt. LOL

Dreams, that show is hilarious. Grand dad is always listening to Riley and trying to be cool. LOL

Luvbug

July 13th, 2010
10:28 am

Uncle Rukus (said with complete sincerity): Well, that’s understandable. You a coon.

Horribly funny!!

Mike P

July 13th, 2010
10:28 am

I have to agree with DreamsMat’s 10:04 post. I don’t think any man would have stayed in town for a women, at least in that scenario as stated… I just don’t buy it.

PR…( If a divine being that you serve “told” you that someone was your spouse to be, would you act on it. What if that person was “just not that into you”?)

I have found the women of my dreams… Everything about her seemed perfect, i knew she was the one for me, I was willing to give up everything for her. But it wasn’t instant “love at first sight” tho. We met through mutual friends, then we become really good friends, we got closer, we started do everything together and things were going great. Then I realized one day that I was completely in love with her, I was in too deep, I couldn’t pull out. So I made my intentions and desires known; long story short, we are no longer friends, I don’t see her anymore, I don’t hear from her anymore, birthdays, holidays, nothing.
All my efforts didn’t amount to anything and it cost me a close friendship. The funny thing is every fiber in my being told me that she was the one, the inner voice, that divine being, or whatever you wanna call it, all told me she was it, apparently, divinity ain’t got nothing on free will.

I have never felt this way about anyone before or since and probably won’t again.

blue-7/30

July 13th, 2010
10:29 am

Run4Life brings up the topic of soulmates, how many folks really beleive they exist

Melo

July 13th, 2010
10:30 am

Awwwwwww,Nice story Hello..even myself am tempted to crwwwwwwwwwwwy!!

oghhhhhhhhhh..oghhhhhhhhhhhhh.

nice tho!

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
10:31 am

I have hugged women before and “felt” something.

I went to get my head shaved ball and the lady aske to keep it and donate it to Locks of Love, that was pretty cool. :)

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
10:31 am

ball means bald

Run4Life

July 13th, 2010
10:32 am

@DreamMaterialize….Very funny.

Luvbug

July 13th, 2010
10:33 am

Ummm Mike P…Let’s not jump off the cliff please. I imagine you are too young to think you will NEVER feel that way for someone else.

NEVER?? Come on now. Maybe not tomorrow, but NEVER is extreme.

Kym-Counting it all joy baby! Counting it all joy!

July 13th, 2010
10:35 am

@Purple Rain..okay I will set the DVR. Now why are you over there with the baby blues?

Sultana

July 13th, 2010
10:36 am

czBrat

July 13th, 2010
10:40 am

Hello, that’s just the sweetest story. i’m so happy for you, and you sound completely head over heels!

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
10:40 am

Mike P, have you tried to go get her? Maybe she was scared.

Sassy Me..Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 13th, 2010
10:41 am

I’ve been able to tell chemistry with a first kiss but never a hug.

Run4 I’ve got a male friend like that…the chemistry was instant and we’d just met. When I say chemistry I’m talking intense physical attraction to the point where even now when we’re around each other it’s electric. I’m smiling now as I type these words. We never dated b/c the timing never seemed to be right but when we’re around each other it’s magnetic…once our eyes meet OMG…

czBrat

July 13th, 2010
10:41 am

Reign, that IS pretty cool!

k bloggers. let’s say i have this ‘friend’. she’s in this great relationship with a great guy, but things are moving a little too fast for her comfort level. they’ve been together about 1.5 years and he’s been talking marriage for the past 8 months. is there anything wrong with waiting? do you risk losing The One because you want to take things slowly? i’ve told her that if slowing down brings things to an end, then it wasn’t quite right to begin with. should i be encouraging her to jump in before it’s too late?

Melo

July 13th, 2010
10:42 am

Love at first sight is more of an after thought after the initiall contact has turned out to be something positive and long lasting.

Nobody can never tell how a date is gon turn out,unless they are a sooth sayer or some kinda of prophet.

Telling the story,after the facts in this dramatic kinda way is what makes the luv stories interesting.

I made a connection with most females I dated during my time and went on to have some pretty nice romantic times with some of the females.Things is,with all of them excpet one,it didnt last all waaaaay long.

Only one,that I met after her modelling show was over, made it to wife!

Luv at first sight?? Dont know..but when I saw her, I wanted her,then got her!

AmazonRed™

July 13th, 2010
10:44 am

Morning all –

Cool story WiseDiva! I hope it works out for them.

I have a few friends who had totally given up on dating, had planned to move and make a fresh start, and then met the love of their life.

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
10:44 am

Kym, just some family things. :)

czBrat, there are two sides of that coin. To soon or waiting to long can both be damaging.

Chink

July 13th, 2010
10:46 am

Dig…I am in a relationship now so poor timing – no facebook request from me :)

Kym-Counting it all joy baby! Counting it all joy!

July 13th, 2010
10:47 am

@Dreams I will take you up on that offer.

@Mike P..if you had that feeling once you can have it again. While I believe in destiny..I can’t wrap my head around the idea that my destiny is tied to only one guy. Again I have felt “connected” (ok my psychic/past lives beliefs are showing) to more than one guy.

Luvbug

July 13th, 2010
10:48 am

So Melo, you don’t think that some people may authentically believe that they’ve experienced love at first site?

I guess I’m counting it true because I think it’s true for the people who believe they’ve experienced it.

CoolShadow

July 13th, 2010
10:51 am

My love at first sight story happened with my first love. I saw her when she boarded a bus and I was overtaken by something before I even thought of saying hello. It was something about her that I had never felt before about other girls and wasn’t quite sure how to process what I was feeling. I caught on her commuting routine and it took me about six weeks to build up the courage to say something to her. When she got off at her stop I did as well and finally said something to her, inviting her to lunch and she accepted. At that encounter I treated her to lunch but I was so smitten I took at most two bites of my lunch and basically wasted it. It took a few months for finally connect and my first love instincts became justified. Unfortunately a combination of youthfulness, immaturity and relocation derailed our relationship.

I’ve made a major sacrifice for another relationship for love but that fell apart. Now making sacrifices for love will get fleeting consideration at best and summary dismissal at worst.
I’ve never had a love at first sight experience since then. These days there might be a strong interest at first sight but I even try to temper those feelings until I find out more about her.

Kym-Counting it all joy baby! Counting it all joy!

July 13th, 2010
10:52 am

@Purple Rain you see my status message..you better count it all joy. We all go thru..heck right now I am questioning all I know about myself in my professional life. But each time I feel like lashing out..I have to count my blessings. One thing I learned this past year(oh I count years from birthday to birthday) is that I can not control what others, think, feel, imagine or believe of me. <<<This is hard for a control freak…but gradually it is sinking in. Now I don't know what is going on..but I do know from what you have shared here on the blog..you have many blessings to count..so you might want to get cracking on the countdown. Believe me it helps.

blue-7/30

July 13th, 2010
10:53 am

@cz – id say slowing it down may be a good idea, but she has to be careful how she approaches that topic. if she isnt careful about it, it will come across as if she wants out and not just slower. agreed tho too slow or too fast can both wreck a true thing

Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 13th, 2010
10:54 am

i’ve told her that if slowing down brings things to an end, then it wasn’t quite right to begin with. should i be encouraging her to jump in before it’s too late?

cz I agree with you in that if slowing things down brings them to an end then dude wasn’t sincere in the beginning so with that being said ….I don’t think it would be right to encourage her to “jump in” if she’s not comfortable.

Kym-Counting it all joy baby! Counting it all joy!

July 13th, 2010
10:54 am

Mannn I typed a great response to you Purple Rain..but alas the blog ate it.

Luvbug

July 13th, 2010
10:57 am

cBrat – Did he give her an option/ultimatum or is she guessing her options??

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
10:57 am

Kym, I knew it would have been great. :)

I don’t think a person should place their SO in an eternal waiting pattern, I think they both need to come to a mutual agreement.

Mike P

July 13th, 2010
11:00 am

PR,
Yes I have tried, and tried, and tried; all to no avail. As a friend, she started to become less predictable, less reliable, more flaky, shown displays of being emotionally, physically distant, was more and more “forgetful,” of the things we had planned. Then she became un-friendly, unapologetic, mean, and more combative. PR, every man as his “no more” breaking-point before he loses his self-respect. There wasn’t more I wanted to do with her, she became a “tool” and I then realized that I was only one holding up/ holding on to the “friendship.” (learning moment for me). It was time for me to check out. so I went… This was a few years ago, she’s married to some other man now.

i'm swiss™

July 13th, 2010
11:01 am

I think “love at first sight” is a bit of a misnomer. I believe in intense attraction at first sight and in recognizing the potential for something special at first sight, and felt both of those fairly strongly with Mrs. Swiss. But how can you possibly be truly in love with someone without at least some time to learn who she/he really is?

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Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
11:02 am

Mike P, I understand. Well my words may not mean anything but do not give up. You know yourself and it is a big world. Hopefully one day you will know another love and it will be more than the one you knew previously.

Melo

July 13th, 2010
11:03 am

you don’t think that some people may authentically believe that they’ve experienced love at first site?

@Luvbug??

I donk know what to believe other than u dont know its luv at first sight untill well after the facts.

U see a woman,u like some about her,u make the approach,she receprocates nicely and things develop to where u two are an item……

oghhhhhhh,it was luv at first sight is just a romantic story told that most women luv to hear….how can u luv a woman u just eyeing,when u dont even know if she wipes good??

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
11:05 am

Love has different meanings to people.

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
11:10 am

Love is like playing the lotto. Some people do not believe in playing it.(Does not believe in love) Some play it faithfully waiting to win the big game.(In and out of relationships) Some only play cash 3 or the scratch offs (Just dating) Some win the big game first try. (Love at first sight) Some invest their money in more stable ventures than the lotto.(The methodical lover)

:)

blue-7/30

July 13th, 2010
11:13 am

@melo – Love at first sight is more of an after thought after the initiall contact has turned out to be something positive and long lasting.

never really thought of it that way b4, but can see your point. what if you say its love at first sight, and when you get to know them their a fatal attraction boil your rabbit type?

Luvbug

July 13th, 2010
11:13 am

Okay Melo. Here’s a challenge that you exceed the ability to meet. Recreate your “interested at first sight” story about Queen to a love at first sight story with all the animated bells and whistles.

Actually, that challenge is open to any male blogger here.

Melo

July 13th, 2010
11:17 am

what if you say its love at first sight, and when you get to know them their a fatal attraction boil your rabbit type?

@blue-7/30??

exactly my point.! Luv is tested…

can u luv her when u realize her azz is smelling funky all the damn time??

@Luvbug..I dont get the challenge?

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
11:18 am

Luvbug, I can’t do it.

Chink

July 13th, 2010
11:18 am

Nice Analogy PR (lotto)

Leggs

July 13th, 2010
11:19 am

@Hello ~ NICE!

Luvbug

July 13th, 2010
11:19 am

Melo – Retell the story of how you met and became interested in Queen, but in an elaborate “love at first site” way.

Luvbug

July 13th, 2010
11:20 am

Why not PR??

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
11:30 am

Luvbug, I don’t have a story that is relative.