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You had me at hello…on Aisle 3

The night I went to The Gold Club for Jezebel Magazine’s Most Eligible party, I was scoping out the crowd to find a few singles to interview.  I was mingling and chatting people up when an adorably fabulous woman came up to me and we got to talking.

She gave me a business card and I gave her mine, telling her about the Misadventures in Atlanta dating blog.  She immediately lit up and excitedly told me that she was newly married and very happy.  She recounted the sweet sweet story of when she met her new husband at a grocery store (!!) and that she really believes that she found the true love of her life.

She told me that when they met she didn’t call him right away, she waited a few days   After she finally called him back, they scheduled a date. Their first date lasted hours and within a few weeks…they were engaged.

This is when she called her husband over to introduce us.  They told me that he literally had his entire house packed up and was scheduled to leave Atlanta.  The day he met her? He canceled the move – without even knowing if she would call back! Talk about serendipity, right?

I suppose some would classify that as love at first sight;  or at the very least, smitten in a grocery store!  Do you believe in love at first sight?

I know I am hopeless romantic and this kind of love story is what I love to hear about to satisfy my curiosity about how people meet and fall in love.  I just think it is possible to meet someone and immediately feel as if the person is right for you.

I have met only one man that I felt that way about instantly.   It didn’t work out but that intense attraction I felt was a first for me and I was not at all prepared for it! Have you ever felt that way about someone when you met them?

Guys, if you met someone that really blew you away, how far would you go to get and keep her?  Would you rearrange your life or postpone a major move in an effort to make it happen with the woman of your dreams?

345 comments Add your comment

Mike P

July 13th, 2010
8:31 am

Good Morning MIA Blog

I have met someone who really blew me away, but she didn’t feel the same way. At this point, I probably wouldn’t postpone or rearrange anything in my life for someone else, especially for someone who didn’t call me back until days later. That’s a red flag that she’s either not really interested or she’s playing games, either way, I’m not interested anymore.

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
8:51 am

I believe in love at first sight. If that situation were to happen in my past, I would have bet the farm on going after it.

mark

July 13th, 2010
8:52 am

i havent met that special lady yet! that had me at hello but i hope to find her soon!

Good Morning everyone! Hey Leggs!

kimmy

July 13th, 2010
8:56 am

I’ve never had love at first sight, but I think it was more of an instant interest at first sight. I wanted to know more and those situations have never worked out so that’s as close as I’ve gotten. I think there are people who know from the instant they meet that they are meant to be together. I wish it also worked the other way so people wouldn’t end up wasting their time with people who they aren’t meant to be with.

blue-7/30

July 13th, 2010
9:02 am

GM all – not sure im one for love at first sight, maybe more like attraction at first sight. not like “i wanna jump your bones” attraction, but more the sense that something draws me in that persons direction. always been cautious about that love word, and even so, ended up using it at the wrong times lol

Leggs

July 13th, 2010
9:12 am

Good morning ALL!!!!

Hey Mark.

I love stories like that. I believe in knowing he or she “is the one” with the first encounter. Then, start to build the foundation for a lifelong relationship/marriage with each other. Yeah, I definitely believe it exists!

@MyItalianStudmuffin ~ who you kidding? In your past you were afraid to commit (LOLOL). I can see you in corner chewing your nails wondering “should I go after it, should I not.” Just messing you first thing this morn!

Dig That

July 13th, 2010
9:18 am

Good morning erybody

I have seen so many people in love with the idea of being in love that they believe damn near every encounter is “love at first sight”. Maybe I will gain some insight today.

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
9:22 am

Leggs, I knew it I just wasn’t man enough at the time to go all in, if I could go back I would have trusted myself the first time. :) I was our own worst enemy. LOL

blue-7/30

July 13th, 2010
9:27 am

pr – i was our own worst enemy, guilty of that myself once upon a time, seems like forever ago

I am whatever you say I am

July 13th, 2010
9:29 am

Morning Blogsville,

This story reminds me of how my dad met my mom.

They both grew up in the same town and went to the same highschool but they never socialized-they had different social circles.

They went on to attend college and marry different people and they both ended up divorced.

So, skip to their 30’s they happen to meet up at a party. My dad was not happy with were his job had relocated him and was about to put in a transfer but declined when he met my mom. They dated and within a few months or so , they were married. They’ve been married for almost 35 yrs now.
My dad told me that if he had not met my mom that night, he would’ve put in for a transfer and probably would be living in CA.

I am whatever you say I am

July 13th, 2010
9:29 am

kimmie

July 13th, 2010
9:34 am

Morning beautiful people!

I don’t think it’s really “love”, but like kimmy & blue said, an instant interest or attraction, something that draws you to the other person. I’ve had that instant connection, and while we dated awhile, did not marry. I would not say that was a failure – you can have the attraction for someone, but it takes the same things regardless of how you felt when you met for the relationship to work.

I think both people have to be open enough to act on that initial attraction too. If you are fresh off a bad breakup or going thru a divorce, or if dude in the story had been intent on going thru with his plans to leave Atlanta – things may turn out differently. Sometimes it’s all in the timing.

Mike P – What would send a red flag up quicker for you in these 2 scenarios: 1 – the lady in the story called guy immediately once she got home from the grocery store that day or 2 – she waited a few days to call? If she did 1, she may come off as too eager and desperate or 2, too laid back or playing games. You see, you’re da–ed if you do and da–ed if you don’t in this situation. Her now husband didn’t take a few days hearing from someone whose basically a total stranger as a red flag. He was open.

Kym-Counting it all joy baby! Counting it all joy!

July 13th, 2010
9:36 am

Good Morning All,

Awww what a sweet story. I can’t say I believe in love at first sight..but I do believe in destiny..and that everything that happens in our lives serves a purpose. No matter how small or chance the meeting. While I have had the displeasure to meet some characters in my time on this big blue ball, I have also had the pleasure to cross paths with some wonderful people. So I think love at first sight is more than possible. As for me I have not met or experience that feeling for a fellow. I have over time developed the “attachment” to 3 men. Who have each in their own “special way” created a connection..that so help me I can’t seem to break.

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 13th, 2010
9:36 am

Hola!

Cool story.

@Dig so true!

@Purple yea right

I will lurk on this one I want to hear the guys POV on how far will they go for love.

Chink

July 13th, 2010
9:39 am

Morning

Hmmm Love at first sight ….I have only 1 guy who made me head over heels but the timing was bad and then another opportunity came and the timing was bad again. I always wonder where he is…

But I am open to the feeling of “connecting” not really in the love at first sight thing.

I think someone has to be a hopeless romantic to believe in love at first sight meaning you have to be open to the possibility.. all the time.

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
9:41 am

Diana, for sure :)

Kym, destiny, I like how you described that. Did you see “The Boondocks?” Uncle Ruckus actually fell in love with a woman who was not white. Now that I think about it Grand Dad fell in love at first sight in that episode and messed it up. The Boondocks, episode falls in line with today’s topic. Wise Diva, did you watch “The Boondocks” this week, then write this article? LOL

Dig That

July 13th, 2010
9:42 am

@Dirty D- Wat up baby

Kym-Counting it all joy baby! Counting it all joy!

July 13th, 2010
9:47 am

@Purple Rain..Morning! No I missed it and didnt DVR it..I was out of town for the weekend and all I wanted to do when I got home was sleep. I am really just going to have to buy this season when it’s all said and done.

Dig That

July 13th, 2010
9:47 am

Do you think facebook, myspace, or twitter helps destiny along? Chink you don’t have to wonder where he is, go facebook buddy

blue-7/30

July 13th, 2010
9:48 am

@PR – seriously, rufus fell for a nonwhite, he must have fell and hit his head, still havent caught up on boondocks, arggg

abc

July 13th, 2010
9:50 am

What a bunch of aholes in Bookman’s blog. My goodness.

Love at first sight? Sure, why not. I can’t say it’s ever happened to me, but I’m sure that for others it’s like that.

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
9:51 am

Kym, it was a normal episode but still funny. So you really did not miss to much it comes on again. 7/17@11:30 and 7/18@2:30am

R.I.P George Steinbrenner, you made the Yankees!

SlimOne...still buzzed

July 13th, 2010
9:52 am

Good morning all!!! I need a nap already.

j-mike

July 13th, 2010
9:53 am

i believe it happened once for me, during freshman year of college- we ended up dating after she returned back from summer break but sadly, things didn’t work out the year after and she returned home. so i’m a little more pessimistic about it now, but we’ll see what happens.

I am whatever you say I am

July 13th, 2010
9:53 am

@ Dig That…LOL @ facebook… my exes keep finding me there.

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
9:54 am

blue, yes he asked her to marry him. LOL

Dig That, I think those social media sites do nothing to help relationships.

Dig That

July 13th, 2010
9:55 am

@I am- Some folks we wouldn’t mind seeing again and some remind you instantly why you ran from them

Suzanne

July 13th, 2010
9:55 am

My husband always claimed it was “love at first sight” for him. He loved to recount the story of how we met on a blind date arranged by a neighbor of his and the neighbor’s daughter, with whom I worked. He was very resistant to blind dates, after several disastrous “fix-ups” he had experienced. So when his neighbor, Eddie, told him it was “all arranged” and there was no way to cancel the date as I was out of town (this was the era before cell phones!) he relunctantly agreed to be there when I arrived, although he was none too happy about the prospect. As he recounted it, he was sitting on the front of his houseboat, fishing, dangling a bare foot in the water when I came down the dock walkway. He took one look, and realized he had made a miscalculation, and should really have paid attention when Eddie and his other neighbors told him to spruce up a bit! I saw this previously non-chalant guy leap up from the deck of his boat and dash inside. My thought? “Wow! I must have scared him off!” But he returned, more graciously attired, and we spent a wonderful afternoon, cruising the lake and socializing with other boaters. He was so smitten, he made me 3 lunches that day! And after 3 weeks, invited me to attend his high school reunion with him. We married a year later, a marriage that lasted 19 years, ’til his death two years ago. What did he give up? Well, certainly the life of a carefree bachelor. But I, at the time, had 4 children, ranging from preteen to late teen, still in the house. This was something he would never have taken on,had he seen it in a Match.com profile, but having met me, he invited us all back out to the boat the very next day after our blind date. He was a wonderful dad to the kids, and a wonderful husband to me, all because of that initial sensation of “love at first sight”.

Dirty Diana 101° ♠

July 13th, 2010
9:56 am

Wassup Dig! I think facebook is really helping it along. I am hearing stories of couples reuniting in their 50’s and 60’s so you know the young ‘uns are on it. LOL

Sassy Me..Chocolate cutey

July 13th, 2010
9:59 am

I’ve never had that Kismet, we were meant to be together feeling from someone I’ve just met….sounds nice n romantic but I’ve yet to experience that. Honestly, I wonder how I would handle that if/when it ever happens.

SexyCool - Joy bubbles over.

July 13th, 2010
10:00 am

kimmie – “an instant interest or attraction, something that draws you to the other person.”

That describes my initial reaction to TheDude. (sighs)

Mike P

July 13th, 2010
10:03 am

@kimmie

(Mike P – What would send a red flag up quicker for you in these 2 scenarios: 1 – the lady in the story called guy immediately once she got home from the grocery store that day or 2 – she waited a few days to call? If she did 1, she may come off as too eager and desperate or 2, too laid back or playing games.)

that’s a trick question… of course scenario 1 would raise a red flag quicker… because of the word “immediately.” But check it, in this given scenario of wise diva’s story… I’m guessing the man told her that he was leaving town, I know I would have. And given that, If she arbitrarily waited a few days, I’d have no choice but to assume she wasn’t interested, I would have left town as scheduled.

Why couldn’t she have called after a few hours later, or an agreed upon time-frame, or the very next day even??? Why does your scenario only have a choice between immediately or a few days later?

DreamsMaterialize

July 13th, 2010
10:04 am

Morning
That’s a very romantic story, but I don’t completely believe it. He was all packed and ready to move, but cancelled the same day he met a random woman who he didn’t know would even call? I’m not buying that. The only way I can see this is if he’d been watching her from afar for a long time without her knowing and finally decided stalk bump into her at the grocery store. I think they threw that in there for the Hollywood effect. I’m glad they’re happy though.

Needless to say I don’t really believe in love at first sight. I might feel a connection with you upon meeting, but that’s a far cry from loving you and knowing I could spend the rest of my life with you. I’d love to be proven wrong though. ;-)

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
10:05 am

Sassy, it would probably scare the crap out of someone at first until they realize what is going on. LOL

No Yankees fans, is this a Braves town? Even if you don’t like the Yankees, Steinbrenner made the Yankee business a powerhouse and he was good for baseball.

czBrat

July 13th, 2010
10:05 am

GM All!!

awwwww! i just luv that story WD!
i’m with those who have already said that it was more like instant attraction when our eyes first met. the love took time.

brb

Shari

July 13th, 2010
10:05 am

I got cheated in my love at first sight. Could not see straight or speak as fireworks were going off. The guy turned out to be married..hoping to meet someone again who affects me like that!!

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
10:07 am

Does a man choose a wife, or does a woman choose a husband. If a divine being that you serve “told” you that someone was your spouse to be, would you act on it. What if that person was “just not that into you”? What if you knew someone was to be your spouse, but you were to messed up and didn’t want to make the move towards marriage?

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
10:08 am

Shari, sounds like it was love at first sight for you and business as usual for him.

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
10:10 am

David Stern fined Gilbert of the Cavs, 100k

Luvbug

July 13th, 2010
10:10 am

I am – Nice story.

I’ve never loved a guy at first site or been loved at first site, but I believe it can happen. I think it’s more likely to happen after you’ve had a round in love already. You probably have a clearer picture of what you want and have a good rhythm about sustaining a longterm relationship after you’ve gone through the fire with someone and made your costly mistakes…ones you’d never repeat.

Sassy Me..Chocolate Cutey :-)

July 13th, 2010
10:11 am

The guy turned out to be married..hoping to meet someone again who affects me like that!!

Yeah just make sure he’s single…

Melo

July 13th, 2010
10:12 am

Shari, sounds like it was love at first sight for you and business as usual for him.

:evil:
:lol: :lol: :lol:

@PR..boy u brutal! :lol:

Gmorning folks!

Melo

July 13th, 2010
10:13 am

I think it’s more likely to happen after you’ve had a round in

@Luvbug!

Boy :roll: :roll:

:lol: :lol:

Leggs

July 13th, 2010
10:14 am

@Suzanne ~ loved your story. There are men who aren’t afraid to date a woman with more than one child. Glad you found your mate and sorry you lost him in flesh only!

Luvbug

July 13th, 2010
10:14 am

Why you rolling your eyes Melo??

Leggs

July 13th, 2010
10:14 am

R.I.P Mr. George Steinbrenner!

I am whatever you say I am

July 13th, 2010
10:14 am

Thanks Luvbug.

Dig that, yeah quite a few of the exes I wouldn’t mind seeing again…
But being that I am in the present, I can’t go back.

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2010
10:15 am

Melo, I have been sour as of late. Let me know if I get out of line with people. Sometimes I do not realize it until it is to late.

Facebook, Myspace and Twitter, I am sure there is plenty love at first sight, that goes away really fast once the person they are in love with denies the “friend request” LOL

SlimOne...head in the clouds

July 13th, 2010
10:15 am

Dreams – i’m pretty much with you on the Love at first sight deal. It’s really hard for me to swallow that concept. I believe you can have a great chemistry on your first meeting but that hardly constitues love.

blue-7/30

July 13th, 2010
10:16 am

@pr – marrying rufus? ewwww…. never know when hes lookign at you…steinbrenner – all i know about him and the yankees i learned from seinfeld, probably not the best source lol

the facebooks and twitters are what you make them. if you choose to do something stupid out there for the world to see, and nothing good comes from it, thats you and not social media.