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Dating: Has the definition of single changed?

I suppose I should not be shocked whenever it turns out someone is not as “single” as they claimed to be.  I recently exchanged numbers with a guy (younger) who pretended to be unattached.

It wasn’t until I got a call from his significant (and livid) other that I learned he was involved with someone.  They actually lived together. What made him think he could date me in his situation? I had to laugh at how pathetic that entire incident was. I’m too old for this!

It is so annoying to discover you wasted your time on someone who decided to “hedge their bets” on the dating game.  I can understand dating around and keeping your options open as long as you are upfront and honest about it.  It is rare to find someone who tells you the absolute truth about his or her relationship status.   Even on Facebook that ridiculous “it’s complicated” feature perpetuates the problem.

When I meet someone that sparks an interest, I ask them the question are you married or seeing someone special.  This is a pretty clear question right?  Why is it hard to admit you are in a relationship or working on one?

Do I need to frame the question differently? Should I specify by asking about live-ins, separated from wife, etc.?

When you meet people, how do you determine if they are actually single and available?  Would you still be interested in someone if they were involved with another person?

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Trevor0529

July 6th, 2010
2:11 pm

I don’t mind sharing…..just not my vacation days. brotha gots to chillax some time this year
;)

Lucinda

July 6th, 2010
2:11 pm

@ Melo 12:26 He did. I knew it. I did. He knew it.
Poetry!

@ Prof aka Dirty *plus men love harder*
Got that right.

Lady-Resilient!!

July 6th, 2010
2:11 pm

hmmmmmmmm lol

PrincessNik

July 6th, 2010
2:12 pm

plus men love harder

really?

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 6th, 2010
2:13 pm

++++wassup Lady+++++

Breaking News
Here is an update. Ms. Leggs had a drink with the blogger from Friday I just call him Poppa Swiss.

Other headlines….George P is confused on whether to stay or go with ex-girl…she has left the relationship so he is the only lingering party. This is a young love situation so you know how that goes.

PK and I are tired, but Trevor does not feel sorry for us. We are tired from the long weekend.

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 6th, 2010
2:14 pm

@PK,

Yes, really they do?

Melo

July 6th, 2010
2:15 pm

Poetry!

@Lucinda…good for u congrats.

and besides,its good that brotherman is playing poetry on u coz of his skills u alluded to.

seems like a win win to me!

kimmie

July 6th, 2010
2:16 pm

Melo – You 1:46 – So you have a ring but Queen doesn’t?

blue

July 6th, 2010
2:17 pm

George – seems to me that she has already made her decision, she just doesnt want to be the one to say the actually words. noone likes to be the bad guy when the storys being retold. id say, save yourself some time and accept it for what it is.

Lady-Resilient!!

July 6th, 2010
2:17 pm

LMBAO Thanks Professor I needed that! lol!

Melo

July 6th, 2010
2:19 pm

So you have a ring but Queen doesn’t?

@Kimmie

1.46 was jes some blog tomfoolery

Lucinda

July 6th, 2010
2:19 pm

@Melo Thanks.

Smart + considerate + funny + interesting = dating potential
Smart + considerate + funny + interesting + MAD SKILLZ = a keeper! Whew!

now taking a break to cool off…

Sassy Me...Sun Kissed :-)

July 6th, 2010
2:20 pm

(a) she will be thirsty and hand you the honey pot in the airport parking deck or (b) you will hear that she is back in town from the gossip committee.

And it really is just that simple….we must remember a person will reveal their true selves..some choose to see it for what it is and some stick their heads in the sand..tsk..tsk

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 6th, 2010
2:22 pm

Thanks Sasssssssssssssssssssssssssssssy he is making this too complicated, but I do understand.

i'm swiss

July 6th, 2010
2:24 pm

Melo — Not sure what was up w/ the middle name, but apparently the dude gave up the first & last & the whole thing was over some fireworks being shot of on the 4th of July… So, do you really have to arrest the dude for obstruction? I’m just sayin’… :lol:

Prof — “Poppa Swiss”… Dangit, Prof you’re gonna make me sprout wood here in the office… That’s what Mrs Swiss calls me when she’s riding The Matterhorn. And also when I’m lycking on her Swiss Chocolate Covered Cherry…. :lol: Dang, that woman has some strong thighs… my neck hurts today… :lol:

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 6th, 2010
2:26 pm

@ swiss…LOL I’m sorrrrrrrry. I will give him a new name, but Poppa Swiss is sexy :wink:

Lucinda

July 6th, 2010
2:27 pm

@swiss ’splain that to the chiropractor

Trevor0529

July 6th, 2010
2:27 pm

That’s what Mrs Swiss calls me when she’s riding The Matterhorn. And also when I’m lycking on her Swiss Chocolate Covered Cherry…. Dang, that woman has some strong thighs… my neck hurts today…

Now Swiss deserves a vacation day!!
:lol:

abc

July 6th, 2010
2:27 pm

George, let me tell you something about chicks: there is no such thing as a girl that won’t take a tumble from jump. You can forget about that ‘not the type to go beyond 2nd base in a month’ line. ALL women — and especially young girls — are susceptible, and I mean all.

But that’s what I’m saying: if you can hang and see past all that, hat’s off to you. I couldn’t. And also, we’ve all been there. We didn’t think they’d hit it with some other guy either. They all did, they all can, they all will. If you think it’s possible, it’s already happened. If you don’t think it’s possible, sorry ’bout that, but it’s probably already happened.

Not to be too gruff about it, but hey, you should be aware. When they tell you they want to go try out someone new, believe them.

Lady-Resilient!!

July 6th, 2010
2:28 pm

swiss hot mess! I hope you wife is doing well!!!

hey leggs how are you!?!

PrincessNik

July 6th, 2010
2:28 pm

Trevor how come Swiss deserves a vacation day ?!?!?

Lady-Resilient!!

July 6th, 2010
2:28 pm

Lady-Resilient!!

July 6th, 2010
2:29 pm

PK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

Sassy Me...Sun Kissed :-)

July 6th, 2010
2:29 pm

he is making this too complicated

Yep Professoooooooor shole iah….he doesn’t want to let go.

And IIIIIIIIIIIIIII EEEEEEEEEEEEE IIIIIIIIIIII will always love youuuuuuuuuuuuu

PrincessNik

July 6th, 2010
2:29 pm

Poppa Swiss

reminds me of Poppa Smurf

:lol: :lol:

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 6th, 2010
2:29 pm

@Trevor for all you know PK and I could have been in the 9:15 (thanks sassy for giving us the name) allllllllllllllllllllll weekend longggggggggggggg. So don’t count us out, because we don’t broadcast. :wink:

PrincessNik

July 6th, 2010
2:30 pm

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 6th, 2010
2:30 pm

And IIIIIIIIIIIIIII EEEEEEEEEEEEE IIIIIIIIIIII will always love youuuuuuuuuuuuu

LOL :grin:

PrincessNik

July 6th, 2010
2:30 pm

Professor

my thoughts exactly :green:

PrincessNik

July 6th, 2010
2:30 pm

AmazonRed™

July 6th, 2010
2:30 pm

Leggs – How do you know he’s not reading this?

Lucinda

July 6th, 2010
2:32 pm

out now, all. happy rest of the day.

i'm swiss

July 6th, 2010
2:34 pm

Hey there, Lady J — Mrs. Swiss is doing much better, thanks. She’s still a little tender “down there” but she’s well enough for her morning & evening oral examinations… ;-) :lol: And I can attest first hand that her thighs are back at full strength… :lol:

kimmie

July 6th, 2010
2:36 pm

Melo – LOL!! Just checking! You know I wasn’t gonna let that go!

Lady-Resilient!!

July 6th, 2010
2:38 pm

awwwww swiss~ she has a great husdand The Swiss Family Rocks! Continue to shine!

SlimKoo-koo for Coco Pops

July 6th, 2010
2:42 pm

Guys/Fellas/Lads – exactly how tiring or drained do you feel after you let one go? Does it take most of your energy?

Trevor0529

July 6th, 2010
2:43 pm

I know you ladies were probably making do what it do all weekend long and ladies don’t kiss and tell. But Swiss has a crick in his neck from making do what it do with the Mrs and that deserves a vacation day.

I could be swayed if the both of you said something like “I can’t move today because my back got blown out over the weekend.” But ladies don’t kiss and tell.
:)

East Point's Own

July 6th, 2010
2:45 pm

From reading some earlier responses I saw that some folks feel like they don’t have to be upfront with info regarding their situation when they meet someone, or that a new person has to basically earn the right to know the truth. If that’s your attitude then do you expect the new people you meet to be open with you, or are the first few weeks/months of dating open season on not telling the whole truth to each other? At what point do you decide its time to be completely truthful? Do you really think that a person who is on the level can’t sense that you are hiding something?

http://hispointofview.com

PrincessNik

July 6th, 2010
2:49 pm

“I can’t move today because my back got blown out over the weekend.”

But Trevor, what if we were the one putting it down and dude is at home still sound asleep. ;)

Leggs

July 6th, 2010
2:50 pm

@ARed ~ and if he is, I’ve said only nice things about him.

i'm swiss

July 6th, 2010
2:50 pm

“…what if we were the one putting it down and dude is at home still sound asleep.”

In that case, you deserve a toast, young lady… Dranks on me! (Until your dude wakes up, that is…) :lol:

SlimKoo-koo for Coco Pops

July 6th, 2010
2:51 pm

‘But Trevor, what if we were the one putting it down and dude is at home still sound asleep’

PrincessNik – :lol: That’s the ticket!

kimmie

July 6th, 2010
2:53 pm

Slim Coco – It’s extremely tiring for me, that’s why it’s been no trouble for me in the past to wait awhile before I get back out there.

Professor

July 6th, 2010
2:54 pm

PK, tell him again. Re-post that 2:49 and dock him four vacation days too :wink:

Lady-Resilient!!

July 6th, 2010
2:54 pm

swiss thx for the cheat sheet! :) late i know lol

PrincessNik

July 6th, 2010
2:55 pm

dock him four vacation days too

@ professor

2 for you and 2 for me ;)

Trevor0529

July 6th, 2010
2:55 pm

PK, if you were the one putting it down and dude is still snoring….if the performance was Heisman Trophy worthy….I probably would consider that worth a vacation day.
;)

Leggs

July 6th, 2010
2:55 pm

Hello, Lady-Resilient! You still walking the mountain?

Lady-Resilient!!

July 6th, 2010
2:59 pm

my subdivision but can walk the mountain fri or sat morning or both days………

Lady-Resilient!!

July 6th, 2010
3:01 pm

yall ever had so much to say about a topic then nothing comes out each time you try to convey it……lol…….its something about this topic that leaves me smdh……lmbao!