I suppose I should not be shocked whenever it turns out someone is not as “single” as they claimed to be. I recently exchanged numbers with a guy (younger) who pretended to be unattached.
It wasn’t until I got a call from his significant (and livid) other that I learned he was involved with someone. They actually lived together. What made him think he could date me in his situation? I had to laugh at how pathetic that entire incident was. I’m too old for this!
It is so annoying to discover you wasted your time on someone who decided to “hedge their bets” on the dating game. I can understand dating around and keeping your options open as long as you are upfront and honest about it. It is rare to find someone who tells you the absolute truth about his or her relationship status. Even on Facebook that ridiculous “it’s complicated” feature perpetuates the problem.
When I meet someone that sparks an interest, I ask them the question are you married or seeing someone special. This is a pretty clear question right? Why is it hard to admit you are in a relationship or working on one?
Do I need to frame the question differently? Should I specify by asking about live-ins, separated from wife, etc.?
When you meet people, how do you determine if they are actually single and available? Would you still be interested in someone if they were involved with another person?