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Dating: Ego Handling

When you are single and available, there are times when you just have to go through a dry spell.  This is when you have no prospects whatsoever.  Not even the church mothers who are trying to play matchmaker are circling around you!  Don’t panic! It’s perfectly normal and happens to everyone.

Perhaps the worst time to endure a dry spell is right after a break up or some disappointment.  You are eager to prove that you aren’t undateable and your ego needs a quick fix.  I believe I have said it before but our egos are a big problem when it comes to dating.  I mean, not only handling the egos of other people, but our own egos get in the way.

What usually happens is we get a reality check along the way.  Someone we really like doesn’t call us back or isn’t interested in us.  Having a healthy dose of confidence is never a bad thing but humility is important!

One way we can better  manage our egos in dating is going the extra distance for someone.  I know it can be tough taking a risk, but it doesn’t have to be a big deal.  If you find a person you feel drawn to, what difference does it make if you put in a little more effort?  It could pay off and that could be what makes you stand out.

I believe ladies (ok, I really mean ME) have the biggest problem with getting their egos in check.  It is part defense mechanism and part feeling entitled to be pursued all the time.  At any rate, it would be worth it to find ways to show a guy that you think he is special too.

What do you think single people could do to handle their egos better?

I recently told a friend of mine she needed to check her ego and date a shorter man.  She can keep all her fabulous heels and be really happy with a great guy if she dropped her ego and gave it a shot.  Do you think single people should check their ego when it comes to their dating prospects too?

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Wise Diva

July 2nd, 2010
8:36 am

Good morning everyone!
Happy FRIDAY! Will any of you be working next Monday?

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
8:43 am

Diva, I am off next Monday.

Hola!

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
8:50 am

Good Morning Professor & Wise.

Slim will be off Monday and hopefully enjoying another day of Chocolate. ;-)

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
8:56 am

Morning
Periodically we need to check ourselves and re-evaluate what’s important to us. However, I never try to convince someone that I’m right for them. If you only date 6′5″ and up (even though you’re only 4′11″), then I won’t try to convince you otherwise. Go for what you know. Otherwise, you’ll just end up feeling like you settled, and that never ends well.

Wise
I’m off Monday.

Prof what’s good?

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
8:58 am

Hey Slimmy. You know I couldn’t forget my lefy-lovin queen. ;-)

Trevor0529

July 2nd, 2010
8:58 am

Good Morning Professor, SlimOne & Wise Diva,

I will be off on Monday resting from the Peachtree.
:)

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
8:58 am

lefty-lovin lol

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 2nd, 2010
9:02 am

Happy freaky fourth of July! :lol:

@Slimone…..Part 15 of geting you chocalate fix, dude done turn out the superfreak! YES :wink:

@Dirty D……I thought you were going to be out of town until Tuesday, you mean I get to ask you more about you and DreamsM new relationship? Don’t let DreamsM know I am going to take you out for dinner in 2 weeks……..YES

Yes your ego must be put in check, once you finished dating or ending a relationship, it’s time to put that energy in healing thyself mentally and spiritually so you can be prepared to enjoy dating again. A luker Nugget! YESSSS

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
9:11 am

Dreaming of a lefty world – I was starting to feel a bit left out. (no pun intended) Glad you came back for me. ;-)

LURKER – you getting on me wayyy early in the morn huh? Nope, not turned out. Sometimes I just like to admire the chocolate…not actually eat it. ;-)

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
9:12 am

Good morning, everyone.

I remember when I went to a party a few months back, this man asked my gf about me the next day. He gave her his number to give to me. I called, we chatted for a while and briefly text each ohter (about a week). He said he wanted to get to know me better and perhaps we can go out sometime. Sound good to me. He was an interesting person. Unfortunately, that’s all I got. I sat back and wondered what went wrong. Came up with the fact that he just wasn’t interested. NEXT….

WD, I too am off Monday! WOO HOO, WOO HOO.

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
9:15 am

Morning Trev – noticed your moniker and 05/29 is my dads bday. :-)

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 2nd, 2010
9:26 am

LURKER – you getting on me wayyy early in the morn huh? Nope, not turned out. Sometimes I just like to admire the chocolate…not actually eat it.

@Slimone….It’s o.k., we all know usafreak, I have mad admiration for ya because I know you going to get you freak on and on and on and on! YESSS :lol: Do it lefty and make sure you do it good! :wink:

@Leggs….You time is coming, since you are a puma you might as well go the youngin route. These old dudes cannot keep up with you fine azz. Keep them to the curb and come and get some of this young MW…..Can you dig it!!!!!!!!!! :smile:

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
9:29 am

‘we all know usafreak’

LURKER – i’m not a freak, I just come a lot. :lol:

Dan - simply...

July 2nd, 2010
9:29 am

As one known for having an ego, I know when to check it and when not to.

I’ve been humbled in life enough to know my limitations in a lot of areas, but I keep pushing those too.

Thing about “the ego” (as is used in this context) as an unrealistic expectation or identity that is created more as a defense than as a healthy view of oneself (and ones limitations). People like that have more growth/life to experience before they can come to terms and accept themselves as is.

And that’s a process that has to play itself out in their lives, preferably without the K.I.D.

Good morning.

Oh and Slim, keep my bidness outta the skreet, what happens in the Dec, stay in the Dec; or no mo’ hot chocolate for you.

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
9:30 am

Okay, so I get home a little early yesterday, flipped on the TV and what do I see?! Some dude named M-Dot (up and coming rapper) and his mama on Maury. I just got two questions.

M.DOT, was that you??

Are you Jasmine’s baby Daddy??

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
9:32 am

Morning all –

Well, my ego is what keeps me from dating just anyone just so I can say I’m dating.

My ego is what keeps me from having “ex sex”

My ego is what keeps me from having one night stands.

My ego doesn’t keep men from being interested in me.

I think I’ll keep it around for a while! :lol:

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
9:35 am

I recently told a friend of mine she needed to check her ego and date a shorter man.

WiseDiva – How tall is this friend?

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
9:38 am

‘Oh and Slim, keep my bidness outta the skreet,’

@Dan da Man: I’m LOL’ing at that free plug you just did for yourself. You know I never actually mentioned who Chocolate Boy was…now that cat is out of the bag. :shock:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
9:39 am

@LURKER ~ I can definitely dig it!

“…i’m not a freak, I just come a lot.” Immediately thought of Rick James….SlimOne, you are certifiably too cool!

Trevor0529

July 2nd, 2010
9:41 am

@Slim,

A very happy belated birthday to your dad born on May 29 like myself.
:)

Its cool to be Gemini, but a left handed Gemini makes you stand out above the crowd!! YESSSS!!
:lol:

Jacobite47

July 2nd, 2010
9:43 am

@Leggs I’m new here, but forget what Lurker said there are older guys out there who can keep up.

Not sure where I left my ego.

Off Monday.

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
9:43 am

Random thought: You ever notice how much more thirsty you seem to be when you realize you left your bottled water in the freezer too dayum long? Goose & Hypnotiq shole makes me thirsty the next day.

abc

July 2nd, 2010
9:44 am

In this context, ‘ego’ is about self-image and self-esteem. I don’t see how that reflects on personal preferences like height or other matters of appearance; it’s just preference.

Not everyone is going to feel the same about you as you do about them. It goes both ways: some will like you, but you won’t be interested in them. It’s just a fact of life. If it bruises your ego, you might be a little too sensitive about it — or, if you assume everyone should think you’re all that, maybe you have an ego problem.

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
9:44 am

One way we can better manage our egos in dating is going the extra distance for someone. I know it can be tough taking a risk, but it doesn’t have to be a big deal. If you find a person you feel drawn to, what difference does it make if you put in a little more effort?

My ego doesn’t prevent me from doing this. Having an ego doesn’t mean that I don’t pull my weight.

Dan - simply...

July 2nd, 2010
9:45 am

Speaking of ‘free’ and ‘plug’ what time you get off [work] Slim?

Chink

July 2nd, 2010
9:46 am

Morning

I think I have a healthy dose of ego if I didn’t I would be insecure. I am old enough now to keep it in check when I was younger that ego got me in a little trouble :)

Chink

July 2nd, 2010
9:48 am

abc I agree with you.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
9:49 am

@Jacobite47 ~ pretty sure there are. Are you one of them? Welcome to Blogsville. Is 47 your age?

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
9:49 am

Trevor0529 – Yea Gemini’s are something else…I should know because I am one lol (mine is June 1st)

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
9:52 am

Dan – for some reason that question seems like a trap door hidden in the woods by pine straw. lol Leaving this camp around 3ish to go get my hair done. Then gotta get up early as hayo for the drive to NC for my cousins wedding.

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
9:52 am

Dan – oh, and How big did you say your ‘ego’ was again? :mrgreen: :lol:

Angel

July 2nd, 2010
9:56 am

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
9:59 am

Good morning folks!

@Slim..oh, and How big did you say your ‘ego’ was again?

That is never a good qstion to ask a dude coz the qstion implies(assumes) u prefer Big egos,suggesting ur mine is stretched due Bigger rigs that have been in there over time.

Not a good informercial! :mrgreen:

It's me....lurker

July 2nd, 2010
9:59 am

I see it’s freaky Friday already

Jacobite47

July 2nd, 2010
10:01 am

Birth yr, I’m a young 62. And yes Leggs I’m one of them.

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
10:03 am

GHANA – If I knew that’s all it was going to take to get you to surface, I would’ve mentioned Egos much earlier. lol How do you know I wasn’t asking the question due to this ride having a ‘height maximum’? lololol

Dan - simply...

July 2nd, 2010
10:03 am

@Ghana

It’s okay, even if my ego can’t handle it, my lung capacity could…

Riccoooola

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
10:03 am

It's me....lurker

July 2nd, 2010
10:04 am

Oh my…62 is almost 70

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
10:05 am

Everyone has an ego. The question is how and to what extent your ego affects your dating and relationships.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
10:05 am

62, I hear you. Are you a salt and pepper man or do you use Grecian Formula 44? I see you’re feeling a bit frisky this morning.

“bigger rigs” ~ Melo, you are so dang colorful.

Jacobite47

July 2nd, 2010
10:06 am

Jacobite47

July 2nd, 2010
10:08 am

Grey/bald Frisky all the time.

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
10:08 am

Oh my…62 is almost 70

:lol: Really now? :lol:

It's me....lurker

July 2nd, 2010
10:10 am

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
10:11 am

Ghana – and for the record, no 18 wheelers allowed beyond this point ((((}.{))))) ;-)

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
10:15 am

Oh my…62 is almost 70
Man I wish this logic would have worked on Moms as a kid.

Moms: Heck no you can’t go to the club Dreams. You’re only 12.

Dreams: But moms 12 is almost 20!

lol

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
10:16 am

@its me….lurker ~ stop it. :lol:

You definitely sound frisky….do you dance?

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
10:17 am

Whew, you guys are crazy.

Jacobite47

July 2nd, 2010
10:21 am

Slow dancing is the best Leggs, want to?

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
10:21 am

Use of the word “frisky” immediately dates you. lol Young people don’t get “frisky”. We get alot of other things, but not “frisky”.

Wise Diva

July 2nd, 2010
10:24 am

oh! Forgot to offer/say if any of you have some blog topics you would like to see explored, shoot me an email. Especially those of you who are bored or think there is staleness! LOL wise.diva@gmail.com, I don’t take it personally at all, would love some new topics (to you) and voices. Almost done gathering the panel information as well. Appreciate your patience, trying to mix things up!

Jacobite47

July 2nd, 2010
10:24 am

Not worried about my age Dreams.

Wise Diva

July 2nd, 2010
10:26 am

and I suppose the blog will be closed on Monday. I will leave the comments open in case some of you are stuck in the office though. Fresh blog will go up on Tuesday, I should be back in Atlanta sometime that day :)

It's me....lurker

July 2nd, 2010
10:26 am

@its me….lurker ~ stop it.

Gone and go ‘head girl, he’s tryna holla

It's me....lurker

July 2nd, 2010
10:26 am

Wise Diva

July 2nd, 2010
10:27 am

LOL @ Dreams, I dig “frisky” and I have a list of old school terms that need a comeback! Like “the bees knees” and “cool like dat” LOL

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
10:31 am

Guess you haven’t read me on here much. I don’t slow dance, I prefer to fast dancing, rump shaking, booty club music. I kid, I kid. I like to dance to fast music. I slowed dance a few weeks ago, but that didn’t really count because I was pretty much dancing with the air!

LOL @ use of the word frisky. Good point. Note to self: remove frisky from vocab!

@Jacobite47 ~ what song would you like to dance to?

CoolShadow

July 2nd, 2010
10:32 am

Nothing’s wrong with having a dating ego but you also have to add realism to the mix. If you only want to date people using extremely strict, near unrealistic standards that’s cool but good luck with that. And if you’re having difficulty finding people to meet your criteria then maybe you’re the issue and not so much the dearth of people who can meet your standards.

One way we can better manage our egos in dating is going the extra distance for someone. I know it can be tough taking a risk, but it doesn’t have to be a big deal.

Wise Diva, how do you define “going the extra distance”? That can be difficult to ask when you can’t even get some people to conduct themselves properly within the basic protocol of dating.

Wise Diva

July 2nd, 2010
10:34 am

Cool shadow, I was referring to, calling more than you normally do and kicking up the interest level behavior to match your ACTUAL interest level, without trying to come off as “hard” or aloof, as not to appear too thirsty. We worry about that too much I think, ok well I do LOL

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
10:36 am

@Jacobite47 – care to share your email address? I’m flattered you want to dance with me!

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
10:38 am

LOL @ Dreams, I dig “frisky” and I have a list of old school terms that need a comeback! Like “the bees knees” and “cool like dat”
Wise “frisky” isn’t in the same age range league as “cool like dat”. “frisky” is up there with “whoa nelly”. lol

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
10:38 am

@WD ~ I like the phrase “bees knees” and someone thinking they’re
“the cat’s meow”

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
10:39 am

OMG, Whoa Nelly! I am literally choking over here!

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
10:39 am

Wld u ladies,typically call up a guy “friend” or aquaintace and ask them if they wanna go out with u coz u dont wanna go out alone??

Esp when u are in that “dry spell” mode and u dont have a boy friend??

do u have guys like that u could kick it with in a flirty platonic kinda of way??

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
10:40 am

@GHANA ~ yep!

Dan - simply...

July 2nd, 2010
10:40 am

@WD

If someone else would call your behavior “thirsty”, that just means that they’re not right for you.

Self-censorship is deception.

Jacobite47

July 2nd, 2010
10:42 am

Always a Friend or Castanets by Alejandro Escovedo Fast
Moondance by Van Morrison Slow

Jacobite47

July 2nd, 2010
10:42 am

It's me....lurker

July 2nd, 2010
10:43 am

Always a Friend or Castanets by Alejandro Escovedo Fast
Moondance by Van Morrison Slow

Alright now Leggs, he’s coming hard

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
10:43 am

Oh Boy!

Ok, escort me to the dance floor!

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
10:45 am

@Leggs!

I wld highly recommend this Jacob cat coz from the word go this morning,seems the bro had some research on u..which is a good look….

there was no phishing on his part,no broadcasting to see which thirsty heiffer might bite..none of that…came up and str8 up said “Leggs!, I pick you”"

Thats impressive!

I know its a long holiday,u got my number,if u running low on lil blue,i got a pharma friend on tap! :lol: :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
10:45 am

LOL @ use of the word frisky. Good point. Note to self: remove frisky from vocab!

Hey, if you’re old, own it. :lol: We youngers ain’t got nothing on the fabulous and 50s!

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
10:46 am

It’s me….lurker ~ yes he is!

@Jacobite47 ~ thank you. You got mail!

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
10:47 am

Wld u ladies,typically call up a guy “friend” or aquaintace and ask them if they wanna go out with u coz u dont wanna go out alone??

No.

I have plenty of girlfriends, but I also don’t mind rolling solo.

Jacobite47

July 2nd, 2010
10:48 am

Let’s dance Leggs

It's me....lurker

July 2nd, 2010
10:48 am

I wld highly recommend this Jacob cat coz from the word go this morning,seems the bro had some research on u..which is a good look….

Yep, I was thinking the same thing. He’s been lurking

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
10:49 am

@GHANA ~ I thought the same.

@ARed ~ Shet it up…not old, just seasoned! :lol: :lol:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
10:50 am

@GHANA ~ for the record, there aren’t any thirsty heifers in Blogsville!

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
10:50 am

@ARed ~ Shet it up…not old, just seasoned!

:lol: Yeah, so seasoned that if you were scotch, you’d be the expensive kind!

Sassy Me...feelin some type of waaay :-)

July 2nd, 2010
10:52 am

HAPPY FRIDAY BLOG FAMILIA!!!!!!! :mrgreen: :lol:

I’ll be off on Monday,too….ain’t it lovely?!

“frisky” is up there with “whoa nelly”. lol

Okay well let’s add the “Watch out there nah

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
10:54 am

…stopping in for a minute.

Slim, Trevor, Melo, Lady, DreamsM and my main man MR.LURKER how are you guys doing?

@Wise I will try to send you something next week to keep you from going green…LOL

@Leggs I see you pulled one of the lurkers. Put on your red dress, and step in those high heels and let us know if Mr. 62 can keep up with you on the town. :wink:

Sassy Me...feelin some type of waaay :-)

July 2nd, 2010
10:55 am

as not to appear too thirsty. We worry about that too much I think, ok well I do

Me,too Wise…me,too. It’s a very fine line to walk and not always easy…sometimes things get so misconstrued.

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
10:55 am

Hmph. Hello to you too Professor!

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
10:57 am

ohhhhhh ARed said you would be a glass of Macallan Lalique.

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
10:58 am

@GHANA

do u have guys like that u could kick it with in a flirty platonic kinda of way??

NO, however I do have two professional male friends that I go out with to career related functions. These dudes are well groomed, highly educated and know how to play the game. It is a favor we do for each other. I go to their Christmas parties at work and vice versa. One I believe is a Ms. Man I’ve known him for 12 years and he has never had a date or spoke of a woman during that time. When asked he always say women are crazy and he is getting it together he has a 745, nice home, great job, PhD etc., and he talks about this guy all the time.

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
10:59 am

Speaking of removing certain outdated terms from vocab…does that mean I should stop saying BOO-YAH!? lol

mytw♥cents

July 2nd, 2010
10:59 am

Well, hello there ~ hope everyone’s life is lovely…

I’m thinkin’ people often confuse self esteem with having too big of an ego. I focus on the positive in me and others, but we’re all flawed in some way. No need to to think you’re too good to work wiith someone who’s working on being with you. I mean if you’ve already given them the opening, might as well not hinder the progress.

Wisey 1. Now would you take the same advice you’ve given your friend? Or if the height factor hasn’t been a stopping point, is there something else your team has convinced yout to reconsider? 2. I ain’t foolin’ with you and those topics no mo’. I sent you some 9 months ago that you said you liked…. but I’ve noticed you’ve really tried to get us to a PG rating and I think that somewhat hinders the more adult topics cuz some of us misbehave so easily… I guess.

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
11:00 am

~~~~~waving at the strong and mighty ARed~~~~~

I am going to need you to hold it down today I am headed out in a few.

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
11:03 am

Professor –

I’ll do my best! I’m in the streets early afternoon myself. (if laziness doesn’t get the best of me. :lol: )

mytw♥cents

July 2nd, 2010
11:03 am

thirsty heifers? :) gotta luv it…

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
11:05 am

I am waiting on my sisters to pick me up we are doing a little shopping today.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
11:07 am

@ARed ~ too funny.

@Professor ~ I have a better dress to put on for him!

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 2nd, 2010
11:08 am

@AmazonRed…..I bet you have a big head and a big puddy to go with dat BIG EGO….. By the way have that found your former college sweetheart I hear he’s been lost for years….YES…Me lickey that you like to go out solo, because LURKER is ready to buy you some drinks! Right Now! YESSS
:wink: :smile:

@Jacob47….let me warn you, Sexy Leggs is a marathon runner and you need that kind of stamina to keep up with (if you know what I mean) The ATL does not have great cardiac surgeons…You have been warned…YES :lol:

Sassy Me...feelin some type of waaay :-)

July 2nd, 2010
11:09 am

Professor I’m headed out in the street myself in about 15 mins. Gotta find something to kill em softly with on Sunday. AmRed, you can do it :lol:

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
11:09 am

One I believe is a Ms. Man

speaking of Ms Mens..did u guys sniff at the news this morning in the wires about GOP’s Lindsey Graham being a Ms Man?

and its his own pple..the Tea Party who are getting at him for that.

I wld have said No but for my surprsie that bro_she man is 54,not married and neva been married.

What i wanna know is who is he dating or has ever dated??

Luv those GOP undercovers…..

where there is smoke,there is fire!

Sassy Me...feelin some type of waaay :-)

July 2nd, 2010
11:11 am

I have a better dress to put on for him!

Oooh don’t hurt ‘em Leggs

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
11:11 am

marathon runner………….. The ATL does not have great cardiac surgeons

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Thats funny Mr Lurker!!

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
11:11 am

@Prof ~ I am desparately seeking a nice brown blouse…if you see one pick it for me please and I’ll pay you, size M (LOL)…thanks!

CoolShadow

July 2nd, 2010
11:11 am

Cool shadow, I was referring to, calling more than you normally do and kicking up the interest level behavior to match your ACTUAL interest level, without trying to come off as “hard” or aloof, as not to appear too thirsty.

Ok, gotcha. That might be hard to do because you probably won’t initially have an idea of the other person’s perception of aloofness or thirstiness.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
11:12 am

“Me lickey” = Freudian slip, Mr. LURKER!!!

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
11:16 am

@Leggs I will send you a pic if I see any out there.

@Sassy I hear you on that dress I usually get those from VS something classy and sexy and a little BAM in the back.

@ARed it is not too hot so you should be ok. If it is too hot or too cold I will get lazy.

@melo Graham is a Ms man.

My sister is so slow I am hungry! :evil:

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 2nd, 2010
11:20 am

@Ghana….Put on your Zulu comedy hat and let’s get this party started!!!!!! YES

@Leggs….LURKER likes to lickey too! Before I head to the Tennessee mountains do I need to make a stop and give you a sample LEggs? I will bring a brown blouse with me…. YEAH :lol: :smile:

@My2…..You better bring those adults questions. This is the big league and everything under the sun needs to be discussed in regards to dating. Bring it, bring it, Bring it my2

Sassy Me...feelin some type of waaay :-)

July 2nd, 2010
11:21 am

I usually get those from VS something classy and sexy and a little BAM in the back.

That’s how to do it Professor!!

Y’all be safe and don’t hurt nothin(of yours,anyway) ;)

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
11:21 am

something classy and sexy and a little BAM in the back.
I’m a big fan of “BAM in the back”. lol

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
11:22 am

LURKER are you taking a woman with you? It gets lonely in those mountains. I don’t want you entertaining LURKER, jr. if you know what I mean

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
11:23 am

@Sasssssssssssssssssssssy I have a few that I lounge in, but they have some nice ones for going to dinner, concerts etc.

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
11:23 am

Mannnnnnnnnnnnnnnn where is my sisters my stomach is eating my back. :evil:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
11:24 am

@LURKER ~ I’m sure you do, that’s why I said it was a Freudian slip. Pretty sure you meant to type “Me likey,” but since your brain pretty much is full of sex you typed what you were thinking.

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
11:27 am

@ARed it is not too hot so you should be ok. If it is too hot or too cold I will get lazy.

:lol: I have yet to get out of my bed, so I’m sure you see the challenge. :lol:

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
11:29 am

Speaking of Freudian slip….when I was in college, my then bf had come over to have dinner with my folks and I. As we were about to get ready to dig in I said very plain & clear, “Whew, boy I sure am Horn ey!”….meant to say hungry. Didn’t dawn on me what I had said until I noticed everyone at the table, including my mom & step-dad, got super quiet looking at me like I was crazy. :lol:

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
11:30 am

ARED get your tail up out of that bed and turn some music on and get going. said in my ike turner voice :grin:

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
11:36 am

LOL. I technically can’t leave. I’m working from home. But they’re closing down early this afternoon so maybe I can muster up the strength to get dressed by 2 or 3 pm. :lol:

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 2nd, 2010
11:36 am

@Professora……Are you volunteering to take care of Lurker Jr. this weekend? You are my kinda of womanl…..When can I pick you-up? .LURKER is going to learn somethin from the Professor! YES
:wink:

@Leggs…..Your brain full of sexual thoughts about LURKER…. :lol: Your body wants to have sex with LURKER… Your mind wants you to have sex with LURKER…. You body parts want to have sex with LURKER….. :lol: I am convincing to have sex with LURKER yet? :smile: YES

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
11:36 am

@SlimOne ~ PRICELESS…that has to be the best laugh for me in a while. The visual is hysterical….that was truly, truly funny!

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
11:37 am

@Ared you get a pass

@LURKER you are crazy

I will chat with yall tuesday

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
11:38 am

Professor – I hear it’s raining?! Oh…this definitely doesn’t help matters… :lol:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
11:38 am

@LURKER ~ you are a riot. Can’t say Yes. I have to meet LURKER and determine if Lurker, Jr can hang!!! Can’t take the word of a stranger. :wink: :wink:

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 2nd, 2010
11:40 am

I bet AmazonRed work from home is her SO working those bones every hour on the hour. Like Red stated if he can get it up she will take it down….That’s my kind of woman!!! Working from home, yea tell us another one…..YEA. j/k :wink:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 2nd, 2010
11:43 am

As ive stated before.. Women dont have Egos.. They only think they do..

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
11:45 am

Leggs sometimes the best stuff is simply True-to-Life…can’t make this stuff up. :-)

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
11:46 am

@Jacobite47 ~ how did you find the blog?

Purple Rain

July 2nd, 2010
12:19 pm

Let’s get this party started. OOT OOT

Purple Rain

July 2nd, 2010
12:23 pm

Well, on to the next party spot. LOL

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
12:27 pm

There’s a party over here, there’s a party of there!

We don’t need no water let the m…..f……BURN, BURN BABY BURN!!!!

OOT OOT!!!

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
12:30 pm

PP – Hey, hey, hey, hey Whoomp Dere it is!!!

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
12:31 pm

Who let the dogs out…..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 2nd, 2010
12:38 pm

Natalie Walker – No one else

Butterflies
Gravity pulls me into
Anticipate our first touch
Sweet and so new
Let’s figure out how to make this forever
Oh this is making me crazy

Hey love I am at the point of no restraint
Let’s just make a move and feel the earth quake

It’s just you and me
and no one else
It’s just you and me
you and me

Slowly now
We shouldn’t let this go too fast
Bring me out of this shell
Take off my mask
This is us intertwined and on fire
I cannot stop
I’m consumed with desire

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
12:40 pm

I have to fan myself. Very nice!

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
12:41 pm

@Infamous That’s the song for me

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
12:43 pm

and hello everybody

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
12:46 pm

@Infamous??

its just u and these 2 ladies,Lucinda and Leggs..so do a play by play on here of how u going to keep both of them ravishingly satisfied,since one is faning herself,unable to contain her desire for u, and the other,angling her sexxy hips and blood shot eyes towards u,at the same time??
:lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 2nd, 2010
12:47 pm

Natalie Walker – Waking Dream

Pinch me
Is this real
This feeling of release
I’m floating in your heaven
In the corners of my dreams

Tasting life
Numb again
Close my eyes
It begins…

I cannot stumble here
I am safe inside my head
When I wake up Ill forget
I’ll come back to my mess

I will not leave
Stay asleep
Slip further in
My ecstasy

Safe inside my mind I hide…

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 2nd, 2010
12:52 pm

LAdies listen to the songs the lyrics dont do them justice… Ya’ll know Im always on some obscure music.. I like to keep people asking what are we listening to..

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
12:53 pm

Ghana – actually there’s 3 ladies in here. We can make our own, 3 Cooties & a Wang Movie. :lol:

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
12:58 pm

actually there’s 3 ladies in here

@Slimone!

Wow..I have never heard of a quartersome but Infamous is a Big Boy, with a big engine,im sure he can handle it!

:lol: :lol:

so u arent going to the mountains with Mr Lurker, i take it,or are u jes trying to quench ur thirst,just in case that loud blarber mouf is all talk but no thunder?? :lol: :lol:

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
12:59 pm

@Infamous Is Natalie Walker on Pandora? Gotta take a listen when I get home.

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
1:00 pm

methinks i am in love

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
1:01 pm

with who…Lucinda??

dont tell us with urself surely!! :lol:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
1:02 pm

@Hot diggity dog, I want what you’re dishing!!!!

Angel

July 2nd, 2010
1:02 pm

HE by Angel

He touched my soul before he touched my body
He spoke to my mind before he kissed my lips
He listened to my heart before he heard me moan
He looked into my eyes before he saw my body
He became my friend before He became my LOVER

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 2nd, 2010
1:05 pm

Lu – Well D@mn.. When did all this happen.. Well it only takes one good night.. I mean really..

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
1:06 pm

@Ghana man i have been dating for a few months… i have it pretty bad

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
1:07 pm

@Angel ~ EXCELLENT…JUST BEAUTIFUL!

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
1:08 pm

@Infamous and the thing is, didn’t let him hit it for the longest time… but then… man got serious skillz

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
1:09 pm

Dang it done got all sensual and deep in here. It must be the rain.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
1:10 pm

@Lucinda ~ nothing wrong with having your nose wide open as long as you see the forest for the trees and you’re not being played. If you two are on the same page, congratulations on finding that special connection to another.

Angel

July 2nd, 2010
1:10 pm

Thanks Lucinda!

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
1:11 pm

He listened to my heart before he heard me moan

@Angel

that there is the best line!

@Lucinda!

i have it pretty bad.

well if its like that,yeah,then hes handling u preety good then!

If u think u in luv,tell him..dont be restrained by that ego WD is talking about.

Angel

July 2nd, 2010
1:12 pm

@Leggs….Yes!

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
1:12 pm

LOL @ LURKER. My s/o has his own job and own house.

I did think about calling him and asking to stop over for a lil afternoon delight tho…but decided to be good. :lol:

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
1:12 pm

Leggs don’t think i’m being played, but imma give it time and see how things play out. In the meanwhile, daaayyyuuuummmm, it’s nice to feel soooooo good :)

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
1:13 pm

man got serious skillz

@Lucinda..is it the sticking,the licking,both or u just so daamn confused and consumed by it all that u cant tell.

so u went for the 3 + month rule??

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
1:14 pm

@Ghana he is masterful, i am putty at this point. gotta chill out!! o

okay, i’ll calm down now…

Angel

July 2nd, 2010
1:15 pm

@Ghana and Lucinda ~ it’s not aways ego that holds you back, sometimes it’s the fear of getting hurt. Love is a risk and you gotta feel/know that the other person is in it too.

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
1:17 pm

3+ months, exactly. taking it slow, might be a keeper

Angel

July 2nd, 2010
1:18 pm

@Lucinda – it’s almost like a controlled passion – when your heart wants to just jump in but your mind is saying whoa and forget about listening to the body becasue it’s just horney lol

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
1:18 pm

@Ghana and Lucinda ~ it’s not aways ego that holds you back, sometimes it’s the fear of getting hurt.
Angel The way Lucinda is talking, I’m sure that dude already knows how she feels. She may not be saying it, but I bet it shows in her behavior when she interacts with him. The non-verbal cues are saying it all at this point.

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
1:20 pm

*I’m sure that dude already knows how she feels.*

I think so.

Just like I know how he feels.

Angel

July 2nd, 2010
1:21 pm

@Dreams Mat – You are right – that is just too much power for a man to have ~expecially if he does feel the same. Jus sayin

Angel

July 2nd, 2010
1:22 pm

Airgo – The EGO – It sereves as a protection against hurt.

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
1:24 pm

@Angel You can’t love fully if you don’t risk hurt. I’d rather accept the risk and go for really being loved and loving somebody else than be so guarded that the experience is never full. I don’t risk it easily, though, so that’s probably why I’m kind flipping out a little right now.

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
1:26 pm

might be a keeper

@Lucinda??

what have u learnt from ur previous relationships that u deplying now in this one,if u have had any be4 and what are u doing to making him keep U?

@Angel

Love is a risk and you gotta feel/know that the other person is in it too

Nope!

true luv is unconditional..the moment u waiting for ques from the other person be4 u can express yours,thats Ego….and that can cost u a good man…be vulnerable urself even if the other person has not gone there yet..coz that infact maybe the act that breaks him and lets him express his.

Men will see and feel ur luv even tho they may not verbalize what they see.

Phuck that Ego!

Angel

July 2nd, 2010
1:30 pm

@ Ghana – :) I hear ya
But what if it’s not returned – nobody wants to feel like a fool in love.

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
1:31 pm

’so u arent going to the mountains with Mr Lurker’

@Ghana – nope…wedding…NC…i’m a hostess so gotta go. (Not to mention it’s my roomies brother that’s getting married) lol

Ain’t nuttin like some guuud guuud lovin

Angel

July 2nd, 2010
1:32 pm

@Lucinda – I hear ya ~ that’s what happens when we don’t get what we need from love.

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
1:34 pm

Ghana I have learned much from prior experience and have spent a lot of time thinking about what i did –and didn’t do –that contributed to situations.

btw, if a woman told you how she felt and you weren’t in the same space, wouldn’t that make you RUN for cover??

lurker_1

July 2nd, 2010
1:34 pm

I think yall have been pimped by Luc. I think most ladies will only express this degree of ecstasy with her best girl friends.

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
1:36 pm

nah Lurker, im just feeling a little out of control. not my normal state.

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
1:36 pm

nobody wants to feel like a fool in love.

@Angel!

see,thats ego..and ego is the reason why some cuties are here on the blog and never married but they say they want to and yet some not so cuties,their peers are married…..

if u luv somebody,let them know and be vulnerable….if somebody is gon take advantage coz u expressed luv,they are a jerk.

A jerk is not a reflection of U but of them.

If u wait for the day when ur expression of luv is gon to happen the same day he expresses his for u..u be waiting till Jesus does his second coming!

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
1:40 pm

Ghana – you don’t always say stuff of substance (LOL) you last post was on point. Either you feel a way about someone or you don’t. It shouldn’t be contigent upon how they feel. For the most part, no two people are going to be on the exact same page at the exact same time.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 2nd, 2010
1:43 pm

Lucinda – Thats what I meant by one great night.. Ya’ll have been dancing around the mulberry bush then one night you let him catch you and you see rockets, moons and stars.. its a wrap..

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
1:43 pm

btw, if a woman told you how she felt and you weren’t in the same space, wouldn’t that make you RUN for cover??

@Lucinda??

the only time that expression is not welcome is when its too soon,and usually soon after meeting and going on 2/3 dates and she BAM gives me that.

If its 3/4/5/6 months in and we been tgether and inseperable and vibing…I am not running coz i been with her all along.

Obviuosly its not a good look just expressing those luv feelings when the work on the ground is not there. Spend a whole lot of quality time with him first..seeing his commitment to u and ur time..theeeeeen when u se that hes proly not seeing anybody else coz of time factor…..u are assured of telling him that without getting negative feedback.

u follow me??

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 2nd, 2010
1:44 pm

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
1:48 pm

@lurker_1??

u seeing anybody right now??

It's me....lurker

July 2nd, 2010
1:49 pm

you folks still here? let’s just all call it a day…i’d say in about 40 minutes or so.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 2nd, 2010
1:52 pm

LU – This too..

Like…how amazing…how amazing…
When you would spread my limbs cross continents
Bump our bed way over mountains.
Kiss this and this and this and this and this and this and this and this and this and that.
Show each other where the climax is at.

You just running cross my mind

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
1:52 pm

@Lucinda ~ I see you smiling over here. I too will be there one day. New love is so sweet! You remind me of czB and her man…they are definitely on the same page.

@lurker_1 ~ LU didn’t reveal anything much. She’s talking to a bunch of strangers. Very easy to say things when no one knows who you are!

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
1:56 pm

@InfamousD ~ I am asking you politely to stop w/those lyrics…they are doing something to me.

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
1:59 pm

the thing is, didn’t let him hit it for the longest time… but then… man got serious skillz

lurker_1 – I say the same thing about my guy too! So it’s definite can be genuine. Nothing wrong with being open! :D

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
2:04 pm

Ghana (Melo?! )

I thought I understood at least 10% of you, but now it’s down to 1%. I can’t imagine you being vulnerable despite the odds. You’re that way?

Beautiful

July 2nd, 2010
2:05 pm

no ego here! and my dude is 5′8 LOL. i’m so out of the box when it comes to him. and i love it. he loves it. if we happen to not work out, no regrets.

happy friday! full w/e for me. be safe ev1.

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
2:15 pm

Jetting out now, thanks all for good wishes, thoughts, suggestions, etc.

Life is quite a ride, I’m on it for all the twists and turns and thrills and chills.

and I still think i am falling hard for this man. sigh :) :) :)

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
2:16 pm

I can’t imagine you being vulnerable despite the odds. You’re that way?

Luvbug??

first of long time no see..was missing you! …….so vulnerability there is on me!

I cant continue to be vulnerable tho….at some point i got go back to my shell..so if i show u one time and u dont respond favorably..what a man gotta do??

:???:

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
2:18 pm

I need a nap….that’s what I get for staying up until 2 this morn.

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
2:20 pm

Jilly from Philly is on point.

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
2:21 pm

YOU GOT ME

You penetrated my world with a smile
Caught me with no defenses around
I felt you feeling me
I let you feel me feeling you
The chemistry so amazing

Could’ve thought it was voodoo
Spellbound…defenses down…lustful mounds

Anxiously longing to be near you
Anticipating your next move
So entranced by your stare
Too timid to return your glare
Your touch so paralyzing, I think I’m running out of air
It’s too much…feel my clutch…about to erupt

Wanting to explode with you
Shattering everything I thought I knew
Desiring you to let me inside your mind
Just to get closer to your soul
So passionate and blazing
To steal my heart is not your goal
Falling deeper…falling hard…back on guard!

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
2:23 pm

If I understand you correctly…you were missing me? Awww that’s sweet. I’m trying to get a handle on a few projects in and outside of work, so I’m not able to post as often nowadays.

So, you broke the news (I love you Queeny!!) to Queen first?

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
2:28 pm

Obviously,its even better if u feeling the man and u letting him know and he goes two(2) steps further with his So so Big Ego that he knocks and scraps every lil crevice and gnawing itch in ur luv canal.!

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
2:31 pm

@Luvbug??
you were missing me?

YES!

So, you broke the news (I love you Queeny!!) to Queen first?

Nope……she did first!

I be honest, I dont break down easily unless the carrot is in sight! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
2:32 pm

I knew it!! 10% it is. LOL

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
2:46 pm

Luvbug what’s the deal lady?

Purple Rain

July 2nd, 2010
2:46 pm

Yes, we have had sex twice today. LOL What’s the topic :)

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
2:48 pm

LOL Purple Pleasure….looks like the Mrs. is on the up and up today. I hear prego puddy is the best…sort of like humping a pile of wet charmin tissue lol

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
2:49 pm

Nothing much…treading water these days. What’s good with you Mr. Dreams? Big plans for the holiday weekend?

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
2:51 pm

@SlimOne ~ The mention of Charmin toilet paper is off limits. I even ask my friends not to buy Charmin toilet paper (LOLOL).

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
2:51 pm

@PR ~ you’re off duty until tomorrow!

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
2:52 pm

Yes, we have had sex twice today. LOL What’s the topic
PR that’s the cost of doing business. lol As for the topic: what are the risks of being the first to tell someone how you feel?

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
2:53 pm

Leggs – So you’re putting a squeeze on the Charmin….why, did you have a bad charmin experience? lol DO TELL

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
2:54 pm

(My personal preference is Quilted Northern)

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
2:54 pm

@SlimOne ~ that’s my name, only spelled differently. I hate to think my friends are wiping their behinds w/my namesake (LOLOL).

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
2:55 pm

Nothing much…treading water these days.
Luvbug treading water is a valuable skill. so you must be advanced in the game. things are good with me. This weekend I’m hitting every possible cookout I can. Food, drank, and good people is the goal. what you got up?

Purple Rain

July 2nd, 2010
2:55 pm

Today was spontaneous not ordered. LOL :)

The risk of telling someone first is being left looking like an a$$, if they are not that into you.

Girl: “I love you”
Guy: “I love me to “

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
2:59 pm

I hate to think my friends are wiping their behinds w/my namesake
Leggs Since Slim was referring to “wet Charmin” as being the ish. So, if that phrase applies to you then it would actually be a compliment, at least in my book. ;-)

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
3:00 pm

Dreams – I’m hanging with family, eating grub cost free and bringing home seconds and thirds for lunch next week. LOL

I see you’re taking a break from cooking. Is barbeque not your speci-ality??

Purple Rain

July 2nd, 2010
3:00 pm

Squeeze the Charmin

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
3:03 pm

Leggs :shock: well…um…i see your point now. LOL!

Dreams – way to turn that negative into a positive. ;-)

Purple Pleasure, your little dialogue reminds me of an instance where a guy that sort of fell off my bench radar asking me once

Guy: Do you miss me?
(Slim thinking of best way to answer)
Slim: You are missed, yes (thinking, by someone just not me)

So long story short…it wasn’t a total lie. Just didn’t specify who he was missed by. :lol:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:03 pm

@PR ~ sorry, bud, it may have felt spontaneous, the standing order was placed/stipulated a while ago….2x a day (lololol)

Purple Rain

July 2nd, 2010
3:05 pm

Leggs, I don’t mind the bonus that got it started. LOL

Slim, LOL

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:05 pm

That was a good answer, SlimOne….

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:06 pm

It’s an omen….Rick James’ Busting Loose is on….that’s exactly how I feel, busting loose from this boring camp. I’m about to fall asleep!

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:07 pm

personal preferance is Quilted Northern!

@SlimOne??

aint that kinda hard..no wonder u cant shake off that rough patch on ur butt crack! :lol: :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
3:08 pm

I see you’re taking a break from cooking. Is barbeque not your speci-ality??
I’m trying to take home leftovers like you. lol I always seem to end up on someone’s grill anyway though…guess it’s just not meant for me to stay away. lol

Dreams – way to turn that negative into a positive.
Slim if there’s one thing I can do, it’s provide positive experiences. ;-)

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:08 pm

@PR ~ believe you me, I know you’re not complaining.

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:17 pm

http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/photo.php?pid=5721454&id=675858551

can u see my brother, in the middle, in south enjoying hisself.

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
3:18 pm

Ghana – the only way you know about the rough patch on my butt crack is because YOU put it there from rubbing your wang w/o giving me a thorough butt lickin prior to that wang burn you gave me.

‘if there’s one thing I can do, it’s provide positive experiences’

Dreams for whatever reason, that post made me want to yell out “YES WE CAN!”

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
3:21 pm

Dreams for whatever reason, that post made me want to yell out “YES WE CAN!”
Slim Indeed WE CAN. Change you can feel believe in. ;-)

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:21 pm

@GHANA ~ can’t open FB at work. Is your brother working on my poster????

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
3:22 pm

Ok….I think i just heard the woman with the largest pee-hole using the bathroon just now. At first, it sounded like the water from the sink was overflowing when I realized it wasn’t the faucet turned all the way up….it was her urinating. :shock: :shock:

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
3:22 pm

Ghana – I can’t see it. LOL

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:26 pm

Everytime I see YES WE CAN, I think of Sammy Davis Jr.’s book. It was one of the first big books I read at the age of 11 or 12 (?).

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:28 pm

Oh just remembered, some of you may be going to the movies over the holiday. I have a coupon for any size popcorn and drink for a $1 at any AMC Theatre…any of you want me to forward it to you? Expires 7/4

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
3:29 pm

Dreams you’re gonna make a change, for once in my life…it’s gonna feel real good, it’s gonna make a difference…it’s gonna make it all right. As you…slip on the rubber on,……….(Okay, i’m officially mentally checked out if i’m remixing MJ’s Man in the Mirror) :lol:

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:30 pm

@ogh u cant see it…

be my friends then??

yes i told him to get me some posters and stuff….

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
3:32 pm

Black Man Down – Ladies I just found out that a close male friend has been bamboozled and hoodwinked. He just told me that his now EX-fiance has been lying to him about her HOME (that she doesn’t own), JOB TITLE (paralegal she aint), AGE (she’s five years older than she said), and other things that she didn’t have to lie about. I know him, and he was in it to win it. She didn’t have to lie. She even stole a lil cash from him, but at least she gave that back. She was living in his house, not paying a DIME, with her daughter and granddaghter….

He told me he’s never getting married after this….. He was or is a good catch too….

Thas too damn bad :-| Don’t people believe in karma or at the very least, do unto others…..

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:33 pm

it was her urinating

@SLIMONE

its not that her pee hole is large..its more about the pressure of the pee…

she must have been pressed for a long time..proily very busy on her desk and was procastinating.

I can bet shes a good and powerful squirter tho!

Is she phoine??? :lol:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:35 pm

@mqew ~ you just livened up Blogsville with that post.

I am deeply saddened that he’s going through this. Those were unnecessary lies. She even stole from him. How does a person rob from their SO?. The only way you can do that is because you truly do not care about that person. Best believe, she will get hers!

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:36 pm

Black Man Down!!

@Mqew??? shes a bad bad bad biaatch!! :shock: :evil:

why did he fall so hard for it tho??

Is he lame or is it that she just licked him good and thin to confuse him like that??

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
3:38 pm

I’m not sure about karma, but that’s a sad story.

Not trying to be funny, but how all that get past him if she was living with him? I’m just sayin. Dang!!

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:39 pm

“why did he fall so hard for it tho??” His heart told him to. Apparently, she’s good at her game. He didn’t know he was being played.

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
3:39 pm

Ghana – how do you tell if someone in the stall next to you is phoine?…can only see their shoes/feet. LOL!

mqew – thats flucked up!!!!!!! She it’s triflin chicks like that, that mess it up for everybody else

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:41 pm

Hell, those living with Bernie Madoff got duped (supposedly).

The wife of the Unibomber got duped…it happens easily when you walk around not observing what’s going on around you!

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:41 pm

how do you tell if someone in the stall next to you is phoine?…

@Slim?

i thoght u saw them or u know them..arent u at work..well u can tell by the shoes who it is if u at work..ladies..uall know each other’s shoe game

:lol:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:41 pm

@mqew ~ if he’s that good of a person, I’ll heal him back and show him what a good woman truly looks like.

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
3:42 pm

be my friends then??

I thought I waaaas your friend. Now if you mean be your friend via facebook, why it gotta be that way GhAnA? :lol:

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:43 pm

ualll watching the wrld cup scores??

Ghana is handling the daamn bizzness as of now…I Up!

no fluke these folks

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
3:43 pm

Slim glad you found me worthy of the MJ remix, I think. lol

mqew believe it or not, stories like these are out there. with lies like those, you really don’t want to know what else you’ve been deceived about. just damn.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:43 pm

@GHANA ~ you are right, I even know how certain co-workers walk. Who jiggle change in their pockets when they walk, who clumps as they walk, who walks fast, etc…

@mqew ~ I hope he doesn’t beat himself up too much! I know he’s hurt, but tell him not to give her any power.

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:44 pm

I thought I waaaas your friend

@Luvbug??

u refused to chat wit me offline..how u gon be my bosom bosom friend if u only lub me when u come on here?

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
3:45 pm

Well all you fine folks….i’m headed to go get something done to this head. Enjoy your holiday weekend, be safe, have fun and check ya on the flip side.

Luv Ya, I’m OUTTIE HERRRR

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
3:45 pm

Leggs- You’ve got a point, but she better look 5 years younger than her age then. That’s the measure. If she doesn’t, then he believed all the rest because he wanted to too.

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
3:47 pm

Ghana – Lub is lub. Is it not? What’s with the conditions??

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:48 pm

how do you tell if someone in the stall next to you is phoine

@SlimOne??

dont try too hard to hide ur lesbo tendencies…

I like a chic with lesbo tendencies myself! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:48 pm

You got that right, Luvbug. I sure hope she looks younger than her age. No need for those lies. Heck, lying about you age, our job and a home. Sheesh, no matter how hard you try, you can’t hide your TRUE character. It will always surface!!!

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
3:51 pm

He’s not lame. He’s from here or somewhere in GA but he knows he’s a good catch. I think he simply didn’t think that she would lie about the simple things.

About the house – she said that she is a CO-signer on the house with her ex mother in law :-| But that’s only after he confronted her with the fact that the house isn’t in her name cause he checked and had people check. So she came back with that story asking him to believe that mess…. It ain’t a car you stupid ass heifa! You don’t CO-sign a house so wait you AIN’T a paralegal either cause if you were you’d know that!!!! She swears she’s in Emory Law school about to graduate. But every semester she’s had to put it off for ‘health’ reasons…

Which reminds me, she recently claimed to be pregnant :shock: And she ‘lost’ the baby… I wonder if that was even true :-|

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 2nd, 2010
3:51 pm

FromMelo…. so u arent going to the mountains with Mr Lurker, i take it,or are u jes trying to quench ur thirst,just in case that loud blarber mouf is all talk but no thunder.

Because of this comment you have enter The LURKER zone::::::YEAH …Do it LURKER, Do it!

One day about 2 weeks ago the following happened at the Zulu (Melo, Ghana) household……

Ghana(Melo) and queen were watching a soccer match in there bedroom. Queen started to get a little frisky ( our new word for today) and started touching Melo (Little mandingo) and carassing him. Melo (little mandingo started) to get excited. Melo starts to moan but keeps his one good eye open to continue watching the soccer match.

Queen wants all of Melo attentions so she grabs the remote and turns of the TV. Suddenly Melo (Ghana) little mandingo starts shinking like he been thrown in freezing temperature.

Queen… Goes I can’t believe, you only get excited when you are watching a soccer match. I am pissed just for that I want you to go downstairs right now and braided Zula,shenicka,rahim,devan,melo, ghana smith hair and it better be braided right.

Queen…. then states your family is going to have to give back those 25 cows, 15 goats and 32 chickens if this keep-up. Queen thinking in her mind ( I knew I should have married the horny uncle).

YEAHHHHH :lol: :lol: :smile:

Everyone have a safe Holiday!!!!!!!!

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:52 pm

@Luvbug

Luv is luv is luv…..when at least we can give each other some huggs..the tightness of which and the reach of my left hand visvee ur back and the squeeze or none thereof of ur bootey depends on how deep the luv is!

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
3:52 pm

Leggs – He’s not beating himself up because he knows he did the right thing by her and their relationship!!! He just announced that he’s never ever ever getting married now…

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
3:54 pm

mqew- The story is getting worse and worse. If you know, how’d/where’d they meet?

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:55 pm

@mqew ~ she sounds like a pathological liar. He sensed something wasn’t right a long time ago, but chose to ignore it. His antenna came up enough for him to check the records on the house. If he had only raised it a little more, he may not be hurt today.

Dang, why you had to throw the Uncle in it!!!

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:56 pm

Glad to hear it mqew. It does help when you know you did right by a person and they didn’t appreciate it. It helps with closure.

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
3:57 pm

Leggs – I’m not sure why he fell so hard… She was/is cute. A lil desperate to me cause i’ve seen the pic of her showing up at his place with a trenchcoat and nothing much else. They weren’t ‘dating’ then…

He was always slightly suspicious because he could never go to ‘her’ house. I just always thought that it was the ex’s home and she was lying about that. The doc on record has the ex mother in law… only!

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
4:00 pm

Ummm…friendly male/female luv don’t include all that Ghana…not when one or both of them is attached. LOL

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
4:03 pm

Haaa haaa haaaa, the old trenchcoat move. She wanted to land him QUICKLY. That move you don’t put on just anybody. Don’t know how long he knew her before she played her trump card, but that right there was a red flag if it was very early in the game!!!

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
4:05 pm

who wants to host a soccer match tommorrow??

I will bring wings and drinks and fries AND CHIPS??

(Im asking ladies only OK)

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
4:09 pm

showing up at his place with a trenchcoat and nothing much else.

@mqew??

thanks for that!

@Leggs..u see my theory.??.i know when a man gets hoodwinked bad,their mental state has been corrupted by something and most likely show and tell of good puddsyy!

I am a man….i know!

Thank you mqew for eloborating.

@Luvbug..i hope u aint like that girl :lol: :lol:

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
4:09 pm

LBug – He met her at a popular chain restaurant…. actually while waiting on me. I end up not being able to make it cause I was swamped working. So he actually was trying to blame me. :-| He met her Jan 09.

His antenna came up about the house cause he couldn’t go there. But the other stuff… How she gon lie about her job and age tho…

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
4:11 pm

not when one or both of them is attached. LOL

@Luvbug??

Alicia Keyes got a man now..how u think she started??

when both are attached..even better!

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
4:12 pm

@GHANA ~ shouldn’t you be asking soccer enthusiasts to host a party (LOLOL)

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
4:12 pm

@Mqew??

how old is she??

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
4:12 pm

Leggs – Of course I thought it was a red flag, but how can you tell a man that mess.

Again, I know him so I’m sure she gave it up regularly.

The shyt hit the fan when her and her daughter with a 1yr old moved in not contributing shyt…..

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
4:14 pm

@LuvB ~ after meeting in January 09, when did she show up in trench coat.

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
4:14 pm

shouldn’t you be asking soccer enthusiasts to host a party??

@lEGGS

female soccer enthusiasts ONLY….YES!

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
4:15 pm

Ghana – 42

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
4:18 pm

I think most of the women in Blogsville are basketball enthusiasts and, not only that, not many are here today. You plan on inviting Ms. Queen, mister????

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
4:18 pm

@Mqew…she a desperate whrre and just badly advised and wanting to get married in a hurry.

she could have got him still had she been clean and truthful………..

47 is young!

some heiffers are jest so desperate

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
4:18 pm

I end up not being able to make it cause I was swamped working.
mqew so this whole thing is YOUR fault. lol

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
4:19 pm

It had to have been Feb that she did that. It didn’t take long…

He was all excited when he told me about it… I’m wasn’t trying to piss on his parade so I was just :eyeroll:

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
4:19 pm

@Luvbug..i hope u aint like that girl

What you mean?

mqew – LOL. So yoooou messed ole boy up by not showing up. She is definitely of the skank species. I just wonder how guys fall for that stuff. She’s wasting her skills. She could rack up teaching good women how to seem bad enough to catch a good guy.

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
4:23 pm

I just wonder how guys fall for that stuff.

@Luvbug??

is that such a mystery…..we like that the most!

@Legg!

You plan on inviting Ms. Queen??

:roll: :roll: :roll:

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
4:25 pm

Ghana – 37 was the fake age so she’s 42. Funny thing is, his daughter found out about the age from her family members.

DreamsM – Yeah he tried to say that mess…. Don’t think so…

Ghana – A lil white lie here or there, yea I’m sure he would have igged it. But this stuff, basic info type mess… coupled with the work lunches with ex bf he found out about … It’s done!

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
4:27 pm

@Melo, you crazy (LOLOL).

@mqew ~ any man would love a woman he’s interested in to show up in a trenchcoat. After about a month of seeing each other, she played her trump card too early. He should have asked himself how come she’s so comfortable doing that so soon. Some many not think so, but after seeing a person for one month, I’m not showing up at your doorstep in a trenchcoat.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
4:28 pm

She’s 42 and dumb as a brick.

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
4:31 pm

his daughter found out about the age from her family members.

@mqew??

yeah,shes pathological..shes a bad biaatch…

glad he found out be4 its too late and expensive 4 him to extricate himself!

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
4:31 pm

Leggs – EXACTLY! And they were not seeing each other that often either…

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
4:32 pm

Ghana – yea it isn’t too late and she cost him some… but nothing a few months of working won’t cover…

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
4:35 pm

Ghana – Yeah, it’s a mystery…especially when the guy later seems so shocked about his choice…like all these dudes that keep poppin up on this blog lashing out on all the women on here because they’re AnGry (mostly confused) that they keep seriously falling for trifling skanks.

They don’t know why…and the hell if we (I) know…why that is.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
4:35 pm

@mqew ~ that trenchcoat move is akin to slipping a mickey (showing my age) into his drink. She should be arrested on intoxication charges (lololol).

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
4:35 pm

She could rack up teaching good women how to seem bad enough to catch a good guy.
Luvbug I like your entrepreurial spirit. ;-)

He should have asked himself how come she’s so comfortable doing that so soon.
Leggs Our EGO gets in the way on this one. We like to think our skills are so superlative that it’s just us. lol Although I would think that’s mostly a young cat’s mindset.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
4:36 pm

Are mickeys now called “roofies” (sp)?

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
4:37 pm

@DreamsM ~ you are right…your EGO starts flip flopping and all common sense flies out your ears! She knew what she was doing. Almost got away with it!!

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
4:42 pm

Good nite!

“The true measure of your character is what you would do if you were sure no one would ever find out.” ~ John Maxwell

Have fun, eat plenty, rest plenty and simply ENJOY LIFE!

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
4:42 pm

Melo – I’m not the only one who thinks it’s a mystery…considering all the crying guys that show up on this blog lashing out at women. They don’t know why they can’t see past the P either.

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
4:43 pm

She knew what she was doing. Almost got away with it!!
Yeah that’s because she only took Elin Woods’ crash course, instead of the whole joint. lol

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
4:50 pm

this blog lashing out at women. They don’t know why they can’t see past the P either.

@Luvbug??

Pudssy(P) and sex is the reason why Prostitution is the one and only oldest profession still in good thriving business.

Never gets old and always seems new no matter how many times u hit it.

Arent u proud at least, that u are the priviledged holder of that one, sought after commodity?? :lol:

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
4:52 pm

The trenchcoat thing def got her in the door. He just likes reg ass.

DreamsM – young? He’s 45 soooo…..

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
4:52 pm

Ghana – Not really, if that’s the only standard men have and all other qualities are null and void. LOL

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
4:53 pm

Have a good weekend everybody….!!

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
4:57 pm

all other qualities are null and void

@Luvbug..

not null and void..other qualities are important but nopt as important…if u cook,u easy on the eye and u smell good..that spices up thangs.

But ur nana better be top Notch coz if not..the size of ur azz nor ur pretty face nor ur good cooking skills will be acknowledged that much!

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
4:57 pm

HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND!

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
5:01 pm

Well what I’m supposed to do then?? LOL

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
5:02 pm

Wait…

As in, that makes me disadvantaged..that’s not a request for a tutorial.

SJP

July 5th, 2010
12:30 pm

Hello is this thing working? Is anyone here?

SJP

July 5th, 2010
12:32 pm

Just having some thoughts on Damon Evans this afternoon~ cheatinging and getting caught in such a public way has to be double humiliating!

Lady-PYT-RIP MJ

July 5th, 2010
1:45 pm

SJP yep everything that glitter isn’t gold!

SJP

July 5th, 2010
4:02 pm

Lady – I learned that the hard way. The woman I pursued for 3 years was glitter, but she wasant gold. The woman that Im in love with now, I could’nt see her shine but I remebered something my momma said, love the one that loves you!

Lady-PYT-RIP MJ

July 5th, 2010
5:01 pm

yes sir! you live and learn and I am glad you are with the one you love!

Beautiful

July 5th, 2010
5:47 pm

good afternoon! *peek’n in*