Dating: Ego Handling
When you are single and available, there are times when you just have to go through a dry spell. This is when you have no prospects whatsoever. Not even the church mothers who are trying to play matchmaker are circling around you! Don’t panic! It’s perfectly normal and happens to everyone.
Perhaps the worst time to endure a dry spell is right after a break up or some disappointment. You are eager to prove that you aren’t undateable and your ego needs a quick fix. I believe I have said it before but our egos are a big problem when it comes to dating. I mean, not only handling the egos of other people, but our own egos get in the way.
What usually happens is we get a reality check along the way. Someone we really like doesn’t call us back or isn’t interested in us. Having a healthy dose of confidence is never a bad thing but humility is important!
One way we can better manage our egos in dating is going the extra distance for someone. I know it can be tough taking a risk, but it doesn’t have to be a big deal. If you find a person you feel drawn to, what difference does it make if you put in a little more effort? It could pay off and that could be what makes you stand out.
I believe ladies (ok, I really mean ME) have the biggest problem with getting their egos in check. It is part defense mechanism and part feeling entitled to be pursued all the time. At any rate, it would be worth it to find ways to show a guy that you think he is special too.
What do you think single people could do to handle their egos better?
I recently told a friend of mine she needed to check her ego and date a shorter man. She can keep all her fabulous heels and be really happy with a great guy if she dropped her ego and gave it a shot. Do you think single people should check their ego when it comes to their dating prospects too?
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Leggs
July 2nd, 2010
3:56 pm
Glad to hear it mqew. It does help when you know you did right by a person and they didn’t appreciate it. It helps with closure.
mqew
July 2nd, 2010
3:57 pm
Leggs – I’m not sure why he fell so hard… She was/is cute. A lil desperate to me cause i’ve seen the pic of her showing up at his place with a trenchcoat and nothing much else. They weren’t ‘dating’ then…
He was always slightly suspicious because he could never go to ‘her’ house. I just always thought that it was the ex’s home and she was lying about that. The doc on record has the ex mother in law… only!
Luvbug
July 2nd, 2010
4:00 pm
Ummm…friendly male/female luv don’t include all that Ghana…not when one or both of them is attached. LOL
Leggs
July 2nd, 2010
4:03 pm
Haaa haaa haaaa, the old trenchcoat move. She wanted to land him QUICKLY. That move you don’t put on just anybody. Don’t know how long he knew her before she played her trump card, but that right there was a red flag if it was very early in the game!!!
GHANA
July 2nd, 2010
4:05 pm
who wants to host a soccer match tommorrow??
I will bring wings and drinks and fries AND CHIPS??
(Im asking ladies only OK)
GHANA
July 2nd, 2010
4:09 pm
showing up at his place with a trenchcoat and nothing much else.
@mqew??
thanks for that!
@Leggs..u see my theory.??.i know when a man gets hoodwinked bad,their mental state has been corrupted by something and most likely show and tell of good puddsyy!
I am a man….i know!
Thank you mqew for eloborating.
@Luvbug..i hope u aint like that girl
mqew
July 2nd, 2010
4:09 pm
LBug – He met her at a popular chain restaurant…. actually while waiting on me. I end up not being able to make it cause I was swamped working. So he actually was trying to blame me.
He met her Jan 09.
His antenna came up about the house cause he couldn’t go there. But the other stuff… How she gon lie about her job and age tho…
GHANA
July 2nd, 2010
4:11 pm
not when one or both of them is attached. LOL
@Luvbug??
Alicia Keyes got a man now..how u think she started??
when both are attached..even better!
Leggs
July 2nd, 2010
4:12 pm
@GHANA ~ shouldn’t you be asking soccer enthusiasts to host a party (LOLOL)
GHANA
July 2nd, 2010
4:12 pm
@Mqew??
how old is she??
mqew
July 2nd, 2010
4:12 pm
Leggs – Of course I thought it was a red flag, but how can you tell a man that mess.
Again, I know him so I’m sure she gave it up regularly.
The shyt hit the fan when her and her daughter with a 1yr old moved in not contributing shyt…..
Leggs
July 2nd, 2010
4:14 pm
@LuvB ~ after meeting in January 09, when did she show up in trench coat.
GHANA
July 2nd, 2010
4:14 pm
shouldn’t you be asking soccer enthusiasts to host a party??
@lEGGS
female soccer enthusiasts ONLY….YES!
mqew
July 2nd, 2010
4:15 pm
Ghana – 42
Leggs
July 2nd, 2010
4:18 pm
I think most of the women in Blogsville are basketball enthusiasts and, not only that, not many are here today. You plan on inviting Ms. Queen, mister????
GHANA
July 2nd, 2010
4:18 pm
@Mqew…she a desperate whrre and just badly advised and wanting to get married in a hurry.
she could have got him still had she been clean and truthful………..
47 is young!
some heiffers are jest so desperate
DreamsMaterialize
July 2nd, 2010
4:18 pm
I end up not being able to make it cause I was swamped working.
mqew so this whole thing is YOUR fault. lol
mqew
July 2nd, 2010
4:19 pm
It had to have been Feb that she did that. It didn’t take long…
He was all excited when he told me about it… I’m wasn’t trying to piss on his parade so I was just :eyeroll:
Luvbug
July 2nd, 2010
4:19 pm
@Luvbug..i hope u aint like that girl
What you mean?
mqew – LOL. So yoooou messed ole boy up by not showing up. She is definitely of the skank species. I just wonder how guys fall for that stuff. She’s wasting her skills. She could rack up teaching good women how to seem bad enough to catch a good guy.
GHANA
July 2nd, 2010
4:23 pm
I just wonder how guys fall for that stuff.
@Luvbug??
is that such a mystery…..we like that the most!
@Legg!
You plan on inviting Ms. Queen??
mqew
July 2nd, 2010
4:25 pm
Ghana – 37 was the fake age so she’s 42. Funny thing is, his daughter found out about the age from her family members.
DreamsM – Yeah he tried to say that mess…. Don’t think so…
Ghana – A lil white lie here or there, yea I’m sure he would have igged it. But this stuff, basic info type mess… coupled with the work lunches with ex bf he found out about … It’s done!
Leggs
July 2nd, 2010
4:27 pm
@Melo, you crazy (LOLOL).
@mqew ~ any man would love a woman he’s interested in to show up in a trenchcoat. After about a month of seeing each other, she played her trump card too early. He should have asked himself how come she’s so comfortable doing that so soon. Some many not think so, but after seeing a person for one month, I’m not showing up at your doorstep in a trenchcoat.
Leggs
July 2nd, 2010
4:28 pm
She’s 42 and dumb as a brick.
GHANA
July 2nd, 2010
4:31 pm
his daughter found out about the age from her family members.
@mqew??
yeah,shes pathological..shes a bad biaatch…
glad he found out be4 its too late and expensive 4 him to extricate himself!
mqew
July 2nd, 2010
4:31 pm
Leggs – EXACTLY! And they were not seeing each other that often either…
mqew
July 2nd, 2010
4:32 pm
Ghana – yea it isn’t too late and she cost him some… but nothing a few months of working won’t cover…
Luvbug
July 2nd, 2010
4:35 pm
Ghana – Yeah, it’s a mystery…especially when the guy later seems so shocked about his choice…like all these dudes that keep poppin up on this blog lashing out on all the women on here because they’re AnGry (mostly confused) that they keep seriously falling for trifling skanks.
They don’t know why…and the hell if we (I) know…why that is.
Leggs
July 2nd, 2010
4:35 pm
@mqew ~ that trenchcoat move is akin to slipping a mickey (showing my age) into his drink. She should be arrested on intoxication charges (lololol).
DreamsMaterialize
July 2nd, 2010
4:35 pm
She could rack up teaching good women how to seem bad enough to catch a good guy.
Luvbug I like your entrepreurial spirit.
He should have asked himself how come she’s so comfortable doing that so soon.
Leggs Our EGO gets in the way on this one. We like to think our skills are so superlative that it’s just us. lol Although I would think that’s mostly a young cat’s mindset.
Leggs
July 2nd, 2010
4:36 pm
Are mickeys now called “roofies” (sp)?
Leggs
July 2nd, 2010
4:37 pm
@DreamsM ~ you are right…your EGO starts flip flopping and all common sense flies out your ears! She knew what she was doing. Almost got away with it!!
Leggs
July 2nd, 2010
4:42 pm
Good nite!
“The true measure of your character is what you would do if you were sure no one would ever find out.” ~ John Maxwell
Have fun, eat plenty, rest plenty and simply ENJOY LIFE!
Luvbug
July 2nd, 2010
4:42 pm
Melo – I’m not the only one who thinks it’s a mystery…considering all the crying guys that show up on this blog lashing out at women. They don’t know why they can’t see past the P either.
DreamsMaterialize
July 2nd, 2010
4:43 pm
She knew what she was doing. Almost got away with it!!
Yeah that’s because she only took Elin Woods’ crash course, instead of the whole joint. lol
GHANA
July 2nd, 2010
4:50 pm
this blog lashing out at women. They don’t know why they can’t see past the P either.
@Luvbug??
Pudssy(P) and sex is the reason why Prostitution is the one and only oldest profession still in good thriving business.
Never gets old and always seems new no matter how many times u hit it.
Arent u proud at least, that u are the priviledged holder of that one, sought after commodity??
mqew
July 2nd, 2010
4:52 pm
The trenchcoat thing def got her in the door. He just likes reg ass.
DreamsM – young? He’s 45 soooo…..
Luvbug
July 2nd, 2010
4:52 pm
Ghana – Not really, if that’s the only standard men have and all other qualities are null and void. LOL
GHANA
July 2nd, 2010
4:53 pm
Have a good weekend everybody….!!
GHANA
July 2nd, 2010
4:57 pm
all other qualities are null and void
@Luvbug..
not null and void..other qualities are important but nopt as important…if u cook,u easy on the eye and u smell good..that spices up thangs.
But ur nana better be top Notch coz if not..the size of ur azz nor ur pretty face nor ur good cooking skills will be acknowledged that much!
mqew
July 2nd, 2010
4:57 pm
HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND!
Luvbug
July 2nd, 2010
5:01 pm
Well what I’m supposed to do then?? LOL
Luvbug
July 2nd, 2010
5:02 pm
Wait…
As in, that makes me disadvantaged..that’s not a request for a tutorial.
SJP
July 5th, 2010
12:30 pm
Hello is this thing working? Is anyone here?
SJP
July 5th, 2010
12:32 pm
Just having some thoughts on Damon Evans this afternoon~ cheatinging and getting caught in such a public way has to be double humiliating!
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
July 5th, 2010
1:45 pm
SJP yep everything that glitter isn’t gold!
SJP
July 5th, 2010
4:02 pm
Lady – I learned that the hard way. The woman I pursued for 3 years was glitter, but she wasant gold. The woman that Im in love with now, I could’nt see her shine but I remebered something my momma said, love the one that loves you!
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
July 5th, 2010
5:01 pm
yes sir! you live and learn and I am glad you are with the one you love!
Beautiful
July 5th, 2010
5:47 pm
good afternoon! *peek’n in*