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Dating: Ego Handling

When you are single and available, there are times when you just have to go through a dry spell.  This is when you have no prospects whatsoever.  Not even the church mothers who are trying to play matchmaker are circling around you!  Don’t panic! It’s perfectly normal and happens to everyone.

Perhaps the worst time to endure a dry spell is right after a break up or some disappointment.  You are eager to prove that you aren’t undateable and your ego needs a quick fix.  I believe I have said it before but our egos are a big problem when it comes to dating.  I mean, not only handling the egos of other people, but our own egos get in the way.

What usually happens is we get a reality check along the way.  Someone we really like doesn’t call us back or isn’t interested in us.  Having a healthy dose of confidence is never a bad thing but humility is important!

One way we can better  manage our egos in dating is going the extra distance for someone.  I know it can be tough taking a risk, but it doesn’t have to be a big deal.  If you find a person you feel drawn to, what difference does it make if you put in a little more effort?  It could pay off and that could be what makes you stand out.

I believe ladies (ok, I really mean ME) have the biggest problem with getting their egos in check.  It is part defense mechanism and part feeling entitled to be pursued all the time.  At any rate, it would be worth it to find ways to show a guy that you think he is special too.

What do you think single people could do to handle their egos better?

I recently told a friend of mine she needed to check her ego and date a shorter man.  She can keep all her fabulous heels and be really happy with a great guy if she dropped her ego and gave it a shot.  Do you think single people should check their ego when it comes to their dating prospects too?

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Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
2:54 pm

@SlimOne ~ that’s my name, only spelled differently. I hate to think my friends are wiping their behinds w/my namesake (LOLOL).

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
2:55 pm

Nothing much…treading water these days.
Luvbug treading water is a valuable skill. so you must be advanced in the game. things are good with me. This weekend I’m hitting every possible cookout I can. Food, drank, and good people is the goal. what you got up?

Purple Rain

July 2nd, 2010
2:55 pm

Today was spontaneous not ordered. LOL :)

The risk of telling someone first is being left looking like an a$$, if they are not that into you.

Girl: “I love you”
Guy: “I love me to “

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
2:59 pm

I hate to think my friends are wiping their behinds w/my namesake
Leggs Since Slim was referring to “wet Charmin” as being the ish. So, if that phrase applies to you then it would actually be a compliment, at least in my book. ;-)

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
3:00 pm

Dreams – I’m hanging with family, eating grub cost free and bringing home seconds and thirds for lunch next week. LOL

I see you’re taking a break from cooking. Is barbeque not your speci-ality??

Purple Rain

July 2nd, 2010
3:00 pm

Squeeze the Charmin

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
3:03 pm

Leggs :shock: well…um…i see your point now. LOL!

Dreams – way to turn that negative into a positive. ;-)

Purple Pleasure, your little dialogue reminds me of an instance where a guy that sort of fell off my bench radar asking me once

Guy: Do you miss me?
(Slim thinking of best way to answer)
Slim: You are missed, yes (thinking, by someone just not me)

So long story short…it wasn’t a total lie. Just didn’t specify who he was missed by. :lol:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:03 pm

@PR ~ sorry, bud, it may have felt spontaneous, the standing order was placed/stipulated a while ago….2x a day (lololol)

Purple Rain

July 2nd, 2010
3:05 pm

Leggs, I don’t mind the bonus that got it started. LOL

Slim, LOL

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:05 pm

That was a good answer, SlimOne….

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:06 pm

It’s an omen….Rick James’ Busting Loose is on….that’s exactly how I feel, busting loose from this boring camp. I’m about to fall asleep!

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:07 pm

personal preferance is Quilted Northern!

@SlimOne??

aint that kinda hard..no wonder u cant shake off that rough patch on ur butt crack! :lol: :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
3:08 pm

I see you’re taking a break from cooking. Is barbeque not your speci-ality??
I’m trying to take home leftovers like you. lol I always seem to end up on someone’s grill anyway though…guess it’s just not meant for me to stay away. lol

Dreams – way to turn that negative into a positive.
Slim if there’s one thing I can do, it’s provide positive experiences. ;-)

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:08 pm

@PR ~ believe you me, I know you’re not complaining.

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:17 pm

http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/photo.php?pid=5721454&id=675858551

can u see my brother, in the middle, in south enjoying hisself.

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
3:18 pm

Ghana – the only way you know about the rough patch on my butt crack is because YOU put it there from rubbing your wang w/o giving me a thorough butt lickin prior to that wang burn you gave me.

‘if there’s one thing I can do, it’s provide positive experiences’

Dreams for whatever reason, that post made me want to yell out “YES WE CAN!”

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
3:21 pm

Dreams for whatever reason, that post made me want to yell out “YES WE CAN!”
Slim Indeed WE CAN. Change you can feel believe in. ;-)

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:21 pm

@GHANA ~ can’t open FB at work. Is your brother working on my poster????

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
3:22 pm

Ok….I think i just heard the woman with the largest pee-hole using the bathroon just now. At first, it sounded like the water from the sink was overflowing when I realized it wasn’t the faucet turned all the way up….it was her urinating. :shock: :shock:

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
3:22 pm

Ghana – I can’t see it. LOL

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:26 pm

Everytime I see YES WE CAN, I think of Sammy Davis Jr.’s book. It was one of the first big books I read at the age of 11 or 12 (?).

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:28 pm

Oh just remembered, some of you may be going to the movies over the holiday. I have a coupon for any size popcorn and drink for a $1 at any AMC Theatre…any of you want me to forward it to you? Expires 7/4

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
3:29 pm

Dreams you’re gonna make a change, for once in my life…it’s gonna feel real good, it’s gonna make a difference…it’s gonna make it all right. As you…slip on the rubber on,……….(Okay, i’m officially mentally checked out if i’m remixing MJ’s Man in the Mirror) :lol:

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:30 pm

@ogh u cant see it…

be my friends then??

yes i told him to get me some posters and stuff….

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
3:32 pm

Black Man Down – Ladies I just found out that a close male friend has been bamboozled and hoodwinked. He just told me that his now EX-fiance has been lying to him about her HOME (that she doesn’t own), JOB TITLE (paralegal she aint), AGE (she’s five years older than she said), and other things that she didn’t have to lie about. I know him, and he was in it to win it. She didn’t have to lie. She even stole a lil cash from him, but at least she gave that back. She was living in his house, not paying a DIME, with her daughter and granddaghter….

He told me he’s never getting married after this….. He was or is a good catch too….

Thas too damn bad :-| Don’t people believe in karma or at the very least, do unto others…..

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:33 pm

it was her urinating

@SLIMONE

its not that her pee hole is large..its more about the pressure of the pee…

she must have been pressed for a long time..proily very busy on her desk and was procastinating.

I can bet shes a good and powerful squirter tho!

Is she phoine??? :lol:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:35 pm

@mqew ~ you just livened up Blogsville with that post.

I am deeply saddened that he’s going through this. Those were unnecessary lies. She even stole from him. How does a person rob from their SO?. The only way you can do that is because you truly do not care about that person. Best believe, she will get hers!

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:36 pm

Black Man Down!!

@Mqew??? shes a bad bad bad biaatch!! :shock: :evil:

why did he fall so hard for it tho??

Is he lame or is it that she just licked him good and thin to confuse him like that??

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
3:38 pm

I’m not sure about karma, but that’s a sad story.

Not trying to be funny, but how all that get past him if she was living with him? I’m just sayin. Dang!!

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:39 pm

“why did he fall so hard for it tho??” His heart told him to. Apparently, she’s good at her game. He didn’t know he was being played.

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
3:39 pm

Ghana – how do you tell if someone in the stall next to you is phoine?…can only see their shoes/feet. LOL!

mqew – thats flucked up!!!!!!! She it’s triflin chicks like that, that mess it up for everybody else

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:41 pm

Hell, those living with Bernie Madoff got duped (supposedly).

The wife of the Unibomber got duped…it happens easily when you walk around not observing what’s going on around you!

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:41 pm

how do you tell if someone in the stall next to you is phoine?…

@Slim?

i thoght u saw them or u know them..arent u at work..well u can tell by the shoes who it is if u at work..ladies..uall know each other’s shoe game

:lol:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:41 pm

@mqew ~ if he’s that good of a person, I’ll heal him back and show him what a good woman truly looks like.

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
3:42 pm

be my friends then??

I thought I waaaas your friend. Now if you mean be your friend via facebook, why it gotta be that way GhAnA? :lol:

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:43 pm

ualll watching the wrld cup scores??

Ghana is handling the daamn bizzness as of now…I Up!

no fluke these folks

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
3:43 pm

Slim glad you found me worthy of the MJ remix, I think. lol

mqew believe it or not, stories like these are out there. with lies like those, you really don’t want to know what else you’ve been deceived about. just damn.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:43 pm

@GHANA ~ you are right, I even know how certain co-workers walk. Who jiggle change in their pockets when they walk, who clumps as they walk, who walks fast, etc…

@mqew ~ I hope he doesn’t beat himself up too much! I know he’s hurt, but tell him not to give her any power.

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:44 pm

I thought I waaaas your friend

@Luvbug??

u refused to chat wit me offline..how u gon be my bosom bosom friend if u only lub me when u come on here?

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
3:45 pm

Well all you fine folks….i’m headed to go get something done to this head. Enjoy your holiday weekend, be safe, have fun and check ya on the flip side.

Luv Ya, I’m OUTTIE HERRRR

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
3:45 pm

Leggs- You’ve got a point, but she better look 5 years younger than her age then. That’s the measure. If she doesn’t, then he believed all the rest because he wanted to too.

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
3:47 pm

Ghana – Lub is lub. Is it not? What’s with the conditions??

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:48 pm

how do you tell if someone in the stall next to you is phoine

@SlimOne??

dont try too hard to hide ur lesbo tendencies…

I like a chic with lesbo tendencies myself! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:48 pm

You got that right, Luvbug. I sure hope she looks younger than her age. No need for those lies. Heck, lying about you age, our job and a home. Sheesh, no matter how hard you try, you can’t hide your TRUE character. It will always surface!!!

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
3:51 pm

He’s not lame. He’s from here or somewhere in GA but he knows he’s a good catch. I think he simply didn’t think that she would lie about the simple things.

About the house – she said that she is a CO-signer on the house with her ex mother in law :-| But that’s only after he confronted her with the fact that the house isn’t in her name cause he checked and had people check. So she came back with that story asking him to believe that mess…. It ain’t a car you stupid ass heifa! You don’t CO-sign a house so wait you AIN’T a paralegal either cause if you were you’d know that!!!! She swears she’s in Emory Law school about to graduate. But every semester she’s had to put it off for ‘health’ reasons…

Which reminds me, she recently claimed to be pregnant :shock: And she ‘lost’ the baby… I wonder if that was even true :-|

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 2nd, 2010
3:51 pm

FromMelo…. so u arent going to the mountains with Mr Lurker, i take it,or are u jes trying to quench ur thirst,just in case that loud blarber mouf is all talk but no thunder.

Because of this comment you have enter The LURKER zone::::::YEAH …Do it LURKER, Do it!

One day about 2 weeks ago the following happened at the Zulu (Melo, Ghana) household……

Ghana(Melo) and queen were watching a soccer match in there bedroom. Queen started to get a little frisky ( our new word for today) and started touching Melo (Little mandingo) and carassing him. Melo (little mandingo started) to get excited. Melo starts to moan but keeps his one good eye open to continue watching the soccer match.

Queen wants all of Melo attentions so she grabs the remote and turns of the TV. Suddenly Melo (Ghana) little mandingo starts shinking like he been thrown in freezing temperature.

Queen… Goes I can’t believe, you only get excited when you are watching a soccer match. I am pissed just for that I want you to go downstairs right now and braided Zula,shenicka,rahim,devan,melo, ghana smith hair and it better be braided right.

Queen…. then states your family is going to have to give back those 25 cows, 15 goats and 32 chickens if this keep-up. Queen thinking in her mind ( I knew I should have married the horny uncle).

YEAHHHHH :lol: :lol: :smile:

Everyone have a safe Holiday!!!!!!!!

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
3:52 pm

@Luvbug

Luv is luv is luv…..when at least we can give each other some huggs..the tightness of which and the reach of my left hand visvee ur back and the squeeze or none thereof of ur bootey depends on how deep the luv is!

mqew

July 2nd, 2010
3:52 pm

Leggs – He’s not beating himself up because he knows he did the right thing by her and their relationship!!! He just announced that he’s never ever ever getting married now…

Luvbug

July 2nd, 2010
3:54 pm

mqew- The story is getting worse and worse. If you know, how’d/where’d they meet?

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
3:55 pm

@mqew ~ she sounds like a pathological liar. He sensed something wasn’t right a long time ago, but chose to ignore it. His antenna came up enough for him to check the records on the house. If he had only raised it a little more, he may not be hurt today.

Dang, why you had to throw the Uncle in it!!!