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Dating: Ego Handling

When you are single and available, there are times when you just have to go through a dry spell.  This is when you have no prospects whatsoever.  Not even the church mothers who are trying to play matchmaker are circling around you!  Don’t panic! It’s perfectly normal and happens to everyone.

Perhaps the worst time to endure a dry spell is right after a break up or some disappointment.  You are eager to prove that you aren’t undateable and your ego needs a quick fix.  I believe I have said it before but our egos are a big problem when it comes to dating.  I mean, not only handling the egos of other people, but our own egos get in the way.

What usually happens is we get a reality check along the way.  Someone we really like doesn’t call us back or isn’t interested in us.  Having a healthy dose of confidence is never a bad thing but humility is important!

One way we can better  manage our egos in dating is going the extra distance for someone.  I know it can be tough taking a risk, but it doesn’t have to be a big deal.  If you find a person you feel drawn to, what difference does it make if you put in a little more effort?  It could pay off and that could be what makes you stand out.

I believe ladies (ok, I really mean ME) have the biggest problem with getting their egos in check.  It is part defense mechanism and part feeling entitled to be pursued all the time.  At any rate, it would be worth it to find ways to show a guy that you think he is special too.

What do you think single people could do to handle their egos better?

I recently told a friend of mine she needed to check her ego and date a shorter man.  She can keep all her fabulous heels and be really happy with a great guy if she dropped her ego and gave it a shot.  Do you think single people should check their ego when it comes to their dating prospects too?

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Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
11:12 am

“Me lickey” = Freudian slip, Mr. LURKER!!!

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
11:16 am

@Leggs I will send you a pic if I see any out there.

@Sassy I hear you on that dress I usually get those from VS something classy and sexy and a little BAM in the back.

@ARed it is not too hot so you should be ok. If it is too hot or too cold I will get lazy.

@melo Graham is a Ms man.

My sister is so slow I am hungry! :evil:

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 2nd, 2010
11:20 am

@Ghana….Put on your Zulu comedy hat and let’s get this party started!!!!!! YES

@Leggs….LURKER likes to lickey too! Before I head to the Tennessee mountains do I need to make a stop and give you a sample LEggs? I will bring a brown blouse with me…. YEAH :lol: :smile:

@My2…..You better bring those adults questions. This is the big league and everything under the sun needs to be discussed in regards to dating. Bring it, bring it, Bring it my2

Sassy Me...feelin some type of waaay :-)

July 2nd, 2010
11:21 am

I usually get those from VS something classy and sexy and a little BAM in the back.

That’s how to do it Professor!!

Y’all be safe and don’t hurt nothin(of yours,anyway) ;)

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
11:21 am

something classy and sexy and a little BAM in the back.
I’m a big fan of “BAM in the back”. lol

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
11:22 am

LURKER are you taking a woman with you? It gets lonely in those mountains. I don’t want you entertaining LURKER, jr. if you know what I mean

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
11:23 am

@Sasssssssssssssssssssssy I have a few that I lounge in, but they have some nice ones for going to dinner, concerts etc.

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
11:23 am

Mannnnnnnnnnnnnnnn where is my sisters my stomach is eating my back. :evil:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
11:24 am

@LURKER ~ I’m sure you do, that’s why I said it was a Freudian slip. Pretty sure you meant to type “Me likey,” but since your brain pretty much is full of sex you typed what you were thinking.

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
11:27 am

@ARed it is not too hot so you should be ok. If it is too hot or too cold I will get lazy.

:lol: I have yet to get out of my bed, so I’m sure you see the challenge. :lol:

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
11:29 am

Speaking of Freudian slip….when I was in college, my then bf had come over to have dinner with my folks and I. As we were about to get ready to dig in I said very plain & clear, “Whew, boy I sure am Horn ey!”….meant to say hungry. Didn’t dawn on me what I had said until I noticed everyone at the table, including my mom & step-dad, got super quiet looking at me like I was crazy. :lol:

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
11:30 am

ARED get your tail up out of that bed and turn some music on and get going. said in my ike turner voice :grin:

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
11:36 am

LOL. I technically can’t leave. I’m working from home. But they’re closing down early this afternoon so maybe I can muster up the strength to get dressed by 2 or 3 pm. :lol:

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 2nd, 2010
11:36 am

@Professora……Are you volunteering to take care of Lurker Jr. this weekend? You are my kinda of womanl…..When can I pick you-up? .LURKER is going to learn somethin from the Professor! YES
:wink:

@Leggs…..Your brain full of sexual thoughts about LURKER…. :lol: Your body wants to have sex with LURKER… Your mind wants you to have sex with LURKER…. You body parts want to have sex with LURKER….. :lol: I am convincing to have sex with LURKER yet? :smile: YES

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
11:36 am

@SlimOne ~ PRICELESS…that has to be the best laugh for me in a while. The visual is hysterical….that was truly, truly funny!

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 2nd, 2010
11:37 am

@Ared you get a pass

@LURKER you are crazy

I will chat with yall tuesday

AmazonRed™ - I love my big ego...

July 2nd, 2010
11:38 am

Professor – I hear it’s raining?! Oh…this definitely doesn’t help matters… :lol:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
11:38 am

@LURKER ~ you are a riot. Can’t say Yes. I have to meet LURKER and determine if Lurker, Jr can hang!!! Can’t take the word of a stranger. :wink: :wink:

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 2nd, 2010
11:40 am

I bet AmazonRed work from home is her SO working those bones every hour on the hour. Like Red stated if he can get it up she will take it down….That’s my kind of woman!!! Working from home, yea tell us another one…..YEA. j/k :wink:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 2nd, 2010
11:43 am

As ive stated before.. Women dont have Egos.. They only think they do..

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
11:45 am

Leggs sometimes the best stuff is simply True-to-Life…can’t make this stuff up. :-)

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
11:46 am

@Jacobite47 ~ how did you find the blog?

Purple Rain

July 2nd, 2010
12:19 pm

Let’s get this party started. OOT OOT

Purple Rain

July 2nd, 2010
12:23 pm

Well, on to the next party spot. LOL

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
12:27 pm

There’s a party over here, there’s a party of there!

We don’t need no water let the m…..f……BURN, BURN BABY BURN!!!!

OOT OOT!!!

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
12:30 pm

PP – Hey, hey, hey, hey Whoomp Dere it is!!!

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
12:31 pm

Who let the dogs out…..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 2nd, 2010
12:38 pm

Natalie Walker – No one else

Butterflies
Gravity pulls me into
Anticipate our first touch
Sweet and so new
Let’s figure out how to make this forever
Oh this is making me crazy

Hey love I am at the point of no restraint
Let’s just make a move and feel the earth quake

It’s just you and me
and no one else
It’s just you and me
you and me

Slowly now
We shouldn’t let this go too fast
Bring me out of this shell
Take off my mask
This is us intertwined and on fire
I cannot stop
I’m consumed with desire

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
12:40 pm

I have to fan myself. Very nice!

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
12:41 pm

@Infamous That’s the song for me

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
12:43 pm

and hello everybody

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
12:46 pm

@Infamous??

its just u and these 2 ladies,Lucinda and Leggs..so do a play by play on here of how u going to keep both of them ravishingly satisfied,since one is faning herself,unable to contain her desire for u, and the other,angling her sexxy hips and blood shot eyes towards u,at the same time??
:lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 2nd, 2010
12:47 pm

Natalie Walker – Waking Dream

Pinch me
Is this real
This feeling of release
I’m floating in your heaven
In the corners of my dreams

Tasting life
Numb again
Close my eyes
It begins…

I cannot stumble here
I am safe inside my head
When I wake up Ill forget
I’ll come back to my mess

I will not leave
Stay asleep
Slip further in
My ecstasy

Safe inside my mind I hide…

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 2nd, 2010
12:52 pm

LAdies listen to the songs the lyrics dont do them justice… Ya’ll know Im always on some obscure music.. I like to keep people asking what are we listening to..

SlimOne

July 2nd, 2010
12:53 pm

Ghana – actually there’s 3 ladies in here. We can make our own, 3 Cooties & a Wang Movie. :lol:

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
12:58 pm

actually there’s 3 ladies in here

@Slimone!

Wow..I have never heard of a quartersome but Infamous is a Big Boy, with a big engine,im sure he can handle it!

:lol: :lol:

so u arent going to the mountains with Mr Lurker, i take it,or are u jes trying to quench ur thirst,just in case that loud blarber mouf is all talk but no thunder?? :lol: :lol:

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
12:59 pm

@Infamous Is Natalie Walker on Pandora? Gotta take a listen when I get home.

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
1:00 pm

methinks i am in love

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
1:01 pm

with who…Lucinda??

dont tell us with urself surely!! :lol:

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
1:02 pm

@Hot diggity dog, I want what you’re dishing!!!!

Angel

July 2nd, 2010
1:02 pm

HE by Angel

He touched my soul before he touched my body
He spoke to my mind before he kissed my lips
He listened to my heart before he heard me moan
He looked into my eyes before he saw my body
He became my friend before He became my LOVER

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 2nd, 2010
1:05 pm

Lu – Well D@mn.. When did all this happen.. Well it only takes one good night.. I mean really..

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
1:06 pm

@Ghana man i have been dating for a few months… i have it pretty bad

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
1:07 pm

@Angel ~ EXCELLENT…JUST BEAUTIFUL!

Lucinda

July 2nd, 2010
1:08 pm

@Infamous and the thing is, didn’t let him hit it for the longest time… but then… man got serious skillz

DreamsMaterialize

July 2nd, 2010
1:09 pm

Dang it done got all sensual and deep in here. It must be the rain.

Leggs

July 2nd, 2010
1:10 pm

@Lucinda ~ nothing wrong with having your nose wide open as long as you see the forest for the trees and you’re not being played. If you two are on the same page, congratulations on finding that special connection to another.

Angel

July 2nd, 2010
1:10 pm

Thanks Lucinda!

GHANA

July 2nd, 2010
1:11 pm

He listened to my heart before he heard me moan

@Angel

that there is the best line!

@Lucinda!

i have it pretty bad.

well if its like that,yeah,then hes handling u preety good then!

If u think u in luv,tell him..dont be restrained by that ego WD is talking about.

Angel

July 2nd, 2010
1:12 pm

@Leggs….Yes!