When you are single and available, there are times when you just have to go through a dry spell. This is when you have no prospects whatsoever. Not even the church mothers who are trying to play matchmaker are circling around you! Don’t panic! It’s perfectly normal and happens to everyone.
Perhaps the worst time to endure a dry spell is right after a break up or some disappointment. You are eager to prove that you aren’t undateable and your ego needs a quick fix. I believe I have said it before but our egos are a big problem when it comes to dating. I mean, not only handling the egos of other people, but our own egos get in the way.
What usually happens is we get a reality check along the way. Someone we really like doesn’t call us back or isn’t interested in us. Having a healthy dose of confidence is never a bad thing but humility is important!
One way we can better manage our egos in dating is going the extra distance for someone. I know it can be tough taking a risk, but it doesn’t have to be a big deal. If you find a person you feel drawn to, what difference does it make if you put in a little more effort? It could pay off and that could be what makes you stand out.
I believe ladies (ok, I really mean ME) have the biggest problem with getting their egos in check. It is part defense mechanism and part feeling entitled to be pursued all the time. At any rate, it would be worth it to find ways to show a guy that you think he is special too.
What do you think single people could do to handle their egos better?
I recently told a friend of mine she needed to check her ego and date a shorter man. She can keep all her fabulous heels and be really happy with a great guy if she dropped her ego and gave it a shot. Do you think single people should check their ego when it comes to their dating prospects too?