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Relationship 101: Building trust

I have been thinking a lot about relationships lately.  We may think we want one (at least I do!) but we forget how much work is involved in building a good relationship that actually lasts beyond the “caught up in the haze of love” phase.

After the novelty of a new relationship wears off, the two of you are left with the business of finding out what makes one another tick.  You get to see your significant other deal with different situations  and circumstances, which in turn, reveals a lot about their character.

What surprises me most about being in a relationship is the amount of work it takes to get a guy to open up emotionally.  Sometimes it takes men a long time to trust, especially if he is unsure of how he feels about her.  Is that the case for women? I think it is.  I don’t fully disclose everything to men I date casually.  It takes me quite a while to connect and actually feel safe with a man.

When do you feel as if you can trust someone that you are dating?  At what point do you think they can handle the heavy stuff?

Is there a way for a woman to build trust with a man so that he knows she is reliable and trustworthy?  Can men do things to prove to women that they can be trusted?

Is there

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Trevor0529

July 1st, 2010
3:07 pm

How did that “roach” get two women, who are attractive IMO, pregnant? THAT makes no damn sense.

@Prof ~ Lil wayne??? Sexy??? For Real tho’??

Dig That

July 1st, 2010
3:07 pm

@trevor- did you participate in the race?

@Ghana- what is she talking about?

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
3:08 pm

@SexyC ~ Trevor0529 is exactly right. Enjoy the moment and marvel at all the other runners around you. When I run the 10Ks, it’s exhilarating. Pace yourself, drink plenty of water, and watch that person in front of you. Don’t worry about that person on your sides or behind you….focus on the finish line!

SexyCool - Living on a cloud.

July 1st, 2010
3:08 pm

Okay…let me ask some questions.

I am Wave X. The start map shows X as being all the way back at the intersection of Ptree Rd and Ptree Dunwoody. Does this mean that when I arrive, I should proceed (or will be directed) to walk my ass all the way down there? or can I just hang out in the mall area until my wave start time?

And since my wave time does not start until 9a, I’m thinking it does not make sense to arrive any earlier than 830a. What say you?

I am considering carrying a small back pack (especially since I am walking). Is this a good idea or not?

Trevor0529

July 1st, 2010
3:10 pm

@sexyC, do take MARTA to the starting line. parking is a hassle.

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
3:11 pm

@Proff??

his music aside..wld u let Lil Wayne have it.

wld u lay with a dude that tatted up??

(assume I aint judging u) :lol: :lol:

SexyCool - Living on a cloud.

July 1st, 2010
3:11 pm

I’m not talking about the other participants (at this point). I just want to know what to do/expect when I get there.

I’m considering going to the race seminar for first timers the day before – if I don’t have too much going on Saturday. I just want to get some insight into making sure that I’m doing what I’m supposed to.

SexyCool - Living on a cloud.

July 1st, 2010
3:11 pm

MARTA is definitely the plan.

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
3:11 pm

What you plan to have in your backpack??? You really don’t want anything to weigh you down, even walking.

white man's wife

July 1st, 2010
3:12 pm

You said ~Any black chic that hooks up with a white man is a phluckking trifling gold digger whrre ~ as if 1) all white men have money which they do not and 2) getting with a black man does not give a gold digger that opportunity. those are your words

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
3:12 pm

Attending that first time seminar sounds like a plan.

SexyCool - Living on a cloud.

July 1st, 2010
3:13 pm

My ten pound hand weights.

Um. Yeah, no……….
My ID and my camera.

SexyCool - Living on a cloud.

July 1st, 2010
3:13 pm

“what I’m supposed to be doing”, that is.

blue

July 1st, 2010
3:14 pm

dig the tatts, just not all over the face

Trevor0529

July 1st, 2010
3:14 pm

I am Wave X. The start map shows X as being all the way back at the intersection of Ptree Rd and Ptree Dunwoody. Does this mean that when I arrive, I should proceed (or will be directed) to walk my ass all the way down there? or can I just hang out in the mall area until my wave start time? you could probably hang out in the mall area until 15-20 minutes before your start time. There will be volunteers in the start area that could help you with that question a lot better.

And since my wave time does not start until 9a, I’m thinking it does not make sense to arrive any earlier than 830a. What say you? I agree. no need to rush down there.

I am considering carrying a small back pack (especially since I am walking). Is this a good idea or not? Good idea. I saw people with backpacks last year running or walking.

SexyCool - Living on a cloud.

July 1st, 2010
3:15 pm

Thanks, Trevor.

Dig That

July 1st, 2010
3:16 pm

@SexyC- It sounds like you are really ready for it. I haven’t done it so long but it is a lot of fun and healthy.

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
3:17 pm

The handweights sounds good.

Trevor0529

July 1st, 2010
3:21 pm

@SexyC, are the hand weights ten pound each? If so, keep in mind that you will be going up “cardiac hill” and there is another slight hill after that. if hills don’t bother you, then bring the weights with you.

SexyCool - Living on a cloud.

July 1st, 2010
3:23 pm

I was being a smart ass. No weights. Just my camera, my ID, insurance card, emergency contact card, some cash, my sunblock and a handtowel.

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
3:24 pm

@white man’s wife

all white men have money which they do not

most white men who marry black women have a lot more money than the black chics..in fact most black chics who marry white men have nothing on them..check ur stats……no black woman will marry a white men jus for luv..thats rare. In fact they marry white men(for the most part) with a whole loooooot of money.

getting with a black man does not give a gold digger that opportunity

there arent as many opportunities for a gold digger with black men…for obvious reasons..we have less money,relatively speaking.

so a black gold digging trifling whrre will either want to follow the ball players and other athletes,which is some competitoin on its own or try trap the black executives or go white where the money is regular in corporate terms but still way more than she is used to.

Either way, its a come Up for her!

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
3:26 pm

Okkaaaayyyy! Then you’re carrying all the necessary papers and ID. Don’t forget your dental insurance card! Your AARP card….whoops, you don’t have one of those yet. :lol:

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
3:27 pm

Have a wonderful 4th, blog you next week.

‘a presto’

SexyCool - Living on a cloud.

July 1st, 2010
3:27 pm

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
3:30 pm

Melo, I really want see those statistics next week. I think they are coming from your mind. Most inter-racial marriages stateside are due to military families in which both are active duty. That is a statistical fact.

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
3:32 pm

That is a statistical fact.
@PR??

unless u have a reputable website to steer me to for ur stats and reference, I presume u getting urs fom the stats database called ur lyfe.

Me too! :lol:

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
3:35 pm

I think they are coming from your mind
@PR..

MY mind..??….thats not a bad database tho PR consdering what I see,hear and experience and then retain….

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
3:38 pm

Melo, but you are speaking on them all in general term not just what you observe, there is a whole world that is not under your eyes observation. I thought you were talking about all relationships, when in reality you are just talking about what you have observed. My mistake, on the misunderstanding. :)

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 1st, 2010
3:38 pm

Sessy – Dang she is setting it off.. Dang she got some big balls..

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
3:39 pm

A database spewing stats witnessed by one man. Think about it, how credible is this information if he hasn’t traveled around the world and back with a group study to back up his analysis. I’m just wondering….

white man's wife

July 1st, 2010
3:41 pm

ghana, if you have kids i hope you do not teach them that they will be better off financially only if they marry white. i did not marry my husband because he is white nor because i felt that white men have more to offer financially. i did marry him for love and have loved him for 13 years. we don’t teach our children that one race is better than another or one is inferior of another because no matter what color you are or who you choose to love and marry you have to work for what you want.

Beautiful

July 1st, 2010
3:44 pm

hey bloggers! gonna read topic to see if i should comment.

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
3:45 pm

That’s why you have to fill out your census forms. LOL

So Swiss’ wife married him for his money? Swiss give me a loan. lol

blue

July 1st, 2010
3:47 pm

well said white mans wife.
there just seem to be so many views this way that blacks get what they can from whites and thats the only reason they interact. how about simply being people, and treating each other as such, and loving each other as such.
ghana – wonder if you believe in love at all, or is it simply love of money

Professor

July 1st, 2010
3:48 pm

…stepping in.

@Ghana???

his music aside..wld u let Lil Wayne have it.

wld u lay with a dude that tatted up??

(assume I aint judging u

LOL, I would not he is too young, too short and too rich crazy. I don’t do junkies.

@Trevor, I think Lil Wayne is cute and an excellent performer

You might want to add some speedstick in that bag if you are going to catch the train back home, there is enough musk on marta. jus’ sayin’

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
3:48 pm

Melo, but you are speaking on them all in general term

@PR..wld it be practical for me to list every relationship i know of, on here,even if i wanted to??

@white man’s wife
i hope you do not teach them that they will be better off financially only if they marry white

NOOOOOOOOOO..they learn by some form of osmosis..why wld they even go there(laaaawwwwwd) when they aint seen it in their family??

why wld i teach them anything about luving and then put money in there too…ur logic is everywhere and not making sense..im sorry.

if at all, I am going to tell them NOT to be blinded by what seems like luv and to have their eyes open all the time…..Thats what i do.

No woman is going to luv me more than I luv myself! I am so arrogant about that.

white man's wife

July 1st, 2010
3:50 pm

your comments read like you don’t feel that black women are deserving of having anything. why aren’t black women allowed to have without being called a gold digger? do you feel white women that marry men white or black with more money are gold diggers too or are they more deserving of it?

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
3:51 pm

So Swiss’ wife married him for his money?

@PR..if u read carefully, i stayed away from labelling “ALL”…..so as not generallize like that….and i said unless i see a proliferation to back ur theory….so far? none

there are exceptions to every rule ofcourse..thats standard.

white man's wife

July 1st, 2010
3:54 pm

you said ~Any black chic that hooks up with a white man~ if that is not a generalization i don’t know what is. you are a sad individual.

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
3:55 pm

do you feel white women that marry men white or black with more money are gold diggers

@white man’s wife??

a lot of them!

u don’t feel that black women are deserving of having anything

to state a fact or what i consider a fact is not stating that the contrary is true….

If i said u didnt drink water today, it dont mean iam saying u drank wine! :lol: :lol:

so if black chics who go white are mostly gold diggers, how am i saying they dont deserve anything??

What shallow logic/ thinking is that??(if it can be called logic at all)

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
3:56 pm

Why do I hear Alfred Hitchcock/Melo laughing in the background after white man’s wife’s post……

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
3:57 pm

Not Alfred Hitchcock, he doesn’t laugh…meant Vincent Price!

Professor

July 1st, 2010
3:58 pm

white man’s wife are you black, white, blue or what????

Why do you label yourself as white man’s wife? Do you feel linking yourself with a white man is important.

I am leaving in 10 minutes…I hope you respond in time.

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
3:58 pm

you said ~Any black chic

@white man’s wife

but u didnt finish the quote…quote me in entirity…

I put Time in there didnt I..??

go back and check.. there was a condition i put which u left out in qoting me! :lol:

(are u fighting this argument for urself or 4 one of ur kin)?? :lol:

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
3:59 pm

I thought white man’s wife was a black woman.

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
4:00 pm

Giving herself that moniker to dispute what Melo has been saying.

SexyCool - Living on a cloud.

July 1st, 2010
4:00 pm

Yeah. I, too, thought white man’s wife is a black man’s daughter.
couldn’t resist…..

Professor

July 1st, 2010
4:01 pm

Leggs, I just want to make sure, because she seems proud to be married to massa white man.

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 1st, 2010
4:04 pm

Don’t worry women I am working on revoking Mr. Ghana permenant resident card, just give me 3 more months, although he probably will blog for South Africa. YESS

@Professor……Las Vegas land of sin, sin and more sin. Although I did not win any more the shows were very good. Good pootitang in Vegas! j/k YESSS,YESSS

@Leggs….I want my wang in a women too, I guess me and tiger are the same!
@Leggs can you help a brotha out? ZIPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
4:04 pm

@Prof ~ LOL…she is proud, but more importantly I think she’s trying to tell Melo not all blacks marry white men for their money. I got the impression her man isn’t swimming in money, but they’re swimming with love and respect for each other.