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Relationship 101: Building trust

I have been thinking a lot about relationships lately.  We may think we want one (at least I do!) but we forget how much work is involved in building a good relationship that actually lasts beyond the “caught up in the haze of love” phase.

After the novelty of a new relationship wears off, the two of you are left with the business of finding out what makes one another tick.  You get to see your significant other deal with different situations  and circumstances, which in turn, reveals a lot about their character.

What surprises me most about being in a relationship is the amount of work it takes to get a guy to open up emotionally.  Sometimes it takes men a long time to trust, especially if he is unsure of how he feels about her.  Is that the case for women? I think it is.  I don’t fully disclose everything to men I date casually.  It takes me quite a while to connect and actually feel safe with a man.

When do you feel as if you can trust someone that you are dating?  At what point do you think they can handle the heavy stuff?

Is there a way for a woman to build trust with a man so that he knows she is reliable and trustworthy?  Can men do things to prove to women that they can be trusted?

Is there

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Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
2:06 pm

Professor when we were home for fathers day he did not have a girl with him, like he usually does. I am just realizing that, something is up. LOL

Dig That

July 1st, 2010
2:07 pm

Maybe Plies summed it all up. He said white girls fun because all of them swallow. But I’m sure he can’t speak for them all. Surely maybe 2 or 3 of them might not..LMAO

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
2:09 pm

Elin is to Tiger as Diana was to Prince Charles!

2 Ximes birthing machine..thats it.

@Proff..

u mean wld i marry her as it stands now….??

I wldnt marry anybody if they were in her place now and got divorced.

I dont phluckk openly recycled shytt!

(didnt u read my earlier submission that??)

:lol: :lol:

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 1st, 2010
2:09 pm

Leggs you got it. He is getting his hump on believe that, and I he is paying her hush money too. I don’t think his wood is good, tho.

There was a madam on ET talking about how much he spent at the brothel. The strip clubs are hurting in this recession he could have made it rain and took home ten girls and saved 55K. In the end, he will throw away his fortune on women, sexxx, lies and hush money.

Talent down the drain.

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
2:09 pm

Just like OJ and can’t stay out of the limelight? NOT
Oj was in clubs out partying doing everything in the public eye. Tiger Woods was never in the Public Eye like that except when he was competing on the golf course. He was not out and about on the club scenes and a media who)re. If those women would have not said anything nobody would have known at all Tiger Woods is very private in his life. He only made one statement months after the incident blewup. Limelight seeker he is not. Not at all like OJ.

Kym--Elin Woods is the Winner!!

July 1st, 2010
2:09 pm

@Melo ..yes African..Don’t play Seal married a white woman(and she keep popping out babies)..well he is african and brazilan according to Wiki..either way my money is on some dude from overseas snagging Elin..although Professor has a point..she could go single and just mess around with the pool boy.

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
2:10 pm

Dig That, if I had said something like that I would be in trouble. LOL, this blog needs more women of different races. LOL

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 1st, 2010
2:11 pm

Melo–

I didn’t read your previous post, but a veejay with $750 mil in the bank sounds like marriage material.

Just like tiger WOOD is still marriage material for some folks.

Kym--Elin Woods is the Winner!!

July 1st, 2010
2:13 pm

@Purple exactly Tiger doesn’t seek the spotlight..I know that his mama is not doing right by him at all. She looks to passive..Black mama would have been there..patted her baby on the back..kicked the wife and said don’t give that hooch a dime….LMAO!!!

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
2:14 pm

Long story short, Tiger has plenty of money and will continue to make more and more money. This is just a speed bump in his life even though it is $750mill. He has a team and you better believe they are looking out for him and that’s how they make their money. If they gave her $750mill, she probably could have had over a billion, think about it. Tiger is going to be Tiger and Elin is just in a better position because he cheated, but she would have been even more set if she did not get divorced. Tiger keeps on living his life.

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
2:14 pm

@PR ~ Ok, limelight bad choice of a word. I know he’s not a partygoer. His ego will have him in the media one way or another. That’s what I meant. There will be another scandal because that rip in his armour will never be sewn properly!

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 1st, 2010
2:15 pm

@Kym I’ve seen some Africans with white women. Look at boris kujoe I think his dad is African. Sade is mixed with African blood too.

When it is all said and done folks mix and mingle the way they want too.

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
2:15 pm

Seal married a white woman(and she keep popping out babies)..

@Kym

i alwayz wonder at that union…and then the baby popping is just sme else to marvel and wonder!

there are 2 possible scenarios to describe that union:

1) True luv

2) white girl wanted to experiement on black initally at first,got hit by the black mandingoness Thick and like the saying goes.”once black hits white,there aint no going back” and then luv came later after that!

:lol: :lol:

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
2:15 pm

Kym, you are right. Imagine if that were your son. You would be in the trenches making sure that she didn’t get 750mill any woman would if her son were in that position. LOL

Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)

July 1st, 2010
2:17 pm

but she would have been even more set if she did not get divorced.

:shock: Better off than 750 milli? NOT!!

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 1st, 2010
2:17 pm

I meant to add that maybe some countries in Africa or more or less against the mixing, but it happens.

Tiger is case study material just like OJ

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 1st, 2010
2:18 pm

Raqi – Yes that was me.. And yes its not cool to hide your money from your mate. Im sure she knew how much money he had or has.. I just think you leave with what you came with..

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
2:18 pm

Black mama would have been there..patted her baby on the back..kicked the wife and said don’t give that hooch a dime

@Kym!

I support ur motion! :lol:

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 1st, 2010
2:19 pm

Ghana, I think it is true love seal is hard on the eyes. If I wanted some African wood, I would have found a handsome woodpecker and not seal

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
2:19 pm

Leggs, I disagree. How long has he been Golf’s Golden Boy? Since 1996, that is 14 years or so. This is the only time he has been in the news and he just did not start being a wh0re he just slipped and got to comfortable, the kind of guy he is and how he is so protective of his image I seriously doubt he would make the same mistake of letting his transgressions get out, but then again this is the only thing he has done besides winning that has been in the media’s eyes. So now that he is single he can do whichever women he chooses and if he is single why is that news that he is starting to pimp openly if he does. He is single now he can do whom and what he wants. LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 1st, 2010
2:20 pm

Raqi – Yeah and again its ok for a woman to hide money but a dude is supposed to be honest and forth right about all his pennies.. Utter Nonsense..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 1st, 2010
2:22 pm

If I was Tiger.. Ya’ll would now see me jumping all the chicks I wanted to.. I wouldnt even hide it anymore. I would be out in the open with it.. Im known as a Fcuker so I’ll be one..

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
2:23 pm

Tiger is the first Billionare athlete and that is from salary of winnings not counting endorsements and everything else he has going on.

blue

July 1st, 2010
2:23 pm

so still on Tiger i see. i just figure hes probably wishing he never crashed that car in to the tree….

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
2:24 pm

When it is all said and done folks mix and mingle the way they want too.

@Proff??

dont ever ever believ the hype. It looks all sexxy and nice now when u look at Boris or Sade but when that union was done back then by their parents, it wasnt necessarily luv..it was a skewed union…one trying to come up,the other just experimenting coz a white girl happened to be inrigued….

If it were luv why u think Barack’s father went back home??

Those relationships are not what u guys see now….i dont buy it.

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
2:25 pm

Limelight, meant spotlight…thanks. He’ll be back.

@PR ~ that’s my point. He slipped, big time. He cannot dot his “i’s” and cross his “t’s” with the same vigor. Eyes will forever be on him and his behavior. He wasn’t watched closely before as he will be going forward. “…make the same mistake of letting his transgressions get out.” Again, my point, he didn’t let them out, he slipped and will slip again. His armour is shattered.

But, you do have a point, he will be single soon and can do whatever he likes. Nonetheless, to keep his sponsors, he is going to have to keep his true “nature” under wraps. He will mess up again. It’s inevitable, even if it takes another 14 years at which point I will find you and give you a forehead kiss saying “my Italian Studmuffin, you were right!”

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
2:26 pm

Ghana, Are you saying that there is no genuine love that brought any interracial couple together?

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
2:28 pm

People love their players. jack nicholsan, george clooney, frank sintra, elvis etc. Tiger won’t have a problem about his escapades moving forward. LOL

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
2:28 pm

Ghana, I think it is true love seal is hard on the eyes

@Proff?

so hard on the eyes I kinda feel obligated to apologize to his white girl for his African mis-representation!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 1st, 2010
2:29 pm

If it were luv why u think Barack’s father went back home??

He wanted to get back to his other wives. Who knows? Good point melo.

blue

July 1st, 2010
2:29 pm

PR – agreed, sure he still has plenty of groupies out there ready to jump on the bandwagon. he just needs the type of sponsors now that help clean these things up not drop the talent lol

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
2:29 pm

Leggs if you find me and give me a kiss on my forehead that means that you will have had to wrap those leggs around me to get that high up. And you are not just getting away with just giving me a kiss. YEAHHHHHHHHH!!!(Like LURKER)

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 1st, 2010
2:30 pm

so hard on the eyes I kinda feel obligated to apologize to his white girl for his African mis-representation!

well dang…lol :grin:

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
2:36 pm

OM Goodness, :lol: @PR! Again, you have a point because you are tall.

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
2:36 pm

Are you saying that there is no genuine love that brought any interracial couple together?

@Purple Rain??

untill I see a proliferation of Julia Roberts type white girls with Denzel Washington type black men…iam sticking to my theory! :lol: :lol: :lol:

(regular For Real type black dudes hooking with (2 xtimes waist) Rosie O’donnel type white chics will not advance the True luv theory very well)

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
2:39 pm

Everything is relative…if Flava Flav can get some love, anybody can!

blue

July 1st, 2010
2:40 pm

lol Leggs, he sure does draw the ladies doesnt he

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
2:40 pm

Leggs, true.

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
2:42 pm

@blue yes he does, along with {{since I’m the holder of the vests let’s put two on}} that roach looking dude, lil wayne (I apologize to all his fans in advance)!!!!

blue

July 1st, 2010
2:45 pm

falvor flav always has the dirty old man look. wayne, dont know what it is, that tatts? ive got my tatts too, but all over my face, i think not lol

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
2:45 pm

Any black chic that hooks up with a white man is a phluckking trifling gold digger whrre untill she proves otherwise!

With the passage of time!

Trevor0529

July 1st, 2010
2:45 pm

No need to apologize, Leggs. Lil wayne does look like a roach.
:lol:

I’m just sayin!!

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
2:47 pm

Haaaaa, haaaa, haaaaa, haaaaa, haaaaaa {{cough, cough}} haaaaa, haaaaa!!! (Trevor0529)

blue

July 1st, 2010
2:49 pm

wait, choking on my coke now, lmao trevor

Professor

July 1st, 2010
2:58 pm

(2 xtimes waist) Rosie O’donnel :grin:

Lil Wayne is sexxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxy

@Ghana don’t call her a f-ing, trifling, gold digging wh0re. Shoot I was thinking about looking for Ryan seacrest or somebody. j/k :grin:

white man's wife

July 1st, 2010
2:58 pm

ghana it seems to me you are saying that black men don’t even have ish to be dug so if a woman wants to have something she should go white. i guess i did the right thing.

SexyCool - Living on a cloud.

July 1st, 2010
2:59 pm

Trevor – as a first timer, I have no idea what to expect on Sunday. Do you mind filling me in a bit? Passing along any tips?

If you would prefer, you can email me at cscfromajc@yahoo.com to discuss offblog. (I don’t have a preference either way.)

Thanks.

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
3:02 pm

@Prof ~ a lot think he’s sexy. Sexy is in the eye of the beholder. Not only that, $$$ usally make most look sexy even when they’re not!

Trevor0529

July 1st, 2010
3:03 pm

@SexyC, first thing is have fun. Be in the moment. Enjoy the sights as you walk/run down Peachtree Street. Look ahead of you and watch the 55,000 people running. Just enjoy the race and the moment.

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
3:04 pm

black men don’t even have ish to be dug.. so if a woman wants to have something she should go white

@white man’s wife??

doint even have ish??..where did i put black men down?? or black women or white women or white men??

I int putting nobody down…..by the way..I am a black man too…??

I miss ur point!