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Relationship 101: Building trust

I have been thinking a lot about relationships lately.  We may think we want one (at least I do!) but we forget how much work is involved in building a good relationship that actually lasts beyond the “caught up in the haze of love” phase.

After the novelty of a new relationship wears off, the two of you are left with the business of finding out what makes one another tick.  You get to see your significant other deal with different situations  and circumstances, which in turn, reveals a lot about their character.

What surprises me most about being in a relationship is the amount of work it takes to get a guy to open up emotionally.  Sometimes it takes men a long time to trust, especially if he is unsure of how he feels about her.  Is that the case for women? I think it is.  I don’t fully disclose everything to men I date casually.  It takes me quite a while to connect and actually feel safe with a man.

When do you feel as if you can trust someone that you are dating?  At what point do you think they can handle the heavy stuff?

Is there a way for a woman to build trust with a man so that he knows she is reliable and trustworthy?  Can men do things to prove to women that they can be trusted?

Is there

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blue

July 1st, 2010
1:13 pm

alright, this panini is not gonna cut it for lunch….bbl

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
1:14 pm

How many people think that their bloodline is pure with just their race?

I dont think..

I lknow!

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:15 pm

This solution causes more of the same problem. Better find love where it’s real and not defined by color.

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
1:18 pm

both from poor fams so no money,

@Blue??

one of them was trying to come up..trust me….30 years…?? u think it was just courage and luv to switch to the other side back then when race was such a big issue??

have a heart to heart with the black parent,they will tell u.

Pleaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaase!!

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:18 pm

Ghana,I knew you would say something..lol I have read some of your comments about “African-American” women in relation to African Women. Not chirping on you bro, outside of sex which race of women would you date. Also I have a question, I know some white people form Africa. WOuld they be considered “Africa-AMerican” if they married another white person from Africa gained citizenship and birthed a child here in the states?

Lucinda

July 1st, 2010
1:19 pm

Why are Americans so obsessed with issues of race? It’s tiresome.

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:19 pm

blue, sorry Melo says that your parents were not in love. LOL

Professor

July 1st, 2010
1:19 pm

Ghana,

Women marry for paper let’s just be real about it. Anna Nicole Smith (Bless the dead) married that old man (bless him too) for the mighty $$$.

Now, it is time for all the men with real paper to say hello and list their worth, assests and holdings so we can acknowledge you. :grin:

Melo list your cows too!

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 1st, 2010
1:20 pm

This solution causes more of the same problem. Better find love where it’s real and not defined by color.
@Purple you are dropping some golden nuggets today……. You best believe that is what life is all about! YEAAAAAAAAA

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:22 pm

Professor, you are funny. LOL

There are plenty of people within the same race who are just trying to come up for the riches. They are groupies of every race at concerts, clubs and sporting venues.

Kym--Elin Woods is the Winner!!

July 1st, 2010
1:25 pm

Melo..not everyone comes from a family that welcomes imbreeding..joker!

I mean seriously I think if Tiger was going to cheat..he would cheat no matter the race of the woman he married. As for the Who? What? Where? When? That didn’t work for Juanita Jordan, Shaq’s wife(who’s name I forget) nor Eddie Murphy’s wife(who’s name I also forget) BB King has 16 kids..and two wives..not all 16 are split between them..again..Don’t make me bring up Ray Charles either..he was blind and cheating.. Come on now..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 1st, 2010
1:26 pm

So what he cheated.. That aint worth half his fortune.. 9 times out of 10 she knew about it anyway.. He cheated so that should cost him 750million. Boy thats funny cause I bet if Stedman was trying to get 750 from Oprah ya’ll would be hollering bloody murder.. Just caus you opened your funky lil legs and had a baby doesnt entitle you to my lifes earnings.. It just doesnt.. Ya’ll already know how I look at that situation.. It wrong on so many levels and the fact that women have been conditioned to think they are entitled to a dudes money like that cause he dont want you anymore is insane..

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:27 pm

LURKER, I am all philosophical sans weed. LOL

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
1:28 pm

@Raqi ~ that’s true. Some marry, but want the prestige and not the sex!

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:30 pm

Infamous, good points! And I know for a fact Oprah cheated on Stedman, I saw her on the Dave Chappelle show, Dave gor her pregnant, so he thought. But it ended up being Dr Phil’s baby. LOL

I wonder if people would be upset if Oprah had a white boyfriend, or the the fact that Condileeza Rice does.

Ladies, Italians are the best of both worlds, we are white but think we are black. LOL

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
1:32 pm

As Tiger himself has stated, his sense of “entitlement” help propel his sexual appetite. He was going to cheat no matter what, but if it wasn’t thrown at him so much he might have refrained from having affairs with “some” of those 14 bimbettes…Yeah right!

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:33 pm

Just a shade away from black, asian, indian or white, whatever you need me to be. LOL

Kym--Elin Woods is the Winner!!

July 1st, 2010
1:34 pm

@DK and Purple..alright guys what exactly would be a fair sum for Elin to recieve in this case.

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:34 pm

Leggs, women are throwing at men who are worth about $9/hr might as well throw it at someone who is worth multiple millions. Kudos to those h0es for not phlucking the dude on fries at McDonalds. LOL

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
1:35 pm

@PR
Not chirping on you bro, outside of sex which race of women would you date

black…..

I luv to see phine white skin on tele(Dianne sawyer,elizabeth vagas, Christina romans etc) but my wang aint accustomed to putting it down in white so its unconsionable for me to switch and date white) no hate just sticking to my lane :lol: :lol:

wld they be considered “Africa-AMerican” if they married another white person from Africa gained citizenship and birthed a child here in the states?

African american is not an African creation..it was coined by Jesse and them..so I wdnt know! To be real with u tho..very few whites from Africa are that secure in their skin to call themselves African. They may say they were born in zimbabwe/south africa but not call themselves african.
Its rare!

They only call themselves African (that) when they are facing reverse discrimination and the cameras are on and rolling!

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 1st, 2010
1:35 pm

@Purple…..Speaking of weed, did you get rid of your stash yet? If not I have found a home for it. YESS

@Professor….My assets are worth about $10,000,If we join my total of $10,000 to your $990,000 and that will give a MIL….. That would makes us a power couple….YESSS :lol:

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:36 pm

Kym, A plane ticket back to Switzerland or wherever she is from and child support. They should yank her citizenship and everything since she is divorcing him. LOL I need to ask Julia if I can try and date Elin so that I can bring some of that 750mil back to our household. LOL

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
1:38 pm

not everyone comes from a family that welcomes imbreeding..joker
@Kym?

most families dont

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:41 pm

LURKER, (points at my eyes then your eyes) LOL as an attempt to not conduct a transaction on the internet because I am sure that will bring unwanted attention. LOL

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:42 pm

And you all think Kym named “Purple” Rain because of Prince. LOL

Raqi

July 1st, 2010
1:43 pm

Kym, I agree. Who a person is with has no bearing on them cheating. If they are a cheat they are a cheat and will do so whichever way they can. Women and men of all races have been cheated on and men and women of all races have cheated. No one particular race have that “stop cheater” power.

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
1:43 pm

Yank her citizenship. Get a grip. I believe she was a citizen before marrying him. She’s entitled to much more than child support for putting up with his trifling behind. Hell, sometimes you get more money in punitive damages than you do for the actual crime against you!!

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:46 pm

Nope, just take care of his kids.

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 1st, 2010
1:46 pm

@Ghana and Kym I agree about the imbreeding.

I have a question for blue, but I will pass.

@Purple, how are things with your brother and the black lady next door?

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:46 pm

And why is she not facing any charges for attacking him with a Golf Club?

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
1:47 pm

Because he chose not to file any charges against her!!!

Kym--Elin Woods is the Winner!!

July 1st, 2010
1:49 pm

@PurpleRain..he wants to be near his children..per the reports from “The Sun” Elin can’t take the kids to Sweden..they have joint legal custody so Tiger has say so in his kids lives and Elin has physical custody. Child support is fine..but that’s it..no spouse support?

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 1st, 2010
1:49 pm

@LURKER LOL I wish I could find this 990K you speak of, but send me your 10K via pay pal while I look for my part. YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH :grin:

MR LURKER where did you go on vacation a while back? Did you go to South Africa and watch the world cup?

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:49 pm

Professor, they keep in touch is all I know. Julia knows more about that than me, they are associates now and Arturo is coming here for the 4th instead of Boca. Maybe there is a love connection.

Kym--Elin Woods is the Winner!!

July 1st, 2010
1:50 pm

Ya’ll know she chased him with that golf club..LMAO!!

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:50 pm

Kym, some other rich guy will wife her. LOL

Raqi

July 1st, 2010
1:51 pm

Infamous, why shouldn’t she get half? Aren’t you the same one that made the statement about once married all incoming monies and royalties become “ours”?

Remember back to when I asked you if you thought it wrong for a woman to save money in a separate private account given to her by her husband for her spending pleasure. You said a woman does not have that right to not tell her husband about that account because it all communal property within the marriage. If what you said then is true, Elin deserves half because as Tiger’s wife it’s “their” money and not “his” money.

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 1st, 2010
1:52 pm

Leggs the state should have picked up the case against her and those gold clubs. I’ve seen them pick up cases on every other person. I say arrest that clown too and take his crazy tail behind her for giving false information.

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:54 pm

I’m with Professor, lock them all up. Tiger may be a h0E but he is not physically abusive like his wife.

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 1st, 2010
1:54 pm

Carlito get an update and let me know on Tuesday. I am just nosey like that :grin:

Raqi

July 1st, 2010
1:55 pm

Kym, she was probably just fed up. I guarantee you he had been warned. LOL

Kym--Elin Woods is the Winner!!

July 1st, 2010
1:56 pm

@Purple Rain I am sure her next hubby will be from Sweden or Africa..maybe France.

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 1st, 2010
1:57 pm

Carlito I just feel that the law should be applied fair and consistent. Both of those clowns should have gone to jail, and let the judge and DA figure the rest out. I know this sounds harsh, but call DFACS for the kids that is how they do it any other time.

Tiger is going to mess up again…just watch. He is an OJ in a different form.

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
1:59 pm

Professor, I just sent him a text he sent me one back asking “Why?”. So knowing my brother something is going on usually he would just talk about a woman. When he gets protective he likes them. LOL

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 1st, 2010
1:59 pm

@Kym that heifer is not going to marry again. She is going to let one of her good friends nannies take care of the children and she is going to sail in Nice with some rich man on a yachet. They are going to shack, hump and get down while spending a little of the Tiger woods dough

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 1st, 2010
2:01 pm

Purple well I hope he is happy. Thanks for checking on it for me…I am too nosey I know.

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
2:01 pm

her next hubby will be from Sweden or Africa
@Kym??

Africa??

if its me and i make her my second wife, u know it aint about luv nor her cootie coz as u know, Tiger said her cootie aint that good nor worth it (not in as many words but as many whrres) so it will be coz of that 750 mil$$.

which again proves my earlier point….black on white is all about money Not Love!

Professor aka Dirty Diana

July 1st, 2010
2:02 pm

Melo,

Would you marry Elin?

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
2:02 pm

@Professor ~ I thought of the state taking up the case since Tiger didn’t, but knew they wouldn’t because it’s Tiger!!! Any other joe blow, they may have.

Leggs

July 1st, 2010
2:05 pm

“He is an OJ in a different form.”

You are absolutely correct. Can’t stay out of the limelight. Needs to hear his name, feeds on the accolades, and need to park his wang in somebody. He’s paying someone a lot of $$ to remain quiet. I know of no sex addict that quits like that. He’s sexing someone!