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Relationship 101: Building trust

I have been thinking a lot about relationships lately.  We may think we want one (at least I do!) but we forget how much work is involved in building a good relationship that actually lasts beyond the “caught up in the haze of love” phase.

After the novelty of a new relationship wears off, the two of you are left with the business of finding out what makes one another tick.  You get to see your significant other deal with different situations  and circumstances, which in turn, reveals a lot about their character.

What surprises me most about being in a relationship is the amount of work it takes to get a guy to open up emotionally.  Sometimes it takes men a long time to trust, especially if he is unsure of how he feels about her.  Is that the case for women? I think it is.  I don’t fully disclose everything to men I date casually.  It takes me quite a while to connect and actually feel safe with a man.

When do you feel as if you can trust someone that you are dating?  At what point do you think they can handle the heavy stuff?

Is there a way for a woman to build trust with a man so that he knows she is reliable and trustworthy?  Can men do things to prove to women that they can be trusted?

Is there

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GHANA

July 1st, 2010
11:25 am

@PR????

this is the time u shld really grow up…very soon, u going to find out if marriage was an accident or mistake for u or u really meant it.

Its good at least u have pple here advising u on it. Me?? I gave her a lashing one nite on our first prego, be4 i realized she wasnt herself when she did what she did. I had noone to advise me.

Its a small price to pay. I thoght u enjoyed it when u were on ur horse phluccking her??

That there is the result of that phluccking my friend! :lol:

Professor

July 1st, 2010
11:26 am

@Purple I thought when women crave they know what they want. :???: You know I don’t know just asking.

kimmie

July 1st, 2010
11:26 am

Purple – I’m sorry you’re dealing with all that, but your 11:20 is funny!

Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)

July 1st, 2010
11:26 am

we have great male lurkers and bloggers and maybe they will email WD more with topics.

I hope so….we’ve recycled more than a few topics here.

La Professoraaaaaa you dead wrong for Ms.Man…lol. For some reason Ms. Sophia(formerly of V103) comes to mind.

Professor

July 1st, 2010
11:27 am

Melo,

Did you tell her you were sorry for giving her that lashing?

blue

July 1st, 2010
11:28 am

once sent him to Jersey Mikes for a sandwich, sent him back because they put white american cheese on it instead of yellow. nevermind that i had horrible morning sickness and wouldnt be able to keep it down long anyway. he didnt complain, just went. he got his out of it tho, used me being “preggo crazy” to get free nachos w/fixins everytime we went to the movies. he’d just tell them “she’s pregnant man, you know how THEY can be, dont send me in there and the nachos aint right”. i swear he gained 10 lbs, all of it nacho cheese

Lady-Solid as a Rock

July 1st, 2010
11:29 am

LMBAO!!!! You know I love my Ms Men! LOL sure why not! LOL!

Kym--Elin Woods is the Winner!!

July 1st, 2010
11:30 am

Elin is just 30 so she can hop back out there and snag her another rich one..I don’t think Tiger will ever marry again(Lawd I hope not.) He got two kids one of each..go one golf your game..build your brand..screw a few..and drop off at IHOP and keep moving..Lesson learn..I don’t feel sorry for him..I just think he was push to hard to fast..maybe if he got to play a bit more..as a young guy..then maybe he would have picked better..I don’t know..

I wonder if I can get my son in as a Shaolin(sp) Monk..naww I am going to by some H-O- N-O M-O spray and see if that will keep them away.

abc

July 1st, 2010
11:32 am

Yeah, when my ex was in her 3rd trimester with my youngest she blew up at me and called me every name in the book. Selfish, lousy husband, bad father, on and on. In spite of my familiarity with the pregnant chick hormones roller coaster, and both of us knowing full well that the hurtful words were without any basis, it stuck with me. Our marriage sucked after that.

One more reason for me to be glad I’m a guy. It’s GOOD to be a guy! It would totally suck to be a woman, in my view.

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
11:33 am

Ghana, I won’t find out if marriage was a mistake it was not. I will find out if having a child is a mistake.

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
11:35 am

Did you tell her you were sorry for giving her that lashing?

@Proff??

Im not sure what I told her after that but u can be assured she got good wood to calm her nerves! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
11:36 am

So you all would agree to some Ms. Man addressing relationships with Wise Diva. That’s would suck even more for the men of the blog. We will really be out numbered then. I say “NO to the Homo”!!

Professor

July 1st, 2010
11:38 am

Not Ms. Sophia…LOL if we get a Ms. Man I want one that is classy and educated not some loud mouth Nelly type.

Kym--Elin Woods is the Winner!!

July 1st, 2010
11:41 am

@Professor..RuPaul maybe??LOL Okay I am in serious need of a Sundae.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 1st, 2010
11:43 am

Forget Elin and Oprah.. She dont deserve 750mill.. She aint swung no golf clubs. Tell me why she deserves 750 cause she laid on her back and had kids.. She doesnt need that much money to raise those kids. Its messed up some chicks think of their babies as pay checks.. Foul if you ask me.

Lady-Solid as a Rock

July 1st, 2010
11:43 am

Hello Carlito! :)

You would be surprised @ some ms men they are not all gay and can spin relationship stuff….I will stand on this william on girlfriends wasn’t gay. Ha!

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
11:44 am

if we get a Ms. Man??

@Proff

but what difference wld a Ms Man to WD..they wld be both females,the other, a female in a male body

We need WD “promoted” upstairs and a new fresh blog admin in her place. (I wldnt want her laid off in this ecnomy)

Lady-Solid as a Rock

July 1st, 2010
11:46 am

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 1st, 2010
11:46 am

What it do? What it do blog people? YESSS, YESSS

@SlimGina….After dating dude for 1yr and then giving him 3 days worth of that vast ocean/marshland you walking around and he still playing games. Worse you falling for that foolery.
You are in trouble!!!! Wake-up and smell What the ROCK is cooking. YEAHHH

@Lucinda….That was some heavy ish, I will have to get my act together fast….. YEAH :wink:

@WiseOne….How did you let DreamsM go to the Dirty Diana? YESSS

@Professor…..I am still working on my comedy routine, so you need to enlist Ghana he can work until I get my peeps at the state department to revoke his visa. YES keep it coming LURKER.

@Purple….You are too funny! First you were enjoying the freedom of flowing with-out protection, now you complaining. Do your duty as a husband and please dat bootey and whatever else is required.

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
11:48 am

Why did Tiger not get a pre nup anyway??

he is such a fool really to put himself in that situation….

How u gon promote a nanny like that??

some of these athletes are just so damn dumb it makes my bones hurt!

Lady-Solid as a Rock

July 1st, 2010
11:49 am

Ok I can’t see lol….going to play yall! Be easy crew! Bye

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

July 1st, 2010
11:50 am

Tiger Had a pre nup. Thats why shes not getting that money. Now the Dream didnt get a pre nup before he married Christina Milian… So he might be Bamboozled and run amuck..

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
11:52 am

Lurker, I try and stay positive but it’s wearing me thing today. LOL

Lady J, I dont care what anyone says. If a female term “Ms.” is associated with the title of a man, he is gay. Show me one non-gay guy who is fine with being called Ms Man and I will eat my words.

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
11:52 am

Thing means thin

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
11:56 am

Kym--Elin Woods is the Winner!!

July 1st, 2010
11:57 am

The money is hush money…period..Hush your mouth about what happen with the marriage the cheating all of it. She got shut the h up money. period. She says she is worried about his women and lifestyle affecting the children..which she knows that is not going to happen..a real dad maybe a hoochie catcher but he is not going to bring the hooch around his kids..but i digress.. I say 350 mill is divorce settlement..the other 400 is shut up!

lurker_1

July 1st, 2010
11:59 am

PR: This was my situation. Two days after my wife told me that she was pregnant, my company told me I was being transfered to ATL. We were living in Macon (about 90 mi south of ATL). I moved in with my brother in Ellenwood and she moved back to her mother’s house (Milledgeville). That’s where her job was located. So for the entire nine months, we only saw each other on the weekends. Man, it was great!! because we were so glad to see and be with each other. Almost like dating again. My mother-in-law caught all the hell that you are dealing with, not me. I was told how she would curse me, but I wasn’t around. Our daughter was born three weeks early and when my wife “water broke”, I had to drive all the way to Milledgeville (about 90 mi) and bring her to ATL where our daughter was born (Crawford Long). Twenty-five years later, some how, we are still standing and daughter is doing fine. However, we had been married four years before we embarked on that journey. MUCH LUCK TO YOU AND YOURS!!!

Jus sayin'

July 1st, 2010
11:59 am

What’s killing this blog? Replaying the music awards intricate detail by detail for hours and hours on end This is a relationship blog and people wanting to dish and read about relationships is what keep people coming back. Might be trashy but it works. Jus sayin’

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
12:00 pm

Christina Milian??

wasnt Miriah’s man boning that girl be4 Dream??

I dont understand dudes who crave chicks that were knowingly getting their cootie slayed my some other well known dude or a dude in ur hood circle.

I dont get that mentality.

If i have to slay “new” cootie,it gotta be “fresh” to me..the moment i know the previous tenant..my dycck just recoils! :lol:

I guess i am like Buster Ryhmes..cut from a different cloth! :lol: :lol:

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 1st, 2010
12:00 pm

Read my lips, Elin will not get 750 million. Tiger has a pre nup. Besides the court docs are sealed and no one knows exactly what she is getting. This is not public information, I am sure if some of her lawyers leak this information Tiger’s lawyer would eat them alive. YEAH Lawyers are good for something I think.

On another Note….Serena Williams bootey will give you more better blues bootey…..YESS

@Kimmie and Kym can you explain why you think Elin deserves half this man’s fortune? They just go married 5 years ago. CaucasionWood slinger had made a lot of his 1 plus billion already.

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
12:00 pm

Kym, do you think there are some dark secrets he has hidden? I mean why pay her hush money the whole world knows what he did.

Lady-Solid as a Rock

July 1st, 2010
12:01 pm

We need to talk when time permits PR after the holiday! That’s all lol!

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
12:02 pm

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
12:03 pm

lurker_1, Congrats on 25 years. :)

Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)

July 1st, 2010
12:10 pm

Tell me why she deserves 750 cause she laid on her back and had kids..

Because Cheetah stepped out……ALOT and sometimes WITHOUT PROTECTION and some of the chicks were doin porn so there’s no telling what he could’ve taken back to his wife and fam. :shock:

And as far as the prenup goes please let’s not forget that it was re-negotiated(at Cheetah’s behest) as soon as the main h** came out of the wood works. As a matter of fact if he can afford to give Uchitel 10 milli you best believe his soon to be ex-wife and mother of his children will come up something proper-like… Men you can cry and whine all you want but it is what it is and Elin IS the “750 milli woman”…

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
12:10 pm

Lady J, okay. LOL

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
12:13 pm

Tiger might as well “OJ” his wife, OJ got off and white people like Tier way more than OJ so he will probably get off as well. No risk no reward. LOL

There’s my horse. LOL

MusingLee "Woods"

July 1st, 2010
12:13 pm

If I were Tiger I’d give Elin 30 mill and that busted azz cadillac she made me wreck.

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
12:15 pm

If I were Tiger I would do her like Allen Iverson did his wife, kick her out with what she came with…nothing. Leave her naked outside the front door. LOL

Giddyup

GHANA

July 1st, 2010
12:16 pm

Tiger might as well “OJ” his wife,

:lol: :lol:

SlimOne

July 1st, 2010
12:17 pm

‘After dating dude for 1yr and then giving him 3 days worth of that vast ocean/marshland’

LURKER – Um….3 days worth of marshland??? Whatchutombout willis?

Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)

July 1st, 2010
12:17 pm

blue

July 1st, 2010
12:17 pm

ok i think it was Katt Williams (maybe?) who was talking about prenups, said basically, if u aint had ish when i met you, y i got to give you half my ish when u leave? i need a prenup that says your ish cant mess with my ish

Professor

July 1st, 2010
12:18 pm

@Kym actually my first choice is a strong, educated man that is willing to bring some life to this dry place. However we had some women talking about a man that is sensitive so I said Ms. Man is an option.

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

July 1st, 2010
12:18 pm

@Sassy….Rumors can’t believe everything you read. Unless someone pulls a bank statement from Tiger’s account. Rachel may have gotten 1 or 2 mil. Elin is not getting $750 mil this is not public information. I guess you are going by what the Enquirer writes, yea that is a credible news source. YEAHHH :wink:

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
12:19 pm

mqew

July 1st, 2010
12:21 pm

PRain- Dude let me punch you in your chest at least twice a day for the next 4 months so you can get use to it. Its going to get worse before it gets better… Please believe. You aint seen shyt yet! Ken has went to walmart Mcdonalds Wendys and Taco Bell in one evening.

Just wait till she’s uncomfortable 24/7 and aint a damn thing you or her can do about it. You have a long 10 months to go! So stop complaining! Its to early for that!!!!

It was a bad time to quit though… It could have helped, A LOT :lol: :lol:

Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)

July 1st, 2010
12:22 pm

Lurker actually that came from a credible source I.E Gloria Allred….YEAHH. Eat a fat d***…..YEAHHHHHHHH! :lol: ;)

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
12:23 pm

mqew, I am just going to volunteer to travel with work more. :) LOL

Purple Rain

July 1st, 2010
12:24 pm