If you aren’t familiar with Zappos.com’s  CEO, Tony Hsieh, congratulations, you probably don’t have a shoe buying problem!  I have been a fan of the company since it’s inception but it wasn’t until I saw Mr. Hseih’s interview on The Oprah Winfrey Show that I started to learn more about his story.

In his book, Delivering Happiness: A Path to Profits, Passion, and Purpose, Hseish pens a great book detailing how and he got to where he is today.  It’s not a blueprint for becoming a millionaire, it’s more of him sharing the business lessons he has learned threw life. It’s an inside peek into the sometimes terrifying steps in opening your own company and maintaining your sanity.

I am usually not comfortable with pulling business theories and applying it to love and relationships but sometimes, there really are concepts that lends itself to the same themes that could be helpful.  For example, one chapter says, “For individuals, character is destiny. For organizations, culture is …

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A reader sent me an article from the popular blog Naked With Socks On yesterday. (How great is that blog name?) The question of the day centered around the ongoing debate about blue collar and white collar was “Who has more sex appeal?”  This kind of debate seems to brings out an interesting mix of classism to me.

I think a lot of people in Atlanta get hung up on the image of wealth and class.  Many single people believe that if you are in a certain job or industry, you are automatically a classy or sophisticated person.  I found that not to be the case.  I have personally met a cross section of great people from all backgrounds.  There are upper class jerks and middle class knuckleheads.  There are also great people with money and great people who are trying to make money.  What does it all have to do with sex appeal?

What do you guys think? Is there a battle of the white collars vs. blue collars in Atlanta?  Do you ever consider yourself to be one or the other?

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My male friends tell me they think men are way more equipped at spotting a great woman then women are at determining when a guy is a real keeper.   I don’t argue with them on it because heaven knows I sure can pick em’, if you know what I’m saying.

It’s possible they can see the qualities that a woman has that could make her a great match, good mother, and support system for him.  I believe it’s the little signs that probably point to the fact she  is either self-absorbed and selfish or kind and nurturing.

Keep in mind that women won’t go around nurturing and supporting random men all willy nilly. This is why when you meet and date someone new, it’s good to observe how they treat people.

So fellas, help us out and clue us in.  How did you acquire all these wonderful skills of  picking good women? Does it come naturally? Are you innately designed to see through the smoke and mirrors that some women have?

Ladies, do you think you can spot a keeper when you see one?  I’m …

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First things first, I want to say hello to Bert Weiss from Q100’s The Bert Show! Hi Bert! We were both at the The Gold Room last night for JEZEBEL’s Most Eligible Atlantans Party.  He spoke briefly about Bert’s Big Adventure and I made my way over to meet him and tell him about our blog. He said he would check the blog out. Cool! Ok my fangirl moment ends here.

I will have share more details (pictures, interviews etc.) next week but suffice it to say I had a lovely evening.  A lot of really cool things happened last night so I can’t wait to tell you all about it

I’m super excited to see Maxwell and Jill Scott perform this weekend. No way would I miss that event!  There is one song I hope Maxwell sings, Fistful of Tears. We gon’ fight the war, we gon’ fight our fears.  The song actually  reminds so much of when I was in a relationship but felt the most alone I’ve ever felt in my life.

I wasn’t a needy chick but there were moments when I needed to be held and …

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We all have our wish list of things we would like to see in a date.  We may not list them all on paper but there are unspoken things that we think about all the time.  When we meet someone who appears to have the majority of these qualities, we get excited.  Now the questions are: is that what you truly wanted?  Are you really into him or her or is it the image of them that gets your blood pumping?

I really think this is a common issue that plagues singles, including me.  It is so easy to get caught up in each others’ representative and outer shell because that is what we are projecting and revealing to people we meet and date.  A lot of men complain to me that their woman changed after they got in an exclusive relationship.  I think it is more about her feeling comfortable enough to show the real parts of her then changing to a different person.  Men do the same thing too.

When it is so easy to get caught up in image, how do you think our dating preferences hinder our …

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So I have a birthday coming up this month, which means I will probably go through a period of “woe is me” my life isn’t where I want it to be yet.  I always treat birthdays like some kind of weird deadline that I somehow missed.  As if I have gone an entire year accomplishing nothing.  I know it’s completely ridiculous, but in my head, that’s how I perceive it sometimes.

Thankfully I have wonderful friends and family that always make a big deal of my birthday.  Even when I try to avoid everyone and pretend the birthday isn’t happening. They don’t let me wallow in self-pity for long.

It sounds so silly, but I admit that being single (with no real prospects) on my birthday is far worse then rolling solo any other time of the year.  Believe it or not, I handle the holidays without lamenting about my singlehood. I relish in it, even; but when my birthday approaches I almost have to fight off a case of the birthday blues .

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One of the best parts of dating someone new is finding out more about them.  It’s really fun when you ask questions and get answers that please you and make you even more hopeful.  At the same time, it can also dash your hopes of going to the next level.

I’m the type that would rather know early if we have good potential or not so I tend to ask a lot of questions.  Not in the investigative journalist kind of way, though.  I just try to include questions in general discussions and pay attention to the response.

Once you get past their outer layer and stop marveling about how great they look, you can learn a lot about a person if you actually listen to them speak. This is why I think people become more attractive as we get more acquainted with them.

What do you think is the most attractive quality?  Other than their looks, what trait do you think really makes someone stand out?  How often do you meet someone with that quality?  Do you feel that you possess it?

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When you are fresh off of a break up, it seems that you suddenly meet a boatload of people that you feel drawn to.  It’s probably the void your ex left that is pushing you to fill it with the first hottie that gets your attention.  It’s hard to see this when you are going through it though.  This is just one of the risks involved in dating on the rebound.

When you meet someone new, we always say not to mention or bring up the ex, especially on a first date.  The problem is that if the ex isn’t completely out of their system…or the picture, you don’t know if they are truly ready to starting something meaningful with you.

If you have just ended a relationship, do you tell the new person in your life how recent the break up was?  Does it matter if the last relationship only ended days or weeks ago?

Have you ever been the rebound guy/girl for someone and it worked out great?

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I am excited about getting new voices on the Misadventures in Atlanta blog. Variety is the spice of life! I decided to recruit more people to be featured on our corner of AJC.COM so if you are interested in being part of the Sizzling Summer’s Love Squad blog panel let me know!

Today I asked KP from Chat Kafe (http://www.chatkafeonline.com, http://chatkafe.blogspot.com), a reader and occasional commenter on Misadventures in Atlanta blog to guest blog for me.  If you are not familiar with him, he is a relationship coach.  I know some of you are fans of his and others, not so much.  His perspective is refreshing to me.

Whatever you feel about him, I hope you will welcome him and be open to what he has to say.  We can always agree to disagree but it’s important to listen!

In 1986, Janet Jackson came out with a popular hit titled “Let’s Wait A While” that took the country by storm. The words of the hit song used to epitomize the approach that ‘quality’ women took when …

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Today, we have a wonderful writer buddy of mine who coordinates the singles’ event I attended last month.  She writes a column, Alone in Atlanta, which clearly makes her a prime candidate to share her misadventures in Atlanta with us! Please join me in welcoming Brittany!

Atlanta is a world all in its own. It has the potential to be a small world, running into people in places you least expected. And it has the potential to be a big world, never seeing people that only live stop lights away.

I’m also learning that Atlanta has the potential to be a strange world. I guess I’m a resident of the “strange world” because I am constantly greeted with the phrase “Hey Stranger”.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve dated guys and for one reason or another, they fall off the face of the earth. Weeks….months….even years go by and somehow they find me in the “strange world” and contact me using the official greeting people nation wide have agreed upon: Hey …

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