Rude boys: What did he just say?
I remember when that blasted pickup artist book came out giving otherwise nice men some crazy tips on how to talk to women. Part of the strategy was to insult her to get her attention. I’m sure this went over well with the ladies. I would really love to meet that Neil Strauss one day!
It’s been a long time since I’ve had a run in with a guy who was outright rude. I sometimes get the sense that some men really don’t know how to talk to women. They sometimes try too hard and turn people off. Maybe the rude approach works for some women, though?
Guys do you think that you have skills when it comes to having a conversation? Is the “rude game” actually effective?
Ladies have you ever been out and approached by someone who started out flirting with you and ended up making rude comments? From your experiences, do the men you meet in Atlanta have a good way of interacting with women? Is their approach on point or leave something to be desired? How do you like to be approached?
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Professor
June 30th, 2010
11:35 am
Tell her when she gets home, to write my name on a big envelope, then put every bill she has inside, place it by the door and let me know when it’s ready. Tell her she needs to do that every month. Let her know she’s too fine to be paying bills. That should get you a smile and an introduction.
Purple Rain
June 30th, 2010
11:35 am
mqew, 2 year old son died in the hot tub
kimmie
June 30th, 2010
11:37 am
Purple – allrecipes.com
Purple Rain
June 30th, 2010
11:38 am
Kimmie, thanks. I will use the same name that I do on here.
Kym-You Can't Have My _ _ _ _ _(Pause)
June 30th, 2010
11:38 am
@kimmie I just bought a new cookbook I saw on QVC. The Pioneer Woman’s cookbook.
mqew
June 30th, 2010
11:39 am
Kimmie – Try my fav salsa then…. well if you like avocados.
Avocado, black beans, super sweet corn, red bell pepp, jalopeno pepp or serrano, cilantro, grn or red onion with a touch of lime, honey, and cumin. Ridiculous with salmon!!!! Don’t like avocado, use the mango….
kimmie
June 30th, 2010
11:40 am
Kym – Do you like it? What kind of recipes are in it?
mqew
June 30th, 2010
11:41 am
PRain – WTH!!! I can’t even imagine…. the guilt they must feel…
czBrat
June 30th, 2010
11:41 am
Prince, where is ‘home’? (and p.s. please don’t call your baby “it”)
GHANA
June 30th, 2010
11:43 am
ummmmmm I’ve been married for……13yrs
@mqew! Congrats….
I was gon give u the congrats anyway..just wanted to make sure u have ur child support lined up str8,if u werent married.
I dint know u been taken 13 loooong years???
So its working for u right?
Professor
June 30th, 2010
11:43 am
http://msn.foxsports.com/nfl/story/ex-qb-cunninghams-son-drowns-in-hot-tub?GT1=39002
@mqew his two year old son drown
mqew
June 30th, 2010
11:44 am
Kimmie – that does indeed sound good. Try this salsa recipie one day:
Avocodo, black beans (rinsed), corn, red bell pepp, green or red onion, jalopeno or serrano pepp, cilantro, a little lime, honey, and cumin.
AMAZING on salmon and very refreshing just as a reg dip!
Purple Rain
June 30th, 2010
11:44 am
CanalZone, Saint Paul, Minnesota. What am I supposed to call it until we know what it is?
mqew, somehow the baby got back there and drowned.
Kym-You Can't Have My _ _ _ _ _(Pause)
June 30th, 2010
11:45 am
@kimmie it’s on the way. The author was featured on QVC..(yes I watch QVC..its only a problem when the boxes come everyday)..she calls herself an accidental country girl cause she was on her way to Cali for school..stop off in Oklahoma..met her hubby, a rancher and never left. She does the meat and potatoes stuff..here’s a link
http://www.amazon.com/Pioneer-Woman-Cooks-Recipes Accidental/dp/0061658197/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1277912633&sr=1-1
SexyCool - Living on a cloud.
June 30th, 2010
11:45 am
It’s coincidental that you all would be talking about online recipe sites today.
Just this morning, while watching GMA, I made the decision to get rid of this big A box of cooking books that I have because I never look in cookbooks for recipes anymore. I *always* look online.
Kym-You Can't Have My _ _ _ _ _(Pause)
June 30th, 2010
11:47 am
Okay I forgot how to set links..ugh…
Purple Rain
June 30th, 2010
11:47 am
SexyCool, you should choose a meal a week form the book. And use it. LOL
abc
June 30th, 2010
11:48 am
Is the topic inspired by Rihanna’s ‘Rude Boy’ single?
Her concert in Atlanta is about to be canceled due to lack of ticket sales. The tune itself is yet another fairly bland tribute to horny chicks. Gettin a bit old. She looks like a freak show to boot.
Rudeness is a dumb approach. If you think you have to resort to rudeness to get a reaction from a chick, chances are she’s the wrong chick to approach, anyway.
mqew
June 30th, 2010
11:48 am
Ghana – Met him Dec 95′; love at first sight
Well for me at least. He claims he just loved the way I treated him and didn’t really SEE me until later… when I took my braids out and he saw me in my undies without the heavy winter gear 
blue
June 30th, 2010
11:51 am
used to let my midgets listen to her, back 4 “umbrella” and the like. but an 8 yr old girl walkin around singing “come on rude boy”, i almost fell over. hadnt heard the song yet myself and the little know it bakcwards and forwards. decided time to keep her away from the midgets, just a bit too adult for me.
SexyCool - Living on a cloud.
June 30th, 2010
11:51 am
Hey, OnAHorseDude, I have about 20 cookbooks. If I did that, I would be about halfway through all of them by the time Jesus comes or calls.
Trevor0529
June 30th, 2010
11:51 am
Her concert in Atlanta is about to be canceled due to lack of ticket sales.
Maybe its just me, I think Rihanna needs counseling. I know its has been a year since her incident with Chris Brown but something does not look right with her. I’m sure this subject has been beaten to death here in Blogsville (no pun intended)
j-mike
June 30th, 2010
11:51 am
Neil Strauss’s book, The Game, is actually a good read. what he is referring to is called a “neg”- neither an insult nor a compliment. attractive women hear the same stuff all the time. what this does it puts them in their place. it takes attention away from them, which they so desire.
mqew
June 30th, 2010
11:52 am
Professor/PRain – I don’t care how it happened, I know that I would never be able to forgive myself for that one…. NOT NEVA!
Purple Rain
June 30th, 2010
11:52 am
SexyCool, what types of cookbooks are they anything international?
j-mike
June 30th, 2010
11:53 am
an example could be like: nice nails, are they real or fake? or ” i like your skirt, i just saw three other women with the same one”.
M. (pronouced M dot)
June 30th, 2010
11:55 am
@Dushawn
“The key is to get them to listen, and then say something relevant”
I think you got it all wrong. You are supposed to be doing the listening and let her do the talking. That makes her seem interesting and you interested in her. Not running your mouth and telling your business.
Purple Rain
June 30th, 2010
11:55 am
Trevor, she probably needs another beating to knock the sense back into her that Chris Brown knocked out. What do you tell a woman with two black eyes? Nothing she hasn’t been told twice already.
Randyt (is it Friday yet?)
June 30th, 2010
11:55 am
@ Sexy Cool I saw that same segment of GMA…felt guilty and ready to rent a dumpster and toss it all. I have so much crap, too many clothes, etc. Funny, but the “freest” I ever felt was when I didn’t have anything after my divorce (furniture, money, even a real mattress for over a year). Now I have three of everything, and more clothes than Imelda Marcos had shoes. Goodwill is going to have to make some room this weekend. I need the room and the writeoff.
Professor
June 30th, 2010
11:56 am
Mqew~ I would never forgive myself either, and I don’t think I could live in that house. I would have to move.
This story tripped me out too
http://network.yardbarker.com/nfl/article_external/Ex_NFLer_On_Boyfriend_Accuser_I_Still_Love_Him/2814824
SexyCool - Living on a cloud.
June 30th, 2010
11:56 am
PR – I will have to look. Send an email to my addy and I will let you know in the next couple of days or so.
Purple Rain
June 30th, 2010
11:56 am
I’M ON A HORSE
My previous blog entry should get things jumping. LOL
blue, that is how you ride your horse around this territory
j-mike
June 30th, 2010
11:56 am
good point M.- it’s also like making statements, rather than asking her open-ended questions. me personally, i go with the cocky/funny approach.
Purple Rain
June 30th, 2010
11:57 am
SexyCool, Okay.
kimmie
June 30th, 2010
11:58 am
Kym – I just went on her website – the recipes read very good and the pictures of the food look great too! Will definitely be trying some of her stuff out! Thanx!
SCool – I look online a lot for recipes too, but I can’t bring myself to give up my collection of cookbooks! I do need to organize and file the recipe cutouts that I have a ton of!
SexyCool - Living on a cloud.
June 30th, 2010
11:59 am
Tell me about it, Randy. I felt the exact same way when I sold my house and downgraded to an attic apartment. Hell, I even felt like I had lost weight.
Now I try to only buy things that I need, things that need replacing or upgrading and then when I do buy something, I toss something in the trash or put it in the Goodwill bag.
I hate having too much stuff.
Lady-Wednesday Lover
June 30th, 2010
12:00 pm
Trev I think both could use therapy…….it was a traumatic event and recovery is ongoing……I think…..
mqew
June 30th, 2010
12:01 pm
Why do I lose my innanet connection when the home phone ring… that ain’t right
What I said was…
Ghana – Is it working? Fuch yea it is! It had better be… all the dang blasted work we put into this… and i mean WORK, hard work, labor work, this ain’t no game type of work! We decided a long time ago that there was not going to be an out…. we took divorce out the equation as an option!!
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 30th, 2010
12:01 pm
. but an 8 yr old girl walkin around singing “come on rude boy”, i almost fell over.
First I
but now 
at the visual….a parents’ 24/7.
Swissie are you still watching Wimbledon?…is the the year of the upset or what? Several top seeded players are OWT but it’s been nice watching the quality/caliber of play seen thus far.
Purple Rain
June 30th, 2010
12:01 pm
Chris Brown had to get therapy as terms of his probation. Rihanna just started wearing less clothes…lol
SexyCool - Living on a cloud.
June 30th, 2010
12:02 pm
kimmie – I have a few recipes that I use repeatedly.
I laminated them all and keep them in a drawer in my kitchen. (Although, I’m thinking of moving them to one of those pretty flowery photo boxes, especially since I already have one sitting on top of my cabinets as decoration.)
blue
June 30th, 2010
12:02 pm
lol PR. sounds like something hubbie would say. we got to talking about that mess with Rihanna an Chris, he says “i wouldnt hit her. i’ll just throw her, let the wall hit her..”
GHANA
June 30th, 2010
12:03 pm
hen I took my braids out and he saw me in my undies without the heavy winter gear
@mqew ??
WHAT??
u mean he had to wait for u to undress(undies?) to appreciate ur beauty and sexxiness….??
incidentally, i met mine in ‘95 too..february tho….in march/april..we were an item….
that cootie been good to me……..
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 30th, 2010
12:03 pm
parents’ *job* is 24/7.
Purple Rain
June 30th, 2010
12:04 pm
blue, I would not ever hit a woman, but if she pissed me off I would not stop something form hitting her. LOL
Professor
June 30th, 2010
12:05 pm
@Lady you came in through the back door LOL
blue
June 30th, 2010
12:05 pm
his reasoning exactly, lol. just reminded him that he aint the only one from nyc, so dont get any bright ideas, lol
kimmie
June 30th, 2010
12:05 pm
SCool – I had all my cake business recipes laminated. I’ve accumulated more, much more, since then. I also have a few other recipes that I use all the time. I really need to sift thru all of them & eliminate!
Randyt (is it Friday yet?)
June 30th, 2010
12:05 pm
Speaking of come on lines, I always liked the joke about the man in the suit on the corner.
A beautiful dime piece, dressed like something out of Cosmo came up to the corner. The man turned to her and said, “you are absolutely one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen. If I gave you $100,000 would you sleep with me”.
She looked at him and thought, he didn’t look that bad and $100,000 was a lot of money, so she said “yes, I will sleep with you for $100,000″.
The man looked at her and then said, “okay, then would you sleep with me for $25 then”.
The lady was furious, slapped him and said, “what do you think I am, a wh0re”.
He said, “we have already established that, we are just negotiaing the price now”.
i'm swiss
June 30th, 2010
12:08 pm
Sassy — I’m actually in the office today, so I’ll have to review the game tape on DVR tonight. Been following the scores from today’s matches, though. I had a feeling Fed was going to go down, though. Wouldn’t be surprised if Rafa did today, too…