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Rude boys: What did he just say?

I remember when that blasted pickup artist book came out giving otherwise nice men some crazy tips on how to talk to women.  Part of the strategy was to insult her to get her attention. I’m sure this went over well with the ladies. I would really love to meet that Neil Strauss one day!

It’s been a long time since I’ve had a run in with a guy who was outright rude.  I sometimes get the sense that some men really don’t know how to talk to women.  They sometimes try too hard and turn people off.  Maybe the rude approach works for some women, though?

Guys do you think that you have skills when it comes to having a conversation? Is the “rude game” actually effective?

Ladies have you ever been out and approached by someone who started out flirting with you and ended up making rude comments?   From your experiences, do the men you meet in Atlanta have a good way of interacting with women?  Is their approach on point or leave something to be desired? How do you like to be approached?

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Trevor0529

June 30th, 2010
8:34 am

Good Morning Blog Family,

I believe I have good conversation skills. It does not show sometimes because I am a reserved person. Honestly, I have not heard of the “rude game” and no it is not effective. If you can’t simply say “Hello. My name is…..” to start a conversation, then you have no game IMO.

Lady-Wednesday Lover

June 30th, 2010
8:42 am

Good Morning Trevor!!!!!

Good Morning Gang!!!! Have a great Hump Day!!!!! I am off to play in the city and enjoy a “ME” day!!!!! ;)

Peace!

Oh after the antics start of being rude and ugly keep it moving…ignorance is bliss and you can’t entertain foolishness from rude people period! Silence is golden!

Peace!

Kym-You Can't Have My _ _ _ _ _(Pause)

June 30th, 2010
8:43 am

Good Morning All,

Do the men you meet in Atlanta have a good way of interacting with women? Uhhh No. On point..no leave something to be desired..if it is not on point I don’t desire it. For example..the old gentleman I met at the Department Store. He was with his grandkid…who was hiding in the clothes, and pushing the bugging into displays…but i digress. Convo with Grandpa..

Grandpa: why did you pick the yellow polo

Kym: Me and my sister decided on this color for our Dad.

Grandpa: “What are you going to get your husband? (oh lord he is casting out his line)

Kym: No husband

Grandpa: What about your boyfriend?(Still fishing)

Kym: No boyfriend

Grandpa: Oh excuse me you baby daddy’s?(not only are you fishing but you have a ignorant way of doing it)

Kym: Never had one

Grandpa then proceeds to follow me out of the store..grandbaby bumping him in the back of the leg and foot the hold way and hands me his number written on the back of a store coupon.

Grandpa: Call me sometimes..
Kym: Huh?
If you want to get my attention..keep it natural..no pickup lines..or fishing expeditions. How about just coming up to me and saying hello pay me a compliment and for goodness sake introduce yourself. Also please…please..please..speak clearly…What worked for Sha-Sha’s booty(Pause) will not work with me. And try to make your conversation some what relevant.

Purple Rain

June 30th, 2010
8:43 am

Never heard of the “rude game”, I have no idea if it works or not.

blue

June 30th, 2010
8:50 am

GM – be rude to pick up women, is that their attempt at reverse psychology?

AmazonRed™ - Queen of the zingers

June 30th, 2010
8:51 am

Ah…the rude game. If a guy plays it with me, I hope he doesn’t bruise easily when his azz gets rudeness right back! :D

Morning all.

LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)

June 30th, 2010
8:51 am

Morning Wood Wednsday to all the women of the MIA blog! YEAH :wink:

I am the LURKER I have mad conversation skillz. I don’t believe in making a rude comments just because I do not achieve my goal with a woman I tried to have a conversation with…I have to go on to the next one…YESSSSS.

The ATL is the land of plenty and big bootey, so why even get upset and make rude comments just because she did not want to talk to you. YES :wink: :smile: :wink: NEXT

Purple Rain

June 30th, 2010
8:52 am

Rihanna likes Rude Boys

Purple Rain

June 30th, 2010
8:54 am

Hello, how are you. I think your hair is ugly, teeth are yellow and your body has a foul odor. I was wondering if I could have your number so that we may continue this conversation over dinner.

blue

June 30th, 2010
8:55 am

that just seems an insult to a womans intelligence, am i really not supposed to notice that you just insulted me while trying to find out if im single?

blue

June 30th, 2010
8:56 am

morning PR, brought my pygmy pony, lol

Purple Rain

June 30th, 2010
8:57 am

blue, we shall accept you and your pygmy pony into the fold of the Four Horsemen :) Do us Well! LOL

Purple Rain

June 30th, 2010
8:59 am

Had a thought, what about women who are Rude to good men first then open up and are nicer later. Don’t act like this does not happen. LOL

Kym-You Can't Have My _ _ _ _ _(Pause)

June 30th, 2010
8:59 am

@Purple Rain and blue..apparently if it is working then guys will keep doing it. Not sure why or how its working but..hey if you aim low…you bond to hit bottom(Pause).

Kym-You Can't Have My _ _ _ _ _(Pause)

June 30th, 2010
9:00 am

not bond..bound. Lord..where is my Coca-cola?

Purple Rain

June 30th, 2010
9:03 am

Kym, by your tagline and (Pause) I see that you watched the show. LOL

“Hello, Chris Hanson…I know who you are and what you do. I did not come here for a childs booty I came here for your booty!”

Okay, maybe it’s to early to get off topic on the blog. But like the new Alicia Keys song “I’m Ready” LOL

Professor

June 30th, 2010
9:04 am

Hola!

Hmmmmm that rude boy mess is so tired, and it tells me the man does not have any social skills. IMO walk up to the lady, give her a compliment (after all something caught your eye) and let the conversation flow from there. All of that insulting mess just lets me know you are Ike Turner’s nephew. However, this is not the ring of fire to step in.

I hope the blog stay positive today, and on a positive note I have met some good, well mannered, funny, intelligent, sexy, fine, loving, caring, beautiful inside and out brothers Kings in Atlanta. I’ve had dudes ask to pump my gas, help with packages, run 10 steps or more just to grab the door, offer to change a flat tire, and when the dude in the mall selling DVD’s got out of hand about five of them looked at him and looked at me and asked if they could help str8-en him. :shock: So all in all I will not let a few rude boys cloud the good Kings out there.

Professor

June 30th, 2010
9:06 am

Carlito~ I like that song too, but I am so not into Ms. Swizz Keys right now.

blue

June 30th, 2010
9:06 am

Kym – amazingly true, it does seem to work, dont understand why women put up with that, if you cant speak to me intelligently what does that say about you, and what does that say of your opinion of me? seen friends fall for that mess, and i just shake my head
PR – 4 horsemen, not sure i can meet the standard. kind of vertically challenged, me and my pony…

Professor

June 30th, 2010
9:10 am

@DreamsM yesterday was crazy on my end, but I thought of something about how we “romance” the past :arrow: Shotgun weddings LOL

Professor

June 30th, 2010
9:10 am

@DreamsM yesterday was crazy on my end, but I thought of something about how we “romance” the past :arrow: Shotgun weddings LOL

Purple Rain

June 30th, 2010
9:10 am

Professor, that whole situation is weird. I use to think she was an upstanding wonderful role model for young women until she went and got pregnant from a married man. I don’t know all of the details but that is what I see looking in.

blue, I hope you and your pony can keep up. LOL

Professor

June 30th, 2010
9:15 am

@Carlito I totally agree. I don’t care how bad a marriage is you don’t let a married man knock you up. My parents raised me not to sleep with or date married men. I’ve seen married people that would not divorce each other and just started over with other people…that is crazy to me because I believe in ending things right.

Kym-You Can't Have My _ _ _ _ _(Pause)

June 30th, 2010
9:17 am

@Purple Rain..I did watch it and I cracked up!! But I guess we can wait until afternoon and the other Boondock fans show up.

blue

June 30th, 2010
9:20 am

seems to me that rude boy attitude works on certain women only, and for the most part are their counterparts, the rude girl. he talks about how stuck up she is, can i have your number, she says i know you aint talking to me looking like that, call me

will try PR, wearing heels today, feeling tall, woohoo lol

Trevor0529

June 30th, 2010
9:24 am

I am behind watching two episodes of Boondocks. I need to catch up.

“I don’t give to nobody, I just pay the cost to do business.” – Riley Freeman

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

June 30th, 2010
9:30 am

Look here B!tch give me the digits or else.. I dont see how that works but anywho..

Getting at a woman is just like talking to a friend you havent met yet.. Just say “Hey” or whatever it is you say to a babe. If eveything is cool then the convo will go where it needs to go..

Purple Rain

June 30th, 2010
9:30 am

blue, well you and I are the only horsemen in the Four Horsemen. :)

Trevor, Good morning. You really need to catch up on the Boondocks. LOL

blue

June 30th, 2010
9:32 am

ooh, i love exclusivity, lol. so then i guess we would be recruiting for the other 2 then….

have only seen one episode of the new boondocks, ive beenmissing it, bummer. hear they ripped on tyler perry this season and now rumor is perry is sueing mcgruder. take a hiatus from the show and come back with controversy, alrightee then

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

June 30th, 2010
9:35 am

Now I will say all that mushy youre beautiful nonsense is a bit much.. I do believe that being a sap will get you pushed out the way for the dude that is carrying himself in a more Alpha male manner.. I look at it like this.. We wanna date each other I dont just wanna date you.. My Johnson is just as important as your Lil Mermaid..

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

June 30th, 2010
9:36 am

Boondocks killed Tyler Perry… Absolutely killed him. And they mustve had some truth in it because he fired his whole staff.

Purple Rain

June 30th, 2010
9:39 am

Infamous, I agree with everything you said…except calling it a “Lil Mermaid” LOL

Kym-You Can't Have My _ _ _ _ _(Pause)

June 30th, 2010
9:39 am

@DK are you serious TP fired his whole staff after the Boondocks episode..aww he is tripping.

RIHANNA

June 30th, 2010
9:40 am

When you sweat yourself, you find yourself by yourself!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e82VE8UtW8A

blue

June 30th, 2010
9:40 am

ouch, gotta see that one. have only seen the one with Tom joining the support group and then going jail with the at risk kids to prove he’s over his fear, too hilarious, are men really that paranoid?

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

June 30th, 2010
9:42 am

Purp – Lil Mermaid sums up the lady parts.. Think about it.. Oh and you can borrow that once you get it.. I’ll start you off.. Wet..

Kym-You Can't Have My _ _ _ _ _(Pause)

June 30th, 2010
9:43 am

Also how he gonna sue..the guy on the show was Winston Jerome….Not TP..also..no references were made even to TP..See just soft..all soft..its satire..humor..dark comedy…pull your manties up(Pause)

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

June 30th, 2010
9:45 am

Dig That

June 30th, 2010
9:47 am

Rude works in certain settings. And it is no so much as rude as it a path not yet taken. Normally tho it works on the girls that Hi How are you my name is…never works on. Know your surroundings and element and spit how you spit. It is very effective for some strange reason on the broad that every other tried to be nice too and got laughed at and didn’t have a chance on getting the draws.

Dig That

June 30th, 2010
9:48 am

@Kym- I heard that too. Fired his entire staff and is suing. Must be some truth. A nerve got struck. Wait a minute, that means he is hiring.

Trevor0529

June 30th, 2010
9:49 am

Kym, I guess since it was implied that it was Tyler Perry is why he is suing.

Boondocks is supposed to be edgy, dark humor. I have to agree with though. TP needs to man up. Its just jokes.

Mike P

June 30th, 2010
9:51 am

I’m sad to report that the rude play works much better then being nice… nice will get you friends, it doesn’t get you the girls. idk maybe it has something to do with the person’s overall personality. Being rude doesn’t mean putting down the girl or belittling her. tho, JMHO.

i'm swiss

June 30th, 2010
9:51 am

“Lil Mermaid sums up the lady parts.. Think about it.. Oh and you can borrow that once you get it.. I’ll start you off.. Wet..”

Ummmm…. … Scaly, & smells like fish??? :lol: :lol: :lol:

blue

June 30th, 2010
9:53 am

side not, maybe anyway, when did it become ok to walk up to a woman, dressed for the office,not wearing club clothes or rollers in her hair, talking about “eh shawty, let me holler at you for a minute”? im not a shawty, dont wanna b hollered at, intelligent english please

Purple Rain

June 30th, 2010
9:55 am

Swiss, half woman half fish. LOL

Why is Tyler Perry suing him, they didn’t use his name. When The Boondocks, satired R.Kelly, they actually used R.Kelly’s name. LOL

blue

June 30th, 2010
9:55 am

Kym-You Can't Have My _ _ _ _ _(Pause)

June 30th, 2010
9:55 am

@DigThat..if he hiring you gonna have to give up the bootay…(Pause)..to get a job!!! LMAO!!!

Trevor..implied how..he is not the only black dude making plays..Kenny Leon has True Colors Theater….he needs to get over himself quick fast and in a hurry. Crying over Boondocks jokes…come on…

M. (pronouced M dot)

June 30th, 2010
9:56 am

Wednesday…

That rude approach is lame and PUA’s try to use psychology to talk to women rather than logic.

I think when I talk to women, I just talk to them, let the conversation flow, ask questions to make her seem interesting, ask questions to show her that I am interested, be inquisitive, but also not to talkative or nosey.

There are rude girls also. A lot of them have this fake diva attitude, celebrity wannabe mentality. Its really corny and ladies cut that garbage out.

I went out with a woman once who just moved to Atlanta and who had just got out a relationship and it was horrible! She seemed cool over the phone but was a rude jerk in person. First she was super bitter and not ready to be back in the dating scene. She had a negative attitude the entire date which didn’t last past appetizers.

She said all guys are cheaters, she hates guys in Atlanta because they are all on the down low and she even said, “who knows, you may be on the down low”. I checked her quick. How are you going to talk slick and make judgments on someone you just met? Who are you?

That was our first and only date out and which is why I stand by my theory that every woman doesn’t deserve dinner on the first date. Some women are starbucks women, panara bread women, or maybe just a walk in the park lol…

GHANA

June 30th, 2010
9:58 am

Morning!

Whats rude to some women may not be rude to others..e.g….

Hey shawty!! ..thats rude to some sophisticates and non ghetto types…..

What sets off an angry woman may just be something very innocuos and innocent,esp if u try to infuse some humour to set it off.

How are you doing??…… may just be ur best bet at starting that convo altho it wont set u apart and certainly wont make her remember you coz its just blah.
But if she reallly strikes u as somebody with an amazing silhoutte and u dont wanna pursue her anyway..just tell..”daaaamn, u got some amazing real estate there on ur behind” :lol: maybe rude but at least there was a compliment in there as well!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Raqi

June 30th, 2010
10:00 am

Some men are just rude by nature. Some I have found view women as subordinates in their rudeness.

There were these two guys that are associates of my husband that came to dinner one evening. One of them was extremely rude and I could tell he viewed women as low grade. My husband had to quickly intervene before I ripped that jerk a new one.

So while some may feel that being the “bad or rude” boy will get the girl, some guys are just rude.

Like some women are just wicked.