Dating: What have you learned
It’s great to be alive and well to see another birthday today! When I was younger I remember being in such a hurry to grow up and brag about my age. Now I pretty much dread it and try to avoid acknowledging how close to 40 I am getting *cough*.
I once wrote about what I would forewarn myself about if I had a moment to speak with my “younger self”. When thinking of everything I learned in my 20s about dating, sex, and relationships, what could I say? If you take all the pain and heartache away from our experiences, we probably would not be the same people. What would you say to your younger self?
You know they say that we are the sum of all our experiences. I suppose that is true in many ways, but what lessons can we take from it all?
I have been writing here for 5 years and I have learned a great deal about love, relationships, and men from the dialogue we have here! What have you learned?
Happy Monday & Happy Birthday to Moi!
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i'm swiss
June 28th, 2010
1:39 pm
Granted, a lot of folks looked gay in the 80s, but that was a bridge too far…
Leggs
June 28th, 2010
1:40 pm
@GHANA ~ knew it was watermelon before getting to the end. It sounded just like watermelon and nothing else (LOL).
Thanks, I will delete the after party as soon as I get home and not even watch it. Wasn’t sure what it was going to be like so I taped it. Should have known.
i'm swiss
June 28th, 2010
1:41 pm
PR — Doogie plays straight so well. Love the Harold & Kumar appearances. Doogie snorting blow off a hooker’s azz while cruising by in a stolen car: priceless.
AmazonRed™ - Good times
June 28th, 2010
1:42 pm
Leggs – Only watch the afterparty if you like watching trainwrecks. Like seriously, some of those fools had to be drunk. And I can’t believe Academy Awards nominess like Taraji P Henson were acting so…common….:lol:
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
1:43 pm
Swiss, in the Harold & Kumar movies did you see when he got kicked out of the wh0re house for branding one of them. LOL
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
1:44 pm
AmazonRed, wasn’t she nominated for a movie about a pimp? LOL
AmazonRed™ - Good times
June 28th, 2010
1:46 pm
LOL. No she was nominated for Benjamin Button.
Queen Latifah was nominated in Chicago too…she was acting like she was about to take her shoes and hair off.
Professor
June 28th, 2010
1:47 pm
Who are you and why are you on here acting like we work for you.
Either get on board with what’s going on or get off.
@ARed that is a good one!
i'm swiss
June 28th, 2010
1:47 pm
Purple — Yeah, I’ve got them both on DVD… Those are my kind of movies: stupid & juvenile…
I especially love the scene with W in the 2nd one:
“Do you like givin’ hand jobs?”
“Hell no!”
“Do you like gettin’ hand jobs?”
“Yeeeeah!”
“See there, who’s the hypocriticizer now?”
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 28th, 2010
1:47 pm
Either get on board with what’s going on or get off
Okay-kay-kay?! You tell ‘em AmRed…it’s a blog geesh.
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
1:48 pm
Oh, I thought she may have been nominated for Hustle and Flow. I thought that movie won some kind of award. LOL
i'm swiss
June 28th, 2010
1:48 pm
Wimbledon update: Roddick’s about to go down…
AmazonRed™ - Good times
June 28th, 2010
1:49 pm
@ARed that is a good one!
Heyyy…Professor is back.
I loved how it asked who YOU were like it was owed an explanation or even revealed who it was!
Professor aka Dirty Diana
June 28th, 2010
1:50 pm
@DreamsM,
Phantom of the Opera has been around and is common knowledge. These rappers need to tell me more than that.
GHANA
June 28th, 2010
1:50 pm
I know Kerri Hilson is tall..but that dress and the leggs…it didnt sit very well with me. even tho i like tall..i wldnt approach her based on that look.
do they all have to wear mini skirts at all..??
do some of these folks have pple who dress them or they all cant afford that??
Dan - simply...
June 28th, 2010
1:50 pm
@Dreams
Kayne is the one that took the hits for the young cats to be smart and successful.
Yeah, you have Mos, Talib, even the God himself, but few (since Ra) would dare to go out like that.
And you’re right about Jeezy more than you know….
i'm swiss
June 28th, 2010
1:51 pm
The “bottomless party” scene is pretty funny, too. That’s actually a genius idea….
AmazonRed™ - Good times
June 28th, 2010
1:52 pm
Oh, I thought she may have been nominated for Hustle and Flow. I thought that movie won some kind of award. LOL
PR – It did. The Six Mafia won the Oscar for the song “It’s hard out here for a p.imp” from that movie.
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 28th, 2010
1:52 pm
I’ve heard some rappers in interviews and been amazed at their ability to articulate because their music and lyrics are so dumbed down. Plies is one of those people.
You took the words right outta my mouth with that one…Plies is a college graduate but listening to his lyrics that would be lost ’cause they’re so @#$%^&*!! all of the time. Sometimes I laugh when I hear him profess to be a goone….I’m like whateva,dude.
Professor aka Dirty Diana
June 28th, 2010
1:52 pm
Ared I saw that mess. The funny thing is I answered Carlito, but if I would have seen the other one I would have left Carlito in the dark
Nothing against you ‘lito
Randyt (is it Friday yet?)
June 28th, 2010
1:52 pm
On topic for a moment…what have I learned.
1) If it is not right for one, it is not right for either (so if he/she wants to go, it is better for both of you to not fight it).
2) If a woman talks to her man about a problem, she wants him to listen not fix.
3) Most married (and probably single too) women eventually go through a “desperate housewives” phase, where they have an unspecified “unhappiness” that they will, in the lack of anything else, blame on their husbands. All the guy can do is be sympathetic and try hard to keep his mouth shut until it passes or she divorces him.
4) (as said before) NEVER argue with an idiot, bystanders can’t always tell which is which.
5) You cannot make someone love you, they either will or won’t…and logic has nothing to do with it, never has and never will.
6) Respect is more important thanlove in the success of a relationship. All it takes to fall in love is a pulse.
AmazonRed™ - Good times
June 28th, 2010
1:52 pm
FYI – The blog monster likes to eat the word “p.imp”
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
1:53 pm
Swiss, that was funny. Or the couple with the mutant child. LOL
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 28th, 2010
1:54 pm
Roddick’s about to go down…
Noooooooooo
Professor aka Dirty Diana
June 28th, 2010
1:55 pm
@Sassy I love Plies! That pina colada song is on point. Thinking out loud I should have taken my old azz to birthday bash.
@Randyt I love your list
i'm swiss
June 28th, 2010
1:55 pm
Well, well…. Roddick stays alive for the moment… 5th set!
Randyt (is it Friday yet?)
June 28th, 2010
1:55 pm
“Phantom of the Opera” has been around so long that in Manhattan the billboards don’t even put the name…just the mask and the rose. (Love it by the way, could watch it a dozen times at the majestic in NY and neer get tired of it).
AmazonRed™ - Good times
June 28th, 2010
1:55 pm
I love Plies
I’m surprised by this, Prof.
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 28th, 2010
1:56 pm
If a woman talks to her man about a problem, she wants him to listen not fix.
So true…
i'm swiss
June 28th, 2010
1:56 pm
“Or the couple with the mutant child”
Um, yeah…. That scene was a little close to home… I grew up in Small Town, GA, after all…
Leggs
June 28th, 2010
1:57 pm
It’s too funny how the lurkers complain so much about the boorish convo taking place here. They lurk everyday yet complain that the topics aren’t as profound as they would like them to be….easy solution…GET OFF YOUR HIGH HORSE AND CONTRIBUTE!!
@PR ~ please do not loan your horse to anyone else!
Randyt (is it Friday yet?)
June 28th, 2010
1:58 pm
@ Prof and Sassy
For the record, I learned all of those the HARD WAY.
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
1:58 pm
NBA Free Agency is this week!
AmazonRed™ - Good times
June 28th, 2010
1:58 pm
please do not loan your horse to anyone else
And get it said, Leggs. It’s clear some of em just want attention tho. I threw em a scoobie snack today.
i'm swiss
June 28th, 2010
2:00 pm
“If a woman talks to her man about a problem, she wants him to listen not fix.”
True. Also true: If a man has to listen your problem, he wants to fix it & stop hearing about it…
GHANA
June 28th, 2010
2:00 pm
Well, well…. Roddick stays alive for the moment
@Swiss??
u watch tennis??
arent u glad Roddick dont take coc. or any other banned narcotic……otherwise his whole face and eyes wld look really scary if he did they got dilated more than they do now when playing tennis!
check his eyes!
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
2:01 pm
Swiss, you don’t have a wife/cousin do you? LOL
Leggs, I had to hide my horse because someone was trying to “know” horses in Georgia in a biblical way. The horse is back in his stable for now. LOL
Leggs
June 28th, 2010
2:01 pm
After listening to T.I on countless interviews, I became intrigued. Like some of his music. He speaks very well. Now Tiny, well the jury has fallen into a coma!!!
Randyt (is it Friday yet?)
June 28th, 2010
2:02 pm
@ I’m swiss…good comment and true.
Dan - simply...
June 28th, 2010
2:02 pm
Here’s my thing on Plies;
Either he’s mocking the genre in a very profitable satire enterprise or,
He sincerely disdains most of his “fans”. Either way, he’s on “the list”.
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 28th, 2010
2:02 pm
I love Plies! That pina colada song is on point.
Professor guul I like some of his stuff I hear on the radio like Shawty and the collaborations he’s done with other artists…buut on his first album he has a song called Ms. Pretty &^$$? and err ahh let’s just say Imma leave it right there
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 28th, 2010
2:03 pm
thanks dreams for your assessment and I concur!
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
2:03 pm
Women have problems? I have never heard a woman admit to having a problem. Maybe I just do not listen to women.
Back on my horse! LOL
Randyt (is it Friday yet?)
June 28th, 2010
2:03 pm
@ I’m swss
Although in the interest of personal safety and sanity, it is not a good idea to tell them that.
GHANA
June 28th, 2010
2:03 pm
Randyt??
1.52 ??
wheeet heeppened lately??
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 28th, 2010
2:04 pm
I learned all of those the HARD WAY.
Maybe the road could’ve been a little smoother but either way you still learned…some men NEVER get it. I applaud you!!
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
2:05 pm
I have learned that Plies is educated and his brother is the “street wise” one. So I gathered that he is rapping about his brothers experiences. Now Rick Ross raps about the Law and he used to work for the law enforcement system, PAUSE!!
GHANA
June 28th, 2010
2:05 pm
Now Tiny, well the jury has fallen into a coma!!!
u goin to hurt some pple here on the blog with that !
i'm swiss
June 28th, 2010
2:06 pm
“Swiss, you don’t have a wife/cousin do you?”
Nah, Purple… My wife is Haitian & I’m 1/2 Jamaican — the lower half…
Melo — Yup, big tennis fan (and hack player)… You’re right about the crazy eyes on Roddick. But he’s the last U.S. man standing, so I’ve gotta pull for him…
Randyt (is it Friday yet?)
June 28th, 2010
2:07 pm
@ Sassy,
I am afraid that by the time most men figure it/women out, they die (spoken while checking pulse to make sure I am still here