Dating: What have you learned
It’s great to be alive and well to see another birthday today! When I was younger I remember being in such a hurry to grow up and brag about my age. Now I pretty much dread it and try to avoid acknowledging how close to 40 I am getting *cough*.
I once wrote about what I would forewarn myself about if I had a moment to speak with my “younger self”. When thinking of everything I learned in my 20s about dating, sex, and relationships, what could I say? If you take all the pain and heartache away from our experiences, we probably would not be the same people. What would you say to your younger self?
You know they say that we are the sum of all our experiences. I suppose that is true in many ways, but what lessons can we take from it all?
I have been writing here for 5 years and I have learned a great deal about love, relationships, and men from the dialogue we have here! What have you learned?
Happy Monday & Happy Birthday to Moi!
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i'm swiss
June 28th, 2010
12:26 pm
“Swiss we are smarter and classier! ha!”
cough, cough — Reggie Ball — cough, cough…
???
June 28th, 2010
12:27 pm
Topic change please
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
12:27 pm
???, Dirty Diana is Professor
Lady-learning is forever!
June 28th, 2010
12:27 pm
PR associations are a killer to those skeptics don’t ya think???? when it is OVER it should be OVER in a sense….know better do better my take…..
???
June 28th, 2010
12:27 pm
Pretty please
PrincessNik....29 days and counting
June 28th, 2010
12:27 pm
???
what would you like to talk about?
Lady-learning is forever!
June 28th, 2010
12:28 pm
SWISS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL!
i'm swiss
June 28th, 2010
12:28 pm
puff, puff, cough, cough — Reuben Houston — puff, puff, cough, cough, bam!
GHANA
June 28th, 2010
12:28 pm
Who is ???? ??
???
June 28th, 2010
12:29 pm
anything other than random convo
Leggs
June 28th, 2010
12:29 pm
@ARed ~ he wouldn’t look great if HE had those 13 kids…If men could deliver babies bet they stop slinging their sperm all over the place!!!
MJ
Tupac
Mary J
The Temptations
Little Richard
Elvis or James Brown (aren’t they the same)
@Dirty Diana ~ I asked earlier why no one was talking about Leather Face = Jermaine. His stylist needs to be shot with a deadly tranquilizer!!!
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
12:29 pm
Lady J, so you are saying that he should not have a Birthday Party? Even though he was hosting his football camp earlier that day and had other players in town to celebrate with him?
Dan - simply...
June 28th, 2010
12:30 pm
@Ghana (such a hater, Melo)
But how long after trying a number of beers did you decide (and stick with) the one you like?
For that matter, style of dress, taste in shoes, even movies?
Those posters are there for young men to try different styles and experiment.
PrincessNik....29 days and counting
June 28th, 2010
12:30 pm
???
u know the blog is a free for all after 11am, so feel free to introduce a non-random topic
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
12:31 pm
Leggs, if men did not have a willing woman to catch that slinging sperm, said women would not have to worry about babies. LOL
???
June 28th, 2010
12:33 pm
Any recent blog hookups? Scandal?
Lady-learning is forever!
June 28th, 2010
12:34 pm
PR have one but away from THEM! on another level of what he has seen and been through! you don’t have to forget where you come from but it is ok to fly by per se to higher heights! am I worng to think that??? lol
Dirty Diana~1x for Chris Brown
June 28th, 2010
12:34 pm
JtJ you better not put that hairstyle on his wife. LOL. Can you visualize waking up at night and seeing that hair with a scarf tied around the edges?
Monica was wrong for that big ol’ jacket.
Ghana-my point exactly on the models in the barbershop. Somebody is asking for the fade and the curve part.
Leggs
June 28th, 2010
12:34 pm
@PurpleRain ~ not worrying about having the babies, but more worried about taking care of them. And best believe his 13 babies didn’t come from ONE WOMAN…that’s my point.
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
12:35 pm
???, that seems kind of random. Let’s talk about people who thrive on scandal and other people’s business. LOL
GHANA
June 28th, 2010
12:37 pm
@Dan!
I hear u..a man finds their own identity.
Some Females tho,even adult ones,seem to have clique(my girl) tendencies.
@Dirty??
MJ and Tupac,80s Mary J (not 90s/2000+) and James Brown..the others, I dont care for!
BET is only honoring Prince now coz MJ is dead!
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
12:37 pm
Lady J, trouble can find you anywhere IMO. If he had the party at his home that fool probably would have found a way to come.
Leggs, I am saying by kid #6 at least any woman should know not to have unprotected sex with him because he is good at making babies. LOL
!
June 28th, 2010
12:37 pm
Tell us about w8. I know what you did last summer ???
Lady-learning is forever!
June 28th, 2010
12:38 pm
monica can sang though! the sistah can blow!
Dirty Diana~1x for Chris Brown
June 28th, 2010
12:38 pm
@Carlito LOL on your 12:35
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
12:38 pm
13 kids is a bit much. LOL It is not the 70’s or 60’s
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 28th, 2010
12:39 pm
why the fraud and fakery ???
Lady-learning is forever!
June 28th, 2010
12:39 pm
MELO I AGREE!
PR true, true, sadly true! a low profile is key in certain circumstances! can’t feed the media jack!
Lady-learning is forever!
June 28th, 2010
12:40 pm
hmmmmmm is it nap time playmates???? lol
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
12:40 pm
Dirty Diana,
Kym-Cancers Rock!!
June 28th, 2010
12:41 pm
@purple rain…I love you man!!! Good one!!
GHANA
June 28th, 2010
12:41 pm
Im sure some hospitals in atlanta have burn units where pple lost their hair in a fire.
That Janelle Monet girl needs to shave off her hair cap and donate some hair..
Im surprised uall aint talking about that hair piece.
Girl needs to lead with her sanging,not that hair forehead!
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 28th, 2010
12:42 pm
You’re all one in the same and we know so why go through this?…you just want to start some more shyt on this blog but you need to go STFD somewhere….seriously. No disrespect meant so don’t take any but you need to chill out with the b s and act like you’re grown.
Dirty Diana~1x for Chris Brown
June 28th, 2010
12:42 pm
Lady J, Monica can go. That little bitty body and such a huge voice. I saw a special where her mom mentioned she would sing the songs in the car on the way home from her mom’s choir practice. Monica was like a baby girl in the backseat of the car hitting all the notes the grown ups missed.
Kym-Cancers Rock!!
June 28th, 2010
12:42 pm
@Sassy because just like Purple Rain said some folks thrive on drama..they need it like Pookie needed the crack.
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
12:42 pm
Ghana, people used to laugh at Prince for how he wore his hair. LOL
Leggs
June 28th, 2010
12:46 pm
Prince has some pretty skin…he’s such a pretty boy!
Lady-learning is forever!
June 28th, 2010
12:46 pm
PR someone mentioned last night the way we look @ Kayne is how yall viewed prince then
Dirty Diana~1x for Chris Brown
June 28th, 2010
12:46 pm
@Sasssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssy wassup chica
I hear you on that 12:42.
@Ghana I didn’t touch on her hair because I didn’t want to sound all negative, but now that you opened that door. Any, bloggers wanting that style? Which style would you wear Janelle Monet girl or Jermaine’s?
Sassy you need to answer, because you didn’t answer my Jermaine question. Lady j you too. Melo would you date a lady with that hairstyle if she had everything else on point?
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
12:46 pm
Sassy, is the Blog Bouncer
I want to know, how come it seems that many men started wearing a bald head after Jordan made it popular. Before then even if they were balding they tried to make it look good. And my other question is what is with butt implants? I saw this ladies butt at Church yesterday and it did not look correct, it was pointy.
AmazonRed™ - Good times
June 28th, 2010
12:49 pm
Leggs – Even tho he didn’t birth all those kids, I bet they all required child support at one point.
That’s gotta be stressful. 
Lady-learning is forever!
June 28th, 2010
12:49 pm
Leggs Prince is SOOOOOOOOOOOO Pretty-That is all!
Dirty Diana~1x for Chris Brown
June 28th, 2010
12:49 pm
@ Purple, Sasssssssssssssssssssssy is the blog bouncer!
As for the pointy implants that is too funny.
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
12:49 pm
Lady J, I think Kanye is smart and talented and growing before our very eyes. Media has a way of letting the world into someones personal life now. Unlike when we grew up when we only saw people on Dance Shows and heard them on the radio. Entertainers had way more privacy then, IMO
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
12:51 pm
Dirty Diana, maybe they will settle. BUt how do butt implants work and has anyone ever felt an implanted butt?
Lady-learning is forever!
June 28th, 2010
12:51 pm
no have not inqured and it is ugly period……..lol! Professor!
GHANA
June 28th, 2010
12:51 pm
Melo would you date a lady with that hairstyle if she had everything else on point?
@DirtyD??
some hairstyles make a lady look beautiful,others dont and if the hairstyle is not on point,then i proly find her not as appealing unless she changed it up.
I wld have to have seen her sporting different hairstyles for me to appreciate her enough..but if shes feeling me and im a feeling her….??
I will let her know!
Lady-learning is forever!
June 28th, 2010
12:52 pm
cool PR!
Purple Rain
June 28th, 2010
12:52 pm
Funny is the fact that as Prince is what he is, he has never been called gay and or a child molester. I do not know of any man that can wear butt out pants and not be called gay except for Prince. LOL
JP
June 28th, 2010
12:52 pm
I didn’t realize this was an awards show recap blog….