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Dating: What have you learned

It’s great to be alive and well to see another birthday today! When I was younger I remember being in such a hurry to grow up and brag about my age. Now I pretty much dread it and try to avoid acknowledging how close to 40 I am getting *cough*.

I once wrote about what I would forewarn myself  about if I had a moment to speak with my “younger self”.  When thinking of everything I learned in my 20s about dating, sex, and relationships, what could I say? If you take all the pain and heartache away from our experiences, we probably would not be the same people.  What would you say to your younger self?

You know they say that we are the sum of all our experiences. I suppose that is true in many ways, but what lessons can we take from it all?

I have been writing here for 5 years and I have learned a great deal about love, relationships, and men from the dialogue we have here!  What have you learned?

Happy Monday & Happy Birthday to Moi!

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AmazonRed™ - Good times

June 28th, 2010
3:30 pm

Damn Professor. Have you and Dan actually met before? :lol:

GHANA

June 28th, 2010
3:31 pm

does that still work? LOL

@PR..it works if u want female friends as study buddies?

u want bootey?? Nope…

females will say they want gentlemen in public..in pvt??

they want a smooth dude with hood smarts who promises to give that cootie a beating and actually delievers! :lol: :lol: :lol:

kimmie

June 28th, 2010
3:31 pm

So, if I’m telling you about a problem that I’ve already solved, then all you really can do is listen.

Dreams – Exactly, but Dan is saying he can’t actively listen. That’s all I’m saying I don’t get.

Can’t speak for everyone, but for me, venting sometimes is just a relaying of events. I don’t scream or yell, if that’s what you guys are talking about.

But whatever.

sigh

Purple Rain

June 28th, 2010
3:31 pm

Leggs, can I have another jacket I want to double up.

Professor

June 28th, 2010
3:31 pm

I think Dan meant to address Sassy and put Professor instead.

Truth be told, I don’t care who he meant he ought not to think about me because I don’t think about him. He left the door open so I could tell him how I really feel :evil:

Purple Rain

June 28th, 2010
3:32 pm

Ladies, do you all like the nice guy who does and says everything right?

AmazonRed™ - Good times

June 28th, 2010
3:33 pm

Leggs, can I have another jacket I want to double up.

PR – That’s cheating…

But I think we can get a vest made for your horse! :lol:

Dan - simply...

June 28th, 2010
3:33 pm

@ARed

You know me better than that…. ain’t nobody running me off. Either you agree or disagree me, either way I’m done with it at 4:15.

AmazonRed™ - Good times

June 28th, 2010
3:34 pm

Ladies, do you all like the nice guy who does and says everything right?

I don’t think there is any man who does and says everything right.

But I do like the nice guy that at least attempts to. :)

Dan - simply...

June 28th, 2010
3:34 pm

@Prof

Really? Tell me how you feel….go ahead..vent

Purple Rain " You ought not to think about me"

June 28th, 2010
3:34 pm

Professor, “He ought not to think about me”? LOL, that’s rough. Kym, you should tell the guys you don’t want bothering you exactly what Professor just said.

Leggs

June 28th, 2010
3:35 pm

@Prof ~ please stop, I had sauerkraut on my sandwich and all this laughter is making me cramp up. Please stop. Never thought I would ask someone to stop making me laugh!

AmazonRed™ - Good times

June 28th, 2010
3:35 pm

ain’t nobody running me off.

Dan – Who said anything about running you off? Yes, you’re here like fungus. ;)

Purple Rain

June 28th, 2010
3:36 pm

Well, my horse is safe. :)

Leggs

June 28th, 2010
3:37 pm

But I think we can get a vest made for your horse!

STOP IT, STOP IT :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: !!!!

AmazonRed™ - Good times

June 28th, 2010
3:37 pm

Truth be told, I don’t care who he meant he ought not to think about me because I don’t think about him. He left the door open so I could tell him how I really feel

:lol: Keep at it then Professor. I’ve pushed Dan to the edge before…I wonder if you’ve got the juice to do so.

(just keeping it light folks, I don’t actually want a blog showdown)

Purple Rain

June 28th, 2010
3:37 pm

Leggs, she is funny. I have to use that one day. “You ought not to think about me” just smash someone for even thinking about me. Yes, you are even accountable for what you think about when it comes to me.

AmazonRed™ - Good times

June 28th, 2010
3:38 pm

Well, my horse is safe.

Some people have bad aim! You see how Dan’s post to Sassy hit Professor!

I’m calling PETA if your horse gets hit!

DreamsMaterialize

June 28th, 2010
3:38 pm

kimmie stop all that sighing. lol If you’ve solved a problem and want to give me a play-by-play, I’ll listen all day. If you’re still trying to solve it, then I’d hope I would be one of the first people you’d welcome a suggestion from. For me it’s the worst to watch someone I care about go through something where I’m powerless to help. So, if I can help, I’m hard to the mat with it.

Randyt (is it Friday yet?)

June 28th, 2010
3:38 pm

Classic clash of Mars and Venus over listening. We come from different planets and this is one issue that neithr side can understand the other.

Personally I’m like the poster that shows the fox in the middle of the foxhounds and the caption reads “when you find your self in really deep “shyte”, look straight ahead and keep your mouth shut”.

When women or bosses confuse me, that is what I have learned to do.

Purple Rain

June 28th, 2010
3:38 pm

You ought not to be thinking about my horse

Mike P

June 28th, 2010
3:39 pm

I’d tell my younger self (18 – 27 years):

1. Be selfish; I gave of myself more then I ever received.

2. Eff the future; have fun now, my sacrifices will not payoff.

3. Never be truthful to girls; they only believe in lies and didn’t believe in the truth, so lie your butt off to get what you want.

4. Treat women what they’re worth; never treat them like princesses when they’re sl*ts and h*es.

5. Don’t look for “the one,” look for fun; what you truly seek doesn’t happen for you, so don’t waste your time waiting for her, she’s messing around with the bad boys getting “used up.”

6. Demand sex from women early on; doing the right thing doesn’t payoff, because they’re getting it from someone else but just not from you.

7. Don’t save yourself for “the one;” She doesn’t exist and your virginity isn’t worth anything.

8. Don’t sell my 1,000 shares of apple computers stock before the IPod came out, and buying Google stock at $85 per share isn’t too pricy.

Professor

June 28th, 2010
3:40 pm

Damn Professor. Have you and Dan actually met before?

@ARed NO, I’ve never met Diaper Dan before.

@Leggs ~Catch! I just tossed you some Advil, because that was just the tip of the iceberg.

@Dan regarding your 3:34, are you asking for more?

@Sasssssssssssssssssy what did you do to him to make him write that mess? Take the 5th don’t answer that chile.

Dan - simply...

June 28th, 2010
3:40 pm

@Red

It may only you capable of it….

Purple Rain

June 28th, 2010
3:40 pm

Randyt, just don’t listen to women, and she will think you are listening because you are not responding while you are sitting there wondering about the game. LOL

AmazonRed, those PETA people will turn my stallion into a punk horse, like a my little pony.

AmazonRed™ - Good times

June 28th, 2010
3:41 pm

You ought not to be thinking about my horse

*flatlines* :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dan - simply...

June 28th, 2010
3:41 pm

@Kimmie

What Dreams said….(3:38)

Purple Rain

June 28th, 2010
3:42 pm

AmazonRed, LOL :)

Randyt (is it Friday yet?)

June 28th, 2010
3:43 pm

Now might be a good time to put chastity belts on the female horses. (How tall was that dude anyway?)

AmazonRed™ - Good times

June 28th, 2010
3:43 pm

It may only you capable of it….

Dan – :D

:lol:

Professor – I really can’t deal with you right now. :lol:

Purple Rain

June 28th, 2010
3:46 pm

Randyt, what if he was not targeting female horses. When the horse gets back to the other horse how does he explain it? “Hey man a human raped me?”

Dan - simply...

June 28th, 2010
3:46 pm

@Prof

If you feel the need….vent…

Purple Rain

June 28th, 2010
3:49 pm

Time to go home, :) . I had fun today have a great evening.

‘a presto”

Professor

June 28th, 2010
3:49 pm

@Carlito I remember my little pony…they were sooooooooo cute :grin:

A pony would be great :grin: well not in exchange for a stallion.

Purple Rain

June 28th, 2010
3:50 pm

Professor, you should try a Bronco, once tamed they are more rewarding to have. LOL

I am whatever you say I am- Cancers May Rock but Scorpio Run This Ish!!!!!

June 28th, 2010
3:51 pm

6 pages! lawd!!!!

GHANA

June 28th, 2010
3:51 pm

I think Chris Brown is coming back after that crying incident at the awards. He is too talented to be denied by that one act of immaturity.

@listening to ur woman??

depends on the vibe twen u two.

Ordinary office gossip happening in her office?/ If there is nothing else interesting on tele fro me to watch, i will listen..or i may jees stay quiet..but not pay attn.

A genuine problem? I will listen and tell her my honest opinion,if its not for me to solve(eg work situation)

A home issue to be solved??..(honey,there is no light bulb in the bathroom) to a woman…..that means Man….. replace it NOW!

( I tend to pay attn to that coz if i dont..the dinner will proly be half burnt that evening) :lol: :lol: :lol:

Men be Warned! :lol:

Professor

June 28th, 2010
3:52 pm

@Dan,

You like solving problems and using big words, but you can’t answer a yes or no question. I need to up your special rating
:arrow: 9.75

AmazonRed™ - Good times

June 28th, 2010
3:52 pm

Dan – Just apologize to Professor for bringing her into your discussion with Sassy. Don’t throw gasoline on that fire.

Dan - simply...

June 28th, 2010
3:54 pm

@Professor

If you feel the need, vent, this is about you (and how you feel about me). If I “left the door open” come in and let it all hang out…for the next 19 minutes.

Professor

June 28th, 2010
3:55 pm

@PR :grin: I am not sure I can handle a bronco even if it was tame.

Professor

June 28th, 2010
3:56 pm

ARed he skipped over the A’s and landed in the J’s

I am whatever you say I am- Cancers May Rock but Scorpio Run This Ish!!!!!

June 28th, 2010
3:57 pm

Enter your comments here

Dan - simply...

June 28th, 2010
3:58 pm

@Ared

I would, but it seems I’ve gone too far and “used he name in vain”…she must smite me.

and you know I likes that kinda stuff..

AmazonRed™ - Good times

June 28th, 2010
3:58 pm

Where is everyone, in the bomb shelter? :lol:

kimmie

June 28th, 2010
3:59 pm

Dreams – Your 3:38 is all I would ask of an SO. Especially me, cause I don’t bring drama. In fact, most of the time if I talk about office mess it’s because it’s funny. Sometimes my SO gives me a different take on something that I never would have thought of. Give & take. But don’t throw me in that same bucket you do those other women you knew before that yacked on and on about nothing, that went on meaningless rants about mess & expected you to read her mind. So when I talk to you, whether you can solve my problem or not, you just tune me out or not “actively listen”.

AmazonRed™ - Good times

June 28th, 2010
3:59 pm

and you know I likes that kinda stuff..

Dan – Yes you do….SOMETIMES. :lol:

Professor

June 28th, 2010
4:01 pm

You are bleeding a bit much let me stitch you up so I will have something to “smite” tomorrow if I choose.

and you know I likes that kinda stuff..

I know you women don’t talk to you much so you are tingling and feeling warm…I bet you just turned to the M’s so you can figure out how to ____________

Professor

June 28th, 2010
4:03 pm

Randyt (is it Friday yet?)

June 28th, 2010
4:03 pm

@ Purple Rain I hope they were femal horses, I’d hate to think he was gay ;-)