Dating: Dealing with your past
My apologies for the late blog post! I hope you are as ready for the weekend as I am! Happy Friday!
I don’t know if I will ever understand men completely. Dating can be like this crazy ongoing education of human behavior, and male behavior is my major (or minor?). Since I have mainly been dating younger men lately, I am trying to meet and date men older than 40. Call it my something new for summer.
I had a lively debate with my guy of interest the other day. He is older than I am so we were sort of recounting our past relationships and experiences. He made some comment about his last girlfriend and the reason they broke up. It had something to do with a surprising revelation about her that he discovered after a year of dating her. He wouldn’t tell me what it was specifically but he said that it was because of what she had done in the past.
Well that sort of made me pause a bit. I was wondering if he was that overly critical and judgmental type of guy. You know the type that goes over your past with a fine tooth comb and “vets” you like you are about to be his running mate in a presidential election? Yeah, that’s annoying.
We all have “a past” because we are living and breathing humans, not mannequins. I think having “skeletons” in the closet gets blown out of proportion. Let’s put it into perspective: What kind of past would warrant a break up? Would you break up with someone because they did not tell you about it?
Do you think we are understanding enough of a person’s past? Do we use it as yet another excuse not to commit to a relationship? Discuss!
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AmazonRed™ - Ready to groove
June 25th, 2010
9:30 am
Ha! First! Take that Leggs!
Leggs
June 25th, 2010
9:31 am
Too funny, ARed! Second is cool sometimes!
Leggs
June 25th, 2010
9:34 am
Depending on what was done in the past definitely can be a dealbreaker. Say you’ve been out of jail for 5 years for a murder you committed. Deal breaker!
Say you use to date men in college, but realized the error of your ways (so to speak) and are now into women…Deal breaker!
AmazonRed™ - Ready to groove
June 25th, 2010
9:35 am
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AmazonRed™ - Ready to groove
June 25th, 2010
9:35 am
Sunday is National HIV Testing day. Make plans to get tested. Know your status!
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SlimOne
June 25th, 2010
9:37 am
Good morning! I shole have been enjoying the MJ Tributes today on the radio….
Being a repeat offender in the past, committing murder, rape/child molestation anything of that sort would be a deal breaker.
TGIF!!
Leggs
June 25th, 2010
9:37 am
{{{R.I.P. Mr. Michael Jackson.}}} His songs will be played all day today and specials on the boob tube all night!
AmazonRed™ - Ready to groove
June 25th, 2010
9:38 am
Well that sort of made me pause a bit. I was wondering if he was that overly critical and judgmental type of guy.
After a year of dating, he was probably genuinely in it. I think what he found out was something he thinks she intentionally tried to hide.
Leggs
June 25th, 2010
9:38 am
Good morning everyone! Especially the Early Bird, ARed!
M. (pronouced M dot)
June 25th, 2010
9:44 am
Friday….
I think dealing with the past is a maturity issue. Especially for guys. I will put it out there…ladies…guys are not lining up to deal with a woman that has a truckload of guys that they dealt with…It sucks for you women because its a catch 22 because a guy can have a truckload of women, but he will still be in tact for the most part. I know its unfair.
I think we just have to get to a level where we try not to pry to much into someone’s past which leads to judgments. We should worry about the now and how we will interact. Its funny because we all have done things that are unacceptable. Also its tough because it goes back to asking what someone’s number is. My rule is not to ask because she wont give me the right answer anyway lol..
So wise, how has your experience been with old vs. young guys? I hear a lot of older guys come off as know it all and chauvinistic vs. younger guys who may be free flowing. What do you think if you meet a guy in his 40s who never has had any kids or marriage? Does that make him afraid of commitment?
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
9:58 am
Something’s are better left in the past…not everyone needs to know every single detail about how you let 3 guys finger you in 3rd grade during recess in the stairwell. We have all done things that are filed into the “Young-Dumb-Fun” category. Life is about experimentation & experiences…Now if you were…say…a p-orn star in your 20’s, that sure as hayo would need to be disclosed, I don’t care how many times you have been tested. (She ARED how I tied Nat’l HIV testing into my post
)
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
10:03 am
Hola!
Hmmmmmm
I remember chatting about this topic before on MIA. My thoughts are the same. There are certain things about your past I would like to know: if you served time in the big house, porn star, had ump-teen partners, engaged in drugs, addiction problems, mental problems, credit problems etc. There are some things you can leave in the past. I think this is a common sense issue, and certain things you are not going to find out until you reach a certain point in the relationship.
Lets face it we would all be
if someone told us their life story on the first date.
AmazonRed™ - Ready to groove
June 25th, 2010
10:08 am
(She ARED how I tied Nat’l HIV testing into my post )
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
10:10 am
Good Morning All,
I think I can handle anything–accept..child molester, murderer, and homosexuality. All can lead a person to revert back to their past behaviors. Even if they do say they are cured..so if that is in a guy’s past..I would have to bow out. Happy Friday Folks!
AmazonRed™ - Ready to groove
June 25th, 2010
10:10 am
Lets face it we would all be
if someone told us their life story on the first date
Very true. And that’s the risk you run when giving “must tell info.” Tell too soon, the other person will run. Tell too late, the other person will run.
I try to keep an open mind because of it. Some ish is just hard to talk about. I guess the key is if you’re trying to hide it or cover it up (and get caught) versus being forthright and upfront about it (eventually)
kimmie
June 25th, 2010
10:10 am
Morning Gang!
Slim, I stayed out in the parking lot awhile before I came in listening to MJ! It’s been very enjoyable. I started to pack along my MJ cds in the car, but it’s something special about hearing him on the radio.
Topic – I think unless what went down is going to affect today or tomorrow it should be left in the past. I had a life before I met you & hopefully you’ve had one prior to meeting me. Important health, legal and financial biggies should be disclosed if you guys get close. If you stripped for awhile to pay your way thru medical school 10 yrs ago & now you’re dating a candidate for the US Senate, you might want to let that person know.
But we are all human, may have made some mistakes or had lapses in judgement. I abhor folks that are judgemental. I’ve seen that mess come back to bite people like that too. The very thing you looked down your nose at someone about could end up happening to you, tenfold.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
10:11 am
hey gang tgif! what a week! glad to see it close!
Leggs - Starting with the Man In The Mirror!!
June 25th, 2010
10:16 am
I agree, certain things remain in the past, esp. those young n dumb fun encounters that were harmless. No need to drudge that stuff up. If it doesn’t affect our relationship in any form or fashion, it will stay buried.
Melo
June 25th, 2010
10:17 am
You know the type that goes over your past with a fine tooth comb and “vets” you like you are about to be his running mate in a presidential election?
How can he go over ur past with a fine tooth comb unless U,urself have revealed those things to him??
Grow Up!!
If u have stuff that really needs to be kept shut and closed in the closet,make sure the locks are secure coz the truth is,some things may really hurt u if they do come out. So enjoy ur youth carefully.
There are defintaely things that happenend in the past that wld make me change or say hmmmm,wait a minute,if i were to hear about them….so dont be naive to it. If it happened,its ur bed,u lie on it.
I will not ask u whether u had an orgy with more than 2 guys in ur past and if it happened,keep it to urself. But the moment u utter to tell me about it, i may request that u do an encore presentation with one of my buddies.
Then I will “elevate” u to ur proper category once u done coz ur attempts at playing future wife were not successful!!
Hola derty derty Diana!!, nee former Professor!!
Morning folks!
CMS
June 25th, 2010
10:20 am
Your past has a way of haunting you indeed. Just like bad credit you have to reconcile past debts or else they will impact your future.
Most women won’t date a dude seriously if he has bad credit. It shows bad judgement in his past…especially if he hasn’t reconcile it. As it relates to this topic there are many women who have an impecable credit score, but a horrible score with men they have dated.
The same rules apply. Many men/women simply have unreconciled issues with people in their past. And if it continues to go unchecked it will inevitably rear its head, often when they least expect it.
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
10:20 am
R.I.P. Michael Jackson!!!
you’ve been out of jail for 5 years for a murder you committed. Deal breaker!…Say you use to date men in college, but realized the error of your ways (so to speak) and are now into women…Deal breaker!
I co-sign on that and would also include other egregious acts against children like molestation as definite deal breakers,too.
I hear a lot of older guys come off as know it all and chauvinistic vs. younger guys who may be free flowing.
I usually attract guys younger than me and I’ve also made it a piont to “date older” so I’ll see how that goes. I’d just like to find someone who’s not intimadated and has their stuff as together as I do,if not better b/c no one is perfect. Good luck to you Wise…hope all works out for the best.
What do you think if you meet a guy in his 40s who never has had any kids or marriage? Does that make him afraid of commitment?.
For me to think that would be hypocritical b/c in a few years I’ll be in that same situation….does that mean I’m afraid of commitment?…no I don’t think so. So wait M dot is that what guys think about women in that same situation?
Side note: I’ve decided to change some things in my life and it started with letting the boy toy go and he seemed all hurt….but I’m like why for?….I thought we had an understanding? Dude said “after all this…you’re done…that’s messed up”. After all of what?…he knew his lane from the outset but now I’m wrong cause I’m bouncing?….come on son.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
10:22 am
sadly cms…..good post
mqew
June 25th, 2010
10:23 am
I have selective amnesia anyway, so ask away
Only GOD can judge me anyway so all others need to Besame el culo 
As far as deal breakers – child molestation, child abuse, actually not taking care YOUR child as well…. any thing that has to do with wrong doing to a child, straight deal breaker.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
10:24 am
melo you have valid points too….but it is important to deal with unresolve issues be it internally or verbally with that person if you can…..communication is key….and with time it should be a tool for recovery….
Leggs - Human Nature
June 25th, 2010
10:24 am
@SassyMe ~ this young buck was interested in me, but he wanted a hot and heavy romance with me but had nothing on his plate. When I told him I didn’t want to go down that route, he called me a “stuck up biotch.” Oh well. Been broke, still a little broke, and like I’ve said before, don’t need any company!
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
10:26 am
Melo
you got it it’s me professor
Wassup PYT aka lady j and Sassssssssssssssssy
@Ared yep some ish is difficult to talk about.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
10:26 am
yall I am heavily considering dating 5 years younger…..not more than 5…….hmmmmmmm……it will be a first…..lol
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
10:27 am
Dirty Diana you ROCK chica!!!!!! Happy Friday!
M. (pronouced M dot)
June 25th, 2010
10:28 am
@Sassy
“is that what guys think about women in that same situation?”
No I think a woman in that situation may just have other priorities. She may not be interested in the family idea and may just have a stronger desire for succcess in other things. Thats fine if she wants to do that.
AmazonRed™ - Ready to groove
June 25th, 2010
10:29 am
Lady J – Don’t turn away a good guy cuz you’re hung up on age. How’s his character. That’s what deserves heavy consideration.
Leggs - Liberian Girl
June 25th, 2010
10:30 am
@Lady-PYT ~ 5 years younger is not bad. Wait, that will make him….
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
10:31 am
ARed and Leggs confirmation ladies! I am not! thanks ladies!
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
10:33 am
“and he seemed all hurt….but I’m like why for?….I thought we had an understanding?”
@Sassy- Don’t u just hate that? They always seem to forget that initial talk and think something has changed.
I digress.
The past can be so informative and detrimental all at the same time.
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
10:34 am
Good morning erybody
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
10:34 am
Thanks Lady J.
Melo, tell us a story…like the one with the wangs in the jar when ol’ boy tried to come up. I need a laugh today
kimmie
June 25th, 2010
10:35 am
No I think a woman in that situation may just have other priorities. She may not be interested in the family idea and may just have a stronger desire for succcess in other things. Thats fine if she wants to do that.
M dot- Very mature, but that’s not what most men say about women in that situation. In fact, according to alot on this here blog, something is wrong with her!
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
10:36 am
hey dig that!
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
10:36 am
When I told him I didn’t want to go down that route, he called me a “stuck up biotch.”
See that right there was him just showing his age and why he got dismissed Leggs…cause if he really thought you were that “stuck up” then why step to you in the first place….let him gone ‘head somewhere.
Thanks for the explanation M dot cause sometimes I still wonder about that….you know,is it a good/bad thing.
Dir-ty Di-anaaaaaaaaa!! What it do,mami
JtJ
June 25th, 2010
10:37 am
Happy Friday!!! Good Morning!!
The Past…THE past…THE PAST!! Everyone has one and if you have lived only 1 day, you already have one. There are definite deal breakers for me that I know I couldn’t deal with…Criminal acts..i.e. Molestation, Murder, Rape, Drugs, etc. –Yes, some people can be reformed, but I just couldn’t deal with it. Also, Infidelity with and w/o producing a child, Homose*ual thoughts or acts, Fake Identity, and anything else that would make it difficult for me to trust you.
M.(dot) pretty much said it right about men not being accepting of a woman who’s had a lot of men. I would even go a step and say it also would matter to me of the TYPE of men/women a person has been with.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
10:39 am
@dig that worth repeating: The past can be so informative and detrimental all at the same time!!!!!! Amen!
an open books gives the prey much to seek yet too much mystery leaves one hangin’ on strings…..there is a fine balance and I am trying to master it……
mqew
June 25th, 2010
10:41 am
Dang! Why the blog eat my post? I only said kiss my ass in spanish…
I repeat. I have a selective memory anyway soooo ask away. Only God can judge me so the rest can besame el culo
Deal breakers have to do with kids; child molestation, child abuse, and not taking care of YOUR child are all deal breakers
kimmie
June 25th, 2010
10:42 am
JtJ – I keep forgetting to ask you. Since you are planning a wedding and would like ideas, have you checked out Essence.com on Wednesdays for their Bridal Bliss feature. They feature a new couple each week, talk about how they met & show their wedding pictures. It’s nice.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
10:42 am
when folk really don’t care they can come in listen attack and be gone…..saying all the right things for comfrot for the moment…………but the weak is so blinded and will fall for anything……..Girl Power Baby!!!!
Power Up and use logic vs emotions!
M. (pronouced M dot)
June 25th, 2010
10:42 am
@JtJ
“TYPE of men/women a person has been with.”
That is funny you say that and I agree with you because the kind of person they date says alot about them and this is an aspect of the dating game that nobody talks about.
Example, I work with a woman who is attractive, single with no kids, great job etc, but her ex had a gang of kids by a lot of different women, etc. What does that say about her?
@Kimmie
Thats true. Some people may think something is wrong but Im not sure. Its just about what people want out of life.
Leggs - JAM
June 25th, 2010
10:43 am
@SassyMe ~ exactly, when dealing with a younger man, must assess his maturity level. It doesn’t take long!!
Leggs - JAM
June 25th, 2010
10:44 am
@M. ~ on the surface it says she found someone who can put it down! (J/K)
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
10:44 am
but that’s not what most men say about women in that situation. In fact, according to alot on this here blog, something is wrong with her!
And that line of thinking isn’t limited to the men on this blog either Kimmie…it’s just like that first part of M dot’s 9:44…it’s a catch 22/double standard and it’s not fair.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
10:45 am
I feel surface info is important……regarding a break-up very lite and to the point……..and keep it movingwith exploring and getting to know each other……at some point we have to let our guards down and welcome a new experience…..we all have something in common…..we have all been hurt and disappointed……..it is ok to move on…..
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
10:45 am
Off topic – how in sam heyal do you try to sell your 6 month old baby at Walmart for $25?!!!!
M. (pronouced M dot)
June 25th, 2010
10:48 am
@Leggs – JAM
I agree with you…she got drunk off the package and lost all rationale…
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
10:48 am
You have to remember when you disclose you give up power. Ask yourself, how much power are you willing to give this person through your disclosure?
Melo
June 25th, 2010
10:49 am
In fact, according to alot on this here blog, something is wrong with her!
@Kimmie!!
u are right about that and infact,even Mdot thinks the same way! Otherwise how would Mdot know that she had other priorities unless he asked her the crucial qstion”,why do u wan to get married now??
It is a logical qstion to ask,whether somebody is 40 and a lady or a gent. Are u divorced, ever married,legaly seperated etc…whats ur situation??
Nobody is going to get approached by a 45 year old man or meet a 45 year old woman and just assume that they are so lucky,that man/woman has been waiting all his lyfe just for her/him!
Comeon Son!
Leggs - Leave Me Alone
June 25th, 2010
10:49 am
I’ve read tht meth has you doing a lot of stupid things, including brain freeze. How the heck they didn’t think they would be reported! High on Drugs, that’s how!
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
10:51 am
Power Up and use logic vs emotions!
Amen
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
10:51 am
I think it isn’t all about the age, it’s about how you feel with that person and how they feel with you. Don’t get me wrong, there are diffinitely perks. Young guys are usually so nice to look at and fantasize about, those beautiful bodies as long a some of them keep their mouths shut, of course they can do some things that will make you OMG! in a great way! The older guys seem to know how to treat a lady well. The older guy know that he has to treat her well and talk to her and make her feel comfortable with him. He’ll having you say OMG too with those weekend getaways and gifts but probably not so much in an erotic way. I find that you may have to fake it with older guys to make him feel good. They all think they are doing something but they’re not.
Randyt (home from the land where men are men and sheep are scared)
June 25th, 2010
10:53 am
I agree with most of the comments here, but especially M. It is a double standard and sometimes life ISN’T fair, sorry. I have plenty to say about women and their peculiarties, but one way many men are strange is regarding a woman’s past…he wants to know but often (most of the time) “can’t handle the truth” (said in best Jack Nicholsen voice).
I am the same way. This is just one of many examples in my own life. One night a lady I was seeing and liked a lot and I were sort of (okay not sort of, were) kind of getting frisky in a parked car when she sort of accidentally revealed that she had maybe done the deed in a car with her last lover. It spoiled the whole thing for me and I was in a raw mood for the rest of the evening. Was I childish? YES. Was I getting far more than he ever got? YES. Should it have mattered? NO. It was in the past, but the visual (and men are very visual) POed me. Men have fragile egos no matter how much they try to project otherwise.
Leave the details to an abssolute minimum gals!!! Better for you AND him. Admit you have a past just like him…and leave it “effing” there.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
10:53 am
DD great post!
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
10:54 am
Hey LadyJ. I see you got a youngun on the hook. I just say if going younger, measure maturity instead of just age.
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
10:54 am
Don’t u just hate that? They always seem to forget that initial talk and think something has changed.
Exactly ya Dig! I’m like we talked about this in the beginning….I mean I’m 11 years older than him and explained in the BEGINNING that I NEVER wanted to be his woman/girlfriend/or boo. I just wanted to see him sometimes..that’s all. I know I’m thorough and may introduced him to some thangs but err ahh we still gotta keep it in perspective.
M. (pronouced M dot)
June 25th, 2010
10:55 am
@Melo
“u are right about that and infact,even Mdot thinks the same way! Otherwise how would Mdot know that she had other priorities unless he asked her the crucial qstion”,why do u wan to get married now??”
I dont think anything is wrong with her. I think it would be obvious that she other priorities seeing as though most women if they want kids have them and when they get to 40 having kids are basically out of the question.
Now why she is not married may have something to do with her, her attitude, or maybe she just hasnt met the right person yet.
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
10:55 am
@Randyt- Lol. Bruh that is funny and so true.
kimmie
June 25th, 2010
10:55 am
And that line of thinking isn’t limited to the men on this blog either
Sassy – Absolutly, that’s why I said alot think that way! Other women can be more critical of women than men sometimes!
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
10:56 am
ummmmm KK consistency is important older or younger……….we will see….for me I have done older and well ummmmm it is what it is…..lol
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
10:56 am
Leggs – not to be too insensitive or funny…but if i was going to sell my baby, I’d think i’d want to get more than a measley $25. Just think, it was a couple that were on that stuff so what really was $25 going to buy them…one sack at best?…for a sacrifice such as that one, i’m trying to at least get an O Z. But more seriously, that was outrageous…now I just heard the voice of Dave Chapelle playing Rick James, “Co-caine is one helluva drug”.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
10:56 am
Thats why its so important to purge yourself and get you right before you begin dating again. I think soo many people believe in the to get over another I just need to get on or under another.. This aint kindergarten nor is it High school.. This is Grown Folks BI and you better love yourself or you’ll never be able to love anyone else properly..
Poppa Grande
June 25th, 2010
10:56 am
M.
You can say that she was too involved with her job and neglected him.
or you can say that he was selfish and greedy.
In reality, you need more information to make an opinion based on the facts that you gave.
There are three sides to every story: (1) What he said; (2) what she said; (3) what really happened.
Also, why ask what it says about her? What about his choices and what they say about him? It takes two to tango.
Also, IMO it would say volumes more if you said that they were still together instead of being exes.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
10:56 am
dig that he is no where close it is a thought………….
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
10:57 am
Morning
What you reveal to someone depends on severity and timing. Was it bad enough that it would affect your current or future interactions? Is it the right time in your relationship to reveal such information?
I’ve decided to change some things in my life and it started with letting the boy toy go and he seemed all hurt
Sassy but you told me you LOVEDEDED me! lol
i'm swiss
June 25th, 2010
10:57 am
“Off topic – how in sam heyal do you try to sell your 6 month old baby at Walmart for $25?!!!!”
I know, right? I mean it’s Wal-Mart, for crying out loud! I wouldn’t pay more than $19.99!
Melo
June 25th, 2010
10:58 am
sort of accidentally revealed that she had maybe done the deed in a car with her last lover
@Randyt??
a very stupid revelation by her anyway??
If it were me, i wld program my calls to her on the midnite hour,after that encounter!
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
10:58 am
preach DK!
seriouly it is a thought we ma have said hello a few times and the attraction is there but it is nothing past that we hadn’t even had a real convo…….it is a thought to explore that is it…..lol
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
10:59 am
swiss and slim lmbao!
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
10:59 am
‘I wouldn’t pay more than $19.99!’
LOL @ I’m swiss…that must be the ROLLBACK price.
Melo
June 25th, 2010
11:00 am
I dont think anything is wrong with her.
@Mdot?? maybe not “wrong”" but qstion mark for sure??
Otherwise I wld think u naive!
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
11:01 am
@DK Great post!!
Poppa Grande
June 25th, 2010
11:01 am
Life isn’t fair. Double Standards exist. It is just a fact of life that we all have to deal with. Some work for us, and some work against us. We just have to adjust accordingly.
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
11:03 am
For $25 you can cook up a couple ounces.
Poppa Grande
June 25th, 2010
11:03 am
Slim
I’m swiss…that must be the ROLLBACK price.
They must have heard about it from Darell aka Mr. Rollback.
Leggs - Rock with You
June 25th, 2010
11:05 am
@RandyT ~ what possessed her to reveal that to you at that particular time? Even if you had asked, I would have said, that’s not important, let’s concentrate on us. If you persisted and asked again, something’s wrong with you!
@SlimOne ~ when I read that they were meth heads and only asked for $25, I realized how strungout and desperate they were. A mere $25 fix is worth you giving up your baby. Probably thought with the recession asking for $25 was better than asking for $2500. Just desperate, dumb, selfish with all morals thrown out the window!
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
11:06 am
Dig That – of meth? I wouldn’t know bc I’ve never partaken of that drug. lol Just say NO!
abc
June 25th, 2010
11:06 am
I think that it doesn’t matter so much what kind of person you’ve been in the past, no matter what area or aspect of your life; what matters is the kind of person you are now. The disconnect is in thinking someone will believe you’re different from the way you were before once they know your history.
In many cases it doesn’t matter what your own history is. A chick will project the personalities and characters of men in her past upon you, and you find yourself trying to convince her that you’re not somebody she used to know. I get really tired of that.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
11:07 am
alrighty folks until later! enjoy your day and have a great weekend!
JtJ
June 25th, 2010
11:08 am
@ Kimmie…Thanks on heads ^ about Essence Bridal Bliss..I will check it out.
@ M.(dot)..that says that she puts more thought and focus into her career/personal well-being than her relationships….and …oh yeah..what leggs said!!lol
I agree with Randy and a few others…somethings just don’t need to be shared, especially if could cause some serious doubts/questions about you.
I have shared TMI before with my SO and he was like…why did you have to tell me that?…lol
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
11:08 am
Girl Power Baby!!!!
THAT’S WHAT’S UP!!
because the kind of person they date says alot about them and this is an aspect of the dating game that nobody talks about.
True,true…M dot.
those beautiful bodies as long a some of them keep their mouths shut, of course they can do some things that will make you OMG! in a great way!
Yeah but even that can get old n boring depending on the young buck involved…it’s a give and take situation.
The older guys seem to know how to treat a lady well. The older guy know that he has to treat her well and talk to her and make her feel comfortable with him.
That’s what I want…
but one way many men are strange is regarding a woman’s past…he wants to know but often (most of the time) “can’t handle the truth”…Men have fragile egos no matter how much they try to project otherwise.
That needed repeating…thank you Randy…
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
11:08 am
@Slim- All the ingredients are in the aisles of WalMart. PPl have no clue what that are smoking. You right. Just say NO!
But da shyt just be calling me!!!!!(Chris Rock-Pookie voice)
Leggs - Black and White
June 25th, 2010
11:09 am
We partied as teenagers and young adults. My friends and I still talk about how thankful we are that NO ONE in our circle dealt in heroin, meth or any other hard drugs!
Melo
June 25th, 2010
11:09 am
A chick will project the personalities and characters of men in her past upon you, and you find yourself trying to convince her that you’re not somebody she used to know.
@abc is married???
she must have flown in from space then!!
ur diss of women is so legendary!!
M. (pronouced M dot)
June 25th, 2010
11:11 am
@Melo
Question mark, not really. You have to remember this is still a country of options. You dont have to get married if you dont want to.
Like I said, she may just be having to much fun living and chasing success.
Maybe she saw her family struggle growing up and doesnt feel comfortable going down that road until she knows she can handle it.
Or maybe she just cant keep a man at all…maybe her attitude stinks, maybe she is crazy, maybe she is a reformed $lut. We just dont know Melo!
Just like memorial day, my older cousin asked if I had any kids and I said no…he looked at me crazy. I dont have to have a gang of crumbsnatchers running around lol.
Purple Rain
June 25th, 2010
11:12 am
I do not fault anyone for their own screening and vetting process. Only things that I could find out that would make me leave a woman was if I found out she molested kids or was a wh0re or had HIV/AIDS or any other can’t get rid of STD. I would not care if she did some jail time or murdered someone etc and served her sentence.
free to be (F2B)
June 25th, 2010
11:13 am
good morning everyone!:) hey ladyj, digthat, jtj, sassyme, leggs, kym….e’erbody…LOL. ladyj, the mtn wasn’t the same w/out you.:( going to thumbs up now to chow down!:) chat w/you all later.
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
11:15 am
‘But da shyt just be calling me!!!!!’
Dig – Reminds me of Jungle Fever when the crackhead brother (Samuel Jackson) would dance for his mother so she’d give him some money. LMAO!!! And I think many of those items are now kept behind the counters due to the specific ingredients folks use them for to cook it up
I don’t understand the first initial use of a hard drug especially when you know what that one toke, shoot, sniff can potential do to you. Like how do you convince someone to just take one hit of crack. “It’ll getchu high mayne…you ain’t got no job…it’s Friday” lmao!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
11:16 am
Kitty Kat – A older dude is faking with you too if you have to fake cause believe me if youre the woman he admires and wants to be with.. The flames of passion are hot because they are preserved for the right time and woman… Everything else is a rocks off session.. Sorry..
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
11:16 am
Now why she is not married may have something to do with her, her attitude, or maybe she just hasnt met the right person yet.
M dot…I haven’t met him yet and that’s why I don’t have children. I wanted to be a wife first and then have the baby(ies)…that’s not wrong is it? I’ve also resigned myself to the fact that I may never have children and I’m okay with that,too.
but you told me you LOVEDEDED me!
Leggs - Black and White
June 25th, 2010
11:16 am
Hello F2B! Enjoy your day!
LURKS
June 25th, 2010
11:17 am
@ARED stated-Sunday is National HIV Testing day. Make plans to get tested. Know your status! -YOU KNOW YOU NEED TO BE THERE AS MUCH AS YOU GET AROUND
Randyt (home from the land where men are men and sheep are scared)
June 25th, 2010
11:17 am
@ Leggs
I can’t remember the details exactly but it was something like it reminded her of times in his Cadillac. Dumb I thought. Another example… a lady I had been seeing for perhaps a year and I were talking about her female friend. I commented that her friend seemed a little “loose”. Her comment was that she had had many more lovers than her friend. I thought, gee thanks a lot, I’m just one more out of many, and did she ever meet anybody she didn’t sleep with.
TMI, always restrain yourself on the TMI.
Melo
June 25th, 2010
11:20 am
M. (pronouced M dot???
I hear what u saying in ur 11.11 but im not impressed.
u strike me as someone who meets a girl,u like her appearance etc, uapproach and if she likes u too and convo is great..game over,u sold out and utoo are a pair??
no due diligence,no soft qstions to gauge credibilty..nada!
Is that ur modus operandi??
If u looking for a girl in ur age range, i got 15 of them on my finger count alone,lined up for u..holla at me!!
I find that hard to believe tho!
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
11:20 am
Did anyone read the article on the childless rate going up in the US?
http://www.ajc.com/news/us-childlessness-is-up-557314.html
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
11:21 am
I have been more guilty in the past of holding my personal past against women.
Willie Dynamite
June 25th, 2010
11:22 am
Morning All,
Regarding the past the 1st rule is to reconcile yourself with who you are right now and will be moving forward. Of course there are some deal breakers but some behaviors are tamed with experience and maturity. One of the major turning points for me was introducing the Wifey to some of my associates and whatnot from my past. She found out some very interesting things about me. I had already spoke on who I was and what i did bt i guess getting affirmation was an eye-opener for her. The biggest thing was her seeing that I’m none of those things now. Just trying to get my Cliff Huxtable on.
Heyal thats one of the reasons I chose my moniker. Willie Dynamite went from putting hoes on notice to chillin on Sesame Street with Big Bird. hahaha
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
11:23 am
What it do F2B
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
11:24 am
For Real if you are out there.. you are going to have to start showing up to this rodeo a bit earlier..all the good news is old news when you get here…
M. (pronouced M dot)
June 25th, 2010
11:25 am
@ Melo
That’s interesting and I have good news for you. I am not trying to impress you.
You strike me as a simp. You meet a girl, she is cool, you just blinded by booty, and you get nervous about her leaving so while she is trying to step her game up, working out and trying not to look like precious, you tell her she doesnt need to work out, she can eat KFC Double Down’s 3 times a day and you try to get her pregnant to lock her down. Is this you Melo?
Melo
June 25th, 2010
11:27 am
Her comment was that she had had many more lovers than her friend
@Randyt??
Wow..u coming up with zingers this freaky friday!!
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
11:28 am
KFC Double Down’s 3 times a day
I can’t even that much after the munchies.
i'm swiss
June 25th, 2010
11:28 am
“I would not care if she did some jail time or murdered someone etc and served her sentence.”
Randyt (home from the land where men are men and sheep are scared)
June 25th, 2010
11:29 am
As I’ve said before melo, if you put yourself out there, and I have for along time, you encounter some things that often fall into the WTF category.
Melo
June 25th, 2010
11:30 am
Is this you Melo?
@Mdot!!
yeah yeah yeah!
Randyt (home from the land where men are men and sheep are scared)
June 25th, 2010
11:31 am
The world would be a much simpler place for women AND men, if women could go to Walgreens and get a new hymen before each relationship…and say “see, honey, you are the ONLY one”.
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
11:33 am
You strike me as a simp.
M. (pronouced M dot)
June 25th, 2010
11:33 am
@Melo
Its all good. I respect you for stepping up to the plate lol. If you want to set up a foot rubbing stand on 285, thats cool just be true to yourself playa lol!
Trevor0529
June 25th, 2010
11:33 am
LMAO!! @Randyt
Melo
June 25th, 2010
11:34 am
if women could go to Walgreens and get a new hymen before each relationship…and say “see, honey, you are the ONLY one”.
@Randyt!!?
AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
11:37 am
@RandyT..they have that surgery..but I think it is completely idiotic for a man to expect his woman to be some kind of virgin at 40 plus but still have She-Wolf behavior(I am listening to Shakira right now) in the bedroom. Come on dude!
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
11:39 am
The world would be a much simpler place for women AND men, if women could go to Walgreens and get a new hymen before each relationship…and say “see, honey, you are the ONLY one
Randyt- I’m sending you the bill for this coffee stain on my sleeve from spitting out the sip I just took. LMAO!!!
Randyt (home from the land where men are men and sheep are scared)
June 25th, 2010
11:41 am
Just kidding Kym, I live in the real world too
Just another way of reflecting on how much information is enough, and how much is too much.
Leggs - [S]he's Out Of My Life
June 25th, 2010
11:43 am
@RandyT ~ no disrespect, but sounds like you dated some airheads. I don’t know of any woman that would say stuff like that all willy nilly!
When you said she said she had more lovers than her friend I immediately pictured you sitting on a bed talking with a prostitute!
True Story
June 25th, 2010
11:43 am
Met a man who told me his past on the first date – he said that he did’nt chase women, he use to run’em and he use to stay mellow to keep from having to get mellow – but now he is saved. lol
M. (pronouced M dot)
June 25th, 2010
11:45 am
@Melo
I think I hear your cape flapping in the wind. Do you save a lot of women?
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
11:46 am
Hey I want my woman slighly used.. You know like a good 45 used tire. You know its been on the road but the tread is still good and it has a lot of life left in it.. I like to stay away from the 35 used tires unless its an emergency but the 25 and 15 dollar tires get passed over quick.. You know the 25/15 got a lot of miles on em, might be a little flaky, have a slow leak, wont last long and would be considered as a Maypop. That thang may pop at anytime. So a good 45 dollar used tire is bout what Im looking for. It has all the Benefits of a new tire but is cheaper and broken in just right.
OOPS!
June 25th, 2010
11:48 am
“The world would be a much simpler place for women AND men, if women could go to Walgreens and get a new hymen before each relationship…and say “see, honey, you are the ONLY one”
@Randy – you are stupid and you must be dating sluts – because a woman who has not let men use and abuse her won’t have that problem.
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
11:48 am
@RandyT I know…I just can’t figure you fellows out. You want to meet a freak but she can not have developed her freakiness or gotten her freak on with some other dude(s).
Purple Rain
June 25th, 2010
11:49 am
Swiss, that’s the truth
Purple Rain
June 25th, 2010
11:51 am
Kym, there is a freaky quota. No more than one partner per year and it is relative to the age that she started having sex. Don’t confuse quality with quantity. LOL
Leggs - BAD
June 25th, 2010
11:51 am
@True Story ~ that tells me to put on my sneakers with the rollerblades and skidaddle!!!!
Willie Dynamite
June 25th, 2010
11:51 am
DK – 11:46 Exactly my man, exactly!!!
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
11:52 am
Dude i’m dating said he was looking at my pics on fb and could tell by the pics of my ex and I that we did a lot of body bumpin…I’m like wth are you talking about. You can’t gather that in a pic. But the amount of time we were together, what else would you expect. At least it wasn’t going on with random dudes. It’s sort of like when you have an old year plucker car that you don’t want to get rid of because you know just how to jingle the handle to get the door unlocked, you know exactly how many times you have to pump the gas to get the ignition to start, and you know that you have to put the gear into neutral at a red light or stop sign to keep the engine running.
Melo
June 25th, 2010
11:53 am
Do you save a lot of women?
@Mdot..
saving them as in how??
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
11:53 am
@PurpleRain..seriously a freaky quota? Lawd…well I started as a teenager.
i'm swiss
June 25th, 2010
11:53 am
“Lorena Bobbit, meet Purple Rain.. Purlple Rain, Lorena Bobbit.”
You still don’t care, dude???
Melo
June 25th, 2010
11:55 am
It has all the Benefits of a new tire but is cheaper and broken in just right.
@DK
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
11:59 am
@Swiss..Lorena Bobbitt has moved on..she sells real estate in VA, has a foundations for domestic violence..oh and has a three year old daughter..so some guy gave her a second chance.
Leggs - BAD
June 25th, 2010
11:59 am
@Im swiss ~ excellent example!!!
Leggs - BAD
June 25th, 2010
12:01 pm
@Kym ~ hope Sins of The Mother doesn’t pass along to the daughter. Just a thought!
i'm swiss
June 25th, 2010
12:01 pm
“…so some guy gave her a second chance.”
Hmph…. And I bet ol’ boy locks up the cutlery when he goes to bed at night, too…
True Story
June 25th, 2010
12:02 pm
@Leggs – I did – I ran fast!
Purple Rain
June 25th, 2010
12:03 pm
Swiss, my past is nowhere near clean. I don’t care except for those two things I listed.
Kym, how old are you? LOL
Melo
June 25th, 2010
12:04 pm
You want to meet a freak but she can not have developed her freakiness or gotten her freak on with some other dude(s).
@Kym!
we want the freaks to show their freakiness not from jump but slowly so much so that it appears(comouflaged) as if I helped her develop it.!
Leggs - Thriller
June 25th, 2010
12:06 pm
@Melo ~ you definitely have a valid point there!
i'm swiss
June 25th, 2010
12:07 pm
@ PR — Well, I commend you then. Not me, though. I don’t have that much faith in folks’ ability to truly change who/what they are. If you’ve demonstrated you are capable of doing something (by actually doing it in your past), then I’m pretty confident you could do it again.
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
12:07 pm
@Melo- So true. I had a buddy that was with this girl. She was a Mary Poppins type for 4 months. He liked it at first because of course he is thinking he has a newbie. But got real disturbed after about 6 months when she just was sooooo freaky out the clear blue.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
12:09 pm
Ok if you can own a home for 20 grand in the A why wouldnt you? Are you not aware that the rent you pay doesnt help you out in any way? Im confused? Oh cause its not a house in Buckhead where your Apt is. Ok I get it.. and for 40 grand you can get something really nice right now. Oh you dont want to cut grass.. I was speaking of a condo.. Ok live in the APT and throw you money away.. Hey how bout I buy a 20 grand house and keep the grass cut and you pay me??
This is a convo I am having with my cousin on the phone..
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
12:09 pm
@Kym- One thing he knows from Lorena’s past is if he is caught cheating and beating then its off with his head. (the little one)
M. (pronouced M dot)
June 25th, 2010
12:11 pm
@Melo
Coming to their rescue, being the knight in shining armour.
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
12:11 pm
@DK- Don’t waste too much time. I have a little cousin that I have had those same type of conversations with and unfortunately the logic level is not as high as your blood pressure will be if you think you will convince him of something that makes perfect sense.
Purple Rain
June 25th, 2010
12:11 pm
Swiss, my whole current life is based on a second chance. Heck my family friends and wife gave me a second chance from my criminal past and prison time.
Leggs - Beat It
June 25th, 2010
12:12 pm
@InfamousD ~ he’s young and just starting out, right??? Their brain cells are still trying to find that synapse labeled “Reality.”
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
12:13 pm
Swiss – I used to sell drugs. Now if I even suspect anything illegal is going on Im damn near running out the place. If you got more than a dub of dank on you I cant be around you and even then Im still not riding with you and that little dub. Now dont talk to me about drugs or try to get the hook up to my “Old Plug” cause Im gonna look at you and again walk expeditiously away from you.
Leggs - Cry
June 25th, 2010
12:13 pm
That cat jumped right out the bag! Not that you’re hiding anything, PR!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
12:14 pm
Leggs/Dig – Its a Girl… Its a She that Graduated from Spelman and she aint that young.. Shes almost 30.
Purple Rain
June 25th, 2010
12:14 pm
Infamous, I understand your 12:13 fully.
i'm swiss
June 25th, 2010
12:15 pm
@ PR — There are always exceptions & it sounds like you are one. But I play the odds. And the odds are that most people are what they are & don’t every substantively change.
Purple Rain
June 25th, 2010
12:15 pm
Leggs, I do not understand your last blog entry?
Melo
June 25th, 2010
12:16 pm
But got real disturbed after about 6 months when she just was sooooo freaky out the clear blue.
@Dig That/Leggs!
it does not help women,esp..in the dating game to be naive. Nice girls get benched for exactly those reasons.. and yes men have fragile egos, wont admit it and it still ends up ur(female) loss if u dont recognize game,esp if u wanna be married or in longterm relaship.
Unless dude is a professional porn star!
Purple Rain
June 25th, 2010
12:16 pm
Swiss, I understand what you are saying. I think as people mature they learn from their past mistakes if the experience was traumatic enough.
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
12:18 pm
@PR- That is probably why we understand why second chances are so important when you embrace and change.
@DK- Still applies bruh. My little cuz I was talking about is 35. Sometimes we have to let them fall apart. Everybody can’t appreciate wisdom.
Melo
June 25th, 2010
12:19 pm
Coming to their rescue, being the knight in shining armour
@Mdot!!
i wldnt have the resources,even if i wanted to.
Purple Rain
June 25th, 2010
12:20 pm
Dig That, I agree.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
12:22 pm
Dig – Yeah you right..
Willie Dynamite
June 25th, 2010
12:25 pm
DK – 12:13 Exactly my man, exactly.
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
12:25 pm
The world would be a much simpler place for women AND men, if women could go to Walgreens and get a new hymen before each relationship…and say “see, honey, you are the ONLY one”.
we want the freaks to show their freakiness not from jump but slowly so much so that it appears(comouflaged) as if I helped her develop it
Typical….
Purple Rain
June 25th, 2010
12:27 pm
I could careless about the guy but I thought this was funny
“I wanna rock with you’, but you ‘wanna be startin something’ and that’s why I told you to ‘beat it’. I can’t help but ‘remember the times’ when you were my ‘PYT’ and I miss you ‘Billie Jean’ but I’m Ok cause ‘I’m bad’….”
Leggs - U Wanna Be Starting Something
June 25th, 2010
12:32 pm
@PR ~ was just commenting on your prison time. You’ve always stated you family and Julia gave you second chances and believed in you when you didn’t. You may have revealed prison here before, but it’s the first I’m reading it. No sweat! I fully understand your willingness to give second chances in certain areas. Kudos!
Liked your song story!
@InfamousD ~ 30….CLICK (J/K)
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
12:34 pm
@swiss she is all about working to prevent domestic violence now..
@Purple Rain I am 38 why? OH lawd..whateva joker!
@Melo…sounds to me like dudes encourge a chick to lie to them..”Dont spring it all on me at once..”
Purple Rain
June 25th, 2010
12:36 pm
Leggs, oh I thought you were on the here when it was discussed, I never try and hide it from anyone. When I was dating I would let the prospects know early
LOL, In my mind I always thought I was still a “catch” LOL
I’m on a horse.
Purple Rain
June 25th, 2010
12:39 pm
Kym, 38 and you started at say age 17 having sex. So you should have no more than 21 sexual partners in your pas with at +/-3 tolerance
Purple Rain
June 25th, 2010
12:39 pm
past..LOL
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
12:39 pm
Protect ur horse. I was reading yesterday about a dude getting arrested for having sex with SEVERAL horses yesterday. Very disturbing.
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
12:40 pm
@PurpleRain..I lost my virginity right after my 16th birthday.
i'm swiss
June 25th, 2010
12:41 pm
Dig — Yeah, I saw that horse story the other day… What I wanna know (and what the article I read didn’t say) is… was he pitching or catching???
Melo
June 25th, 2010
12:42 pm
encourge a chick to lie to them..”Dont spring it all on me at once
@Kym??
I disagree..coz i wldnt want to disclose evething to my new partner either..not lying per se.. if my ex was better than my current in bed,wld i be obligated to disclose to her that fact just for disclosure(honesty?) sake??
some things are not good for the psyche..they dont bolster confidence in the person that they are disclosed to..so let sleeping dogs lie.
Sex is proly one thing thats high up there on a man’s psyche/ego watchlist. Another is the kids.
Never tell a man,even in jest/anger,that this kid is not urs! Bad call!
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
12:42 pm
Harpo who dis woman….
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
12:46 pm
Man we grown if you freaky be freaky cause if I find out you lying and holding out on me you gone.. I can deal with a honest chick without a doubt.. But a fake a$$ 3 dollar bill.. I cant dont nothing wit ya..
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
12:46 pm
@swiss- Ain’t no dayum telling. If you sick enough to pitch you might be crazy enough to catch. But he would probably have to take a trip to the hospital before jail if was catching too. Lol
LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)
June 25th, 2010
12:47 pm
What’s is going on tonight women of the blog world? Who’s want a drink BIG DADDY LURKER is buying! YEA BABY!
@Randy….I would have thought damm this is gonna go down in the car,I don’t have to use the Mary Jane tonight! YEAHHHHHH
@Do not hold your freak side from me, I want to see all you moves, skills and tricks with-in the first week of SEXING……..Don’t stop till you get enough! HE,HE,HE! YEAAAA BABY!
Leggs - Remember the Time
June 25th, 2010
12:49 pm
@DigThat ~ you beat me to the punch re the horse and the dude!
Leggs - Remember the Time
June 25th, 2010
12:50 pm
Great, Remember the Time is playing…love this song!
i'm swiss
June 25th, 2010
12:51 pm
DK — To me, not all illegal activities are created equal. Personally, I don’t even think drugs should be illegal in the first place, so I don’t necessarily think of drug dealers as bad people, even though they are doing something illegal. (Hell, I’ve smoked my share of weed in my day, so I’ve broken that law, too.) But when you start talking about a past of violence… to me that speaks more to a person’s character than whether or not they ever broke the civil law — and it’s character that’s tough to change…
Leggs - Beat It
June 25th, 2010
12:55 pm
@Im swiss ~ exactly. One may not repeat that particular crime, but if your character hasn’t developed, you’re stuck and more than likely WILL repeat. Take Joran van der Sloot!!!!
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
12:57 pm
Leroy…That’s an older name and your response is more telling. Sorry, is probably even more telling. I just have found that my experience with younger guys have been more exciting, I have learned more new things with a younger guy in that area. Old guys, know what they know, and do the same things they always do. At least the few I’ve tried. Maybe, that isn’t how you may be but that has been my experience.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
12:58 pm
Swiss – Ok You have a point..
Leggs – Joran is getting his just desserts.. He is now “The Clowns” Sex Slave. Trujillo aka The Clown is/was one of Columbias most notorious Hitmen. He did work for the Cartels..
Melo
June 25th, 2010
12:58 pm
I don’t necessarily think of drug dealers as bad people, even though they are doing something illegal.
@Swiss??
i hear what u saying ..do u think there is/shld be a distinction tween Big time dealers as opposed to small time??
Big time dealers easily transition to murders in my view, es when the stakes get bigger!
Am i wrong??
AmazonRed™ - Ready to groove
June 25th, 2010
12:58 pm
Nobody is going to get approached by a 45 year old man or meet a 45 year old woman and just assume that they are so lucky,that man/woman has been waiting all his lyfe just for her/him!
I’m not?
Melo
June 25th, 2010
12:59 pm
esp when!
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
12:59 pm
@Leggs- We live in a crazy world homie.
Purple Rain
June 25th, 2010
1:02 pm
I have it in me but I know I wont resort back to violence nor dealing in drugs.
Have a great weekend 
‘a presto’
LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)
June 25th, 2010
1:04 pm
@Infamous…..I think Kym might fit your picture….38 plus with a little wear the tread and has a lot of miles to go! YEA BABY…..
Now Leggs is in retread mode and is ready the to use her michelin tiger treads on somebody….Leggs is going to tear up somebody very soon!!!!!!!
@I see Kitty Kat is getting that old puddy turned upside down by the young bucks. Go head Kitty Kat do yo thing!
@Kitty Kat what age range are you talking about when you say old guys?
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
1:07 pm
Kitty – See the difference with a Seasoned Dude is this.. They know what you are off top.. A youngsta cant see ya.. I dont consider myself old but I definitely aint a youngsta.. Im at that right age where I’ll beat ya back out and I mos def know the difference between a jumpoff and a lady.. And as far as you learning from young dudes speak volumes of you.. You waited late to start really jumpin off and that you can only handle young dudes.. I aint Baby Boy.. Im Melvin.. How you want ya Eggs?
Purple Rain
June 25th, 2010
1:07 pm
Melo, you are very right and once again I am thankful for second chances.
‘ciao
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
1:09 pm
Purp – Wheres Carlito?
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
1:10 pm
Clowns to the right of me..jokers to the left..
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
1:10 pm
and it’s character that’s tough to change…
Swiss I agree that people’s character almost never changes. Their circumstances may change, but the underlying character generally doesn’t. There’s this dude I grew up with. He always had a reputation as a grimy, shady type character. Always looking for the next scheme or person to hustle. I ran into him years later in LA, and he was clean cut, well-spoken, running his own real estate financing business…seemed to have done a complete turn-around. Not too long after that, he was busted for being involved in some shady real estate transactions. Different circumstances, same character.
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
1:11 pm
Alright nah Kym…
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
1:15 pm
and it’s character that’s tough to change…
Swiss I agree that people’s character almost never changes. Their circumstances may change, but the underlying character generally doesn’t. There’s this dude I grew up with. He always had a reputation as a shady type character. Always looking for the next scheme or person to hustle. I ran into him years later in LA, and he was clean cut, well-spoken, running his own real estate financing business…seemed to have done a complete turn-around. Not too long after that, he was busted for being involved in some shady real estate transactions. Different circumstances, same character.
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
1:16 pm
I aint Baby Boy.. Im Melvin.. How you want ya Eggs?
!!!!!!!!!!
I like mine scrambled but not too hard daddy
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
1:17 pm
and it’s character that’s tough to change…
Swiss I agree that people’s character almost never changes. Their circumstances may change, but the underlying character generally doesn’t. There’s this dude I grew up with. He always had a reputation as a grimy type character. Always looking for the next scheme or person to hustle. I ran into him years later in LA, and he was clean cut, well-spoken, running his own real estate financing business…seemed to have done a complete turn-around. Not too long after that, he was hemmed up for being involved in some illegal real estate transactions. Different circumstances, same character.
Brooklyn Mint
June 25th, 2010
1:17 pm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HER1RxputAw
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
1:18 pm
and it’s character that’s tough to change…
Swiss I agree that people’s character almost never changes. Their circumstances may change, but the underlying character generally doesn’t. There’s this cat I grew up with. He always had a reputation as a grimy type character. Always looking for the next scam or person to get over on. I ran into him years later in LA, and he was clean cut, well-spoken, running his own real estate financing business…seemed to have done a complete turn-around. Not too long after that, he was hemmed up for being involved in some illegal real estate transactions. Different circumstances, same character.
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
1:20 pm
LET MY POST THROUGH BLOG FILTER!
LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)
June 25th, 2010
1:20 pm
I was in Macon, Georgia about 3 weeks and I heard a load voice screaming out the name Sassy, Oh Sassy! Conclusion…. You best be ready because Sassy will make you scream. ISLAND GURL
What it do Dirty Diana?
Leggs - Beat It
June 25th, 2010
1:24 pm
@InfamousD ~ I know. I commented last week how ironic it is that his cellmate is a hitman!
@LURKER ~ you always make me smile!
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
1:24 pm
Clowns to the right of me..jokers to the left…
This is a little too slow of a Friday…
Umm whatchu tryna do Dreams?
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
1:27 pm
Has anybody heard anything about the new iphone?
sexyCOOL
June 25th, 2010
1:31 pm
“I’m starting with the man in the mirror.” MJ FOREVER!!!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
1:31 pm
Sessy -
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
1:32 pm
Leroy!!!!! You are funny…..for an old guy. LMBO!!!!
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
1:32 pm
Sassy I ain’t tryna do nothin…being good. Blog filter is eating up my post, but I can’t tell which word it doesn’t like. The post is G-rated, I promise. lol
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
1:32 pm
just kidding
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
1:33 pm
Kitty – Yeah I’ll be your Daddy… Now get me money!!!
i'm swiss
June 25th, 2010
1:33 pm
Melo — Yeah, once the big dealers cross the line into murder, I would consider them murderers, not just drug dealers…
Leggs - Stop In the Name of Love
June 25th, 2010
1:34 pm
Ok, he done gon and did it. Why o why???
I just got off the phone with the guy who took me to Rays. We’ve had some pleasant conversations since that dinner. We’re just chatting along when he pops the question. “Am I ever going to ask him out on a date. I don’t use this word often, but I managed to say “HUH!” Collected myself and told him I’ve only been out with him once, the thought of asking him out hasn’t crossed my mind just yet. I don’t mind asking a man out on a date, but we’re both still trying to find out if there’s something to pursue. And by the way, I reminded him that I invited him out to lunch. Not that he has to do all the pursuing, but after one date I didn’t think to ask him out to dinner. Heck I was about to get around to inviting him to my place for dinner. Nothing really wrong, but I thought he wanted to court. I know this is 2010 and we are independent, but we also talk a lot about the natural flow of pursuit. Men are the hunters and women are the prey. Silly me, I thought I was being hunted. Guess not, cuz he said he doesn’t want to spend too much $$ on me if I’m not going to reciprocate.
@LURKER ~ think that hurt I may put on someone will have to wait a little longer!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
1:34 pm
Kitty – I know.. And I would love to bounce/bunny hop you around in front of the TV..
Melo
June 25th, 2010
1:35 pm
Has anybody heard anything about the new iphone
@Dig That??
I have,this morning on geek merning amrica(tv)(in my arab twang)
Incidentally, i dropped my iphone and it went bonkers dead…. now i have to replace it with the new new 4g.
How opportune??
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
1:36 pm
Leroy, I think you mean GRANDADDY! LMBO!!!! That’s funny and cute awwwww. Grandpa thinks he’s doing something. Be careful you might think to hard and break a hip. ROFL!!!!
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
1:37 pm
you dirty old man!!! shame shame!!! ROFL!!!!
Melo
June 25th, 2010
1:38 pm
Dreamz??
u the mathematician, i thgoht u wld calculate the odds of ur post posting successfully be4 u hit submit!
It's me....lurker
June 25th, 2010
1:38 pm
was he pitching or catching???
that’s just nasty all around. We’re talking at least 18 inches….that’s enough to make a person pass out, cross over even.
Melo
June 25th, 2010
1:38 pm
Leggs..check ur mail woman!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
1:40 pm
Kitty – Yeah I’ll break a hip all right.. and a pelvis.. Cause I lay down heavy and go pleanty deep…
AmazonRed™ - Ready to groove
June 25th, 2010
1:40 pm
he said he doesn’t want to spend too much $$ on me if I’m not going to reciprocate.
Leggs – Please tell me you are joking. WHO DOES THAT?!
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
1:41 pm
Leroy- Awwww so cute granpy. Now, wake up, you’re drooling. LMBO!!!
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
1:41 pm
Guess not, cuz he said he doesn’t want to spend too much $$ on me if I’m not going to reciprocate.
AmazonRed™ - Ready to groove
June 25th, 2010
1:41 pm
Dig That – One of my church friends posted that he waited in line 18 hours to get his iphone yesterday. That’s right 1-8.
I’m seriously considering defriending him. Is that what Jesus would do?
Melo
June 25th, 2010
1:43 pm
@Leggs??
he is right. U both grown and mature and u dont have to play by the rules of the young.
and remember, i asked u last time about the kiss when u went to his house and u said that was a grown up mature move….
do the right thing and make a mature grown move on him…..like that kiss suggested.
u deserve it!
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
1:44 pm
Cause I lay down heavy and go pleanty deep…
Viagra done started all kinds of isht….
I kid…I kid…I’m bored shoot.
LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)
June 25th, 2010
1:44 pm
@Leggs…. Hang in there leggs( In my Sam Cook Voice) Change gonna come! We will make that back busting, body sweat, Orgasmatic screaming gonna CUMMMMMM! YEAH BABY!!!!
@Leggs…Don’t blow him off just yet,he just might be testing you!
@Sassy can you please explain to a LURKER what kind of Voodoo you put on that young buck? Enquiring minds would like to know………YEAHHHHHH
P.S. full details!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
1:44 pm
Kitty – I got my Geritol and Old spice ready for ya.. Lets get it..
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
1:46 pm
ROFL!!!!
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
1:46 pm
Thanks Leroy you made my day!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
1:47 pm
Sassy – Viagra done started all kinds of isht
My pipes dont need extra pressure to work.. I still get Morning Wood.. Which is a beautiful thing by the way.
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
1:51 pm
You know some of my girlfriends are talking about dating older, 40 something men. I’m getting there but I’m thinking that older guys have already lived life and don’t wantto do things like have children. I’m thinking that they have already done that and it wouldn’t be as exciting and special for themand those that haven’t, well it’s because they don’t to. Those guys are most likely players anyway, played all their lives and still trying to wear sunglasses in the club.
Leggs - Stop In the Name of Love
June 25th, 2010
1:53 pm
@ARed ~ I surmise old heads who’ve gotten burned while dating younger chicks. I don’t know.
@Melo ~ no one is playing by the rules of the young. It’s the rules of man and woman. I can reciprocate and spend the same amount of $ or more if I want to. The point is who the hell says that after one date??? It is such a turnoff. Sure, he knew about how much he would spend by taking me to Rays. If you’re gonna bytch about it a few weeks later, sure wish you never took me!
@LURKER ~ and….much like RandyT and his girl remember being in the back with a past lover, or the other girl who bragged about having more lovers than her friend and the desire leaving your system. I’m experiencing the same feeling!!!
Young games, Melo, I’m too old for this tit for tat BS!
I’m going to get me a cold glass of water and pretend it’s Patron!!!!
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
1:53 pm
u the mathematician, i thgoht u wld calculate the odds of ur post posting successfully be4 u hit submit!
Melo I did calculate the odds. lol Apparently, whoever designed the blog filter hasn’t had enough exposure to information theory to develop an effective algorithm. haha
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
1:54 pm
ARED- He is not the only one, but just like Melo I think I jacked mine up at the right time.
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
1:54 pm
Morning wood? Are you sure it isn’t a morning slinky or a morning thawed weiner?
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
1:56 pm
@DK Dude I thought you were younger than me? What is this about viagra? Wait am I reading this thread wrong?
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
1:58 pm
kitty kat, DK done hooked you already, even you haven’t realized. don’t fight the reel, just swim on to the boat.
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
1:58 pm
I still get Morning Wood.. Which is a beautiful thing by the way.
That’s how I feel when I get it,too.
what kind of Voodoo you put on that young buck?
As I’ve said earlier…I’m thorough,in my prime and like T.I. said in one of his jawns off the “Urban Legend” cd….I done shown him some thangs he aint never seen befo…
Randyt (home from the land where men are men and sheep are scared)
June 25th, 2010
1:59 pm
@ Leggs re: he said he doesn’t want to spend too much $$ on me if I’m not going to reciprocate.
Sounds about like time to practice for that $1,000,000 Dr.Pepper Field Goal contest by kicking his azz to the curb
Not because he was cheap, but because he weas dumb enough to say that…kind of like those ladies I mentioned 
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
2:00 pm
@ dreams…What???
AmazonRed™ - Ready to groove
June 25th, 2010
2:00 pm
@Leggs…Don’t blow him off just yet,he just might be testing you!
And that would be exactly why she should blow him off.
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
2:00 pm
I done shown her some thangs he aint never seen befo…
@Sassy- and that is why we wind up having to have those conversations and watch the sad faces. Lol
Melo
June 25th, 2010
2:02 pm
Leggs??
I hear ur 1.53 but i dont buy it for this reason: i thoght part of being grown and mature is going for what u want,unabashed..no wasting time,no game.
No wonder the grown up woman kiss. I take it.
Now,if u like him,why wld u want to have him go to great lenghts courting u when u can show that by receiprocating and inviting him on a date as well?
He is not asking that coz of the money he spend, i think more so coz of the confidence u showed in him by going to his house and kissing him.
I wdnt expect that on a date if i were 30 with a chic 2 years my junior.
Randyt (home from the land where men are men and sheep are scared)
June 25th, 2010
2:03 pm
Regarding dating 40+ men, I feel obligated to quote country philosopher Lamar Spangler who stated the following, “I’m not as good as I once was, but I am as good ONCE as I ever was”. Practice and experience count
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
2:05 pm
Kym – Im not over 40 and I mos def got jokes..
kimmie
June 25th, 2010
2:07 pm
Leggs – When you first mentioned Ray on the blog, didn’t you say HE SAID he was interviewing for the position of SUGAR DADDY?
Looks like he’ll be getting his standard form letter in the mail!LOL!
Dear Mr. Ray,
Thank you for your interest in the Sugar Daddy position. While your qualifications in the begining were impressive, I decided to not fill the position at this time.
Good luck in your future endeavors.
Sincerely,
Leggs!
Randyt (home from the land where men are men and sheep are scared)
June 25th, 2010
2:08 pm
lol @ kimmie
LURKS
June 25th, 2010
2:09 pm
Tell the truth and shame the devil. You’re a regular that’s wanting to get at LEROY but you dare not reveal that in your truest form.
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
2:10 pm
and that is why we wind up having to have those conversations and watch the sad faces.
I know right!? And since he is/was soo much younger than I am I thought it would’ve been easier to let him/it go….meaning he wouldn’t really have an issue given the “nature” of our understanding.
Leggs - Stop In the Name of Love
June 25th, 2010
2:11 pm
@Kym ~ DK is pulling your leg re viagra (I believe).
@Melo ~ no one said anything about going to “great lenghts” to court me. All I’m saying is the way he went about it is tacky at best. No one ever said honesty and tackiness were cousins.
He is not asking that coz of the money he spend, i think more so coz of the confidence u showed in him by going to his house and kissing him. WRONG!
He is asking because of the money he spent. I can understand your logic better if I had straddled him, held is face in my hands and wiped my face with his tongue.
He leaned down to kiss me and I kissed him back. We weren’t “busting slob” all over the place. Doesn’t take confidence to kiss someone back. Even a shy person can pull this off.
Also, even by “going for what you want” some time is wasted. You do have to get to know the person.
kimmie
June 25th, 2010
2:16 pm
He is asking because of the money he spent.
Absolutely!
Old Mack + Cheap + Tacky = Zero!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
2:18 pm
Kitty – Im unlike your average bear.. I enjoy seeing the female getting where she needs to go more than anything.. It gives me great joy to see a babe with that look in her eye afterwards.. That “I rode the Scream Machine” look.. That I cant believe all that just happened to me look.. That I just danced with the Devil under the pale moonlight look..
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
2:19 pm
Old Mack + Cheap + Tacky = Zero!
Zip,Zilch….NADA!!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
2:22 pm
Sassy – Nah what happens is what Shaunie’s Lil dude did.. He went on Twitter and started tweeting until Shaunie told him to take it down.. Which he did… Sucka.. You cut him off after youve thrown that grown lady upside his head.. He might start crying or sitting outside ya house or something “Young” like that.. Or again he might go to tweetin about you..
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
2:23 pm
Leggs – if you’re not careful old dude might try to sue you your half of the meal from Rays…do yall recall when a guy did that to this chick who he went out with???
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
2:24 pm
kicking his azz to the curb Not because he was cheap, but because he weas dumb enough to say that…
Ditto…
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
2:24 pm
Enter your comments here
Melo
June 25th, 2010
2:24 pm
@Leggs??
so whatchu go do??
(I am in Ray Ray’s corner tho) so i aint going to argue for him anymore coz it wont help his case anyway)
Leggs - Smooth Criminal
June 25th, 2010
2:26 pm
@SlimOne ~ no, I don’t remember that…WOW!
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
2:28 pm
‘That I just danced with the Devil under the pale moonlight look..’
DK –
Me loves me some Prince wit his freaky deaky self. 
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
2:28 pm
Kitty – come on in. I got a 4yr almost 5yr old that needs a lil sister.. Let me get him a lil sister out ya..
Leggs - Smooth Criminal
June 25th, 2010
2:30 pm
@Melo ~ nada! I told him how I felt. I’m not going to lecture him on tackiness, smoothness, go with the flow, etc. This man knows what he’s doing. If he wants to call me again he will. If not, I’ll keep my mind open to meeting someone else somewhere else!!!!
LURKS
June 25th, 2010
2:30 pm
Lucious lovin’ Leroy lustly loves ladies. Loquaciously lures, licks, lay. Lacks love. Lastly, loomingly leaves. Love ‘em. Leave ‘em.
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
2:30 pm
Leggs – it might’ve been last year or the year before where they had that story on the radio. This guy met this chick, i want to say online, but they went out to some expensive place, ordered wine..the whole nine. I believe the lady had to go out of town on business so she hadn’t been returning the guys calls. So they have played the voicemail messages from the dude on her voicemail…I guess he felt she got flaky on him. But each message was progressively more angry until he basically said she needed to reimburse him for her half of the tab. It was hilarious
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
2:31 pm
Slim – I loves to be freaky.. That bedroom missionary sex aint for me.. I might rub ya boohooty at the office party being discrete of course.. But yeah.. And give you the look like.. Anytime Anyplace.. Cause you cant threaten me with a good time..
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
2:34 pm
Lurks – Is that you baby.. Whats wrong Daddy aint showing you know attention.. Well have no fear.. Daddy will beat your Tamborine too.. Boo.. Come on Baby… Let me rub on that juicebox and squeeze them biscuits..
kimmie
June 25th, 2010
2:34 pm
Slim – I remember that case now! I think they played the messages on Q100, but I’m sure it ran all over the country.
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
2:37 pm
WTH?? Alright Wisey already warned ya’ll..
Melo
June 25th, 2010
2:38 pm
to lecture him on tackiness, smoothness, go with the flow, etc
@Leggs?? smoothness is game.
too bad u aint BMW…she prefers that kinda honesty like Ray showed and more;;……
Ray: baby,im gon spend this much $$$$ on ur tonite then when we go back to the crib,im gon beat down that nana of urs real good!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
2:42 pm
Leggs – He was trying you to see what you would do… If you said Ok I’ll take you out.. Then he would have came up nd ya’ll wouldve been out on a date on your dime.. I’ll never ask but if you never part your purse after a while then eventually Im gonna just stop taking us out. One of two things will happen eventually you’ll get tired of sitting around and want to take us out or we’ll fade out..
kimmie
June 25th, 2010
2:47 pm
Goodness, does this “who pays for dates” stuff ever go away, even with age?
I mean Leggs, you said you invited him to lunch. That doesn’t count? Dang!
Kevin James
June 25th, 2010
2:49 pm
A woman puts a B.O.B. and a banana on the nightstand next to her bed. The banana looks over and says to the B.O.B. “I don’t know why you are shaking, she’s gonna eat me!”
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
2:51 pm
See Leggs, you should have just skipped Ray’s on the River and come to Chateau de Dreams for your seafood medley.
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
2:55 pm
@kimmie- Yeah she invited him to lunch but he is more concerned with who paid for it tho. Big Ray is like I ain’t gon spend another dollar if you ain’t giving me dat booty. Hurry up girl!!!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
2:55 pm
Kimmie – Some dudes still think taking a chicks to Rays guarantees some sex. If the chick digs you, you can take her to Busy B’s on MLK and its all good cause shes gonna wanna be where ever you are.. It doesnt matter..
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
2:55 pm
Goodness, does this “who pays for dates” stuff ever go away, even with age?
No, because 99.99% of the time women don’t pay. But like PopG said, some double standards work in your favor, and some work against you.
Melo
June 25th, 2010
2:56 pm
@Kevin??
Dang..is it that bad with singles out there??
they have to bring a banana to approximate/imitate a blow job and then B.O.B??
P I TI FU L
F. W. B. sounds much better and dignified.
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
2:56 pm
You cut him off after youve thrown that grown lady upside his head.. He might start crying or sitting outside ya house or something “Young” like that..
LOL @ “grown lady”.
But seriously DK maybe I did have him looking like
after a few of our sessions but damn we grown. He bet not be outside my house when I get home today or I’m calling Clayton County and they roll deep.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
2:57 pm
whats a B.O.B? Bombs over Baghdad. A rapper who sings “Got nothing on you” I dont know?
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
2:57 pm
what is poppin’ on the plaground folks???!!!????? lol
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
2:59 pm
If the chick digs you, you can take her to Busy B’s on MLK and its all good cause shes gonna wanna be where ever you are..
Awwww that just made me feel all warm n fuzzy…..
Leggs - Smooth Criminal
June 25th, 2010
2:59 pm
@Melo ~ you read it wrong, I’m not going to lecture him on the art of smoothness…he wasn’t smooth. I appreciate his honesty, just didn’t like the delivery. Smooth, he isn’t!
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
3:00 pm
BOB = Battery Operated Boyfriend..
Poppa Grande
June 25th, 2010
3:00 pm
Enter your comments here
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
3:01 pm
Kym – Oh Dang…
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
3:01 pm
can’t catch up….I am aging! lol
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
3:03 pm
DUMP DAT CHOMP. sweatin a dime on jus date #2?
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
3:03 pm
‘Some dudes still think taking a chicks to Rays guarantees some sex.’
I’d rather the dude have just given me the money he would’ve spent on the meal and I would’ve kissed him on the spot. It would be the same result and that money could go to something a little more productive like my car note.
‘I loves to be freaky’
DK – well as stated before, guess some dudes can’t handle a chick who is comfortable with sex & her inner-freak. It’s like a catch 22…if you’re boring in bed then you get talked about or looked at crazy…if you know how to swing from the chandelier with only one hand and the other one holding your other leg behind your head w/o skipping a beat, you get looked at crazy. Can’t win for losing.
kimmie
June 25th, 2010
3:04 pm
If the chick digs you, you can take her to Busy B’s on MLK and its all good cause shes gonna wanna be where ever you are.. It doesnt matter..
DK – Now you right about that!
Dreams – It’s just my pet peeve, in fact, it’s a dealbreaker with me, counting pennies. But then it’s never been an issue with me because I have no problem reciprocating. But please don’t make me feel like you’re doing me any favors by spending your little change on me!
It just trips me out that he pulled the classic simp move – he lead with his wallet and can’t keep up but still expects something! SIMP!
Leggs - Smooth Criminal
June 25th, 2010
3:05 pm
@kimmie ~ apparently not.
@Infamous ~ I believe a woman’s purse should be open, but damn I only went out with 1.5 weeks ago. Give me time to ask. Why you gotta jump the gun like I’m some skeezer trying to beat you out of your money. Yes, that’s exactly how I took it.
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
3:05 pm
Have a grreat weekend errbody!!
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
3:06 pm
Wassup MR LURKER! I saw your shout out, and you know I have a bone to pick with you! Where is happy hour I might just stop thru YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
@Infamous DK let me ask you this. How do you feel if the date is going well and the lady ask to extend the date by treating you to a drink? Does that count?
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
3:06 pm
Kimmie – Some dudes still think taking a chicks to Rays guarantees some sex.
Funny thing is Ray’s is just ooooookay. Take a chick to a spot everyone else thinks is fancy and expect to get some…it’s the lazy dater’s MO. He could have taken her Elon’s, got an assortment of dishes and a bottle of wine, post up in a quiet outdoor location, eat, converse, enjoy each other.
Sassy Me...You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
3:08 pm
if you know how to swing from the chandelier with only one hand and the other one holding your other leg behind your head w/o skipping a beat, you get looked at crazy.
That’s a hell of a visual…okay now I’m OWT.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
3:09 pm
Dirty Diana what’s up chica!!!
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
3:09 pm
‘Why you gotta jump the gun like I’m some skeezer trying to beat you out of your money’
Leggs – it wasn’t like you waiting for him to go in for the kiss just to start crying and saying how your lights were about to get cut off or left an eviction notice in plain sight for him to ask you about
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
3:11 pm
Sass a Frass – It takes a special guy to appreciate that there coochie.
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
3:11 pm
‘If the chick digs you, you can take her to Busy B’s on MLK and its all good cause shes gonna wanna be where ever you are.. It doesnt matter..’
DK – Hi five for that one…we could go to the candy lady’s house up the street, buy 2 packs of hot fries and a screwball ice cream cone and be happy as can be. It’s the little things when you’re into someone
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
3:12 pm
leggs can I get an overview pls professor somebody…….
Melo
June 25th, 2010
3:13 pm
if you’re boring in bed then you get talked about
@Slim…
nope u dont…they feel encouraged to show u some thangs coz they feel empowered.
guys talk about/compare notes when they “feel she’s is a slutt”…after u gone.
It is not necessarily a truism that she is a slut.
Just a mental power move!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
3:14 pm
Dirty D – Ha ha Pooty Tang… But Ah Hem.. Yes it does count. It actually gets her points in my book. It aint the money she spends its the gesture.. Now if she goes to the bar and gets the drink and purposely lets me watch the money maker while she walks away then.. She wins..
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
3:17 pm
Dreams – It’s just my pet peeve, in fact, it’s a dealbreaker with me, counting pennies.
kimmie I know it irritates you…you’ve mentioned it before. lol Some dudes learn to get over this bias, other dudes ask when they’ll get some reciprocity.
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
3:17 pm
@Leggs Charge it to the game and move on..no need to sweat or waste precious oxygen on Mr. Little Big Time.
kimmie
June 25th, 2010
3:17 pm
Dreams – Ray’s, Elon’s, Busy B, Checkers, Waffle House – whereever, you still don’t throw it up in a lady’s face that you expect something before you spend anymore money!
kimmie
June 25th, 2010
3:18 pm
I know it irritates you
Dreams –
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 25th, 2010
3:20 pm
Seriously Big Boys know that dating is apart of the game.. They also know when to cut their losses.. Cause it aint no Booty on that Treasure Island..
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
3:22 pm
melo – but if you have a boring bed buddy, don’t you seek more of a thrill elsewhere?
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
3:22 pm
you still don’t throw it up in a lady’s face that you expect something before you spend anymore money!
I would never say anything like that. We just wouldn’t go on anymore dates. It makes the point just as well. HAHA
Leggs - It's Just Another Part of Me.
June 25th, 2010
3:22 pm
@SlimOne ~ that was funny! Exactly.
@LadyJ ~ read my 1:34. That’ll catch you up to speed.
@DreamsM ~ seafood melody. Hmmmmmm……
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
3:22 pm
Ladies would you rather be considered a BORE IN BED or ADVENTUROUS?
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
3:23 pm
You know all this talk about old dudes reminds me of this old grandpa(trust me..he had a grandbaby with him in the store) gave me his # telling me how handy he is around the house..All I kept thinking is so is my daddy and you are about as old as him. Old men give you worms..LMAO
Leggs - It's Just Another Part of Me.
June 25th, 2010
3:23 pm
Adventurous….good or bad!
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
3:24 pm
I guess I never sweat it because I figure I’m gon talk my way in the panties over dinner anyway.
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
3:26 pm
@DK, I have made those gestures before. BTW I’ve been on dates when we talked about wanting to see a certain movie, or doing certain things. So I would ask the guy out on a future date. The funny thing is I’ve had guys still
I don’t understand that, but it has happened often.
trypay and I did the asking. They would say your money is not good here.@Lady J I have not a clue I just jumped in on the topic and started typing. I am looking for MR LURKER he said he wanted to buy us a drank hell I would buy him one if he say YEAHHHHHHHHH a few times
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
3:27 pm
@KYM…I was taught the same thing, Old men give you woems, I just didn’t want to say it. LMBO!!! Thank you for saying it.
kimmie
June 25th, 2010
3:27 pm
It’s Just Another Part of Me, Smooth Criminal
Dang Leggs, you’re playing some of my favorites!
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
3:27 pm
oh my I see that’s my point…..it is what it is leggs……..
Poppa Grande
June 25th, 2010
3:28 pm
Old men give you worms..
So, that is what led to Anna Nicole Smith’s demise. Worms from her old man, ahem, husband.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
3:29 pm
mr lurker where is happy hour bruh hit this southern gal up lol ladyj_0817@yahoo.com YEAH!!!!!!!!!
kimmie
June 25th, 2010
3:31 pm
The funny thing is I’ve had guys still try pay and I did the asking. They would say your money is not good here.
Diana – That has happened quite a bit with me too. I think alot just appreciate you making the offer, but they are old school.
Kym-Living off the Wall
June 25th, 2010
3:31 pm
PoppaG..if that old man could get it up I would be shocked..
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
3:31 pm
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
3:34 pm
lmbao
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
3:35 pm
Kym- Worms? Hell naw. LMAO!!!!
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
3:36 pm
I’m going to Lucky’s for happy hour. Where are you going?
free to be (F2B)
June 25th, 2010
3:37 pm
heard lucky lounge had a cute happy hour.:) who’s going?
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
3:37 pm
Old men stand out like sore a thumb there. No place for old men! LMBO!!!
Poppa Grande
June 25th, 2010
3:39 pm
Kym
I would normally agree, but viagra has changed the game. As Wanda Sykes said, many an old lady probably feels bamboozled thanks to that drug.
Tony Randall married a 25 year and fathered two kids after he was 75.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
3:39 pm
i can meet yall there 6ish…..holler back!
Poppa Grande
June 25th, 2010
3:40 pm
Well, apparently, Repast has closed its doors.
SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe
June 25th, 2010
3:41 pm
I have a 25 year old family member who is dating a 55 year old man
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
3:43 pm
who’s all going?
kitty kat
June 25th, 2010
3:43 pm
how would you know who’s who?
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
3:45 pm
KK email me pls see above to mr lurker
Leggs - You are Not Alone
June 25th, 2010
3:48 pm
Heck, there would have been a time when I would have offered to pay even when he did the asking. Didn’t get nearly that far. This entire thing is hysterical.
kimmie
June 25th, 2010
3:50 pm
Leggs – He, like my mom used to say, “threw his candy in the sand”!LOL!!
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
3:51 pm
how would you know who’s who?
KK everyone will wear name tags with their moniker and sit on the right side of the bar. When you see some folks doing the secret handshake, you will have the right crew.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
3:52 pm
lmbao lololololol
Melo
June 25th, 2010
3:57 pm
melo – but if you have a boring bed buddy, don’t you seek more of a thrill elsewhere?
@Slimone??
depends on ur initial look and how it developed with the woman and how u view her.
If u are at that ponit u really want a woman to settle down with and she good in other respects..u teach her and let her develop.
Even a slutt slutt didnt get it first time!
She worked to develop her skill.
It's me....lurker
June 25th, 2010
3:59 pm
Old men and worms….yep, that’s an old saying.
Leggs - You are Not Alone
June 25th, 2010
4:01 pm
@kimmie ~ pretty much! If he only knew how sweet the nectar (LOLOLOLOL).
Melo
June 25th, 2010
4:02 pm
How do you feel if the date is going well and the lady ask to extend the date by treating you to a drink?
@Dert Derty??
thans a nice move allround!!
Happy endings,im sure!
Melo
June 25th, 2010
4:04 pm
anybody here ladies been hit by a thick viagra/cialis wood!???
(change ur monikker if u dont wanna be real real in ur response)
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:05 pm
Melo~sometimes you have to be a smoooooooth criminal in the dating world. A nod to MJ as I moonwalk out for a minute.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
4:06 pm
melo i screamed lololol
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:06 pm
Melo,
Now that 4:04 was
ing. Wise told you about this…LOL 
Melo
June 25th, 2010
4:10 pm
melo i screamed lololol
@Lady J??
i know,some of ur friends here wanna front…as if viagra wood is any different.
wood is wood..whether it comes chemically assisted or not.
unless the complaint is that viagra makes the wood stiff longer and the hits too frequent!
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
4:10 pm
lololololololololol every playground has rules dd lmbao
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:11 pm
Melo,
Do you think if a lady got some of that viva viagra or cialis she would suffer side effects? Would you take some of these enhancements if necessary? When are you going to tell us another story I asked you earlier this morning
????
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
4:11 pm
u are a fool honey lololololololol screaming laughing
Melo
June 25th, 2010
4:16 pm
Would you take some of these enhancements if necessary
@Dirt Diana??
Absolutely..thats modern science..I am not hypocritical.
Besides, I wont tolerate being biologically defunct in that sexual area,if science can help it.
There is viagra for ladies too nowadays so ladies in their 60s and late are geting the benefits too.
Im thinking hard of a story..watch this space!
Poppa Grande
June 25th, 2010
4:19 pm
You know that they found viagra by mistake, right? They were trying to make some high blood pressure medication and noticed that it had an interesting side effect on male monkeys and it had the same side effect on male humans. So, in essence, viagra came about through a side-effect.
Melo
June 25th, 2010
4:21 pm
Ladies would you rather be considered a BORE IN BED or ADVENTUROUS?
@Slim
nobody answered this.
See..everybody is pretending//gaming….rather than be upfront about it.
and nobody wants to say they are experienced lest we ask how long it took them and after how many!
CoolShadow
June 25th, 2010
4:22 pm
The funny thing is I’ve had guys still try
payand I did the asking. They would say your money is not good here. I don’t understand that, but it has happened often.@Dirty Diana
What that means is that although they appreciate your gesture of springing for the date, they enjoy your company and they don’t mind paying despite the option of being financially chivalrous is being waived. That also indicates to them that you’re not a selfish person. Take it as a compliment!
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:26 pm
Melo I hope you can think of another story like the one about dude trying to come up in the wang department.
At least you are honest about taking the enhancements. Did I tell you about the old man in Z3 that bought some viagra off the streets? Well he took quite a few pills and enjoyed himself with the local ladies of the night. He had so much fun he took 2x as much the next weekend and had a few drinks. Well his heart started to beat fast and his wang would not go down. The ladies left because he got the best of them. When he went into cardiac arrest his wang was still up. The sheet was sticking up when the EMT’s bought his body out. He died with a stiff wang. Everybody saw the sheet poking up down there.
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:28 pm
@Cool Shadow! Thanks for clearing that up! cool
Melo
June 25th, 2010
4:30 pm
WOW
@ Dirty Diana!
Thats sexual greed..popping more pills than is necessary!
Those things cause heart problems if u dont take them carefully i believe.
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
4:33 pm
Wassup Double D’s. what you getting into this weekend?
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:34 pm
@Melo!
That is a true story everybody saw him with the ladies and knew from the younger cats on the street he had been dabbling with the pills. I told my sister I hope it made him happy, but he was probably scared in the end when he could not get it down.
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:35 pm
@DreamsM,
I am going to chill out, what about you?
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:36 pm
DreamsM,
When I saw Double D’s I was hoping my Fairy Godmother had granted me a little something extra, but oh well. LOL
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
4:39 pm
I’ll be chilling too. Might find something to get into, as long as it doesn’t involve the heat. Oh and don’t worry about those Double D’s…a handful is just enough.
mark
June 25th, 2010
4:39 pm
my only hang up aboput a womans past is if she has dated a white man. yuck! because i feel no good self respecting sista would ever date a white man.
mark
June 25th, 2010
4:40 pm
i would never date a sista that if i could prove it! dated a white man.
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:44 pm
@ Mark would you date a biracial lady?
Melo
June 25th, 2010
4:45 pm
@Dirty Diana??
in my country,people who practice polygamy use herbal stuff…a bark of a particular tree etc so as to be sexually functional to serve multiple wives.
A lot of local chiefs have more than one wife..some as many as eight or ten wives and they be old too..so they use herbal stuff to rub the back and get the wang stiff. Most of that stuff works wonders and leaves them stiff for days and scoring round after round on their 7..8.9 or .10or so wives.
Now one time, a dude i was in college with broght a chic home at nite. His father was a chief and he had stolen some of his Dad’s herbal stuff to test on himself. But because he was young and still sexually very powerful..that stuff worked wonders and more on him that nite.
They went to bed.
he hit her one time
then again in second round in no time
then again by the stroke of 11 pm
then again be4 midnite
The frequency was just getting too much coz dude wldnt stop.
Now,the bathrooms in some of the houses over there are accessible from outside,adjacent to the bedroom or living room.
GIRL asked to be excused so she cld use the restroom…put on her skirt and top and as dude was laying on the bed,slyly put her shoes in her hand,went out and closed the door.
She hurried to a Matata (illegal taxicab–common over there) and took home! Couldnt take the puddssy beating any longer!
Leaving her bra and panties inside dude’s house!
There!
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
4:45 pm
@Dirty- I bet he had fun cummin and goin
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
4:46 pm
@Mark- Are you white?
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
4:46 pm
@Melo- Now that was a pudussy beat down.
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:49 pm
@Dig That~ LOL.
@Melo that was a good one !
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:52 pm
Well gang I will holla at you all on Monday have a great one.
@Dig you know I thought about you last Sunday. I hope you have a good weekend. How is training going with the new lady?
@DreamsM, I am going to need a bloody mary first thing Monday morning so leave the lickka cabinet open.
@melo you already know I need another story by lernch time on monday.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
4:53 pm
yall be easy!!!!! nice reading weather!
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:53 pm
Oh yea, and Mark I am going to find you a swiss lady with a good tan so you can sport her around.
Leggs - You are Not Alone
June 25th, 2010
4:53 pm
@Melo ~ two of us answered your question on boredom or adventurous.
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:54 pm
@Lady J,
I need to ask you something. I will hit you up later.
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
4:58 pm
@Dirty- It is comical and interesting to say the least
Melo
June 25th, 2010
4:58 pm
where?? Leggs??
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
4:58 pm
Peace erybody. Be EZ
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
4:59 pm
ok chica!
Leggs - You are Not Alone
June 25th, 2010
5:00 pm
Don’t just sit back and wait for something to happen. Don’t let the curtain of fear drape your heart’s desires. ~ Spiritual Advice
Good night!
mark
June 25th, 2010
6:10 pm
NO IM VERY MUCH A BLACK MAN AND I LOVE BLACK WOMEN!! ONLY!! AND DIRTY DIANA I DONT WANT A SWISS LADY JUST A BEAUTIFUL
SISTA TO SPORT ON MY ARM. BUT ONLY IF SHE NEVER DATED A WHITE BOY!!!!!!!
Sassy Me....You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
6:39 pm