Dating: Dealing with your past
My apologies for the late blog post! I hope you are as ready for the weekend as I am! Happy Friday!
I don’t know if I will ever understand men completely. Dating can be like this crazy ongoing education of human behavior, and male behavior is my major (or minor?). Since I have mainly been dating younger men lately, I am trying to meet and date men older than 40. Call it my something new for summer.
I had a lively debate with my guy of interest the other day. He is older than I am so we were sort of recounting our past relationships and experiences. He made some comment about his last girlfriend and the reason they broke up. It had something to do with a surprising revelation about her that he discovered after a year of dating her. He wouldn’t tell me what it was specifically but he said that it was because of what she had done in the past.
Well that sort of made me pause a bit. I was wondering if he was that overly critical and judgmental type of guy. You know the type that goes over your past with a fine tooth comb and “vets” you like you are about to be his running mate in a presidential election? Yeah, that’s annoying.
We all have “a past” because we are living and breathing humans, not mannequins. I think having “skeletons” in the closet gets blown out of proportion. Let’s put it into perspective: What kind of past would warrant a break up? Would you break up with someone because they did not tell you about it?
Do you think we are understanding enough of a person’s past? Do we use it as yet another excuse not to commit to a relationship? Discuss!
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Melo
June 25th, 2010
4:16 pm
Would you take some of these enhancements if necessary
@Dirt Diana??
Absolutely..thats modern science..I am not hypocritical.
Besides, I wont tolerate being biologically defunct in that sexual area,if science can help it.
There is viagra for ladies too nowadays so ladies in their 60s and late are geting the benefits too.
Im thinking hard of a story..watch this space!
Poppa Grande
June 25th, 2010
4:19 pm
You know that they found viagra by mistake, right? They were trying to make some high blood pressure medication and noticed that it had an interesting side effect on male monkeys and it had the same side effect on male humans. So, in essence, viagra came about through a side-effect.
Melo
June 25th, 2010
4:21 pm
Ladies would you rather be considered a BORE IN BED or ADVENTUROUS?
@Slim
nobody answered this.
See..everybody is pretending//gaming….rather than be upfront about it.
and nobody wants to say they are experienced lest we ask how long it took them and after how many!
CoolShadow
June 25th, 2010
4:22 pm
The funny thing is I’ve had guys still try
payand I did the asking. They would say your money is not good here. I don’t understand that, but it has happened often.@Dirty Diana
What that means is that although they appreciate your gesture of springing for the date, they enjoy your company and they don’t mind paying despite the option of being financially chivalrous is being waived. That also indicates to them that you’re not a selfish person. Take it as a compliment!
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:26 pm
Melo I hope you can think of another story like the one about dude trying to come up in the wang department.
At least you are honest about taking the enhancements. Did I tell you about the old man in Z3 that bought some viagra off the streets? Well he took quite a few pills and enjoyed himself with the local ladies of the night. He had so much fun he took 2x as much the next weekend and had a few drinks. Well his heart started to beat fast and his wang would not go down. The ladies left because he got the best of them. When he went into cardiac arrest his wang was still up. The sheet was sticking up when the EMT’s bought his body out. He died with a stiff wang. Everybody saw the sheet poking up down there.
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:28 pm
@Cool Shadow! Thanks for clearing that up! cool
Melo
June 25th, 2010
4:30 pm
WOW
@ Dirty Diana!
Thats sexual greed..popping more pills than is necessary!
Those things cause heart problems if u dont take them carefully i believe.
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
4:33 pm
Wassup Double D’s. what you getting into this weekend?
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:34 pm
@Melo!
That is a true story everybody saw him with the ladies and knew from the younger cats on the street he had been dabbling with the pills. I told my sister I hope it made him happy, but he was probably scared in the end when he could not get it down.
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:35 pm
@DreamsM,
I am going to chill out, what about you?
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:36 pm
DreamsM,
When I saw Double D’s I was hoping my Fairy Godmother had granted me a little something extra, but oh well. LOL
DreamsMaterialize
June 25th, 2010
4:39 pm
I’ll be chilling too. Might find something to get into, as long as it doesn’t involve the heat. Oh and don’t worry about those Double D’s…a handful is just enough.
mark
June 25th, 2010
4:39 pm
my only hang up aboput a womans past is if she has dated a white man. yuck! because i feel no good self respecting sista would ever date a white man.
mark
June 25th, 2010
4:40 pm
i would never date a sista that if i could prove it! dated a white man.
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:44 pm
@ Mark would you date a biracial lady?
Melo
June 25th, 2010
4:45 pm
@Dirty Diana??
in my country,people who practice polygamy use herbal stuff…a bark of a particular tree etc so as to be sexually functional to serve multiple wives.
A lot of local chiefs have more than one wife..some as many as eight or ten wives and they be old too..so they use herbal stuff to rub the back and get the wang stiff. Most of that stuff works wonders and leaves them stiff for days and scoring round after round on their 7..8.9 or .10or so wives.
Now one time, a dude i was in college with broght a chic home at nite. His father was a chief and he had stolen some of his Dad’s herbal stuff to test on himself. But because he was young and still sexually very powerful..that stuff worked wonders and more on him that nite.
They went to bed.
he hit her one time
then again in second round in no time
then again by the stroke of 11 pm
then again be4 midnite
The frequency was just getting too much coz dude wldnt stop.
Now,the bathrooms in some of the houses over there are accessible from outside,adjacent to the bedroom or living room.
GIRL asked to be excused so she cld use the restroom…put on her skirt and top and as dude was laying on the bed,slyly put her shoes in her hand,went out and closed the door.
She hurried to a Matata (illegal taxicab–common over there) and took home! Couldnt take the puddssy beating any longer!
Leaving her bra and panties inside dude’s house!
There!
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
4:45 pm
@Dirty- I bet he had fun cummin and goin
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
4:46 pm
@Mark- Are you white?
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
4:46 pm
@Melo- Now that was a pudussy beat down.
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:49 pm
@Dig That~ LOL.
@Melo that was a good one !
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:52 pm
Well gang I will holla at you all on Monday have a great one.
@Dig you know I thought about you last Sunday. I hope you have a good weekend. How is training going with the new lady?
@DreamsM, I am going to need a bloody mary first thing Monday morning so leave the lickka cabinet open.
@melo you already know I need another story by lernch time on monday.
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
4:53 pm
yall be easy!!!!! nice reading weather!
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:53 pm
Oh yea, and Mark I am going to find you a swiss lady with a good tan so you can sport her around.
Leggs - You are Not Alone
June 25th, 2010
4:53 pm
@Melo ~ two of us answered your question on boredom or adventurous.
Dirty Diana
June 25th, 2010
4:54 pm
@Lady J,
I need to ask you something. I will hit you up later.
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
4:58 pm
@Dirty- It is comical and interesting to say the least
Melo
June 25th, 2010
4:58 pm
where?? Leggs??
Dig That
June 25th, 2010
4:58 pm
Peace erybody. Be EZ
Lady-PYT-RIP MJ
June 25th, 2010
4:59 pm
ok chica!
Leggs - You are Not Alone
June 25th, 2010
5:00 pm
Don’t just sit back and wait for something to happen. Don’t let the curtain of fear drape your heart’s desires. ~ Spiritual Advice
Good night!
mark
June 25th, 2010
6:10 pm
NO IM VERY MUCH A BLACK MAN AND I LOVE BLACK WOMEN!! ONLY!! AND DIRTY DIANA I DONT WANT A SWISS LADY JUST A BEAUTIFUL
SISTA TO SPORT ON MY ARM. BUT ONLY IF SHE NEVER DATED A WHITE BOY!!!!!!!
Sassy Me....You know I'm BAD :-)
June 25th, 2010
6:39 pm