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Dating: Dealing with your past

My apologies for the late blog post! I hope you are as ready for the weekend as I am! Happy Friday!

I don’t know if I will ever understand men completely.  Dating can be like this crazy ongoing education of human behavior, and male behavior is my major (or minor?).    Since  I have mainly been dating younger men lately,  I am trying to meet and date men older than 40.  Call it my something new for summer.

I had a lively debate with my guy of interest the other day.  He is older than I am so we were sort of recounting our past relationships and experiences.  He made some comment about his last girlfriend and the reason they broke up.  It had something to do with a surprising revelation about her that he discovered after a year of dating her.  He wouldn’t tell me what it was specifically but he said that it was because of what she had done in the past.

Well that sort of made me pause a bit. I was wondering if he was that overly critical and judgmental type of guy.  You know the type that goes over your past with a fine tooth comb and “vets” you like you are about to be his running mate in a presidential election? Yeah, that’s annoying.

We all have “a past” because we are living and breathing humans, not mannequins.   I think having “skeletons” in the closet gets blown out of proportion.  Let’s put it into perspective: What kind of past would warrant a break up?  Would you break up with someone because they did not tell you about it?

Do you think we are understanding enough of a person’s past? Do we use it as yet another excuse not to commit to a relationship? Discuss!

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THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

June 25th, 2010
3:14 pm

Dirty D – Ha ha Pooty Tang… But Ah Hem.. Yes it does count. It actually gets her points in my book. It aint the money she spends its the gesture.. Now if she goes to the bar and gets the drink and purposely lets me watch the money maker while she walks away then.. She wins..

DreamsMaterialize

June 25th, 2010
3:17 pm

Dreams – It’s just my pet peeve, in fact, it’s a dealbreaker with me, counting pennies.
kimmie I know it irritates you…you’ve mentioned it before. lol Some dudes learn to get over this bias, other dudes ask when they’ll get some reciprocity.

Kym-Living off the Wall

June 25th, 2010
3:17 pm

@Leggs Charge it to the game and move on..no need to sweat or waste precious oxygen on Mr. Little Big Time.

kimmie

June 25th, 2010
3:17 pm

Dreams – Ray’s, Elon’s, Busy B, Checkers, Waffle House – whereever, you still don’t throw it up in a lady’s face that you expect something before you spend anymore money!

kimmie

June 25th, 2010
3:18 pm

I know it irritates you

Dreams – :)

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

June 25th, 2010
3:20 pm

Seriously Big Boys know that dating is apart of the game.. They also know when to cut their losses.. Cause it aint no Booty on that Treasure Island..

SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe

June 25th, 2010
3:22 pm

melo – but if you have a boring bed buddy, don’t you seek more of a thrill elsewhere?

DreamsMaterialize

June 25th, 2010
3:22 pm

you still don’t throw it up in a lady’s face that you expect something before you spend anymore money!
I would never say anything like that. We just wouldn’t go on anymore dates. It makes the point just as well. HAHA

Leggs - It's Just Another Part of Me.

June 25th, 2010
3:22 pm

@SlimOne ~ that was funny! Exactly.

@LadyJ ~ read my 1:34. That’ll catch you up to speed.

@DreamsM ~ seafood melody. Hmmmmmm……

SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe

June 25th, 2010
3:22 pm

Ladies would you rather be considered a BORE IN BED or ADVENTUROUS?

Kym-Living off the Wall

June 25th, 2010
3:23 pm

You know all this talk about old dudes reminds me of this old grandpa(trust me..he had a grandbaby with him in the store) gave me his # telling me how handy he is around the house..All I kept thinking is so is my daddy and you are about as old as him. Old men give you worms..LMAO

Leggs - It's Just Another Part of Me.

June 25th, 2010
3:23 pm

Adventurous….good or bad!

Dig That

June 25th, 2010
3:24 pm

I guess I never sweat it because I figure I’m gon talk my way in the panties over dinner anyway.

Dirty Diana

June 25th, 2010
3:26 pm

@DK, I have made those gestures before. BTW I’ve been on dates when we talked about wanting to see a certain movie, or doing certain things. So I would ask the guy out on a future date. The funny thing is I’ve had guys still try pay and I did the asking. They would say your money is not good here. :???: I don’t understand that, but it has happened often.

@Lady J I have not a clue I just jumped in on the topic and started typing. I am looking for MR LURKER he said he wanted to buy us a drank hell I would buy him one if he say YEAHHHHHHHHH a few times

kitty kat

June 25th, 2010
3:27 pm

@KYM…I was taught the same thing, Old men give you woems, I just didn’t want to say it. LMBO!!! Thank you for saying it.

kimmie

June 25th, 2010
3:27 pm

It’s Just Another Part of Me, Smooth Criminal

Dang Leggs, you’re playing some of my favorites!

Lady-PYT-RIP MJ

June 25th, 2010
3:27 pm

oh my I see that’s my point…..it is what it is leggs……..

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2010
3:28 pm

Old men give you worms..

So, that is what led to Anna Nicole Smith’s demise. Worms from her old man, ahem, husband.

Lady-PYT-RIP MJ

June 25th, 2010
3:29 pm

mr lurker where is happy hour bruh hit this southern gal up lol ladyj_0817@yahoo.com YEAH!!!!!!!!! ;)

kimmie

June 25th, 2010
3:31 pm

The funny thing is I’ve had guys still try pay and I did the asking. They would say your money is not good here.

Diana – That has happened quite a bit with me too. I think alot just appreciate you making the offer, but they are old school.

Kym-Living off the Wall

June 25th, 2010
3:31 pm

PoppaG..if that old man could get it up I would be shocked..

Dirty Diana

June 25th, 2010
3:31 pm

Lady-PYT-RIP MJ

June 25th, 2010
3:34 pm

Dig That

June 25th, 2010
3:35 pm

Kym- Worms? Hell naw. LMAO!!!!

kitty kat

June 25th, 2010
3:36 pm

I’m going to Lucky’s for happy hour. Where are you going?

free to be (F2B)

June 25th, 2010
3:37 pm

heard lucky lounge had a cute happy hour.:) who’s going?

kitty kat

June 25th, 2010
3:37 pm

Old men stand out like sore a thumb there. No place for old men! LMBO!!!

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2010
3:39 pm

Kym

I would normally agree, but viagra has changed the game. As Wanda Sykes said, many an old lady probably feels bamboozled thanks to that drug.

Tony Randall married a 25 year and fathered two kids after he was 75.

Lady-PYT-RIP MJ

June 25th, 2010
3:39 pm

i can meet yall there 6ish…..holler back!

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2010
3:40 pm

Well, apparently, Repast has closed its doors.

SlimOne w/my glitter glove on - HeHe

June 25th, 2010
3:41 pm

I have a 25 year old family member who is dating a 55 year old man :shock:

kitty kat

June 25th, 2010
3:43 pm

who’s all going?

kitty kat

June 25th, 2010
3:43 pm

how would you know who’s who?

Lady-PYT-RIP MJ

June 25th, 2010
3:45 pm

KK email me pls see above to mr lurker

Leggs - You are Not Alone

June 25th, 2010
3:48 pm

Heck, there would have been a time when I would have offered to pay even when he did the asking. Didn’t get nearly that far. This entire thing is hysterical.

kimmie

June 25th, 2010
3:50 pm

Leggs – He, like my mom used to say, “threw his candy in the sand”!LOL!!

Dirty Diana

June 25th, 2010
3:51 pm

how would you know who’s who?

KK everyone will wear name tags with their moniker and sit on the right side of the bar. When you see some folks doing the secret handshake, you will have the right crew. :wink:

Lady-PYT-RIP MJ

June 25th, 2010
3:52 pm

lmbao lololololol

Melo

June 25th, 2010
3:57 pm

melo – but if you have a boring bed buddy, don’t you seek more of a thrill elsewhere?

@Slimone??

depends on ur initial look and how it developed with the woman and how u view her.

If u are at that ponit u really want a woman to settle down with and she good in other respects..u teach her and let her develop.

Even a slutt slutt didnt get it first time!

She worked to develop her skill.

It's me....lurker

June 25th, 2010
3:59 pm

Old men and worms….yep, that’s an old saying.

Leggs - You are Not Alone

June 25th, 2010
4:01 pm

@kimmie ~ pretty much! If he only knew how sweet the nectar (LOLOLOLOL).

Melo

June 25th, 2010
4:02 pm

How do you feel if the date is going well and the lady ask to extend the date by treating you to a drink?

@Dert Derty??

thans a nice move allround!!

Happy endings,im sure!

Melo

June 25th, 2010
4:04 pm

anybody here ladies been hit by a thick viagra/cialis wood!???

(change ur monikker if u dont wanna be real real in ur response)

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Dirty Diana

June 25th, 2010
4:05 pm

Melo~sometimes you have to be a smoooooooth criminal in the dating world. A nod to MJ as I moonwalk out for a minute.

Lady-PYT-RIP MJ

June 25th, 2010
4:06 pm

melo i screamed lololol

Dirty Diana

June 25th, 2010
4:06 pm

Melo,

Now that 4:04 was :shock: ing. Wise told you about this…LOL :grin:

Melo

June 25th, 2010
4:10 pm

melo i screamed lololol

@Lady J??

i know,some of ur friends here wanna front…as if viagra wood is any different.

wood is wood..whether it comes chemically assisted or not.

unless the complaint is that viagra makes the wood stiff longer and the hits too frequent! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Lady-PYT-RIP MJ

June 25th, 2010
4:10 pm

lololololololololol every playground has rules dd lmbao

Dirty Diana

June 25th, 2010
4:11 pm

Melo,

Do you think if a lady got some of that viva viagra or cialis she would suffer side effects? Would you take some of these enhancements if necessary? When are you going to tell us another story I asked you earlier this morning :evil: ????

Lady-PYT-RIP MJ

June 25th, 2010
4:11 pm

u are a fool honey lololololololol screaming laughing