On the dating scene: what do you notice first?
If you take notice of any given event where a lot of single people are, you will probably get the sense that we aren’t exactly looking for one another. It’s that whole “too cool for school” attitude that makes single people appear aloof and uninterested.
I don’t know why we do it all the time but it’s hard to break the habit. Even at single mixers when the goal is to um mix and mingle, many people don’t like to appear over eager or too desperate.
I get that, I really do. I just wonder if we are so busy trying to appear like we aren’t pressed or interested in anyone, how do we ever link up!? When you spot that person with that certain Je ne sais quoi, what do you notice first?
I am particularly curious to find out what the gentleman notice first. I notice broad shoulders followed by the guy’s face. After that, I pretty much start to swoon when I observe the way he carries himself and speaks intelligently.
Do you think that the things we notice first determines if we will give it a shot with someone new? Does our first glance of a person’s image impact the amount of effort that we are willing to put forth? If so, is that a good thing or a bad thing?
Think of the last person you asked out or went on a date with, what did you first notice about them?
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kimmie
June 23rd, 2010
4:37 pm
Lady J – Kem – gonna be good, I love him!
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
4:38 pm
Lady J…
If I’m not mistaken, Kem is part of the Budweiser Superfest, He will be there with Raheem DeVaughn, Anthony Hamilton,on August 20
I am going to Chastain to see Erykah Badu
Melo
June 23rd, 2010
4:38 pm
Kimmie..iam upfront about it…i dont shy away from sex talk..
the other day i mentioned to her that u can have all the sexx u want at some point when u get older but the thing is,when ur mind is str8,u wont even care about it then….
my job as ur daddy is to make sure u are st8 tho..so dont mind my strictness coz i cant afford a mistake on u..i wont have nobody to blame and I cant repair u with band aid.
Professor
June 23rd, 2010
4:38 pm
Lady J did you see anything online regarding Kem at Chastain?
DreamsMaterialize
June 23rd, 2010
4:39 pm
Hey Everyone
Hope you all are staying out of that heat. So, are cartoons the topic now? Boondocks tops the list for me right now. The last episode, mocking Tyler Perry was way too funny.
kimmie
June 23rd, 2010
4:40 pm
Lady J – Budweiser Superfest – Kem, Anthony Hamilton, Raheem Devaughn, Jaheim Chastian Park 8/20/2010
Professor
June 23rd, 2010
4:40 pm
so dont mind my strictness coz i cant afford a mistake on u..i wont have nobody to blame and I cant repair u with band aid.
Damn right! Now you sound like my daddy
AmazonRed™
June 23rd, 2010
4:41 pm
i hear Kem is coming to Chastain……what do yall know???/
Lawd Jeezus!!! Yes!
Lady J-I love your smile!
June 23rd, 2010
4:42 pm
aug 20th yep a great after work affair to see Kem!!!!!! the summer is getting better by the day!
SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.
June 23rd, 2010
4:43 pm
I didn’t know that they still had Budweiser Superfests.
Lady J-I love your smile!
June 23rd, 2010
4:43 pm
yall that made my day my mom just mention it to me I truly had no clue I see Kem everytime he comes here! *tear*!!!!!!!
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
4:43 pm
What’s Goin’ On, Dreams?
I saw that episode. I love that cartoon, too. A pimp named Slickback is my favorite…
Unfortunately, I know some real life Uncle Ruckuses. (I think that I heard somewhere that he used Jason Whitlock as a basis for that character).
Lady J-I love your smile!
June 23rd, 2010
4:43 pm
thanks yall for confirming!
kimmie
June 23rd, 2010
4:43 pm
Melo – Your 4:38 – Amen.
My parents, especially my mom, had me Scared Straight. They painted such a dismal picture of what would happen if I became a teen mom. I was still scared when I graduated, but my said “Ya grown now” so it would be mine then!LOL!!
kimmie
June 23rd, 2010
4:46 pm
Live Nation concert series
Leggs
June 23rd, 2010
4:47 pm
..i wont have nobody to blame and I cant repair u with band aid.
My exact sentiments…WELL SAID, MELO
I love Kem, but these outdoor concerts are draining.
AmazonRed™
June 23rd, 2010
4:47 pm
I do not like Raheem DeVaughn. Just don’t.
I am surprised I like Jaheem as much as I do, judging him by his album cover at first “ghetto love?” really? lol
Lady J-I love your smile!
June 23rd, 2010
4:48 pm
kimmie I love kem too his new single says it all!
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
4:48 pm
SexyCool…That is a form of Advertising for them. We know that beer companies love to advertise. Sponsor Budweiser Superfest gives them access to black consumers. Most of Budweiser’s commercials have very few people of color. This is the way that they advertise to us. Via the music scene. Cigarette companies do that for years. I saw Jill Scott once and she was sponsored by Kool cigarettes.
Lady J-I love your smile!
June 23rd, 2010
4:49 pm
ared but Anthony hamilton lord jesus! soulful brotha!
Lady J-I love your smile!
June 23rd, 2010
4:49 pm
look @ poppa lololololol!
AmazonRed™
June 23rd, 2010
4:50 pm
Lady J – I am thrilled with the line up except for Raheem and you know what they say…one monkey don’t stop no show.
Dammit, I am supposed to be out of town that weekend but I will see what I can work out!
kimmie
June 23rd, 2010
4:51 pm
these outdoor concerts are draining.
Leggs – I was thinking the same thing. The last time we went to Chastain, by the time I packed a picnic, we drove around to find parking, looked for our seats & tolerated the heat, we were beat! It was so nice being in cool Philips Arena a few weekends ago! Love Chastain, but gotta get my mind right for it!
DreamsMaterialize
June 23rd, 2010
4:53 pm
Hey PopG. Things are well on my end. I didn’t know Uncle Ruckus was based on Jason Whitlock. That’s pretty funny. We’ve all run across characters like that though. I think that’s what makes his character so funny though.
kimmie
June 23rd, 2010
4:54 pm
Hey, how ya doin?
Baby whatcha gettin into?
I don’t know what ya name is, or who ya came with
But I ain’t leavin without you!
Lady J-I love your smile!
June 23rd, 2010
4:54 pm
kimmie and leggs frankie b concert taught me to keep it light…..I am doing that concert alone just meeting gf there….salad fruit water wine flip flops a lien dress and my basket hell kem will be the same way keeping it light or lite whatever but not dragging that mess,,,,lol
Leggs
June 23rd, 2010
4:54 pm
@LadyJ ~ his new single definitely says it all. I have this guy who teared up when he heard it cuz he did me dirty and now regrets it. I even called him up so he could hear the words. He loves Kem and didn’t know his single had dropped. Told him he could have written the words to that song himself!
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
4:55 pm
Erykah Badu is the next weekend at Chastain.
Leggs
June 23rd, 2010
4:56 pm
@kimmie ~ the last time I’ve been to Chastain it was to see Gerald LeVert (Casanova). I nearly fainted in that heat. Haven’t been back. I even was willing to miss my gal…Ms. Diana Ross
kimmie
June 23rd, 2010
4:56 pm
Lady J – Great idea! I have a tendency to overdo it anyway – imma chill!
Leggs
June 23rd, 2010
4:57 pm
@kimmie ~ love that song (even tho he’s being disrespectful (LOL)!
Melo
June 23rd, 2010
4:59 pm
he did me dirty and now regrets it.
@Leggs??
an old flame?
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
5:00 pm
Have a good evening. I gotta get my London Broil off the grill.
Leggs
June 23rd, 2010
5:00 pm
Yes old and wet ~ there’s no flame!
Leggs
June 23rd, 2010
5:01 pm
The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.” ~ Albert Einstein
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
June 23rd, 2010
5:01 pm
good night gang!
enjoy life!
Wind down Wed.
June 23rd, 2010
5:21 pm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uq7GBoie-BQ&feature=related
Professor
June 23rd, 2010
5:34 pm
@Wind down Wed. I love that song. We going to send that one out to Lady J!