On the dating scene: what do you notice first?
If you take notice of any given event where a lot of single people are, you will probably get the sense that we aren’t exactly looking for one another. It’s that whole “too cool for school” attitude that makes single people appear aloof and uninterested.
I don’t know why we do it all the time but it’s hard to break the habit. Even at single mixers when the goal is to um mix and mingle, many people don’t like to appear over eager or too desperate.
I get that, I really do. I just wonder if we are so busy trying to appear like we aren’t pressed or interested in anyone, how do we ever link up!? When you spot that person with that certain Je ne sais quoi, what do you notice first?
I am particularly curious to find out what the gentleman notice first. I notice broad shoulders followed by the guy’s face. After that, I pretty much start to swoon when I observe the way he carries himself and speaks intelligently.
Do you think that the things we notice first determines if we will give it a shot with someone new? Does our first glance of a person’s image impact the amount of effort that we are willing to put forth? If so, is that a good thing or a bad thing?
Think of the last person you asked out or went on a date with, what did you first notice about them?
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Raqi
June 23rd, 2010
3:29 pm
Amazon, my son is taking his girlfriend to see the Karate Kid Saturday. This will be their first official date. I say that because they will be catching the bus from her house instead of one of us parents tagging along.
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
3:29 pm
Karate Kid was pretty good. Jaden Smith definitely has a promising future as an actor. I already knew the story.
Speaking of remakes, Spielberg planning to do another ET. It isn’t clear if it will be a remake or just another ET. Drew Barrmore will be in it. It will be interesting to see what Spielberg does with the technology that now exists. I saw the old recently on HBO and the effects looked funny, but it was good for the early eighties.
Melo
June 23rd, 2010
3:29 pm
Does anybody on here,other than me also suffer from this disease called dump procrastination,esp when they doing something they like and have some angst about it and want to complete the job withiut too much interruption??
maybe u Slim_cootie can give me an answer coz u the realest in here??
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
June 23rd, 2010
3:31 pm
Poppa I enjoyed Shrek…..lol
I am hearing dood reviews on Karate Kid too……
We will see Toy Story soon my child is ready for Toy Story but I liked Shrek! lol
Raqi
June 23rd, 2010
3:32 pm
Speaking of Jaden Smith, did anyone watch Hawthorne last night? I watched at it the second time it came on as I was in and out of sleep.
kimmie
June 23rd, 2010
3:32 pm
Melo – If it’s what I think it is, I suffer from that condition!
Raqi
June 23rd, 2010
3:32 pm
Jada, should have tried to get a part on Grey’s or Private Practice. Hawthorne I don’t think is going to make it. Again.
SlimCuzIt'sTooDayumHot
June 23rd, 2010
3:34 pm
melo – how about suffering from rapido dumpo….when it’s ready but you aren’t anywhere near a bathroom. LOL!
kimmie
June 23rd, 2010
3:34 pm
Raqi – I watched Hawthorne. It was decent. As far as medical show go though, I am spoiled by Greys. But I will support Hawthorne, like I did last season. Plus, there really isn’t much else on except reruns.
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
3:35 pm
ARed
I have to tip my hat to Steve Jobs and Pixar. They know how to do it. I can’t remember a Pixar movie that I didn’t like. They know how to put adult humor in their animated features that mostly adults figure out and still have references to things that kids like too. (The Ken and Barbie stuff was ripe for those kinds of references)
Raqi
June 23rd, 2010
3:37 pm
kimmie, Greek is a choice for tonight because it is the only comedy that I can think of but I really don’t like any of the characters in it.
Hey maybe we can see Shrek. Is that out yet?
kimmie
June 23rd, 2010
3:37 pm
Raqi – She’s an executive producer on her own show, which ain’t gonna happen on Grey’s or PP. Shonda Rhymes & crew got that on lock.
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
3:38 pm
I’m not a fan of Hawthorne. I’ve tried a couple of times. I like that Lie To Me is back with new episodes and Leverage is also back. Hawthorne seems to try too hard.
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 23rd, 2010
3:38 pm
The only movie I am waiting to see is Twilight!
Me,too! Is that wrong? I hope now ’cause I’m soo there…
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
3:38 pm
Shrek has been out for nearly a month. It was good.
AmazonRed™
June 23rd, 2010
3:38 pm
Aww….that’s sweet Raqi. They’ll like the movie, since my old azz did.
Leggs
June 23rd, 2010
3:40 pm
@Prof ~ I bought my tickets for Twilight last week. Taking lil leggs and 2 of her friends to the midnight showing on the 29th. Have to take the 30th off so I can get some rest. The movie is about 2 hrs. 15 mins.
@SlimCuz….now you say she’s dressing slutty like in front of her son. That’s not cool. Yeah, you should have made a citizen’s arrest.
Raqi
June 23rd, 2010
3:40 pm
kimmie, I tried to watch it last season but it didn’t hold my interest enough for me to even remember when it was airing. Maybe this time having Vanessa B Calloway as her supporting actress will help.
I think this is really Jada Smith’s first attempts in a starring role. I may be wrong though. IMO opinion she is on okay actress. Vanessa Bell Calloway is a bit stronger than her.
kimmie
June 23rd, 2010
3:40 pm
Hawthorne seems to try too hard.
Good way to put it – I couldn’t put my finger on it. Yeah, it doesn’t have anything on Greys or PP.
I tried to watch Ice Cubes little show, Are We There Yet? Too corny, didn’t like it. I tried.
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 23rd, 2010
3:41 pm
*hope not*
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
3:41 pm
The only reason that I plan to see Lottery Ticket is because it was filmed at Herndon Homes right before they started demolition. Five points is also a place of filming. It will be an early matinee or
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
June 23rd, 2010
3:41 pm
alrighty….
Leggs
June 23rd, 2010
3:41 pm
@Raqi ~ I heard some good things about Hawthorne and started watching re runs over the weekend. I taped last night’s episode. As much as I love Alfe Woodard in anything she does, don’t think I can get with Memphis Beat!
Raqi
June 23rd, 2010
3:42 pm
Poppa and Kimmie, you know what I like? Royal Pain. I have that one set to record on my DVR since there is not grey’s or PP for me to catch these days.
SlimCuzIt'sTooDayumHot
June 23rd, 2010
3:43 pm
Leggs, she wasn’t dressed slutty…she just looked crazy…she looked like one of those old time Jiffy Pop popcorn things that you heat up over the fire….LOL! I started crying laughing when I saw her…Man that was a good azz laugh
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
3:43 pm
Raqi
Jada may not have been the star, but I thought that she was pretty good back in the day on “A Different World”. I think that she was Lena James. That was a comedy though.
SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.
June 23rd, 2010
3:43 pm
“Hawthorne seems to try too hard.”
That’s exactly what I would have said. That the story lines seemed forced. However, I still have it set for a season pass on my Tivo if for no other reason that to support Mrs. Pinkett-Smith.
AmazonRed™
June 23rd, 2010
3:44 pm
Jada’s putting a lot of money into saving Hawthrone. She did a slew of radio and press for the season premiere. Even a party promoter in the city sent out an email blast to encourage folks to watch.
SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.
June 23rd, 2010
3:44 pm
Rock – mail.
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
3:44 pm
I tried that Memphis Beat, but I still see that dude as Earl. (He played Earl in My name is Earl.)
Raqi
June 23rd, 2010
3:45 pm
Leggs, imma let you watch Twilight and tell me about it. You already owe me for the money I wasted watching the last one. Imma wait for your review on this new one. LOL
Leggs
June 23rd, 2010
3:45 pm
Well, dern it, who wants to take a pic of that for a keepsake. Oh the visual, the visual…take it away!!!! I have a gf who says that all the time!
kimmie
June 23rd, 2010
3:46 pm
Raqi – I love Royal Pains! Good, I got another buddy that watches it!
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
3:46 pm
ARed
Yeah, they put in the money. They also put in the money for the Karate Kid remake. Overbrook Entertainment is the Smith family business.
Raqi
June 23rd, 2010
3:47 pm
Poppa, she was good on Different World but she was also surrounded by already good actors.
Low Down Dirty Shame (I think that’s the name of it) was awful. No good supports there.
kimmie
June 23rd, 2010
3:47 pm
Poppa – Yeah she was good in Diff World. I liked her in Set it Off too.
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
3:48 pm
Royal Pains and Burn Notice are very good. My wife likes White Collar, but I am not into that one.
AmazonRed™
June 23rd, 2010
3:48 pm
imma let you watch Twilight and tell me about it. You already owe me for the money I wasted watching the last one
My guy took me to the last one. I liked it. So I got offered some advance screening tix for the new one and told him, thinking he’d be excited. He said: Who wants to see that boring ish?
Oh well.
Professor
June 23rd, 2010
3:48 pm
@Sassssssssy I plan on catching Twilight on the 4th of July or the 5th of July. I like for the crowds to settle a bit, before I go. I know the movie will still be crowded, but I am thinking during the day like 2pm or so.
Melo
June 23rd, 2010
3:49 pm
Poppa Grande??
who does family Guy??
I thoght it was striclty kids stuff and i was asking my son(5 yrs) the name of the show..he knew it..but when Queen and I were listening to it,it was gutter,adult stuff..sex etc.we had to make him switch quickly??
Scandalous!
@Kimmie..I suffer from that condition!
the realest i have ever heard u say!
@Slim…aren’t anywhere near a bathroom
if that happens to me,im taking a charge for public indedency and crouching over that shrub in the vicinity to do the dag on bizzness!
@Ladies..my dgther turns 16 today. Is that about time i should buy a gun??
I singed her up with a mentor as part of her birfday present,just so we stay str8 on course.
Leggs
June 23rd, 2010
3:50 pm
@Raqi ~ touche, touche. I definitely deserved that one! I’m not going to get home until a good 3 a.m. Hope whomever she picks to join her can spend the night cuz I’m not trying to ride everyone back home that time of morning. I’ll give you a review when I wake up.
AmazonRed™
June 23rd, 2010
3:52 pm
melo – you should have bought a gun when she turned 13.
Now it’s time to buy her a car!!!
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
3:52 pm
Raqi
Low Down Dirty Shame (I think that’s the name of it) was awful. No good supports there.
Keenan Ivory Wayans movie. These are the same geniuses that brought us that classic known as “White Chicks” and “Little Man” . Sometimes you have to look at what the actor has to work with.
kimmie
June 23rd, 2010
3:53 pm
Melo – You know a sister has to keep up her “professional” work persona!LOL!!
Leggs
June 23rd, 2010
3:53 pm
You signed her up for a mentor…in what area??? Why aren’t you her mentor???
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 23rd, 2010
3:55 pm
Aight here it goes.. Ya’ll know what I look at first… Shoes. Face. Hair. Ear Rings toes/hands.
Well you know what.. I look at her left hand first before I approach cause I pass right on by if shes married. Now I’ll holla if I see its the fake leave me alone ring but if they are married you can just tell… Married women just have a different aire about them.. They have that settled in look. Which isnt a bad thing and some have that tired look but either way I can tell.
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2010
3:56 pm
Family Guy is NOT for kids at all!!!
Seth McFarlane is its creator. He is an outspoken atheist and gay rights supporter. He also does American Dad and the Cleveland Show.
Melo
June 23rd, 2010
3:58 pm
You signed her up for a mentor…in what area???
@Leggs??
the whole fam has been her mentor,she has no shortage in that area…
I singed her up with a profsnal/educational/career mentor…a lady,so she can get the big picture from somebody outside of her fam/peers or pple she knows of…smebody she wld luv to emulate and be like her when shes on her own later in lyfe.
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AmazonRed™
June 23rd, 2010
3:58 pm
You signed her up for a mentor…in what area??? Why aren’t you her mentor???
Cuz aint no 16 old girl gonna tell her daddy about what’s REALLY going on in her life…
unless her name is Miley Cyrus.
kimmie
June 23rd, 2010
3:59 pm
Family Guy is NOT for kids at all!!!
Sure isn’t, but I love it! Love the Cleveland Show too, don’t care much American Dad.
Melo – We watch those shows after the kids go to bed!
Just cause it’s a cartoon don’t mean it’s for kids!LOL!