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On the dating scene: what do you notice first?

If you take notice of any given event where a lot of single people are, you will probably get the sense that we aren’t exactly looking for one another.  It’s that whole “too cool for school” attitude that makes single people appear aloof and uninterested.

I don’t know why we do it all the time but it’s hard to break the habit.  Even at single mixers when the goal is to um mix and mingle, many people don’t like to appear over eager or too desperate.

I get that, I really do. I just wonder if we are so busy trying to appear like we aren’t pressed or interested in anyone, how do we ever link up!?  When you spot that person with that certain Je ne sais quoi, what do you notice first?

I am particularly curious to find out what the gentleman notice first.  I notice broad shoulders followed by the guy’s face.  After that, I pretty much start to swoon when I observe the way he carries himself and speaks intelligently.

Do you think that the things we notice first determines if we will give it a shot with someone new?  Does our first glance of a person’s image impact the amount of effort that we are willing to put forth? If so, is that a good thing or a bad thing?

Think of the last person you asked out or went on a date with, what did you first notice about them?

What is the first thing you notice on a potential date?

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Leggs

June 23rd, 2010
2:12 pm

Oh no, PR, you’re expecting?? Congratulations.

Also, @Prof ~ was only kidding, I would never bark back as I’m backing out the door. Just thought that was cute!

SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.

June 23rd, 2010
2:12 pm

Congrats, Dude On A Horse!

Professor

June 23rd, 2010
2:14 pm

@LOL @ Lady J YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH :grin:

MR LURKER where are you? :grin: YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Professor

June 23rd, 2010
2:15 pm

Leggs :???: What are you talking about? :???:

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

June 23rd, 2010
2:17 pm

Melo President Obama does not need to be president of Afghanistan to have him remove. The CIA can and will do it for him. If Obama wanted him out he would have been gone. When the Afghans were voting for a new President, The United States Government could have change the outcome with no ploblem my south african friend!

Read the CIA papers we have removed many dictators and presidents of many small countries.

Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)

June 23rd, 2010
2:18 pm

professor men notice my pretty brown eyes and smile!

I hear ya Lady!!

Hmmm men notice my walk…they love the accent but the chocolatey skin and smile gets ‘em errtime. If I’m wearing a skirt and the legs are on BLAST then that’s a whole other conversation….it’s gotten to the point where random guys I don’t know want to touch them and the one or two fools that tried got punched in the thoke…real talk.

Lady J-I love your smile!

June 23rd, 2010
2:20 pm

hey sassy how are you!!!!!???!!!!!!

weenie

June 23rd, 2010
2:21 pm

big gul i guess eveybody is a weenie to you

Leggs

June 23rd, 2010
2:23 pm

@LadyJ ~ you don’t need to use OFF. You should have purchased some Skin-So-Soft!

If President Obama hadn’t relieved him of his duties, he would have looked like a “wuss” to the entire world. I don’t know of anyone who could have said all that stuff about someone in a company, come back to the CEO and apologize and keep his job. President Obama needs to conduct his duties as the President of the United States…no employee could have gotten away with all that name calling in Corporate America.

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
2:25 pm

Read the CIA papers we have removed messed up many countries by interfering in the affairs of those countries ending up with dictators and poor choice of presidents in many small countries!

@Elijah..thats how ur statement shld have read..sorry for ur typos! :lol:

YES YES YES ..NO wonder Obama did not follow ur advice!

check Zaire/congo proping up Mobutu = endless war now

check Iran =Shah of Iran was backed by america the most

check south africa= america was the biggest backer of aparthied…Regan naming Mandela a terrorist
check Vietnam==hoe many body bags broght home buddy due to american intransigence over there

@Elijah u want me to go on buddy??

Leggs

June 23rd, 2010
2:26 pm

@Prof ~ never mind. Not important.

AmazonRed™

June 23rd, 2010
2:26 pm

Are there any notable bars to watch the World Cup? Might as well kick off my weekend supporting good ole USA…

SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.

June 23rd, 2010
2:27 pm

Scenario #1 – I was on MARTA leaving the airport a few weeks ago. At the College Park station, this mid-40’s dude in what looked to be a janitor’s uniform got on and sat in the seat directly across from me. Almost as soon as he sat down, he pulled out his phone and appeared to be sending a text message (at first). As we departed the East Point station, I noticed that he was no longer making any entries on the phone, but still had the phone out and it was pointed in my direction. I happened to have a on skirt that day. Once I noticed that his phone was pointed in the direction of my uncovered thigh (the skirt ahd ridden up.), I readjusted my skirt and my bag to cover my legs. Within seconds, he closed his phone. I just gave him a dirty look and exited the train at my stop which was coming up. Coincidental?

Scenario #2 – Just now, I was down walking the tunnel between concourses when I began to pass a tall, shapely young lady wearing very short shorts and very high heels. I also noticed that there was a guy walking behind her – obviously an airport employee as evidenced by the uniform, the badge and the fact that he was pushing a cart. As I moved closer to the two of them, the dude pulls out his phone, turns on the camera and starts video’ing the chick’s ass in as unobtrusive a way as possible. As I passed by him, I looked down at the phone and back at him, but said nothing.

Now, in Scenario #1, I have no *proof* that the dude was doing anything inappropriate other than my intuition and strong suspicions.

In Scenario #2, I have asked myself “Should I have done something? Actually said something to the dude? Or even informed the girl?”

And even more than that, here is my real question, is what I suspect Dude1 of doing and KNOW that Dude2 was doing illegal? Or was it just tacky or perverted? Or…..was it simply opportunistic? I mean this chick did put the short shorts on. She had to know what kind of attention she would get. (Disclaimer – regardless of her choice of wardrobe, I do NOT think it was cool for dude to film her ass like that.)

What say the people of BlogLand?

Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)

June 23rd, 2010
2:27 pm

I’m here Lady…still in the midst of this dreaded 6 hour experiment but I’m kicking it’s butt,though.

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
2:32 pm

Are there any notable bars to watch the World Cup?

@Ared??

my crib! :lol:

we wil kick the kids out to auntie house and make it a triple play with Queen!

partey partey partey! :lol:

kimmie

June 23rd, 2010
2:34 pm

SCool – I think you did the right thing in both scenarios. While #2 girl DID put on the shorts & yes she knew she could get unwarranted attention(or not unwarranted), I don’t know about the legalities of what both dudes did but it was sick.

Either way, it’s some crazy folk out there and you don’t know how #2 dude or woman would have reacted.

AmazonRed™

June 23rd, 2010
2:35 pm

melo – If you have a fully stocked bar, snacks and no entry fee, I’d watch at your crib.

AmazonRed™

June 23rd, 2010
2:36 pm

Kym-Make me wanna holler..the way they do my life..

June 23rd, 2010
2:39 pm

@Melo I so agree with your 2:25 comments..if we go after a dictator and try to install our own leader of choice..well it has never gone well.

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

June 23rd, 2010
2:44 pm

Melo I did not state that all of the moves the US has made has some benefit to that particular country. I believe this would be different because President Obama comes from a different mindset.

SexyCool that is very disrespectful of those 2 perverts. But I guess if you wear something that might draw attention to you or you go out with-out having any panties on you maybe subject to that kind of attention/reaction from a pervert.

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
2:45 pm

@Ared??

Barleys on peachtree street have pool tables and soccer too, im sure.

Furking at Linberg station is a British pub..my fav so far and they will show soccer and have pool tables too..most fun..if u live near those areas.
I think Barleys wld proly be more pple and more fun..not sure coz i havent been to any of those during the soccer periods.

Raqi

June 23rd, 2010
2:51 pm

SexyCool, people look at what they like. Always have and always will. But taking out your phone and video tapping someone is just too much. There should be a law against it. IMO that is an invasion of privacy.

Kym-Make me wanna holler..the way they do my life..

June 23rd, 2010
2:54 pm

@SexyCool..there is actually a FB page that guys post to. I know because one of my Fantasy FB cohorts from Canada post pics of women he’s sees on the street in Toronto.

AmazonRed™

June 23rd, 2010
2:59 pm

Thank you melo.

Raqi

June 23rd, 2010
2:59 pm

The A-Team, Knight & Day, Get him to Greek or Prince of Persia????

Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)

June 23rd, 2010
3:00 pm

one of my Fantasy FB cohorts from Canada post pics of women he’s sees on the street in Toronto.

:shock: Eeeeeewwww…

SlimCuzIt'sTooDayumHot

June 23rd, 2010
3:02 pm

Wow, been out on the block for the last few hours and it’s so dayum HOT!! Feel like I could just pass out at any given moment and not even care. Something about the heat just drains ya. :-(

PR – congrats….but when are you going to tell Julia about our lovepony that you already have on the way? (I knew I shouldn’t have watched your dayum horse while you were out of town)

SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.

June 23rd, 2010
3:03 pm

kimmie – You’re right. No use in saying something and causing an ugly scene.

Elijah – Yep. Just damn disrespectful.

Rock – I didn’t have an issue with him for looking. I expected him to look. She was model gorgeous with legs a mile long, heels four inches high and shorts that barely covered her ass. However, the second he started taping her, I became disgusted with him.

Kym – Double Eeeeeewwww…lame asses (with a side eye thrown in)

AmazonRed™

June 23rd, 2010
3:04 pm

Raqi – Good question. I’m asking the same questions. Got two movie passes to that new Studio Movie Grill theatre (like Fork and Screen) I haven’t even heard of Knight & Day.

What about Grown Ups?

Leggs

June 23rd, 2010
3:05 pm

Heck I put this dress on this morning knowing I what type of attention I would get. So What. It would have been nice if you told the woman she was being filmed and she could take it from there. Is it illegal, probably, not sure.

Getting attention and being filmed w/o your knowledge is not the same thing.

Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)

June 23rd, 2010
3:06 pm

:lol: @ the “side eye”…

Kym-Make me wanna holler..the way they do my life..

June 23rd, 2010
3:06 pm

@SexyCool..I just know they do it in Canada..because it is one of his groups. But I guess groups can be worldwide on FB..it is beyond lame.

SlimCuzIt'sTooDayumHot

June 23rd, 2010
3:07 pm

SexyCool, I’m not sure that any laws were broken… I suppose it would be different if a camera was planted inside of a persons home, dressing room, bathroom etc w/o their permission. If a person is sitting in traffic on 75N around where one the traffic cameras are, but it catches them digging in their nose or digging in their crotch, are they being violated as well?

SlimCuzIt'sTooDayumHot

June 23rd, 2010
3:09 pm

Well I have a confession

I took two pics of this lady down in BAMA inside a world known discount store…she was completely dressed in Silver from head to toe…looking like she just jumped out of the Wizard of Oz as the tinwoman…i just couldn’t pass up the opp. :lol:

SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.

June 23rd, 2010
3:09 pm

I kept expecting John Quinones to pop out with a camera crew at any second.

Poppa Grande

June 23rd, 2010
3:10 pm

Raqi

Of the movies listed, I’ve seen all except Knight and Day. I have a thing against Tom Cruise and Cameron Diaz in the same movie. I don’t care much for either. Cameron Diaz is at least easy on the eyes.

Of the movies that you listed, I liked the A-Team the best.

Prince of Persia was ok, but I wasn’t a big fan of the video game (it is based on a video game). Get him to the greek has its funny parts, but is a bit over the top at times too.

If you’ve liked other Judd Apatow movies (40 year old virgin, Superbad, Forgetting Sarah Marshall, and Knocked Up), you’ll like Get him to the Greek. They even show references to Forgetting Sarah Marshall since Russell Brand was in that movie, too.

Leggs

June 23rd, 2010
3:11 pm

@SlimCuz ~ doing something against self isn’t the same as committing what may be a crime against another.

Leggs

June 23rd, 2010
3:12 pm

You digging up your nose is your cal, but to put your fingers in someone else’s nose w/o their permission is a violation. (LOLOLOL)

Poppa Grande

June 23rd, 2010
3:12 pm

Grown ups come out Friday. I haven’t seen that one, yet. I was looking forward to seeing it, until they were plastered all over the NBA Finals. Chris Rock has been everywhere this week promoting this movie, though. He was even on Rachel Ray’s Show this week.

Raqi

June 23rd, 2010
3:13 pm

Slim, that is different. If a camera is already in place for one purpose but just so happen to catch something else that is what it is. But some one taking out a camera and taping someone else’s body parts without their permission is quite disgusting to say the least.

Raqi

June 23rd, 2010
3:16 pm

Amazon, I didn’t even consider Grown Ups. That would probably be better than “Get Him to Gr..”.

I was trying to see if anyone had any good or bad things to say about those I listed. I am trying to find one that my marido and I both will enjoy.

AmazonRed™

June 23rd, 2010
3:17 pm

Yes, I’m going to the movies this weekend so Grown Ups will be out. Should be pretty funny with the line up.

Poppa Grande

June 23rd, 2010
3:19 pm

This summer’s movie lineup has left a lot to be desired.

Although, I will admit that my favorite movie this summer has been Toy Story 3.

Get him to the Greek has tons of drug and alcohol use. Sean Combs just overplays that traits that people think that he has.

Professor

June 23rd, 2010
3:23 pm

The only movie I am waiting to see is Twilight!

AmazonRed™

June 23rd, 2010
3:24 pm

I hardly ever go to movies. If I wasn’t with the current, I probably wouldn’t see any.

Well, of course I went to see Sex and the City 2. He took me to see Karate Kid and it was great! (I was surprised as hell, I’m very loyal to the original).

Raqi

June 23rd, 2010
3:26 pm

Thanks Poppa.

kimmie

June 23rd, 2010
3:26 pm

Amred – I want to see Grown Ups too. I love comedies.

Raqi – Out of the ones you mentioned, Greek would be my choice if you can’t wait on Grown Ups. I have no interest in the A-team, Tom Cruise or Persia. But that’s just me. Plus, I loved the other Judd Apatow movies Poppa listed.

SlimCuzIt'sTooDayumHot

June 23rd, 2010
3:28 pm

‘doing something against self isn’t the same as committing what may be a crime against another.’

Leggs – Yeah and I should’ve made a citizens arrest for her coming out of the house like that…she commited a crime against herself and her son who looked like he was embarrassed as hayo. lol

Btw, You’re right, i do commit crimes against myself all the time by taking nekkid pics of myself without myself knowing that myself are taking them.

Raqi – yeah it is disgusting…but it is now the world we live in. That whole BIG BROTHER ideal, is now a society of a whole bunch of little brothers.

SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.

June 23rd, 2010
3:28 pm

And in other news, the latest *Bachelor* relationships bites the dust.

Kinda saw that one coming.

AmazonRed™

June 23rd, 2010
3:28 pm

Although, I will admit that my favorite movie this summer has been Toy Story 3.

Along with a lot of other people. That movie has killed at the box office already. Too bad the last animated film I saw was “The Little Mermaid.” :lol: