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On the dating scene: what do you notice first?

If you take notice of any given event where a lot of single people are, you will probably get the sense that we aren’t exactly looking for one another.  It’s that whole “too cool for school” attitude that makes single people appear aloof and uninterested.

I don’t know why we do it all the time but it’s hard to break the habit.  Even at single mixers when the goal is to um mix and mingle, many people don’t like to appear over eager or too desperate.

I get that, I really do. I just wonder if we are so busy trying to appear like we aren’t pressed or interested in anyone, how do we ever link up!?  When you spot that person with that certain Je ne sais quoi, what do you notice first?

I am particularly curious to find out what the gentleman notice first.  I notice broad shoulders followed by the guy’s face.  After that, I pretty much start to swoon when I observe the way he carries himself and speaks intelligently.

Do you think that the things we notice first determines if we will give it a shot with someone new?  Does our first glance of a person’s image impact the amount of effort that we are willing to put forth? If so, is that a good thing or a bad thing?

Think of the last person you asked out or went on a date with, what did you first notice about them?

What is the first thing you notice on a potential date?

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Lady J-I love your smile!

June 23rd, 2010
1:04 pm

melo hush I kept his business confidential no bribes here! no drama! lol

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
1:05 pm

“ol’boys” snipped

@PR..first thangs first..congrats!

second,why the ol boy snapping..u be like a plumber with no tools! :lol:

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
1:06 pm

Lady J, I know…last time I spoke to you we were deciding if we were going to keep it, umm I guess you know we decided to now…..LOL”and we thank you for your support.” (from the old Bartles and James Commercials)

PrincessNik....heir to the throne of FABULOSITY

June 23rd, 2010
1:06 pm

Lady J

Good for you! You had a Love Jones moment “let it go….and walk away” ;) I feel better after I work out too, cause sometimes folks make me want to put my foot in their chest!

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
1:08 pm

Is McCrystal OUT yet??

whats the word??

Kym-Make me wanna holler..the way they do my life..

June 23rd, 2010
1:09 pm

@Purple Rain..why didnt me tell us you had a shotgun wedding? I’m southern I would have understood..LOL!! Lawd Purple Rain is gonna be Papa Purple..LMAO!

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
1:10 pm

Melo, Lady J and I talk. LOL, she tends to know my moods very well. I gave her good advice once and she sensed something was wrong with me and I spilled the beans because I trust her spirit. LOL

The plumbing will still work once snipped, I do not want to be like gulf oil spill and have to have wear a “cap” to be functional :)

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
1:12 pm

Kym, (all I can say is “Kym”) LOL

AmazonRed™

June 23rd, 2010
1:12 pm

Congrats Purple Rain! You really didn’t waste anytime.

Kym-Make me wanna holler..the way they do my life..

June 23rd, 2010
1:12 pm

okay that should read why didn’t you tell me..I need a nap!

@Melo McCrystal has left the WH..Politico has not updated anything yet..I personally think he is Obama’s McArthur..eventually he will be gone..he is a good military man..just lacking in political and social grace.

Kym-Make me wanna holler..the way they do my life..

June 23rd, 2010
1:14 pm

@Melo..Pres Obama..will make a 1:30 statement about McCrystal.

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
1:14 pm

AmazonRed, thanks I hope. We were getting lots of practice without safeties. I guess it was just meant to be. LOL

Shotgun Sam

June 23rd, 2010
1:15 pm

Getting knocked up results from fornicating.

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
1:17 pm

Getting knocked up can come after you are married, every birth is not planned. Obviously…LOL

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
1:18 pm

Or from adultery, LOL

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
1:21 pm

@Kym!

yeah,such a powerful man to make such a juvenile mistake..its kinda hard to fathom.

Kym-Make me wanna holler..the way they do my life..

June 23rd, 2010
1:22 pm

Purple Rain..don’t respond to the weenies..it only serves to feed the fire of ignorance.

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
1:22 pm

Kym, I think Obama will keep him on until they exit that war, then let McCrystal retire gracefully.

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
1:25 pm

@Kym..thats why these are the united states of america..in africa or somewhere in the middle east,the man’s head would have been floating in some bush river right now

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
1:26 pm

Kym, thank you. :) It’s funny to me that names have to be changed instead of being straight forward, LOL We are happy in our world. :)

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
1:27 pm

CNN..BREAKING NEWS

Relieved of command!

Gone sucker!

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

June 23rd, 2010
1:27 pm

Good Afternoon folks!

How is everyone doing today?

Congrats to Carlito(aka) Purple Rain and your wife Julia on having your first child.

Hola Professor I sense you have extra energy for the summer, you must be enjoying the dating world. :wink:
Hello Lady-J, I am glad to see life is going great for you keep up the good work! :smile:

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
1:28 pm

I was wrong, Obama is going to fire him.

JtJ

June 23rd, 2010
1:28 pm

Congrats PR!!!!! and good luck on that platinum grill!

Kym-Make me wanna holler..the way they do my life..

June 23rd, 2010
1:29 pm

I think so too..PurpleRain…I mean he is a bonehead..but he is a good general…I think the Pres has him on a three strikes plan..this is strike two.

Now Melo..Purple Rain..tell me Eliot Spitzer is not a pimp. That dude has made the comeback of the decade. From governor of NY to talk show host on CNN.

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
1:29 pm

Now..those are some BALLS Mr President…

WELL DONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......

June 23rd, 2010
1:29 pm

melo a book deal and fox news awaits that guy………..hmmmmmmm

thanks pk I did have a personal internal moment and i did let it go and kept it moving to the top! It was good having my buddy there!!! one day i will walk it alone and do the dag thing without thought……..

carlito i am glad you two are sustaining! ;)

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
1:30 pm

Elijah, thank you. How are you? :)

Kym-Make me wanna holler..the way they do my life..

June 23rd, 2010
1:30 pm

Relieved of command..awww now what nancy boy is going to get the job over Afghan?

Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......

June 23rd, 2010
1:31 pm

Hello Elijah!!!!!! Thanks so much!!!! it feels good! :)

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
1:32 pm

tell me Eliot Spitzer is not a pimp

@Kym?

america loves pple who show contrition from the heart…they give u a second chance.

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
1:33 pm

JTJ, :)

Lady J, :)

Kym, Spitzer has some connections. LOL

Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......

June 23rd, 2010
1:33 pm

now let me take a sec to catch up while the bugs bite me as I watch my child and her cousins in this pool…..smh! lol OFF isn’t keeping them away!

Kym-Make me wanna holler..the way they do my life..

June 23rd, 2010
1:35 pm

@Melo check this out from Politico…McCrystal had one ally in the whole thing.

Throughout the two-day drama, McChrystal had one ally in his corner: Afghan President Hamid Karzai, whose troubled relationship with the United States has been a source of deep concern in the White House, since the counter-insurgency strategy is premised on building popular support for a central leader, in this case Karzai.

But Karzai and McChrystal have had a warm relationship – so much so that Karzai put out a statement affirming his support for keeping McChrystal in the top job over U.S. forces there. NATO, too, called on Obama to stick with his top general in Afghanistan, where several NATO countries have troops.

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
1:35 pm

melo a book deal and fox news awaits that guy

@Lady J??

compared to what he was going to make had he kept quiet,prosecuted the war and been discharged differently..he wld have mad gazzilions,like Norman Scwarcof ???……….what evername was..

now the white house will trash him and his book gets boght by half the crowd..u know the usual suspects!

Hes a loser! Period!

Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......

June 23rd, 2010
1:37 pm

that he is and President Obama did the right thing!

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
1:40 pm

so much so that Karzai put out a statement affirming his support for keeping McChrystal in the top job over U.S. forces there

@Kym..he(McCrystal) must be sharing in on the poppy bribes with Karzai no wonder Karzai and him are together….that statement was McCrystal’s undoing..america dont brook no foreign interference..worse when the support is coming from somebody the white house despises.like Karzai.

This one time,Obama has displayed some Balls..

About time!

Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......

June 23rd, 2010
1:43 pm

i agree melo………..

AmazonRed™

June 23rd, 2010
1:44 pm

Kym-Make me wanna holler..the way they do my life..

June 23rd, 2010
1:45 pm

All hell is gonna break loose over there if we don’t pull out real soon. Let me rephase that..Hell has broken loose..but just a small portion..all of west hell is gonna break loose soon.

Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)

June 23rd, 2010
1:48 pm

I feel better after I work out too, cause sometimes folks make me want to put my foot in their chest!

I feel better after a workout,too…kinda energized actually.

kimmie

June 23rd, 2010
1:52 pm

Daddy Rain – Congrats!

Elijah ( Today is a good day!)

June 23rd, 2010
1:54 pm

Purple Rain I am doing well, thanks for asking!

Although I could use a break from the heat, my grass growing like crazy so I have to cut it weekly.

Good move by President Obama we have too many folks talking when action is needed. They are probably the people who leak to the press every time we are about to go in an Afghan town to clear it of the Taliban.

President Obama needs to make a move to oust Karzai from Afghanistan then we might see some real progress.

Kym-Make me wanna holler..the way they do my life..

June 23rd, 2010
1:55 pm

@Melo well guess who replaced McChrystal General wait for it.. David Petraeus.

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
1:57 pm

President Obama needs to make a move to oust Karzai from Afghanistan

@Elijah….u talking on the side of ur neck..

how can Obama oust a sovereign govt/head of state..no matter how weak he is??

He is prez of these here United states of AMERICA..not of afghanistan

Professor

June 23rd, 2010
2:07 pm

Wassup Elijah

Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......

June 23rd, 2010
2:11 pm

professor men notice my pretty brown eyes and smile! ;) YEAH!!!!!!!! ;)

JtJ

June 23rd, 2010
2:11 pm

Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)

June 23rd, 2010
2:12 pm

I just read “Top 10 excerpts from explosive Rolling Stone article about McChrystal on MSNBC.com and all I could do was :shock: .

This guy couldn’t have possibly thought he was going to talk isht about the POTUS and nothig happen…talk about inflammatory and incendiary. the guy even dropped the f bomb in the interview… It’s even been speculated that this was/is a Tea Party tactic to discredit the Pres….how dreadful(said in my Dwight Eubanks voice).

Leggs

June 23rd, 2010
2:12 pm

Oh no, PR, you’re expecting?? Congratulations.

Also, @Prof ~ was only kidding, I would never bark back as I’m backing out the door. Just thought that was cute!