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On the dating scene: what do you notice first?

If you take notice of any given event where a lot of single people are, you will probably get the sense that we aren’t exactly looking for one another.  It’s that whole “too cool for school” attitude that makes single people appear aloof and uninterested.

I don’t know why we do it all the time but it’s hard to break the habit.  Even at single mixers when the goal is to um mix and mingle, many people don’t like to appear over eager or too desperate.

I get that, I really do. I just wonder if we are so busy trying to appear like we aren’t pressed or interested in anyone, how do we ever link up!?  When you spot that person with that certain Je ne sais quoi, what do you notice first?

I am particularly curious to find out what the gentleman notice first.  I notice broad shoulders followed by the guy’s face.  After that, I pretty much start to swoon when I observe the way he carries himself and speaks intelligently.

Do you think that the things we notice first determines if we will give it a shot with someone new?  Does our first glance of a person’s image impact the amount of effort that we are willing to put forth? If so, is that a good thing or a bad thing?

Think of the last person you asked out or went on a date with, what did you first notice about them?

What is the first thing you notice on a potential date?

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Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
12:27 pm

jtj, are you saying that you have white crooked teeth? LOL

I am in a fun mood, forgive me. LOL

PrincessNik....heir to the throne of FABULOSITY

June 23rd, 2010
12:27 pm

Professor, the salad was good. You know the other week we were discussing getting back in the gym etc. I figured I really needed to work on healthy eating. I avoid salads cause i can’t stand all that lettuce, but I love raw spinach so i decided to make my own salad the way i like it.

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
12:27 pm

But you’re so pretty! Why don’t you have a boyfriend?

@Proff??

this one here is always a red flag with guys…i dont care how u ladies spice it.

No guy out there ever thinks he is that lucky!

If u pretty,single and in ur 30 +..u must be a psycho biaaatch…

Professor

June 23rd, 2010
12:28 pm

why is someone smoking that close to your a$$? LOL

Now that was funny! Carlito you are crazy!

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
12:28 pm

From a man’s point of view, he does not like to be called out every time. He knows when he has made a mistake, no need for someone to be nitpicky every single time. If a woman does that then the man will not want to admit his mistakes or wrongdoings in order to not feel the wrath of his woman. Let it slide sometimes. :)

SlimCuzIt'sTooDayumHot

June 23rd, 2010
12:29 pm

I’ve been told my size and sometimes exotic look is what catches their eye first. (I look regular if you ask me but often get mistaken for being from Ethiopia/somalia, India)

LOL@ PR on calling folks out on the blog. Btw, it looks like your horse is happy to see me. ;-)

SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.

June 23rd, 2010
12:29 pm

JtJ – TheDude and I will be at Summer Jam. Chillin’ on the lawn. I’m looking forward to it too.

PrincessNik....heir to the throne of FABULOSITY

June 23rd, 2010
12:30 pm

Lady J

how you coming on the road to ‘99 status :)

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
12:30 pm

Leggs, I did see where you typed it’s not an everyday occurrence, just so you know my last entry was not directed towards you. :)

Professor

June 23rd, 2010
12:30 pm

@Pk,

I am proud of you eating all healthy and working out! I need you to give me the drill Sgt. treatment. I will eat healthy all day long, but I am having a problem getting my gym on.

Melo :evil: that last line was out there :grin:

SlimCuzIt'sTooDayumHot

June 23rd, 2010
12:31 pm

‘why is someone smoking that close to your a$$?’

PR – you owe me a keyboard. :lol: :lol:

Leggs

June 23rd, 2010
12:32 pm

@Prof ~ you can call out and not be nasty about it. I think that’s where you’re missing my point. Most southerners think by me not being all soft and having the vapors when speaking with at times, I’m shooting from the hip. A phrase that has been told to me. Nothing gutter about how I speak, I’m pleasant and to the point.

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
12:33 pm

that last line was out there

@Proff??

ok, i will put :lol: as a disclaimer to those with good explanations/excuses! :lol:

Leggs

June 23rd, 2010
12:34 pm

That was funny, PR!

Leggs

June 23rd, 2010
12:35 pm

This is not day for my dang shoe flap in my sandal to come unglued. Messes up the entire outfit. Dagnabit!!!

PrincessNik....heir to the throne of FABULOSITY

June 23rd, 2010
12:35 pm

Professor it doesn’t have to be gym time, just get out and get moving

ride a bike, take a stroll with a friend My homegirl and i were on the treadmills yesterday yapping away and hit two miles before we knew it.

Professor

June 23rd, 2010
12:35 pm

@Leggs we can agree to disagree you ass-u-me that I meant being nasty. I never listed that in my post. Clearly you are missing the point and/or adding point(s) according to your 12:32. Who mentioned being gutter and/or nasty? Rhetorical question- no answer needed. :wink:

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
12:35 pm

but i’ve also been told my booty, my beauty

@PrincessNk

did u say phine bootey??

and u said ur lot is vacant right now?? :lol:

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
12:35 pm

Professor and Slim, LOL. I always say that when someone says “blowing smoke up my a$$” for multiple reasons. LOL
1) What on God’s green earth are you doing to have someone smoking that close to your butt?
2) From my past experience any air being blown in that area has been a good feeling…but that is just me. :)

Professor

June 23rd, 2010
12:36 pm

Melo, not your lot is vacant. I’ve never heard that one before…LOL

Leggs

June 23rd, 2010
12:37 pm

You stupid, PR. That was even funnier!

PrincessNik....heir to the throne of FABULOSITY

June 23rd, 2010
12:38 pm

@ leggs

I feel what you are saying. 90% of the time i’m pretty soft spoken but I still call it like i see it. A lot of times people are shocked when I call them on something. I’ve been known to cuss a person out with no curse words and without raising my voice.

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
12:39 pm

PrincessNik, did you just say you and your homegirl walk on the “stroll”?

Leggs, :) . LOL

Geesh is anyone going to try and figure out the equation next to my name, I told Lady J the answer two weeks ago but she has disappeared from the blog already. LOL

Professor

June 23rd, 2010
12:40 pm

PK you are right, but it seems like I del>cannot am having difficulty get moving on a consistent routine. A walk here and there…YES, but four days a week, NO. :cry:

Leggs

June 23rd, 2010
12:40 pm

@PrincessNik ~ I use to be known to have a machete for a tongue. I’ve acquired tact, discipline and sometimes a “no words are necessary attitude” as I’ve gotten older. Glad you feel what I’m saying!

Professor

June 23rd, 2010
12:42 pm

It looks like something is in the oven. Carlito and Julia two and the other part = 3. Three folks in the family.

Hey I am just guessing the “or” gave it away if I am right

Professor

June 23rd, 2010
12:44 pm

PK and Leggs, per my question if you are just meeting someone they do not know how you handle yourself. Please be mindful that this new stranger does not have background knowledge.

PrincessNik....heir to the throne of FABULOSITY

June 23rd, 2010
12:45 pm

Carlito, you are so crazy! you know that isn’t what i said :lol:

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
12:45 pm

I’ve been known to cuss a person out with no curse words and without raising my voice.

@PrincessNik??

I feel what u saying..its the equivalent of how us guys give a shout out and say nice thangs to a woman’s bootey and nice bountiful tatas jes by the look of our peeping_tom eyes,without even saying none to u! :lol: :lol:

jes that look :arrow: :roll:

:lol:

AmazonRed™

June 23rd, 2010
12:47 pm

I’ll admit I wasn’t too into World Cup, but I happened to be watching when USA scored and now I’m all hyped!

PrincessNik....heir to the throne of FABULOSITY

June 23rd, 2010
12:48 pm

Professor I understand what you mean also. Like i said pretty much i’m soft spoken. and its only every blue moon that my brain to mouth filter malfunctions ;) I do believe in being direct though, not really planning to change that.

Leggs

June 23rd, 2010
12:48 pm

@Prof ~ off to lunch but let me tell you this. When I first meet a person I am pleasant, smiling, approachable, laughing, no mean mugging, free to talk. Now, if they act a fool during that first encounter, I don’t know them from Adam. I state my discomfort with what was said or done and do my best to extricate myself from the situation. If they keep coming at me, I survey my surroundings and who’s around me and bark back as I’m backing out the door.

PrincessNik....heir to the throne of FABULOSITY

June 23rd, 2010
12:50 pm

new stranger

@ Professor is there a such thing as an old stranger j/k

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
12:50 pm

PrincessNik, that is how I read it. You, friend…stroll.

Professor, :)

PrincessNik....heir to the throne of FABULOSITY

June 23rd, 2010
12:51 pm

Carlito u didn’t waste any time huh ;)

JtJ

June 23rd, 2010
12:52 pm

*@ PR*….NO!!!! They are not jsut perfectly straight…LOL…As I am sure your’s aren’t either…lol.

@ SexyCool—Hopefully, we can enjoy it…it is supposed to rain, though!!

Melo

June 23rd, 2010
12:54 pm

I told Lady J the answer two weeks ago

@PR

how did she bribe u to reveal yet u asking us to get our smarts on?? :lol:

the playing field is obviously uneven,unless u making a subliminal request to the ladies? :lol:

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
12:56 pm

PrincessNik, It was not planned and you know I did not want any at all. DID NOT WANT! We did not know until she went to the doctor and then we had to keep it quiet because we were not sure if it was going to stay around. You know, not tell everyone and then something bad happens or we decide not to keep it. After thought and prayer I began to like the idea so why not. She looks even more beautiful to me now, I hope it is a girl :)

Professor

June 23rd, 2010
12:56 pm

PK, well there is a such thing as an “old stranger” that is someone you know, but don’t keep up with :arrow: you bump in them from time to time

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
12:57 pm

It was not planned and you know I did not want any at all. DID NOT WANT! We did not know until she went to the doctor and then we had to keep it quiet because we were not sure if it was going to stay around. You know, not tell everyone and then something bad happens or we decide not to keep it. After thought and prayer I began to like the idea so why not. She looks even more beautiful to me now, I hope it is a girl :)

PrincessNik....heir to the throne of FABULOSITY

June 23rd, 2010
12:58 pm

Professor now you know i was just teasing

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
12:58 pm

DOUBLE POST! What do I win?

Professor

June 23rd, 2010
12:59 pm

I see my 12:42 was on point!

Professor

June 23rd, 2010
12:59 pm

I see my 12:42 was on point!

AmazonRed™

June 23rd, 2010
1:00 pm

JtJ – I’ll be there. Making a whole ‘burbs weekend out of it! LOL

PrincessNik....heir to the throne of FABULOSITY

June 23rd, 2010
1:00 pm

She looks even more beautiful to me now

awwwwwwwwww

Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3

June 23rd, 2010
1:01 pm

jtj, I have a platinum grill, straight ballin’…LOL

Professor and PrincessNik, you better believe that I am getting the “ol’boys” snipped so that no more “mistakes by the lake” happen. One is enough.

Lady J-I love your smile!

June 23rd, 2010
1:03 pm

PK I walked stn mtn last sat with my buddy f2b and we are walking it again friday morning @ 6am!!!! I am excited about this lifestyle change……trying to eat better and eliminating soda’s and lowering carbs…..I enjoyed walking up the mnt too….I released stress and truly felt better! I exhaled and let some stuff go on the mtn! LOL

Carlito!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lady J-I love your smile!

June 23rd, 2010
1:03 pm

waving @ professor!

india

June 23rd, 2010
1:03 pm

to purple rain i live in ohio , the town that i’m from is 30 minutes from hunt wv , i work in hunt wv, i just have to cross a bridge in ohio and i’m in hunt wv