If you take notice of any given event where a lot of single people are, you will probably get the sense that we aren’t exactly looking for one another. It’s that whole “too cool for school” attitude that makes single people appear aloof and uninterested.
I don’t know why we do it all the time but it’s hard to break the habit. Even at single mixers when the goal is to um mix and mingle, many people don’t like to appear over eager or too desperate.
I get that, I really do. I just wonder if we are so busy trying to appear like we aren’t pressed or interested in anyone, how do we ever link up!? When you spot that person with that certain Je ne sais quoi, what do you notice first?
I am particularly curious to find out what the gentleman notice first. I notice broad shoulders followed by the guy’s face. After that, I pretty much start to swoon when I observe the way he carries himself and speaks intelligently.
Do you think that the things we notice first determines if we will give it a shot with someone new? Does our first glance of a person’s image impact the amount of effort that we are willing to put forth? If so, is that a good thing or a bad thing?
Think of the last person you asked out or went on a date with, what did you first notice about them?