Dating politics: Wise Diva goes to Washington
On Friday, I flew to Washington, DC last week to attend a really unique conference called the Blogging While Brown conference. I did not know what to expect because I had never been to a blogging conference. I knew it would be interesting when I received a cryptic email that some conference attendees would have a chance to speak to White House staff members at the Eisenhower Executive Office Building. I pretty much became a basket case from that moment.
We had a chance to meet with Corey Ealons, Director of African American Media and Coordinator of Special Projects and Jesse Lee, Online Programs Director. They were both very kind and engaging and we had a great discussion about politics, education, technology, etc.
They talked about the need for people to become more involved in the political process and the national discussion using various forums and platforms online, especially through whitehouse.gov. A lot of people don’t feel as if they have a voice or influence on what goes on in our country. This site provides an outlet to engage and interact with the policymakers.
It made me think about how much our politics make up who we are. I certainly learned a lot about myself and my friends in the last presidential election. I think it definitely becomes a part of how we view potential partners as compatible or not.
Do you think the politics and dating relationships should mix? Would you be brave enough to bring up a hot button political topic when you are on a date?
I can recall being on a date with a white guy who made some pretty provocative statements about black women and politics. I have to admit that it made me gun shy for a long time about dating outside my race. Do you think that our politics have to match in order for us to date successfully?
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Stirrin-ItUp
June 22nd, 2010
8:08 am
Several points:
1. I think you should at least have a basic understanding of each other’s politics. There are some things that will eventually have to be talked about.
2. No, your politics do not have to match. Some people with similar politics seems to get along quite well, some people with vastly differing political ideas seem to get along quite well.
3. I’m sorry that this guy’s political beliefs made you gun shy. In an ideal world we can talk politics without having to be in each other’s faces about it.
4. “Director of African American Media and Coordinator of Special Projects” Is this a real position? Conversely, how much anger would there be if the White House created a position called “Director of Caucasian American Media and Coordinator of Special Projects”?
anonymousella
June 22nd, 2010
8:43 am
@stirrin-itup: re #4: it’s called ‘the white house press secretary.’ or just accept that messages are crafted differently for different audiences. what may resonate with *you* does not resonate with everybody. it’s no different than any other form of advertising.
that said, your politics = your values. in a long-term relationship, values compatibility is important. but even in the dating stage, it’s key. i want to be able to enjoy dinner and not want to throat punch my date. i can’t do that if i am dating a conservative. there are very, very few policy points on which we’d agree. and the driving principle behind conservative ideology and policy (’strict father’ as george lakoff put it) is one i can’t really get with. i, frankly, don’t understand how carville and matalin do it.
so i say all of that to say: yeah. your political leanings are important (to me) in a relationship. (reason #217 why i’m marrying the finance.)
Stirrin-ItUp
June 22nd, 2010
9:11 am
@anonymousella: “i want to be able to enjoy dinner and not want to throat punch my date. i can’t do that if i am dating a conservative”
Are you saying that you want to harm conservatives? Whether you agree with a person politically, or not, it shouldn’t drive you to violence.
Also, I don’t mind the position at all. I’m jsut thinking that, if we live in a post-racial society, as I was actually told Obama would usher in, why is it necessary to have Black Entertainment Television, a Miss Black America pageant, a Director of African American Media, a congressional Black Caucus. There is a National Association for the Advancement of Colored People, but I don’t foresee there ever being an NAAWP. Just sayin’…
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2010
9:26 am
I like to be able to discuss politics and current events with my dates, but I generally try to keep it light at first. The overall objective of a date for me is to get to know someone while having fun. Many women just aren’t that interested in politics, and that would make a date boring for them. Boring for them is boring for me. Sometimes you just have to suck it up and resort to talking about Lil’ Wayne going to jail. lol
Conversely, how much anger would there be if the White House created a position called “Director of Caucasian American Media and Coordinator of Special Projects”?
Stirrin A special title isn’t needed for such a position because generally all media is Caucasian American Media.
(reason #217 why i’m marrying the finance.)
anonymousella You’re marrying the money? Sounds like a conservative move to me.
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2010
9:40 am
why is it necessary to have Black Entertainment Television, a Miss Black America pageant,
Stirrin Let’s invert the situation for a moment. Suppose ALL television was Black Enteratainment Television, almost every channel. Imagine that in the media your views and circumstances were either never discussed or misrepresented when they were (probably due to lack of white producers and writers). I’d wager my salary that in that scenario, it wouldn’t take long for a White Entertainment Television to evolve. Consider the same for a Miss America Pageant where 98% of the contestants were black. All that said, BET is only there because nothing else is. It doesn’t represent quality programming and caters to a certain not-so-positive cross section of AA society.
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
9:41 am
DreamsM I am happy you are here. Good Morning, do you mind making me a bloody mary?
A special title isn’t needed for such a position because generally all media is Caucasian American Media. Right On!
On topic: I like dates that flow, and I hate getting stuck debating a topic or an issue on a date. Especially the first few dates. I like to talk and have fun. I spend 60 plus hours a week being intelligent, so if I am out on a date, hanging with the girls or blogging I am going to cut a fool.
Stirrin-ItUp
June 22nd, 2010
9:43 am
Annnndddd… no one’s concerned that anonymousella wants to throat punch their date?
kimmie
June 22nd, 2010
9:55 am
Morning beautiful blog people!
I recently asked my SO would he date me if I was politically conservative. He said that in itself would not count me out, but we just would not vibe well and have as much in common. We discuss political events all the time and it helps that we agree.
Every conservative I know I have to tip-toe around and avoid certain subjects. I refuse to do that in my personal life, so no, couldn’t deal with it. It’s the same to me as dating someone of a radically different religion. Converting me ain’t gonna happen!
kimmie
June 22nd, 2010
9:58 am
Funny, as soon as Wise introduces a topic that has any mention of politics and especially the current administration, folks come out of the woodwork to our little dating blog.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2010
10:02 am
Good morning.
I too agree that you don’t have to be on the same political bandwagon as your date, but you don’t want to be too far to the left from their views. More than likely, not too many more dates will ensue.
Not concerned about wanting to throat punch her date…not at all.
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
10:05 am
no one’s concerned that anonymousella wants to throat punch their date?
Hmmmm, why should I care, I am not dating anonymousella?
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
10:08 am
On topic: During the presidential elections, I found myself not interested in guys that could not or would not keep up with the election. Even with the City of Atlanta mayoral race I felt the same way. Not sharing the same views is one thing, but the bigger issue is someone not having a view IMO.
Stirrin-ItUp
June 22nd, 2010
10:09 am
As apparently one of the few conservatives who even bothers with the AJC anymore, I’d like to say that hate that you have to tip-toe around other conservatives. But, by the same token, there are several libs that I have to tip-toe around daily.
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
10:09 am
There is no problem in wanting to throat punch a date, the problem comes if she actually does it. That is called battery. Or could get upgraded to Assault and Battery.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2010
10:09 am
Wise Diva, I don’t think the issue was dating out of your race with the “white guy” who made the comments towards you, it was his political views. I really do not care what a persons political party is. I vote somethings conservative and some things liberal. My main issue is that we both serve the same God, other than that, everything else is tolerable. Like abortions, I believe in them my wife doesn’t. I think if you do not want the child, have an abortion, she totally disagrees. I love her very much, even though we have different views. In essence, politics should not be a deal breaker when dating, they are not your “code” of life and I think if that is all you have to talk to your mate about there are other issues that need to be handled.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2010
10:11 am
Professor, what if he did not live in Atlanta and voted in another district, like Dawsonville? LOL
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
10:13 am
I wld date a person with different political views as long as their passion and debate style is not so adversarial as to invoke images of a palestinian against an Israeli type thing.
I wld not date a hard core lefty liberal or hard core right winger who are so gung ho in their positions and mouthings that they dont see rhyme or reason or take and debate politics in a Third world uncivilized kinda way/ level.
Queen likes Ryan Cameron, I like Frank skeezie but we bang like crawzzy!
Accomodations people..cheer up..
and Good morning folks!
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
10:14 am
@Purple Rain- how are ya’?
Even if he voted in another district the city of Atlanta politics impact territory outside of the city. I vote in another district and I keep up. It is call being a lifelong learner, and knowing current events. Usually I will bring up something else to test the water. Although I am very diverse and intelligent I like dating a man that can keep up and hold his own.
kimmie
June 22nd, 2010
10:14 am
But, by the same token, there are several libs that I have to tip-toe around daily.
And we should care because?
I do so at work and other places I HAVE to be at because it’s the classy thing to do and you don’t discuss politics in polite company.
But at home, all bets are off. I won’t have views I don’t believe in shoved down my throat. The cable company may as well remove FOX from our cable listing!
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2010
10:14 am
There is no problem with thinking about throat punching a date in the throat? Even if she does not do it but did indeed express that thought to her date I would imagine there would be an issue. “Carl, I should just punch you in the throat!” That would be our last date, she would probably have to pay for her own meal and get a ride home. LOL, Poppa Grande would that be a terroristic threat if someone said that to another person?
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2010
10:18 am
Professor, I understand. I only have a problem with people who complain and are not involved at all. Like those who only vote in during Presidential Elections and do not get involved on the local levels.
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
10:19 am
Mrs. PG is way more liberal than I. I seem to get more more conservative as each day passes. Heck, I may sport a comb-over soon.
Seriously, we are a different in many areas of political views. Respect of each others views is vital for it to work.
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2010
10:20 am
Prof How are you this morning? Bloody Mary it is.
Annnndddd… no one’s concerned that anonymousella wants to throat punch their date?
Stirrin If anonymousella really does go around throat punching people, then just make sure you don’t go on a date with her. lol I’d bet she’s never done that. anonymousella please, say you’ve never really throat punched a date. lol
Now, Stirrin if you want to read some truly concerning blogs, then read the article about General Stanley McChrystal’s comments regarding the administration. The blogs following that article reference giving awards for sniping the president. If they propose sniping for our country’s leader, then what would they propose for someone like me? Tarring and feathering? One doesn’t justify the other, but really.
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
10:21 am
Heck, I may sport a comb-over soon.
LOL, now that was funny!
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
10:23 am
Tarring and feathering?
@ DreamsM, no I was told by one that they would hang folks on the city square and cut him down at midnight, and throw the body in a shallow grave. You are right about the blogs and the violence displayed towards our president.
Stirrin-ItUp
June 22nd, 2010
10:23 am
kimmie – I agree, beliefs you don’t share should not be forced down your throat (or anonymousella might punch you there). The cable company may as well remove all the news from my listings, because it’s basically all the same. Fox tells you the libs are evil, CNN and MSNBC tell you that conservatives are evil.
That said, I guess I’m done here. With comments drawn both here and in other places, I can tell that conservatives ideals really aren’t welcome anymore.
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
10:24 am
@Carlito I agree, I am involved on all levels.
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
10:26 am
You don’t have to tip toe if you respect each other.
Former First Lady Laura Bush is way more liberal than her husband, former President George W. Bush. Since her husband left office, she has let her liberal views come out more. Recently she did an article in support of the health care reform that was passed in March 2010.
Really, you don’t have to look any further than James Carville, who is very liberal, and his wife Mary Matalin (very conservative).
So, it can work.
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
10:26 am
@Stirring-ItUp, in truth no one really welcome ideals; because, ideals are like buttholes everyone has one. So, using time management skills who wants to waste time reading and listening to everyone?
Liberal Lady
June 22nd, 2010
10:27 am
Trust when you get that conservative arse behind closed doors~everybody is Liberal! lol
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
10:28 am
@PG That James Carville gets on my last nerve. It seems like he is so passionate that he is going into cardiac arrest at any moment when you see him on TV.
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
10:28 am
Stirrin-ItUp??
Is Thinking right blog not there anymore since Jim Wooten retired??
U wld be much welcome there..its like Fox Noise ova there.
I like Bill Oreilly tho!
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
10:29 am
Liberal Lady, I luv it!
kimmie
June 22nd, 2010
10:30 am
PG – I agree with your 10:26, but I’m not talking about a dating situation, I’m talking about places such as the workplace. I respect others to keep my views to myself in certain situations, others want to try to shove stuff in my face and they can keep it.
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
10:31 am
Melo…I think that Bob Barr is on that blog some now.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 22nd, 2010
10:31 am
I may sport a comb-over soon.
First
but 
at the visual…
kimmie
June 22nd, 2010
10:31 am
Liberal Lady – ^5
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
10:33 am
In workplace situations, I just know with which people to talk politics and which one to not. Some people cannot be respectful about other people’s views. Usually they show that in regards to other topics, too.
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
10:34 am
Wassup Ms. Sassssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssy
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
10:35 am
I agree in regards to Carville. I like his passion, but I wonder if it clouds his common sense. However, he is not the only one that has that issue.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2010
10:35 am
Poppa Grande, I am a conservative mostly. I have blog on Bob Barr’s blog, I think he is an idiot. Although, I do like reading the different view points there.
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 22nd, 2010
10:37 am
That said, I guess I’m done here….I can tell that conservatives ideals really aren’t welcome anymore.
If you leave me now…you take away the biggest part of meeeeee….oooooohh you know, oh please don’t go….
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2010
10:37 am
With comments drawn both here and in other places, I can tell that conservatives ideals really aren’t welcome anymore.
Stirrin Did you purposely overlook the comments of some bloggers who were married and had differing liberal/conservative views? I would say that marrying someone with “conservative” views is about as much as you could do to “welcome” those ideals. See the problem is often that people try to create this artificial dichotomy…you’re either conservative or you’re liberal. I may be way off base, but I tend to think that people are much more complex than that. There are areas in my life where I take a conservative approach, there are some where I take a liberal approach, and there are others where I think that neither in it’s extreme is adequate. I do agree that we can eliminate all the news channels though. The Daily Show is probably more objective than all of them. lol
SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.
June 22nd, 2010
10:37 am
I thought anonymousella’s comment about throat punching was *kinda* tongue-in-cheek.
TheDude and I happen to share *mostly* similar views when it comes to things that could be considered political. However, we don’t mirror each other and I can appreciate that. It results in some really interesting discussions where I get to learn why he believes what he does, how he views some things and I even enjoy the fervor with which he can discuss certain points. (It’s kind of a turn-on. LOL)
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 22nd, 2010
10:38 am
Hola Professoraaaaaaaaaaaaaa
kimmie
June 22nd, 2010
10:41 am
Some people cannot be respectful about other people’s views. Usually they show that in regards to other topics, too.
PG – Exactly!
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
10:43 am
PurpleRain
Bob Barr teaches at all three law schools in the Atlanta area. I’ve met him a number a times a school. He isn’t all that bad. I’ve been to one of his seminars. He knows that controversy sells. So, I guess that on his blog he says things for shock value. Shock value means more hits on the website. More hits on the site mean more sponsors. So, it goes back to the “dolla, dolla bill, y’all”.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2010
10:45 am
Poppa Grande, his blog and this blog must make tons.
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
10:48 am
Stirrin-ItUp is typical of whats wronf in America..The Tea Party.
People cannot disagree in a civil manner any more.They have to bring guns to the party to show that its either Their way or else Guns will be Blazing.
If you cant tolerate or entertain differing opinions from urs and take it on the chin and cannot argue for ur case on its merits in this dating/ luv blog,Stirrin-ItUp,well Stirrin-ItDown and Out
U are weak minded!
CoolShadow
June 22nd, 2010
10:48 am
Really, you don’t have to look any further than James Carville, who is very liberal, and his wife Mary Matalin (very conservative).
I immediately thought of them once I read the blog topic.
Politics is rarely brought up on dates and is normally discussed on a tangential or surficial level. It’s not necessary to be politically aligned to date someone but that’s one less commonality to connect on. I could deal with someone who may have political differences but likely not if they’re extreme in their views; extremists are usually the most intolerant and take themselves and their views a little too seriously.
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
10:51 am
I equate politics with WWE rastlin’ (as my grandpa used to call it). My best friend’s aunt used to do housekeeping for a hotel, and he would meet wrestlers because they were on the road. The funny thing is that some of the wrestlers that claimed to not like each other were roommates and hung out together when they were on camera.
I’ve always felt that the two big parties work together to keep a third party from really gaining prominence. Seeing them out there together on First Street, Constitutional Avenue, and at Union Station together is a sight.
During the spring of 2010, I got to spend some time in Washington working with a lobbying group duing the whole Health Care passage battle. It was interesting to see folks like Boehner (Repub) hanging with some pretty liberal folks. Or seeing John Lewis hanging with conservative.
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
10:52 am
Purple Rain…
He doesn’t hurt for money at all.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2010
11:00 am
Poppa Grande, I know he has money. I am wondering to the people who facilitate the blogs get paid? Wise Diva, gets paid for this blog? LOL, awesome that is easy money. I need a blog
I just told a guy on my team whom is disgruntled with another co-worker (female) that arguing with a woman is gay. He asked me how is arguing with a woman gay. I paused and he got the point. LOL
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 22nd, 2010
11:01 am
extremists are usually the most intolerant and take themselves and their views a little too seriously.
Ain’t that the truth…and for some reason they look at you crazy for not understanding their fervor with regards to said views…come on now son.
kimmie
June 22nd, 2010
11:05 am
extremists are usually the most intolerant and take themselves and their views a little too seriously.
Which is why dating someone with views radically different from mine is out! Believe me, I’ve tried. I am liberal, but I dated a left-wing extremist once and it was not pretty.
I mean, Carville & Matlin are cute and all, but no thanks!
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2010
11:06 am
Sassy Me, I agree with you also and will even expand the definition of “extremists” views not only to politics, but to anything. Parenting, food, dating, health, money, sports etc.
kimmie
June 22nd, 2010
11:07 am
Purple – Your expanded extremist views – agreed!
Purple Rain *2
June 22nd, 2010
11:08 am
kimmie, How are you
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
11:09 am
Purple Rain
Wise Diva, gets paid for this blog? LOL, awesome that is easy money
Don’t you know that Wise Diva is loaded too? She has a vacation house on St. Lucia, a house in the Hamptons, and is a part-time resident of the State of Hawaii.
She drives a Maserati Granturismo.
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
11:14 am
Howdy folks….
kimmie
June 22nd, 2010
11:16 am
Purple – I’m cool, just chillin’! Got a little summer cold, but I’m fighting it! Growing some nice basil, rosemary, parsley & chives in my garden, so I’ll be using it to whip up some nice meals!
AmazonRed™
June 22nd, 2010
11:20 am
Just lurking today. But good morning all.
Liberal Lady
June 22nd, 2010
11:23 am
I just told a guy on my team whom is disgruntled with another co-worker (female) that arguing with a woman is gay. He asked me how is arguing with a woman gay. I paused and he got the point. LOL
@PR – yep ’cause there are some women that will verbally humiliate you – so it may not be appropriate at work, but it taint gay!
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
11:24 am
Kimmie:
I’ve got some rosemary and thyme growing in my garden. But, I have so many tomatoes that I have to give the plants more support. I’ve got regular tomatoes and cherry tomatoes. There are so many cherry tomatoes that I will probably take some to school and give them to the secretaries and deans.
kimmie
June 22nd, 2010
11:27 am
Poppa – I wanted to plant some cherry tomatoes! Didn’t get around to it though.
I did plant some hot peppers this summer. I use them to make pepper vinegar. My boss planted a lot last summer and kept me in business!
Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3
June 22nd, 2010
11:27 am
Poppa Grande, I am going to create a blog about something.
Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3
June 22nd, 2010
11:28 am
Liberal Lady, LOL
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
11:30 am
Kimmie
My wife loves cherry tomatoes so I planted some.
I did haberno peppers, green bell peppers, banana peppers too.
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
11:31 am
Habanero
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
11:33 am
Purple Rain….you can start a blog about Prince and all of the bands/singers that come from Paisley Park. There is plenty to talk about with that.
Try to get paid by the number of posts.
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
11:35 am
PG,
I did the green bell peppers first, but when I saw the price on the yellow and red peppers I planted some of those as well. I have several types of hot peppers and some cherry peppers as well. Plenty of herbs, tomatoes (all sizes, collards and cumcumbers. Next year I plan to add beans and squash!
Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3
June 22nd, 2010
11:38 am
Poppa Grande, Prince will probably sue me. LOL
Purple Rain (PR*2 or JG*2)=G3
June 22nd, 2010
11:39 am
Have a wonderful day:)
‘a presto’
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2010
11:42 am
Dang Professor you got the farmer’s market going on. Can you do some acorn squash just for me. There’s a nice dish I like to use it for.
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
11:42 am
Speaking of cherry tomatoes, my little niece likes to get into my moms garden and eat them…I’m not sure who is worse, my niece or the squirrels. lol
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
11:47 am
@DreamM, I love fresh veggies out the garden. This time of year I love preparing a meal centered around my harvest.
I gotcha on the acorn squash.
@Slim I love fried green tomatoes. My mom had to plant extra tomatoes when I was growing up, because I would pick them and fry them. So she had to plant extras if she wanted a ripe tomato.
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
11:47 am
Professor
I usually don’t buy my plants from Home Depot, but this year I did. They had a sale for all vegetables and herbs around Mothers day. So, I got the plants that that I stated plus some cucumbers and zucchini. It was like 10-12 plants and I got them all for less than $20.
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
11:50 am
Professor
yellow squash plants yield a lot of yellow squash. I ran out of things to do with it. Zucchini yields a lot too, but I can make zucchini bread or something with it. I don’t know many folks that want yellow squash bread….
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
11:51 am
Purple Rain
Yeah, he may sue you, but you will get publicity to start another blog.
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
11:51 am
Poppa
You found a good deal. My mom will plant her own seeds in flower pots and sit out the plants when it is time. I go over to her house and reap the benefits. I purchased my red and yellow bell pepper plants from Wal-Mart.
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
11:52 am
C’mon what has that Perez Hilton done to get famous? Talk about celebrities on a dang blog. Other than that, he has done nothing.
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
11:53 am
You are right about the yellow squash. My mom cooked some on Sunday, and I cooked some squash I got out of her garden on Saturday. I love squash.
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2010
11:55 am
Professor…I know that it was a good deal. It was less than $2.00 per plant.
My dad plants dry beans and corn kernels and gets plants from them. However, he is retired and has nothing else to do but tend to them. He didn’t plant any tomatoes this year, though. My mom is already calling me about mines so she can do fried green tomatoes.
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
11:59 am
Professor – I like to eat sliced up tomatoes with just salt and pepper on them. Yesterday I had some sliced cucumbers soaked in italian dressing to go along with my grilled hotdogs…a nice cool treat. Mmm Mmm good.
For the record…me don’t likey squash. Zucchini yes, squash no Just doesn’t sit well in my mouth…immediate gag reflex
I am whatever you say I am
June 22nd, 2010
12:00 pm
*pause* *applause* as I step in…………….
I am whatever you say I am
June 22nd, 2010
12:00 pm
I am in the building…………..
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
12:02 pm
I am! Wassup chick! I just gave you a standing ovation!
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2010
12:07 pm
Slimmy, I am How you all doing? Staying out the heat I hope.
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
12:11 pm
Dreams – what…I don’t get my hug today…just that measley terroistic fist bump?
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
12:12 pm
Slim, I like my tomatoes sliced with s&p on the side when I eat greens. As for the cucumbers I add a dash of vinegar to the salad dressing. This year I planted some pickling cucumbers IMO they have a better crunch and standup to the salad dressing and vinegar better
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 22nd, 2010
12:19 pm
Don’t do it to him Slim…he ain’t mean to do leave you out.
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2010
12:20 pm
Dreams – what…I don’t get my hug today…just that measley terroistic fist bump?
Now, Slimmy you know you ALWAYS good for a hug from me. Vente aqui mami!
Prof you got any good conferences (preferably in Hawaii) coming up this year? Just write me in the grant as your graduate student so I can come without paying.
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
12:21 pm
@DreamsM- LOL the closest I can get you to Hawaii would be southern Cal. I am debating a conference out there. LOL
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2010
12:25 pm
@DreamsM- LOL the closest I can get you to Hawaii would be southern Cal. I am debating a conference out there. LOL
Prof that’ll work. beggars can’t be choosers. I promise I’ll make myself useful. When you present your work, if anyone opposes you (you know there’s always one a*&hole in the bunch), I’ll throat punch him.
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
12:29 pm
Not the throat punch…LOL
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 22nd, 2010
12:32 pm
Vente aqui mami!
prrrrrrr….
I am whatever you say I am
June 22nd, 2010
12:49 pm
Sup Profess! Sup Dream Mat
Sup Carlito (there can only be one purple rain http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prince_(musician))
I am whatever you say I am
June 22nd, 2010
12:51 pm
okay you all
I need your vote for today’s activity for little dude and myself
and I need to be home by 430 to avoid rush hour traffic . Keep in mind… I’m trying to avoid crowds
Aquarium or Zoo?
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
12:55 pm
‘you know you ALWAYS good for a hug from me’
Dreams – thanks sweetie…now I can proceed in my day with a smile & butterflies.
@I am – doubt the Zoo be that crowded…it’s supposed to be 94 degrees today and i’m sure even the monkeys will be selling bottled waters for $1. lol
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
12:57 pm
I am, there is also a place called Noah’s Arc in Locust Grove that operates on donations only…try googling it to see if that’s something you’d be interested in whether it be today or in the future.
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
1:01 pm
@I am…the zoo is my choice, but slim made a good point regarding the heat. Noah’s Ark is nice, but you will hit traffic around the Farmer’s market exit so I would not suggest making that drive today.
Professor
June 22nd, 2010
1:02 pm
Yellow River Game Ranch is nice, but still outdoors. I love going there spring and fall.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2010
1:05 pm
I’ve read some of the comments. Got up to blogging with Bob Barr and nearly bit my tongue. He’s the only person I know who steadfastedly operated on the brown paper bag theory!
Anyway, what’s the topic?
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
June 22nd, 2010
1:08 pm
hey ladies…..
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
1:19 pm
im trying/decodomg if i shld go downstairs to get some forks and knives for my lernch..my lernch is riight hee(yes hee) on ma desk…..
u think spreadsheet lady might poison my lernch.
dont tell me blog will sue her if i die…
I be dead already!
I am whatever you say I am
June 22nd, 2010
1:20 pm
Enter your comments here
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
1:24 pm
deciding
I am whatever you say I am
June 22nd, 2010
1:30 pm
LOL @ monkeys selling $1 water
I think I’ll hit up zoo. I thought that it would be less crowded as well but I wanted to see if you guys could offer any other suggestions.
Thanks Slim and Professor for the Noah’s ark choice. I’ll have to google that one day and plan it for future trip.
Hopefully today won’t be that bad. I have on my moomoo (http://s7d2.scene7.com/s7ondemand/zoom/flasht_zoom.jsp?company=NewYorkCompany&config=p2_config&sku=07724856&vc=selItem%3DNewYorkCompany/07724856%2C199%2C%26singleImageSwatch%3Dtrue%26itemdesc%3DThe%20City%20Strapless%20Maxi%20Dress%20-%20Tropical%20Print%26initialFrame%3D0%26codeRoot%3D%2Fis-viewers-3.7%2Fflash%2F&viewer=%2Fskins%2FNewYorkCompany%2FSWFs%2Fnycogenericzoom.swf&zoomheight=740&zoomwidth=700
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
June 22nd, 2010
1:37 pm
is recess over where is everyone……lol
I am whatever you say I am
June 22nd, 2010
1:40 pm
I’m out!
Peaces!!!!
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
1:46 pm
Is the recess over where is everyone……lol
Unless there is sexx or a blog fight,this thing crawls..
get raunchy,everybody comes back and those that fake the funk dissappear only to reapper in different,fake blog monikkerS.
cant do politico in dating blog…NO NO
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
1:48 pm
Lady J – I’m still trying to hang in there but being on the blog these days is like watching paint dry lol
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
1:52 pm
SlimCutty?? ladyJ?? Proff??
so do uall ladies want me to and approve of me stirring UP some shyytt???
Wise Diva
June 22nd, 2010
1:53 pm
I absolutely love that I can never predict the types of comments and discussion that will take place. Thanks for weighing in on this guys, I wondered how other folks felt about politics and how much to share when you first date
Wise Diva
June 22nd, 2010
1:53 pm
Melo you know you really don’t need to do that LOL
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
June 22nd, 2010
1:54 pm
awwwww no drama melo we will be cool for the summer it is hot enough outside…….lol
slim I am here too….worked this morning now @ school working on this paper then class @ 6…….I was coming on here to play….lol
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
June 22nd, 2010
1:55 pm
Hey WD………
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
2:01 pm
melo – ya think?
Wise Diva
June 22nd, 2010
2:02 pm
Hey Lady J! How is your day going
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
2:03 pm
‘I was coming on here to play’
Lady J – sort of reminds me of being back in elementary school when it was time to pick people for their kickball teams and I be the last one standing and only got chosen by default. lol
Leggs
June 22nd, 2010
2:03 pm
Today I am training a new employee on how to send merged files to our clients and I am about to pull my hair out. I find it absolutely AMAZING that she knows NOTHING about our clients and how we responde with them.. Gives me the uncanny feeling that her resume was fudged!!! Anyhoo, I need an icee since I can’t drink for helping her out!!! I won’t squeal on her. Melo, something akin to your spreadsheet workwife!
Wise Diva
June 22nd, 2010
2:06 pm
Leggs, don’t you just hate that, you are stuck with the clueless newbie and she is getting over. For shame
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
June 22nd, 2010
2:06 pm
WD it is going being productive! hope yours is well too!
Slim funny you made me think of 3rd grade and recess for real! lol
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
2:11 pm
Gives me the uncanny feeling that her resume was fudged!!!
@Leggs??
I think the same think about this workwife u bestowing on me..how did somebody hire this dunder head of a person??
Dont they do internships anymore etc…besides,class projects shld be so high tech 2010 so much so that when kids get into corporate careers,they can do outlook,excel,word and power point to a a good competent level.
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
2:17 pm
Leggs – speaking of training, we got a new lady here at my job about a month ago. I swear she is like Drew Barrymore in that movie 50 First Dates because it seems like her brain resets every single day. Why are we still going over stuff from day 1 all the way on day 30???? Asking questions is perfectly fine but they should be something more complex than how do you shut your computer down and turn it back on.
Off topic – who the hayo cares that Kloe bought her hubby a new Rolls Royce worth $400k??? I surely don’t….i mean, is that what we deem news these days?
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
2:18 pm
does anybody know of a good mind reader/hynotist/shrink etc….
I need somebody who can see whats in the underworld and is really good.
any sangomas in america..somebody??
(not a joke or prank) dead serious!
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2010
2:21 pm
Ok I have a story, sort of related to the topic. I met a woman not too long ago and we were having a good conversation about how childhood family structure influences our current dating habits. She admitted that she deviated from her parents’ perspective in that her parents are creole from Louisiana and some extreme viewpoints about race, color, and “pedigree” (btw I really dislike this word as it applies here). She then follows it up by saying “Don’t worry, you’re light enough, have good enough hair, and went to the right schools, so they would like you.” She said it like I was supposed to breathe a sigh of relief. Although she didn’t completely agree with her parents’ perspective, she still sought their approval. Have any of you run into these extreme sorts of color disparities in your recent dating misadventures?
Wise Diva
June 22nd, 2010
2:22 pm
That’s an interesting question Dreams, wow
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2010
2:27 pm
WD I didn’t realize people were still paper bag testing in the dating world.
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
2:30 pm
if u broke,living pay check to pay check,dont worry..u in goood company..this honie of mine, a bilioanre is broke too,,hehehe
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/22/business/22sorkin.html?dbk
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
2:33 pm
My exes’ family are from the islands (Trini, Venezuela, etc) and they had a thing about being too dark. I guess I was light enough for them to approve of me but one of the aunts told my exes mom that if he and I had a child, the child would have peekie hair. I guess because I don’t have that silky, fine, straight type of hair. I was offended but sometimes comments like those are better left alone.
free to be (F2B)
June 22nd, 2010
2:34 pm
good afternoon everyone.:)
wow, Dreams…that is an interesting question. if i was subject to such color requirements, i didn’t realize it. i have heard various family memmbers comment though about a particular kind of hair, skin or eye color being more desirable when it comes to having kids. thankfully, this was NOT in my immediate family but distant cousins. it is sad to think there are people who stand by falsehoods such as biracial children being more attractive just because one parent is white. sad, sad….
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
2:35 pm
hommie of mine..listen to me,saying honie..LOL……horny wld have been better.
AmazonRed™
June 22nd, 2010
2:35 pm
WiseDiva – You broke your promise to us!
imagyneme
June 22nd, 2010
2:36 pm
WoW…two pages again…I guess I need to lurk someplace else…
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 22nd, 2010
2:37 pm
I’m still trying to hang in there but being on the blog these days is like watching paint dry
I’ve been thinking the same thing…maybe the blog is on “summer break” or sumthin…
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
2:40 pm
she still sought their approval
@Dreamz..that part of ur qstion is key…
Its her family and i understand her wanting to go along with what her family believes in. It is much better than inviting strife simply coz u grown and have a man/woma in ur life.
These things do matter i think coz they define who u are thus far in ur lyfe.
Family is family and inviting somebody in ur life that ur family “approves” is important to me.
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
2:40 pm
approves of,is important
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
2:42 pm
WiseDiva – You broke your promise to us!
@Ared…she was in DC. where promises are broken,so it shldnt be a surprise.
kimmie
June 22nd, 2010
2:44 pm
Dreams – There is still paperbag testing in 2010, yes there is! I have a friend that is half Cuban, half AA. Depending on the day, she looks either AA or Latino. Grew up in Miami & married a AA.
ALL I HEAR around her is lightskinned this, darkskinned that! Of course, I’M OKAY to hang around her cause I’m on the lighter end of the spectrum. If it ain’t light or white, it ain’t right with her! It gets worse & worse! I am offended by it all and have told her. And her mother especially sheilded her from being around AA’s or knowing anything about her AA heritage. It’s certain ATL folk I can’t even bring her around – she wants to be bougie so bad but does not have a clue! I finally had to wean away from her!
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
2:45 pm
melo & Dreams – well the same aunt that was tripping on the possible texture of our kids hair, father was a dark as coal from what I was told. So is that some sort of self-hate thing going on there??? She ended up marrying a black guy that could pass for white because he was soooooooo light with straight hair. She even make it an appoint to drop her Trini Accent when she got to the states.
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 22nd, 2010
2:47 pm
(Trini, Venezuela, etc) and they had a thing about being too dark.
Lawd don’t I know it…it hurt growing up in/with a color struck family and constantly being called “black” and other deragatory terms. What’s even sadder is that my dad’s side of the fam was just as if not darker than I am/was. Looking back on it know I just shake my head at it and keep it moving. It wasn’t until I came to the “A” that I grew to understand/love/appreciate my pretty dark brown skin…..ignorance may be bliss for some but knowledge of self is priceless.
kimmie
June 22nd, 2010
2:49 pm
Dreams – It’s funny too, cause her hubby is a nice pecan-brown, but she tries to say he is “light”! I finally got fed up and informed her her husband is NOT LIGHT, but what difference should it make?!!!
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
2:55 pm
She even make it an appoint to drop her Trini Accent when she got to the states
@Slim…most foreign chics or young adults do that anyway..either they adopt/fake foreign accents deliberately or they assimilate them slowly with time.
is that some sort of self-hate thing going on there
look and i aint too proud nor ashamed to say it,even tho i like dark skinned as a pref to light skinned, i dont see myself dating a chic as dark skinned as a sudanese/ugandan. Its darn too dark black for my liking..no hate,just a pref.
professor
June 22nd, 2010
2:57 pm
so do uall ladies want me to and approve of me stirring UP some shyytt???
I say, let it rip!
does anybody know of a good mind reader/hynotist/shrink etc….
Send me your question for the underworld. I am going to find a shrink for you, tho…give me a second. LOL
Have any of you run into these extreme sorts of color disparities in your recent dating misadventures?
@DreamsM, This is still going on. Personally, I know of a bride-to-be that had her wedding called off. When the groom’s mother met her she raised h-e-l-l and said she was too dark. He told her in the end it was just too much and he could not do it and leave his mom out their all alone. The funny thing is he would never let her meet his mom, I thought he had another woman.
Hey F2B- how are ya’?
professor
June 22nd, 2010
3:04 pm
@DreamsM I’ve seen/heard both sexes say things like they only date “dark” or only date “light”. I find it ignorant to rant and rave over color unles you are talking about the mighty green dollar. I do not hang around people with that slave thinking. Regardless of being dark or light I feel like you are the fool that is keeping the fool company listening to all that mess.
The funny thing is I’ve heard other races say, why worry about that all of you are black.
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 22nd, 2010
3:04 pm
Have any of you run into these extreme sorts of color disparities in your recent dating misadventures?
Yes I’ve encountered that several times in my past. Men of different complexions approach me on the regular but for some reason the lighter complected ones loove me. I’ve also had men who like my dark skin for several reasons…like that’s just what they’ve always liked or I’m dark like their mothers but the one I’ll never understand is when a man claims he only likes dark skinned sisters cause a red one just did him all kinds of wrong…when I hear that ish I’m like
and then I’m ghost…I’m thinking this fool only likes me by default and I refuse to be anybody’s second fiddle.
professor
June 22nd, 2010
3:06 pm
Sasssssssssy I am feeling your 2:47, {{{hug}}} to you.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2010
3:10 pm
WD ~ I have truly been working today! She turns to me and says, she never could have gotten it done w/o my help. Mind you now, if she was truly an airhead and acted smug, I would have punched her in the throat!! She had two reports to get out. We only did one. Told her to remember what she did today because she has to repeat it tomorrow.
@kimmie ~ there will probably always be “paperbag testing” as long as we have race issues. Spike Lee said it best with the Jungaboos (sp?) in Do The Right Thing. How old is that movie? We’re still facing the same race related questions.
@SlimCutty ~ if you kept acting like it’s GroundHog Day, I would have to walk away from you and ask that someone else transition you into your new position.
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 22nd, 2010
3:15 pm
Professoraaaaaaaaa I kow if no one else here can co-sign and understand it would be youuuuu,chica. When I used to live downtown one of the guys that worked at this ritzy men’s clothing store woule see me and he ALWAYS said to me “Ain’t nuthin like a pretty dark skinned woman….he was always polite and genuine about it and NEVER tried to hit on my and it made me smile EVERYTIME.
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 22nd, 2010
3:16 pm
geeze all the typo’s…my bad but y’all get my jist…
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
3:17 pm
I hit u Proff!
professor
June 22nd, 2010
3:19 pm
Sasssssssssssssssssssssssssy I guess when I read some of the history books and realized how this “color thang” happened. I always felt some relief that “Massa” didn’t get my granny, and thankful I didn’t have that mentality. My dad side of the family is all shades on colors, but you know us by our features. The funny thing is my grandmother pushed education and not color.
So I am in
mode when I see big, grown, rusty folks talking about color, and where they fall on the spectrum. In my family we talk $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 22nd, 2010
3:21 pm
Professor did you deal with that alot growing up?…did you ever feel funny or bad about it? And if you did when did you become comfortable with it?….that wasn’t too much was it?
Melo I usually don’t give a rat’s patooty about what you post but that last line in your 2:55 bothered me…but as you’ve said it’s not hate just a preference…maybe it was the way you said it but either way, I get your point…to each his/her own.
Dig That
June 22nd, 2010
3:21 pm
Wassup erybody
Too much to catch up on, but whoever mentioned training a new employee I feeeeelllll you. I’m doing the same thing and I’m bout to tell this chick just get up and quit. And if she tell me anything else that requires a ST instead of SK I am going to scream. That was my pet peeve as a child and everybody in my hood could never get it right. The word is STREET not SKREET. As uppity as she is trying to be, she is killing me on the inside. And she got a track loose. Who hired her? Ok I vented. How is everyone doing today?
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
3:23 pm
Well you tend to mostly see a darker skinned person with a lighter-skinned person. Not sure why that is but it is. For whatever reason, I tend to be more attracted to brown or darker skinned men. But I have dated on the lighter side of the spectrum…no biggie
@Leggs – I think pretty much everyone is exhausted by her. Yesterday one chick reached her breaking point and basically told her to pull out a pen and pad and write it down step by step. She also told her to quit talking when someone is trying to explain things to her so that she can actually LISTEN and just be waiting for an opp to jump in with your two cents
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
3:26 pm
‘And she got a track loose’
DIG – HE—-LAR – E-US!!!!!!!!!!!!!
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
3:28 pm
Oh and DIG – my cousin has a problem with saying STR words…for whatever reason she can’t pronoun the T in the STR…so words like:
Strawberry come out as SHRawberry
Street come out as SHREET
Strong come out as SHRONG
LOL!
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 22nd, 2010
3:29 pm
In my family we talk $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
That’s what’s up la Professoraaaaaaaa
Leggs
June 22nd, 2010
3:31 pm
And she got a track loose.
Oh my….thank you so much cuz I truly needed that laugh!
Ok, I need one or two good after work spots to go to and chill before heading home for an hour or two. Somebody give me some suggestions but nothing downtown…thanks.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 22nd, 2010
3:32 pm
Hey Erybody..
Dig That
June 22nd, 2010
3:33 pm
@Slim- It wouldn’t be so bad if she wasn’t over here acting like the Queen of England. And some contracts feel out of her hand and came back to my office to ask me if I heard her around the corner STREAMING.
professor
June 22nd, 2010
3:34 pm
@Sassssssssssssssy, you know what I had a few people here and there tried to bring that junk to me, but I can truly say I had a Blessed childhood and upbringing. My parents and family (daddy’s side) really built my siblings and I up, they told us we could do anything and that we were beautiful. I always got plenty of compliments even as a small child when my mom would take me places. So when someone said something nasty a school here and there I knew they were jealous because everyone else said I was smart and beautiful. Even in HS I was very popular…had dates and two guys fought over me. However, I have seen that mess society does to others and it is not right. I used to feel a cringe when I saw it going on with classmates and I would jump in and say something. The crazy thing is I was told, “we are not talking about you, you are pretty but such-and-such is not a pretty black like you.” All my life I saw people acting like I was an exception to the rule when they did the color thing, but I feel like we are all in the same boat. Hell, I rolled up this swiss boy head in my car window, he said I was the baddest black woman (he did not mean these little color shade games) he had ever seen, and I told him no I am the baddest woman you have ever seen and let my window up. My thing is this PROFESSOR is not second to anything.
professor
June 22nd, 2010
3:36 pm
Wassup Dig That
@Slim add Straw aks Skraw to your list
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
June 22nd, 2010
3:37 pm
i just got hired to administer the GHGT in july!!!!! YEAH!!!!!!1
How about last year when we gave the test (its every summer) someone was there from ‘79 still attempting it……I tell ya some folks don’t test well and with it still don’t have a high school diploma………sigh…….
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
June 22nd, 2010
3:37 pm
hey dig that and professor!
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
3:38 pm
yeah yeah Sassy why hate on what God gave to somebody?? I dont do that.
Lots of light skinned beautiful women out there….but not to melo..he aint attracted
Its the same thing with some darks altho I luv me dark skinned as a pref.
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
3:38 pm
Dig That – you should’ve told her like Ray J would’ve told her…just keep it One hunned. lololol
DK – wzuuuup, wzuuuup, wzuuuup wit chu? (yall remember that Michael Jackson song? lol)
Leggs – what side of town you want suggestions for…northside, eastside, southside, black-hand-side
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
June 22nd, 2010
3:38 pm
hey dk!
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 22nd, 2010
3:39 pm
Strong come out as SHRONG
Doesn’t Tiny talk like that,too?
professor
June 22nd, 2010
3:39 pm
@Sasssy that is how we do it, we talk money and education. My uncle is a doctor and I have a lot of other professionals in the family we get together and cut a fool and trip none of that ignorant mess. We talk money and build each other up…fry some fish and BBQ. All that other mess is for the birds.
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
June 22nd, 2010
3:39 pm
yall talking skin color????/
high yellow is mean rude———that is all!
ok back to the paper! lol
professor
June 22nd, 2010
3:40 pm
Hey Lady J!!! Not 1979
It's me....lurker
June 22nd, 2010
3:44 pm
And she got a track loose.
That was hi la ri ous…I’ve been working all day and this is what I stumbled across. Too funny.
On the color thing…amongst black folks at that, are you kidding me? Is this foolishness still entertained today? All that matters is if you ain’t white, you’re black.
LorDemi (iPhone bootlegg blog'n)
June 22nd, 2010
3:44 pm
Sup All!!
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 22nd, 2010
3:45 pm
“we are not talking about you, you are pretty but such-and-such is not a pretty black like you.” All my life I saw people acting like I was an exception to the rule when they did the color thing
!!!!!!!!!! Get outta my head please…Growing up and even now people will say to me “You’re pretty to be dark skinned” and I look back and say “thank you” and as soon as I ask them what they mean by that I get the
and they start stuttering out some whack azz explanation. To say that to someone is like giving them a compliment with one hand and taking it back with the other….WTF?
It's me....lurker
June 22nd, 2010
3:46 pm
Or Sassy, how about you’re a good-looking black gal/gul/girl
It's me....lurker
June 22nd, 2010
3:48 pm
skrimp, skrawberry, skraight, skreet,
free to be (F2B)
June 22nd, 2010
3:49 pm
hey professor.:)
hey, Demi!:) haven’t seen you on here in forever…how are you?
Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)
June 22nd, 2010
3:50 pm
Yes lurker I’ve heard that one,too….countless times…it’s a shame I tell ya. I have a younger sister who went through the same thing but she said to me “when I saw how you embraced your complexion it made it easier for me to do the same”….that made my heart melt.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2010
3:50 pm
Southside, eastside, nice side of town side!
LorDemi (iPhone bootlegg blog'n)
June 22nd, 2010
3:52 pm
On this color thing…pink is always in style for straight dudes…after that who cares…
Dig That
June 22nd, 2010
3:52 pm
Hey LadyJ
Hey Professor
@Slim- She is a trip to say the least. I didn’t hire her but I know who did and I know why he did it. He is a boob man and hers is allllll over the place. She needs a bra for her bra
professor
June 22nd, 2010
3:54 pm
@Sasssssssssy I have called folks out, and questioned those types on comments too. I haven’t heard any foolishness lately. I bet something will come up now that we are talking about this mess.
professor
June 22nd, 2010
3:55 pm
I want an ice cream cone from chic-fil-a
LorDemi (iPhone bootlegg blog'n)
June 22nd, 2010
3:55 pm
F2B I am good I work in power mod…the land of 14k a month phone calls at Att…I am off now
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
June 22nd, 2010
3:55 pm
lmbao!
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
June 22nd, 2010
3:56 pm
what is poppin’ f2b!!!!!
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
3:57 pm
I know why he did it. He is a boob man and hers is allllll over the place.
@Dig That??
I didnt know u buddy work in the adult entertainment industry…got free tickects???
who hires stuff on a proff white/blue collar job coz of smebody’s boobs??
LorDemi (iPhone bootlegg blog'n)
June 22nd, 2010
4:01 pm
Y’all be easy!!!
professor
June 22nd, 2010
4:03 pm
Melo that 3:57 was funny.
tickects made me think of insects
who hires stuff on a proff white/blue collar job coz of smebody’s boobs?? made me think of a vp that hired a marketing manager for 75K per year and the only marketing job she had ever done was an internship…her other jobs were like acct managers, admin etc. Rumor had it he liked her legs. She lasted about four months
Dig That
June 22nd, 2010
4:06 pm
Melo- that is the only reason I can think of but she won’t be here long. I still believe in M.O.B> and she ain’t bout to slow my operation down.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2010
4:06 pm
Pretty to be dark skinned…that’s crazy to say that to anyone.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2010
4:08 pm
@Professor ~ that isn’t ice cream, it’s ice milk.
mqew
June 22nd, 2010
4:08 pm
DreamsM – I didn’t know that people would still be surprised that ignance is alive and well… Some people are just ‘color struck’… period. Although, I’ll admit that I thought most people that are color struck were older (50+), and thus some sort of ‘ole school thinking’. I have a friend, older like almost 60 (old co-worker). She’s from some city in GA I’ve never heard of and can never remember… anyhoo… she’s very light and always have not so positive comments about darker complexion peeps…
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 22nd, 2010
4:09 pm
Some blooger elsewhere suggested that maybe we could try to stop the BP oil leak by stuffing Joran van der Sloot in the pipe. sounds like a win even if it does not work to me.
mqew
June 22nd, 2010
4:10 pm
My brother’s roomate is light and his girlfriend always on his FB page saying he better stay out the sun or she’s leaving him….
mqew
June 22nd, 2010
4:11 pm
uhhh roommate
mqew
June 22nd, 2010
4:14 pm
Hubbys aunt’s nickname was/IS “Black” (they’re from New Orleans) cause the rest of them were either light or carmel and she was darker….
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
4:18 pm
internship…her other jobs were like acct managers, admin etc. Rumor had it he liked her legs.
@Proff?
daamn..and the pple who really deserve that money are not compensated adequately….
mqew
June 22nd, 2010
4:18 pm
Hey Ev’1! Slow day hunh?
Leggs – You should go to Dugan’s and have a F Me in the Graveyard for me
You’d only need one……
professor
June 22nd, 2010
4:19 pm
@Randyt say we just stuff joran van der stoopid.
@Leggs you are right, I can see that mess running down the cone and me trying to keep up and drive. I don’t want any spots on my suit, but man I want that ice cream cone.
@Dig that, you might as well train her and enjoy the
viewlooking at the girls while doing so. j/kMelo
June 22nd, 2010
4:19 pm
I think this black and light skinned stuff is mostly in america among black pple..i dont hear it in africa among black over there..its more arab versus black africa over there
professor
June 22nd, 2010
4:22 pm
@mqew what’s in that drink it sounds like it will leave you walking sideways?
@melo you are probably right. We started that mess in the cotton fields and never let go.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2010
4:22 pm
@Prof ~ Then stop at Brewsters. They ice cream is solid and doesn’t melt as fast. Just don’t pile up the icecream.
I think I’m going to stop at this mexican restaurant and have a nice cold frosty, strong margarita…no eye candy in there!
For Real (The New Style.. 4 and 3 and 2 and 1)
June 22nd, 2010
4:23 pm
What up Blog Fam! Lets see what the happs are:
1. Skin color – All I know is I give thanks to Wesly Snipes cause a brother was tired of dippin, divin, and jumpin out of WINDOWS POW! Nobody now!
2. Folks that can’t say words beginning with STR – Slim, Slimmy-Slim hook a brother up with your cousin I can help her with her lisp or fat tonsils.
3. Training dumb folks – I got two pet peeves (a) Stupid people and (b) not squeezing the toothpaste from the bottom.
4. Loose tracks – I make it my business to covertly tell any chick I see with a loose track or loose fake eyelashes and then I stare at them and then count how many times they go back and forth to the restroom trying fix themselves cause I’m staring and they know that I know what they know.
free to be (F2B)
June 22nd, 2010
4:26 pm
wow, that’s a lot of phone calls Demi.:( and just in case you were wondering who i was…it’s me kinderbabe.:) i adopted a new moniker about a month ago.
Mark
June 22nd, 2010
4:26 pm
Well your first mistake was dating a white guy. Yuck!! Then the second was discussing politics on a date. When are you sistas going to learn that white boys are not the answer !!!!!
mqew
June 22nd, 2010
4:27 pm
Prof – I wanna say Rum 151, but it’s been soooooo long since I’ve had one I don’t really recall. I do recall that it was very good and very potent
professor
June 22nd, 2010
4:28 pm
@Leggs, IdontwantBrewstersIwantchick-fil-a, said in my snotty nose kid voice. I might tell them to give me a cup and just drive extra fast home…now pouting.
For Real (The New Style.. 4 and 3 and 2 and 1)
June 22nd, 2010
4:29 pm
Dig: Well since she has some nice fun-bags I would start each new training section with some jumping jacks and then some wayyyyy-backs!
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
4:32 pm
whats loose tracks anyway??
professor
June 22nd, 2010
4:33 pm
mail call
Leggs
June 22nd, 2010
4:35 pm
I believe Professor gets what Professor wants. Go get your ice milk and enjoy licking it from between your fingers. Girl, that’s just as bad as texting and driving. Get it in a cup and refreeze when you get home (uugghhh)!
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
4:36 pm
mqew – that’s the drink i normally get whenever I go to Dugans…it does have 151 in it…WHew!!!
For Real – I think it’s more of a fat tongue issue, and less of fat tonsils issue. But hey, what do i know….I don’t have either.
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
4:38 pm
Reading “Ice Milk” is making my stomach upset….it’s too darn hot for that. Milk just tumbling in the tummy waiting for an inopportune time to ACK UP!! Be riding in the car sitting sideways, sweating like a 400lb dude in a Festiva with no a/c….
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
4:40 pm
the comedy chics doing that comedy show with Wanda Smith were on frank and wanda this morning and were very funny….if only Uptown was not that slimmy, i wld go.
Those tables leave u with grease/slime on ur elbows…like ure in the gulf region.
mqew
June 22nd, 2010
4:41 pm
Slim – They have a few drinks that are tasty and skrong/shrong made with Rum 151. That is on my post-preggo list
professor
June 22nd, 2010
4:43 pm
Girl, that’s just as bad as texting and driving.
@Leggs not it’s not
Be riding in the car sitting sideways, sweating like a 400lb dude in a Festiva with no a/c….
@Slim
that’s nasty LOL
if only Uptown was not that slimmy, i wld go.
Those tables leave u with grease/slime on ur elbows…like ure in the gulf region.
@melo you are crazy! LOL not the gulf region.
Dig That
June 22nd, 2010
4:43 pm
@For Real- Believe me they are jumping up and down all day. For a min I thought they were jumping when she was sitting down. She is a real trip but definitely wasn’t hired for talent orrrr maybe she was. I will keep you posted.
professor
June 22nd, 2010
4:48 pm
@leggs, back in the day I believe “ice milk” was in the stores I think it was the low calorie, easy on your pockets generic ice cream. Am, I right or wrong?
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
4:49 pm
The thing I don’t like about Uptown is how they try to pack you in like sardines…your chair may be at one table but your drinks and shyt will have to rest on your neighbors table cuz it’s just too dayum tight in that sumovabytch!!!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2010
4:49 pm
I’m with you SlimCutty!
@Prof ~ driving and eating an ice cream cone is a sticky mess. You trying to get any spots on your suit will have you looking down too often. Remember when we use to walk to the ice cream store…wait, wait, where am I???? Sorry, wrong crowd!!!
Dig That
June 22nd, 2010
4:51 pm
Yep. Packed up in there and they got to be funny to help you forget you wanna smack the person that is invading ya personal space.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2010
4:52 pm
@Prof ~ I was so skinny back in the day I didn’t look at anything generic or low in fat!!!!
professor
June 22nd, 2010
4:52 pm
Leggs I want that ice cream so bad that I am not going to worry about this suit. I might put most of the ice cream in a cup to eat with a spoon for later, but the cone is my fav part. Please answer my question on the ice milk thingy.
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2010
4:54 pm
Although, I’ll admit that I thought most people that are color struck were older (50+)
mqew me too. It’s not the thinking I’d expect from a 29 year-old.
I think this black and light skinned stuff is mostly in america among black pple..i dont hear it in africa among black over there
Melo Is not the concept of “coloured” in South Africa analagous?
@melo you are probably right. We started that mess in the cotton fields and never let go.
Professor “we” didn’t start it, but “we” need to address it and get over it. It’s just Willie Lynch at his best. Now come have an ice cream with me.
professor
June 22nd, 2010
4:56 pm
@Leggs according to wikipedia I am right on the ice milk…I remember hearing the word before. Man I had to be little bitty girl when ice milk was out.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ice_milk
Leggs
June 22nd, 2010
4:56 pm
@Prof ~ I answered it just above our post. I never paid any attention.
SlimCutty
June 22nd, 2010
4:58 pm
Dreams – now that you mentioned it, I think having an ice cream date is sort of nice. Something about licking a new cool tasting flavor together brings out the kid in you as well as help you to relax.
I like the brown sugar cones over the vanilla traditional cone…does that mean i’m prejudice?
It's me....lurker
June 22nd, 2010
4:59 pm
Although, I’ll admit that I thought most people that are color struck were older (50+)
mqew me too. It’s not the thinking I’d expect from a 29 year-old.
It’s not the young generation, it’s those folks that thought light skin and long hair was the key to happiness. Heck it’s the thing now if you can snag a dude black as tar..esp for the white girls and those “light skindid chicks”
Melo
June 22nd, 2010
4:59 pm
Is not the concept of “coloured” in South Africa analagous
@Dreamz??
colored means a cross tween white and black…
when white and black sex and have offspring..the offspring was called colored..
By product of apatheid/segregation.
colored enjoyed 2nd tier priviledges..blacks third.
u know who on first base??
professor
June 22nd, 2010
4:59 pm
@DreamsM you already know I am more than familiar with Willie Lynch, however even when we gain a little bit of “freedom” and worked as sharecroppers in those fields we kept that mess going. Would you not agree? Even today we have so-called classy and educated folk still talking that jive mess looking and sounding like fools. In this year of the census they don’t have a light-skinned/dark-skinned column to validate this mess.
Now, lets eat this ice cream before it mess up my clothes
Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......
June 22nd, 2010
5:02 pm
professor cold stone creamery (Vinnings) it is a great place to have a great date!
good night folks!
professor
June 22nd, 2010
5:03 pm
melo thanks for that fo’ fif-ty nine (4:59) said in my swats voice.
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2010
5:04 pm
Dreams – now that you mentioned it, I think having an ice cream date is sort of nice.
Slimmy Ice cream dates are still cool in my book.
professor
June 22nd, 2010
5:05 pm
@Lady J thanks chick! Now let me see if DreamsM will meet me over there…LOL
Ok, I am out like a pinto sitting on rally’s!
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2010
5:09 pm
u know who on first base??
Melo I have a few good friends from South Africa. We’ve had many discussions about these sorts of things.
Even today we have so-called classy and educated folk still talking that jive mess looking and sounding like fools.
Prof that was my whole point for telling the story and initiating the discussion. I can’t believe that people are still perpetuating that nonsense. Now, based on our discussion, vanilla ice cream is out right? lol
Leggs
June 22nd, 2010
5:10 pm
“When a friend is in trouble, don’t annoy him by asking if there is anything you can do. Think up something appropriate and do it.” ~ Edgar Watson Howe.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2010
5:12 pm
Good night, I’m spent!!!!
anonymousella
June 22nd, 2010
6:19 pm
returning way late to the conversation. i like how some folks just can’t allow for hyperbole. that said …
@stirrin-itup do i really need to say that no, i wouldn’t *actually* throat punch someone for being a conservative? (they’d probably shoot back, just sayin’.) but i might engage in some loud arguing with lots of incredulity expressed on my face.
(fwiw, i’m “way left” but not, IMO “intolerant.” i actually grok conservative ideology pretty well and understand its appeal. i just really, really have issues with the ways in which conservative policy affects people — particularly ones like myself — when practiced.)
@dreamsmaterialize would i be wrong to say yeah? … lol. honestly, i’m marrying someone who has my back and brings me joy. that he is not broke is certainly a point in his favor. we couldn’t have this relationship if either of us weren’t pulling down dough. but the things that bind us are non-monetary (similarities around interests, politics, religion, education, family background, etc).