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Dating politics: Wise Diva goes to Washington

On Friday, I flew to Washington, DC last week to attend a really unique conference called the Blogging While Brown conference. I did not know what to expect because I had never been to a blogging conference.  I knew it would be interesting when I received a cryptic email that some conference attendees would have a chance to speak to White House staff members at the Eisenhower Executive Office Building I pretty much became a basket case from that moment.

We had a chance to meet with Corey Ealons, Director of African American Media and Coordinator of Special Projects and  Jesse Lee, Online Programs Director.  They were both very kind and engaging and we had a great discussion about politics, education, technology, etc.

They talked about the need for people to become more involved in the political process and the national discussion using various forums and platforms online, especially through whitehouse.gov.  A lot of people don’t feel as if they have a voice or influence on what goes on in our country. This site provides an outlet to engage and interact with the policymakers.

It made me think about how much our politics make up who we are.  I certainly learned a lot about myself and my friends in the last presidential election.  I think it definitely becomes a  part of how we view potential partners as compatible or not.

Do you think the politics and dating relationships should mix?  Would you be brave enough to bring up a hot button political topic when you are on a date?

I can recall being on a date with a white guy who made some pretty provocative statements about black women and politics.  I have to admit that it made me gun shy for a long time about dating outside my race.  Do you think that our politics have to match in order for us to date successfully?

241 comments Add your comment

Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)

June 22nd, 2010
3:16 pm

geeze all the typo’s…my bad but y’all get my jist…

Melo

June 22nd, 2010
3:17 pm

I hit u Proff!

professor

June 22nd, 2010
3:19 pm

Sasssssssssssssssssssssssssy I guess when I read some of the history books and realized how this “color thang” happened. I always felt some relief that “Massa” didn’t get my granny, and thankful I didn’t have that mentality. My dad side of the family is all shades on colors, but you know us by our features. The funny thing is my grandmother pushed education and not color.

So I am in :shock: mode when I see big, grown, rusty folks talking about color, and where they fall on the spectrum. In my family we talk $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)

June 22nd, 2010
3:21 pm

Professor did you deal with that alot growing up?…did you ever feel funny or bad about it? And if you did when did you become comfortable with it?….that wasn’t too much was it?

Melo I usually don’t give a rat’s patooty about what you post but that last line in your 2:55 bothered me…but as you’ve said it’s not hate just a preference…maybe it was the way you said it but either way, I get your point…to each his/her own.

Dig That

June 22nd, 2010
3:21 pm

Wassup erybody

Too much to catch up on, but whoever mentioned training a new employee I feeeeelllll you. I’m doing the same thing and I’m bout to tell this chick just get up and quit. And if she tell me anything else that requires a ST instead of SK I am going to scream. That was my pet peeve as a child and everybody in my hood could never get it right. The word is STREET not SKREET. As uppity as she is trying to be, she is killing me on the inside. And she got a track loose. Who hired her? Ok I vented. How is everyone doing today?

SlimCutty

June 22nd, 2010
3:23 pm

Well you tend to mostly see a darker skinned person with a lighter-skinned person. Not sure why that is but it is. For whatever reason, I tend to be more attracted to brown or darker skinned men. But I have dated on the lighter side of the spectrum…no biggie

@Leggs – I think pretty much everyone is exhausted by her. Yesterday one chick reached her breaking point and basically told her to pull out a pen and pad and write it down step by step. She also told her to quit talking when someone is trying to explain things to her so that she can actually LISTEN and just be waiting for an opp to jump in with your two cents :lol:

SlimCutty

June 22nd, 2010
3:26 pm

‘And she got a track loose’

DIG – HE—-LAR – E-US!!!!!!!!!!!!! :lol: :lol:

SlimCutty

June 22nd, 2010
3:28 pm

Oh and DIG – my cousin has a problem with saying STR words…for whatever reason she can’t pronoun the T in the STR…so words like:

Strawberry come out as SHRawberry
Street come out as SHREET
Strong come out as SHRONG

LOL!

Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)

June 22nd, 2010
3:29 pm

In my family we talk $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

That’s what’s up la Professoraaaaaaaa

Leggs

June 22nd, 2010
3:31 pm

And she got a track loose.

Oh my….thank you so much cuz I truly needed that laugh!

Ok, I need one or two good after work spots to go to and chill before heading home for an hour or two. Somebody give me some suggestions but nothing downtown…thanks.

THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING

June 22nd, 2010
3:32 pm

Hey Erybody..

Dig That

June 22nd, 2010
3:33 pm

@Slim- It wouldn’t be so bad if she wasn’t over here acting like the Queen of England. And some contracts feel out of her hand and came back to my office to ask me if I heard her around the corner STREAMING.

professor

June 22nd, 2010
3:34 pm

@Sassssssssssssssy, you know what I had a few people here and there tried to bring that junk to me, but I can truly say I had a Blessed childhood and upbringing. My parents and family (daddy’s side) really built my siblings and I up, they told us we could do anything and that we were beautiful. I always got plenty of compliments even as a small child when my mom would take me places. So when someone said something nasty a school here and there I knew they were jealous because everyone else said I was smart and beautiful. Even in HS I was very popular…had dates and two guys fought over me. However, I have seen that mess society does to others and it is not right. I used to feel a cringe when I saw it going on with classmates and I would jump in and say something. The crazy thing is I was told, “we are not talking about you, you are pretty but such-and-such is not a pretty black like you.” All my life I saw people acting like I was an exception to the rule when they did the color thing, but I feel like we are all in the same boat. Hell, I rolled up this swiss boy head in my car window, he said I was the baddest black woman (he did not mean these little color shade games) he had ever seen, and I told him no I am the baddest woman you have ever seen and let my window up. My thing is this PROFESSOR is not second to anything.

professor

June 22nd, 2010
3:36 pm

Wassup Dig That

@Slim add Straw aks Skraw to your list

Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......

June 22nd, 2010
3:37 pm

i just got hired to administer the GHGT in july!!!!! YEAH!!!!!!1 :) How about last year when we gave the test (its every summer) someone was there from ‘79 still attempting it……I tell ya some folks don’t test well and with it still don’t have a high school diploma………sigh…….

Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......

June 22nd, 2010
3:37 pm

hey dig that and professor!

Melo

June 22nd, 2010
3:38 pm

yeah yeah Sassy why hate on what God gave to somebody?? I dont do that.

Lots of light skinned beautiful women out there….but not to melo..he aint attracted

Its the same thing with some darks altho I luv me dark skinned as a pref.

SlimCutty

June 22nd, 2010
3:38 pm

Dig That – you should’ve told her like Ray J would’ve told her…just keep it One hunned. lololol

DK – wzuuuup, wzuuuup, wzuuuup wit chu? (yall remember that Michael Jackson song? lol)

Leggs – what side of town you want suggestions for…northside, eastside, southside, black-hand-side :-D

Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......

June 22nd, 2010
3:38 pm

Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)

June 22nd, 2010
3:39 pm

Strong come out as SHRONG

Doesn’t Tiny talk like that,too? :lol:

professor

June 22nd, 2010
3:39 pm

@Sasssy that is how we do it, we talk money and education. My uncle is a doctor and I have a lot of other professionals in the family we get together and cut a fool and trip none of that ignorant mess. We talk money and build each other up…fry some fish and BBQ. All that other mess is for the birds.

Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......

June 22nd, 2010
3:39 pm

yall talking skin color????/

high yellow is mean rude———that is all! ;)

ok back to the paper! lol

professor

June 22nd, 2010
3:40 pm

Hey Lady J!!! Not 1979 :???:

It's me....lurker

June 22nd, 2010
3:44 pm

And she got a track loose.

That was hi la ri ous…I’ve been working all day and this is what I stumbled across. Too funny.

On the color thing…amongst black folks at that, are you kidding me? Is this foolishness still entertained today? All that matters is if you ain’t white, you’re black.

LorDemi (iPhone bootlegg blog'n)

June 22nd, 2010
3:44 pm

Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)

June 22nd, 2010
3:45 pm

“we are not talking about you, you are pretty but such-and-such is not a pretty black like you.” All my life I saw people acting like I was an exception to the rule when they did the color thing

!!!!!!!!!! Get outta my head please…Growing up and even now people will say to me “You’re pretty to be dark skinned” and I look back and say “thank you” and as soon as I ask them what they mean by that I get the :shock: and they start stuttering out some whack azz explanation. To say that to someone is like giving them a compliment with one hand and taking it back with the other….WTF?

It's me....lurker

June 22nd, 2010
3:46 pm

Or Sassy, how about you’re a good-looking black gal/gul/girl

It's me....lurker

June 22nd, 2010
3:48 pm

skrimp, skrawberry, skraight, skreet,

free to be (F2B)

June 22nd, 2010
3:49 pm

hey professor.:)

hey, Demi!:) haven’t seen you on here in forever…how are you?

Sassy Me...The Real Deal In Stereo:-)

June 22nd, 2010
3:50 pm

Yes lurker I’ve heard that one,too….countless times…it’s a shame I tell ya. I have a younger sister who went through the same thing but she said to me “when I saw how you embraced your complexion it made it easier for me to do the same”….that made my heart melt.

Leggs

June 22nd, 2010
3:50 pm

Southside, eastside, nice side of town side!

LorDemi (iPhone bootlegg blog'n)

June 22nd, 2010
3:52 pm

On this color thing…pink is always in style for straight dudes…after that who cares…

Dig That

June 22nd, 2010
3:52 pm

Hey LadyJ
Hey Professor
@Slim- She is a trip to say the least. I didn’t hire her but I know who did and I know why he did it. He is a boob man and hers is allllll over the place. She needs a bra for her bra

professor

June 22nd, 2010
3:54 pm

@Sasssssssssy I have called folks out, and questioned those types on comments too. I haven’t heard any foolishness lately. I bet something will come up now that we are talking about this mess.

professor

June 22nd, 2010
3:55 pm

I want an ice cream cone from chic-fil-a :grin:

LorDemi (iPhone bootlegg blog'n)

June 22nd, 2010
3:55 pm

F2B I am good I work in power mod…the land of 14k a month phone calls at Att…I am off now

Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......

June 22nd, 2010
3:55 pm

Lady J-Baby put the work in like a champion......

June 22nd, 2010
3:56 pm

what is poppin’ f2b!!!!!

Melo

June 22nd, 2010
3:57 pm

I know why he did it. He is a boob man and hers is allllll over the place.

@Dig That??

I didnt know u buddy work in the adult entertainment industry…got free tickects??? :shock:

who hires stuff on a proff white/blue collar job coz of smebody’s boobs?? :evil: :shock:

:lol:

LorDemi (iPhone bootlegg blog'n)

June 22nd, 2010
4:01 pm

Y’all be easy!!!

professor

June 22nd, 2010
4:03 pm

Melo that 3:57 was funny.

tickects made me think of insects

who hires stuff on a proff white/blue collar job coz of smebody’s boobs?? made me think of a vp that hired a marketing manager for 75K per year and the only marketing job she had ever done was an internship…her other jobs were like acct managers, admin etc. Rumor had it he liked her legs. She lasted about four months

Dig That

June 22nd, 2010
4:06 pm

Melo- that is the only reason I can think of but she won’t be here long. I still believe in M.O.B> and she ain’t bout to slow my operation down.

Leggs

June 22nd, 2010
4:06 pm

Pretty to be dark skinned…that’s crazy to say that to anyone.

Leggs

June 22nd, 2010
4:08 pm

@Professor ~ that isn’t ice cream, it’s ice milk.

mqew

June 22nd, 2010
4:08 pm

DreamsM – I didn’t know that people would still be surprised that ignance is alive and well… Some people are just ‘color struck’… period. Although, I’ll admit that I thought most people that are color struck were older (50+), and thus some sort of ‘ole school thinking’. I have a friend, older like almost 60 (old co-worker). She’s from some city in GA I’ve never heard of and can never remember… anyhoo… she’s very light and always have not so positive comments about darker complexion peeps…

Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)

June 22nd, 2010
4:09 pm

Some blooger elsewhere suggested that maybe we could try to stop the BP oil leak by stuffing Joran van der Sloot in the pipe. sounds like a win even if it does not work to me.

mqew

June 22nd, 2010
4:10 pm

My brother’s roomate is light and his girlfriend always on his FB page saying he better stay out the sun or she’s leaving him…. :-|

mqew

June 22nd, 2010
4:11 pm

uhhh roommate

mqew

June 22nd, 2010
4:14 pm

Hubbys aunt’s nickname was/IS “Black” (they’re from New Orleans) cause the rest of them were either light or carmel and she was darker…. :-|

Melo

June 22nd, 2010
4:18 pm

internship…her other jobs were like acct managers, admin etc. Rumor had it he liked her legs.

@Proff?

:shock: :roll:

daamn..and the pple who really deserve that money are not compensated adequately….

:shock: