Time to settle.. down
It isn’t often that I complain about male attention because most of the time I enjoy it. It’s a really rare moment of regretting men exist that, thankfully, I get over pretty quickly. Last week, I had the misfortune of having a discussion with a man, who I’ll call Mike, because that’s the jerk’s name.
Mike is married. Mike believes that as a married man he has the right to say any old random thing to single women. He starts talking about the fact that I am still not married and marveling over how youthful I look because of this fact (or in spite of?). He has gray hair that he blames on his wife and her boyfriend.
The conversation devolves when Mike offers to be my boyfriend, someone who I can talk to and be there for me. He thinks that my life is “too free” and I need to settle down and have a man guide it.
This is the part where I would love to tell you that I punched Mike in the forehead. I did not do this. Remember, my dad raised a non-violent, classy woman (thanks a lot, Dad). Instead, I told Mike that I am pretty satisfied with my “fancy free” life at this moment. I would love to be married one day and I am willing to wait until the right man (preferably not married?) came along. I graciously ended the conversation and ranted about needing married man repellent.
It’s interesting that settling down is viewed by some to mean no longer being a free spirit. I don’t know if I am being unrealistic here, but when you marry someone, aren’t you allowed to still do some things you did before you were in a couple?
Clearly, I wouldn’t go to strip clubs or hire private dancers at my condo when I get married (not that I’m doing that right now or anything.) I just want to know what do men expect their women to give up when she settles down? Why do people have a time frame for women to get married?
Why do people think they can and should let you know when they think it’s time to settle down?
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sexyCOOL
June 21st, 2010
8:21 am
Three Words Daily – Maintain your integrity.
Kym-You wouldn't know it by looking at me but...
June 21st, 2010
8:24 am
Good Morning All,
Why do people have a time frame for women to get married?
I have no idea..I guess it goes back to the days of being a old maid. If you haven’t married by a certain time then you will be a old maid living with cats…I know a few ladies who have married after the age of 35 and had kiddies(pretty sure I am not doing the baby thing again. Dare I type this..but I want to get married someday(dizzy..steady..steady)or atleast settle into a comfort life with a perm-boyfriend.
Why do people think they can and should let you know when they think it’s time to settle down? Oh that’s easy cause they nosy and if they are your family they care anddddd they nosy. My cousin told me I have to stop being so hard on a brother and being so hard to catch..not sure I have figured that out yet. But I will take this thought into consideration.
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
8:26 am
Good Summer Monday Morning Good People!!!!!!
Jeff
June 21st, 2010
9:03 am
I think it’s a myth that “alot of people” expect women to give up things when they get married. If anything, I see the media trumpet the theory that women SHOULD have it all and deserve it. As a rule of thumb, we encourage women to do anything (you go girl) and seem to always be telling males: stop that, don’t do that, what you should be doing is……, surpress that neanderthal desire.
WD, seems like you ran in to a complete jerk, but he doesn’t represent men any more than the women on housewives represents married women.
Lucinda
June 21st, 2010
9:12 am
You inevitably have to give up certain things when you get married because marriage requires considering two peoples interests, not just one. You give up some amount of self-centerdness because you have to become we-centered. It doesn’t mean you can’t ever do things you want to do, by yourself or with people other than your spouse. It does mean that you need to take your spouse’s point of view into consideration.
As to the “when are you getting married” question, that’s probably rooted in the tradition of getting married before having children. That’s time driven.
And then after you get married it’s always “when are you having a kid?”. Then you have one and it’s “When are you having another kid?”. After that, the formula questions seem to stop, thankfully.
Any married man looking for a ‘relationship’ other than his wife should really give some serious thought to why he is married at all.
Professor
June 21st, 2010
9:19 am
Hola!
Hmmmm
This topic is funny to me. The reason I say that is because I’ve seen intelligent folks build their lives on a timeline, and when that timeline failed they became depress. Everything is not for everybody at the same time. Marriage is not for everyone, some folks are better off single.
Wassup Lady J!!!
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
9:24 am
Waving @ Professor!!!!!!
Lucinda great post!
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
9:29 am
professor I have slowly let that timeline go of mine….I am a rigid person and love my schedule and plans of actions but you are right about different seasons for different folks….be secure in your season and embrace it and don’t sweat the small stuff…..that is my own adice to ME! girl you already know where a timeline can get ya! lol
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
9:30 am
meant advice….
AmazonRed™ - Summer time!
June 21st, 2010
9:31 am
What a douche.
Morning all!
I
June 21st, 2010
9:34 am
“Good Summer Monday Morning Good People!!!!!!”
And a happy top o’ the summer morning to you, too!
w00t!
I
June 21st, 2010
9:34 am
The rest of my name: “I <3 Pickles" dissappeared.
…sigh..
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
9:35 am
abc
June 21st, 2010
9:39 am
Where do you encounter people like good ol’ Mike? While his rap is a pretty large load of crap, I have to wonder how scumbags like that gain access to you.
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
9:42 am
Good morning.
I was
at the part of his wife and her boyfriend. WD, did you ask why he’s still in the marriage if he knows she has a boyfriend. Or, did he simply tell you that in the hopes of being able to get with him. I swear some men don’t think women have any scruples.
This deserves repeating
What a douche.
kimmy
June 21st, 2010
9:46 am
Hi,
I think the whole phrase “settle down” implies being bored. For some people they stop living their lives when in fact it starts a whole new chapter. Men think settling down means devoting your life to them, but it’s about a balance of living your life and being a blessing to his.
Mike P
June 21st, 2010
9:57 am
Why do people have a time frame for women to get married?
Because most traditional men want to marry a woman who is emotionally mature, “grown up,” and within what’s considered “healthy child bearing age.”
society at large view MOST women over thirty who haven’t married don’t seem to have had these basic personality characteristics at the healthy child bearing age, allowing them to marry at a reasonable age.
sound harsh but it is indeed how this society view it, guessing because of the heavy pioneering, christian /African slavery background.
DreamsMaterialize
June 21st, 2010
9:58 am
Morning
When you marry there are some things you give up or temper out of consideration for the other person and the relationship in general. If you’re naturally flirtatious, then you’d obviously have to temper that when in a relationship. In terms of settling down, you do that whenever YOU are ready. Everyone else in the world can tell you what to do, but no one else in the world has to live with the consequences of your choices. If they concentrated on the quality of their own decisions, they might not have time to be worrying about yours.
Mike P
June 21st, 2010
9:59 am
society tells women to “have your fun now (while young)”, but you’ll pay for it later in many, untold ways
i'm swiss
June 21st, 2010
10:00 am
1) This “Mike” dude is a moron.
2) I don’t think there’s any one right or wrong answer here. The question is what do you want out of life. If you’re feeling like you have to give up things for a relationship, then chances are you’re either not ready for or don’t really want that particular relationship. The simple truth is when you go from being single to being in a serious relationship, your life does change. But that should be something you want, not something you feel obliged to do.
Professor
June 21st, 2010
10:03 am
@ i good morning back at you
@Lady J I am not into timelines like that either. Goals
YES timelines 
NO as it relates to being married and all that other stuff. I was not even born on time 
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
10:06 am
Wise get outta my head por favor
I can’t tell you how many times I get the
when people find out I’m still single SANS man and children. I wonder if there is some unwritten societal rule that mandates that a woman should be married and birthin babies by a certain age. Give me a break already…there are enough broken adults out there who are the result of people having children before they’re ready(if at all).
Now on to the married man thing….that’s just gross. What I don’t understand is that the married men have become so BRAZEN in their exploits and feel entitled to step out as long as they’re “taking care of home”. I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve been propositioned by a married man and the incredulous look of shock and disbelief when I shut them down…some even have the audacity to get upset…GTFOH and take your lame a** home.
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
10:08 am
swiss good post
to expand just truly be ture with yourself and be ready for marriage and what it brings….be ready to put the work in and make it last….know that those first few years are major and critical and don’t let it affect the institution of it……….don’t do it for society……..do it beacuse you are tuly ready to incoperate someone’s whole self into your your world….it isn”t for the faint at all….
AmazonRed™ - Summer time!
June 21st, 2010
10:11 am
While I do enjoy my life as is, and think there shouldn’t be pressue to settle down and have kids just because everyone thinks you should…
In actuality, I would like to be settled down and married and maybe have some kids. It just hasn’t happened for me yet. But if I did have a choice, and would settle for any ole thing, I would be part of the settled down club.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
10:12 am
Lady J,Professor,Leggs…good morning lovlies
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
10:16 am
good morning sassy!
Professor
June 21st, 2010
10:19 am
Hey Ms. Sasssssssssssssssssssssy
Kym-You wouldn't know it by looking at me but...
June 21st, 2010
10:32 am
I have to say already feel pretty settled in my life. I really am not sure what settled means to others or to society..but I feel really settled. I have a peace and comfort with my personal life. I spent the weekend surrounded by my family and some great friends and that has brought me joy and peace. Hanging on the couch with my son watching Leverage last night..I felt pretty settled. I have some challenges regarding my professional life..but I am so grateful for employment during these times that I am overlooking the foolish and focusing on the future. I don’t know looking at my life right now..good and bad..I feel pretty darn good and settled.
kimmie
June 21st, 2010
10:32 am
Good morning lovely people! Hope everyone had a nice Father’s Day weekend.
Not only does EVERYONE have women on a timeframe to be married & have kids, they have a timeframe on how long you should be dating someone before you SHOULD be getting engaged!
A relationship, whether it’s a committed dating situation or marriage, should be the coming together of two INDIVIDUALS, enhancing each other’s lives with what they bring to the table. The things they bring to the table are their values, ambitions, interests, hobbies, morals, lifestyles, etc. One may be more of a homebody, while the other likes to be out and about. Some love the great outdoors or athletic pursuits, while others like techy stuff or cooking or music. Some are very spiritual and family-oriented, love kids or want to remain childless and travel.
You should be yourself when getting to know each other. You should not feel the need to give up your interests because you are in a relationship. These are things that make you you. Another person to share YOU with should be the icing, not the end of the journey.
Of course, behaviors not supportive of the relationship should be curtailed, but that should be a given. A lot of times it’s not and that’s why a lot of relationships don’t work.
Oh & married men hitting on women – disgusting! But that’s why scorned wives should direct their anger more at their husbands than the other women. You have no idea the sob-stories some of those men have told! And I believe NONE of them!
East Point's Own
June 21st, 2010
10:33 am
If you do not expect to give up some things when you get married, do not expect to have a successful marriage. Things must change when you have to consider your mate (and children). Perception plays a major role in our lives you can’t be involved in anything that might give the perception that you are up to something to your mate or those who know you or your mate. That harmless lunch date or happy hour with a friend of the opposite sex can cause problems if you don’t communicate with your mate, and even if you do communicate it can still cause problems with friends & family who see you out. I am not saying that a married person cant go to lunch of happy hour with a friend of the opposite sex, but I am saying that you have to have an understanding mate and very good communication skills, and a lot of good old common sense.
http://hispointofview.com
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
10:33 am
numbers don’t lie……….everyone wants the happy side of it……..people may scream why aren’t you married but we should be asking why can’t we stay married through it all………don’t believe the hype and just truly know what you want and why you want it………
SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.
June 21st, 2010
10:36 am
“He has gray hair that he blames on his wife and her boyfriend.”
“I need to settle down and have a man guide it.”
^THOSE were the funniest lines in this wholly comedic post.
Mike was a comedian, wasn’t he? Either that, or you’re practicing to become a comedy writer.
Frickin’ hilarious.
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
10:37 am
good post EPO!
kimmie
June 21st, 2010
10:37 am
EPO – I like your post and you are so right about perception! It’s hard for a lot of people to get that!
East Point's Own
June 21st, 2010
10:43 am
**Bows to the left*** Thank you very Much **Bows to the right** Thank you very much ***stands with arms extended overhead*** Thank you all
It's me....lurker
June 21st, 2010
10:44 am
Things must change when you have to consider your mate (and children). Perception plays a major role in our lives you can’t be involved in anything that might give the perception that you are up to something to your mate or those who know you or your mate. That harmless lunch date or happy hour with a friend of the opposite sex can cause problems if you don’t communicate with your mate, and even if you do communicate it can still cause problems with friends & family who see you out.
Very well stated
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
10:45 am
But that’s why scorned wives should direct their anger more at their husbands than the other women.
OKAY?! Instead it seems as though they throw it all on the mistress and I don’t think that’s totally warranted…now if the other woman didn’t know dude was married(and left) then that’s one thing but if the mistress stayed then yeah she deserves what she gets…also when a woman knowingly cavorts with a married man they yeah her sorry a** is as much fair game as his…
free to be (F2B)
June 21st, 2010
10:49 am
good morning everyone!:)
AmazonRed™ - Summer time!
June 21st, 2010
10:50 am
Due to unforeseen and completely awesome circumstances (promise I will divulge on Monday!),
WiseDiva – A promise is a promise. I know this douche Mike is not the “awesome circumstance” so tell us what is!
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
10:55 am
Good morning Free to beeeeeeee!
kimmie
June 21st, 2010
10:57 am
Sassy – I’ve heard more than a few naive women say that if all the single women in the world would just notice the wedding band and stay away from all the married men there would be no messing around! As if the women are doing ALL the approaching and putting a gun to these men’s heads!
Now yes, there are plenty trifling women out there that purposely pursue married men & I’ve had more than a few married male friends tell me thier ring is like a magnet! I’m not talking about those situations.
I don’t approach men, so the married men approach ME. Very boldly, sometimes with the ring in full display, other not. But it is very known they are married. Trifling!
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
11:08 am
Good morning, SassyME!
@kimmie “Now yes, there are plenty trifling women out there that purposely pursue married men….” This is true, but it’s up to that married man to not get caught. If he had respect for his vows, his wife and his family, he would shut down any advances up front. No pursuing would take place.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
11:08 am
if all the single women in the world would just notice the wedding band and stay away from all the married men there would be no messing around!
married men approach ME. Very boldly, sometimes with the ring in full display
That’s usually how it happens to me,too. They figure if the ring is on blast and the woman still reciprocates his advances then she already knows what it is and is down…it’s like an automatic out for them b/c they will surely throw that well she saw my wedding ring so she knows what it is around as long as it suits their needs/purposes….greedy bastards.
But knowing how fragile the male ego is….I wonder how/if they could handle it if it were the other way around and their woman/wife was stepping out and they knew it…speak on that.
Living Life
June 21st, 2010
11:10 am
Good Morning all!!
I have a question…. If you met a woman age 40, not married and no kids… why do some think something it wrong with her?(My brother met this lady and he is trying to explain his thoughts just curious on others comments..)
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
11:13 am
if all the single women in the world would just notice the wedding band and stay away from all the married men there would be no messing around!
Chile puh-leaze….you mean there are grown women who think,yet alone, believe that?…wow now that’s a sad state of affairs(no pun intended).
so the married men approach ME. Very boldly, sometimes with the ring in full display,
Happens to me all the time…I guess if they have the ring on blast then they can always use that “well she saw my ring so she knows what it is” card but that’s a bunch of malarkey.
kimmie
June 21st, 2010
11:20 am
Leggs – 11:08 – Absolutely it is up to the married man to respect his vows. I’m talking about the wives that try to put most of the blame on the other woman.
Sassy – Yes, grown women!
CoolShadow
June 21st, 2010
11:22 am
I just want to know what do men expect their women to give up when she settles down?
Basically the men (and sometimes women) who can’t/won’t respect the boundaries of your marriage and the totally carefree attitude you had prior to settling down(if you had one). When you settle down you will probably have to alter your social lifestyle but that shouldn’t mean you should completely exchange weekend excursions and enjoying life in general for a life of movies from Blockbuster or Netflix on the couch. But that’s something that has to be discussed on the front end once things get really serious.
Why do people have a time frame for women to get married?
From my perspective, that seems to usually come from three sets of people: 1) older women who didn’t have as many options in their lives and getting married was more of a rite of passage than an option for them; 2) contemporaries who got married very early and who thinks marriage is for everybody or they’re wondering what if they had held off on marriage a little longer and are looking for ‘misery loves company’ recruits and 3) drama-centric people who like to be up in your business who give no rhyme or reason to how settling may affect your life but can’t manage their own lives.
Why do people think they can and should let you know when they think it’s time to settle down?
See item #3 in the previous paragraph.
kimmie
June 21st, 2010
11:24 am
Cool Shadow – Love your post, especially your timeframe reasons!
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
11:32 am
Cool Shadow you got down with that one..that time frame is soo on point….especially #3.
Coley
June 21st, 2010
11:33 am
Was there a update from last weeks start post on Friday? I am referencing – The so much has happened and I will fill you in.
Hiya Everyone
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
11:44 am
I am referencing – The so much has happened and I will fill you in.
No there hasn’t been an update…even though we were PROMISED one…I think Wise Diva is reneging on her word…for whatever reason. Maybe something popped off that we’re not privy to…I’m jus’ sayin”…
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
11:49 am
Hi WD and All,
As they used to say in East Tennessee, you definitely ran into the southfacing end of a northbound horse for sure. What a jackass. No WD, not all men are like that…not even a small minority. Enough said.
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
11:56 am
Regarding timetables, those are artificial and assine constraints. Love, honor, RESPECT, and financial realities are what are or should be required…and a whole lot of patience.
Mike P
June 21st, 2010
11:57 am
I have a question…. If you met a woman age 40, not married and no kids… why do some think something it wrong with her?(My brother met this lady and he is trying to explain his thoughts just curious on others comments..)
@Living Life: I just explained it all for you all… Please re-read my post:
Why do people have a time frame for women to get married?
Because most traditional men want to marry a woman who is emotionally mature, “grown up,” and within what’s considered “healthy child bearing age.”
society at large view MOST women over thirty who haven’t married don’t seem to have had these basic personality characteristics at the healthy child bearing age, allowing them to marry at a reasonable age.
sound harsh but it is indeed how this society view it, guessing because of the heavy pioneering, christian /African slavery background.
society tells women to “have your fun now (while young)”, but you’ll pay for it later in many, untold ways
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
11:59 am
Off topic…I get those http://www.classmate.com emails daily and how is it that the only females I have an interest in (and would like to “catch up with”) aren’t members and the ones who have me scratching my head and butt trying to figure out who they were, are there?
Melo
June 21st, 2010
12:01 pm
Randyt ??
hit me up maaan! takpat78@gmail.com
Hello everyone..hope u had a fab fathers’s day week end. I had a special one…luv my dghters to death..
East Point's Own
June 21st, 2010
12:06 pm
@ Living Life I am not trying to be funny, and I know its not the case always… but many times there really is something wrong with single women 40+ who have no kids and have never been married…for starters,
some:
+have an underlying hatred for men
+think men are all dogs
+live in an alternate reality where the world revolves around them
+don’t understand how to exist in a (healthy)relationship
+have attitude problems
+think that being in a relationship will cause them to lose all control over their own life
+ have to prove that they can be the man in the relationship
+are overly competetive
+have a real psychological disorder that needs to be addressed
should I go on????
NOw this does not apply to all single and never been attached women over 35, but a number of them.
SlimCutty
June 21st, 2010
12:14 pm
Howdy folks…blogging from the comfort of my own bed today….You all seem to have shared some valid points on the topic. I think Mike P has a point regarding the whole child bearing age, coupled with maturity etc. That falls into line with the whole Womens Biological clock ticking therefore leading to some frame of panick to hurry up and pop some kids out…
Living Life
June 21st, 2010
12:15 pm
@ Mike P and EPO… Thanks for the insight, my brother did name a few of those.
Mike P
June 21st, 2010
12:17 pm
yup i have to agree with EPO right there…
its this same women who are the most thirsty, but don’t know how to go about it asking (respectfully) for a drink. even worse, most wont to admit that they are even thirsty, denying “the thirst” even exist within them. Believe me, i see it every single day… i have to laugh sometimes because its really sad.
ZEUS BKA LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)
June 21st, 2010
12:19 pm
A thunderbolt strike from Zues will do wonders for ya! YEAH
I just want to know what do men expect their women to give up when she settles down? Why do people have a time frame for women to get married?
When you are striving toward a marriage or long term relationship you will have already made changes so marriage can take place. YES
Time to settle down belongs to you and only you. Only fools continue to comment regarding another person time table to settle down. Settle when you find that special person to settle with.
@ Kimmie…..I am seeking your permission to continue my I bet when Kimmie does them, the reason I want your permission is I do want you to karate chop me! YEAH
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
12:24 pm
hey mr lurker!!!!!
Professor
June 21st, 2010
12:28 pm
@EPO I saw a lot of sterotypes on that list. This day and time, for some reason men/women are taking longer to settle down IMO.
@MR. LURKER aka ZEUS. Why Zeus? MR. LURKER is a better fit YEAHH
@Melo did your girls do something special for you?
Professor
June 21st, 2010
12:31 pm
MR. LURKER did all of those Gods and Goddesses show you a good time on Fathers Day? YEAH
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
12:34 pm
off to prepapre for testing summer school is OVER YEAH!!
read ya later folks~!
Professor
June 21st, 2010
12:34 pm
I am not sure if Dig That is in the
houseblog, but I thought about you yesterday. I said a quick Prayer, but I felt sort of funny saying watch over Dig That. Using monikers while praying is a bit odd, but it is all good.Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
12:35 pm
dammit prepare! lol
that’s nice of you professor!
peace
Professor
June 21st, 2010
12:36 pm
Have fun Lady J! Summer school went by quick.
Mike P
June 21st, 2010
12:36 pm
@Living Life:
its sad, everyday i see these women 40+ crowd, trying to be “Man” equating that as being successful, yet each of these women that i personally know always have seven things in common:
(1)they wanted to have fun (always with/committing to the completely wrong guy only because he’s “fun”)
(2) they get “burned” hurt emotionally by that fun guy, so all men are jerks, dogs whatever (seeds of men-hating, anger and disrespecting towards “nice guys”
(3) for years and years repeats number (2) with different men (but the same type, u know bcuz he’s fun).
(4)becomes bitter by 30-35 years old, become “independent woman”, beat the man at his own game; at work and socially.
(5)uses 5 guys for their own personal agenda, one guy for each area in her life: one for phlukin’, one to get expense gifts, so on and so on.
(6)tries to get “right” for the right guy (usually a guy who’s 10+ younger).
(7)has to at-least two cats in her house (this is true in every case).
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
12:38 pm
Whew, thank goodness I only have one cat!
Mike P
June 21st, 2010
12:39 pm
@Leggs Lolz
Mike P
June 21st, 2010
12:40 pm
@Leggs
LoLz!!!!
Melo
June 21st, 2010
12:43 pm
Melo did your girls do something special for you?
@Proff??
yep. i got a lil bit of wardrobe make over and Queen told me that one of my girls(13 yr old) was so pushy about it too and insisting on what to buy daddy!
that one will grow up to be a daddy’s girl coz thats what she already is now.
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
12:44 pm
Hey Melo
Will shoot you some pics from Roma Italia. Only so much beautiful women, incredible food, and great wine a man can handle before he spontaneously combusts. You were out of town too? Been watching the World Cup? I’ve refereed soccer and that ref in the Slovakia game had lost control long before the “phantom call”. they looked more like the WWF than pro soccer players in the box. England is POed severely about how pathetic they have played. Rooney has been a total “no show”.
Mike P
June 21st, 2010
12:46 pm
Enter your comments here
Professor
June 21st, 2010
12:47 pm
@Melo that is sooooo sweet! It sounds like you are a great daddy.
@Randyt I wish you could send me some food and wine over the blog.
Mike P
June 21st, 2010
12:47 pm
@Leggs
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
12:49 pm
meant Slovenia not Slovakia …sorry
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
12:52 pm
Hey Prof
I LOVE Italian food (most French food & wine, hardly any English food… but good Italian is as good as it gets (and the wine…Ummmmmm). Oh, and Italian SEAFOOD… really Ummmmmmm.
Melo
June 21st, 2010
12:52 pm
Randyt??
Wl apprecite the pics..yeah yeah,Italia women??
yeah been watching soccer thruout but in town tho….england better win and score more goals in the next game otherwise they out. The refereeing in the wc has been pathetic in some games..tho i dont think the usa were shortchanged in that game they complaining about.
The whistle went off be4 the guy scored(if u listen carefully)..which wld make the score a moot/redundant act.But the press here wont let off.
I got some major issue to discuss with u tho..so appreciate if u hit me up.
LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)
June 21st, 2010
12:58 pm
@Professor….I am always treated right by the goddesses.
@Leggs… Now you know you have 2 cats!!!!! YES
@What it do Lady-J….Teach those children well, wit yo bad self!
WD is a playa, play-on playa! WD make sure you pop dat collar when you are macking the men in the ATL.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
1:03 pm
thank goodness I only have one cat!
Too funny Leggs….I don’t have any…does that make me a spinster?
i'm swiss
June 21st, 2010
1:14 pm
“Oh, and Italian SEAFOOD… really Ummmmmmm.”
So you like that Italian spicy tuna roll, do you, Randy?
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
1:18 pm
@LURKER ~ cute. Just one and I finally got a very sweet cat. What’s I’m very thankful for is even if I had 2 cats I wouldn’t fall into those categories.
@SassyMe ~ no spinster…you just doing your thing on your time with no bitterness! That’s the key. Why be bitter! Useless energy that can be put elsewhere!
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
1:32 pm
Yup i’m swiss very much so (as one connoisseur of “finer foods” to another
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
1:36 pm
you just doing your thing on your time with no bitterness! That’s the key.
Yes m’aam Leggs that’s exactly what it is…and for that I get called selfish and spoiled..usually by my married with kids friends or just friends with kids.
Just last week I was on the phone with a guy I dated back in college. He’s now married(unhappily he claims but you know how that story goes) with FIVE children ages 2,3,7,8 and 11…so to me he must’ve been happy some of the time BUT he calls sex a poor man’s recreation but I digress. Anyhoo, he said I had too much freedom and needed a baby to settle and ground me…chile pleaze, how ludicrous is that?
DreamsMaterialize
June 21st, 2010
1:39 pm
Leggs, Sassy
I think Lurker was saying that by default (because of your gender), you have at least ONE cat. So, even when you have no cats, you have a cat.
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
1:42 pm
Hey Sassy
Sounds to me like the guy is after you for your mind, surely
Kind of like that gal at Tattletales who I am sure genuinely liked me and it surely had nothing to do with the tens and twenties that somehow kept going from me to her.
Seriously, not to you because I know you can spot a BS line, but does that crap actually work with some women? Do I need to dumb down my approach?
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
1:43 pm
So, even when you have no cats, you have a cat.
Now Dreams don’t take me there…cause per my moniker today I’m….I’m not gonna do it cause it’s too early and not even close to Freaky Friday so Imma chill. Point made,point taken papi…
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
1:54 pm
Off topic…I hope Joren Van Der Sloot is getting plenty of “love and affection” in the Peruvian prison and I hope all of the inmates get by to say “hello” and welcome him “personally”.
LURKER (The most interesting LURKER on The MIA blog)
June 21st, 2010
1:55 pm
DreamsM….. You are the smoothest Grand Master on the MIA blog. I must come and train with you
Sin say!
@Sassy….So why do you neighbors know your name? Have you recently been doing some shouting? C’mon do tell I need to do I bet when Sassy was getting busy blog!
kimmie
June 21st, 2010
1:56 pm
Randy – I think Italian is the best cuisine in the world, hands down!
Beautiful
June 21st, 2010
1:57 pm
gmorn bloggers! hope all the father’s had a wonderful day yesterday. i had the best’est day ever with my dad. our conversations are so fun and hil.ar.ious! lol.
settling down . . . i’m good! :~)
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
1:57 pm
but does that crap actually work with some women? Unfortunately it does,hence the perpetuation of the cycle. There are some “thirsty” and naive women out there who will go for it..some have ulterior motives and some just get snow balled.
Do I need to dumb down my approach? Only if you want a dumb woman. Now if you’re looking for Ms. Tonight and not Ms. Right then you might be able to catch with one of those trite lines married dudes use.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
1:59 pm
I hope Joren Van Der Sloot is getting plenty of “love and affection” in the Peruvian prison and I hope all of the inmates get by to say “hello” and welcome him “personally”.
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
2:06 pm
@kimmie
I totally agree…it IS the best.
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
2:08 pm
@DreamsM ~ that was funny. I didn’t think of that!
You have too much freedom on your hands and that’s why you should have a baby. WOW, that’s why he’s straddled with 5 babies and too poor to properly take care of them. WOW.
Van Der Sloot is a raving idiot!
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
2:12 pm
Leggs “idiot” maybe, Psychotic probably, wish he had taken the Aruban nice comfy prison five years ago, I guarantee it. he needs four or five really big beefy roomates to keep him company for the next twenty years or so. I suspect he is going to have an early look at what “hell” really is like for pampered, murdering scumbags.
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
2:14 pm
Yes indeed, RandyT. He dug his own grave. Now talking that he didn’t know what he was signing and his rights were violated. He is pyschotic. Even his mother has recanted what she said 5 years in Natalee Holloway’s murder investigation. She stood by and believed her son then. Now, she admits he’s psychotic and spiraled downward out of control after the death of his father.
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
2:15 pm
@ Kimmie
I need to make lasagne tonight…have it on the brain now. Garlic bread with some olive oil, bottle of nice wine…yup, I think I may cook tonight.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
2:16 pm
You have too much freedom on your hands and that’s why you should have a baby. WOW, that’s why he’s straddled with 5 babies
Yes Leggs that’s what he said but as I posted earlier it’s usually my married w/kids friends or just the ones that have kids that spout that “ignance” to me…sumtimes I think they’re kinda jealous but they made their own beds and have to lay in it(pun kinda intended but not really
)
A life is too precious a thing to bring into the world to not be taken seriously. I recognize that and live accordingly.
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
2:17 pm
Bet the inmates are plotting on how to get their hands around his neck!
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
2:19 pm
If you can’t afford to support a baby don’t have one, let alone 5! Didn’t Prince sing about this in his record, “Time?”
@SassyMe ~ statements like those reek of Jelously!!
Kym-You wouldn't know it by looking at me but...
June 21st, 2010
2:22 pm
Someone will kill him in jail. My money is on someone taking a hit out on him.
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
2:24 pm
Heck his cellmate last week was a hit man!
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
2:24 pm
Leggs from what I understand he’s taking care of the kids quite well but the marriage isn’t doing well b/c apparently she’s dating….yes his wife is dating and he’s sleeping in the tv room….go figure. Of course now he’s coming with the coulda,woulda,shoulda with ME but I’m thinking “whatever dude..just keep that over there in Bermuda(that’s where he’s from) cause I don’t want it”.
DreamsMaterialize
June 21st, 2010
2:25 pm
Now Dreams don’t take me there…
Sassy my bad. I wasn’t trying to go there, I promise. The blog is supposedly in clean-up mode, so just G-rated comments for me. I ain’t mad that your name has been receiving airtime though. Go ‘head on.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
2:29 pm
Someone will kill him in jail.
I think so,too Kym and that’s why he hasn’t been put in general population yet….probably won’t ever go b/c he’s surely to die if he does. I saw a documentary about the prison he’s going to and man I know he’s gotta be scared shytless right about now. He’s trying to negotiate and be sent to an Aruban prison but he can’t cause that’s not an Aruban crime…all I can say is don’t drop the soap.
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
2:29 pm
“…his wife is dating and he’s sleeping in the tv room….” WTF. Why do people settle for this BS, man or woman. No way would I accept something like this going on under my nose. So, in essence, is he saying he’s staying in this marriage for the sake of the children?
Best believe what they’re witnessing is not benefitting them in terms of how they see their parents! I don’t think so. He seems to come across as a weak man. True, I don’t know, but who would stand for that crap!!!!
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
2:30 pm
@ Kym and Leggs
He won’t be able to buy his way out of this one like his daddy did for him five years ago. As much as I know Aruba must be stunningly beautiful, I will never spend a dime of my money on that island ever after the way that police chief and court system covered his azz.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
2:31 pm
I ain’t mad that your name has been receiving airtime though
It’s okay Dreams….I had him singing like Trey Songz,though…lol
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
2:32 pm
@ Leggs
Wonder if she is HIS meal ticket.
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
2:35 pm
@RandyT ~ she obviously has the upper hand and she knows it! If he indeed is weak and is accepting of her behavior, she’s only going to dog him out more and continue to disrespect him. That’s what women do when they have a weak man standing in front of them!!!!!
i'm swiss
June 21st, 2010
2:35 pm
“The blog is supposedly in clean-up mode, so just G-rated comments for me”
Oh, sh!t… Did I miss a memo? Well, phluck me gently with a sloppy p-dussy….
Oh, wait… my bad.
Old habits die hard…
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
2:36 pm
Off topic again…I found out this morning around 6:00 AM what happens when a deer and a convertible try to occupy the same space…both lose.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
2:37 pm
So, in essence, is he saying he’s staying in this marriage for the sake of the children?
From what he’s said thus far, he’s aleady had the talk with the oldest three children and explained to them what’s going on and his plans to come back to the States. He’s also given them the choice of staying in Bermuda with their mom or coming here with him…either way it’s a sad situation.
I will never spend a dime of my money on that island ever after the way that police chief and court system covered his azz.
I’m with you on that Randy b/c I think they botched the whole investigation and the fact that Van der stoopid’s dad had major judicial clout didn’t make it any easier.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
2:38 pm
SWISSIE
!!!!!!!!!! virtual blog hollering
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
2:42 pm
Randy/Leggs I totally agree…children or not I don’t see why he’s putting up with that. He told me that she recently lost some weight(almost back to her pre-baby days 12 yrs. ago) and is feeling herself…add in the fact his mother-in-law lives with them it just sounds like he’s in a lose lose situation.
Kym-You wouldn't know it by looking at me but...
June 21st, 2010
2:44 pm
@RandyT I saw deer in my backyard this morning..they were so beautiful. Did you hit one?
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
2:45 pm
@ Kym
Yup
Kym-You wouldn't know it by looking at me but...
June 21st, 2010
2:47 pm
Off-Off-Off Topic..Miley Cyrus has offically kicked Hannah Montana to the curb. She had on a Madonna outfit this weekend..I hope she doesnt go the way of Britney Spears.
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
2:49 pm
A Mother-in-law and an openly cheating wifey in the same house…the guy has no dignity or pride apparently. I’d sleep out on the street (and have slept in the back of a minivan for three weeks once during my divorce, showering in the bathroom at the state park). There is only so much pride one can give up.
Kym-You wouldn't know it by looking at me but...
June 21st, 2010
2:50 pm
Awww Randy…how bad is your car? I heard deer can total a car.
Melo
June 21st, 2010
2:52 pm
Cyrus has offically kicked Hannah Montana to the curb. She had on a Madonna
@She officially got the Jamie Foxx curse now
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
2:55 pm
@ Kym
Not too bad. Mashed in the fender and messed up the headlight. Good thing I did not hit it head on or it might have landed in the seat with me since I had the top down. It hobbled off into the trees. i felt bad for it.
Kym-You wouldn't know it by looking at me but...
June 21st, 2010
2:56 pm
Awww poor animal.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
2:58 pm
Miley Cyrus has offically kicked Hannah Montana to the curb.
OKAY?! Baby girl’s been poppin that thang like a 4-4 recently. I mean when you think of it she’s said simply that “she’s growing up”. Over the weekend I heard comparisons to other starlettes that did the same thing when they “transitioned” from being all bubble gummy “I’m woman hear me rooooaaaaaar”.
A Mother-in-law and an openly cheating wifey in the same house…the guy has no dignity or pride apparently.
Randy like we say on the islands Only Jah knows… I think he cheated a while back and it’s coming back to bite him in the a**. Regardless, I want to tell him to grow some nutz and man up about it but who am I to tell him how to govern his own mess?
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
3:00 pm
@SassyMe ~ he’s not a man in her eyes. If he can sit back and let her do what she’s doing, she knows she has a punk on her hands. She’s is going to do what she wants to do for as long as she wants to do. When she gets tired and hurt, and she will, he’ll be right there to help pick up the pieces! That’s crazy, she’s crazy and so is he!
@RandyT ~ sorry about the deer. While you were hitting that deer I was putting a salt lick out in my backyard…maybe he smelled it in the air and was making a mad dash to it. Was there a lot of front end damage. They are known for trying to jump over cars.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
3:00 pm
should’ve been from all bubble bummy “to”….
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
3:01 pm
If Miley isn’t careful she may go to the side of Lindsay Lohan (but I don’t know if she drinks).
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
3:04 pm
@SassyMe ~ that same man will turn around and tell his woman “you took my manhood, you emascalated me.” When in reality, he handed it to her on a silver platter!
BTW, I don’t blame Miley for wanting to grow up and show she’s maturing into a woman. However, BAM it’s in your face and people still see squeaky clean bubblegum smile Montana Hanna.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
3:07 pm
That’s crazy, she’s crazy and so is he!
I concur…I felt so sorry for him listening to him talk being at home while she’s out doing who knows what with who knows who. It sounds like slow torture but if he likes it, I love it cause there’s no way in the heyal I would sit back and take some ish like that. Leggs you’re right…he’s NOT a man in her eyes.
AmazonRed™ - Summer time!
June 21st, 2010
3:10 pm
I’m watching the Lakers Championship Parade. Kobe’s wife’s head is literally blocking half of the camera shot.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
3:10 pm
When in reality, he handed it to her on a silver platter!
He sure did…nutz included.
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
3:10 pm
BTW, SassyMe ~ why the neighbors know YOUR name. Better put a sock in your mouth if you’re that loud.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
3:12 pm
Kobe’s wife’s head is literally blocking half of the camera shot.
And his isn’t?….lol I think they’re probably competing in that department(his+figurative and hers=literally)…
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
3:15 pm
Better put a sock in your mouth if you’re that loud.
But Leggs I wasn’t the one singin/shoutin…baby gurl bot talent
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
3:15 pm
@ leggs
Not a lot of damage. Glancing blow off the front passenger side. I’ll know more when GEICO sends its rep around.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
3:15 pm
“got talent”
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
3:16 pm
Ok, you’re right, he’s the one screaming YOUR name! Too funny!
Lord Velonese
June 21st, 2010
3:18 pm
“Time to settle.. down”
Never, I say any ol thing to women, they do it to us, so it’s fair game ishes.
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
3:21 pm
The bitter one has appeared….
Randyt (Home...and dayum hot)
June 21st, 2010
3:21 pm
@ Sassy
Been there done that. One lady made sure the window to her townhouse was closed always after the first time. Speaking of that, does anyone here remember “lassie” in the old movie “Porkys”? Still looks good on “S A T C” now.
AmazonRed™ - Summer time!
June 21st, 2010
3:22 pm
It isn’t in this instance, Sassy.
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
3:22 pm
Leggs you know at one point I wanted to laugh but I didn’t…I had to look down at him with a straight face so he knew I’m serious….(said with my best T.I. Atl. twang)…
Jules
June 21st, 2010
3:25 pm
Blame the wife and boyfriend eh?
I actually see this situation as potentilly being the other side of the laundry list of all that’s (always) wrong with women, earlier posted and as the outcome of women that somehow escaped the stain of not being married by 40 but landed her man, that man. She married young, hopeful, in love and full of love. Yet those hopes are dashed by indiscretions time and time again, given by the likes of the same men posting “you are a cat lady if you” list, who are the same men that can’t be anything than what we know them to be, contributing to the mad, the angry, the single, independant and in this case the sculpting of a woman he lost and is gone forever. Cats and quilts or a wh*ore in the making. Girl Power!
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
3:26 pm
Good for you, SassyMe. Get yours!
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
3:26 pm
Oh okay Amazon…does she have one of those Chrome Domes?… I’ve never noticed…but I guess that ain’t what he married her for now is it
DreamsMaterialize
June 21st, 2010
3:31 pm
Oh okay Amazon…does she have one of those Chrome Domes?… I’ve never noticed…but I guess that ain’t what he married her for now is it
Sassy Actually Chrome Dome (in another context) may be part of the reason he married her. lol
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
3:33 pm
Girl Power!
That’s what I’m talking ’bout right there!!
On that note…I’ll read y’all tomorrow!
Sassy Me...The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
3:34 pm
Chrome Dome (in another context) may be part of the reason he married her
Touche Dreams….touche.
AmazonRed™ - Summer time!
June 21st, 2010
3:39 pm
Oh okay Amazon…does she have one of those Chrome Domes?…
No. Her head was just right in front of the camera. Someone needed to tell her to move.
East Point's Own
June 21st, 2010
3:53 pm
@Professor Regarding your post at 12:28 steroetypes are often based on some sort of truth… and I can say that those are things I have personally observed in older women I have dated or that I observed in the older women that close friends of mine have dated. (FYI: I am 30 so women who are 35-45 are “older”…LoL)
Also the average age of first marriage used to be 18-22 and it has shifted now to 25-28… 40+ is still far beyond even new average age of marriage. I will say the same for men and women as we get older the number of “good” candidates for marriage gets slimmer. I have been saying for years that every year after college the field of good picks gets slimmer, folks begin to realize that they can’t let the good one they have get away. But there are the few people out there who go against the trend and have actually gotten better with age… so there is always hope.
http://hispointofview.com
Melo
June 21st, 2010
4:02 pm
One lady made sure the window to her townhouse was closed always after the first time
@Randyt??
coz of her hollering or urs??
that reminds me of my dear departed ex grlfriend..Molly (her real name) ..and may she rest in peace.
I dont know what it is,… maybe some uf uall who do the same can explain….
but a good wang throbbing always hit her in a way i cld never imagine..ever!
Her hollering was just classic, loud,exhilerating and surely an encouragement to keep that buttock wave going!
oooweee… hmmmmm, humpf…the goo’ ‘ol days
Mike P
June 21st, 2010
4:10 pm
once again i have to agree with EPO, this brother is making lots of valid points even when u consider the stereotypes, the prime age of marriage for women is and will always be between 18-25 years of age… after 25, the odds drops in half against you women… u can allow the trend to continue if you wish, do so at your own angst. and just because women have more opportunities and school and career advancement, (all human made issues), doesn’t give y’all the excuse to delay growing up, being emotionally mature and being self-responsible (stop seeking excitement from others i.e. bad boys) about your own lives and worst of all, ignoring mother nature (tick-tock).
like EPO, im thirty, and i am not please about the state of our AA communities, the quality (or the lack there of) of available women…
kimmie
June 21st, 2010
4:12 pm
Amred – What network was showing the parade?
AmazonRed™ - Summer time!
June 21st, 2010
4:12 pm
It’s on NBA TV, but I was watching it online via the Lakers website.
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
4:17 pm
“…like EPO, im thirty, and i am not please about the state of our AA communities, the quality (or the lack there of) of available women…”
And, for the record, we women aren’t pleased…the quality of (or lack thereof) of available men! We all in the same boat of displeasure!
East Point's Own
June 21st, 2010
4:30 pm
LoL… I would have to agree with Ms. Leggs We are all in the same boat that is sinking fast…
DreamsMaterialize
June 21st, 2010
4:31 pm
We all in the same boat of displeasure!
I’m not on that boat. lol There are tons of great women out there. Everyone has their own unique set of issues to deal with. Me being unable to relate to your issues doesn’t make you of lesser quality. I just have to find a woman whose issues I can deal with, and hopefully she’ll be willing to deal with mine too.
kimmie
June 21st, 2010
4:32 pm
Leggs – Have you been on another date with “Ray” from the River?
kimmie
June 21st, 2010
4:34 pm
Dreams – Appreciate that 4:31. Everybody is not in that same boat! And everyone has to work within their own circumstances.
I’ll tell you one relationship that always seems to work out: misery LUUUVVVVSS company!lol
Mike P
June 21st, 2010
4:34 pm
come on leggs, no need for that… let’s be mature about the topic…
what we’re talking about is EPO’s comment about the age ranges… u see, GOD’s determines your physical maturity (age), but its all up to you to mature mentally, psychologically, and emotionally… GOD gave us Free will… so he’s not gonna force you to Grow up, u gotta do that on your own.. so if the 18-25 year old say to themselves “hey i aint ready to grow up, and get serious with stuff, i just wanna have fun.” that’s the choices you make, you have to accept what follow with it, running with series of low quality men then being single at 40 with the tick-tok loudly sounding in your ears, if at all. (stop playing in the wrong field and maybe, just maybe you’ll find quality men, but you gotta see past that “he’s boring” thinking y’all seem to have).
Men we have our own set of problems too, i didnt forget these, but we’re talking about time here, which is biologically set with you women…the bad boys you all play with in your prime years can’t come back and reset the time for you. so please, I urge you all (men and women) to make the right decisions the first time around.
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
4:37 pm
hmmmmmm I don’t do cats………I am keep hope alive there is someone out there for me and I will be for him…….i think…..it is something to ponder as I turn 31 I am stuck thinking sometimes 9 more years and the big 4-0 will be and time is ticking so I will just continue to enjoy life and embrace my base and love will find me if it is apart of HIS plan…….
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
4:38 pm
meant i am going to keep hope alive….my mind is on my many tasks…..have a good evening folks!
hey dreamsM!
kimmie
June 21st, 2010
4:41 pm
Lady J – If one is blessed to REACH 40 and reach it in good health, just be grateful. Heck, I know of people who did not reach 30!
We all would like a crystal ball, but that’s just not possible. And sometimes the best-laid plans and choices, well……..
Mike P
June 21st, 2010
4:42 pm
Lady D, why is it, you will plan for do whatever it takes to get a degree, a job, that promotion, etc. but you’ll sit on your hands and wait for a man to appear before you. I think anyone, man or woman, who have never been married, but actually wants to be married should take a more proactive approach to finding a mate. get out there and do whatever it takes to get what you want, again that goes for both man and women
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
4:43 pm
@MikeP ~ I am being matured. So many keep talking about the lack of quality woman, well there’s also the lack of quality men. Ok, we may not be on the same boat. I wasn’t trying to slam anyone, but remember what you say out of you mouth about women can usually be applied to men as well. DreamsM summed it up perfectly. I’m good.
@kimmie ~ had lunch together Saturday afternoon.
kimmie
June 21st, 2010
4:44 pm
Leggs – Cool
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
4:48 pm
ok Mike P I am divorced it was a brief affair and I do long for forever with the right perosn….again if it is in my plan God’s plan he will appear I am a believer but you have a great point get out and help make it happen….dating has been rough for me as i married my college sweetheart then dated a divorced rebound then met no so great people in the process…I am still learning me…..what is for me will be…..
kimmie you right
Mike P
June 21st, 2010
4:49 pm
leggs, the reason i think so many complain about the lack of quality women, me included. is because we’re out there, proactively searching, hunting, looking, etc. to tell u the truth its kinda hard to see something that isn’t here… as men we already look for women, and lots of us simply don’t see what we’re looking for, and when we do, we’re rejected or they’re already in a relationship.
women on the other hand, simply wait, for the guy to approach them, they reject them for the most benign reasons, yet complain there isn’t quality guys out there, when in fact there are.
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
4:52 pm
I have never really waited on anything I saw I wanted. If I was too aggressive in my approach, then I wasn’t the one for you to continue speaking to. I can’t complain on anything until I see what’s standing in front of me.
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
4:53 pm
I reject for lies, inconistencies, drama, lies, lies, and just lies…they don’t want to put the work in……the want to f**** period………..geesh I am not making this up they play so many mind games and keep their rotation going it gets old I am over it…….so yes i am waiting in the cut
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
4:54 pm
And for the record, Mr. Mike P. Although quite a few men thinking they’re approach is solid, it’s not. Just like kids, you guys say the darndest of things right off the bat. Some are not smooth AT ALL!
Mike P
June 21st, 2010
4:55 pm
sorry if i come off a little mean… i’m just venting my personal frustrations… I’m sure quality women are out there, just haven’t found her yet… this is what keeps me going.
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
4:55 pm
meant they want to….it is pulling teeth for the basics and after a few dates they are DONE……..from 30 to 43 men are still playing games and i am talking educated brothers who one would think should be better and do better
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
4:57 pm
As I got better, I want better…plain and simple. I waited until I was ready…no games!
Mike P
June 21st, 2010
4:58 pm
man… leggs if you women only knew, lots of times its not easy to approach a lady… so if anyone approach you, be thankful, be flattered, be respectful, and don’t be so easily dismissive or worse disrespectful and rude.
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
5:01 pm
approach her straight up with your true sincere intentions the truth is welcomed no matter what it is but the games are tired by both genders……we have to let our guards down and love again but we all have been hurt and not trying to go back there so we play and continue that passive hurt…..
DreamsMaterialize
June 21st, 2010
5:02 pm
Just like kids, you guys say the darndest of things right off the bat.
Awwwww Leggs don’t attack our “smoothness”. lol Now you know what’s considered smooth is largely dependent on whether you’re already feeling that person. The old playa at the club runs a line on you and his approach gets dismissed as “lame”. Now, let that be someone you are clearly attracted to, and his approach might be relabeled as “charming”. Besides, it’s easy for women to criticize a man’s approach because they never have to do it.
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
5:02 pm
I have never been rude to any man that approached me. Not even the bum in the street. I remain polite but I keep it moving. I’m always flattered when someone notices me, but still I keep it moving if need be. No need to be rude cuz someone found you attractive! That is disrespectful and I would never do that!
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
5:03 pm
I can be attracted to you and your line may still come across as lame. You will know by my laughter and me shaking my finger at you…..
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
5:04 pm
mike p what is your assessment on the games out there from the man’s side????
Melo
June 21st, 2010
5:04 pm
they want to f**** period
@lady J !
i feel you…that sounds sincere… the key,not easy is,is to find the one who wants to f**** u and stick around.
to be continued…………………………
good nite everyone
Leggs
June 21st, 2010
5:04 pm
Whenever we feel that sting of rejection, instead of getting down on ourselves and losing our sense of value, our attitude should be, “I may be disappointed. This may hurt. But I’m not going to sink down into self-pity and start thinking that there is something wrong with me. This is merely a pebble in my path of life. This too shall pass!!!!
QUOTE FROM FRIDAY!
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
5:09 pm
so right melo that is the key!
Lady J-Diamond in da Rough-Princess Cut & Radiant;Never have to front....
June 21st, 2010
5:18 pm
i deserve someone who is passionate about me as much as I am about him……until then I can’t sell myself short thinking it is the real thing and it is not…..my value will sink if i did!
good night!
Sassy Me....The neighbors know MY name :-)
June 21st, 2010
5:25 pm
You will know by my laughter and me shaking my finger at you…..
Leggs you kick butt first and take names later…that’s what’s up.
Gorgeous Green Eyes
June 23rd, 2010
5:12 am
Okay…I had to get on here… LADIES!!!! REPRESENT yourself if you are single…For some REASON and I know why (all men are animals, some just make better pets…) THE MARRIED MEN or MAN IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP (!) seems to think the SINGLE girl is fair game….I have experienced this alot since I got divorced 2 years ago. And for the Single MEN: I need a freakin’ calendar with a scheduler in it to keep these guys in a rotation cycle…So, the point here is, the only thing Married Men are addicted to is NEW STUFF not OLD STUFF…..So, a single girl is NEW stuff and these guys think they are doing us a FAVOR by offering themselves to us…AS if! I just slap their hand and say: BUZZ OFF!
Jacobite47
July 2nd, 2010
6:59 pm
Leggs and I had a very enjoyable conversation over drinks and a small plate. She’s one very classy lady and I look forward to seeing her again.
Jacobite47
July 2nd, 2010
7:01 pm
Perhaps I should flirt with green eyes too!