Dance with my Father
Sunday is Father’s Day! I have been playing Luther Vandross’ tear-jerking song, Dance with My Father all week. It is one of my favorite “Hallmark” days because I am a self-proclaimed Daddy’s girl. I was picking out cards this week and got all misty-eyed and emotional just reading the sappy words. If that doesn’t make me a Daddy’s girl, I don’t know what does.
I love him not just because he has “kept me off the pole,” I love him because he is a cool dude. It seems that the older we get, the cooler he becomes. Nothing fazes the man, I admire his pragmatic approach to life and love. I really believe he is part of the reason why I am so resilient. I still feel the dating disappointments when they happen but I bounce back. I get up and dust my ego off and I keep it moving. I do this without slashing tires or destroying property. Daddy raised a classy broad who likes her freedom.
I have always heard from men that being a Dad really changes their lives. Their outlook on life shifts and things become richer and you gain clarity. Men, is this true? If you are the father of a daughter, did it change your perspective about women? Does it change how you date and relate to them too?
I have found that dating single Dads can be a really rewarding experience, especially when the man is mature and responsible. Men with children have to be very careful about what type of woman they bring around their kids. It just won’t work if they are dating a self-absorbed, demanding woman who has to be put first in everything. I have seen a lot of women blow their chances with single Dads because they start off being so pushy about quality time.
When a man has custody or shares custody with a child, he obviously can’t be at your beck and call. Why would you want a man at your beck and call, anyway? It’s important to be understanding and flexible. I believe it is all worth it to compromise! Guys, do you have any other advice to women who date single fathers?
What are you plans for the upcoming weekend? I know it’s only Thursday but I can’t wait to get the weekend started!
Happy Father’s Day to all our wonderful Fathers on the blog. Thank you for being a DAD!!
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SlimOne
June 17th, 2010
8:13 am
Good morning Blogsville and a special reverse church hug to all the fathers out there….
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
8:13 am
HAPPY FATHERS DAY TO ALL OUR BLOG MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Fathers Day does ROCK bc there are AWESOME fathers and daddys that do the dag on thing with their wonderful kids!!!!!!!!!!!
My child is blessed to have a great father and daddy!!!!!!!
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
8:21 am
over the years as a adult and parent I have made peace with my childhood and with my farther….he is good people growing up I didn’t see he has major value just was a parent early on and as a young parent you make mistakes….I never went without and he took care of us as best he could…….as a child then looking @ his questionable adult behavior often left us sad but that was NOT my battle to fight at the end of the day…what transpired between my mom and him is between then and I had to stop picking sides and remain the child and daughter but being the oldest that didn’t come overnight…..at any rate my adulthood with him has been good…..I wouldn’t change my family setup……I am blessed through it all……to have had both parents in the home that sacrificed their lives together even if they didn’t want to for us to half a half “normal” childhood…..it could have been worse! So Happy Fathers Day to my Nupe Daddy MPW!!!!!! Daddy ROCKS!!!!!!
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
8:26 am
I have my lap top bak Wind Down Wednesday are you playing on the playground today sir???? if so keep the youtube videos coming! lol
Professor
June 17th, 2010
8:37 am
Hola!
This Fathers Day I will remember my daddy, and this is done everyday. For the past 13 years I have thought of him everyday. Sometimes my heart smiles at the memories and other times tears of joy and sorrow overcome me. At the end, my daddy was always there, loving me, encouraging me, and giving everything he had for the betterment of me.
So in honor of my dad, my hero, my heart and my rock I will blow a kiss to heaven, since I cannot mail a card there on Sunday. I will cry and smile on all the beautiful memories we made together, and even the ones I thought were bad were not bad…just your baby girl being spoiled.
Professor
June 17th, 2010
8:39 am
Hey Lady J
WDW posted some great videos yesterday. I was wondering when the Lyfe CD will drop. I love me some Lyfe Jennings I wish he would do a small show here again. He is an amazing performer. Happy Fathers Day Lyfe! LOL
Professor
June 17th, 2010
8:44 am
Random thought:
There is nothing like being a daddy’s girl. He taught me how to fish with a tight line, play catch, ride a bike, and throw a few darts. Always sensitive to my feelings, he showed me how to be tough when needed and gentle and kind as well. Most of all he taught me to use my brain and THINK!
Lady J-I love your smile!
June 17th, 2010
8:46 am
hey Professor~ your daddy is with with you daily chica and he is proud of that dag on Professor!!!!! He is your ANGEL and daily guiding light!!!! God Bless you as you remember him~!
PK Same to you!!!! I know you miss your daddy too dearly!!!! He is with you and your family!!! God Bless!!!
yall I have truly never dealt with death and a very close family member while my great grnadmother lived to 90 I viewed it as a dear celebration and couldn’t weep that much bc that sistah did it……Tears are coming now to thnk of losing my parents no matter the age!
hope he returns professor this is a music working day hell june is black music month lets celebrate our music!
CMS
June 17th, 2010
8:47 am
I love being a dad more than I love being a husband.
Lady J-I love your smile!
June 17th, 2010
8:47 am
professor now lil kadie will know what that means she is a true daddy’s girl I would never take that away from her!!!!! DADDY GIRLS ROCK!!!!!
I am far from a daddy’s girl but I admire those that are!
Lady J-I love your smile!
June 17th, 2010
8:48 am
cms i have heard many say that….
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
8:50 am
There is nothing like being a daddy’s girl.
I second that!
Hey Everyone!
Lady J-I love your smile!
June 17th, 2010
8:51 am
I am in the process of putting life insurance on both of my parents and that brings tears but I have to be responsible nevertheless…….hell I think my daddy will out live me sometimes…..lol
CMS
June 17th, 2010
8:56 am
Don’t get me wrong I love my wife. I love being her husband. But its different. I think women know that men love their children deeper than their spouses. That’s why custodial battles tend to get real ugly.
Professor
June 17th, 2010
8:58 am
@Lady J thanks! I really appreciate the kind words. Since it is black music month I guess I will jam for a minute on pandora. Oh yea two of my grandparents lived well into their 90s. I celebrated their life instead of weeping. Living through all the turnoil and stuff they made it through with a smile and a pure heart made me want to shout, because they were the epitome of being meek and humble, yet strong survivors.
@PK, Wassup lady!
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
9:01 am
cms I understand I never thought otherwise…..it is something dear about being a father just like a mother…i do get it and respect yall as fathers!
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
9:02 am
preach professor! I like to view death as a dear celebration of life! I am a believer!
Professor
June 17th, 2010
9:04 am
So tell me, what are you guys doing for Fathers Day?
If my daddy was here we would probably cook dinner for him and my mom would make the banana pudding (his favorite).
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
9:04 am
Morning all!
I have found that dating single Dads can be a really rewarding experience
WiseDiva, I’ll take your word for it.
But happy dad’s day to all the fathers out there making it happen!
My Dad is not local. But I did have the wonderful joy of seeing him last weekend along with my Grandfather, and Uncle. All three of these men have been such a steadfast force in my life and I can’t remember a time when they weren’t there for me and showing me what I deserve from a man.
Can’t beat it.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
9:04 am
and cms I am a advocate for co-parenting we have done great by our child through our mess to be AWESOME co-parents for her!!!!!! She respects the process too and has done well with it! I praye for my child daily to truly appreciate what we have done for her since we couldn’t remain married……..it is a daily prayer for me…..that right there is sensitive to my heart!
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
9:05 am
Hey Professor, Hey Lady J!
My great grandmother died a month shy of her 95th Bday. A great woman, so great that my daughter is named after her!
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
9:07 am
no plans professor I will help kadie pick a gift she has already had her time with him this week he will be working sunday…….as she gets older I see the two of them doing it big!
I’m sending my daddy a card and gift card…….
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
9:07 am
waving @ PK!!!!!!!!
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
9:07 am
Professor,
I’m going to put some flowers on my dad’s grave. This time of year is always rough because his Birthday is 6/13 and of course that is the same week as fathers day give or take a few days.
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
9:08 am
I think women know that men love their children deeper than their spouses.
And the men definitely know that women love their children deeper. Several men have stated here that once the kids came, they were expendable.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
9:09 am
ARed I have yet to date a dad………..and I am a mother…….
Kym-My Daddy Rocks!
June 17th, 2010
9:15 am
Good Morning All,
I can’t say I am a daddy’s girl..actually I can’t say that about me or my sister. My sis and my dad relate more in terms of personality. I always tell my Daddy you did a good job raising me to take care of myself…too good at times. But these past few months..I have come to appreciate the help my dad has given. Including working with his grandson in learning to do stuff around the house. He even took him with him when he went to work on my cousin’s home. I couldn’t help but smile the other day when my son was fixing his bed and he said “Now Granddaddy says to make sure the box spring is all the way flat.. or Grandaddy says to make sure you do XYZ with your tools”…I think my Daddy gets a kick out of it too. I know he was beaming when he showed my son how to mow the lawn. My plans this weekend involve my family..they are all coming over for what I like to call Housewarming #1 of 2..lawd I hope my neighbors are forgiving people. “In my family we do loud really well.”
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
9:17 am
“In my family we do loud really well.”
Girl, mine too.
We did a family dinner at Pappasito’s. It took 4 hours and they had to give us our own banquet room.
Not only that, but we can’t do anything without drinking. 
Kym-My Daddy Rocks!
June 17th, 2010
9:23 am
Yeah I believe there maybe some drinking involved..I know for sure after they leave..j/k but not really.
Mr_NYC
June 17th, 2010
9:26 am
My local Father’s Day event I hope to attend
http://lisaraye.eventbrite.com/
Professor
June 17th, 2010
9:27 am
@PK, I am going to place some flowers on my daddy’s grave as well, after early service. Afterwards I think I will go to brunch and get a massage.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
9:30 am
Enjoy Mr_NYC!
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
9:31 am
I have an abstract going buddy there is hope #motivation! the end is near thankfully!
JtJ
June 17th, 2010
9:33 am
Good Morning All!!
There are indeed some great fathers out there and they are equally important as mothers are!!
I wish I could say I have an awesome relationship with my father, but I don’t. He has been “in” my life since day one, but when he and my mother seperated when I was like 4 or 5, he has only been there on holidays and special events. My dad has struggled with drug addiction since his Army days and at almost 52, he still struggles to this day. If it were not for the drugs, I know he would have been a better dad to his 4 girls.
Now, my girls are truly daddy’s girls and they bought have him wrapped around their fingers. My oldest daughter is from my ex-husband and he caters to her in every way possible. My youngest, with JT, has always favored him over me, even when he couldn’t breastfeed her greedy bu*t.
All girls need their dads, even through the drug addiction, I have always loved my dad and always will!!
My weekend plans are to cook JT a great meal and get him a couple of suits and that electric hammer that he wants…Lol
Professor
June 17th, 2010
9:34 am
@Mr_NYC have fun at your event…it sounds nice. Are you blogging from NC?
@Lady J “don’t stop get it get it” on that paper.
JtJ
June 17th, 2010
9:38 am
*ARed I have yet to date a dad………..and I am a mother…….*
@ Lady J…Wow!! That seems odd, but I guess not. When I was dating, I would hope the guys I dated had at least 1 kid, because I knew they would understand the issues of timing and planning.
I did date a couple that had no kids, and he couldn’t understand why I could only go out every other weekend and Wednesday nights…lol…
abc
June 17th, 2010
9:38 am
Now, this is mostly mendacity.
Mother’s Day gets a lot of attention, just like Valentine’s Day for moms. Father’s Day is kind of an afterthought. Nobody pays a lot of attention to it. If everyone goes out to dinner, Dad is the one who’ll certainly pay for it. Most Dads don’t even get a card. And, they don’t much care about it, either. Marketing hype: there aren’t really that many Dads that want a tool for a present, or a lawn mower, any more than Mom wants a new vacuum cleaner for a present.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
9:38 am
jtj preach alcohol is a down fall for mine but he has sustain to continue to be the best he can……
I am professor! stay on me honey! I am more focused today than ever……after the abract the TOC then the content and I am rolling full force…….thanks chica!
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
9:41 am
jtj I am sure it will happen one day….I am not agaisnt it but their affairs must be on the levell of my co-parenting style that anger and mess and having the child as a pawn and how he speaks about the mother of his child will affect my happenings with him….it is very important……it is musch I dislike about kadie’s father but whenit comes to her I remain fair and balanced and I don’t dog him to kadie or others just about our mess but as a daddy naw he pass…..lol
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
9:42 am
abc my aunt brought my uncle a riding lawn mower yesterday….lol
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
9:45 am
My dad has struggled with drug addiction since his Army days and at almost 52, he still struggles to this day
JtJ – I’m sorry to hear that. My dad was too tall to serve (in the draft), my uncle came back from Vietnam with a drinking problem. He says there is stuff that happened that he’ll never recover from.
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
9:46 am
@ Lady J…Wow!! That seems odd, but I guess not.
JtJ – I initially thougth the same thing…but I also assume (perhaps incorrectly) that single mom’s date less than non-moms to begin with.
JtJ
June 17th, 2010
9:47 am
I feel you Lady J!! I have a good relationship with my ex because I know they love their dad just the same as when we were together. In their eyes, he can do no wrong!!
Now, we have our disagreements sometimes, over what is appropriate and what is not, and the quickness of how he likes to introduce them to his newest boos, but other than that, he goes to great lengths to be there for them and in over 5 years of being divorced, he has only missed 1 or 2 weekends of not getting them…..so he pass, too!!
JtJ
June 17th, 2010
9:51 am
@ Ared…what’s confusing is he really is smart and stron-minded, so I can’t understand how he can’t will himself to stay clean. I know he served out of the country for a few years, but nothing as tramatic as a war or any killing…not that I know of. I am not sure how he got hooked on them, he just did. I remember stopping to see him on a trip home a few years back and he came to the door with the “white” powder on the tip of his nose. I started crying and hugged him and just wiped it off
For Real
June 17th, 2010
9:52 am
It’s good see the blog ladies talking about their dad but abc has point. So, my suggest to blog ladies whose dad are still with them, make his favorite dinner on Monday but on Sunday take him out to a restaurant with nice linen and the servers that don’t wear name tags. Spend some money on him and stop buying the last minute gift WE KNOW. All those lawn mowers, tools, and grills you were planning to buy, purchase them on July 20th and make it a “just because” gift cause guess what WE LIKE THOSE GIFTS TOO!! Those ladies whose fathers are out town, put a little something, something in the card.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
9:52 am
lol
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
9:53 am
for real I will soon but not this weekend I am not going to sc this weekend the holiday has nothing to do with it……lol but great point nevertheless….
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
9:55 am
I would hope the guys I dated had at least 1 kid, because I knew they would understand the issues of timing and planning.
@ JtJ, i’ve sort of adopted this mentatilty also, after dealing with a few guys who couldn’t understand that as a mom I cant just drop everything and do what they want whenever they want.
Living Life
June 17th, 2010
9:59 am
Good Morning All,
Each day I get to spend with my father is a great one no matter what. When I was younger I was definitely a daddy’s girl b/c I was the only girl. This is how I use to bribe him and it would work and heck still would work till this day, but I had my daughter so now she is taking my spot:-) When I had my daughter my father was in VA dealing with his uncles death and a few days later my daughter came and I tell you my father was flying down the highway to get back to the A to see her. I had a complicated pregnancy and he was right there with me. After she was able to come home he stayed up with her through the night and let me get some rest for several weeks. They have formed a bond out of this world. She does have some issues, but I am so thankful that he was there and still is here for us today!!! He says she brings so much joy to his life.
Happy Father’s Day to all the wonderful fathers out there!!!!
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
10:00 am
but I also assume (perhaps incorrectly) that single mom’s date less than non-moms to begin with
@ ARed, I think it depends on the woman, some single mom’s have the type of childs father who is dependable and they have a schedule and she has more time to be available to date without having to find a babysitter etc. Also, some have a strong family network who don’t mind helping out so that the mom can go out. My sister and I have been known to do a child swap, i keep her daughter and mine so that she can do something and then she does the same so that i can do something. Sometimes we get mom to keep them both so we can both have a “break”.
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
10:05 am
PrincessNik – I figured that…but at the end of the day, as long as you’re responsible for someone else, you can’t just “get up and go.” Having a guy call and ask you to meet him in 20 minutes becomes pretty difficult no matter how much help you get.
Melo
June 17th, 2010
10:05 am
My weekend plans are to cook JT a great meal and get him a couple of suits
@JtJ?? what about daddy..what u got planned for him??
@abc..comeon maaan,stop the constant whinning..cheer Up!
Really..how tall is too tall for the Army(navy etc)??
@Ared..My dad was too tall to serve (in the draft)
On topic!
I dont have a great relationship with my dad and I doubt it will ever be that strong. Our relationship is cordial to distant. I havent spoken to him since around April of 2009,even tho he recently left a voice message on my phone which call i havent bothered to return…….Yet!.
I luv my dad but its kinda all messed up.. we 2 equally obstinate people who can quickly unrattle each other and we have too many philosophical differences.
If my dad cared for my sick brother more than i thoght he should and may be as much as he cares for his other kids from his small houses,i could forgive him for a whole lot of stuff.
Happy fathers day still,Dad!
JtJ
June 17th, 2010
10:06 am
@ PrincessNik…timing was everything…at least in my book. My oldest sister was engaged to a guy who had no kids (she has 3) and after 3 years of dating, they broke up because he said she always put the kids before him and he really didn’t think he could love them like his own.
I did have a good step-dad in my life from age 8 to adulthood, even though he turns my stomach now, he taught me a lot. He taught me how defensive fighting skills and how to shoot my 1st gun!!
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
10:06 am
Having a guy call and ask you to meet him in 20 minutes becomes pretty difficult no matter how much help you get.
Ared, you definately right about that
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
10:07 am
melo – My dad is 6′7″ back then you had to be 6′5″ or under because any taller and you couldn’t fit the uniform.
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
10:08 am
PrincessNik – I guess leaving the kid in the car is a no no for those last minute coffee dates huh?
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
10:08 am
even though he turns my stomach now
@ JtJ, what brought this feeling about if you don’t mind me asking
abc
June 17th, 2010
10:09 am
Not whining. Like I said, Father’s Day is mostly a non-holiday, and Dads don’t mind. Stuff like that is for chicks, hence Mother’s Day and Valentine’s Day being a big deal, while Father’s Day is not.
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
10:11 am
abc – You’re right. Now I didn’t do much for the mothers this year, because now that my sister’s are moms it’s just too many of em. But they all got cards. And I can admit that I totally didn’t buy cards for my dad, grandad and uncle. But I figured spending money on a plane ticket to see em should count for something.
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
10:11 am
Ared
STOP!
that coffee date aint worth life in prison and eternity in hades
Joking aside, a good dude (or should i say the dude for me) isn’t going to stress you like that about your child, he will be understanding of that fact that you need a decent amount of notice, and 20 minutes isn’t it, unless he already knows she is somewhere else.
JtJ
June 17th, 2010
10:12 am
@ Melo…I won’t be traveling home to see him this Father’s Day…but I will be sending him a gift today in the mail.
It's me....lurker
June 17th, 2010
10:12 am
Where’s Ceemeli, Page1908, W8, Atlwen, M., NY2Ga, ThirdWheel, Beautiful, Jamoca, Ballwood, Kinderbabe, Alvin, anonymousella, Demigod, Lioness….all those folks blogging at this time last year?
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
10:14 am
test
For Real
June 17th, 2010
10:15 am
“If you are the father of a daughter, did it change your perspective about women?” – I don’t have any daughters (Thank You Jesus) but I believe the way my sons treat women/will treat women is a direct reflection of me. So, I don’t want to raise men that treat women badly. So far I’m doing a pretty dayum good job.
“Guys, do you have any other advice to women who date single fathers?” – Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries.. Know his!!! And just because he doesn’t want to get married again (if that’s the case) that doesn’t mean he is hurt or bitter. It means he has been there done that and doesn’t see a need to do it again. And NO there is absolutely nothing you can do to change his mind because it’s not about you or what you do or don’t do.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
10:15 am
If my dad cared for my sick brother more than i thoght he should and may be as much as he cares for his other kids from his small houses,i could forgive him for a whole lot of stuff. <———–Melo I feel you!!!! if our brothers didn't have our mothers who would they have unconditionally!!!! ((((((HUGS)))))) *tear*
lets see if this post surface…..blog monster
JtJ
June 17th, 2010
10:16 am
@ PK…he is nasty!! And yes, I mean in that dirty-not-so clean way!!! He don’t take pride in his appearance anymore, he dresses like he don’t care and now is just a computer junkie!! He looks a mess! But my momma still loves him just the same…I won’t even eat his cooking anymore, he is known to scratch while cooking…ewwwwww!!
Professor
June 17th, 2010
10:16 am
Melo, if you don’t mind will you explain what it means about the kids in the small houses. I think this means children outside of his first wife, but I don’t want to assume.
Will you return the vm on Fathers Day?
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
10:16 am
melo good post what I wanted to say I will email it lol the dag on blog monster is hating! lol
Kym-My Daddy Rocks!
June 17th, 2010
10:19 am
Well I got my Daddy a outfit..blue jean shorts and a short sleeve polo shirt. Why? Cause my Daddy is the one of the ring masters for the clown section for our little family circus. He had to go for outpatient surgery at the VA last weekend and his outfit choice-lets just say he was in rare clown form.
mqew
June 17th, 2010
10:20 am
Happy Pappy’s Day to all deserving!!! My hubby is the bestest DAD ever. I know he’ll have a Daddy’s Lil Girl soon
Although, I’d probably have to tell HIM that Sunday is Father’s Day. He could give a flying fig about it. He’ll just shrug it off…
My father… different story. I may or may not remember to call him that day. And that’s because I’ll have to want to call around to get his number…. It’s always around my bday which is Saturday. (GEMINI in da house
) So if he calls me, then I’d be able to tell him then…
For Real
June 17th, 2010
10:22 am
Kym: You wrong for that your pops got his own style. See this mushroom belt? Now, I coulda stop there but noooooooo, checkout the mushroom lining in my suit.
JtJ
June 17th, 2010
10:22 am
@ *abc*..Most of the men (fathers) in my family always say “don’t make a big fuss or do anything special for me”….so we don’t. Is that code for “yes, make a big fuss and go all out?”
I told JT once that I didn’t want anything for my birthday, hoping he would go all out and was hurt when he didn’t get me a thing!! That reverse psychology did not work for me, so I hope that is not what they are banking on when they say they don’t want anything.
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
10:22 am
he is known to scratch while cooking…ewwwwww!!
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
10:23 am
checkout the mushroom lining in my suit.
ya got to coor-dinate
mqew
June 17th, 2010
10:24 am
Kym – Thas funny! I laughed out loud for real. What’s clown form? You have to tell us
abc
June 17th, 2010
10:24 am
Most men don’t do code, JtJ. Give a card with a nice hug, most Dads will be just fine with that. But, not surprised if everyone forgets, too, it’s not a big deal. As far as that goes, I’d better get a card off to MY dad today.
JtJ
June 17th, 2010
10:25 am
LOL!!! @ For Real….he got to Co-Or-Dinate!!!
mqew
June 17th, 2010
10:26 am
JTJ – That scratching thing ain’t cool. What the hey?
Melo
June 17th, 2010
10:26 am
Men, is this true? If you are the father of a daughter, did it change your perspective about women?
Now as far as that….to some degree,yes…
I got 2 girls that i luv to death and thinking of my playa days..it kinda makes me have a lot of angst!
But my girls will get all the skinny and inside baseball(sexxing) from me be4 they get it from another boy.
I recently sat down with my soon to be 16 girl and was telling her about boys and stuff..she started giggling.. I said daddy loves u more than any boy out there will ever do and when a boy says”i like how those jeans look on u,do u know what that means?” She said “no”..i said thats code for, “i want to sleep with u and get inside ur thighs..it dont mean he loves u at all”. So dont be way laid by stuff like that coz u miss on the big prize and ur goals.
Well i have told my kids that whereas there are big rewards for pursuing school and education and what u can achieve in lyfe, and the luv u get from me for being diligent(including paying for that med insurance up to ur 26 yr birfdate….thank u Obama)
there are huge consequences fro transgressing on my rules,as long as u live in my house..
One prego and u Out! U counting urself as an adult if u do,so its the Lyfe u choose.
Kym-My Daddy Rocks!
June 17th, 2010
10:27 am
For Real..I wish he would go somewhere in a mushroom belt. No he came out of my sister’s house with a sneaker on one foot and a workboot on the other..yes he did go buy a pair of flip flops cause I was not going thru town with him looking like that. Then he had on cut-off jeans..and a shirt two sizes to big..Why? Cause the docs at the VA said to come loose. See? Clown just as special as he can be.
mqew
June 17th, 2010
10:29 am
abc – You are so right, he wouldn’t give a fig if everyone forgot.
It’s me – Yeah, where is Ceemeemee and Jamoca…. Gawd Jamoca could tell a person off without a hint of a curse word….
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
10:29 am
@ its me lurker
Kinderbabe is now Free to be (f2b), she changed her moniker a few weeks ago because she is chaning career paths
Ceemeli started a new job a few months back……
I’ve seen Page1908 and anonymousella pop up every once in a while
Beautiful i think is on here a couple times a week (sometimes), NY2GA makes sporadic appearances also
Professor
June 17th, 2010
10:29 am
@It’s Me Lurker…. Kinderbabe is still with us. She made a wonderful announcement a few weeks ago regarding her new journey and she is now Free 2 Be (F2B).
Harold
June 17th, 2010
10:31 am
I came to fatherhood relatively late in life, but my two princesses have really changed my life. I never thought I could love someone as deeply as I love them. I am single now, and yes, it changes your perspective on dating and relationships. I think I understand women more now and am more patient. I know parenthood isn’t for everyone, but I can’t imagine my life without them.
mqew
June 17th, 2010
10:31 am
Kym – Mixmatched shoes… That is funney as all hell
Did you shake you head or laugh or….what?
Melo
June 17th, 2010
10:31 am
I think this means children outside of his first wife, but I don’t want to assume.
@Proff!….U correct
I may actually return his call..im not a bad person and sometimes,very spiritual in that sense But..some thangs just dont make sense to me so..
My daddy diudent call me to check on me and my fam well being(even tho thats the message he left)..that I know..he called coz hes broke…..So!
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
10:32 am
ummmmm I wasn’t blogging the last year and a half but I am BACK!!!1 LOL last summer I was celebrating turning 30 prior to that gettng over a lost and self evaluating….lolol
Melo
June 17th, 2010
10:32 am
didnt call me
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
10:35 am
harold good post!
JtJ
June 17th, 2010
10:36 am
@mqew…he is good cook, too. But once we all moved out, his mom died and he went through some major depression. And I guess, no his motto is “he just don’t give-a-!! The cooking thing …um yeah,…that’s nasty…cause he always go commando and has plumber’s but* all the time.
Kym-My Daddy Rocks!
June 17th, 2010
10:38 am
@mqew..Dont forget the clothes..I called him a clown and he and my sister laughed. Then I fussed(which is my norm) and took him to family dollar to get him some flip flops(thongs is what he calls them) I am laughing now thinking about it..
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
10:38 am
Oh yeah…Cemeeli. Forgot about her. Congrats to her on the new gig.
Sassy Me – Sorry you can’t blog with us regularly anymore, but I saw your shout out the other day so hi!
kimmie
June 17th, 2010
10:40 am
Morning Great Blog People!
I had a wonderful dad and I miss him alot. I was closer to my mom, but my dad always had a quiet, powerful presence. I never met my grandfather on my dad’s side because he died when my dad was a baby. My maternal grandfather died back in 2002. I miss him too, especially his jokes! He, along with my grandmother, would keep us in stitches!
God bless them and Happy Fathers Day to all you wonderful dads out there, making it happen!
SlimOne
June 17th, 2010
10:44 am
I would love to get my Pops a nice golf club set (lefty) but daughter just aint got it, $$$$. So I sent him a card with a $5 inside instead….only got $995 left to go.
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
10:45 am
Slim
you crazy!
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
10:46 am
I don’t have any daughters (Thank You Jesus)
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
10:48 am
when a boy says”i like how those jeans look on u,do u know what that means?” She said “no”.
It's me....lurker
June 17th, 2010
10:48 am
Thanks Professor and PrincessN…didn’t realized so many are MIA until clicking the link in WD’s post.
It's me....lurker
June 17th, 2010
10:49 am
Keep up the good work MELO, who can tell them better than you. That’s how my pops did us. RIP pops, singing with the angels now. Left us this time last year.
Jeff
June 17th, 2010
10:54 am
As a single dad, thank you all. Here’s how I handle dating in regard to my 7 yo girl:
She will not see women come in and out of my life like a roll of toilet paper. If a woman I am dating is trying to weasle in on my time with my daughter, it’s time to hit the bricks. The child is still a child and shouldn’t be battling with an adult for my attention. If the worse thing my daughter says is that she didn’t see me date much, so be it.
kimmie
June 17th, 2010
10:56 am
Melo, you might sound crazy on this blog most days, but you read to be a good dad!
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
10:57 am
jeff i agree no man I have dated can say they met kadie or I comprimised my time for her for them…..not happening…..if I am out playing best believe home is taken care of and she comes first no matter what i do……..good post sir!
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
11:00 am
i often wonder if she saw a man kiss or hug me how would she react…….lol……but I refuse to let her in when that and I mean serious LTR comes for me it will come for her….I really don’t see that until she is in high school or college late 30s or 40s for me…..def not any time soon…..lol
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
11:04 am
Lady J
I hear what you ar saying, but don’t be so closed minded about waiting til kadie is in high school or college that you miss out on a blessing one day. I by no means advocate having her around every dude you date, heck any dude you date until u and dude have established u in it for the long haul.
Just keep an open mind…….never say never
Its my understanding that once they get that old its even harder to “blend” a family but I can’t say cause my little one is 7 not 17 lol.
SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.
June 17th, 2010
11:08 am
Three Words Daily – Life is golden.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
11:08 am
I am not close minded but I don’t have any potentials and don’t forsee any either…..time is going by she will be 5 in august…..i jsut don’t see it other than a LTR why would they need to meet her…..I sure don’t want another FWB situation but if it happens they ain’t meeting kadie honey……i just don’t know I will pray about it….God knows my heart and I love that she is sheltered and I lkie how her childhood is developing she don’t need my characters I will just instill in her what she should seek from a man and her dad is setting the tone too….I want her to be better than me and she is daily…..
Professor
June 17th, 2010
11:13 am
@PK I believe it is harder to blend when children are in the late teens and early 20s. That is nothing scientific just my little observation. I think the little ones are more loving, but they are also very vulnerable if the relationship crashes.
nita
June 17th, 2010
11:14 am
i am thoroughly convinced that i have the greatest father in the world. Although he died suddenly 6years ago, i just recently visited my stepmother without crying (finally). I worshipped him and was so willing to forgive his shortcomings because I knew he would never intentionally hurt anyone. He became my rock when I became an adult and showed me what a real man is. He and my grandfather (maternal) were amazing. When my mother died, he raised my 2 brothers and me w/out so much of a peep. My grandmother wanted him to let her raise me but he was the best person for the job. He made me feel secure and safe. He was my Clark Kent. Instead of letting my aunts or grandmothers take me to buy bras and panties, he did my shopping He always had a grasp on everything. I miss him more than he will ever know. I love you daddy.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
11:16 am
pk my point goes back to my childhood while I can point out my daddy’s gf from years back to today my mom didn’t go out and get a boyfriend and have him in our face or home…….she is far from perfect but I appreciate that and it is in my blood not to have men that has no importance to her around her……I date and enjoy it but it doesn’t require her….I am thankful she has a great dad bc i am not searching for a daddy for her……..until I secure what I am seeking and it is solid it doen’t pertain her at all imo…….
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
11:17 am
@ Lady J
again i say
I by no means advocate having her around every dude you date, heck any dude you date until u and dude have established u in it for the long haul.
What i’m saying is don’t shut out the OPTION, you never know when you will meet “the one”
@ Professor, you are right I’m 30 and my mom is dating now and my spoiled brat self aint really feeling it LOL, the first guy she date after my dad passed he and I were like oil and water, but i was polite and respectful but i tried to stay away if i knew he was there or was coming. The guy now i can tolerate better.
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
11:18 am
Lady J i’m not talking about random dudes
i mean the dude that one day you wake up and realize oh shyt i’m in love.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
11:19 am
yep crashes I am not ready for that professor not involving her emotions on my emotional rollercoaster lol
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
11:20 am
PK I am open to that expirence it hasn’t happened so what I am saying i see no point when it does sure I am open to it but I am FAR from it……i feel but what is for me will be at the end of the day!
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
11:23 am
until I secure what I am seeking and it is solid it doen’t pertain her at all imo…….
thats all i was saying
Professor
June 17th, 2010
11:23 am
@PK, chileeeeeeeeeeeeee I know what you mean. The first two men that tried to date my mom was ran away by “yours truly” not in a mean way, but a nicety way. That last joker called us orphans (I was grown and in my 20s) and did not find his joke funny.
@Lady J you have to protect her, but once you find that LT relationship and you will. I believe you will know the right time to introduce Lil’ lady J to that special guy.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 17th, 2010
11:25 am
Morning.. My son is the absolute best thing that has ever happened to me.. Never knew a love so pure and unconditional. I would definitely give my life for him to live..
SexyCool - Live. Laugh. Love.
June 17th, 2010
11:26 am
A post about dancing with my father from five years ago. (My how time flies.)
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
11:26 am
Professor my folks say I don’t like anybody
My brothers hate to bring a chick around because they know i’m not going to say much but I am doing major observations, they say you don’t like nobody and i say have i been wrong yet about a chick you introduced me to?
JtJ
June 17th, 2010
11:26 am
*Its my understanding that once they get that old its even harder to “blend” a family but I can’t say cause my little one is 7 not 17 lol.*
@ Pk & Proffessor…I can attest that it is indeed a challenge to blend families at any age, but I agree more so when the kids become older. I find myself always trying to remind myself, JT, and the kids that we are family now and there is no more me and my dad (Jt’s daughter) or my mom (my kids)..It’s challenging because the oldest kids (14,13 & 12) often times like to refer to things as “my dad’s” or “my mom’s”. We haven’t had any issues with the kids back-talking or saying “you aren’t my parent”, I think they have a real good understanding of it all. But, there are times, when we have family functions on his side of the family, that I feel my children aren’t acknowledged…maybe that will change though, after the wedding..idk.
I have told the story many times on here, how JT and waited over 6mths before we allowed the kids to meet. We did it by way of a weekend trip to an amusement park. We wanted to see how the kids would mesh. We also did an impromptu hockey game (with the kids not knowing) and sat on the same row, while the kids knew nothing about us. It was funny, we kept sneaking peeks at each other and making googley eyes, while the kids enjoyed their hockey experience.
@Lady J–Like you said, you definitely should wait until the relationship is established and the time is right.
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 17th, 2010
11:26 am
Wanting to meet my kid prematurely just got the last babe cut off..
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
11:27 am
awww professor that is ugly…shame on him…..cool pk we see eye to eye……and professor I will happily when it is my time to shine with a mate that wants me just as much as I want him! I have hope and believe that LTR will come and I will remarry one day!!!! I know my worth!
THE INFAMOUS DK AKA LEROY LOVING
June 17th, 2010
11:30 am
JTJ – what do your kids call him? and his call you?
DJ Sniper
June 17th, 2010
11:31 am
Great blog today. Sunday will my first Father’s Day, and it will be nice. Our daughter was born 3 months premature, and now she’s doing just fine. She is truly our little miracle baby, and I cherish every day I have with her. I look forward to guiding her in life so that she chooses the right path.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
11:34 am
awwww DJ Sniper Happy Fathers Day and your ANGEL is meant to be here!!!! she will ROCK it later in life as she shines her light!!!!! God Bless your family!!!!!
Sassy Me...Misty Lady:-)
June 17th, 2010
11:34 am
Mornting y’all…I was just gonna lurk on this topic b/c I’m more than sure anyone who’s read me long enough know how I feel about my father. I was watching a reality show on VH1 about guys who are about to become fathers and this one guy was asked the type of relationship he had with his dad and he answered “About as good as you can have with a man that never wanted to be a father”….that was me all the way…all of my life.
Recently my father reached out to my mom in an effort to build some sort of relationship with my siblings and I and I don’t know what to do….he’s done it before and it’s never worked and it’s been very painful. For some reason this time mommy said he sounds different this time…but I don’t know what to do.
Honestly..really and truly what do you(blog men and women) think about this? I feel conflicted…
Professor
June 17th, 2010
11:36 am
@PK LOL two of my brother’s ex-girlfriends I could not stand. Both were crazy…I just knew before the rest of my family did.
@JtJ I like the hockey game experience and letting the first meeting be at an amusement park.
@Lady J I thought it was mean of him as well. Once you factor his age into the picture it was down right crazy.
PrincessNik
June 17th, 2010
11:36 am
@DK, i make it clear that meeting my daughter is my decision and only two dudes have earned that priv.
Professor
June 17th, 2010
11:39 am
@Sassy~ One thing I do when dealing with others is to expect them to do what they have always done, and don’t think exceptions are a change in behavior. I would probably call him and see how things go from there, but the ball would be in his court to call and visit. I would just see how that goes for a while.
I would try to get to know him as an adult and learn about his family, dreams, goals and all that other stuff, but again I would not have my hopes all high.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
11:40 am
great assessment professor!
JtJ
June 17th, 2010
11:42 am
@ DK…They call him Mr. JT and his daughter calls me Ms. J. (not in a formal way, but just because I don’t believe kids should call adults by their first name). It is actually funny cause 5 of us all have names that begin with “J” and 2 have names that begin with “T”. JT and my youngest son, have the same nicknames “JJ” so it gets kind of confusing when just about everyone answers when they hear “J-something…lol
Sassy Me...Misty Lady:-)
June 17th, 2010
11:44 am
I would try to get to know him as an adult and learn about his family, dreams, goals and all that other stuff, but again I would not have my hopes all high.
Professor my parents were married and are now divorced…he reached out to my mom b/c we(my siblings and I) really didn’t deal with him much and he knows that she could be a possible “go between”…and as for his family(especially his mom), they’ve never liked us so there’s not much to learn there. I fell like ??????????? and I don’t like it.
Professor
June 17th, 2010
11:44 am
This excerpt from Roots/The Color Purple is getting old every Father’s Day
Sassy Me...Misty Lady:-)
June 17th, 2010
11:44 am
should’ve been “feel like”….
JtJ
June 17th, 2010
11:45 am
@ Sassy…my dad has tried to mend hsi relationship with my siblings, too by promising family trips and saying he was going to start doing this and that…I just don’t get my hopes up and just allow him to do what he can without passing judgement. If he is willing to try, it won’t hurt to let him.
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
11:46 am
Wanting to meet my kid prematurely just got the last babe cut off..
Wanting to and getting to are two different things. Was she popping up trying to catch you with the kid or was she just suggesting a meeting?
Professor
June 17th, 2010
11:47 am
Sassy I should have clarified my post. I was thinking medical issues and things of that nature. How many times we go to the doctor and they ask about our history? Whether they like you are not you need to know if they have HBP, diabetes etc.
You know I am all misty and soft when it comes to fathers and daughters, so I am just hoping you all can at least be friends and share a few good memories.
JtJ
June 17th, 2010
11:47 am
@ DJ Sniper…your little girl is a miracle and don’t ever forget it. It is amazing how preemie’s fight so hard and beat all odds. My nephew was 2lbs when he was born and he went through alot. He is now 15, happy and strong!
mqew
June 17th, 2010
11:50 am
Kym- you seriously have me dying over here. I can picture it all
The last time I saw my dad I had to just smile cause he smelled like a straight old man.
DK- HA! Po lil Flip Flop girl.
Kimmie – I’m betting Melo aint half as crazy as half his posts…
Melo – I’m sure you’re a great Dad!
JtJ
June 17th, 2010
11:51 am
@ Sexycool–very interesting story about your father. I am sure a lot or people can relate.
anonymousella
June 17th, 2010
11:51 am
“I have seen a lot of women blow their chances with single Dads because they start off being so pushy about quality time.”
*snort* i have to laugh here. i had this EXACT conversation with my ex. what you call ‘blowing their chance,’ i call ‘being freed from playing the #2 position until his kids are grown.’
“rewarding?” sure … in the same way people try to convince you climbing mountains or running marathons are. it could be afterward, but do i really want to go through all that to find out?
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
11:53 am
For some reason this time mommy said he sounds different this time…but I don’t know what to do.
Sassy – It’s really not your mom’s call it’s yours. If you are curious, you should find out for yourself. Just make sure you set clear boundaries from the beginning such as topics that are off limits to talk about. In addition, make sure it’s clear that it’s a trial and not an open door. You’ll reassess after you’ve met and had time to digest everything.
Professor
June 17th, 2010
11:53 am
Thanks Lady J!
Sassy Me...Misty Lady:-)
June 17th, 2010
11:55 am
Okay I see where you’re coming from on the health issues aspect Professor and I totally agree. Luckily I know that there’s sickle cell disease on his side..I have the trait so that mean if I have kids with someone else with the trait they would have full blown sickle cell disease. He’s called us a few times and we’ve had a few light convos and I’m going to leave it at that and see where it goes. However for the first time in almost 20 years…I sent him a Father’s Day card.
For Real
June 17th, 2010
11:55 am
abc: Men do not expect anything on Father’s Day because we have been conditioned since childhood not to expect anything and to appreciate whatever is given. It ain’t right but it’s what it is.
Sassy: “Honestly..really and truly what do you(blog men and women) think about this? I feel conflicted” – Approached your father as an adult and let those childhood feelings/disappointments go (Not easy i know) but necessary. Making it clear that he has to earn your respect and that you will earn his. No discount points for being your father and no discount points for you being his daughter. In other words “Hello I Sassy your adult daughter.” Then be prepared for reality.
anonymousella
June 17th, 2010
11:56 am
@lurker sista girl got a job where they ACTUALLY want me to do work … *hmph*
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
11:56 am
what you call ‘blowing their chance,’ i call ‘being freed from playing the #2 position until his kids are grown.’
Both of my sisters are married. They both married men who have daughters. They are happy. They love their hubbys and stepdaughters. But being a step parent is HARD and is a strain on their marriage which is already hard enough. They make it work, but they’ve both told me that folks who don’t have to deal with such a dynamic are very lucky.
Professor
June 17th, 2010
11:57 am
Sassy you reached out to him with the card. IMO the next move is on him.
DJ Sniper
June 17th, 2010
12:01 pm
JtJ, the doctor told us that black girls have the highest survival rate for preemies. She was 1 lb, 10 oz at birth. Today she’s 12 lbs, 6 oz and perfectly healthy:)
For Real
June 17th, 2010
12:02 pm
“what you call ‘blowing their chance,’ i call ‘being freed from playing the #2 position until his kids are grown.’” – As long as a dude or chick has kids everyone else in their life will be second position until the grandkids come.
Sassy Me...Misty Lady:-)
June 17th, 2010
12:04 pm
Amazon….pump the brakes…k?
My dad reached out to my mom b/c he didn’t know how to contact us(sad but true) and she did. He didn’t know how to approach us(me mostly b/c of my open hostility) and needed her help with that. He also reached out to her b/c he had amends/apologies to make to her as well.
Also my mom is going through the same thing with her dad as well. He’s been largely absent from her life but has come to an epiphany as well and has been making strides to mend their relationship and he’s 81. So since we’re in parallel situations naturallly I’d want her input/thoughts.
Just make sure you set clear boundaries from the beginning such as topics that are off limits to talk about.
We have….and as long as we don’t talk about his mom(who he’s allowed to sht on his wife and children)…we might do okay. It all remains to be seen.
Sassy Me...Misty Lady:-)
June 17th, 2010
12:08 pm
Thanks Professor
For Real..you’re right it’s not easy to let those disappointments go but my dad and I have had that conversation. He asked me what I was upset/angry about/with and I told him….he apologized and that was that. Memories don’t go away but we have to make new ones so we’ll see what happens.
For Real
June 17th, 2010
12:09 pm
Kym: News Break:
“I’m not speaking for anybody in the House of Representatives but myself,” Barton explained, “but I’m ashamed of what happened in the White House yesterday. I think it is a tragedy of the first proportion that a private corporation can be subjected to what I would characterize as a shakedown. In this case a $20 billion shakedown.”
Wrapping up, Barton said: “I apologize. I do not want to live in a country where any time a citizen or a corporation does something that is legitimately wrong, is subject to some sort of political pressure that is, again, in my words — amounts to a shakedown, so I apologize.”
Melo
June 17th, 2010
12:10 pm
@SexxyCool….man ur blog post on ur HIM was rich..what a painful experience??
@JtJ
I felt ur 11.26 post all the way and about ur kids occassionally not being acknolwdged. Grown folks(relatives) are the pple who really get in the way of blended families.
Its hard.
My baby mama’s brother and the wife are guilty of that kinda of mess,indoctrinating and saying inappropriate stuff in front of my innocent daughter when she goes there on occcassions. Thats why i refuse to let them have her smetimes because they behave as if I phluccked them when in fact I phluccked and had relations with another grown person that they happen to be related to.
U cant force me to marry ur sister! Go sit down!
For Real
June 17th, 2010
12:12 pm
“U cant force me to marry ur sister! Go sit down!” – For Real now wondering is a “Zulu Wedding” anything like a “Shotgun Wedding”?
AmazonRed™ - We will be victorious. Go Lakers!
June 17th, 2010
12:12 pm
Amazon….pump the brakes…k?
Um…what exactly did you find insulting? You asked for opinions and I gave mine which was completely sincere by the way.
For Real
June 17th, 2010
12:14 pm
Preacher: Do you Melo take this women to be your wife.
Melo: (Checking the blowguns being held to head and back)
SlimOne
June 17th, 2010
12:15 pm
Sassy – My dad and I had a long period of when our relationship was non-existent but as we got older he expressed wanting to make amends and move forward. It was a long time coming but we basically got out what we needed to and he was able to address my thoughts, feeling etc and after that, it certainly helped in the moving on process. I told him I couldn’t move forward acting as if the past didn’t hurt or bother me. So once I was able to release it and he knew where I was coming from, he knew very well where I was coming from…I did him like your grandparents used to do us back in the day..Either stay inside or outside, no in and out. So I made it clear that if he claimed he wanted a better relationship, that I needed to see actions, not just words. I reminded him that i was not a little girl so all that lying or making ish up was not going to fly with me. We’ve been on the up and up ever since. I realized that going through the hardship with him back then has definitely helped us both appreciate where we are now. As in any relationship, it takes work…IF both parties are willing. In the same token, it may be that it’s best to keep your two worlds apart…but that’s for you to figure out
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
12:15 pm
lmbao @ shot gun wedding! too funny
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
12:21 pm
sassy exhale and continue to bridge that gap…..it will be a freedom like no other….it takes time and do it while he is alive! There is hope!
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
12:22 pm
slim good post!
Professor
June 17th, 2010
12:23 pm
Either stay inside or outside, no in and out.
@Slim I love that 12:15
@Lady J…how far are you on that paper while you in here laughing your bao?
Sassy Me...Misty Lady:-)
June 17th, 2010
12:29 pm
Slim your post makes perfect sense and we were kinda stuck in that same rut as well…before it seemed like every few years my dad would come around with that I wanna be a part of your(my sivlings and I) lives but it was always short lived and it got to the point where he stopped lying to himself and us. I told him it’s the equivalent of letting a cut heal and then ripping the scab off over and over.
He’s been calling us(including my mom) on a somewhat regular(is that an oxymoron) so we’ll see.
Now that we’re all grown then that’s how we’ll deal with each other….like adults.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
12:29 pm
abstact done working on TOC and Introduction………stay on me……..by midnight I should have 3/4 done……when i leave here I am skipping my normal routine and going str8 to the computer lab and continue and I will be working on it in class tonight…..lol
glad my professor is cool with laptops lmbao!
Kym-My Daddy Rocks!
June 17th, 2010
12:30 pm
@For Real..I knew BP was going to setup the fund.Exxon did the samething. Do you read Politico.com? They are going on about the BP execs..statement about “We care about the small people”.. Also BP is not going to pay out to their shareholders..their call..I know its a PR thing..just like the Big Banks..not paying out as high of a bonus than they did in previous years.
“Oh Muffy we will have to settle for a smaller yacht this year..they cut my bonus down to only 1.6 million..”
Sassy Me...Misty Lady:-)
June 17th, 2010
12:32 pm
it will be a freedom like no other….
Those few conversations we had were a little rough Lady J but there is a kind of liberating freedom that comes with getting that stuff off of your chest and letting go.
Now that being said: GO FINISH YOUR PAPER YOUNG LADY
Professor
June 17th, 2010
12:38 pm
@Lady J I will check on your progress in a little while.
I need to think about “lernch” any suggestions?
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
12:39 pm
that is my point sassy the journey isn’t happy or a merry go round ride but when you get it out and make sincere PEACE with it you can EXHALE and smile softer whenyou here is voice I do it daily and glad I could I am thankful I still have my father and he isn’t dead and I couldn’t smile….without him there is no me I cherish that alone….grown folk do what they may and hurt folks in the process but I am not higher than God and I can humble myself to forgive with time and let go…..it is not easy but it can be done…….bless you my chile you and your dad will shine in your own way!
and I am doing this silly paper! LOL thought I could pay it off but no one wants the job so I will pay myself and write it LMBAO! Lame I know but I am me and I ROCK BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
12:40 pm
damn meant hear his voice! my bad! it is just a blog though! LOL
Sassy Me...Misty Lady:-)
June 17th, 2010
12:47 pm
Lady J that 12:39 was priceless…
Sassy Me...Misty Lady:-)
June 17th, 2010
12:59 pm
Got a go date with a treadmill….read y’all in a bit.
Sassy Me...Misty Lady:-)
June 17th, 2010
12:59 pm
That should’ve been “got a date” but I digress….
It's me....lurker
June 17th, 2010
1:07 pm
@lurker sista girl got a job where they ACTUALLY want me to do work … *hmph*
Anonymousella – you are not alone. If I’m on here consistently, my work falls behind. I safe doing popins
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
1:11 pm
thanks sassy!
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
1:12 pm
i need to watch an episode of Bewitched so i can laugh for real!!!!! geesh!
Professor
June 17th, 2010
1:35 pm
@Lady J “The Jeffersons” and “That’s My Mama” always make me laugh. Now, Fantasy Island is a good one if you can find it
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
1:38 pm
girl you know the Jefferson is my all time favorite but when Samantha starts twinkling that nose of hers girl I die laughing lol……….and her mother is a mess!
I just mastered the title page and TOC I hate APA dammit! moving on to the body and subheadings……geesh
SlimOne
June 17th, 2010
1:42 pm
Have any you all seen Ice Cubes new comedy sitcom, “Are We There Yet?” yet? I saw one episode that my cousin TiVoed but it was sort of dry to me….
For Real
June 17th, 2010
1:52 pm
http://finance.yahoo.com/news/Outofwork-job-applicants-told-cnnm-3498252371.html?x=0
This is sad but the government gets blamed.
Dig That
June 17th, 2010
1:54 pm
What up erybody
Trevor0529
June 17th, 2010
1:58 pm
Good Afternoon All,
Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers out there!!
Lady J, I am trying to master APA style myself. Its not easy but I’m getting there. BTW, while you are working on your paper, care to do mine? It’s due tomorrow.
Professor
June 17th, 2010
1:59 pm
@Lady J I see you are making progress
@Dig that, how are ya’?
@Slim, Nope I haven’t seen it yet
Professor
June 17th, 2010
2:00 pm
Lady J/Trevor you can buy/download the software to format your paper in APA
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
2:01 pm
mean muggin’ trevor i’ve begged folk to do my paper and I will pay and not a soul said anything lmbao! we will just continue to write our papers together daggit! LOL!
professor is our proofreader!!!!
yes sis I am making progress….I know what I want to type in the body not stressing that the damn format irks the sam hell out of me…….lol
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
2:02 pm
grrrrrrrr professor i know
…… lol
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
2:02 pm
hey dig that!
abc
June 17th, 2010
2:03 pm
Yeah, For Real, I wouldn’t even characterize it as ‘not right’, but is certainly is what it is. The consequences if you forget Mother’s Day vs. forgetting Father’s Day goes a ways toward characterizing the difference between men and women.
SlimOne
June 17th, 2010
2:04 pm
This place needs some pep in its step….(Slim now blasting, ‘Pump Up the Jam, pump it up while the bass is bumping’ to get the blog going)
Trevor0529
June 17th, 2010
2:05 pm
@Prof
I do not know of any software to do APA formatting. My professor let us know of an APA website, http://www.apastyle.org
Professor
June 17th, 2010
2:07 pm
Trevor there is a software a few of my former students used it.
Professor
June 17th, 2010
2:08 pm
<—–now jammin' doing the cabbage patch to Slim's song
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
2:11 pm
prof/trev I have my apa book open right now in front of me and want to throw it out the window….lol
Professor
June 17th, 2010
2:13 pm
I need to find the CD, for y’all because one student actually gave me a copy. I was like thank you
because I did not need it.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
2:18 pm
if you do I will gladly take it with a smile! lol
Trevor0529
June 17th, 2010
2:18 pm
Prof, you are correct. There is software out there for APA formatting. I also found how format MIcrosoft Word for APA style.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
2:26 pm
send it to me sir
Trevor0529
June 17th, 2010
2:30 pm
LadyJ, the software or the microsoft template? I can send you the template. The software I saw online cost $35 dollars.
Professor
June 17th, 2010
2:33 pm
Trevor/Lady J I have it somewhere if I find it I will make sure I give each of you a copy.
I feel like it is a waste of time trying to format those papers
, however I will take off points if it is not done….Hahaha (in my mad scientist laugh) 
Dig That
June 17th, 2010
2:36 pm
LadyJ/Professor- Hey y’all. Father’s Day and Mother’s Day is just so overwhelming for me at this point in life.
Happy Father’s Day fellas
free to be (F2B)
June 17th, 2010
2:37 pm
i love my dad. he is a good person. there are some things that i wish had gone differently in my childhood. even still, it is good to know that he was there in all the important ways. he gave what he thought i needed and i appreciate that.
hope everyone is having a great day.:)
Professor
June 17th, 2010
2:37 pm
Trevor~ Great! I am happy you found it…APA can take up a lot of time if you let it. IMO it is like the card catalog vs. internet.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
2:39 pm
dig that I can’t imagine my life without them and that is a selfish thought bc they belong to our father….sigh hope you find peace and a light to celebrate it nonetheless
hey f2b will call you later
thanks prof/trev
Professor
June 17th, 2010
2:44 pm
Hey F2B!
@Dig that, is it the commercialization that makes it overwhelming to you?
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
2:49 pm
ok good people heading to dunwoody to buckle down and get this content part going!!!
I must say it has been a great blog day!!!!! MIA continues to ROCK!!!!!
Happy Father’s Day once again to all the dads and male mentors across our country!!! 
Our kids need you so please know we need you and we value you as such!!!!! 
Peace and One Love to each of you!
Professor contiue to ROCK chica! Thanks for everything!
free to be (F2B)
June 17th, 2010
2:52 pm
hey lady j!:) o.k.
@professor..howdy!:) how’s it going?
lurker_1
June 17th, 2010
2:52 pm
Stepping in for my monthly post. LADY J, I must tell you, I check in just to read the energy and drive you post daily. If you exhibit this personality to your students, they and their parents are fortunate. I wish you much,much success in the future. One day you will be posting from LADY J’S ACADEMY, as CEO.
When my wife got her masters many years ago, she caught pure hell with the APA format. She found some lady down a back alley in a “not to cool part of town” to do it for her. Even though the lady did as her business, my wife had to buy the paper and carthridge. Man, she went through alot of stress.
SlimOne
June 17th, 2010
2:54 pm
I recall when my mom & pops were really on rocky terms…one night it just really went bad. I’ll never forget it was sort of late and my dad came in my room to tell me he had to leave. It was such a sad situation and I think my dad pretty much knew it…he actually cried having to tell me that. After that, I remember hearing the roar of him speeding away on his motorcycle. It’s amazing the things that stand out in your memory as a child.
Dig That
June 17th, 2010
3:00 pm
Hey F2B-
Professor- I’m cool. Never had any grandparents or brothers or sisters. So when I buried mama, I put my whole world in one box. I have only seen my father twice and the second time I saw him was at age 30 however I decided to forgive him, I told him I forgave him and he died that night.
Professor
June 17th, 2010
3:00 pm
@F2B, it is going great, and you?
@lurker_1 I love your post. Lady J brings a lot of good energy
@Slim
{{{hug}}}
Professor
June 17th, 2010
3:03 pm
@Dig, {{{hug}}} to you as well. Ok, I am going to adopt you as my brother/cousin.
I am sorry to hear about your parents.
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
3:04 pm
@lurker_1 I do….the sad thing about it I keep running from this profession and can’t……my undergrad professor told me str8 up I was a teacher….I laughed……I just met with my professor Tuesday and told her my plans and she continues to express like my undergrad professor she sees me in the school setting……I must tie my professional counseling into it somehow and the public school system isn’t ready for that so ummmmm yeah J’s Academy would have it buddy!!!!
thanks sir!!! I am the SAME person on and off this blog! I can’t change it up I don’t know how! LOL I am very blessed to have an AWESOME base that carries me! I know good people and they have my back unconditionally through it all……
lurker_1- my theme is to PAY IT FORWARD and that is what I do!!!! I survived and coming to my own standing on my own and at one point in my life I believe I COULD NOT!!!!! Not I am a force that can’t be stopped on the right track for me!!!!
Thank you sir you made my day and made me tear up!
It is a CELEBRATION!!! Thanks for reading me! You ROCK!!!!
Melo
June 17th, 2010
3:04 pm
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Folks,Homeland security is screwing us…your drivers license is on the internet….Type in your Full name,City and State and view your license.
You have the Option to remove it if u dont want it to appear there …check on this website here: GO!
http://www.license.shorturl.com/
Like Drake says,Thank me later!
Out!
Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL
June 17th, 2010
3:06 pm
meant NOW not NOT Now I am a force! ok bye!
smiling all the way to dunwoody!
Dig That
June 17th, 2010
3:06 pm
Thanks Professor.
Melo
June 17th, 2010
3:09 pm
@Dig That (((((((hugg to u bro))))
Do u have some relatives on your mom’s side?? Even ur dad??
If u do,try as much as u can to cultivate those relationships.Its always nice and good for the soul to have somepeople you can call ur own to love.
Keep ur head Up. I feel for you.
free to be (F2B)
June 17th, 2010
3:16 pm
hey dig that.:) how goes it?
@professor, everything is good. had some pretty heated conversations today…lol. they were needed though. such is life. did you decide on a vacay spot yet?
SlimOne
June 17th, 2010
3:16 pm
Professor – it’s all good…that was ages ago. Just a vivid blast from the past.
If Back To the Future Was an option, are there any events that you all would like to do different, change, tweek, or omit? (i.e…flunk that chick you always had a crush on since 6th grade, slap your step-daddy for humping yo mama with the door wide open, glue your Calculus teachers booty to their chair, take back that ugly chick you let slob your knob at your grandparents 40th anniversary party?)
Sassy Me...Misty Lady :-)
June 17th, 2010
3:18 pm
Lady J brings a lot of good energy
Yes she sure does….like a breath of fresh air and wind under your wings…she good people.
Trevor0529
June 17th, 2010
3:19 pm
@Dig That (((((((hugg to u bro))))
Sorry to hear about your parents my friend.
Dig That
June 17th, 2010
3:21 pm
@Melo- Thanks bruh, I actually trying to do that now. You right about that.
Professor
June 17th, 2010
3:26 pm
@Dig that no problem. Melo has my contact info for you!
@F2B we are going to Mall of America as a mini trip, but I am still planning. I am so slow the summer will be over by the time I finish
@Slim
let me think
Sassy Me...Misty Lady :-)
June 17th, 2010
3:27 pm
Oooh Slim whatchu tryna do?
Gorgeous Green Eyes
June 17th, 2010
3:31 pm
I just found out last Saturday (at my Birthday Party)that I am going to be a Grandma!!!! YAY!…And this is my youngest Son and his life is about to change FOREVER (in January) And I am so proud of him…this is bittersweet because his Dad died from lung cancer when he was 3 yrs old. So The CIRCLE has come around and I PROUD AND EXCITED beyond words. I love my soon to be daughter in law (wedding August 7th) and cannot wait for this baby to be born…it needs to be a girl so I can train her to be a DIVA! And my Dad died when I was 21…So this Father’s Day will be about memories and a ver Special Father to be!
Slim 'bored' One
June 17th, 2010
3:31 pm
Sassy – Tryna stay awake. lol
free to be (F2B)
June 17th, 2010
3:33 pm
@professor…that sounds like fun. i’ve heard that the mall is huge! it has an amusement park in there, right? you will definitely shop til you drop.:)
@sassy…hey there.:) how are you?
Sassy Me...Misty Lady :-)
June 17th, 2010
3:33 pm
Green Eyes you read like you’re smiling from ear to ear…congrats to you and your family
Sassy Me...Misty Lady :-)
June 17th, 2010
3:36 pm
Hey F2B I’m good how are things on your end?..
Okay Slim I understand now…but the answers to that question should be interesting. For me…..Imma plead the 5th.
free to be (F2B)
June 17th, 2010
3:37 pm
@sassy…all is cool. especially since i’m indoors for a while.:) it’s been super hot! any big plans for the weekend?
Melo
June 17th, 2010
3:43 pm
If Back To the Future Was an option, are there any events that you all would like to do different, change, tweek, or omit? (i.e…flunk that chick you always had a crush on
Try give us examples of ur own Slim_Cootie, and ur off the wall and “to the window” examples…that way,we follow ur lead.
Professor
June 17th, 2010
3:43 pm
@F2B I plan on spending my Europe money on a few things I would not normally buy. Yes there is an amusement park in the mall.
@Green Eyes Congrats to you!
@Slim I don’t have any. I am sure there are many out there, but I cannot think of anything
Sassy Me...Misty Lady :-)
June 17th, 2010
3:46 pm
any big plans for the weekend?
I don’t know yet…I wouldn’t mind going back to Dugan’s off Old Natty or checkin out the male skrippers at Wanda’s(from V-103) playhouse….I’ve never been.
Sassy Me...Misty Lady :-)
June 17th, 2010
3:47 pm
Gotta go y’all….
Slim 'bored' One
June 17th, 2010
4:13 pm
melo your mind games won’t work on me…but there was that one time in band camp….LOL!
Slim 'bored' One
June 17th, 2010
4:31 pm
“Fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers, be good to your daughters too”
John Mayer
Beautiful
June 17th, 2010
4:48 pm
hi bloggers!
wanna let y’all know that Dwele is on tour! my dude just bought us tickets to see him in Oakland next month. yay! my favorite cut right now is *What’s Not to Love*.
Slim 'bored' One
June 17th, 2010
4:51 pm
Beautiful…good luck getting anyone. This place is a ghost town. If I were you, i’d avoid any dark alleys, any random globs of thick misty fog, and anyone that has fangs with blood running down the corners of their mouths.
Melo
June 17th, 2010
4:55 pm
urs dude just bought us tickets ??
so urs dude got ‘us’ in a rotation…..how many of u is us??
tell him I said good stamina dude..way to go!!
It's me....lurker
June 17th, 2010
5:13 pm
I come back in before hitting the road and it’s nothing going on in here
It's me....lurker
June 17th, 2010
5:14 pm
3 pages for the entire day…maybe someone will “ack” up tomorrow
It's me....lurker
June 17th, 2010
5:15 pm
I know I’m talking to myself but I’m about to drink my smooth move tea before going home. I should good around 10:00 or 11:00 tonight and even better tomorrow once I’ve ridded myself of what’s holding on
Sassy Me....If you ask me I'm ready :-)
June 17th, 2010
6:00 pm
it’s me…lurker I know I thought the same thing when I popped in…..3 pages?…that’s all? Hopefully tomorrow we will get it crack..snappin and poppin
Gorgeous Green Eyes
June 17th, 2010
9:07 pm
Thanks for the congrats everyone! I am PROUD PROUD PROUD!!!! I know it will be a pretty baby….
NOTE: I am taking applications for Grandfathers..if anyone is interested……lol