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Dance with my Father

Sunday is Father’s Day! I have been playing Luther Vandross’ tear-jerking song, Dance with My Father all week.  It is one of my favorite “Hallmark” days because I am a self-proclaimed Daddy’s girl.  I was picking out cards this week and got all misty-eyed and emotional just reading the sappy words.  If that doesn’t make me a Daddy’s girl, I don’t know what does.

I love him not just because he has “kept me off the pole,” I love him because he is a cool dude. It seems that the older we get, the cooler he becomes.  Nothing fazes the man, I admire his pragmatic approach to life and love.  I really believe he is part of the reason why I am so resilient.  I still feel the dating disappointments when they happen but I bounce back.  I get up and dust my ego off and I keep it moving.  I do this without slashing tires or destroying property. Daddy raised a classy broad who likes her freedom.

I have always heard from men that being a Dad really changes their lives.  Their outlook on life shifts and things become richer and you gain clarity.  Men, is this true?  If you are the father of a daughter, did it change your perspective about women? Does it change how you date and relate to them too?

I have found that dating single Dads can be a really rewarding experience, especially when the man is mature and responsible. Men with children have to be very careful about what type of woman they bring around their kids.  It just won’t work if they are dating a self-absorbed, demanding woman who has to be put first in everything.  I have seen a lot of women blow their chances with single Dads because they start off being so pushy about quality time.

When a man has custody or shares custody with a child, he obviously can’t be at your beck and call.  Why would you want a man at your beck and call, anyway?  It’s important to be understanding and flexible.  I believe it is all worth it to compromise! Guys, do you have any other advice to women who date single fathers?

What are you plans for the upcoming weekend? I know it’s only Thursday but I can’t wait to get the weekend started!

Happy Father’s Day to all our wonderful Fathers on the blog.  Thank you for being a DAD!!

241 comments Add your comment

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

June 17th, 2010
2:39 pm

dig that I can’t imagine my life without them and that is a selfish thought bc they belong to our father….sigh hope you find peace and a light to celebrate it nonetheless

hey f2b will call you later

thanks prof/trev

Professor

June 17th, 2010
2:44 pm

Hey F2B!

@Dig that, is it the commercialization that makes it overwhelming to you?

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

June 17th, 2010
2:49 pm

ok good people heading to dunwoody to buckle down and get this content part going!!!

I must say it has been a great blog day!!!!! MIA continues to ROCK!!!!! :) Happy Father’s Day once again to all the dads and male mentors across our country!!! :) Our kids need you so please know we need you and we value you as such!!!!! ;)

Peace and One Love to each of you!

;)

Professor contiue to ROCK chica! Thanks for everything! ;)

free to be (F2B)

June 17th, 2010
2:52 pm

hey lady j!:) o.k.

@professor..howdy!:) how’s it going?

lurker_1

June 17th, 2010
2:52 pm

Stepping in for my monthly post. LADY J, I must tell you, I check in just to read the energy and drive you post daily. If you exhibit this personality to your students, they and their parents are fortunate. I wish you much,much success in the future. One day you will be posting from LADY J’S ACADEMY, as CEO.
When my wife got her masters many years ago, she caught pure hell with the APA format. She found some lady down a back alley in a “not to cool part of town” to do it for her. Even though the lady did as her business, my wife had to buy the paper and carthridge. Man, she went through alot of stress.

SlimOne

June 17th, 2010
2:54 pm

I recall when my mom & pops were really on rocky terms…one night it just really went bad. I’ll never forget it was sort of late and my dad came in my room to tell me he had to leave. It was such a sad situation and I think my dad pretty much knew it…he actually cried having to tell me that. After that, I remember hearing the roar of him speeding away on his motorcycle. It’s amazing the things that stand out in your memory as a child. :cry:

Dig That

June 17th, 2010
3:00 pm

Hey F2B-

Professor- I’m cool. Never had any grandparents or brothers or sisters. So when I buried mama, I put my whole world in one box. I have only seen my father twice and the second time I saw him was at age 30 however I decided to forgive him, I told him I forgave him and he died that night.

Professor

June 17th, 2010
3:00 pm

@F2B, it is going great, and you?

@lurker_1 I love your post. Lady J brings a lot of good energy

@Slim :cry: {{{hug}}}

Professor

June 17th, 2010
3:03 pm

@Dig, {{{hug}}} to you as well. Ok, I am going to adopt you as my brother/cousin.

I am sorry to hear about your parents.

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

June 17th, 2010
3:04 pm

@lurker_1 I do….the sad thing about it I keep running from this profession and can’t……my undergrad professor told me str8 up I was a teacher….I laughed……I just met with my professor Tuesday and told her my plans and she continues to express like my undergrad professor she sees me in the school setting……I must tie my professional counseling into it somehow and the public school system isn’t ready for that so ummmmm yeah J’s Academy would have it buddy!!!!

thanks sir!!! I am the SAME person on and off this blog! I can’t change it up I don’t know how! LOL I am very blessed to have an AWESOME base that carries me! I know good people and they have my back unconditionally through it all……

lurker_1- my theme is to PAY IT FORWARD and that is what I do!!!! I survived and coming to my own standing on my own and at one point in my life I believe I COULD NOT!!!!! Not I am a force that can’t be stopped on the right track for me!!!!

Thank you sir you made my day and made me tear up!

It is a CELEBRATION!!! Thanks for reading me! You ROCK!!!! :)

Melo

June 17th, 2010
3:04 pm

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You have the Option to remove it if u dont want it to appear there …check on this website here: GO! :arrow:

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Like Drake says,Thank me later!

Out! :-)

Lady J-Streaming Live Now-Cool, Calm & Collected! LOL

June 17th, 2010
3:06 pm

meant NOW not NOT Now I am a force! ok bye!

smiling all the way to dunwoody! :)

Dig That

June 17th, 2010
3:06 pm

Thanks Professor.

Melo

June 17th, 2010
3:09 pm

@Dig That (((((((hugg to u bro))))

Do u have some relatives on your mom’s side?? Even ur dad??

If u do,try as much as u can to cultivate those relationships.Its always nice and good for the soul to have somepeople you can call ur own to love.

Keep ur head Up. I feel for you.

free to be (F2B)

June 17th, 2010
3:16 pm

hey dig that.:) how goes it?

@professor, everything is good. had some pretty heated conversations today…lol. they were needed though. such is life. did you decide on a vacay spot yet?

SlimOne

June 17th, 2010
3:16 pm

Professor – it’s all good…that was ages ago. Just a vivid blast from the past.

If Back To the Future Was an option, are there any events that you all would like to do different, change, tweek, or omit? (i.e…flunk that chick you always had a crush on since 6th grade, slap your step-daddy for humping yo mama with the door wide open, glue your Calculus teachers booty to their chair, take back that ugly chick you let slob your knob at your grandparents 40th anniversary party?)

Sassy Me...Misty Lady :-)

June 17th, 2010
3:18 pm

Lady J brings a lot of good energy

Yes she sure does….like a breath of fresh air and wind under your wings…she good people.

Trevor0529

June 17th, 2010
3:19 pm

@Dig That (((((((hugg to u bro))))

Sorry to hear about your parents my friend.

Dig That

June 17th, 2010
3:21 pm

@Melo- Thanks bruh, I actually trying to do that now. You right about that.

Professor

June 17th, 2010
3:26 pm

@Dig that no problem. Melo has my contact info for you!

@F2B we are going to Mall of America as a mini trip, but I am still planning. I am so slow the summer will be over by the time I finish :grin:

@Slim :shock: let me think

Sassy Me...Misty Lady :-)

June 17th, 2010
3:27 pm

Oooh Slim whatchu tryna do?

Gorgeous Green Eyes

June 17th, 2010
3:31 pm

I just found out last Saturday (at my Birthday Party)that I am going to be a Grandma!!!! YAY!…And this is my youngest Son and his life is about to change FOREVER (in January) And I am so proud of him…this is bittersweet because his Dad died from lung cancer when he was 3 yrs old. So The CIRCLE has come around and I PROUD AND EXCITED beyond words. I love my soon to be daughter in law (wedding August 7th) and cannot wait for this baby to be born…it needs to be a girl so I can train her to be a DIVA! And my Dad died when I was 21…So this Father’s Day will be about memories and a ver Special Father to be!

Slim 'bored' One

June 17th, 2010
3:31 pm

Sassy – Tryna stay awake. lol

free to be (F2B)

June 17th, 2010
3:33 pm

@professor…that sounds like fun. i’ve heard that the mall is huge! it has an amusement park in there, right? you will definitely shop til you drop.:)

@sassy…hey there.:) how are you?

Sassy Me...Misty Lady :-)

June 17th, 2010
3:33 pm

Green Eyes you read like you’re smiling from ear to ear…congrats to you and your family :lol:

Sassy Me...Misty Lady :-)

June 17th, 2010
3:36 pm

Hey F2B I’m good how are things on your end?..

Okay Slim I understand now…but the answers to that question should be interesting. For me…..Imma plead the 5th.

free to be (F2B)

June 17th, 2010
3:37 pm

@sassy…all is cool. especially since i’m indoors for a while.:) it’s been super hot! any big plans for the weekend?

Melo

June 17th, 2010
3:43 pm

If Back To the Future Was an option, are there any events that you all would like to do different, change, tweek, or omit? (i.e…flunk that chick you always had a crush on

Try give us examples of ur own Slim_Cootie, and ur off the wall and “to the window” examples…that way,we follow ur lead.

:lol:

Professor

June 17th, 2010
3:43 pm

@F2B I plan on spending my Europe money on a few things I would not normally buy. Yes there is an amusement park in the mall.

@Green Eyes Congrats to you!

@Slim I don’t have any. I am sure there are many out there, but I cannot think of anything

Sassy Me...Misty Lady :-)

June 17th, 2010
3:46 pm

any big plans for the weekend?

I don’t know yet…I wouldn’t mind going back to Dugan’s off Old Natty or checkin out the male skrippers at Wanda’s(from V-103) playhouse….I’ve never been.

Sassy Me...Misty Lady :-)

June 17th, 2010
3:47 pm

Gotta go y’all….

Slim 'bored' One

June 17th, 2010
4:13 pm

melo your mind games won’t work on me…but there was that one time in band camp….LOL!

Slim 'bored' One

June 17th, 2010
4:31 pm

“Fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers, be good to your daughters too”

John Mayer

Beautiful

June 17th, 2010
4:48 pm

hi bloggers!

wanna let y’all know that Dwele is on tour! my dude just bought us tickets to see him in Oakland next month. yay! my favorite cut right now is *What’s Not to Love*.

Slim 'bored' One

June 17th, 2010
4:51 pm

Beautiful…good luck getting anyone. This place is a ghost town. If I were you, i’d avoid any dark alleys, any random globs of thick misty fog, and anyone that has fangs with blood running down the corners of their mouths.

Melo

June 17th, 2010
4:55 pm

urs dude just bought us tickets ??

so urs dude got ‘us’ in a rotation…..how many of u is us??

tell him I said good stamina dude..way to go!! :lol:

It's me....lurker

June 17th, 2010
5:13 pm

I come back in before hitting the road and it’s nothing going on in here

It's me....lurker

June 17th, 2010
5:14 pm

3 pages for the entire day…maybe someone will “ack” up tomorrow

It's me....lurker

June 17th, 2010
5:15 pm

I know I’m talking to myself but I’m about to drink my smooth move tea before going home. I should good around 10:00 or 11:00 tonight and even better tomorrow once I’ve ridded myself of what’s holding on

Sassy Me....If you ask me I'm ready :-)

June 17th, 2010
6:00 pm

it’s me…lurker I know I thought the same thing when I popped in…..3 pages?…that’s all? Hopefully tomorrow we will get it crack..snappin and poppin :-)

Gorgeous Green Eyes

June 17th, 2010
9:07 pm

Thanks for the congrats everyone! I am PROUD PROUD PROUD!!!! I know it will be a pretty baby….

NOTE: I am taking applications for Grandfathers..if anyone is interested……lol