My male friends tell me they think men are way more equipped at spotting a great woman then women are at determining when a guy is a real keeper. I don’t argue with them on it because heaven knows I sure can pick em’, if you know what I’m saying.
It’s possible they can see the qualities that a woman has that could make her a great match, good mother, and support system for him. I believe it’s the little signs that probably point to the fact she is either self-absorbed and selfish or kind and nurturing.
Keep in mind that women won’t go around nurturing and supporting random men all willy nilly. This is why when you meet and date someone new, it’s good to observe how they treat people.
So fellas, help us out and clue us in. How did you acquire all these wonderful skills of picking good women? Does it come naturally? Are you innately designed to see through the smoke and mirrors that some women have?
Ladies, do you think you can spot a keeper when you see one? I’m not talking the outer shell stuff, here. I mean the character, morals and values, and world outlook. When you do realize you have met a keeper?
I will be the first to admit that this is a problem for me. It takes me a long, long, long time to discern whether a guy is a keeper. While I am dragging my feet, he gets inpatient and is on to the next. That’s when I’m all, a ha! He wasn’t a keeper because he had no staying power! Vicious cycle, man.
I think there is a fine line between keeper and deceiver, but I don’t always know where it is. How do you find it?