We all have our wish list of things we would like to see in a date. We may not list them all on paper but there are unspoken things that we think about all the time. When we meet someone who appears to have the majority of these qualities, we get excited. Now the questions are: is that what you truly wanted? Are you really into him or her or is it the image of them that gets your blood pumping?
I really think this is a common issue that plagues singles, including me. It is so easy to get caught up in each others’ representative and outer shell because that is what we are projecting and revealing to people we meet and date. A lot of men complain to me that their woman changed after they got in an exclusive relationship. I think it is more about her feeling comfortable enough to show the real parts of her then changing to a different person. Men do the same thing too.
When it is so easy to get caught up in image, how do you think our dating preferences hinder our chances of building relationships? What happens when you are in to the person because they meet your list of dating preferences and then their real personality shows up? From your experiences, were you still interested in them or was it just the image of them?
I think the same question can be asked about love and marriage. Is it really love and commitment we want or is it the idea of it? Discuss.