Battling birthday blues, how do you cope?
So I have a birthday coming up this month, which means I will probably go through a period of “woe is me” my life isn’t where I want it to be yet. I always treat birthdays like some kind of weird deadline that I somehow missed. As if I have gone an entire year accomplishing nothing. I know it’s completely ridiculous, but in my head, that’s how I perceive it sometimes.
Thankfully I have wonderful friends and family that always make a big deal of my birthday. Even when I try to avoid everyone and pretend the birthday isn’t happening. They don’t let me wallow in self-pity for long.
It sounds so silly, but I admit that being single (with no real prospects) on my birthday is far worse then rolling solo any other time of the year. Believe it or not, I handle the holidays without lamenting about my singlehood. I relish in it, even; but when my birthday approaches I almost have to fight off a case of the birthday blues .
Does being single during your birthday ever bother you? Do you have moments when you wish that you had someone special in your life? Does it happen randomly or during a special time? How do you handle it?
What is the best way to celebrate your birthday when you are single and ready to mingle?
What is your most memorable birthday? I would love to hear about it!
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DreamsMaterialize
June 9th, 2010
2:34 pm
I have bigger fish to fry than this blog anyway!
kimmie
If that fish happens to be tilapia, can I have have a plate?
Kym-They don't teach us the ABC's..
June 9th, 2010
2:36 pm
@Leggs..I am going to have to call foul on the Blanche comment..now she may have “enjoyed the company of menfolk” but Blanche was always tastefully dress.
Lady J-Leo-Lioness
June 9th, 2010
2:39 pm
dreamsM are you on vacation from the blog bar boo??? I feel slighted! LMBAO!
Charlie Wax
June 9th, 2010
2:41 pm
All a woman needs to turn this
around is to create the illusion that she offers such variety and adventure
And ain’t this part right here recommending to be something you really aren’t? Didn’t and haven’t we stressed not showing up in your representative but your true self? Maybe I’m not understanding.
- that means get a life…bring more to the table…just dont bring your fantasies of happily ever after and some good wet…..i run into those types all the time….that means play your role as a woman…yeah you the boss on the job..but at home..i still want to see you pee sitting down…that means make your place or our time romatic…different….add a lil flair to the everyday..same thing you ladies want..we want…we hate to waste time just like you…think doing something with your voice, body, dress, smell..same skill set you will need in a long term marriage/relationship…again i dont understand the backlash….i mean steve harvey wrote a best selling book giving you bs advise but i am giving you free good ish
kimmie
June 9th, 2010
2:41 pm
If that fish happens to be tilapia, can I have have a plate?
Dreamboat, of course!
Speaking of fish, I’m going to try this chicken recipe I prepared, but use tilapia or salmon. You rub it with a spicy rub, sort of blacken it in a non-stick pan with a little oil and serve it with mango salsa. Tasty and very light – nice with some sangria!
czBrat
June 9th, 2010
2:43 pm
CWax is giving us the man’s POV, and i do appreciate that but Leggs, honey, i say be you from jump and wear what makes you feel good.
why is five guys burger/fries sooooooooo good!?!?
AmazonRed™ - That's 2! Go Lakers!
June 9th, 2010
2:47 pm
CWax is giving us the man’s POV, .
czBrat – Which has nothing to do with the woman Leggs is…and everything to do with the women he encounters.
The advice doesn’t even fit the woman it’s directed too.
czBrat
June 9th, 2010
2:47 pm
Enter your comments here
kimmie
June 9th, 2010
2:49 pm
Charlie, we’ve been down that road countless times on this blog, including debating some of the stuff from Harvey’s book. If you keep running into the same type of woman, look in the mirror at the common denominator in all this – you! What’s wrong with you that you keep attracting the opposite of what you claim to want. You can give women all the advice in the world, yet can’t seem to find the woman you want. Something wrong with that picture.
See, you’re preaching to the choir on this here blog. I’m sure some of the blog men will attest that not only are a lot of us blog women very attractive, we are accomplished in areas outside of work. Many of us can burn in the kitchen, we can speak on any subject and we’re very up on current events. And we know how to rock some fashion. A lot of us are very well traveled. We have interesting hobbies. Some of us make very good money and are responsible financially. We bring much to the table.
Now, what do YOU have to offer? Same old, same old?
czBrat
June 9th, 2010
2:49 pm
WD, i could very easily have fit a d – a – m – n after the “soooooooo”, but i don’t wanna get sent home. aren’t you proud of me?
Charlie Wax
June 9th, 2010
2:52 pm
why is five guys burger/fries sooooooooo good
-2k calories in a large alone…wow
everything to do with the women he encounters
- i will bite…wow here we go again….do you not tire of this…..the women i encounter…as if you are some how better than…really….that advice was direct to whomever may need it or want to go a lil further with it…she does not have to take it.my POV..she will do what she wants…..but i did a lil chuckle on your comment..the type of women i encounter….lol…too funny and i will leave it there
Leggs
June 9th, 2010
2:55 pm
@Kym ~ while typing that I too said she did dress tastefully. However, I always use the word harlot and concentrated more on that word and what a true harlot’s outfit would look like. I stand corrected, certainly didn’t mean to descecrate Blanche’s good name!
@czB, et al. ~ I will definitely wear what makes me feel vibrant, comfortable and sexy. The dress I have on is one of the two in my mind.
Melo
June 9th, 2010
2:55 pm
Charlie Wax? u was Rell in another blog planet??
(trying my best s w atl lingo imitation)
czBrat
June 9th, 2010
2:55 pm
-2k calories in a large alone…wow
i know chucky. i’ve already made the promise to do ‘insanity’ tonight. and now that i’ve put it out there, you can hold me accountable.
AmazonRed™ - That's 2! Go Lakers!
June 9th, 2010
2:55 pm
A question for the class isn’t:
“i run into those types all the time…”
basically saying the same thing as
“the types of women I encounter”
Kym-They don't teach us the ABC's..
June 9th, 2010
2:58 pm
Is Charlie Wax..Rell? Lawd I wish grown folks would pull their little mask off..be you..do you..
Sassy Me....If you ask me I'm ready :-)
June 9th, 2010
2:58 pm
See, you’re preaching to the choir on this here blog. I’m sure some of the blog men will attest that not only are a lot of us blog women very attractive, we are accomplished in areas outside of work. Many of us can burn in the kitchen, we can speak on any subject and we’re very up on current events. And we know how to rock some fashion. A lot of us are very well traveled. We have interesting hobbies. Some of us make very good money and are responsible financially. We bring much to the table.
Worth repeating….
It's me....lurker
June 9th, 2010
3:00 pm
that means get a life…bring more to the table…just dont bring your fantasies of happily ever after and some good wet…..i run into those types all the time….that means play your role as a woman…yeah you the boss on the job..but at home..i still want to see you pee sitting down…that means make your place or our time romatic…different….add a lil flair to the everyday..same thing you ladies want..we want…we hate to waste time just like you…think doing something with your voice, body, dress, smell..same skill set you will need in a long term marriage/relationship…again i dont understand the backlash….i mean steve harvey wrote a best selling book giving you bs advise but i am giving you free good ish
Just wow Charlie Wax. First allow me to ask, how young are you? Most of us are grown, experienced, well put together women. Frankly you trying to sell brand new but you got the wrong crowd. I’m sure some 20 year old just leaving the gate can appreciate it though…LOL. Most of us dont do fantasies so you ain’t gotta shake us to wake us. Making reference to that money maker Steve Harvey marketed ain’t exactly inspiring. It took him dang 3 times to gather that information when my daddy told me that before leaving the house….and he’s a man.
Luvbug
June 9th, 2010
3:01 pm
Dreams – I didn’t bring you down. LOL
AmazonRed™ - That's 2! Go Lakers!
June 9th, 2010
3:01 pm
Lawd I wish grown folks would pull their little mask off
Lady J-Leo-Lioness
June 9th, 2010
3:02 pm
the playground has been inspring and funny all in one today!!!!!! I am debating Wednesday Wind Down doubt it though……everyone have a great evening!
It's me....lurker
June 9th, 2010
3:02 pm
Don’t go Charlie. Maybe you wake us out of sleepyville.
It's me....lurker
June 9th, 2010
3:03 pm
you will
Kym-They don't teach us the ABC's..
June 9th, 2010
3:03 pm
@Charlie Wax..here’s a nickel for your advice..don’t spend it all in one place.
AmazonRed™ - That's 2! Go Lakers!
June 9th, 2010
3:04 pm
Kym
It's me....lurker
June 9th, 2010
3:04 pm
here’s a nickel for your advice..don’t spend it all in one place.
bwah ha ha…that’s funny cause I bet he thought he was dropping pearls of wisdom.
Melo
June 9th, 2010
3:05 pm
but at home..i still want to see you pee sitting down
@Charlie..
when i read that, i said wow, i have read that line be4…
classic Rell put down!
Charlie Wax
June 9th, 2010
3:05 pm
If you keep running into the same type of woman, look in the mirror at the common denominator in all this – you! What’s wrong with you that you keep attracting the opposite of what you claim to want. You can give women all the advice in the world, yet can’t seem to find the woman you want. Something wrong with that picture.
- lol…why do you think i am running into what i dont want…lol…ok, yeah kimmie…i will take that advice thanks…i will tell my girlfriend what you said
See, you’re preaching to the choir on this here blog. I’m sure some of the blog men will attest that not only are a lot of us blog women very attractive, we are accomplished in areas outside of work. Many of us can burn in the kitchen, we can speak on any subject and we’re very up on current events. And we know how to rock some fashion. A lot of us are very well traveled. We have interesting hobbies. Some of us make very good money and are responsible financially. We bring much to the table
- i have meet alot of women from this blog and what you speak is true…there are alot of attractive amazing women…when did i say there was not….if you could go in the archives and get my post that says i think that????????……i have some good women friends from this blog…and more…but i get it..its cool to talk down to me…..but again thanks for your insight
It's me....lurker
June 9th, 2010
3:06 pm
i have meet alot of women from this blog
Gheesh…that’s Rell Honey get your nickel back
Kym-They don't teach us the ABC's..
June 9th, 2010
3:08 pm
LOL @ lurker…I knew it!
AmazonRed™ - That's 2! Go Lakers!
June 9th, 2010
3:08 pm
It’s me…you’re on the late freight I see!
Leggs
June 9th, 2010
3:10 pm
@Kym ~ yes, thought you guys caught on to him with his first post this morning.
kimmie
June 9th, 2010
3:13 pm
Waxman, if you got a girlfriend, concentrate on her! Why do you feel the need to give WOMEN advice?
We got it together on here honey, but thanks!
LOL!!!!!
Leggs
June 9th, 2010
3:13 pm
@ARed ~ “you’re on the late freight I see! You’re absolutely right!
AmazonRed™ - That's 2! Go Lakers!
June 9th, 2010
3:15 pm
Waxman, if you got a girlfriend, concentrate on her!
Kym-They don't teach us the ABC's..
June 9th, 2010
3:18 pm
@Leggs I missed the morning show.. but as I was reading his “advice” all I could think about was this line from Mary J.
“Them other girls you done been with..none of them got nothing on me..aint got my style..they ain’t got nothing on me..nothing on me.”
czBrat
June 9th, 2010
3:18 pm
awwwww. but he’s the only guy that came out to play today. don’t run him off.
Charlie Wax
June 9th, 2010
3:20 pm
Waxman, if you got a girlfriend, concentrate on her! Why do you feel the need to give WOMEN advice?
- i dont i was just sharing because leggs asked ME why..lol..so i told her why…then eveyone piled on…come on kimmie…i make no mistake you and the rest of the get fresh crew are cool on me..thats why i did not want to cause a scene in the park in case ms ared would have tried to diss if i approached her to introduce myself..on top of being a lil on the tipsy side….aiiight….but keep them coming…i am taking all shots if it makes you feel better…lol
focus on her…what makes you think i am not…again you guys sure are some experts i see…but still have not left the launch pad..bravo!
kimmie
June 9th, 2010
3:20 pm
czBrat – Dreams was here earlier. Dreams! Dreamboat, where are you?!!!!
LOL!!!
Melo
June 9th, 2010
3:21 pm
Waxman, if you got a girlfriend, concentrate on her!
@Kimmie?? ….tough crowd Ared??…… u can say that again!
cmeon pple easy up..no wonder buddy faking a lipm and and wearing a mask!
Melo
June 9th, 2010
3:22 pm
faking a limp
It's me....lurker
June 9th, 2010
3:24 pm
It’s me…you’re on the late freight I see!
AmazonRed and Leggs, chaulk it up to my headache I’ve been carrying for a few days now…LOL
Leggs
June 9th, 2010
3:24 pm
@CWax ~ yes indeed I asked and you gave…thanks
@czB ~ Trevor0529 came out briefly…just like yesterday his first post was when I said I was going to meet with a potential sugardaddy (LOL).
“…but still have not left the launch pad..bravo!” CWax, you do see me lighting my rocket ship…I’m about to take off!!!
AmazonRed™ - That's 2! Go Lakers!
June 9th, 2010
3:25 pm
awwwww. but he’s the only guy that came out to play today. don’t run him off
czBrat – He ran himself off a while back and claimed he’d never come back… of course, he was to weak minded to actually stick to leaving.
We can do better!
AmazonRed™ - That's 2! Go Lakers!
June 9th, 2010
3:25 pm
Feel better it’s me…
kimmie
June 9th, 2010
3:25 pm
i am taking all shots if it makes you feel better…lol
Waxman, that’s okay, I’m tired, don’t want to play anymore!LOL!! Anyway, I gotta save up my energy – got a belt test tonight. Martial arts, one of the interesting things I bring to the table so I won’t bore my man or myself! LOL!!!
Leggs
June 9th, 2010
3:25 pm
This may be corny for some of you, but the Country Music Awards come on tonight (LOLOL). Yeah, I like country music.
Charlie Wax
June 9th, 2010
3:26 pm
lol..ared you are trully a piece of work…lmao…maaaaaaaaaaaaan
DreamsMaterialize
June 9th, 2010
3:26 pm
dreamsM are you on vacation from the blog bar boo??? I feel slighted! LMBAO!
Lady J sorry for the delay. what will it be today? oh and from now on “LMBAO” will is no longer acceptable language at the Blog Bar. We’re trying to clean things up in here, per management’s request.
kimmie that recipe sounds really good. I think I’ll bring some Tuppeware instead of a plate. lol I say go with the salmon in your recipe.
Dreams – I didn’t bring you down. LOL
Luvbug So many ways to respond to this, but a brotha already has one strike. Not trying to sent up. The block is hot. lol
It's me....lurker
June 9th, 2010
3:27 pm
Thanks AmazonRed. I’m so loving your softer side. You must be getting it a couple times a day. Hope that wasn’t offensive but you’re a new person